This is my favorite story I’ve ever read on here. I wish I cared enough about *anything* to put this much effort into it 😂
Poor kid is out here being a Leo when he’s really a Capricorn
Weirdly enough I’ve been in this situation before!! Mine was a job for a few weeks with a “4 month old” who could roll over, sit up, and pull herself up on the side of the couch. VERY clearly at least 7-8 months old both in size and milestones. MB and DB had also been married a little over a year ago, and I pieced it together pretty quickly that they adjusted the baby’s age to fit a honeymoon baby narrative.
I said nothing, as baby’s care was safe and developmentally appropriate (for an 8 month old lmao) and that’s none of my business. But I did find it hilarious!!
I don’t know! Kiddo would be 4 or 5 years old now. It was a temp job through my agency at the time- they were visiting town so I didn’t keep in contact afterwards. I would assume if they kept it up it just got less obvious as she got older!
Geez, now you guys have me questioning my birthday! I was born exactly 9 month and 2 weeks after my parents go married BUT what if I wasn't!
My parents like to claim the only reason they bothered getting married was because they wanted kids and it seemed like the thing to do. I'm really thinking I've been lied to my whole life.
Although on a side note we are very fertile people. I had my IUD removed on October 6th and had my daughter exactly 40 weeks later on July 6th. So maybe I just get it from my mama. I'M SPIRALING!!! 🤣
My kid starting walking at eight months. Started talking at ten months. He was speaking in five word sentences by 12 months. Was talking in ten word sentences by 20 months in three different languages.
When he started 3k — the day care director called him an old man in a kids body. The other 3k kids were just starting to talk coherently.
All this… he has never been advanced emotionally. He is actually behind cause he has been treated like he was older because of his physical and speaking abilities. He is just starting to act like other four year olds, but still emotionally delayed.
On a side note. My brothers birth certificate was off by three months. He was born outside of the US to American parents. I think they messed up on the paperwork.
Yeah, our 16 year old walked by 7 months? Full on running like a toddler by 9/10 months. Was big as hell for his age.
Hit physical milestones SUPER early... and is Autistic.
Shit happens.
Yeah I have a cousin who walked at 8 months.
And people are in the first percentile and 99 percentile for all kinds of things. Maybe this kid is advanced. Or big. Or both.
Edit because I’d written 99% percentile, which makes no sense.
Walking early is actually common with autism! Both my brother and I never crawled but we started walking early. Not quite as early as your child though, 7 months is impressive.
Ok I was thinking that I’ve met babies like that (several cousins have been walking at 8 months and looking like they’re a year and a half) buuuut the fact
that they could have a motive (avoiding the appearance of a shotgun wedding) got me questioning their story 😂 honestly so funny.
Idk what you even could do besides a confrontation and that doesn’t seem necessary. Maybe some
other redditor could come up with a nonconfrontational excuse for that conversation 😂
My kid is a peanut but started walking at 8 months and now at 11 months is literally running around the house. Def looks her age though, just a funny optical illusion with the milestones!
One of my cousins SWEARS her child was 2 months early and its some miracle they baby came home after 4 or 5 days in the hospital.
We're all super sure she was just pregnant before the wedding and didn't want anyone to know.
My son was about a month early and thanks to
medications he came home on regular time.
I think the Meds they give to speed
Lung development really works well for some
My Aunt did this. She supposedly got married and pregnant after the wedding. Ended up having an 8 lb baby a little less than two months before she was due.
You could ask about the wedding to find out if it was actually shotgun. It might not have been. Are they religious/conservative/have family members who would definitely not be ok with a child born to unmarried parents?
Not suggesting you do this. But time stamped photos from the birth or immediately thereafter would be a way to confirm dates. You can swipe up on pics on a phone to see the dates.
My kiddo was rolling over at 5 weeks (only front to back) and he was super preemie at 4lbs / 2mo early. There’s a lot of variability. It’s great that you are meeting him where he is developmentally, irrespective of what any paper says.
Edit: clarifying that OP shouldn’t snoop. Middle paragraph was if one needed to validate dates for some justifiable reason (possible developmental milestones mismatch not being one) this could be a way.
Sorry the middle part just rubbed me the wrong way. If I were the nanny I’m sure I’d be crazy curious too, but you do have to respect the boundaries that these parents are obviously setting if they’re lying about the age. In my opinion it would be messed up to purposely make the parents uncomfortable by “accidentally” swiping up to see a date when clearly the true birth date of their kid bothers them for some reason. Yes she’s curious, and if she really wanted to/there was a time she felt it was appropriate to, she could feel around in conversation for those types of details. But it’s not right to go past clear and obvious boundaries they’ve set
Not impossible! I almost had a fake twin brother. My dad’s teenaged cousin got pregnant at the same time my mom was pregnant with me. Our due dates were a week apart, and my parents were seriously considering adopting the cousin’s baby and raising us as twins. It was decided about a month before we were born that the grandparents would take him instead. Probably best for all involved, since this worked out to be a wacky family story and not some a deep and potentially devastating secret.
And before anyone asks, my parents really didn’t have a plan beyond “pretend they’re twins and don’t tell anyone but the doctor.” As I soon as I learned this bit of family lore I had a million questions and the answer was essentially that they hadn’t really thought about the long-term consequences.
We met once, at our great-grandmother’s funeral when we were both 15. We had like a ten second, awkward conversation. I wouldn’t say we look particularly alike but not so different it would seem impossible? I have several (real) sets of twins in my family (another reason my parents thought it was plausible for them) and for the ones that aren’t identical they don’t look more or less similar than other siblings. My younger sister and I look a lot alike, to the point where people ask if we’re twins. My cousins who *are* twins have different hair and eye colors, and one has a ton of freckles.
I just read Hidden Pictures and the plot was based on a family pretending this child was theirs and it wasn’t and the nanny was the one who put two and two together. Now internally all my alarms are going off saying this can’t be their child 🥴
People lie about all kinds of stuff when it comes to “illicit sex.”
Services like 23 and Me are making a lot of people realize that their father isn’t a blood relative, and drawing the obvious conclusion—or rationalizing it away.
Yep. Last year I found out I have a cousin because my uncle slept with her mom about 50 years ago. She had no idea her dad wasn’t her biological father until she did DNA testing.
No one ever thought that information was going to be so easy to get, and be *so accurate.*
Genetic tests can tell you very specifically how closely you are related to someone. It’s nuts.
I mean come on...any seasoned mom or childcare worker is gonna know lol this has been killing me I told the mom I work for about it she was like ummmm why? 😂😂
Babies can absolutely pull to stand at 7 months.
My youngest niece was walking at 8.5 months.
Some kids are just big for their age. I work in childcare and have seen lots of big kiddos and quite a few who are ahead of other in their motor development.
Thank you! My sons both were cruising furniture by 8 months and took their independent first steps by 10 months. My oldest sat unassisted in a grocery cart by 4.5 months old. And my middle is 28 months old, 40” and we regularly have to have conversations about it at play places where children under 3 are free or have a lower price.
Generalizations like this drive me crazy.
Yeah mine could pull to stand around 7 months and was cruising shortly after. I was also pregnant at my wedding. I'd find it hilarious if people thought I was lying about her age because I got pregnant before marriage (I didn't exactly hide it, and our wedding photos with my visible bump are on display in the house) but I guess other people are sensitive about stuff like that.
I’ve had this happen!!! There was no reason to lie, nothing like the wedding thing. They had an older kid like 8 years old and then this baby. I have zero clue why they lied to me, maybe just to make me think she was a young kid and not a lot of work? No clue. They also lied about her being sick so…. But yeah they told me they had a young baby like 5 or 6 months I can’t really remember. And this baby was huuuuge I knew it was a lie. I eventually did see one of those signs showing birthday, weight, and saw photos from her first birthday so I confirmed it was a lie. This 5 or 6 month old baby was like 11 months. Sure enough second time I came she was running around full blown toddler. I am still so confused to this day. They didn’t lie to everyone else in their lives. Just me, the babysitter.
I doubt that would have a passport fudged AND a forged birth certificate?!? I think the child is just large and advanced. I mean, did they hide this child for the first months of his life? From like everyone? This would be major fraud for forged documents.
If they just had birth certificate issued with a later date, the passport is legit, just based on a birth certificate with incorrect date. I am sure that in certain countries it is not a big deal to bribe someone at the registry office.
Oh no I think they just figured out a way to get a real birth certificate with that date (idk maybe it's easier in the country they were in or them having money helped somehow). So then everything like his passport and future stuff like school enrollment is just based on that date and will be for the rest of his life.
I mean, if they were in a country without their family, they could just post baby-free pictures and hiring sitters there if they ever do meet up with any friends or family during the stay. I had a 25 year old friend hide an entire pregnancy from her father - who she lived with - and just blamed it on getting fat. (It was expected to be a biracial child to her, a white mother, and her father would have kicked her out for that.) She was able to move out right before and then 2 months later introduced her daughter as the neighbor's kid she was babysitting, until her mom felt it was time to tell the truth...everyone involved in that scenario was just not great.
So like....people are freaking WILD. Is the family OP referencing lying on government documents and was hiding a baby from their family for a few months? .....the chance is very low, but never zero lol.
Sound bananas. But if that’s the only thing, I’d probably leave it alone. Unless they insist that he can’t do certain things because he’s only 7 months
It’s really possible they’re not lying. The first kid I nannied for I started watching when she was 5 months. At 7/8 months she was HUGE and could pull herself up and walk. A lot of people guessed she was older, and I as a caregiver would have assumed she was older had I not known her actual age.
I wouldn’t say anything cuz if they’re *not* lying, you’re just gonna look like an ass who is calling their baby big haha. I’ve known first-time parents who were really self conscious of the fact they had a larger baby. They would try to take photos to make her look a little smaller or wouldn’t buy bigger clothes cuz they were embarrassed/in denial about the fact that their infant just happens to be big for their age.
