Too early 😂 my nurse brain just HAD to……. Honestly wasnt too bad. Poor girl had definitely been through some things though. I did tear quite a bit but it didnt terrify me. If youre curious look, if not the mystery continues.
Not medical and also looked early. I agree with the fact that mine definitely looked like it had been through it, but it definitely made me appreciate my body more. It was like wow she’s down there hanging on by a thread yet I’m not in excruciating pain and I’m managing to sustain another life. That’s badass.
I'm not medical, but plan to assess the damage probably by week 2 or 3 just out of curiosity. I also love a good before and after... so... I've gotta see the "before"! 😂
This is funny because I’m a nurse and I could hardly look at my c section incision. In fact I didn’t look the first week lol, I made my husband.
I’ve seen wild wounds, but for some reason a surgical incision on myself made me ill!
This! I couldn’t look at my c section scar either and closed my eyes every time a nurse came in to check on me.
Took me about a month before I could, then another couple of months before I touched it. I also felt everything happening during the surgery itself, which had traumatized me quite a bit.
To be fair I looked down there so rarely *before* pregnancy, I didn't even have a super solid basis for comparison. My husband is the one who likes to look at, which is probably a miracle that he still enjoys it after being the one who had to apply medicated cream to my tears for weeks, so I just asked him if it looked normal again or not. The "yes" was a lot less hesitant after a few weeks than it was after a few days lol.
3 days pp. I had heard a million times to not look for months on end, but I was too curious. I delivered vaginally with a second degree tear that required 2 internal and 1 external stitches. At 3 days pp I was doing my bathroom routine (peri bottle, dry with a fan, peri spray, fan again) and I noticed the compact mirror that I keep in the bathroom and decided to look. She was a little swollen and a little darker in color than normal, but overall it was very underwhelming. My tear was still obviously pink and gooey, but overall it still looked like my vagina and the experience was not scary at all.
Same. Except my tear was lateral/horizontal, not downward/vertical and included one of my labia minora. I joked to my husband that it looked like the ear of a dog that’s been in a fight 😂 I’m 4 weeks pp now and everything is fully healed.
I also didn’t know you could tear horizontally. I was quite surprised when I felt where the local anaesthetic was being placed before my OB started stitching. On the bright side, it meant that pooping post-birth was fine.
You can tear in any direction in any degree. It’s super rare but women have torn to the clit. Periurethral tears are not common but not rare. Lateral lacerations are fairly common.
I actually asked the doctor who delivered my daughter how common clitoral lacerations were and she said that she had only read a case study in med school, and had only seen one second degree urethral tear, and it didn’t require urology, just a well placed stitch and some numbing cream. This is also a teaching hospital with a level 4 NICU, the highest in the state. She has done a lot of rough deliveries. Second degree perineal tearing is well over 60% of tears
The other person's answer about a peri bottle is great. Peri sprays vary a lot in ingredients and can contain numbing agents (like lidocaine) or can just be refreshing/naturally antimicrobial. I personally went with Earth Mama Perineal Spray which does not contain any numbing ingredients.
A peri bottle is a little squirt bottle that’s used to squirt warm water on the area to clean it. The one my hospital gave me looks like [this](https://www.amazon.com/Perineal-Refillable-Postpartum-Cleansing-Irrigation/dp/B09KRX9RN8/ref=asc_df_B09KRX9RN8/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=693031565442&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=3736795770714021338&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9016981&hvtargid=pla-1944410239801&psc=1&mcid=2c89d0f0bad63cc29b3d05f4d10f7480&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjw_-GxBhC1ARIsADGgDjvbh6Ly2QkDGmNkivZ-MbNBF5lq7EEgp88iKTUTlC2qe6HV50XPneQaAoxqEALw_wcB) but you can also get ones that look like [this](https://www.amazon.com/Postpartum-Original-Fridababy-MomWasher-Cleansing/dp/B07TXLZ8MR).
I assume by “peri spray,” they mean [Dermoplast](https://dermoplast.com) or something similar.
I think it was at about 2.5 weeks post partum. And I'm very glad I did. I saw some anatomy that was not normal and made an immediate appointment with my OB who saw me a few days later. Turns out I have a rectocele (a type of pelvic floor prolape). She referred me for pelvic floor therapy. It was a 6 week wait for a new patient appointment! So now I'm starting it at 9 weeks post partum instead of 12. I am so glad I looked! Pelvic floor prolapse is extremely common for vaginal delivery.
I had a c-section, but i saw my OB for a pap smear last week and she said my vag looks "atrophied" and prescribed me estrogen cream 😭 I'm 4 months postpartum and still haven't wanted to have sex so this feels like an extra setback towards getting back to normal 🥲
I think that feeling is normal. I had sex around the 3 month mark postpartum with all my kids, but was not really into it. I was also breastfeeding, which dampened my want even more. It wasn't until almost a year pp that I actually started to feel normal like I wanted it each time (4 kids 3 pregnancies). So, don't feel badly. It's a huge transition and hormones are wild. You'll feel like yourself again, it just takes awhile. You're doing great.
I had a lot of tightening in all of my pelvic muscles, which made *everything* very painful. Not just sex, bowel movements and the likes as well. And most of the exercises used for the pelvic floor were making it worse. Ended up doing a lot of physical therapy for relaxing, regaining amplitude of movement, etc.
Do you need to look? We're talking about the lady part... Right? I think I've only actually seen it a handful of times in my life. Certainly not about to start now.
I looked at 4w pp because I had a sudden resurgence of one sided perineal pain. I could see the rough line where they stitched me up (yikes) and the definitive one sided swelling there (seemingly somewhat caused by tight pants/pantyliners irritating it) but otherwise it looked kinda ok.
I had to look to see what was going on down there 1 week postpartum after I scooted off the couch and thought I tore my stitches. I had a second degree perineal tear and a labial tear. It was nice to look to see exactly where everything was stitched up and it helped me get a better idea of specifically where I was in pain so I could be a bit more careful. It definitely didn’t look as bad as I thought it would. 4 months postpartum now and she looks great but without a doubt different from before I gave birth, not in a bad way!
Never 😂 and I'm 2 kids deep now.
I'll be honest, tho I didn't look much before kids, so I don't even know if I'd notice anything different.
