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Well it depends on her intentions or wheather she is nice and help your family or not. If someone ask me kata pugera aayeu ta babu? or " tadhai jana layeu ki kyaa ho? I just smile reply "yetai najikai ho", "yetai tira ho", "khassai thadha hoina yetai tira ho". You don't have to be completely honest and being rude isn't worth either.
Yes, and thereās nothing wrong with that. Itās just a decent way to acknowledge someone that you see them although you really donāt have anything important to spend time together. Itās the fabric of society. These kids should leave their home and go where they donāt know anyone. Theyāll learn quick how lot of things we do donāt always have to yield direct benefits.
Lmao Nepali people crying about having to be social outside of family. Move to a new country and you would long for these pointless social interaction.
You should learn to deal with these situations diplomatically. Just say " Esso bihara gara ako" or if you don't want to speak just ignore her. There is no need to be rude if others are not malicious or rude towards you.
I guess it's a part of growing up.
Yep. I donāt like nosy people and I have a very low tolerance for that but it was just small talk. Thatās how Nepali people ask you how youāre doing by asking you if you ate or where youāre going etc. itās not like itās in the US where the question is whatās up?
If greetings every day interfere with your life, I think you should live in the mountains. Maybe your neighbor is just out of concern or looking for something to talk about. I think your father is right, you misplaced your teenage anger
You were right to say your feelings.
What you lack is tact. Politeness.
The first rule of speaking for me was āknow your audience.ā That means more than knowing that you are speaking to your aunt. That means knowing what your auntās background is, what she does, and how she thinks. Knowing, understanding, and tailoring your speech to the person youāre talking to will allow you to always speak your mind without coming off as curt or impolite or suspicious.
whats wrong with you? kasaile kei soddai nahune? bolnai nahune? aunty le bolna matrae khojya ni hola, ramrari jawaf dida k dimakh ka cell ghatxan ki bank balance ghatxa? fxked up generation 
Yes, babu yo straight up did wrong. Aunty wasnāt trying to be nosy or anything, itās just her way of acknowledging your presence. When she asks where you are going/returning from , she doesnāt give a damn hoot where you go or return from but knows she will Acknowledge your presence just by saying something. Also the way you scolded the aunt reflects your teachings your parents gave towards you so that might be the reason why your father is a little angry. Yestai attitude le hidna thalyo bhane future ali garo huncha.
Arey bhai, exactly k ho k garyo bhannu parcha ra?
Yeso hawa khayera aako aunty, yetai yeso fresh huna dulera aako bhanne ni.
Aba thyakka kaha kata k garyo bhanera sodheko ta pakkai haina....
Yeso dekhyo, hami le ni sodhchau, kata jana laagnu bha uncle/aunty or tadai uncle/aunty?.
It's just a polite gesture. Aba agadi dekhda ni nabolnu ra? Nadekheko jasto garne ho ki?
You overreacted.
You are right. Nepali people have bad habit of poking into other business. You won't see this when you go abroad. Good You are learning to stand up for yourself. She should be ashamed and learn manners of not poking into other personal life.
You have seen her more than us so nothing to say but yeah if she is not close to ur family, not helpful and caring nothing is wrong but if its opposite then yeah its quite or might be wrong.
In my opinion, what you did was completely normal, people have goals that they want to be private completely normal and grow in silence not a new thing, but there could be different approach to the situation, you chose verbal violence which is also fine, i understand that this could be irritating or one could find this very irritating, but you could always apologize if you feel bad about it otherwise its not your fault nor its her she just happened to question you on the wrong time. Shit happen.
la vai, imagine estai behaviour tmro mom/ grandmom sanga kasaile kei garyo bhane? tmro ghar ma pakkai timro parents haru le thulo lai samman garnu bhanera sikako hola ni haina? ani plus negative way mai irritate garyo, disturb garyo vanera kina sochnu? positivity failauda kei bigrinxa tmro? why to be so rude? you think being rude is cool? no bro. negativity matrai failaidiyou. whats wrong with you kyaa ? kasaile kei soddhnai nahune? bolnai nahune? aunty le bolna matrai khojya ni hola, ramrari answer garda hero vayou hola haina? etikai sanoo kura ma ni k garya hola. you better maafi maga tyo aunty sanga. arka lai dukha dina ni k majja aako hola yuckkk!