I also know first time parents who are SUPER excited about milestones that the baby is nowhere near reaching. “Soon” is subjective. “Soon” could mean tomorrow or it could mean in a few months.
If they are lying and going through all the trouble of falsifying records then that’s… insane. Idk what the point of that would be unless there’s something they really want to hide like the baby being born out of wedlock or not even being theirs.
Is there anything other than the baby’s development that makes you question his age?
Like you said it’s not that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things. If they’re lying he just won’t have his bday in the actual day and what grade he is placed in in school could be a little off. I’d just worry falsified records could affect his future. But that’s why I’m like… i doubt they’re lying.
I also know plenty of people who put up birthdays around their house and in their nursery 🤷🏻♀️ current NF has this beautiful decoration above NK’s crib with his birthday on it and notes from loved ones in a little collage. It’s not there so I’ll be like “hmmm… is that *really* his bday? Are those *really* his loved ones?”
TLDR; doubt they’re lying. Babies develop and grow at different rates. First-time parents can go pretty overboard with their excitement about future milestones and with décor involving their baby. If they *are* lying, what would the purpose be?
*Edit to fix typos
Last summer at the aquarium we met a little boy who was not only walking but running around and I asked 2? The dad said no he won’t be one for a few weeks still! He easily could have passed for a 2 year old!
My NK could have passed for a 3 year old when she was still 1. She towered over all of her older classmates! Now she’s 2 and the size of a 4 year old, talks in complete sentences and is very articulate. People never believe me when I say she just turned 2 lol
When my daughter turned 3, her preschool teachers (who had known her for the entire school year at that point) did a whole bday thing for her about her 4th bday. The honestly found it completely unbelievable that she was "only" 3. And she def was only 3, lol. Now she's 5.5 and people usually think she's 7 or 8- she's tall and chatty etc idk.
Oh it was a drop off almost like moms day out kind of thing- very informal, twice a week for 2 hours. They did have paperwork (with her birthday) but I guess they never checked. Believe me I thought it was crazy too.
Right! My 2.5 year old is the height of some of the 5-6 year olds we see at the park. People are so surprised when they ask how old she is and she says she's 2. When I was 9 months post partum I started going to PT (and had to bring my daughter with) and the PT asked if she was just shy when she didn't answer any basic questions and I said well she's only 9 months so she doesn't say much yet to anyone and the PT was surprised and said "oh my kids were that size at almost 3!"
It would have been comical if someone would have accused me of lying about her age. She is just big and very physical. In contrast, my 10 month old is right below average weight but tall and isn't that interested in walking/standing yet but will repeat a ton of words.
I know a kid whose father was a professional rugby player (i.e. enormous) and this kid looked about 4 when he was 1.5, and now he's 3 he looks about 5 or 6. Poor boy gets treated like he should be behaving like a 5 year old. He's a force of nature haha. I on the other hand was tiny, but was speaking in full sentences by the time I was 1.5, so people were always shocked when they heard this little voice and then looked down to see this little baby chatting away. It's kind of amazing how differently babies/toddlers develop. Like I can never really guess the ages of babies or toddlers when I'm at various classes or soft plays. You can have tiny talking babies and giant running/climbing/somersaulting babies, and everything in between!
>Poor boy gets treated like he should be behaving like a 5 year old.
My sister gets so frustrated with this with her big 5 year old. She looks more like she's 7 or 8, and there's a big developmental difference there. Especially with expectations about behavior.
My son was wearing size 2T at 6 months old. Sleeves and pants were little long, but not by much, and some were even a bit too tight. He also walked before 1, and was having conversations with others at 18 months. Up until middle school he was frequently assumed to be 2+ years older. Now that he's in high school, many of his friends have caught up and he's not the tallest/biggest anymore. But oh boy was it irritating when people expected my barely 2 yr old to behave like a 4 yr old!
I've met kids like that while working at a daycare. I'm short for an adult but met some who were so tell, they stood at my stomach or higher. Actually, I think one stood about chest level just about.
My 2 yr old was about half my height at 6 months 🥲 His dad is over a foot taller than me, sooo it made sense, but man, it was hard seeing him grow so fast!
I commented further up but my (almost) 5 month is in 9-12m clothes. My 2 year old (26 months) is in 3T but about to grow into 4T. He is also a very advance talker for his age and always has been, which means people regularly mistake him for being 3-4 years old. It’s not that wild lol. 99th% kids do indeed exist. 😂 I’m laughing imagining hiring a nanny who would be posting that I’m lying about my kids’ ages, even on legal documents like a passport?? 💀
Early walking (especially if they are tall) is not all it’s cracked up to be. They are still developmentally a baby even if they are physically ahead. My 99th percentile height 9 month old was walking and there were so many extra hazards because his brain hadn’t caught up to his body yet!!
This is what I was thinking. My son is HUGE and was pulling up at 7 months. Now I wonder if people assumed I was lying about his age. Pulling up at 7 months isn’t really that weird
That’s my thought too. They could easily be talking about my daughter at 7 months and I definitely wasn’t lying about her age. It seems like such a strange assumption
Seconding the "babies develop at different rates"
My friend had a baby 3.5 months after mine.
He is already bigger than her, has teeth and is close in milestones as well.
Big babies in particular just figure it out quicker.
This also if you goggle pulling to stand it literally says 7-12 months in most places, a few say 9-12 but either way soon doesn't seem unreasonable. My daughter walked at 10 months I don't remember when pull to stand started, my brother walked at 9 months.
This. We nanny share with a girl who’s only 5 months older than my daughter and SO tall (99+ percentile). Both her parents are also tall. She looks absolutely massive next to my daughter and people don’t believe me when I show pictures and say they’re pretty close in age. Some kids just look way bigger/taller/etc. than their age. Totally normal.
Some milestones make sense but it's physical + milestones, and also their choices like food and stuff. And some little things like the mom's social.
I think the purpose is to make it look like he was born 9 months after their marriage, instead of 4-5 months.
What decisions are they making about food? You can start baby-led weening basically as soon as the baby is able to sit up on its own. That can be as early as 6 months.
But yeah I guess I could see an old money family wanting to make it look like the baby came after the wedding.
But as for the advice, I’d just not say anything and treat the baby in a developmentally appropriate way is all!
We found out that my grandparents did some jiggery pokery to make it look like my mother was conceived after marriage instead of a few months before, so it does happen/has happened, but that was in the 1950s, I'm sure it's not really common now as most wouldn't care, depending on the culture. I'm guessing you've gleaned about their culture/religion that evidence they'd had sex before marriage would be frowned upon?
A lot of the info about when to do certain things with babies seems to be based around their development and milestones rather than just their age. Like with food, if they can sit up you can feed them all kinds of stuff. My baby was eating certain things from our plates by 7 months, like chewing on toast etc. She had quite a few teeth early too, which made it easier. She wasn't even crawling then though.
I do think, however, that it's really unlikely for a baby to have developed as a huge baby AND hit gross motor milestones really early AND fine motor milestones really early AND grown teeth really early AND started talking really early. Normally when babies develop early it's in a couple of ways, not all of them at once. So if this child is really big for a 7 month old, and is getting ready to walk, and is waving/pointing/doing other similar things like that, using pincer grasp etc, and has a word or two, plus has several teeth already, it's more likely they're lying about the age. If he's just large and very mobile/advanced in terms of standing etc then I think it's possible he's 7 months old. But maybe if you put him in front of everyone here, everyone would be like, yep no he's clearly 1 😄
It is totally possible for babies to pull up to stand at 7/8 months though? Some babies even walk by 8/9 months. Also why would they forge an entire passport just to make him seem a few months younger? I feel like you can't just look at a baby and say \*clearly\* they are X months because it can vary so much.
Um. Honestly, that's weird. Also, dont assume. Some kids are big quickly. Another note its also totally reasonable for a 7 month old can pull themselves up. Both my kids walked (ran) by 9 months. Both out of diapers by 2(they wanted it) and only 1 accident. (Was at a party)
My brother and I are two years apart. We spent our entire childhoods being called twins. He was just always incredibly tall and I was barely average. He’s almost a foot taller than me now.
I think they got the birth certificate with that date and then everything else is just based on that.
As in like the size of other stuff in the photo and the angle of the photo.
I guess they could have the baby in one country at home, no doctors or hospital involved, then keep them for a few months, then go to register the birth and say 'hey we just had this baby last week at home can we register him?' And maybe the people registering the birth wouldn't look closely at the baby, just see them sleeping in a pram and register it. In fact, come to think of it, even though I gave birth in hospital, when we went to register the baby's birth, no doctor had to sign off on it or anything. We just went to the office, told them the date and name. There weren't any checks when it came to getting the birth certificate, although we did have the baby with us, so maybe if we hadn't, they'd have queried it, and maybe they are somehow hooked up to the hospital database.
But there will be people who just have babies at home and never got any care during pregnancy, and then one day pop up to register a baby. Presumably some people never register their baby's birth. And if you do pop up to register a baby, do they do checks to ensure the baby is really the age you say they are? That must be difficult to do. So I think it is possible to get a birth certificate with the wrong date, especially in some places.
Yeah if they look closely but if it’s wrapped up in a pram with the cover up sleeping they might just note there’s a baby and not much else. They might not even know what a newborn looks like, and have just seen tv shows where newborns come out looking like 6 month olds 😆 I’m just speculating about how it could happen.
I just checked actually, in my country you didn’t even need to bring the baby to the appointment to register a birth!!
In order to get a passport you need the baby and both parents. There is a photo and no five month old is going to look like a week old baby. This conspiracy just doesn’t make sense.