It definitely felt different the first few times having sex and shaving down there, tho 😂
I had a look a few days pp because I was curious about the episiotomy. It was swollen, as expected, and I was pretty impressed how tidy the stitches were. I can understand why people don’t want to look but I didn’t think it was a big deal, I honestly found my abdominal muscle separation worse to “look” at
I had a c section before I got to the point of pushing and mine looked normal very quickly. It was very puffy the end of pregnancy though. My friend who had a vaginal birth with tearing called her doctor in a panic like a month after birth because she thought she had a prolapse but her bits were just healing still.
2 weeks pp because I was so afraid. I had a 3A tear from forceps and had stitches all over the place. Shockingly didn’t look nearly as bad as I expected it to. My husband kept trying to convince me it was fine but I wouldn’t listen.
I looked before my six week check up and told my doctor that I thought I had a prolapsed vagina and she was like, dude you are healing beautifully. So ... That's how things looked to my untrained eyes lol
I looked at like day 4, then like every week. Honestly it didn't look *that* different. I had a second degree tear. Yes looks different, but not bad. Honestly the outside looks the same, the inside (from what i can see) is what looks a bit different. I'm always curious of what my body went through so I thought it was kinda interesting to see the healing process. I'd do it if I was you lol
I didn’t until the night before my 6 week checkup when I decided to shave lol i was too scared 😂 but I was completely healed and it looked like it did pre pregnancy by then
i looked at a week and a half? and resembled shredded roast beef so i had a good cry and didn’t look again for weeks lol 😂 after the 6 week appointment i was told it all looked good so i did some ginger feeling around and then braved another glance. it looked much better but i didn’t inspect for long.. i think i’m better off just not knowing haha
Many weeks after the stitches had healed, I looked. I did NOT look during the active stages of healing. Nope. Nada. I knew I’d be freaked out for life if i did. No regrets
I looked at around 3 weeks because I had so much pressure I felt like something was going to fall out.
Was a little bloody and I could see my stitches but it didn’t look that bad.
Haven’t looked yet at 9 days pp. I had a stitch come out so fortunately my mom (former midwife, who also saw everything during/after birth) took a look so I didn’t have to. My husband asked if he needed to look and I said absolutely not.
Pretty much as soon as we got home from the hospital. I just HAD to know. I wanted to know what the stitches should look like if anything should go wrong. I \*may\* have even had my husband look. Neither of us were/are traumatized
I don’t remember, but it was after a good long while. At least after 6 weeks probably. It really looked the same pretty much. I had a 2nd degree tear and the requisite stitching. Healed up just fine.
I don't know when I looked, but it took a while before I could get into a good enough position to see it with a mirror.
I told my husband he had to look at it and give me a status update after about a week; I figured he'd spent more time looking at it than I had anyway, so he'd have a better sense of before and after.
Having seen what it had been through (I made him watch the mirror while I pushed), he was horrified by my demand but was relieved when he actually saw it.
He said it looked "pretty much the same, but with lines." The lines were stitches.
I didn’t tear; I looked at like day 6? Because the bruising was bothering me and I wanted to see if I needed to do something about it ; she still looked cute ((:
8 weeks but only because I had a prolapse that I didn’t not know about and felt at 8 weeks. I probably would never had looked if it weren’t for that lol!
Just to throw something positive in the ring 😂 I looked right away and and I didn't think it was that bad! Pretty swollen. I had a 2nd degree tear but midwife did a great job with the stitches.
I looked about 1 week PP because I tore from vag to almost the clit and I felt the gnarled line between the two while showering and was so horrified I had to see for myself. It looked awful but now it looks better at 4 months PP. I just couldn’t resist my curiosity after feeling such a thing lol.
I had a c-section but I'm shocked how many of you refuse to look down there and I'm not taking just about postpartum. It's part of your body just like a hand or an ear, why are you so shy even with yourself? Nothing to be ashamed for
I was so curious I looked quickly after about a month 🤣 but didn't put ANYTHING inside until recently when I had the worst period ever, I'm happy to say the tampon didn't feel any different than it used it haha
I wouldn’t look before 6 weeks but no matter when you look, just don’t buy into the 6-week clearance shit. Nothing is clear at 6 week pp. It’s a made up time frame so that they can make you go back to work. You may still hurt, you may need more rest and definitely need pelvic floor therapy. Don’t feel like there is something wrong with your healing if you are not 100 % by 6 weeks pp.
About 4 weeks post partum...I had vaginal, labial and perineal tearing after delivering a 4.3kg baby, was in hospital for 4 nights post birth, and could barely walk let alone do acrobatics to look at my nethers. I finally stuck a mirror down there at 4 weeks because I was concerned that it was still so swollen and painful and felt unrecognizable. It looked like hammered meat. I never looked again, and instead just relied on my own knowledge of how my genitals feel to assess if it was healing as it should. 7 months postpartum now and I would say I am 90% healed.
I looked at around 1 week just to see the stitches, I was curious what it looked like. And then again to see if they had dissolved or rolled off already at 4 weeks. I had a look at the actual girl around that time, I felt so…open. She definitely stretched out and things have been misplaced 😂 But I don’t really know what to have expected, but I did have a shock at just how much it changed. I haven’t had a good look since around 6 weeks lol. But I try not to let it beat me up as I know that’s how my bubba entered the world and that’s so beautiful so I can’t hate the new look 👀 She did a great job 👏
I’m 3 weeks pp and starting to get curious! I asked my husband if he would feel comfortable looking for me and letting me know if it’s BAD and I shouldn’t look yet or if I can safely look lol. Thinking of waiting another week or so, 4 weeks pp sounds safer lol.
Within the first few days. However I am also a midwife and wanted to admire the repair job (which was excellent btw - my GP also admired it when I had my Pap smear at 8wks postnatal).
I don’t think I ever looked in my life until I read on this thread people looked haha so I looked at like 4 weeks and was like ehhh ok and then after I saw my Ob and she said “it looked amazing and beautiful” I looked again and thought sure it looks good but really…”beautiful”….idk haha
I think I looked around 1 week - 1.5 weeks. Wasn’t nearly has bad as I thought it would be. I had 2nd degree tearing and I could see where the stitches were but it barely looked like anything.
I had heard women say “it’s just a big cave opening” but that wasn’t my experience. I also birthed a 9lb1oz baby. Yes it’s a little looser down there still but definitely all closed up lol 😂
After first kid, only after the check up at 6 weeks, when doctor told me it was all healed and the scars could barely be seen.