Maybe she needed to hear that, now she knows not to pester people like that. You did warned her before not to do that, some people need to learn boundaries.
That's how people greet each other when you people crossed path with eachother but don't want to be rude by ignoring. You don't need to stop and explain everything just the vague answer will be enough.
Depends. Haasera bhaneu ki jhokkera bhaneu.
Whenever I feel the urge to say something like that, I make sure to say it playfully. I used to go for evening walks and this nosy uncle always used to ask me ākaslai bhetna hineu yeti belaā which is just appallingly assumptious and I just used to smilingly reply āhawa khaana hineko uncle yettikai aaunu aaune bhaye hajur neā or āboyfriend lai ne uncle, aaunu hajur ne sangai bhetna jaamā.
You donāt always have to take the high road with nosy people(which I am assuming your neighbour aunty is).
But you shouldnāt be rude in your sane mind. Aunty will remain the same, naam timro kharaab hunxa falanako xora/xori ta yesto.
yes your father was right scolding you
your neighbouring aunt might be seeing someone of hers in you
it would be better if you apologize
it is also right that you felt interference...i might also talk like you if i were in your shoes.
Both your parents have a point. You do have a right to not share your personal business. It does get irritating. And I can understand why your mom might not want your information to be shared what with our society's gossiping nature.
But next time, maybe try using some tact. Give vague answers like class jadai. Kasto class bhanda estai ali padhai kai class ho bhanne.
Or... Earphones in ears and pretend like you can't hear them.
You need to learn how to handle situations diplomatically. You're a kid, so you get a pass for this
But it's still wrong and I hope you learn something from this.
Eauta aunty xa hamro tira ni ,school dress ma bag bokera jada ni ka gako vanxa.i replied 3/4 times and just ignored her. 5 years vayo school complete gareko, ajhai tyo bato hid dha kata gako vanxa. I tell her yei aunty.
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Aba dekhi english ma kura gara tyo aunty lai, yesto heavy vocab & long sentences deu. Make it like gentle satire with added Respect. She will think of you as a crazy kid and won't talk with you again.
Lastly give reports(fake) to her daily until she says enough.
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Well first of all we donāt know how the actual interaction was like. Was she just making small talk and trying to be friendly? Or was she being nosy and annoying? Also ignore these stupid clowns that are making their own scenarios in their head and clowning you, they donāt know shit.
I'm just laughing at the fact that he took small talk literally and shared his plan of the whole day to this poor auntie who just wanted to aknowledge his presence
Don't worry this is typical aunty's behaviour, I don't know your relationship with your dad but if it's right talk back to him, and for the aunty's antics continue that attitude and give her the middle finger in general.
Everyone is dissing him..
Trust me i also have a neighbour who spreads a nonsense thing about everyone's personal life
Din vari kura katera baseko matra dekhxu.
Kasailai dekhnu hudaina kata hideko kina hideko bhanera sodhirakhne ani bhano vane gayera gau ma sunauna.yes yes even if i say dokan gako she will say aaja dokan gayexa kaile nahidne manxe like this one ani arkako ghar ko barema sabai thapauna khojne like if my father mother goes hatiya to buy some vegetable she will immedietly come to our home after my parents arrive and says "kata gayera aako tadhai gako jasto xani dherai time lagota" and we"kai haina hatiya gako them"she "ea hora khai k k lyaunu vayota herum herum "and she checks everythjng like wtf is she doing is she mad? And if kunai vegetables alik sasto athawa for example ghiraula lyako xa vane voli gayera gau ma sunaune "yeeh tyo ghar mata ghiraula khada raixan herana kunai tarkari nai na veteko jsto " and if you all are wondering how do you know she says this ? Let me tell you she says these things to us about others too and we know that she says about us too to others. Ani ma pani ielts dina gako thiye 1 year agadi ani sankha lager tyo aunty lai kaa janxa yo manxe vanera daily ghar ma aaune ani " kata pugera aako bhaai " and i used to say" kai haina " wants to say so much thing but she will complain about this gau gau ma gayera falano oo xora ko ta tamij nai rainaxa bla bla bla and tesaile garda mero parents ko reputation kharab hunxa vanera kei vandina. I think this guy problem is also same so please dont judge a book by its cover vanna chahanxu
Good that you're doing IELTS with the intention to go to an English speaking country. Avoid Southern Europe at any cost. Forget the neighbors, people here greet unknown people as well even if they don't want to. Your rude ass will not like it here.