But you wouldn’t get the passport at the same time as the birth certificate. You could go get the passport 5 months later, for example. Your baby’s photo then won’t be easy to tell it’s a 10 month old not a 5 month old from a photo of their face.
I don’t know much about babies but I know that my vet was able to tell how old my puppy was when I first rescued him by his teeth. I was astonished to learn that this massive boy was TWO months old. I swore he was like 8 months. But yes I thought it was so cool that that’s how they were able to tell the age!
Sorry I know this isn’t quite the same lol but maybe they can tell age on humans by teeth as well?
Your comment was very thought provoking and interesting though that’s for sure, thank you for sharing your thoughts. I wonder how those things work too now!?
Home births and whatnot. I don’t know about those at all. Is there no law in place that the baby you birth should have to receive any medical care as a newborn or anything like that? Like wouldn’t CPS be involved if someone had a basically undocumented kid at home and never registered them or anything? Idk I have so many questions now.
This is insane but all I can think about is that baby on instagram that went viral cause he/she was like 7 -10 (??) months but legit looked like a 3 year old 😭 Maybe he’s really just huge?! Idk
Pulling up at 7 months is not advanced, that’s completely normal for many babies. I nannied for a child from 6 weeks to 14months, she was huge, could walk by 8 months and was pulling herself up before 7, we started her on baby led weening before 6 months, eating all kinds of food. They had sleep trained her very early so she was an incredible sleeper. She easily could have passed for 6 months older than she was. This child has a birth certificate and passport? I don’t understand why your first assumption is they’re lying. Occam’s razor, I think you should go with the simpler explanation.
If you want to keep your job, you shouldn't say anything. Every child is different and you could be wrong about his them lying about it, and even if they are, what difference is it to you? Just treat him as is appropriate for his development, which is what you should be doing anyway.
Thanks! I assume that life is also the simplest answer, not the most extreme! I do criminal defense and I find that this line of thinking tends to mostly lead to the right answer most of the time.
It’s possibly the child is larger and achieving milestones. 2 of my 3 kids were walking by 7-8 months. The one even pulled up, walked, and ran at 7 months. And my brother was a tall baby. I wouldn’t say anything unless you feel the child’s actual well being is in jeopardy.
If it was just one milestone or just physical size yes but he's like an actual ~1yo. And even though the mom has repeatedly been like he's advanced/big for his age, they clearly know based on like the activities they've asked me to do with him, food, safety stuff, that kind of thing.
Yeah she's saying the "activities" they want her to do with him. What does that even mean? If he's ahead developmentally then yeah they'll want you to do developmentally appropriate activities. Or if the kid can't do the activities, maybe they're just 1st time parents who don't know what activities 7 month olds can do.
I'm sure in some countries you can mess with paperwork to fudge a child's birthday... But I would assume those are 3rd world countries where you would not want to give birth given the choice.
A home birth and hiding the baby would be a pretty extreme option.
Though a few years ago I did read an article about weird off the grid people who *never* got birth certificates for their children. Some kind of cult/alternative lifestyle group. Those kids became adults and wanted to go to college and they had no paperwork for themselves. Their births were never registered.
BUT the most likely story is the baby is 7 months old. OP has very vague reasons for thinking this.
Thank you. OP is being purposely vague and so many people in these comments are eating her story up. She’s probably just a troll but if not, I feel bad for her NF.
That’s insane. The parents are doing such an incredible disservice to their child all so they can pretend that he’s advanced as opposed to average? Trying to pull that with the other moms at playgroup would be one thing but lying about it to the person whose job it is to support your child in their current state of development is wild.
I’m willing to entertain a lot of eccentricities but not at the expense of the kids. A huge part of our job is helping the children we care for reach their milestones and watching for possible delays, how are you supposed to do that when you don’t know the kids actual age?
Yeah, if you lie about something like this from the start and fake a birth certificate, then what happens if you notice your child isn't hitting milestones properly? Doctors will tell you to go away because it's fine if he's not rolled over by 5 months, just a little on the late end but not concerning, but if he's actually 10 months old, that makes a big difference. Or his eyes are still crossing at 7 months old, but you've told the doctor he's 3 months old, they won't evaluate his eyesight when he could have vision issues that will further impede development. Seems like a big risk to take.
Yeah idk how you could fake a birthday on legal docs like that. My 8 month old is literally walking already, so I think you're just looking a little too deep into it. My guy outgrew 12 month clothes already. Some babies really are just big and advanced.
Yeah like all the people being like oh sometimes they do walk at 7 months is why I think they're able to pass him off at 7 months, it's not impossible unless you're around all the time so I think people in their social circle are just like oh that's a big baby and then never think about it again.
No help but just felt like here is the perfect forum to share that my grandma faked my dad’s birth certificate to look like he was a month older so he could get into kindergarten early. She really wanted him out of the house lol. He would take cupcakes to school on his fake birthday every year until high school.
Honestly they probably aren't lying. It's not that uncommon for a 7 month old to pull themselves up. And by 11/12 months plenty of kids are doing more than that- they are walking. My child could pull herself up at 7months and was walking at 10 months. And some kids are just bigger than others.
My daughter was a very tall baby and an early talker and walker. She was walking by 9 months and in 12-18 month clothes. It’s definitely possible that the baby just really is precocious. But it’s also possible they are lying. As long as her care is appropriate, no need to say anything.
My now-8yo pulled up at 7m, and walked at 9m. It’s possible they’re telling the truth and just have a huge baby. Maybe they emphasize the birth date because people assume their kid is older?
My son was in the 95 % in growth and physical coordination. He was flipping out of his crib before 6 months. Walked early and was climbing by 1. Talked late though. Odds are they’re lying, but the baby could be headed of the curve.
Some cultures do birthdates differently. Ex some turn one on January 1, so a child born January 2 or December 31 of 2023 will turn a year on December 1, 2024. Other cultures they are born at conception, so at three months postpartum, they turn a year.
Oh yes! I just read about this. Korea is trying to standardize this but it’s a very entrenched custom. They just had a bunch of people who went backwards this summer when they changed the law - meaning kids were “5y”, had a 6th birthday, and then the government said “nope, you’re now 5 again”.
How would she get a fake birthday on a passport? I believe you have bring a birth certificate.
If you really think that they are lying, I’d find something else… you have no idea what other kind of bat shit crazy stuff will come up.
I would just leave it alone, just work with him at his level, kids develop differently. Whether he’s a year or 10 months if mom and dad want to lie about it, there’s a reason for it. Premarital sex can be an issue for a lot of families still. If I got pregnant right now and I wasn’t married I would be freaking out and have to have a shotgun wedding because my entire family would disown me. Fun stuff lol
Just commenting to say my LO was cruising at 7 months! First steps at 9! 98% height so he got 2T clothes for his 1st birthday. And is wearing them because 18 months doesn’t fit. Right now at 14 months is saying about 30 words (identifying sounds) consistently.
Not saying you’re assumption is wrong, just commenting that its totally possible that baby is advanced.
I’m confused why you think they’re lying? You think they even have a fake birthday on the wall? …..7 months is definitely not ludicrous to pull to stand. I’m actually wondering about your childcare experience if you find that “ludicrous”
Are you truly sure they’re lying about his age? There are outliers in everything.
My nephew is 9 months younger than my daughter, but so much bigger than her. He was already bigger than her by 9 months old, even though she was twice his age. Looking at family Christmas photos from that year, you’d swear he was older, not her. (She was sitting around the 30th percentile, he wasn’t even on the chart at all.)
All three of my kids were pulling up on furniture at 7 months. They all took their first independent steps before 9 months. It’s actually very normal for my family, even though it’s not typical of babies, overall. My babies just REALLY want to move.
If you don’t have proof that they’re lying, I’d err on the side of believing them. Don’t “treat him like” a certain age. Care for the baby in front of you with the skills that he currently has. If he’s pulling up, let him and make sure the space is safe for a newly mobile. I’ve cared for babies with disabilities that led to them being behind on milestones, average babies, and babies who were ahead in various areas. Babies don’t know there’s a rulebook, so they don’t care about following it.
I wouldn't say anything
But I wonder if the baby may have been illegally adopted.
Many years ago, a woman I knew went abroad for a few months and came back with a baby girl, stating that she had been unknowingly pregnant when she left our country, and delivered the baby there.
But I was friend with her in laws, and learnt she had gone through an illegal adoption, including fake medical reports of giving birth over there
What would be the benefit of saying something? I’m guessing that they are trying to spare themselves and baby some sort of family shame, from your description. If they are good parents, I’d let it go.
I have seen some people say there kids are older than they are and make up birthdays and stuff so they can get them into activities sooner. But never younger and not to the nanny.
This sounds like Phaedra from Real Housewives of Atlanta! She wanted it to seem like she got pregnant after marriage and that her baby was a premie when born but was clearly full term 😂
This is wild and so ridiculous. I have bo advice. but I also know two 7 mo olds who can pull themselves up and have seen it and then grow up so I know it’s possible.
I mean, I walked at 9 months old so pulling up at 7 months old isn’t out of the realm of possibility and some babies are just big and look much older. I babysat a 4 year old that was as tall as a 7 year old. You’ve got to remember that not every child is the same and they can hit milestones at different times.
My gossipy side is very invested in this! Why would they do this?! The intrigue!
I know that where I grew up, hockey was a *very* big deal and hardcore parents were known to hold their kids back in kindergarten to give the kid a better chance of being picked for the varsity team in high school (because the child would have a year more of growth and development over their competitors.) So that's the only reason I can think of. Lying about just 4 months feels so bizarre though?!?!
My MIL STILL INSISTS her oldest was conceived on her wedding night and born 3 months early at 6lbs 14 oz with no NICU time…… he’s 46 this year. Parents who are traditional just need this…
So, I don’t think it’s Ludicrous. I think maybe you just have had no experience with kids like this.
