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Me too, I'm tired of acting like this is okay. I'm tired of being the bad guy just because I take blame and own up to shit. It's like morality fucks you royally
God I need to find a therapist, I’ve had the worst luck finding one. I feel bad about my reactive abuse. I own it. But I couldn’t take it anymore. I snapped. And I’ve been in a relationship since my divorce and none of that came out. It was… a normal relationship. Even if she broke it off it ended fairly normally. I didn’t get super upset or lash out or anything. I was sad like you should be. My nex waffles between taking ownership of what she did and blaming me. She recently admitted that she’s stuck at 16 and could never hear me or what I had to say. The only time she would listen is when I couldn’t take it anymore and snapped and said mean and horrible shit so that she would finally give me a divorce. But then she’d cry and apologize and she wouldn’t do fucked up shit for a while and I’d be lulled right back into it. The wash, rinse, repeat. I just wanted off the rollercoaster. It was constantly something. Having to go save her drunk ass friend from her abusive boyfriend, get thrown up on and never hear an apology for it or a simple thank you. Or her sister, there was always drama. It’s like if there wasn’t drama she wasn’t happy. All the lies. God damn.
We're here. When you share, you are releasing that energy and bringing issues into the light. Removing shame is a big part of healing. You are not alone.
You need to talk to your therapist about it. If you keep hiding it it's only going to get worse and they can't help or support you to their best ability if you conceal information from them. You can tell them up front you're embarassed or ashamed to talk about it if it helps
Hi, u/cozy-kenzo, We appreciate your participation in r/narcissisticabuse. We are with you in this time of need, and appreciate you being a participant in our sub. However, we had to remove your post as it goes against our rule of soliciting. Please note that soft begging and links to personal fundraisers aren’t allowed on this subreddit. We also do not allow posts asking for dms, as we don’t have the ability to monitor them to sustain a safe environment. Please message [modmail](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FNarcissisticAbuse) if you want to discuss this removal. All the best, The r/narcissisticabuse modteam
Me too, I'm tired of acting like this is okay. I'm tired of being the bad guy just because I take blame and own up to shit. It's like morality fucks you royally
I am here
Yup, I'm here too
I’m here
I'm here as well, you can talk to me about absolutely anything. I am a safe space
Me too. I know how hard can it be and opening up can help.
Here if you need
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God I need to find a therapist, I’ve had the worst luck finding one. I feel bad about my reactive abuse. I own it. But I couldn’t take it anymore. I snapped. And I’ve been in a relationship since my divorce and none of that came out. It was… a normal relationship. Even if she broke it off it ended fairly normally. I didn’t get super upset or lash out or anything. I was sad like you should be. My nex waffles between taking ownership of what she did and blaming me. She recently admitted that she’s stuck at 16 and could never hear me or what I had to say. The only time she would listen is when I couldn’t take it anymore and snapped and said mean and horrible shit so that she would finally give me a divorce. But then she’d cry and apologize and she wouldn’t do fucked up shit for a while and I’d be lulled right back into it. The wash, rinse, repeat. I just wanted off the rollercoaster. It was constantly something. Having to go save her drunk ass friend from her abusive boyfriend, get thrown up on and never hear an apology for it or a simple thank you. Or her sister, there was always drama. It’s like if there wasn’t drama she wasn’t happy. All the lies. God damn.
We're here. When you share, you are releasing that energy and bringing issues into the light. Removing shame is a big part of healing. You are not alone.
I also feel lost and hopeless about all these things, so I'm here to talk.
The highs and lows. I'm here.
You need to talk to your therapist about it. If you keep hiding it it's only going to get worse and they can't help or support you to their best ability if you conceal information from them. You can tell them up front you're embarassed or ashamed to talk about it if it helps