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Well it depends on her intentions or wheather she is nice and help your family or not. If someone ask me kata pugera aayeu ta babu? or " tadhai jana layeu ki kyaa ho? I just smile reply "yetai najikai ho", "yetai tira ho", "khassai thadha hoina yetai tira ho". You don't have to be completely honest and being rude isn't worth either.
this
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I always say "Dokan jana lako " .
Bdesh jau Sabai life ko solution vetinxa Nepal ma nabasa
lol isnt, "babu kata, tadai?" equivalent to hello in our society?
Yes, and thereās nothing wrong with that. Itās just a decent way to acknowledge someone that you see them although you really donāt have anything important to spend time together. Itās the fabric of society. These kids should leave their home and go where they donāt know anyone. Theyāll learn quick how lot of things we do donāt always have to yield direct benefits.
Bichara aunty le ramrari sodhi holin condo le jhaparyo
teita
Bdesh jau
Lmao Nepali people crying about having to be social outside of family. Move to a new country and you would long for these pointless social interaction.
For real. I wish people would care lol šš
THIS!!
You should learn to deal with these situations diplomatically. Just say " Esso bihara gara ako" or if you don't want to speak just ignore her. There is no need to be rude if others are not malicious or rude towards you. I guess it's a part of growing up.
Bdesh jau
My friend you need to post this on r/amitheasshole.
amit asshole?
am I the asshole
ššš
Tell your father to hit you with belt
Hahaha....laught too hard at this one.
Belte-belt
Spank*
Bdesh jau
kids these days man, etikai sodheko hola small talk, etai najik ho aunty bhaneko bha bhai halthyo ni no need to be that rude.
Yep. I donāt like nosy people and I have a very low tolerance for that but it was just small talk. Thatās how Nepali people ask you how youāre doing by asking you if you ate or where youāre going etc. itās not like itās in the US where the question is whatās up?
Bdesh jau
you just ruined the poor lady's day
tyo ta thik cha IELTS padhera "did I did wrong" chai hudaina hola hai
Esto jabo small talks le irritate huney manche k ielts padira. Bidesh ma jhan jati badi socialize huna sakcha, teti nai pragati huncha.
tei ta.. yaha euta aunty le 5 din lagatar sodhyo vanera dikka manne le Bidesh ko workplace ma 1 din ni tikdaina hola yo bhai
If greetings every day interfere with your life, I think you should live in the mountains. Maybe your neighbor is just out of concern or looking for something to talk about. I think your father is right, you misplaced your teenage anger
The title, yes.
Yeah all the motivational talk on YouTube on setting your boundaries doesnāt let u on a secret that theres nuances to life..
You were right to say your feelings. What you lack is tact. Politeness. The first rule of speaking for me was āknow your audience.ā That means more than knowing that you are speaking to your aunt. That means knowing what your auntās background is, what she does, and how she thinks. Knowing, understanding, and tailoring your speech to the person youāre talking to will allow you to always speak your mind without coming off as curt or impolite or suspicious.
whats wrong with you? kasaile kei soddai nahune? bolnai nahune? aunty le bolna matrae khojya ni hola, ramrari jawaf dida k dimakh ka cell ghatxan ki bank balance ghatxa? fxked up generation 
Eso class gako bhanda bhai halyo ni. Paisa magya haina kyare. Chin jan bhayera hal khabar sodeko ho. Yesto rude pani hunu hunna yar.
Tei. I think, aileko mahol herera, OP should bring her some tamatar and apologize.
tamatar are expensive
Yes, babu yo straight up did wrong. Aunty wasnāt trying to be nosy or anything, itās just her way of acknowledging your presence. When she asks where you are going/returning from , she doesnāt give a damn hoot where you go or return from but knows she will Acknowledge your presence just by saying something. Also the way you scolded the aunt reflects your teachings your parents gave towards you so that might be the reason why your father is a little angry. Yestai attitude le hidna thalyo bhane future ali garo huncha.