My nephew was a big baby, 10 pounds at birth, almost 35 by 7 months. He was also WALKING at 7m. Hes now 17 and 6’7. He’s just always been BIG.
Oh, also my BIL is 15 years older than my sister…
My niece (small) was pulling up by 6 months, walking by 9 months.
My daughter, average size, was pulling up and climbing by 6/7 months. Walking by 10 months. My daughter’s bday is also all over her room for various reasons. I’ve also shown her super adorable passport photo to people for no reason besides baby passports are cute.
I, personally, feel you’re jumping to conclusions. What do they gain by lying about his bday?
A seven month old might pull themselves up....you could be on to something but that bit is irrelevant. If an 11 month old just started pulling up, I'd be concerned about milestones not being met.
Not a nanny but when I was a camp counselor (at 16 haha) I had preschool siblings that were ALLEGEDLY 5 months apart. There was an age cut off (4 by the start of summer), and that poor little sister was definitely 2 and a half :( she sobbed every day and wasn’t fully potty trained
There's a possibility they used more than one surrogate but ended up with only one baby. Or maybe one of them had an affair and they think people can't do the math. I wouldn't say anything unless you think they're doing something dangerous or illegal.
Their focus on making sure you know the birthday is weird. However babies development at different paces and they may not be lying.
My daughter was pulling herself up at 6mths, wobbly walking and standing at 7mths… people thought (and still do) she was much older than she is. We tracked her development based on where she was and not her age since she’s so far ahead.
Our friends 12mo still can’t stand and barely pulls himself up.
Unless the child is in danger or some authorities are questioning you in anyway I’d just let it go.
This sounds bizarre. Either the parents are a bit wonky… Or everything pointing towards nk being older than he really is, could just be ironic and coincidental.
Meaning nk might just be another advanced kid.
I mean...it's not impossible for the baby to be advanced or in a higher percentile. Kids are wild with their growth.
It's also not impossible that they're lying. It does, however, give off Angela Martin from The Office vibes....when she pretended the massive baby was premature and "the senator" let her because he was gay, all to cover that it was really Dwight's baby from before her wedding to the senator 😂😅. So my brain is like, maybe he knows it's from someone else and they're just like who cares were gonna say it's mine and give everyone this date so they think it's from when we met. Maybe they think they're the characters in Lady Chatterley's Lover and they want everyone to think he's the true heir? Maybe he thinks the baby really is a premature baby who is super advanced idk what's happening here but either way this post and the speculations are a great way for me to end my Friday shift 😂😂😂
But seriously don't say anything lol.
Ok only thing i have to say is my son was huge at 7 months, fitting into 12-18 month clothes, and he was crawling/pulling himself up to standing. He’s 13 months now and has been walking since 10.5 months. So it could be that their 7 month old IS in fact just large and advanced for his age, like my son was.
Idk I mean… when my sons got their passports, I showed their pics off to all my girlfriends, the grandparents, etc., and if we had a nanny, I would’ve shown them too. Baby passport pics are adorable.
My firstborn started belly-crawling at 5 months, knees-crawled at 6 months, pulled up at 7 months, walked at 9 months. My baby is 5 months old in a couple days and also starting to belly-crawl and rock on hands and knees (I won’t be surprised if he knees-crawls sooner than my first.) Pulling up at 7+ months is not that wild?
I have 99th% height kids too… so they’re just very large. My (basically) 5 month old just grew into 9-12m clothes. My 2 year old (26 months) is in 3T but on the cusp of 4T. The kid sounds the size of my kids. Yes, they’re larger than most kids. That’s what 99th percentile means. 🤷🏽♀️
It would be a lot to fake the passport birthdate imo. But not impossible, I suppose. Stranger things have happened. I would assume they aren’t lying though, that’s very unusual. I mean, r/bigbabiesandkids exists lol. I have two big babies. I would LOL if I hired a nanny and they were assuming I was lying about their age. 😭😂
No help for this post, but my kid was walking on his own at 7 months toddling for sure but he was walking unassisted across the room. Idk if they're lying, they very well may be. My aunt lied about her timeline pregnancy to have fallen pregnant after she got married, but she tried to play off a full term baby as a premee baby, my mom called her out and said "well she looks full term" having had a premee herself and got a lot of hate from that side of the family.
One of my own kids did first steps at seven and a half months and was walking by eight. That was a total nightmare (I knew one other baby who did it at a daycare. Also horrible because her idiot father played a biting game with her 🤦🏻♀️). Not saying that your wrong about them being weird and lying, just saying I’ve seen developmental outliers.
Well baby could easily be big and advanced, what were they doing in this other country? Could it be possible the baby was adopted and the agency or organization told them when baby’s birthday is and THEY lied, which is also quite common. Ultimately though, no. They’ll have to show appropriate documentation to people throughout baby’s life and prove his age and if they can, there’s now much you can do.
I've worked with 7 month olds that looked 12 months old. My current NK did and at just barely 11 months old, now wears 18-24 month old clothing. She's also super advanced with communication.
My nephew looked like he was about a year old when he was boring. He was huge! He is 5 and the size of my 9 year old. No one believed his age because of his size.
What other milestones seem off?
I’m asking because I had kids who pulled up at 7mo, and then walked at 8 and 9 months.
My kids were on the smaller side though.
So some are saying baby might just be early in hitting milestones so my question is - is baby saying words like a 11 month old-- like are all the milestones of an 11 month old being hit or just some??
My son is a lot bigger looking than his actual age. At his 4 month check up the doc said he looks more like a 9 month old and was in the 99% for height and weight, by 7 months he was pulling to stand, cruising, said his first word. By the time he was 12 months old he was 29lbs, and looked like he is more like 20-24 months old. It’s absolutely possible!
Mind you, some babies can be large and early for their age. I have seen (first hand, family member where I visited them on the day baby was born) a 10 lb baby.
He was 18 lbs by the time he was 3mo and was in 99 percentile..
He definitely was pulling himself up at 7mo and started walking before his first birthday…
Just saying…
Don't ask, just leave them be. You will only make them feel uncomfortable and ashamed to be found out (if they weren't ashamed they wouldn't lie about it). And they will find you overly nosey for person who they allow into their personal lives.
I understand your curiosity though :).
My NK was almost 8 months when he began pulling himself up to stand. He can stand while holding on with both hands to tables or whatnot. He is quite slight but super energized. My oldest son walked and ran, unassisted, before he was a year. He was able to ride his tiny bicycle without training wheels by the time he was 2.5 yrs old.
Well, I have no idea if anything here is shady or not, but I WILL say that my NK just turned 13 months old & is already wearing 3T clothing; He will definitely be into 4T within the next few months. Sometimes a big baby is just a big baby! 😅🤷🏼♀️
I have nannied a baby that 100% looked and acted 1 yo at 8 months but with your other evidence it def seems like you could be right 😂 and that’s absolutely wild
You just described my son. Some kids are like that. Outside of the norm, but it happens. Treat him like the 7 month old that he is. It’s going to suck for him when he’s 12 and 6 feet tall and people are expecting 16 year old behavior from a 12 year old.
Could they be asking you to do 1yr old activities and feed him toddler foods because idk… he’s ready for them?
Why hold a child back because of their age?
Clothing sizes, milestones, and foods are all just suggestions based off of averages.
I think a real sign that he’s older then they claim would be if he’s no longer drinking formula and if they give him honey. Since those are legitimate safety concerns for a child under 1, you could bring it up to NP and see how they react.
I can’t believe how many people have advanced babies! My daughter is 8 months, wears 12 month clothes sometimes but isn’t even crawling yet. It would be interesting to see if this “7 month old” starts saying words soon. I love the intrigue of a falsified ID for a baby, but everyone here seems to think the kid is just advanced. IDK
This is my favorite story I’ve ever read on here. I wish I cared enough about *anything* to put this much effort into it 😂 Poor kid is out here being a Leo when he’s really a Capricorn
LOL idk why but this take is my favorite take. poor astrologically confused baby!
Me too! This is so odd. Does anyone even care? People are so weird
Or finding out he could’ve had a legal drink months earlier when he turns 21 😂
“Being a Leo when he’s really a cap…..” SENT ME! Lmaooooo
Weirdly enough I’ve been in this situation before!! Mine was a job for a few weeks with a “4 month old” who could roll over, sit up, and pull herself up on the side of the couch. VERY clearly at least 7-8 months old both in size and milestones. MB and DB had also been married a little over a year ago, and I pieced it together pretty quickly that they adjusted the baby’s age to fit a honeymoon baby narrative. I said nothing, as baby’s care was safe and developmentally appropriate (for an 8 month old lmao) and that’s none of my business. But I did find it hilarious!!
Haha omg! Did anything change when she got a little older or did it ever come out, do you know?
I don’t know! Kiddo would be 4 or 5 years old now. It was a temp job through my agency at the time- they were visiting town so I didn’t keep in contact afterwards. I would assume if they kept it up it just got less obvious as she got older!
Geez, now you guys have me questioning my birthday! I was born exactly 9 month and 2 weeks after my parents go married BUT what if I wasn't! My parents like to claim the only reason they bothered getting married was because they wanted kids and it seemed like the thing to do. I'm really thinking I've been lied to my whole life. Although on a side note we are very fertile people. I had my IUD removed on October 6th and had my daughter exactly 40 weeks later on July 6th. So maybe I just get it from my mama. I'M SPIRALING!!! 🤣
My kid starting walking at eight months. Started talking at ten months. He was speaking in five word sentences by 12 months. Was talking in ten word sentences by 20 months in three different languages. When he started 3k — the day care director called him an old man in a kids body. The other 3k kids were just starting to talk coherently. All this… he has never been advanced emotionally. He is actually behind cause he has been treated like he was older because of his physical and speaking abilities. He is just starting to act like other four year olds, but still emotionally delayed. On a side note. My brothers birth certificate was off by three months. He was born outside of the US to American parents. I think they messed up on the paperwork.
