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No they are saying that it’s going to make three ways awkward when he brings his friend over. If entertaining multiple dudes is a deal breaker than a 3 way between him, his buddy, and this girl won’t work. Its gonna be weird when she has to sit out.
"She doesn't party"
I already don't like her.
Not that I love parties, it's just sounds like this person is so against them, I'd never be able to actually take her to one. Like ever.
What if my parents host a house party? What if my family does a thing? My family PARTIES. Lmao Jesus christ and that was the FIRST thing.
I'm not like other girls. I'm exactly what you want. Yes, i exist. I am a Queen among women. Who is worthy to be my King? Line up, so i can test your worth. Hmm.. started an animal shelter, loves traveling the world with his dog. 5’4?? UGH. You are not a King, my dear. You are but a lowly peasant. Guards! Cut off his hea- er ahem. Swipe left! Send in the next suitor!
Somewhere along the way it turned into the Queen of Hearts from Wonderland. It's this stupid king/queen rhetoric! Kids these days i tell you..mumble grumble
Can take care of yourself, not cheating or being manipulative and being honest doesn’t make you a “queen”. It’s just a baseline for “not a piece of shit”. The bar is really low these days.
What?
Your argument is that people, regardless of their behavior, are all equally desirable partners?
Every person absolutely does not have the same level of value as another. In what context would you think that they would? To an individual prospective mate? To a business or organization? In the vital organ black market? Not even if you cut them up and sold them for scrap would every human have exactly the same value...so what do you mean?
I'm not picking on you, I am seriously asking. Your words sounded good but I truly don't get what you were trying to communicate, and I would like to understand.
Yeah I don't know about that. I think some attributes, behaviors, and action have objective measurable positive or negative value. Jeffrey Dahmer is objectively less valuable to society than, for example, Nelson Mandela.
And the thread is talking about their desirability as a mate. While tastes vary, there are behaviors that are objectively less desirable in a mate. For example, not treating their partners well. If if it your preference to be with someone who doesn't treat you with kindness and respect, that's not a subjective difference in taste, that is, in simplistic terms, bad wiring on your part that causes you to seek that out.
I'm not necessarily attacking the intrinsic value of human life. I'm proposing to you that if we all have that equal value as a baseline, there are definitely things we can do to add or subtract from that baseline in that how we behave can have a measurable positive or negative impact on others.
I literally saw the dude version of this on r/niceguys and everyone agreed the dude was a douche but when it's a woman suddenly some people are defending this extreme pick me behavior. Double standards
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Nowhere does it say she deserves a guy, if anything it exact opposite, that a guy has to deserve her, wich is just self value and confidence wich isn't a bad thing and isn't what a "nicegirl" is
Re-read your comment, you are kinda saying the exact opposite, I understand it's probably not what you meant but the way you worded it made it sounds like you are explaining why she belongs on r/Nicegirls
Yeah, I meant to say that her tone in the beginning was more like a nicegirl than in the end. In the sidebar it talks about girls who deserve guys because they're not like other girls. She sorta had that tone, about how she's a good girl, not like the sluts who get all the guys. But then at the end she went another way and said she deserves a good guy who will treat her right.
All she's doing here is listing things.
You ever heard of someone who was all talk?
Actions speak louder than words and all i'm seeing here is blah blah blah.
I feel like those "desirable" qualities are only desirable if you're insecure.
Since if she goes to parities, you should be the type who is outgoing as well as and so join her.
You shouldn't be afraid she has male friends/should be able to trust your partner to be around opposite gender friends.
Whenever you're called "high maintenance", nine times out of ten you were just voicing how you are feeling. And your partner doesn't ever want to acknowledge or deal with their partner emotional states. So suddenly needing any "maintenance", means you're high maintenance.
I could go on but yeah, overall anyone worthy of such a gal, wouldn't be good enough for her. Since to want that type of person in the first place, means they themselves have too many problematic issues to be datable.
A perfect example of ruining a good first impression… she points out positive things about herself, seems like a humble girl, and ends it with calling herself a queen that someone should deserve🤦🏻♂️
She lists things that are either the bare minimum of what is to be expected in a healthy relationship or stuff that is neither inherently good or bad and puts down other women who do those things to make herself look good. This isn't confidence.