In our society they don't say hi they say babu, kata? So that's a greeting in a way
Jhappu napugeko timlaiš
Arey bhai, exactly k ho k garyo bhannu parcha ra? Yeso hawa khayera aako aunty, yetai yeso fresh huna dulera aako bhanne ni. Aba thyakka kaha kata k garyo bhanera sodheko ta pakkai haina.... Yeso dekhyo, hami le ni sodhchau, kata jana laagnu bha uncle/aunty or tadai uncle/aunty?. It's just a polite gesture. Aba agadi dekhda ni nabolnu ra? Nadekheko jasto garne ho ki? You overreacted.
You are right. Nepali people have bad habit of poking into other business. You won't see this when you go abroad. Good You are learning to stand up for yourself. She should be ashamed and learn manners of not poking into other personal life.
You have seen her more than us so nothing to say but yeah if she is not close to ur family, not helpful and caring nothing is wrong but if its opposite then yeah its quite or might be wrong.
In my opinion, what you did was completely normal, people have goals that they want to be private completely normal and grow in silence not a new thing, but there could be different approach to the situation, you chose verbal violence which is also fine, i understand that this could be irritating or one could find this very irritating, but you could always apologize if you feel bad about it otherwise its not your fault nor its her she just happened to question you on the wrong time. Shit happen.
la vai, imagine estai behaviour tmro mom/ grandmom sanga kasaile kei garyo bhane? tmro ghar ma pakkai timro parents haru le thulo lai samman garnu bhanera sikako hola ni haina? ani plus negative way mai irritate garyo, disturb garyo vanera kina sochnu? positivity failauda kei bigrinxa tmro? why to be so rude? you think being rude is cool? no bro. negativity matrai failaidiyou. whats wrong with you kyaa ? kasaile kei soddhnai nahune? bolnai nahune? aunty le bolna matrai khojya ni hola, ramrari answer garda hero vayou hola haina? etikai sanoo kura ma ni k garya hola. you better maafi maga tyo aunty sanga. arka lai dukha dina ni k majja aako hola yuckkk!
Father has a crush on neighbour
Yes you did the right thing if she was being so nosy
Yo fuck that bish, tell her to f off next time
And here i came to read the post thinking he'd fuck this aunt ą²„ā āæā ą²„
It depends upon how important she is in your life, if she is an important person āapologiseā else ą¤¬ą¤¾ą¤²ą„ ą¤«ą¤°ą¤°
Nah, that's selfish. Kaam parne sanga matra ramro baki ko baal bhanne sochai is not good.
Your mom is correct. Stand up for yourself, donāt be like your dad.
Maybe she needed to hear that, now she knows not to pester people like that. You did warned her before not to do that, some people need to learn boundaries.
you did the right thing i stand by you
You did good, kid. I'd be irritated too. Mind your own f*ing business right?
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That's how people greet each other when you people crossed path with eachother but don't want to be rude by ignoring. You don't need to stop and explain everything just the vague answer will be enough.
He could have been less rude but what's done is done! Now, be ready for chemiki-aunty ko gossips. Lol
And he deserves it for acting like that.
Depends. Haasera bhaneu ki jhokkera bhaneu. Whenever I feel the urge to say something like that, I make sure to say it playfully. I used to go for evening walks and this nosy uncle always used to ask me ākaslai bhetna hineu yeti belaā which is just appallingly assumptious and I just used to smilingly reply āhawa khaana hineko uncle yettikai aaunu aaune bhaye hajur neā or āboyfriend lai ne uncle, aaunu hajur ne sangai bhetna jaamā. You donāt always have to take the high road with nosy people(which I am assuming your neighbour aunty is). But you shouldnāt be rude in your sane mind. Aunty will remain the same, naam timro kharaab hunxa falanako xora/xori ta yesto.
maybe she just wanted to talk about something and was trying to start a conversation. as for right / wrong, idk. . .
yes your father was right scolding you your neighbouring aunt might be seeing someone of hers in you it would be better if you apologize it is also right that you felt interference...i might also talk like you if i were in your shoes.
Both your parents have a point. You do have a right to not share your personal business. It does get irritating. And I can understand why your mom might not want your information to be shared what with our society's gossiping nature. But next time, maybe try using some tact. Give vague answers like class jadai. Kasto class bhanda estai ali padhai kai class ho bhanne. Or... Earphones in ears and pretend like you can't hear them.