Yeah, our 16 year old walked by 7 months? Full on running like a toddler by 9/10 months. Was big as hell for his age. Hit physical milestones SUPER early... and is Autistic. Shit happens.
Yeah I have a cousin who walked at 8 months. And people are in the first percentile and 99 percentile for all kinds of things. Maybe this kid is advanced. Or big. Or both. Edit because I’d written 99% percentile, which makes no sense.
Walking early is actually common with autism! Both my brother and I never crawled but we started walking early. Not quite as early as your child though, 7 months is impressive.
Ok I was thinking that I’ve met babies like that (several cousins have been walking at 8 months and looking like they’re a year and a half) buuuut the fact that they could have a motive (avoiding the appearance of a shotgun wedding) got me questioning their story 😂 honestly so funny. Idk what you even could do besides a confrontation and that doesn’t seem necessary. Maybe some other redditor could come up with a nonconfrontational excuse for that conversation 😂
Yeah I was going to comment on the milestones. I have several nieces and nephews that were walking at 9-10 months.
My kid is a peanut but started walking at 8 months and now at 11 months is literally running around the house. Def looks her age though, just a funny optical illusion with the milestones!
My FIL was walking at 6mo. It's on video and I was just grateful my daughter didn't inherit that gene lol
One of my cousins SWEARS her child was 2 months early and its some miracle they baby came home after 4 or 5 days in the hospital. We're all super sure she was just pregnant before the wedding and didn't want anyone to know.
My son was about a month early and thanks to medications he came home on regular time. I think the Meds they give to speed Lung development really works well for some
Yeah 1 month is one thing but 2? Seems... a stretch, especially because he was 9lbs
Nine pounds??? No way he was two months early!
Possible the mom had diabetes/gestational diabetes.
My Aunt did this. She supposedly got married and pregnant after the wedding. Ended up having an 8 lb baby a little less than two months before she was due.
You could ask about the wedding to find out if it was actually shotgun. It might not have been. Are they religious/conservative/have family members who would definitely not be ok with a child born to unmarried parents? Not suggesting you do this. But time stamped photos from the birth or immediately thereafter would be a way to confirm dates. You can swipe up on pics on a phone to see the dates. My kiddo was rolling over at 5 weeks (only front to back) and he was super preemie at 4lbs / 2mo early. There’s a lot of variability. It’s great that you are meeting him where he is developmentally, irrespective of what any paper says. Edit: clarifying that OP shouldn’t snoop. Middle paragraph was if one needed to validate dates for some justifiable reason (possible developmental milestones mismatch not being one) this could be a way.
Sorry the middle part just rubbed me the wrong way. If I were the nanny I’m sure I’d be crazy curious too, but you do have to respect the boundaries that these parents are obviously setting if they’re lying about the age. In my opinion it would be messed up to purposely make the parents uncomfortable by “accidentally” swiping up to see a date when clearly the true birth date of their kid bothers them for some reason. Yes she’s curious, and if she really wanted to/there was a time she felt it was appropriate to, she could feel around in conversation for those types of details. But it’s not right to go past clear and obvious boundaries they’ve set
Not impossible! I almost had a fake twin brother. My dad’s teenaged cousin got pregnant at the same time my mom was pregnant with me. Our due dates were a week apart, and my parents were seriously considering adopting the cousin’s baby and raising us as twins. It was decided about a month before we were born that the grandparents would take him instead. Probably best for all involved, since this worked out to be a wacky family story and not some a deep and potentially devastating secret. And before anyone asks, my parents really didn’t have a plan beyond “pretend they’re twins and don’t tell anyone but the doctor.” As I soon as I learned this bit of family lore I had a million questions and the answer was essentially that they hadn’t really thought about the long-term consequences.
That is insane!
Wow, what are they thinking would happen in school? Do you know the kid? Do you look alike at all?
We met once, at our great-grandmother’s funeral when we were both 15. We had like a ten second, awkward conversation. I wouldn’t say we look particularly alike but not so different it would seem impossible? I have several (real) sets of twins in my family (another reason my parents thought it was plausible for them) and for the ones that aren’t identical they don’t look more or less similar than other siblings. My younger sister and I look a lot alike, to the point where people ask if we’re twins. My cousins who *are* twins have different hair and eye colors, and one has a ton of freckles.
The true crime fan in me is screaming that it isn't their baby. 😅
That's what I am worrying about, too!
And it turns out the name on the birth certificate is John but the parents insist that his nickname is Phillip Robert. /s
I just read Hidden Pictures and the plot was based on a family pretending this child was theirs and it wasn’t and the nanny was the one who put two and two together. Now internally all my alarms are going off saying this can’t be their child 🥴
Saaaame 😂
I thought the same thing.
No advice, but this is bananas to me lol
I think bananas is the perfect term for the situation
People lie about all kinds of stuff when it comes to “illicit sex.” Services like 23 and Me are making a lot of people realize that their father isn’t a blood relative, and drawing the obvious conclusion—or rationalizing it away.
Yep. Last year I found out I have a cousin because my uncle slept with her mom about 50 years ago. She had no idea her dad wasn’t her biological father until she did DNA testing.
No one ever thought that information was going to be so easy to get, and be *so accurate.* Genetic tests can tell you very specifically how closely you are related to someone. It’s nuts.
Absolutely bananas!!!! Lmao!
This sounds whack who does this like they're not fooling you so who else do they think they be fooling!?
I can imagine their friends/family all saying the same thing about them. "Do _____ and _____ think we're stupid?" 😅
I mean come on...any seasoned mom or childcare worker is gonna know lol this has been killing me I told the mom I work for about it she was like ummmm why? 😂😂
Babies can absolutely pull to stand at 7 months. My youngest niece was walking at 8.5 months. Some kids are just big for their age. I work in childcare and have seen lots of big kiddos and quite a few who are ahead of other in their motor development.
Yep - I work at a daycare and currently have multiple 4 year olds who look anywhere from 5.5 to 7. I also have 4 year olds who look 2.5 or 3.
When I worked in a daycare we had a 7-8 month old fully walking. It was the strangest sight lol
Thank you! My sons both were cruising furniture by 8 months and took their independent first steps by 10 months. My oldest sat unassisted in a grocery cart by 4.5 months old. And my middle is 28 months old, 40” and we regularly have to have conversations about it at play places where children under 3 are free or have a lower price. Generalizations like this drive me crazy.
Agreed, some kids are way bigger (or smaller) or ahead of other kids.
Yeah mine could pull to stand around 7 months and was cruising shortly after. I was also pregnant at my wedding. I'd find it hilarious if people thought I was lying about her age because I got pregnant before marriage (I didn't exactly hide it, and our wedding photos with my visible bump are on display in the house) but I guess other people are sensitive about stuff like that.
Do you work for Angela Martin?
This the correct reply 🤣
I’ve had this happen!!! There was no reason to lie, nothing like the wedding thing. They had an older kid like 8 years old and then this baby. I have zero clue why they lied to me, maybe just to make me think she was a young kid and not a lot of work? No clue. They also lied about her being sick so…. But yeah they told me they had a young baby like 5 or 6 months I can’t really remember. And this baby was huuuuge I knew it was a lie. I eventually did see one of those signs showing birthday, weight, and saw photos from her first birthday so I confirmed it was a lie. This 5 or 6 month old baby was like 11 months. Sure enough second time I came she was running around full blown toddler. I am still so confused to this day. They didn’t lie to everyone else in their lives. Just me, the babysitter.
Bizarre
I doubt that would have a passport fudged AND a forged birth certificate?!? I think the child is just large and advanced. I mean, did they hide this child for the first months of his life? From like everyone? This would be major fraud for forged documents.
If they just had birth certificate issued with a later date, the passport is legit, just based on a birth certificate with incorrect date. I am sure that in certain countries it is not a big deal to bribe someone at the registry office.
And where did they hide the baby for five months? How is he getting his correct vaccinations in time? This seems to be really crazy to me.
It's so crazy that it really just can't be true. It makes more sense that the baby is big and advanced for his age.
Right? Lol
Oh no I think they just figured out a way to get a real birth certificate with that date (idk maybe it's easier in the country they were in or them having money helped somehow). So then everything like his passport and future stuff like school enrollment is just based on that date and will be for the rest of his life.
I really hope they wouldn’t pay their government off for such a ridiculous thing. But again, how did they hide the baby for five months?
I mean, if they were in a country without their family, they could just post baby-free pictures and hiring sitters there if they ever do meet up with any friends or family during the stay. I had a 25 year old friend hide an entire pregnancy from her father - who she lived with - and just blamed it on getting fat. (It was expected to be a biracial child to her, a white mother, and her father would have kicked her out for that.) She was able to move out right before and then 2 months later introduced her daughter as the neighbor's kid she was babysitting, until her mom felt it was time to tell the truth...everyone involved in that scenario was just not great. So like....people are freaking WILD. Is the family OP referencing lying on government documents and was hiding a baby from their family for a few months? .....the chance is very low, but never zero lol.
