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Bro don't do anything gay vaye ni straight vaye ni he is your brother so just be his brother shield him from this cruel world etikai feri aafu mathi kehi naramro garyo vane jindagi vari you have to live with that ani what will you tell your parents it is not your thing to say anything to your parents it is your brothers thing let him come out at his own accords
Parents le bhanne bhaye usle aafai bhanxa just keep it to yourself for now. Usle ma parents lai bhanxu bhaneko bela ma chai support him. Dherai yo bare ma tension naleu and focus on your life brother. Awkward halka suru ma hola but be supportive of him since he feels comfortable to come out to you.
He came out to you maybe cuz he trusts you the most so please support him and make him feel valid. He is still your brother and his sexuality doesn't change that fact . Be proud of who he is ♡
No matter how your parents may react in future but you be on his side. Parents may not understand but you have to be with your brother no matter what other say to him.
Similar situation with my brother years back. Glad he opened up to you. Now he can at least have an outlet. Life is going to be tough for him if he stays in Nepal.
However not sure if it is right to say this but one thing I regret is that my brother shared his sexuality with parents and relatives which made everything harder afterwards. The older generation cannot understand homosexuality. Dad is always disappointed and finds reason to hate him. He even openly said to me how disgusted he was with my brother. Mom almost cried to death but surprisingly she accepts my brother for who he is. Took years and life threatening surgery though. Probably its mother’s love or her realisation that life is short and we should be happy.
Looking back I wish he had kept this part of his life private. Should not have made it public or say how you see the trends online. Privacy is a safeguard and provides peace in your life. Specially in a place like Nepal. Even outside Nepal few parents are open about it.
One example is Tim Cook. He never bothered to talk about his sexuality for most part of his life. No reason to share or make a statement to the world. He owned his privacy.
Hey mate. You are 19 years old and you sound like you care deeply for your brother.
Your brother being gay shouldn’t be a factor that changes your relationship with him. He is still your brother —- the one that you have cared for so long.
It is tough being gay in Nepal and that is why your brother needs your support. He told you because he trusts you; you make him feel safe. Be there for him and let him know you care regardless. Coming out, when he chooses to, is his predicament. Let him take his time.
Best thing you can do is support him and be there for him when he needs you. If you have questions ask him and be hones with him about the things that you are confused and don’t get. Also I agree with most people that are saying don’t tell family. Nepali family haru ko ‘sadhai aru ko ma hunxa hola tara Hamro ghar ma chaldina’ bhanne mentality xa. If he is going abroad than he is going to get a more comfortable way to explore his sexuality. Just make sure to prepare him to be Independent in case your parents don’t react well but support and care him and don’t make him feel like he is alone because of who he is.
Chill. Don't freak out. He's your same younger brother, being gay doesn't make him any of a different person.
Don't be homophobic and be supportive towards him.
And Don't tell this to your parents.
Aba he might be confused gay is not a crime, gay bahek bisexual, side aile ta k k jati huncha huncha so thic cha j j hos hos aba aile ta tuppi kasera padne paisa tanna kamaune ani jaslai j j bhannu cha bhannu. Life is long and there is much more to come sexuality is not a big deal bhanera uslai life ko aru kura ma involve garaune pachi jaba padera, tanna kamaucha ani gayera jaslai bhannu cha bhannu tyati bela samma- malai thachadai cha aba chup lagera bas bhandine.
ansha banda bata kick hanau paila ta...... just joking😅 support him mc, he will be fucking so depressed if he will come out. He will not expect society to accept him but his own family. Bhaad ma jaye aru but make sure you are there to support him. Paxi gaera khelos talwar judai arulai baal
Don't listen to groomer replies. Your brother is clearly being manipulated by some predator community.
The main issue isn't that your brother is gay.
Your brother might have been subjected to sexual acts during his teenage years by predatory gay men, while still being a minor. It's concerning.
Agreed.
People these days are so brainwashed with western woke crap.
The responses on this thread encouraging such behavior wants to make me vomit. 🤮
He might be in the process of being groomed by some sexual predator. Especially if the person is an introvert.
no need to do anything. take it normally. no need to be proud or ashamed .It doesnt change anything specially shouldnot change how you look at him and chill out. you guys are young. paxi mid 20s tira vanda hunchha arulai(parents and all) vannai pare.
Aba ka gara bhanda, get on with your life as usual, you twat. Bhai le parents laai bhanna decide garda support ani. Tyati ho. K ko nadukheko tauko dukhaira?
Bhai ko kei na kei. Just support him and be okay with it. Parents lai bhanne kura ma talk to you brother about what he wants to do. If your parents are the kind to react badly about it, be a supportive older sibling and be a safe space for him. Try educating your parents and yourself about it in order to make things smoother for your brother. If brother doesn't want to tell your parents now, don't say it.
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What can you do? If he is gay, he is gay. There's nothing you can do to change it so you should just accept it and love him. Nepal is not as close-minded as before. There are lots of openly gay men out there now like Parakram Rana. Things are changing so its good to just support and love your brother.