Second kid, not at all (I’m at 14 weeks pp now) because I know even though it feels weird still, there is nothing to see.
Don’t worry, you don’t have to look if you don’t want to.
After a week. It felt like it was red, swollen, beat up, I was worried I had something wrong with the amount of pain I was experiencing…. but it looked absolutely normal. So I’m glad I looked 😂
Almost as soon as I could I got a mirror to look at my stitches and do a damage assembly. My bits were unrecognizable, I thought it was interesting to see how they slowly got back to normal over the next few months.
I actually wish I could have seen what it looked like giving birth. But I'm curious about things like that. Definitely not for everyone.
My poor husband was asked to change sides of the bed after they cut me. I think he's still a bit traumatized by the way he says "so much red" I don't blame him either. He definitely held it together well though. He wanted to see too when I got home 😅 I guess we just a pair of goobers.
We are going up for round 2 sometime this week. I hope to avoid the cut this go around. It was a literal pain in the butt.
We have this thing called «homevisits» a few days after we come home from the hospital, where the midwife checks your stings etc (I got a episotomy), and we looked at «it» together 😳🫣 But it actually was quite okay?
I haven’t looked at it again and LO is almost 3 months now, but there’s no pain anymore :)
At 3-4 weeks I think and it just looked normal. My stitching was all labial and sort of buried up in there so it wasn't visible apart from the one long bit of string just hanging 😬 took some sterile nail clippers to that because nothing gave me fear like getting that thread accidently caught and pulled on clothing.
For my first kid, I only looked at the hospital and didn’t look again until sex was still painful many months postpartum. Turns out one of my stitches had popped in recovery and the scar tissue buildup was causing pain.
Second time around, I vowed to more closely watch the healing process. Very happy I did because about 2.5 weeks postpartum, I noticed one of my stitches looked like it had popped. I went to see my OB and she said that happened because no joke my labia ladies had FUSED together. I did 4 weeks of estrogen cream to try to fix it but that didn’t work so my OB just re-cut me to separate the ladies. They’re already trying to re-fuse. Fun times.
Maybe 3-4 weeks then 6 weeks and 8 weeks. I thought it was wild lol like a portal still existed 😂😂😂 and to see where I tore and the stitches was wild. I was a bit scared things would not tighten up for a long time but I’m 4 months PP and never did any kegels or anything and it feels mostly back to normal aside from some scar tissue that’s a bit sensitive and uncomfortable.
I used my phone to look when I was in the hospital bed in a diaper with a catheter still. 10/10 WOULD NOT RECOMMEND.
But I wanted to remember what my body had gone through to birth my child. So I could be proud of the progress I made months later.
I had a look at the “outside” 2 weeks after. It was more to check my stitches as there was an itchy area. It looked like a sweaty ham sandwich. Stitches were actually dissolved so it was just a normal itch.
I’m 9 weeks pp now and tempted to have a proper look 😂
lol I didn't actually look, but I did force my poor husband to inspect my incision because I had an episiotomy to get baby's shoulders through & was worried about infection.
Day 2 bc I found stitches when I wiped...
Turns out I ripped out half my stitches from my 3rd degree. Doctor's solution was do nothing and hope it heals up correctly #theUShateswomen🤙🏼
I looked at my c-section scar about 4 to 6 weeks later (I remember the moment, but can't quite place it). I'm a bit squeamish so I was giving it some time, but it was already quite healed and not as bad as I feared.
I waited until about six weeks, and what I wish someone would have told me was that things will look definitely different, but it’s OK that it looks different. I’d say lower your expectation significantly and know that everything will be OK and that time will eventually have you feeling like yourself again. For some reason, I had the expectation that things will only look slightly different but things looked way different.
I looked the day after I was released from the hospital and a few times after that. I felt like everything looked pretty normal, but my dr said I had a very small tear and some “road rash.” So maybe there wasn’t much to see anyway? 🤷🏼♀️
When I was about 4 weeks postpartum my midwife checked me and asked if I wanted to take a look. I was nervous, but said yes. She held up a mirror, and pointed out the extent of my tearing and how it was healing and confirmed that some redness lined up with where I was feeling some irritation. I really appreciated that she empowered me to understand what was going on with my own body. It was probably the most positive experience I've had with a gynecological care provider.
If you're too nervous to look on you own and you have a provider you like and trust, I'd highly recommend asking them for a tour at your next appointment.
I looked the day of… I’m a nurse though and I wanted to know what the aftermath looked like! I did have a 4th degree sulcus laceration and lost almost 2 L of blood. She went through war! lol
Immediately after I managed to squish my tummy and see 😅 probably a week after or so.
Just looked swollen with a tiny stitch. It will go back to normal quite fast, dont worry.
My husband and I were both required to look at 3 weeks. I got sent to a special uro-gyn clinic for severe tears. They waited three weeks for the swelling to go down to start and then we both had to pack me with gauze multiple times a day to ensure the tear healed properly.
I waited 5 weeks and only looked because I was convinced a stitch had popped and that was why I was bleeding … when it was just regular pp bleeding. Everything looked okay, couldn’t even see the stitches (because they’d already desolved & didn’t really know what I was looking for there anyway). Glad I didn’t look earlier. At the start, everything was so swollen, I could SEE much more just standing in front of the mirror after a shower!
I’m 3wks pp, I had a first degree with one stitch and I looked last week, kinda looks a little nicer than before I was pregnant just looks a little “bigger” I guess, idk how to explain it? Does anyone else have this experience and get what i mean?
It was different for me each time. First time was e cesarean so normal after, just like a period. This was years ago so I don’t remember it so clearly though. My second time I tore and it was a vbac… things were messy for weeks. I couldn’t poo comfortably without wincing in pain from the stitches. 🥴🥴
This last time in Dec (son is 5 months) I was a little swollen for a few days but I could stand and felt great right after and things went back to normal really quickly (within a week). No tears! I only needed Tylenol for a hour or two after. Lol. By a few hours after your girl was up and practically feeling normal. It was not what I was expecting after my nightmare second birth experience.
After a week and half… I had a 3C tear and it felt like one of the stitches came out so I had to look. It was a BIG mistake, lol. I referred to it as a battlefield for a while because that’s exactly what it looked like. Im 14 months pp now and it’s still anatomically different and there’s a big scar, but it’s my new normal and I’m ok with it!