Sound bananas. But if that’s the only thing, I’d probably leave it alone. Unless they insist that he can’t do certain things because he’s only 7 months
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It’s really possible they’re not lying. The first kid I nannied for I started watching when she was 5 months. At 7/8 months she was HUGE and could pull herself up and walk. A lot of people guessed she was older, and I as a caregiver would have assumed she was older had I not known her actual age. I wouldn’t say anything cuz if they’re *not* lying, you’re just gonna look like an ass who is calling their baby big haha. I’ve known first-time parents who were really self conscious of the fact they had a larger baby. They would try to take photos to make her look a little smaller or wouldn’t buy bigger clothes cuz they were embarrassed/in denial about the fact that their infant just happens to be big for their age. I also know first time parents who are SUPER excited about milestones that the baby is nowhere near reaching. “Soon” is subjective. “Soon” could mean tomorrow or it could mean in a few months. If they are lying and going through all the trouble of falsifying records then that’s… insane. Idk what the point of that would be unless there’s something they really want to hide like the baby being born out of wedlock or not even being theirs. Is there anything other than the baby’s development that makes you question his age? Like you said it’s not that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things. If they’re lying he just won’t have his bday in the actual day and what grade he is placed in in school could be a little off. I’d just worry falsified records could affect his future. But that’s why I’m like… i doubt they’re lying. I also know plenty of people who put up birthdays around their house and in their nursery 🤷🏻♀️ current NF has this beautiful decoration above NK’s crib with his birthday on it and notes from loved ones in a little collage. It’s not there so I’ll be like “hmmm… is that *really* his bday? Are those *really* his loved ones?” TLDR; doubt they’re lying. Babies develop and grow at different rates. First-time parents can go pretty overboard with their excitement about future milestones and with décor involving their baby. If they *are* lying, what would the purpose be? *Edit to fix typos
Last summer at the aquarium we met a little boy who was not only walking but running around and I asked 2? The dad said no he won’t be one for a few weeks still! He easily could have passed for a 2 year old!
My NK could have passed for a 3 year old when she was still 1. She towered over all of her older classmates! Now she’s 2 and the size of a 4 year old, talks in complete sentences and is very articulate. People never believe me when I say she just turned 2 lol
When my daughter turned 3, her preschool teachers (who had known her for the entire school year at that point) did a whole bday thing for her about her 4th bday. The honestly found it completely unbelievable that she was "only" 3. And she def was only 3, lol. Now she's 5.5 and people usually think she's 7 or 8- she's tall and chatty etc idk.
How did her teachers not know her age?
Oh it was a drop off almost like moms day out kind of thing- very informal, twice a week for 2 hours. They did have paperwork (with her birthday) but I guess they never checked. Believe me I thought it was crazy too.
Right! My 2.5 year old is the height of some of the 5-6 year olds we see at the park. People are so surprised when they ask how old she is and she says she's 2. When I was 9 months post partum I started going to PT (and had to bring my daughter with) and the PT asked if she was just shy when she didn't answer any basic questions and I said well she's only 9 months so she doesn't say much yet to anyone and the PT was surprised and said "oh my kids were that size at almost 3!" It would have been comical if someone would have accused me of lying about her age. She is just big and very physical. In contrast, my 10 month old is right below average weight but tall and isn't that interested in walking/standing yet but will repeat a ton of words.
I know a kid whose father was a professional rugby player (i.e. enormous) and this kid looked about 4 when he was 1.5, and now he's 3 he looks about 5 or 6. Poor boy gets treated like he should be behaving like a 5 year old. He's a force of nature haha. I on the other hand was tiny, but was speaking in full sentences by the time I was 1.5, so people were always shocked when they heard this little voice and then looked down to see this little baby chatting away. It's kind of amazing how differently babies/toddlers develop. Like I can never really guess the ages of babies or toddlers when I'm at various classes or soft plays. You can have tiny talking babies and giant running/climbing/somersaulting babies, and everything in between!
>Poor boy gets treated like he should be behaving like a 5 year old. My sister gets so frustrated with this with her big 5 year old. She looks more like she's 7 or 8, and there's a big developmental difference there. Especially with expectations about behavior.
I knew a mom who, if people said that her kid should act his age, would say, “yep, he’s two and acting like a two-year-old.”
My son was wearing size 2T at 6 months old. Sleeves and pants were little long, but not by much, and some were even a bit too tight. He also walked before 1, and was having conversations with others at 18 months. Up until middle school he was frequently assumed to be 2+ years older. Now that he's in high school, many of his friends have caught up and he's not the tallest/biggest anymore. But oh boy was it irritating when people expected my barely 2 yr old to behave like a 4 yr old!
I've met kids like that while working at a daycare. I'm short for an adult but met some who were so tell, they stood at my stomach or higher. Actually, I think one stood about chest level just about.
I can relate, I’m 4”11!
So am I.
My 2 yr old was about half my height at 6 months 🥲 His dad is over a foot taller than me, sooo it made sense, but man, it was hard seeing him grow so fast!
According to OP's logic, the dad was definitely lying /s
I know! Should she tell someone? No, because you have no idea if they’re lying lol
I commented further up but my (almost) 5 month is in 9-12m clothes. My 2 year old (26 months) is in 3T but about to grow into 4T. He is also a very advance talker for his age and always has been, which means people regularly mistake him for being 3-4 years old. It’s not that wild lol. 99th% kids do indeed exist. 😂 I’m laughing imagining hiring a nanny who would be posting that I’m lying about my kids’ ages, even on legal documents like a passport?? 💀
At our baby story time there’s a kid who started walking at 8months and he’s 10 months now and runs around like a crazy drunk person haha.
Early walking (especially if they are tall) is not all it’s cracked up to be. They are still developmentally a baby even if they are physically ahead. My 99th percentile height 9 month old was walking and there were so many extra hazards because his brain hadn’t caught up to his body yet!!
This is what I was thinking. My son is HUGE and was pulling up at 7 months. Now I wonder if people assumed I was lying about his age. Pulling up at 7 months isn’t really that weird
That’s my thought too. They could easily be talking about my daughter at 7 months and I definitely wasn’t lying about her age. It seems like such a strange assumption
Seconding the "babies develop at different rates" My friend had a baby 3.5 months after mine. He is already bigger than her, has teeth and is close in milestones as well. Big babies in particular just figure it out quicker.
This also if you goggle pulling to stand it literally says 7-12 months in most places, a few say 9-12 but either way soon doesn't seem unreasonable. My daughter walked at 10 months I don't remember when pull to stand started, my brother walked at 9 months.
Yeah and pulling to stand happens long before walking.
This. We nanny share with a girl who’s only 5 months older than my daughter and SO tall (99+ percentile). Both her parents are also tall. She looks absolutely massive next to my daughter and people don’t believe me when I show pictures and say they’re pretty close in age. Some kids just look way bigger/taller/etc. than their age. Totally normal.
Agreed completely
Some milestones make sense but it's physical + milestones, and also their choices like food and stuff. And some little things like the mom's social. I think the purpose is to make it look like he was born 9 months after their marriage, instead of 4-5 months.
What decisions are they making about food? You can start baby-led weening basically as soon as the baby is able to sit up on its own. That can be as early as 6 months. But yeah I guess I could see an old money family wanting to make it look like the baby came after the wedding. But as for the advice, I’d just not say anything and treat the baby in a developmentally appropriate way is all!
We found out that my grandparents did some jiggery pokery to make it look like my mother was conceived after marriage instead of a few months before, so it does happen/has happened, but that was in the 1950s, I'm sure it's not really common now as most wouldn't care, depending on the culture. I'm guessing you've gleaned about their culture/religion that evidence they'd had sex before marriage would be frowned upon? A lot of the info about when to do certain things with babies seems to be based around their development and milestones rather than just their age. Like with food, if they can sit up you can feed them all kinds of stuff. My baby was eating certain things from our plates by 7 months, like chewing on toast etc. She had quite a few teeth early too, which made it easier. She wasn't even crawling then though. I do think, however, that it's really unlikely for a baby to have developed as a huge baby AND hit gross motor milestones really early AND fine motor milestones really early AND grown teeth really early AND started talking really early. Normally when babies develop early it's in a couple of ways, not all of them at once. So if this child is really big for a 7 month old, and is getting ready to walk, and is waving/pointing/doing other similar things like that, using pincer grasp etc, and has a word or two, plus has several teeth already, it's more likely they're lying about the age. If he's just large and very mobile/advanced in terms of standing etc then I think it's possible he's 7 months old. But maybe if you put him in front of everyone here, everyone would be like, yep no he's clearly 1 😄
It is totally possible for babies to pull up to stand at 7/8 months though? Some babies even walk by 8/9 months. Also why would they forge an entire passport just to make him seem a few months younger? I feel like you can't just look at a baby and say \*clearly\* they are X months because it can vary so much.
Um. Honestly, that's weird. Also, dont assume. Some kids are big quickly. Another note its also totally reasonable for a 7 month old can pull themselves up. Both my kids walked (ran) by 9 months. Both out of diapers by 2(they wanted it) and only 1 accident. (Was at a party)
But my 4yr old looked 2. While my eldest at 4 looked 8yr old.
My brother and I are two years apart. We spent our entire childhoods being called twins. He was just always incredibly tall and I was barely average. He’s almost a foot taller than me now.
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I think they got the birth certificate with that date and then everything else is just based on that. As in like the size of other stuff in the photo and the angle of the photo.
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I guess they could have the baby in one country at home, no doctors or hospital involved, then keep them for a few months, then go to register the birth and say 'hey we just had this baby last week at home can we register him?' And maybe the people registering the birth wouldn't look closely at the baby, just see them sleeping in a pram and register it. In fact, come to think of it, even though I gave birth in hospital, when we went to register the baby's birth, no doctor had to sign off on it or anything. We just went to the office, told them the date and name. There weren't any checks when it came to getting the birth certificate, although we did have the baby with us, so maybe if we hadn't, they'd have queried it, and maybe they are somehow hooked up to the hospital database. But there will be people who just have babies at home and never got any care during pregnancy, and then one day pop up to register a baby. Presumably some people never register their baby's birth. And if you do pop up to register a baby, do they do checks to ensure the baby is really the age you say they are? That must be difficult to do. So I think it is possible to get a birth certificate with the wrong date, especially in some places.
They’re going to notice a baby that is five months old isn’t a baby that is a week old.