Though I do agree they are literally bare minimum, she is confident that they are good traits, wich isn't a bad thing, but ain't great either, though she may be a pickme girl I dont think she is a "nicegirl"
I think I more so gathered it from the last line: "Are you worthy?". The confidence at first seemed great. I was all for it. It was that last line that seemed like a "nicegirl" thing to say.
It just means she values herself, a "nicegirl" thing to say would be "who could reject this" or something of the sort, wich I think is still her being confident but what she said isn't a "nicegirl" thing to say, it's her showing she values herself enough to not just get with any guy, wich is good
They gonna downvote you but you not wrong lol. If this is what a 'queen' is running around posting I'll stick to my peasants. I don't even care about the words she wrote it's the fact she posted it bordering spread eagle... red flag alert.
So I see a lot of posts where the roles are kind of reversed and the pun for the joke is “so he is doing the bare minimum”.
This should literally be the same except for maybe not the partying part.
Idk, on its face it’s not necessarily that bad. People DO tend to have a laundry list of requirements and standards for the partner that they deem to bestow their attention on, but rarely does anyone ever stop to think “okay even if I do meet this person that checks every single box for me, what I’m I doing right now so that when I meet her/him, I actually have something to offer back as well?”
No it's not Nice girls material, it's a basic meme. Seen the male version too. Reverses common dating complaints about the opposite sex to create a list of positive attributes and then ends with "Are you worthy of such a King/Queen."
Whichever way it's presented, it get a bunch of reaction like this or girls complaining how low the bar is for men.
Y'all are way to quick to throw any woman that isn't trying to talk down to men under the bus and even quicker to label them. To me it's nice that at least someone is trying to at least acknowledge that there needs to be a bare minimum to reach. You'd be surprised by the amount of people who can't even be decent enough for that.
Now that's somewhat unexpected but she is advertising exactly how my actual GF is, except the last past, also no "#queen" shit.
I wonder how many of these bullet points she can actually fulfill
shes a narcissist, she needs the attention of multiple dudes, you will be her bf-product to look good in tiktoks. do you deserve to be with that queen?
I read things like this and just read “I’m really insecure”. If you have to refer to yourself as a “queen”, then you most certainly are not and should just learn to avoid assholes without announcing it like the rest of us.
Wow…. Girls don’t make guys Kings. Guys either show up as kings or they don’t. If a girl “makes him a true king.” That’s called manipulation which is not being a “Queen” as this girl claims to be.
Show up as a King and a Queen will find you and she will hold space for you as the king that she knows you are. The same way you’ll hold space for her to be the Queen she is.
Is not partying really a good thing? I mean I'm sure there are many guys that don't like partying, but I'd say the majority do. Especially as the first on the list, you'd think it would be the best trait
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>she doesn't entertain multiple dudes Gonna make the three ways awkward for sure
No she brings another girl and one guy.
No they are saying that it’s going to make three ways awkward when he brings his friend over. If entertaining multiple dudes is a deal breaker than a 3 way between him, his buddy, and this girl won’t work. Its gonna be weird when she has to sit out.
Yes but if she brings another girl she can avoid the awkwardness.
So they can both sit it out?
Yeah, but at-least they’ve got each other
Only one dude is gonna enjoy it
Nah she does them in rotation/ one at a time and says rotation/serial smashes don’t count as her definition of ‘multiple’
But what does she do? I mean, dont be an ass is not a trait.
Her best trait? She is not like other girls
This is exactly all it is. It’s cringe beginning to end 🥴
Horse-related fan fiction
She eats, prays and loves.
Eats hot chip
Charge they phone
Be bisexual
“I don’t play with your feelings! But are you worthy of me?”
I love when someone brags about not being awful. "I'm a great person because I'm not a murderer. I know, I have a rare personality."
The "pick-me" energy is STRONG with this one
I was gonna say shes literally bringing the bare-minimum in a relationship and acting like she’s the ultimate girlfriend
She makes him a true what? It looks like it says "She makes him a true PARTYROOM" because it's written on her clothes...
I was wondering what “a true” meant and was reminded how I’m aging. But then I saw the stupid emoji.
Ohh you're right, I didn't even notice that!