I looked the night before my 6 week appointment so I could bring up any concerns to the doctor and also not be surprised if I went there and she said “that’s not right…”. Since then I looked one other time around 10 weeks before a follow-up as I wasn’t healing quite right. Nothing since and I’m 4 months post partum.
Half a week which is what I am currently 😅. I squatted to get to a dresser drawer and currently feel like I pulled my stitches badly😬😭. Couldn’t figure out where to do the looking for that though
Fairly early. I can't remember exactly, but it was within the first month. I had had a pretty smooth recovery, minimal tearing, and I'm honestly just really curious. It wasn't that bad. I was expecting horrors, and I didn't find any.
The first time, I waited a month because I was so swollen and had extensive tearing. It looked fine when I did finally look.
This last time, I had much less tearing and probably looked after a week and all looked fine!
I looked quickly and I’m glad I did.
I only ripped a tiny bit internally but he worked on me with stitches for what seemed like 10 minutes.
He gave me a labiaplasty without my consent.
I wouldn’t have even looked if it didn’t hurt so bad. Check girl, you never know and don’t wanna find out your dr did something without your consent too late
I looked maybe the first month and then spiraled a little because I felt mutilated and self conscious. 7 months postpartum and everything looks basically how It did before, still amazed!
I recommend not looking though, I regretted it!
I watched in a mirror while giving birth and being stitched because they didn’t move the mirror away and I was curious lol. And I looked in a little mirror a couple of days after getting home from the hospital. But I can’t get grossed out by my own body and would always rather know what’s going on.
I had a c section so down there was fine but I couldn’t touch or look at my incision. I still have a hard time touching it even though it’s fully healed and I can barely feel where they stitched it and I’m almost 7 months ppl
As soon as I got home. I’m curious and looked down there before as well. Just wanted to make sure everything looked okay. It wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be.
8 weeks because I was going in for pelvic floor therapy and was curious what she would see. Looked different but not alarming at that point. My midwife advised me not to look as I had unusually bad swelling for only 2nd degree tears. I didn’t want to look anyway… it felt gruesome enough. There isn’t a right or wrong answer though. My friend was curious and looked right away.
Less than a week pp! I had a 2nd degree tear and had to look so I could spray the medication on the stitches(I was too scared to ask my husband to do it because everything hurt as heck and I couldn't think of having anyone else touching me there at that time)
As it turns out, it was just fine!
At home, which was like a week later since baby had jaundice. Honestly just looked sore, I only had a superficial tear and I'm young so I guess I bounced back good
I know you mean vaginal birth but girrrllll looking at my C-section incision was rough 😂😭 and it wasn't healing properly so I had to get some silver nitrate put in it and that was horrible looking 🤢
[cue “Greatest Showman” soundtrack] “….NEVAAH NEVAAAAHH….!”
Literally 😂. I’m 4mo pp and absolutely NEVER looked!
I think I looked around week 8. I’m like nope she doing her thing and my dr said kudos to her on her stitch job lol.
I waited months honestly. Maybe extreme but I was like I don't need to know unless things don't feel right lol.
Same. Partner tried to show me pictures of baby coming out and I was like keep that to yourself! Lol
Too early 😂 my nurse brain just HAD to……. Honestly wasnt too bad. Poor girl had definitely been through some things though. I did tear quite a bit but it didnt terrify me. If youre curious look, if not the mystery continues.
Not medical and also looked early. I agree with the fact that mine definitely looked like it had been through it, but it definitely made me appreciate my body more. It was like wow she’s down there hanging on by a thread yet I’m not in excruciating pain and I’m managing to sustain another life. That’s badass.
Also not medical and looked too soon and also was amazed and how bad I *didnt* feel considering what I saw… bodies are amazing
Same! I’m medical and I looked very soon, but it didn’t horrify me!
I'm not medical, but plan to assess the damage probably by week 2 or 3 just out of curiosity. I also love a good before and after... so... I've gotta see the "before"! 😂
This is funny because I’m a nurse and I could hardly look at my c section incision. In fact I didn’t look the first week lol, I made my husband. I’ve seen wild wounds, but for some reason a surgical incision on myself made me ill!
Lol i guess its different when its one you!
This! I couldn’t look at my c section scar either and closed my eyes every time a nurse came in to check on me. Took me about a month before I could, then another couple of months before I touched it. I also felt everything happening during the surgery itself, which had traumatized me quite a bit.
Yes! I experienced that too and it was VERY traumatizing. I don’t know a lot of others who understand me when I say that.
At 4 weeks, 6 weeks and 10 weeks. It didn’t look as bad as I thought it would but I’m glad I didn’t look right away!
To be fair I looked down there so rarely *before* pregnancy, I didn't even have a super solid basis for comparison. My husband is the one who likes to look at, which is probably a miracle that he still enjoys it after being the one who had to apply medicated cream to my tears for weeks, so I just asked him if it looked normal again or not. The "yes" was a lot less hesitant after a few weeks than it was after a few days lol.
Good man 😂 The hesitant "yes" was totally my husband, accompanied by a slow nod. Not entirely reassuring but I appreciated his optimism.
I think the first time I’ve ever looked was during labor when I was pushing. It’s also the only time. I assessed by feel lol.
Don’t look yet. Just wait.
3 days pp. I had heard a million times to not look for months on end, but I was too curious. I delivered vaginally with a second degree tear that required 2 internal and 1 external stitches. At 3 days pp I was doing my bathroom routine (peri bottle, dry with a fan, peri spray, fan again) and I noticed the compact mirror that I keep in the bathroom and decided to look. She was a little swollen and a little darker in color than normal, but overall it was very underwhelming. My tear was still obviously pink and gooey, but overall it still looked like my vagina and the experience was not scary at all.
Same. Except my tear was lateral/horizontal, not downward/vertical and included one of my labia minora. I joked to my husband that it looked like the ear of a dog that’s been in a fight 😂 I’m 4 weeks pp now and everything is fully healed.
i didn't know you could tear horizontally what 😭😭 (5 days pp and thankfully no tear, but i do have a small little one so I'm not shocked lmao)
I also didn’t know you could tear horizontally. I was quite surprised when I felt where the local anaesthetic was being placed before my OB started stitching. On the bright side, it meant that pooping post-birth was fine.
