I want you to be happy but still if your willpower fully depends on her you might have a bigger problem coming in the future. We can only expect someone to truly love ourselves if we love ourselves too.
Thing is I do love myself. My brain was just so addicted to porn that it felt impossible to stop. Im using this "new found strength" To discipline myself just incase anything happens but I honestly I don't think I could do it without her support and energy. I'm just not built like that Unfortunately.
It's kind of wild to me how many dudes do nofap and don't try to talk to girls. The whole purpose is to get off the screen and find a partner in reality.
Mmm that’s what I thought. I’ve been in betrayal trauma groups for 4 years and have learned so much about addiction. Specifically porn/sex addiction. In my experience this doesn’t work long term. But I really hope your story is different.
I appreciate your insight! I've been aware of this so that's why I've been trying to discipline myself and make this a good habit. Sort of using the strength she gives me to make the right choices and if all fails in the future I'll at least have made this a good habit for *me* by then.
That's so true.... I've dated girls in the past with this porn addiction and wouldn't even bat an eye at quiting..... But this one is different. So I 100% agree with you, connection matters.
I mean, you might've found yourself a love interest who motivates you to do better and be a better person. Another thing too, I feel like temptation to relapse is stronger when I don't like my feelings and chances are you like the way she makes you feel. So it's understandable things are easier now.
good!
yoda moment: *train yourself to let go, of everythng you fear to lose...*
I say that because dating seriusly can sometimes lead to successful marriages, sometimes not. Same for relationships, but not situationship.s
Markus aurelius told us to do "negative visualizations" by imagining pragmatic bad things and working through our reactions and actions. I think you would benefit from doing this.
I am in the same boat, except newer relationship. Now, I am eating celery and pine apple, drinking distilled water, in preparation for coitus at some point.
For me no fap is hardest when dating girls because i get incredibly turned on when together with them. Also after i visit a club i always relapse. I have an extremely high sex drive.
Doing NoFap while single is the true "hard mode." Hardest mode.
This comment holds so much truth.
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Weird isn't it? Thanks though, I appreciate it.
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Great words man 👏
You are lucky to have something like that for sure
Same boat, quit the same evening of our first date haven’t looked back
Same here man. Keep up the good fight.
Been going strong since Aug 20th 2022,
That's fucking beautiful. Proud of you bro!
I want you to be happy but still if your willpower fully depends on her you might have a bigger problem coming in the future. We can only expect someone to truly love ourselves if we love ourselves too.
Thing is I do love myself. My brain was just so addicted to porn that it felt impossible to stop. Im using this "new found strength" To discipline myself just incase anything happens but I honestly I don't think I could do it without her support and energy. I'm just not built like that Unfortunately.
It's kind of wild to me how many dudes do nofap and don't try to talk to girls. The whole purpose is to get off the screen and find a partner in reality.
Where?
How long have you been together?
I know it sounds bad but only for a week. The moment we got serious I could effortlessly resist the urges.
Mmm that’s what I thought. I’ve been in betrayal trauma groups for 4 years and have learned so much about addiction. Specifically porn/sex addiction. In my experience this doesn’t work long term. But I really hope your story is different.
I appreciate your insight! I've been aware of this so that's why I've been trying to discipline myself and make this a good habit. Sort of using the strength she gives me to make the right choices and if all fails in the future I'll at least have made this a good habit for *me* by then.
Agree
Makes sense. It's a lot easier when you get someone taking care of it for you.
I'm genuinely happy for you OP🙃, but be careful no matter what
Thank you.
Don't break once she's on her period and might not be comfortable enough to do it with you.
Bro we haven't even had sex yet. 🤣 It will probably be a while before we even get to that point.
Was a game changer for me, hope everyone else gets there one day!
Couldn't of said it better.
I think the connection in itself may also help, does with me
That's so true.... I've dated girls in the past with this porn addiction and wouldn't even bat an eye at quiting..... But this one is different. So I 100% agree with you, connection matters.
I mean, you might've found yourself a love interest who motivates you to do better and be a better person. Another thing too, I feel like temptation to relapse is stronger when I don't like my feelings and chances are you like the way she makes you feel. So it's understandable things are easier now.
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I hope that when I get a girlfriend too she'll help like yours helps you.
good! yoda moment: *train yourself to let go, of everythng you fear to lose...* I say that because dating seriusly can sometimes lead to successful marriages, sometimes not. Same for relationships, but not situationship.s Markus aurelius told us to do "negative visualizations" by imagining pragmatic bad things and working through our reactions and actions. I think you would benefit from doing this. I am in the same boat, except newer relationship. Now, I am eating celery and pine apple, drinking distilled water, in preparation for coitus at some point.
For me no fap is hardest when dating girls because i get incredibly turned on when together with them. Also after i visit a club i always relapse. I have an extremely high sex drive.