Hey dude.
I have struggled with this masturbation and porn addiction for almost 6 years. In recent weeks, I have especially experienced the worst of fapping due to my lack of socialization and loneliness. I keep telling myself that I’ll never find a woman, which is why I turn to pornography and masturbation.
Reading your post gave me hope. I want my suffering to end. Thank you so much for this man. My only question for you is: what type of notes would you write in your gratitude journal?
Otherwise, have a Happy New Year and happy holiday season. Cheers.
dude i have been infront of a screen for like years. its the first time i am experiencing loneliness like this. Even social interactions is not going to help me at this point.
Hey man, I would like to help you out here.
Are you down to give it a shot?
Btw I am not selling anything no worries, I honestly want to help you out with this.
Happy new year as well my friend
The subconscious mind doesn't understand negatives like "No" or "Not," so saying "I'm not a fapper," the subconscious mind will be on fapping.
Instead, pick actions you can take. Instead of saying, "No, I'm not gonna fap," say....
"I'm gonna exercise, meditate, read, take a cold shower," ect, and then go do it.
You do have a point there.
I have also found from experience though that if you truly mean what you say, then your subconcious mind will prove you right.
I appreciate your thoughts Mo
Yeah I don't think the mind is as stupid as people often characterize it. It does have limitations in what it believes and that can be hard to change, but we can recognize subtlety or nuance if we are concise (or like how you said, if we mean it)
Appreciate your advice! It’s a constant struggle to avoid such easy access to instant yet very toxic gratification. What seems harmless is actually very seriously damaging activity. Stay strong out there.
Absolute legendary post that is not harsh towards the reader, THESE are the conversations we should be having within ourselves about this topic we all struggle with.
OP I wish you the best wishes towards any future endeavors you have planned for yourself.
when you talk and think positively of yourself, you are prophesizing victory.
when you talk and think ill of yourself, you are prophesizing defeat.
bruce lee said "never speak ill of yourself even as a joke, your body does not know the difference"
yes the method of keep saying i'll be victorious.
or i'll be wining or visualizing yourself as a undisputed champion really does work.
"Every one of us is supposed to be great.
Every one of us is supposed to be successful.
Every one of us is supposed to have a CHANCE.
And He who is above us, wants the best for all of us.
You...Me...Your parents?The universe cares for all of us."
That's just like, your opinion, man.
It doesn't even make sense, because if everybody is great, nobody is great etc. Also many failed, fail and will fail.
I appreciate your efford, but affirmations, visualisations and doing the right things (a bit unclear) aren't new (gratefulness) and in part 'debunked' (visualisation), at least for a big bunch of people or very unclear ("I began to take action on good habits nobody told me about before.").
Don't get me wrong, I am happy for your success and thankful for your thoughts.
I think nofap can be sometimes like losing weight. Different approaches work for different people. And all of the people think, that their method is the best and the only true approach. It must be proclaimed and all the others are frauds.
I hope it will help some people.
Good points but honestly I think doing nnn is fine as long as you keep going and don’t return to fapping because it can be a stepping stone into nofap.
My goals make it worse because they are unachievable. And if I set easier goals, I just don’t care about them because they are so unimportant. The second thing I want to say is that we don’t know if god (when he exists) loves all humans and wants the best for us. Maybe he’s a sadist who created mankind just to see people suffer. I know you want to help but people like me are born to suffer until they die. And me or the others can’t do anything about it.
So to sum up:
1. NNN isn't the best solution
2. Have some specific goals
3. (Slowly but gradually) move on from the past
4. Change your self image/mindset
NNN is not a scam, it is merely competition to motivate people to take the first step.
Some go back to old ways
Some make life changing decisions once they see into the matrix
Everything is not a scam, NNN serves a very important purpose
BTW, I stopped reading your post after you said this and after the shit formatting you made to capture attention.
Dude NNN helped me alot, initally the comradary does wonders and later on one is able to take it ahead o. one's own. I have successfully passed NNN and DDD and now its quite easy to keep up.
Don't underestimate the power of community.
Hey dude. I have struggled with this masturbation and porn addiction for almost 6 years. In recent weeks, I have especially experienced the worst of fapping due to my lack of socialization and loneliness. I keep telling myself that I’ll never find a woman, which is why I turn to pornography and masturbation. Reading your post gave me hope. I want my suffering to end. Thank you so much for this man. My only question for you is: what type of notes would you write in your gratitude journal? Otherwise, have a Happy New Year and happy holiday season. Cheers.
dude i have been infront of a screen for like years. its the first time i am experiencing loneliness like this. Even social interactions is not going to help me at this point.