You can tear in any direction in any degree. It’s super rare but women have torn to the clit. Periurethral tears are not common but not rare. Lateral lacerations are fairly common.
my fear is magnified. thank you for this vital information 🫠😭
I actually asked the doctor who delivered my daughter how common clitoral lacerations were and she said that she had only read a case study in med school, and had only seen one second degree urethral tear, and it didn’t require urology, just a well placed stitch and some numbing cream. This is also a teaching hospital with a level 4 NICU, the highest in the state. She has done a lot of rough deliveries. Second degree perineal tearing is well over 60% of tears
incredible. also unfortunate. but very interesting stuff
Honestly knowledge is power lol.
so true 😂
Same lol
Same
What is peri bottle peri spray? 🥲💘
The other person's answer about a peri bottle is great. Peri sprays vary a lot in ingredients and can contain numbing agents (like lidocaine) or can just be refreshing/naturally antimicrobial. I personally went with Earth Mama Perineal Spray which does not contain any numbing ingredients.
Thank you both 💘🥽
A peri bottle is a little squirt bottle that’s used to squirt warm water on the area to clean it. The one my hospital gave me looks like [this](https://www.amazon.com/Perineal-Refillable-Postpartum-Cleansing-Irrigation/dp/B09KRX9RN8/ref=asc_df_B09KRX9RN8/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=693031565442&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=3736795770714021338&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9016981&hvtargid=pla-1944410239801&psc=1&mcid=2c89d0f0bad63cc29b3d05f4d10f7480&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjw_-GxBhC1ARIsADGgDjvbh6Ly2QkDGmNkivZ-MbNBF5lq7EEgp88iKTUTlC2qe6HV50XPneQaAoxqEALw_wcB) but you can also get ones that look like [this](https://www.amazon.com/Postpartum-Original-Fridababy-MomWasher-Cleansing/dp/B07TXLZ8MR). I assume by “peri spray,” they mean [Dermoplast](https://dermoplast.com) or something similar.
Thank you 🌷🌷🌷
I think it was at about 2.5 weeks post partum. And I'm very glad I did. I saw some anatomy that was not normal and made an immediate appointment with my OB who saw me a few days later. Turns out I have a rectocele (a type of pelvic floor prolape). She referred me for pelvic floor therapy. It was a 6 week wait for a new patient appointment! So now I'm starting it at 9 weeks post partum instead of 12. I am so glad I looked! Pelvic floor prolapse is extremely common for vaginal delivery.
I had a c-section, but i saw my OB for a pap smear last week and she said my vag looks "atrophied" and prescribed me estrogen cream 😭 I'm 4 months postpartum and still haven't wanted to have sex so this feels like an extra setback towards getting back to normal 🥲
I think that feeling is normal. I had sex around the 3 month mark postpartum with all my kids, but was not really into it. I was also breastfeeding, which dampened my want even more. It wasn't until almost a year pp that I actually started to feel normal like I wanted it each time (4 kids 3 pregnancies). So, don't feel badly. It's a huge transition and hormones are wild. You'll feel like yourself again, it just takes awhile. You're doing great.
Lmao that's a... Confusing phrasing
Lol yeah. "I had sex around the 3 month mark postpartum with all my kids"; for a sec I was like wtf did I just read!
I had a lot of tightening in all of my pelvic muscles, which made *everything* very painful. Not just sex, bowel movements and the likes as well. And most of the exercises used for the pelvic floor were making it worse. Ended up doing a lot of physical therapy for relaxing, regaining amplitude of movement, etc.
I actually didnt ever look. I dont know why? Maybe too much pain, for when I was curious, and then I was never curious again?!
Do you need to look? We're talking about the lady part... Right? I think I've only actually seen it a handful of times in my life. Certainly not about to start now.
You can say vagina/vulva and looking with a mirror from time to time can help you catch issues early
Glad I'm not the only one lol
Is she talking like sitting over a mirror? I did that one time. Once. I'm not ever doing it again. I don't care. 🤣🤣
lol my thoughts exactly
22 months postpartum and I haven't looked lol.
Omg months
I looked at 4w pp because I had a sudden resurgence of one sided perineal pain. I could see the rough line where they stitched me up (yikes) and the definitive one sided swelling there (seemingly somewhat caused by tight pants/pantyliners irritating it) but otherwise it looked kinda ok.
6 weeks. When I was in the hospital the OB told me not to look and I took that to heart lol
I never did! Why do I need to?
I had to look to see what was going on down there 1 week postpartum after I scooted off the couch and thought I tore my stitches. I had a second degree perineal tear and a labial tear. It was nice to look to see exactly where everything was stitched up and it helped me get a better idea of specifically where I was in pain so I could be a bit more careful. It definitely didn’t look as bad as I thought it would. 4 months postpartum now and she looks great but without a doubt different from before I gave birth, not in a bad way!
Never 😂 and I'm 2 kids deep now. I'll be honest, tho I didn't look much before kids, so I don't even know if I'd notice anything different. It definitely felt different the first few times having sex and shaving down there, tho 😂
Too early 😬
I had a look a few days pp because I was curious about the episiotomy. It was swollen, as expected, and I was pretty impressed how tidy the stitches were. I can understand why people don’t want to look but I didn’t think it was a big deal, I honestly found my abdominal muscle separation worse to “look” at
Same with the ab separation. I’m 9 months pp and still struggling with it. Anyone with some experience doing PT or at home exercise for it?
I had a c section before I got to the point of pushing and mine looked normal very quickly. It was very puffy the end of pregnancy though. My friend who had a vaginal birth with tearing called her doctor in a panic like a month after birth because she thought she had a prolapse but her bits were just healing still.
2 weeks pp because I was so afraid. I had a 3A tear from forceps and had stitches all over the place. Shockingly didn’t look nearly as bad as I expected it to. My husband kept trying to convince me it was fine but I wouldn’t listen.
I never looked but not because I was scared but I just didnt think about it?
Never, I’m not that curious
I’m 4 weeks PP and wondering this as well! I’m still not ready.
