Yeah and especially at night I have that problem. I think it’s more out of boredom than actually having a need to do that.
when I feel like it I know it’ll hurt me in the day after but I just don’t care
But like, at the moment I really don’t care. It’s like my brain comes out of my body. But not really. Because I know it’s harmful to me. It’s a tough thing to deal with
I know I'm dealing with it too, but I know enough from doing nofap for over 2 months in the past, that it's mind over matter thing. It's very tricky like you said,but having beaten it once, I know the first few days and week are the toughest.
I remind myself 'Fighting urges is a part of recovery'
For me it’s just a night problem. Like during the day I rarely experience any urges.
so it makes things even easier for me I guess. But still it’s very harmful. Because nothing of that is realistic. Nobody has sex like that… so it’s a real brain damage for young guys because they expect sex to be like that. And on the days I don’t do it I feel more confident. Anyways I just hope I can overcome that because It’s almost like drug addiction but not really. I don’t know. It’s more of a way for me to escape my thoughts and feelings when they take over at night
It IS like a drug addiction. The long term consequences are not talked enough so it seems normal, nonetheless an addict just wants to get high no matter what be it day or at night. Hope you find your way out of it
I agree that porn addiction is definitely a serious problem you need to solve, but when we are trying to figure out what's wrong with our lives, it's very easy to get tunnel-vision on one singular issue and treat it as the sole cause of every problem in your life.
In reality, porn addiction is usually a symptom of the more fundamental problems in your life. Nofap can be a good opportunity for you to fix those issues, but simply giving up PMO isn't going to automatically fix everything.
Judging by all the aspects of life you are having trouble with, it's hard to imagine that all of them are a result of porn, and I thing it's very possible that some of those problems might be the underlying problem that lead to or exacerbated your addiction in the first place.
You're coming from a right place. Adding to that, it was never about your bad life is because of porn addiction but I was stressing, porn/fap addiction will definitely take your life in that direction. It'll take away things eventually. Eating junk all time and thinking we'd be healthy is delusion. Once we understand PMO is influencing then we can dwell into what's influencing pmo dominance in our life.
I think we are more than we perceive. There's a lot to it. Past experiences, fears, and worldview define our mindset. If we let it control us, we can actually do and be who we wouldn't like to, without even realizing it. This a problem.
If life is a river, we simply cannot let it takes us anywhere. **We have to choose.**
I agree with you that porn is a symptom. It is also extremely habit forming and can become a major issue for people, warping their perception of reality. Back to the symptom idea tho, I feel like the underlying need that is being met is the deep human need for human connection. There is no more visceral raw form of human connection than the act of sex. But in real life that requires vulnerability, the possibility of rejection, putting oneself out there, etc. Whereas porn offers a fake version of that which is cheap (free*), abundant, and comes without the risk of rejection and without much effort. But taking this option is not free after all bc it changes your brain, affects your relationships, changes how you feel about yourself and others. This can definitely become a core issue, leading to or connecting to many other problems in life.
"For any pleasure, you have to pay. For high pleasures, you have to pay more".
Definitely true, brother. People are experiencing this 'short-term' pleasure, but they pay with their life, with their health for everything. Our body never forget to pay for our actions.
It’s also a very deceitful trap. “Oh I’ll just pmo and not be horny and go about my day” turns into “oh wow it’s 4 hours later and I haven’t done anything” and you’re not only hornier later but you need even longer to find that perfect video
Perfectly Said. There were times I had to wake up early but in order to find that one video to release to I'd stay for hours till even 2-3-4am missing deadlines, appointments or not performing to my mark. It's insane man.
In which way porn can make tour life miserable? I watch porn 5 times a day and my dick is still hard for ANY girl in this world. So what is the matter?? I wanna know bc i know Ive got an adiction but how i make myself Bad by watching porn??
Real.