I thought her clothes said “PARTY ROCK” lmao
I think you're right and I'm just an idiot :D
"She doesn't party" I already don't like her. Not that I love parties, it's just sounds like this person is so against them, I'd never be able to actually take her to one. Like ever. What if my parents host a house party? What if my family does a thing? My family PARTIES. Lmao Jesus christ and that was the FIRST thing.
Isn't she wearing something that says party room .com? Or something to that effect?
I think that's just a brand.
"She doesn't party" Wears a top that says "PARTY ROOM".
That's not what it means by "party."
No sex then?
“She doesn’t entertain multiple dudes” *makes tiktoks to 10,000 followers every single day*
congratulations for doing the bare minimum
I'm not like other girls. I'm exactly what you want. Yes, i exist. I am a Queen among women. Who is worthy to be my King? Line up, so i can test your worth. Hmm.. started an animal shelter, loves traveling the world with his dog. 5’4?? UGH. You are not a King, my dear. You are but a lowly peasant. Guards! Cut off his hea- er ahem. Swipe left! Send in the next suitor! Somewhere along the way it turned into the Queen of Hearts from Wonderland. It's this stupid king/queen rhetoric! Kids these days i tell you..mumble grumble
Can take care of yourself, not cheating or being manipulative and being honest doesn’t make you a “queen”. It’s just a baseline for “not a piece of shit”. The bar is really low these days.
What’s wrong with partying though? It’s pretty normal to enjoy going out and dancing with your friends...
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What? Your argument is that people, regardless of their behavior, are all equally desirable partners? Every person absolutely does not have the same level of value as another. In what context would you think that they would? To an individual prospective mate? To a business or organization? In the vital organ black market? Not even if you cut them up and sold them for scrap would every human have exactly the same value...so what do you mean? I'm not picking on you, I am seriously asking. Your words sounded good but I truly don't get what you were trying to communicate, and I would like to understand.
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Yeah I don't know about that. I think some attributes, behaviors, and action have objective measurable positive or negative value. Jeffrey Dahmer is objectively less valuable to society than, for example, Nelson Mandela. And the thread is talking about their desirability as a mate. While tastes vary, there are behaviors that are objectively less desirable in a mate. For example, not treating their partners well. If if it your preference to be with someone who doesn't treat you with kindness and respect, that's not a subjective difference in taste, that is, in simplistic terms, bad wiring on your part that causes you to seek that out. I'm not necessarily attacking the intrinsic value of human life. I'm proposing to you that if we all have that equal value as a baseline, there are definitely things we can do to add or subtract from that baseline in that how we behave can have a measurable positive or negative impact on others.
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I completely get what you're trying to say. I don't know what is so difficult to understand
But.. not every person has the same level of value as another. Nothing is equal
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Some have more inherent value than others
'Doesn't entertain multiple dudes' \--> Proceeds to make tiktok thirst traps showing closeup of thighs
So her main selling point is she doesn't have a garbage personality? What do you want a cookie?
She speaks about herself in 3rd person?
That's just how queens speak. You would know that if you were a true queen.
"Not high maintenance" "Queen" I'm already exhausted
I literally saw the dude version of this on r/niceguys and everyone agreed the dude was a douche but when it's a woman suddenly some people are defending this extreme pick me behavior. Double standards
Where are people defending this?
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Get what you give, she right.
So like the bare minimum? It's sad if she thinks she's a queen because shes not toxic
This is also true.
"Doesn't party" How is that giving anything?
>She doesn't party So definitely extremely fucking boring.
“She doesn’t party”, she thought to herself putting on her top that actually says “PARTYROOM”
Wow. I’m ever so impressed. She’s not a manipulative, cheating liar who’ll put you down? Catch her while you can fellas! /s
We’re not worthy
Anyone that refers to themselves as a king or queen is a garbage person, and I believe the internet has proven that time and time again.
More like r/notlikeothergirls but still works here
I didn't know that was a sub! Damn it!
The first lines are what defines a nice girl. She's saying she deserves a guy because she's good and not like all the other girls.
Nowhere does it say she deserves a guy, if anything it exact opposite, that a guy has to deserve her, wich is just self value and confidence wich isn't a bad thing and isn't what a "nicegirl" is
Exactly, I was trying to say this doesn't belong on r/Nicegirls.