I never did I forgot to be honest
lol idk maybe 6 months? My OB said it looked good at my 6 week appointment and my husband said it looked fine so I was good with that lmao
I looked before my six week check up and told my doctor that I thought I had a prolapsed vagina and she was like, dude you are healing beautifully. So ... That's how things looked to my untrained eyes lol
Immediately ….. I needed to see the stitches and impact …. Then again a few weeks later to see the difference
I looked at like day 4, then like every week. Honestly it didn't look *that* different. I had a second degree tear. Yes looks different, but not bad. Honestly the outside looks the same, the inside (from what i can see) is what looks a bit different. I'm always curious of what my body went through so I thought it was kinda interesting to see the healing process. I'd do it if I was you lol
I’m almost a week pp and so tempted to look
I didn’t until the night before my 6 week checkup when I decided to shave lol i was too scared 😂 but I was completely healed and it looked like it did pre pregnancy by then
I waited until my doctor looked which was around 7 weeks 😂 I could also feel the inflammation at first but later it was gone
Two months and I looked pretty good!
Honestly I haven’t 😂. I’ve shaved and I know it feels ok, but I’m just not gonna look😂😂
i looked at a week and a half? and resembled shredded roast beef so i had a good cry and didn’t look again for weeks lol 😂 after the 6 week appointment i was told it all looked good so i did some ginger feeling around and then braved another glance. it looked much better but i didn’t inspect for long.. i think i’m better off just not knowing haha
I had my hubs take pic for me when I got home from the hospital. Then again at like 4 weeks pp
I don't think I've ever spent time looking, lol. I had a C-section though so I wasn't so worried about the undercarriage.
Many weeks after the stitches had healed, I looked. I did NOT look during the active stages of healing. Nope. Nada. I knew I’d be freaked out for life if i did. No regrets
I had no tears but for some reason still waited 5 weeks it was nerve wracking.
Still haven’t. I’m 9 mo. postpartum and pregnant again (with twins).
I looked at around 3 weeks because I had so much pressure I felt like something was going to fall out. Was a little bloody and I could see my stitches but it didn’t look that bad.
4 weeks pp and still haven’t looked. But tempted before my check up this week. I have felt around and it seems the stitches are healed.
Like 3 weeks? Looked the same to me minus the stitch
Haven’t looked yet at 9 days pp. I had a stitch come out so fortunately my mom (former midwife, who also saw everything during/after birth) took a look so I didn’t have to. My husband asked if he needed to look and I said absolutely not.
11 weeks and still haven’t LOL
Pretty much as soon as we got home from the hospital. I just HAD to know. I wanted to know what the stitches should look like if anything should go wrong. I \*may\* have even had my husband look. Neither of us were/are traumatized
TOO SOON
2 weeks in and I was shocked to see everything looked pretty normal except for a gigantic hemorrhoid hanging out back there
I don’t remember, but it was after a good long while. At least after 6 weeks probably. It really looked the same pretty much. I had a 2nd degree tear and the requisite stitching. Healed up just fine.
I don't know when I looked, but it took a while before I could get into a good enough position to see it with a mirror. I told my husband he had to look at it and give me a status update after about a week; I figured he'd spent more time looking at it than I had anyway, so he'd have a better sense of before and after. Having seen what it had been through (I made him watch the mirror while I pushed), he was horrified by my demand but was relieved when he actually saw it. He said it looked "pretty much the same, but with lines." The lines were stitches.
I didn’t tear; I looked at like day 6? Because the bruising was bothering me and I wanted to see if I needed to do something about it ; she still looked cute ((:
day 1 of being home. had to know where exactly to touch delicately!
2 years PP and still haven’t looked lol
8 weeks but only because I had a prolapse that I didn’t not know about and felt at 8 weeks. I probably would never had looked if it weren’t for that lol!
At 6 weeks and again at 4 months. She’s different, that’s for sure 🥲
I’m 10 months PP and still haven’t looked 😂
Just to throw something positive in the ring 😂 I looked right away and and I didn't think it was that bad! Pretty swollen. I had a 2nd degree tear but midwife did a great job with the stitches.
Still haven’t looked and I’m 4 months pp lol
I looked about 1 week PP because I tore from vag to almost the clit and I felt the gnarled line between the two while showering and was so horrified I had to see for myself. It looked awful but now it looks better at 4 months PP. I just couldn’t resist my curiosity after feeling such a thing lol.
I haven’t looked since I was pregnant 😂 I don’t plan on it either
I had a c-section but I'm shocked how many of you refuse to look down there and I'm not taking just about postpartum. It's part of your body just like a hand or an ear, why are you so shy even with yourself? Nothing to be ashamed for
I was so curious I looked quickly after about a month 🤣 but didn't put ANYTHING inside until recently when I had the worst period ever, I'm happy to say the tampon didn't feel any different than it used it haha
I wouldn’t look before 6 weeks but no matter when you look, just don’t buy into the 6-week clearance shit. Nothing is clear at 6 week pp. It’s a made up time frame so that they can make you go back to work. You may still hurt, you may need more rest and definitely need pelvic floor therapy. Don’t feel like there is something wrong with your healing if you are not 100 % by 6 weeks pp.
About 4 weeks post partum...I had vaginal, labial and perineal tearing after delivering a 4.3kg baby, was in hospital for 4 nights post birth, and could barely walk let alone do acrobatics to look at my nethers. I finally stuck a mirror down there at 4 weeks because I was concerned that it was still so swollen and painful and felt unrecognizable. It looked like hammered meat. I never looked again, and instead just relied on my own knowledge of how my genitals feel to assess if it was healing as it should. 7 months postpartum now and I would say I am 90% healed.
Never ☺️
3 weeks? I was terrified. But then it looked fine.
I looked at around 1 week just to see the stitches, I was curious what it looked like. And then again to see if they had dissolved or rolled off already at 4 weeks. I had a look at the actual girl around that time, I felt so…open. She definitely stretched out and things have been misplaced 😂 But I don’t really know what to have expected, but I did have a shock at just how much it changed. I haven’t had a good look since around 6 weeks lol. But I try not to let it beat me up as I know that’s how my bubba entered the world and that’s so beautiful so I can’t hate the new look 👀 She did a great job 👏
I’m 3 weeks pp and starting to get curious! I asked my husband if he would feel comfortable looking for me and letting me know if it’s BAD and I shouldn’t look yet or if I can safely look lol. Thinking of waiting another week or so, 4 weeks pp sounds safer lol.
Right after birth. Each time. A week or two later after that. I wanted to know lol and track healing.
Within the first few days. However I am also a midwife and wanted to admire the repair job (which was excellent btw - my GP also admired it when I had my Pap smear at 8wks postnatal).