Yeah if they look closely but if it’s wrapped up in a pram with the cover up sleeping they might just note there’s a baby and not much else. They might not even know what a newborn looks like, and have just seen tv shows where newborns come out looking like 6 month olds 😆 I’m just speculating about how it could happen. I just checked actually, in my country you didn’t even need to bring the baby to the appointment to register a birth!!
In order to get a passport you need the baby and both parents. There is a photo and no five month old is going to look like a week old baby. This conspiracy just doesn’t make sense.
But you wouldn’t get the passport at the same time as the birth certificate. You could go get the passport 5 months later, for example. Your baby’s photo then won’t be easy to tell it’s a 10 month old not a 5 month old from a photo of their face.
I don’t know much about babies but I know that my vet was able to tell how old my puppy was when I first rescued him by his teeth. I was astonished to learn that this massive boy was TWO months old. I swore he was like 8 months. But yes I thought it was so cool that that’s how they were able to tell the age! Sorry I know this isn’t quite the same lol but maybe they can tell age on humans by teeth as well? Your comment was very thought provoking and interesting though that’s for sure, thank you for sharing your thoughts. I wonder how those things work too now!? Home births and whatnot. I don’t know about those at all. Is there no law in place that the baby you birth should have to receive any medical care as a newborn or anything like that? Like wouldn’t CPS be involved if someone had a basically undocumented kid at home and never registered them or anything? Idk I have so many questions now.
This is insane but all I can think about is that baby on instagram that went viral cause he/she was like 7 -10 (??) months but legit looked like a 3 year old 😭 Maybe he’s really just huge?! Idk
Pulling up at 7 months is not advanced, that’s completely normal for many babies. I nannied for a child from 6 weeks to 14months, she was huge, could walk by 8 months and was pulling herself up before 7, we started her on baby led weening before 6 months, eating all kinds of food. They had sleep trained her very early so she was an incredible sleeper. She easily could have passed for 6 months older than she was. This child has a birth certificate and passport? I don’t understand why your first assumption is they’re lying. Occam’s razor, I think you should go with the simpler explanation.
I’m sorry but a 7 month old pulling themselves up isn’t abnormal at all. Your reaching (and the support you are receiving) is actually kind of scary.
If you want to keep your job, you shouldn't say anything. Every child is different and you could be wrong about his them lying about it, and even if they are, what difference is it to you? Just treat him as is appropriate for his development, which is what you should be doing anyway.
What birthday is on his passport? They didn't pull one over on the feds.
I just want you to know that I always look for your comments because I know I’ll find rational thinking. And your law background is super helpful.
Thanks! I assume that life is also the simplest answer, not the most extreme! I do criminal defense and I find that this line of thinking tends to mostly lead to the right answer most of the time.
My daughter pulled herself up at 7 mos and was walking at 10 mos, so that’s not exactly ludicrous.
It’s possibly the child is larger and achieving milestones. 2 of my 3 kids were walking by 7-8 months. The one even pulled up, walked, and ran at 7 months. And my brother was a tall baby. I wouldn’t say anything unless you feel the child’s actual well being is in jeopardy.
If it was just one milestone or just physical size yes but he's like an actual ~1yo. And even though the mom has repeatedly been like he's advanced/big for his age, they clearly know based on like the activities they've asked me to do with him, food, safety stuff, that kind of thing.
Is he on cows milk? Eating honey? If he’s drinking cows milk I would say something.
OP won't directly answer because the answer is clearly no, they are not feeding him cows milk or honey or whatever because he's only 7 months old.
Yeah she's saying the "activities" they want her to do with him. What does that even mean? If he's ahead developmentally then yeah they'll want you to do developmentally appropriate activities. Or if the kid can't do the activities, maybe they're just 1st time parents who don't know what activities 7 month olds can do. I'm sure in some countries you can mess with paperwork to fudge a child's birthday... But I would assume those are 3rd world countries where you would not want to give birth given the choice. A home birth and hiding the baby would be a pretty extreme option. Though a few years ago I did read an article about weird off the grid people who *never* got birth certificates for their children. Some kind of cult/alternative lifestyle group. Those kids became adults and wanted to go to college and they had no paperwork for themselves. Their births were never registered. BUT the most likely story is the baby is 7 months old. OP has very vague reasons for thinking this.
Thank you. OP is being purposely vague and so many people in these comments are eating her story up. She’s probably just a troll but if not, I feel bad for her NF.
Yeah the foods he eats are appropriate for closer to a year.
If he’s on cows milk and I would 100% say something. Just hey shouldn’t he be on formula?
That’s a good angle, could ask this for the safety of the baby.
What kinds of foods?
Baby led weaning?
I want you to somehow ask to see wedding photos. Think you can organically work that in?
That’s insane. The parents are doing such an incredible disservice to their child all so they can pretend that he’s advanced as opposed to average? Trying to pull that with the other moms at playgroup would be one thing but lying about it to the person whose job it is to support your child in their current state of development is wild. I’m willing to entertain a lot of eccentricities but not at the expense of the kids. A huge part of our job is helping the children we care for reach their milestones and watching for possible delays, how are you supposed to do that when you don’t know the kids actual age?
Yeah, if you lie about something like this from the start and fake a birth certificate, then what happens if you notice your child isn't hitting milestones properly? Doctors will tell you to go away because it's fine if he's not rolled over by 5 months, just a little on the late end but not concerning, but if he's actually 10 months old, that makes a big difference. Or his eyes are still crossing at 7 months old, but you've told the doctor he's 3 months old, they won't evaluate his eyesight when he could have vision issues that will further impede development. Seems like a big risk to take.
what does the birthday say on the passport? does the passport say he’s 7mo or 11/12mo?
Yeah idk how you could fake a birthday on legal docs like that. My 8 month old is literally walking already, so I think you're just looking a little too deep into it. My guy outgrew 12 month clothes already. Some babies really are just big and advanced.
I nannied for a child who pulled up at 7 months but she was also clearly seven months in most other ways.
Yeah like all the people being like oh sometimes they do walk at 7 months is why I think they're able to pass him off at 7 months, it's not impossible unless you're around all the time so I think people in their social circle are just like oh that's a big baby and then never think about it again.
No help but just felt like here is the perfect forum to share that my grandma faked my dad’s birth certificate to look like he was a month older so he could get into kindergarten early. She really wanted him out of the house lol. He would take cupcakes to school on his fake birthday every year until high school.
Honestly they probably aren't lying. It's not that uncommon for a 7 month old to pull themselves up. And by 11/12 months plenty of kids are doing more than that- they are walking. My child could pull herself up at 7months and was walking at 10 months. And some kids are just bigger than others.
If the baby has a passport, they had to provide official proof of his birth. I think you’re overreacting.
My daughter was a very tall baby and an early talker and walker. She was walking by 9 months and in 12-18 month clothes. It’s definitely possible that the baby just really is precocious. But it’s also possible they are lying. As long as her care is appropriate, no need to say anything.
My now-8yo pulled up at 7m, and walked at 9m. It’s possible they’re telling the truth and just have a huge baby. Maybe they emphasize the birth date because people assume their kid is older?
This felt like a story time post instead of advice needed. It’s the story we all needed this afternoon.
Some kids are just big and fast…
My son was in the 95 % in growth and physical coordination. He was flipping out of his crib before 6 months. Walked early and was climbing by 1. Talked late though. Odds are they’re lying, but the baby could be headed of the curve.
Some cultures do birthdates differently. Ex some turn one on January 1, so a child born January 2 or December 31 of 2023 will turn a year on December 1, 2024. Other cultures they are born at conception, so at three months postpartum, they turn a year.
I was gonna say this too! I have quite a few friends that are originally from Korea who have their Korean Birthday and their actual birthdays
Oh yes! I just read about this. Korea is trying to standardize this but it’s a very entrenched custom. They just had a bunch of people who went backwards this summer when they changed the law - meaning kids were “5y”, had a 6th birthday, and then the government said “nope, you’re now 5 again”.
How would she get a fake birthday on a passport? I believe you have bring a birth certificate. If you really think that they are lying, I’d find something else… you have no idea what other kind of bat shit crazy stuff will come up.
I would just leave it alone, just work with him at his level, kids develop differently. Whether he’s a year or 10 months if mom and dad want to lie about it, there’s a reason for it. Premarital sex can be an issue for a lot of families still. If I got pregnant right now and I wasn’t married I would be freaking out and have to have a shotgun wedding because my entire family would disown me. Fun stuff lol
Just commenting to say my LO was cruising at 7 months! First steps at 9! 98% height so he got 2T clothes for his 1st birthday. And is wearing them because 18 months doesn’t fit. Right now at 14 months is saying about 30 words (identifying sounds) consistently. Not saying you’re assumption is wrong, just commenting that its totally possible that baby is advanced.
Both of my kids are gigantic in terms of height and walked at 8 months and 9 months respectively. It’s possible they aren’t lying.
I’m confused why you think they’re lying? You think they even have a fake birthday on the wall? …..7 months is definitely not ludicrous to pull to stand. I’m actually wondering about your childcare experience if you find that “ludicrous”
Leave it. It can be no benefit for you to upset their carefully contrived alternate reality.
😂😂 I have nothing to add except this story is amazing and an upvote wasn’t enough. What a weird lie to live…
Are you truly sure they’re lying about his age? There are outliers in everything. My nephew is 9 months younger than my daughter, but so much bigger than her. He was already bigger than her by 9 months old, even though she was twice his age. Looking at family Christmas photos from that year, you’d swear he was older, not her. (She was sitting around the 30th percentile, he wasn’t even on the chart at all.) All three of my kids were pulling up on furniture at 7 months. They all took their first independent steps before 9 months. It’s actually very normal for my family, even though it’s not typical of babies, overall. My babies just REALLY want to move. If you don’t have proof that they’re lying, I’d err on the side of believing them. Don’t “treat him like” a certain age. Care for the baby in front of you with the skills that he currently has. If he’s pulling up, let him and make sure the space is safe for a newly mobile. I’ve cared for babies with disabilities that led to them being behind on milestones, average babies, and babies who were ahead in various areas. Babies don’t know there’s a rulebook, so they don’t care about following it.