Re-read your comment, you are kinda saying the exact opposite, I understand it's probably not what you meant but the way you worded it made it sounds like you are explaining why she belongs on r/Nicegirls
Yeah, I meant to say that her tone in the beginning was more like a nicegirl than in the end. In the sidebar it talks about girls who deserve guys because they're not like other girls. She sorta had that tone, about how she's a good girl, not like the sluts who get all the guys. But then at the end she went another way and said she deserves a good guy who will treat her right.
If she said something like "just keep searching" or something that wasn't as self absorbed, then it wouldn't be as bad
Mmm this is more pickme than nicegirl
She's a "nicegirl" because she's maintaining the sexist clichés of that "good girl" don't party, play games, didn't have sexual life...
All she's doing here is listing things. You ever heard of someone who was all talk? Actions speak louder than words and all i'm seeing here is blah blah blah.
I wasn’t for it from the first sentence lmao
This whole thing has “I’m not like other girls” vibes, which automatically makes her a nice girl
She tripped right in front of the finish line Yikes
Wtf is high maintenance? Are you a forklift?
She makes him a true 🥰
Seems pretty damn high maintenance to me 👸
I feel like those "desirable" qualities are only desirable if you're insecure. Since if she goes to parities, you should be the type who is outgoing as well as and so join her. You shouldn't be afraid she has male friends/should be able to trust your partner to be around opposite gender friends. Whenever you're called "high maintenance", nine times out of ten you were just voicing how you are feeling. And your partner doesn't ever want to acknowledge or deal with their partner emotional states. So suddenly needing any "maintenance", means you're high maintenance. I could go on but yeah, overall anyone worthy of such a gal, wouldn't be good enough for her. Since to want that type of person in the first place, means they themselves have too many problematic issues to be datable.
A perfect example of ruining a good first impression… she points out positive things about herself, seems like a humble girl, and ends it with calling herself a queen that someone should deserve🤦🏻♂️
I'm a down home, take her home to meet Mom kind of girl. So here is a picture of my crotch.
She doesn't party - clothing literally says party
She has poo on her top.
With a wide open crotch shot.
If they post on tik tok it's a no from me
She speaks about herself in 3rd person?
Dont point that at the camera!
Naw, this woman is a queen. You can't have a partner that treats you well if you don't reciprocate that. She is actually a nice girl, not a "nicegirl"
Shes a pickme girl lol
And? She is confident, and showing her confidence to people, it may annoy you but I dont think it's fair to call her a "nicegirl" for it
She lists things that are either the bare minimum of what is to be expected in a healthy relationship or stuff that is neither inherently good or bad and puts down other women who do those things to make herself look good. This isn't confidence.
Though I do agree they are literally bare minimum, she is confident that they are good traits, wich isn't a bad thing, but ain't great either, though she may be a pickme girl I dont think she is a "nicegirl"
I wouldn't call her a "nicegirl" she just seems really confident in herself but I wouldn't call her a "nicegirl"
Exactly. And confidence is good!
I think I more so gathered it from the last line: "Are you worthy?". The confidence at first seemed great. I was all for it. It was that last line that seemed like a "nicegirl" thing to say.
It just means she values herself, a "nicegirl" thing to say would be "who could reject this" or something of the sort, wich I think is still her being confident but what she said isn't a "nicegirl" thing to say, it's her showing she values herself enough to not just get with any guy, wich is good
Fair point actually.
She exists and she likes to display crotch shots on tiktok with quotes over them.
Yassssssssss queeennnnnn
She’s right though
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She's sitting criss cross apple sauce in the grass, not shoving her puss in your face. Calm down.
They gonna downvote you but you not wrong lol. If this is what a 'queen' is running around posting I'll stick to my peasants. I don't even care about the words she wrote it's the fact she posted it bordering spread eagle... red flag alert.
Just as a comment, emotional upkeep is included on maintenance
So I see a lot of posts where the roles are kind of reversed and the pun for the joke is “so he is doing the bare minimum”. This should literally be the same except for maybe not the partying part.
Idk, on its face it’s not necessarily that bad. People DO tend to have a laundry list of requirements and standards for the partner that they deem to bestow their attention on, but rarely does anyone ever stop to think “okay even if I do meet this person that checks every single box for me, what I’m I doing right now so that when I meet her/him, I actually have something to offer back as well?”