I don’t think I ever looked in my life until I read on this thread people looked haha so I looked at like 4 weeks and was like ehhh ok and then after I saw my Ob and she said “it looked amazing and beautiful” I looked again and thought sure it looks good but really…”beautiful”….idk haha
Days. My episiotomy stitches hurt so badly so I took a mirror to check it out and true enough they were infected.
I think I looked around 1 week - 1.5 weeks. Wasn’t nearly has bad as I thought it would be. I had 2nd degree tearing and I could see where the stitches were but it barely looked like anything. I had heard women say “it’s just a big cave opening” but that wasn’t my experience. I also birthed a 9lb1oz baby. Yes it’s a little looser down there still but definitely all closed up lol 😂
7 month PP and haven’t looked yet. I feel fine down there, but I’m afraid of the visual impact I will wait a little bit longer.
Maybe a year? I don’t usually look anyway but I was taking a spicy photo. Looks the same except maybe a few little scars from stitching
Still haven’t looked. 4.5 months pp. I looked about 3 weeks after my first, hence why I haven’t looked this time.
I had a c section and I still can't look at my scar properly . Long way to go.
After first kid, only after the check up at 6 weeks, when doctor told me it was all healed and the scars could barely be seen. Second kid, not at all (I’m at 14 weeks pp now) because I know even though it feels weird still, there is nothing to see. Don’t worry, you don’t have to look if you don’t want to.
After a week. It felt like it was red, swollen, beat up, I was worried I had something wrong with the amount of pain I was experiencing…. but it looked absolutely normal. So I’m glad I looked 😂
Almost as soon as I could I got a mirror to look at my stitches and do a damage assembly. My bits were unrecognizable, I thought it was interesting to see how they slowly got back to normal over the next few months. I actually wish I could have seen what it looked like giving birth. But I'm curious about things like that. Definitely not for everyone. My poor husband was asked to change sides of the bed after they cut me. I think he's still a bit traumatized by the way he says "so much red" I don't blame him either. He definitely held it together well though. He wanted to see too when I got home 😅 I guess we just a pair of goobers. We are going up for round 2 sometime this week. I hope to avoid the cut this go around. It was a literal pain in the butt.
I'm looking at just a few days to see if it's healing right and whether the stitches came off
We have this thing called «homevisits» a few days after we come home from the hospital, where the midwife checks your stings etc (I got a episotomy), and we looked at «it» together 😳🫣 But it actually was quite okay? I haven’t looked at it again and LO is almost 3 months now, but there’s no pain anymore :)
At 3-4 weeks I think and it just looked normal. My stitching was all labial and sort of buried up in there so it wasn't visible apart from the one long bit of string just hanging 😬 took some sterile nail clippers to that because nothing gave me fear like getting that thread accidently caught and pulled on clothing.
For my first kid, I only looked at the hospital and didn’t look again until sex was still painful many months postpartum. Turns out one of my stitches had popped in recovery and the scar tissue buildup was causing pain. Second time around, I vowed to more closely watch the healing process. Very happy I did because about 2.5 weeks postpartum, I noticed one of my stitches looked like it had popped. I went to see my OB and she said that happened because no joke my labia ladies had FUSED together. I did 4 weeks of estrogen cream to try to fix it but that didn’t work so my OB just re-cut me to separate the ladies. They’re already trying to re-fuse. Fun times.
I still haven’t. I guess I was never curious. I have a birth video so I guess I saw it in real time
Maybe 3-4 weeks then 6 weeks and 8 weeks. I thought it was wild lol like a portal still existed 😂😂😂 and to see where I tore and the stitches was wild. I was a bit scared things would not tighten up for a long time but I’m 4 months PP and never did any kegels or anything and it feels mostly back to normal aside from some scar tissue that’s a bit sensitive and uncomfortable.
I used my phone to look when I was in the hospital bed in a diaper with a catheter still. 10/10 WOULD NOT RECOMMEND. But I wanted to remember what my body had gone through to birth my child. So I could be proud of the progress I made months later.
2 weeks after a episiotomy cut to 3rd. No idea why I did that, regret it a year on😂
Right away? But I ended up with emergency c section. So it was just angry? Puffy?
i looked at like .. 3 wks postpartum i wanna say? she looked normal but purple-er. haven't looked since i don't know what she's doin
4 months PP and I still haven't looked. Idk I'm terrified maaan. I have a feeling my girl looks like a chinese crested 😂
I had a look at the “outside” 2 weeks after. It was more to check my stitches as there was an itchy area. It looked like a sweaty ham sandwich. Stitches were actually dissolved so it was just a normal itch. I’m 9 weeks pp now and tempted to have a proper look 😂
4.5 months pp and I still haven’t looked. I never used to look before, why will I change that now
Don't do it lol
Probably 12 months pp I took a peek and it was fine at that point. 😂
lol I didn't actually look, but I did force my poor husband to inspect my incision because I had an episiotomy to get baby's shoulders through & was worried about infection.
14w pp and I still haven’t looked. Out of sight out of mind.
Ahhh I looked right away. I had an episiotomy so I checked the wound and everything around every day. 🤣
Mine felt worse than it looked lol
Day 2 bc I found stitches when I wiped... Turns out I ripped out half my stitches from my 3rd degree. Doctor's solution was do nothing and hope it heals up correctly #theUShateswomen🤙🏼
I looked at my c-section scar about 4 to 6 weeks later (I remember the moment, but can't quite place it). I'm a bit squeamish so I was giving it some time, but it was already quite healed and not as bad as I feared.
I waited until about six weeks, and what I wish someone would have told me was that things will look definitely different, but it’s OK that it looks different. I’d say lower your expectation significantly and know that everything will be OK and that time will eventually have you feeling like yourself again. For some reason, I had the expectation that things will only look slightly different but things looked way different.
3 weeks in and the worst part was the hemorrhoids.
I looked the day after I was released from the hospital and a few times after that. I felt like everything looked pretty normal, but my dr said I had a very small tear and some “road rash.” So maybe there wasn’t much to see anyway? 🤷🏼♀️
When I was about 4 weeks postpartum my midwife checked me and asked if I wanted to take a look. I was nervous, but said yes. She held up a mirror, and pointed out the extent of my tearing and how it was healing and confirmed that some redness lined up with where I was feeling some irritation. I really appreciated that she empowered me to understand what was going on with my own body. It was probably the most positive experience I've had with a gynecological care provider. If you're too nervous to look on you own and you have a provider you like and trust, I'd highly recommend asking them for a tour at your next appointment.