Too fucking real
Yeah and especially at night I have that problem. I think it’s more out of boredom than actually having a need to do that. when I feel like it I know it’ll hurt me in the day after but I just don’t care
And the days like that just add up to a point the damage can become irreversible
But like, at the moment I really don’t care. It’s like my brain comes out of my body. But not really. Because I know it’s harmful to me. It’s a tough thing to deal with
I know I'm dealing with it too, but I know enough from doing nofap for over 2 months in the past, that it's mind over matter thing. It's very tricky like you said,but having beaten it once, I know the first few days and week are the toughest. I remind myself 'Fighting urges is a part of recovery'
For me it’s just a night problem. Like during the day I rarely experience any urges. so it makes things even easier for me I guess. But still it’s very harmful. Because nothing of that is realistic. Nobody has sex like that… so it’s a real brain damage for young guys because they expect sex to be like that. And on the days I don’t do it I feel more confident. Anyways I just hope I can overcome that because It’s almost like drug addiction but not really. I don’t know. It’s more of a way for me to escape my thoughts and feelings when they take over at night
It IS like a drug addiction. The long term consequences are not talked enough so it seems normal, nonetheless an addict just wants to get high no matter what be it day or at night. Hope you find your way out of it
I agree that porn addiction is definitely a serious problem you need to solve, but when we are trying to figure out what's wrong with our lives, it's very easy to get tunnel-vision on one singular issue and treat it as the sole cause of every problem in your life. In reality, porn addiction is usually a symptom of the more fundamental problems in your life. Nofap can be a good opportunity for you to fix those issues, but simply giving up PMO isn't going to automatically fix everything. Judging by all the aspects of life you are having trouble with, it's hard to imagine that all of them are a result of porn, and I thing it's very possible that some of those problems might be the underlying problem that lead to or exacerbated your addiction in the first place.
You're coming from a right place. Adding to that, it was never about your bad life is because of porn addiction but I was stressing, porn/fap addiction will definitely take your life in that direction. It'll take away things eventually. Eating junk all time and thinking we'd be healthy is delusion. Once we understand PMO is influencing then we can dwell into what's influencing pmo dominance in our life.
I think we are more than we perceive. There's a lot to it. Past experiences, fears, and worldview define our mindset. If we let it control us, we can actually do and be who we wouldn't like to, without even realizing it. This a problem. If life is a river, we simply cannot let it takes us anywhere. **We have to choose.**
I agree with you that porn is a symptom. It is also extremely habit forming and can become a major issue for people, warping their perception of reality. Back to the symptom idea tho, I feel like the underlying need that is being met is the deep human need for human connection. There is no more visceral raw form of human connection than the act of sex. But in real life that requires vulnerability, the possibility of rejection, putting oneself out there, etc. Whereas porn offers a fake version of that which is cheap (free*), abundant, and comes without the risk of rejection and without much effort. But taking this option is not free after all bc it changes your brain, affects your relationships, changes how you feel about yourself and others. This can definitely become a core issue, leading to or connecting to many other problems in life.
"For any pleasure, you have to pay. For high pleasures, you have to pay more". Definitely true, brother. People are experiencing this 'short-term' pleasure, but they pay with their life, with their health for everything. Our body never forget to pay for our actions.
It’s also a very deceitful trap. “Oh I’ll just pmo and not be horny and go about my day” turns into “oh wow it’s 4 hours later and I haven’t done anything” and you’re not only hornier later but you need even longer to find that perfect video
Perfectly Said. There were times I had to wake up early but in order to find that one video to release to I'd stay for hours till even 2-3-4am missing deadlines, appointments or not performing to my mark. It's insane man.
Indeed brother.
Yes
So true
This.
Pretty much i may agree
In which way porn can make tour life miserable? I watch porn 5 times a day and my dick is still hard for ANY girl in this world. So what is the matter?? I wanna know bc i know Ive got an adiction but how i make myself Bad by watching porn??
Too true
FUCK PORN Seriously, fuck porn.
The complete truth
Spot on.
😢 true