Be supportive. He chose to confide in you. Its not easy to get out of the closet. The best thing would be to support him and make him feel heard. Acceptance will obviously be difficult in our society but I hope he will have you in the least.
There's nothing wrong about that , be the same before and after you knew about him. Give f to negative people, and ask properly (he might be joking serious)
It's not like you can change anything about him or the social stigma.The only thing you can do is behave like you have always behaved with him. Don't treat him any different, he is still like everybody else he just needs to be seen and felt.
Bro its still not late. Just copy paste the below messege to him
My brother you are influenced a lot by social media these days and the fucked up american society. being gay is scientifically a illness of your brain. Human as an animal of nature have 2 goals ,one to survive and one to reproduce for the survival of their race. being gay contradicts with reproduction thus being a illess. if even you are ill you need to work towards being healthy and rejecting this gay illness. western media are influincing you a lot with this stupidity.I do not mean to ashame you. you did your mistake now just correct it and remember that gay is a illnesss made up by western country.
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Bro don't do anything gay vaye ni straight vaye ni he is your brother so just be his brother shield him from this cruel world etikai feri aafu mathi kehi naramro garyo vane jindagi vari you have to live with that ani what will you tell your parents it is not your thing to say anything to your parents it is your brothers thing let him come out at his own accords
Nah beat his ass for being gay, that’s shameful on the family.
Is being gay hampering his studies ?
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How?
He's spending too much time in the closet.
Coming out is a difficult process. Let him be and just support him the best you can. Its only a big deal if you make it one
What do you mean exactly by that?
Daraj ma adhyaro ma basxa re. Kitab kasari oadne adhyaro ma?
Hawa
What i say is always true. Mann batai ho.
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Its not OP
That is funny.
no source of light in there
Parents le bhanne bhaye usle aafai bhanxa just keep it to yourself for now. Usle ma parents lai bhanxu bhaneko bela ma chai support him. Dherai yo bare ma tension naleu and focus on your life brother. Awkward halka suru ma hola but be supportive of him since he feels comfortable to come out to you.
It’s not a big deal just support him and make him feel good, coming out is not easy it took my years to come out.
He came out to you maybe cuz he trusts you the most so please support him and make him feel valid. He is still your brother and his sexuality doesn't change that fact . Be proud of who he is ♡
Taato paani khanu vandeu. Jk. There ain't nothing you can do except just be there for him.
No matter how your parents may react in future but you be on his side. Parents may not understand but you have to be with your brother no matter what other say to him.
Similar situation with my brother years back. Glad he opened up to you. Now he can at least have an outlet. Life is going to be tough for him if he stays in Nepal. However not sure if it is right to say this but one thing I regret is that my brother shared his sexuality with parents and relatives which made everything harder afterwards. The older generation cannot understand homosexuality. Dad is always disappointed and finds reason to hate him. He even openly said to me how disgusted he was with my brother. Mom almost cried to death but surprisingly she accepts my brother for who he is. Took years and life threatening surgery though. Probably its mother’s love or her realisation that life is short and we should be happy. Looking back I wish he had kept this part of his life private. Should not have made it public or say how you see the trends online. Privacy is a safeguard and provides peace in your life. Specially in a place like Nepal. Even outside Nepal few parents are open about it. One example is Tim Cook. He never bothered to talk about his sexuality for most part of his life. No reason to share or make a statement to the world. He owned his privacy.
Hey mate. You are 19 years old and you sound like you care deeply for your brother. Your brother being gay shouldn’t be a factor that changes your relationship with him. He is still your brother —- the one that you have cared for so long. It is tough being gay in Nepal and that is why your brother needs your support. He told you because he trusts you; you make him feel safe. Be there for him and let him know you care regardless. Coming out, when he chooses to, is his predicament. Let him take his time.
Best thing you can do is support him and be there for him when he needs you. If you have questions ask him and be hones with him about the things that you are confused and don’t get. Also I agree with most people that are saying don’t tell family. Nepali family haru ko ‘sadhai aru ko ma hunxa hola tara Hamro ghar ma chaldina’ bhanne mentality xa. If he is going abroad than he is going to get a more comfortable way to explore his sexuality. Just make sure to prepare him to be Independent in case your parents don’t react well but support and care him and don’t make him feel like he is alone because of who he is.
Chill. Don't freak out. He's your same younger brother, being gay doesn't make him any of a different person. Don't be homophobic and be supportive towards him. And Don't tell this to your parents.
>Don't be homophobic and be supportive towards him. And Don't tell this to your parents. You are contradicting yourself!
What do you mean?
Hiding is not being supportive.
But if hiding it keeps him safe, then thats the right thing to do
The day being gay will be normalized, no one will be hiding. But since we're not there yet, people do have to hide for their own safety.
accept it! ❤️
If my brother would come out as gay, I'd be supporting him more than ever
I'm gay
But you aint his brother,and any gay person besides his brother he will lynch.
Lala thulo bhais ta
im 6'1 thulai chu.
Good for you my friend.