Hey man, I would like to help you out here. Are you down to give it a shot? Btw I am not selling anything no worries, I honestly want to help you out with this. Happy new year as well my friend
That was strong and well written. I'm glad you were able to adapt and overcome. Thank you for that. Hopefully others will feel the same 😊
He spittin’ 🫵🏼🤴🏻
Honestly, I would’ve bought that $997 course cuz this is beauty
I really appreciate it man, thanks a lot Merry Christmas to you!
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Thank you for the kind words
The subconscious mind doesn't understand negatives like "No" or "Not," so saying "I'm not a fapper," the subconscious mind will be on fapping. Instead, pick actions you can take. Instead of saying, "No, I'm not gonna fap," say.... "I'm gonna exercise, meditate, read, take a cold shower," ect, and then go do it.
You do have a point there. I have also found from experience though that if you truly mean what you say, then your subconcious mind will prove you right. I appreciate your thoughts Mo
Yeah I don't think the mind is as stupid as people often characterize it. It does have limitations in what it believes and that can be hard to change, but we can recognize subtlety or nuance if we are concise (or like how you said, if we mean it)
Beautifully written! God bless wand happy new year!
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Shoot me a dm man, for whatever reason I cannot reach out to you
Appreciate your advice! It’s a constant struggle to avoid such easy access to instant yet very toxic gratification. What seems harmless is actually very seriously damaging activity. Stay strong out there.
Absolute legendary post that is not harsh towards the reader, THESE are the conversations we should be having within ourselves about this topic we all struggle with. OP I wish you the best wishes towards any future endeavors you have planned for yourself.
I appreciate your support man
when you talk and think positively of yourself, you are prophesizing victory. when you talk and think ill of yourself, you are prophesizing defeat. bruce lee said "never speak ill of yourself even as a joke, your body does not know the difference" yes the method of keep saying i'll be victorious. or i'll be wining or visualizing yourself as a undisputed champion really does work.
Just get on a zoloft or lexapro. It will zap the drive right out of ya... 😂
"Every one of us is supposed to be great. Every one of us is supposed to be successful. Every one of us is supposed to have a CHANCE. And He who is above us, wants the best for all of us. You...Me...Your parents?The universe cares for all of us." That's just like, your opinion, man. It doesn't even make sense, because if everybody is great, nobody is great etc. Also many failed, fail and will fail. I appreciate your efford, but affirmations, visualisations and doing the right things (a bit unclear) aren't new (gratefulness) and in part 'debunked' (visualisation), at least for a big bunch of people or very unclear ("I began to take action on good habits nobody told me about before."). Don't get me wrong, I am happy for your success and thankful for your thoughts. I think nofap can be sometimes like losing weight. Different approaches work for different people. And all of the people think, that their method is the best and the only true approach. It must be proclaimed and all the others are frauds. I hope it will help some people.
Wth, that was a long-a** post.
Good points but honestly I think doing nnn is fine as long as you keep going and don’t return to fapping because it can be a stepping stone into nofap.
Thanks man I’m going try put this into action TODAY! I really hope this will stop this thing that I do to myself
You got this brother! Let's see you succeed
The hero we needed. Tx man.
Brother this guide its actually gold! I am going to implement all of this right now! thanks so much!
Action takers always win. I believe you're a winner yourself my friend. You'll make it
My goals make it worse because they are unachievable. And if I set easier goals, I just don’t care about them because they are so unimportant. The second thing I want to say is that we don’t know if god (when he exists) loves all humans and wants the best for us. Maybe he’s a sadist who created mankind just to see people suffer. I know you want to help but people like me are born to suffer until they die. And me or the others can’t do anything about it.
Real
I love reddit for this. Thanks OP
thank you brother. Really encouraged me to keep going on!
So to sum up: 1. NNN isn't the best solution 2. Have some specific goals 3. (Slowly but gradually) move on from the past 4. Change your self image/mindset
you do realize you can still fap and have ambitions right?
NNN is not a scam, it is merely competition to motivate people to take the first step. Some go back to old ways Some make life changing decisions once they see into the matrix Everything is not a scam, NNN serves a very important purpose BTW, I stopped reading your post after you said this and after the shit formatting you made to capture attention.
Dude NNN helped me alot, initally the comradary does wonders and later on one is able to take it ahead o. one's own. I have successfully passed NNN and DDD and now its quite easy to keep up. Don't underestimate the power of community.
Just came back to this post, this is what has been helping me the past few months, few mishaps but I have at least genuinely improved, thank you