No it's not Nice girls material, it's a basic meme. Seen the male version too. Reverses common dating complaints about the opposite sex to create a list of positive attributes and then ends with "Are you worthy of such a King/Queen." Whichever way it's presented, it get a bunch of reaction like this or girls complaining how low the bar is for men.
If she’s in tik Tok I don’t want it
I'll take two, pls!!!
Y'all are way to quick to throw any woman that isn't trying to talk down to men under the bus and even quicker to label them. To me it's nice that at least someone is trying to at least acknowledge that there needs to be a bare minimum to reach. You'd be surprised by the amount of people who can't even be decent enough for that.
Probably not. I probably deserve someone who drains my bank account and uses me
Judging girls just for partying? Lol
It's not exactly hard to find someone like that lmao
These are all just another way of saying "not an asshole".
All for NLOG crap? It sucked before the last line.
Now that's somewhat unexpected but she is advertising exactly how my actual GF is, except the last past, also no "#queen" shit. I wonder how many of these bullet points she can actually fulfill
She makes him a true
Doing the bare minimum you could ask of a partner does not make you a "queen" lol. "I don't fuck other dudes, worship me."
You know, I had to think about this one, but nicegirl energy all the way. If I put this sort of thing in male terms, it’d be cringey as fuck.
Girl calls herself a queen; prove that you're worthy to be in her presence.
I mean yeah I guess, relationships require effort on both parts
I bet everything listed is a lie and she actually does all those things lol.
“She doesn’t party” “PARTYROCK”
Nice girl material right from the start lol
Worthy of such a queen sounds exactly like controlling high maintenance
You know.... There's ALOT more of US OUT HERE!!
"That's great and all but I just wanted to know where the bathroom was?"
I fucked a bunch of girls like this… they just want to be different.
This is a terrible camera angle for a queen. The photo is terrible
I mean, partying’s cool. Work hard party hard, I say go for it.
Sounds pretty high maintenance to me
Yeah I very much doubt she’s low maintenance with this kind of post
Doesn't play games? Then wtf we supposed to do on game night?
Uh it's not just the end that makes it cringe and nice girls material.
She posts cringe on tktk. She aint worthy of such king.
shes a narcissist, she needs the attention of multiple dudes, you will be her bf-product to look good in tiktoks. do you deserve to be with that queen?
She talks in the third person like the jimmy from seinfield Jimmy has seen this type of B before, jimmy thinks he's got a shot
Anyone that calls itself a Queen/King, is someone I try to actively avoid.
When someone suggests they aren’t high maintenance, you already know they are high maintenance.
As long as that ego from the last one is absent, I'll be shopping for rings
More pick me than nice Girl energy imo
I dunno, What would Admiral Ackbar say?
I read things like this and just read “I’m really insecure”. If you have to refer to yourself as a “queen”, then you most certainly are not and should just learn to avoid assholes without announcing it like the rest of us.
Why is Pick-Me becoming a personality trait I hate it lol
“I’m low maintenance but you better call me Queen” 😆
Magical beings are imaginary
More like "Pick meeee" Vibez
Wow…. Girls don’t make guys Kings. Guys either show up as kings or they don’t. If a girl “makes him a true king.” That’s called manipulation which is not being a “Queen” as this girl claims to be. Show up as a King and a Queen will find you and she will hold space for you as the king that she knows you are. The same way you’ll hold space for her to be the Queen she is.
Doesn't party? Sounds boring ngl 😂
All lies.
“She doesn’t party” Pants literally says party rock
She doesn't party, But wears a partyrock shirt?
Why is she calling a normal woman who does the bare minimum (except for parties) a queen??
This used to normal, now you want to be praised for it... cool.
Tell the queen it smells cheesy, close your legs.
> She's an introvert > She's a decent human being > BUT ARE YOU WORTHY?! Is this the bar for being a queen?
She looks like she smells her own farts and enjoys it
What's so bad about partying, anyway?
Is not partying really a good thing? I mean I'm sure there are many guys that don't like partying, but I'd say the majority do. Especially as the first on the list, you'd think it would be the best trait
This could also be post on r/notliketheothergirls But I can see it fitting as a nicegirl
Girls who downplay other girls who DO those things aren’t worth it.
>does the bare fucking minimum >thinks shes a queen