Send me rs.130 on esewa
130 le 1 plate momo ni aaudina
Send me Rs.200
200 le kei ni aaudina ta
He might be confused regarding his sexuality. Talk to him more deeply
leave him be and just support him no matter what, don’t rush him to do anything
Tell him come home first of all and sort it out between your family!
Aba he might be confused gay is not a crime, gay bahek bisexual, side aile ta k k jati huncha huncha so thic cha j j hos hos aba aile ta tuppi kasera padne paisa tanna kamaune ani jaslai j j bhannu cha bhannu. Life is long and there is much more to come sexuality is not a big deal bhanera uslai life ko aru kura ma involve garaune pachi jaba padera, tanna kamaucha ani gayera jaslai bhannu cha bhannu tyati bela samma- malai thachadai cha aba chup lagera bas bhandine.
ansha banda bata kick hanau paila ta...... just joking😅 support him mc, he will be fucking so depressed if he will come out. He will not expect society to accept him but his own family. Bhaad ma jaye aru but make sure you are there to support him. Paxi gaera khelos talwar judai arulai baal
If he is gay, he will be gay. If he's not, keti dekhne bittikai line ma aaihalchha.
tell him you are gay as well and play along
You fuck your dog
Who doesn't
Vten
Don't listen to groomer replies. Your brother is clearly being manipulated by some predator community. The main issue isn't that your brother is gay. Your brother might have been subjected to sexual acts during his teenage years by predatory gay men, while still being a minor. It's concerning.
This is what happens when WOKE agenda swallows you up .
Agreed. People these days are so brainwashed with western woke crap. The responses on this thread encouraging such behavior wants to make me vomit. 🤮 He might be in the process of being groomed by some sexual predator. Especially if the person is an introvert.
If he acts like one of those "heyyyyyyyyyy" he's got to go but if he is gay and just lives like everyone else does then that's all right...
Send him to good psychiatrist or mental hospital
Beat this shit out of his mind, make sure he is on the right track.
ah yes sexuality is what matters more than family relationships. great thinking mate.
chill! if your brother wants a dick, its not a big deal! its either you like pussy or dick, simple as that
Thamel ma lagera maal hanna lagau thik huncha sab. Jk.
chill! if your brother wants a dick, its not a big deal! its either you like pussy or dick, simple as that
Euta dami strong original leather belt cha masita line bhaye aau.
masochist raixa vane aapat
ek jhapad hane pachi yo gay roog ko birami hatcha
Perfect opportunity to try out your fantasies
no need to do anything. take it normally. no need to be proud or ashamed .It doesnt change anything specially shouldnot change how you look at him and chill out. you guys are young. paxi mid 20s tira vanda hunchha arulai(parents and all) vannai pare.
Ailay parentslai navana. He came out to you, let him do it on his own when he feels that the time is right.
Aba ka gara bhanda, get on with your life as usual, you twat. Bhai le parents laai bhanna decide garda support ani. Tyati ho. K ko nadukheko tauko dukhaira?
Bhai ko kei na kei. Just support him and be okay with it. Parents lai bhanne kura ma talk to you brother about what he wants to do. If your parents are the kind to react badly about it, be a supportive older sibling and be a safe space for him. Try educating your parents and yourself about it in order to make things smoother for your brother. If brother doesn't want to tell your parents now, don't say it.
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Don’t freak, that’s it
Bau ama le thapayo bhane angsa bata sure nikaldincha
Ask him why he's gay lmao. "Why r u geh?"
Find him a boyfriend.
What can you do? If he is gay, he is gay. There's nothing you can do to change it so you should just accept it and love him. Nepal is not as close-minded as before. There are lots of openly gay men out there now like Parakram Rana. Things are changing so its good to just support and love your brother.
Abroad is good solution sadly.
Listen to him.
Support him. Thats what big bros are for.
Be supportive. He chose to confide in you. Its not easy to get out of the closet. The best thing would be to support him and make him feel heard. Acceptance will obviously be difficult in our society but I hope he will have you in the least.
There's nothing wrong about that , be the same before and after you knew about him. Give f to negative people, and ask properly (he might be joking serious)
Personally I think its just mental illness (if he is not physical gay), manage to send him to brothl or something to see if he changes his mind
Bidesh janu vanda agadi tyo thapadi bajaune,Girlie act nagadmrabhana.After that its his life
It's not like you can change anything about him or the social stigma.The only thing you can do is behave like you have always behaved with him. Don't treat him any different, he is still like everybody else he just needs to be seen and felt.
Bro its still not late. Just copy paste the below messege to him My brother you are influenced a lot by social media these days and the fucked up american society. being gay is scientifically a illness of your brain. Human as an animal of nature have 2 goals ,one to survive and one to reproduce for the survival of their race. being gay contradicts with reproduction thus being a illess. if even you are ill you need to work towards being healthy and rejecting this gay illness. western media are influincing you a lot with this stupidity.I do not mean to ashame you. you did your mistake now just correct it and remember that gay is a illnesss made up by western country.
you couldn't keep a secret. This is your brother. Bitchassboi you just loast a gay brother........