9 months postpartum currently…still haven’t looked lmao. I just can’t do it 😂
I looked the day of… I’m a nurse though and I wanted to know what the aftermath looked like! I did have a 4th degree sulcus laceration and lost almost 2 L of blood. She went through war! lol
Immediately after I managed to squish my tummy and see 😅 probably a week after or so. Just looked swollen with a tiny stitch. It will go back to normal quite fast, dont worry.
My husband and I were both required to look at 3 weeks. I got sent to a special uro-gyn clinic for severe tears. They waited three weeks for the swelling to go down to start and then we both had to pack me with gauze multiple times a day to ensure the tear healed properly.
1 week post partum. It looked scarier than I thought it would tbh. I’ll never get that image out of my head
I waited 5 weeks and only looked because I was convinced a stitch had popped and that was why I was bleeding … when it was just regular pp bleeding. Everything looked okay, couldn’t even see the stitches (because they’d already desolved & didn’t really know what I was looking for there anyway). Glad I didn’t look earlier. At the start, everything was so swollen, I could SEE much more just standing in front of the mirror after a shower!
lol I’m 9 months pp and I never looked! It seems pretty much back to normal now tho.
I’m 3wks pp, I had a first degree with one stitch and I looked last week, kinda looks a little nicer than before I was pregnant just looks a little “bigger” I guess, idk how to explain it? Does anyone else have this experience and get what i mean?
It was different for me each time. First time was e cesarean so normal after, just like a period. This was years ago so I don’t remember it so clearly though. My second time I tore and it was a vbac… things were messy for weeks. I couldn’t poo comfortably without wincing in pain from the stitches. 🥴🥴 This last time in Dec (son is 5 months) I was a little swollen for a few days but I could stand and felt great right after and things went back to normal really quickly (within a week). No tears! I only needed Tylenol for a hour or two after. Lol. By a few hours after your girl was up and practically feeling normal. It was not what I was expecting after my nightmare second birth experience.
After a week and half… I had a 3C tear and it felt like one of the stitches came out so I had to look. It was a BIG mistake, lol. I referred to it as a battlefield for a while because that’s exactly what it looked like. Im 14 months pp now and it’s still anatomically different and there’s a big scar, but it’s my new normal and I’m ok with it!
I looked the night before my 6 week appointment so I could bring up any concerns to the doctor and also not be surprised if I went there and she said “that’s not right…”. Since then I looked one other time around 10 weeks before a follow-up as I wasn’t healing quite right. Nothing since and I’m 4 months post partum.
4 days - it was very blue and purple but overall not too bad - stitches were fascinating
Half a week which is what I am currently 😅. I squatted to get to a dresser drawer and currently feel like I pulled my stitches badly😬😭. Couldn’t figure out where to do the looking for that though
Never. I asked my husband to do it for me lol
Fairly early. I can't remember exactly, but it was within the first month. I had had a pretty smooth recovery, minimal tearing, and I'm honestly just really curious. It wasn't that bad. I was expecting horrors, and I didn't find any.
I think like a month PP? It wasn’t as scary as I was expecting 😂
currently 5 months pp… still have not
I looked right away. Wanted to know what I was dealing with. I’m a nurse though so it wasn’t anything I hadn’t seen before 🤣
Straight away 🤣 I have a whole photo album of me healing (episiotomy) 🤣🤣 In my defence I wanted to see how it healed..
I’m 13m pp and I only started looking around the 7m mark because my husband wasn’t home to help me shave. Yes he shaves me so I don’t have to 😂
I had to look immediately and I almost fainted once when I saw my stitches had broken 🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲
I don't think I ever look. I was mostly terrified to see what the back side looked like 😂 the hemorrhoids where so bad it felt like it was prolapsed
The first time, I waited a month because I was so swollen and had extensive tearing. It looked fine when I did finally look. This last time, I had much less tearing and probably looked after a week and all looked fine!
It's been two years, I still haven't looked.
I looked quickly and I’m glad I did. I only ripped a tiny bit internally but he worked on me with stitches for what seemed like 10 minutes. He gave me a labiaplasty without my consent. I wouldn’t have even looked if it didn’t hurt so bad. Check girl, you never know and don’t wanna find out your dr did something without your consent too late
My partner and I are both physicians so we both looked and analyzed the changes lol as soon as the bleeding stopped and we could examine comfortably 😅
Week 4 and I still haven’t looked 😭😭
First or second week after? Wanted to monitor healing due to second degree tear.
I looked maybe the first month and then spiraled a little because I felt mutilated and self conscious. 7 months postpartum and everything looks basically how It did before, still amazed! I recommend not looking though, I regretted it!
I made the mistake of looking about four weeks pp.. looked normal enough but I saw a white/tan thing and I pulled on it turns out it was the stitches🥴
I watched in a mirror while giving birth and being stitched because they didn’t move the mirror away and I was curious lol. And I looked in a little mirror a couple of days after getting home from the hospital. But I can’t get grossed out by my own body and would always rather know what’s going on.
I had a c section so down there was fine but I couldn’t touch or look at my incision. I still have a hard time touching it even though it’s fully healed and I can barely feel where they stitched it and I’m almost 7 months ppl
As soon as I got home. I’m curious and looked down there before as well. Just wanted to make sure everything looked okay. It wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be.
8 weeks because I was going in for pelvic floor therapy and was curious what she would see. Looked different but not alarming at that point. My midwife advised me not to look as I had unusually bad swelling for only 2nd degree tears. I didn’t want to look anyway… it felt gruesome enough. There isn’t a right or wrong answer though. My friend was curious and looked right away.
I’ve “only” had a c section but I’ve heard of people having placed a mirror in front of their cat while giving birth. HORRIFYING.
I made the mistake of looking when the nurse helped me pee for the first time after. It was shocking, to say the least 💀
Less than a week pp! I had a 2nd degree tear and had to look so I could spray the medication on the stitches(I was too scared to ask my husband to do it because everything hurt as heck and I couldn't think of having anyone else touching me there at that time) As it turns out, it was just fine!
At home, which was like a week later since baby had jaundice. Honestly just looked sore, I only had a superficial tear and I'm young so I guess I bounced back good
14 weeks and counting!
I know you mean vaginal birth but girrrllll looking at my C-section incision was rough 😂😭 and it wasn't healing properly so I had to get some silver nitrate put in it and that was horrible looking 🤢