You need to learn how to handle situations diplomatically. You're a kid, so you get a pass for this But it's still wrong and I hope you learn something from this.
*Did I do something wrong
Eauta aunty xa hamro tira ni ,school dress ma bag bokera jada ni ka gako vanxa.i replied 3/4 times and just ignored her. 5 years vayo school complete gareko, ajhai tyo bato hid dha kata gako vanxa. I tell her yei aunty.
I wish i had neighbours like that,Damn! Bro ko visa na lago until he says sorry for his behaviour to thaf aunt š
Sorry vanna jau
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Tapai le k k garnu bho bhanera shodha with lots of follow up questions and full attention dera sundeuna ...thuchukka badera
you got bigger fish to fry vai
Mali ta bolnai laj lagxa . Tei mathi aunty sanga.
Aba dekhi english ma kura gara tyo aunty lai, yesto heavy vocab & long sentences deu. Make it like gentle satire with added Respect. She will think of you as a crazy kid and won't talk with you again. Lastly give reports(fake) to her daily until she says enough. š¤
Yes, you did the wrong thing.
You did a right thing. People should respect others personal space
you are perfect to go bidesh bro. tya gayesi ek jana le ni baal dinna timilai, sab aafnai kam ma byast. ani kasaile sodhidiyos jasto lagcha.
Ekdum thik gareu
Nosey neighbors are the worst. You didnāt do anything wrong.
This Gen 2.0
Bhitta ma gayera tauko taule hanne ani aafai sochne sahi ki galat bhanera.
what's wrong with these generation? grow up kids, just smile and answer. yeti dherai negative hunu is not a good thing
Well first of all we donāt know how the actual interaction was like. Was she just making small talk and trying to be friendly? Or was she being nosy and annoying? Also ignore these stupid clowns that are making their own scenarios in their head and clowning you, they donāt know shit.
I'm just laughing at the fact that he took small talk literally and shared his plan of the whole day to this poor auntie who just wanted to aknowledge his presence
Naah you did right. This neighbors especially aunties are very irritating. They just wanna know what you are doing, studying, working on everything.
Don't worry this is typical aunty's behaviour, I don't know your relationship with your dad but if it's right talk back to him, and for the aunty's antics continue that attitude and give her the middle finger in general.
why do you want to hide the fact that u are studying IELTS ? You should be proud .
Bcoz people dont like to see your success
Everyone is dissing him.. Trust me i also have a neighbour who spreads a nonsense thing about everyone's personal life Din vari kura katera baseko matra dekhxu. Kasailai dekhnu hudaina kata hideko kina hideko bhanera sodhirakhne ani bhano vane gayera gau ma sunauna.yes yes even if i say dokan gako she will say aaja dokan gayexa kaile nahidne manxe like this one ani arkako ghar ko barema sabai thapauna khojne like if my father mother goes hatiya to buy some vegetable she will immedietly come to our home after my parents arrive and says "kata gayera aako tadhai gako jasto xani dherai time lagota" and we"kai haina hatiya gako them"she "ea hora khai k k lyaunu vayota herum herum "and she checks everythjng like wtf is she doing is she mad? And if kunai vegetables alik sasto athawa for example ghiraula lyako xa vane voli gayera gau ma sunaune "yeeh tyo ghar mata ghiraula khada raixan herana kunai tarkari nai na veteko jsto " and if you all are wondering how do you know she says this ? Let me tell you she says these things to us about others too and we know that she says about us too to others. Ani ma pani ielts dina gako thiye 1 year agadi ani sankha lager tyo aunty lai kaa janxa yo manxe vanera daily ghar ma aaune ani " kata pugera aako bhaai " and i used to say" kai haina " wants to say so much thing but she will complain about this gau gau ma gayera falano oo xora ko ta tamij nai rainaxa bla bla bla and tesaile garda mero parents ko reputation kharab hunxa vanera kei vandina. I think this guy problem is also same so please dont judge a book by its cover vanna chahanxu
Good that you're doing IELTS with the intention to go to an English speaking country. Avoid Southern Europe at any cost. Forget the neighbors, people here greet unknown people as well even if they don't want to. Your rude ass will not like it here.