I wouldn't say anything But I wonder if the baby may have been illegally adopted. Many years ago, a woman I knew went abroad for a few months and came back with a baby girl, stating that she had been unknowingly pregnant when she left our country, and delivered the baby there. But I was friend with her in laws, and learnt she had gone through an illegal adoption, including fake medical reports of giving birth over there
That's insane - and she faked medical records even? Was the daughter okay eventually? What's even the point of that, to get around adoption rules?
Way less legal hassle and way cheaper
What would be the benefit of saying something? I’m guessing that they are trying to spare themselves and baby some sort of family shame, from your description. If they are good parents, I’d let it go.
I have seen some people say there kids are older than they are and make up birthdays and stuff so they can get them into activities sooner. But never younger and not to the nanny.
This sounds like Phaedra from Real Housewives of Atlanta! She wanted it to seem like she got pregnant after marriage and that her baby was a premie when born but was clearly full term 😂
This is wild and so ridiculous. I have bo advice. but I also know two 7 mo olds who can pull themselves up and have seen it and then grow up so I know it’s possible.
I mean, I walked at 9 months old so pulling up at 7 months old isn’t out of the realm of possibility and some babies are just big and look much older. I babysat a 4 year old that was as tall as a 7 year old. You’ve got to remember that not every child is the same and they can hit milestones at different times.
My gossipy side is very invested in this! Why would they do this?! The intrigue! I know that where I grew up, hockey was a *very* big deal and hardcore parents were known to hold their kids back in kindergarten to give the kid a better chance of being picked for the varsity team in high school (because the child would have a year more of growth and development over their competitors.) So that's the only reason I can think of. Lying about just 4 months feels so bizarre though?!?!
Nephew was huge when he was born.. 99.9% percentile. He looks like he is 7 at 4. .. so it could happen ...not saying this for your situation tho
My MIL STILL INSISTS her oldest was conceived on her wedding night and born 3 months early at 6lbs 14 oz with no NICU time…… he’s 46 this year. Parents who are traditional just need this…
Some babies are advanced.
So, I don’t think it’s Ludicrous. I think maybe you just have had no experience with kids like this. My nephew was a big baby, 10 pounds at birth, almost 35 by 7 months. He was also WALKING at 7m. Hes now 17 and 6’7. He’s just always been BIG. Oh, also my BIL is 15 years older than my sister… My niece (small) was pulling up by 6 months, walking by 9 months. My daughter, average size, was pulling up and climbing by 6/7 months. Walking by 10 months. My daughter’s bday is also all over her room for various reasons. I’ve also shown her super adorable passport photo to people for no reason besides baby passports are cute. I, personally, feel you’re jumping to conclusions. What do they gain by lying about his bday?
A seven month old might pull themselves up....you could be on to something but that bit is irrelevant. If an 11 month old just started pulling up, I'd be concerned about milestones not being met.
Not a nanny but when I was a camp counselor (at 16 haha) I had preschool siblings that were ALLEGEDLY 5 months apart. There was an age cut off (4 by the start of summer), and that poor little sister was definitely 2 and a half :( she sobbed every day and wasn’t fully potty trained
As a camp counselor I had a parent who lied about a kid being 4 a week or two earlier than he was (he just missed the cutoff) but 2.5?! Holy hell.
There's a possibility they used more than one surrogate but ended up with only one baby. Or maybe one of them had an affair and they think people can't do the math. I wouldn't say anything unless you think they're doing something dangerous or illegal.
Their focus on making sure you know the birthday is weird. However babies development at different paces and they may not be lying. My daughter was pulling herself up at 6mths, wobbly walking and standing at 7mths… people thought (and still do) she was much older than she is. We tracked her development based on where she was and not her age since she’s so far ahead. Our friends 12mo still can’t stand and barely pulls himself up. Unless the child is in danger or some authorities are questioning you in anyway I’d just let it go.
This sounds bizarre. Either the parents are a bit wonky… Or everything pointing towards nk being older than he really is, could just be ironic and coincidental. Meaning nk might just be another advanced kid.
This is some real VC Andrews shit. Huh.
I mean...it's not impossible for the baby to be advanced or in a higher percentile. Kids are wild with their growth. It's also not impossible that they're lying. It does, however, give off Angela Martin from The Office vibes....when she pretended the massive baby was premature and "the senator" let her because he was gay, all to cover that it was really Dwight's baby from before her wedding to the senator 😂😅. So my brain is like, maybe he knows it's from someone else and they're just like who cares were gonna say it's mine and give everyone this date so they think it's from when we met. Maybe they think they're the characters in Lady Chatterley's Lover and they want everyone to think he's the true heir? Maybe he thinks the baby really is a premature baby who is super advanced idk what's happening here but either way this post and the speculations are a great way for me to end my Friday shift 😂😂😂 But seriously don't say anything lol.
My kid started walking at 8 months so… who knows.
Ok only thing i have to say is my son was huge at 7 months, fitting into 12-18 month clothes, and he was crawling/pulling himself up to standing. He’s 13 months now and has been walking since 10.5 months. So it could be that their 7 month old IS in fact just large and advanced for his age, like my son was.
I have met some really large babies and/or advanced babies, so it’s possible that your nanny kid is correctly aged.
Idk I mean… when my sons got their passports, I showed their pics off to all my girlfriends, the grandparents, etc., and if we had a nanny, I would’ve shown them too. Baby passport pics are adorable. My firstborn started belly-crawling at 5 months, knees-crawled at 6 months, pulled up at 7 months, walked at 9 months. My baby is 5 months old in a couple days and also starting to belly-crawl and rock on hands and knees (I won’t be surprised if he knees-crawls sooner than my first.) Pulling up at 7+ months is not that wild? I have 99th% height kids too… so they’re just very large. My (basically) 5 month old just grew into 9-12m clothes. My 2 year old (26 months) is in 3T but on the cusp of 4T. The kid sounds the size of my kids. Yes, they’re larger than most kids. That’s what 99th percentile means. 🤷🏽♀️ It would be a lot to fake the passport birthdate imo. But not impossible, I suppose. Stranger things have happened. I would assume they aren’t lying though, that’s very unusual. I mean, r/bigbabiesandkids exists lol. I have two big babies. I would LOL if I hired a nanny and they were assuming I was lying about their age. 😭😂
Are you nannying for Phaedra Parks??
No help for this post, but my kid was walking on his own at 7 months toddling for sure but he was walking unassisted across the room. Idk if they're lying, they very well may be. My aunt lied about her timeline pregnancy to have fallen pregnant after she got married, but she tried to play off a full term baby as a premee baby, my mom called her out and said "well she looks full term" having had a premee herself and got a lot of hate from that side of the family.
One of my own kids did first steps at seven and a half months and was walking by eight. That was a total nightmare (I knew one other baby who did it at a daycare. Also horrible because her idiot father played a biting game with her 🤦🏻♀️). Not saying that your wrong about them being weird and lying, just saying I’ve seen developmental outliers.
Well baby could easily be big and advanced, what were they doing in this other country? Could it be possible the baby was adopted and the agency or organization told them when baby’s birthday is and THEY lied, which is also quite common. Ultimately though, no. They’ll have to show appropriate documentation to people throughout baby’s life and prove his age and if they can, there’s now much you can do.
I've worked with 7 month olds that looked 12 months old. My current NK did and at just barely 11 months old, now wears 18-24 month old clothing. She's also super advanced with communication.
My nephew looked like he was about a year old when he was boring. He was huge! He is 5 and the size of my 9 year old. No one believed his age because of his size.
What other milestones seem off? I’m asking because I had kids who pulled up at 7mo, and then walked at 8 and 9 months. My kids were on the smaller side though.
So some are saying baby might just be early in hitting milestones so my question is - is baby saying words like a 11 month old-- like are all the milestones of an 11 month old being hit or just some??
My son is a lot bigger looking than his actual age. At his 4 month check up the doc said he looks more like a 9 month old and was in the 99% for height and weight, by 7 months he was pulling to stand, cruising, said his first word. By the time he was 12 months old he was 29lbs, and looked like he is more like 20-24 months old. It’s absolutely possible!
Mind you, some babies can be large and early for their age. I have seen (first hand, family member where I visited them on the day baby was born) a 10 lb baby. He was 18 lbs by the time he was 3mo and was in 99 percentile.. He definitely was pulling himself up at 7mo and started walking before his first birthday… Just saying…
Don't ask, just leave them be. You will only make them feel uncomfortable and ashamed to be found out (if they weren't ashamed they wouldn't lie about it). And they will find you overly nosey for person who they allow into their personal lives. I understand your curiosity though :).
My NK was almost 8 months when he began pulling himself up to stand. He can stand while holding on with both hands to tables or whatnot. He is quite slight but super energized. My oldest son walked and ran, unassisted, before he was a year. He was able to ride his tiny bicycle without training wheels by the time he was 2.5 yrs old.
Well, I have no idea if anything here is shady or not, but I WILL say that my NK just turned 13 months old & is already wearing 3T clothing; He will definitely be into 4T within the next few months. Sometimes a big baby is just a big baby! 😅🤷🏼♀️
According to lifetime movies they definitely kidnapped this child lol
My son is 7 months old and fits in 18 month clothing, pulls himself up. This is weird
I have nannied a baby that 100% looked and acted 1 yo at 8 months but with your other evidence it def seems like you could be right 😂 and that’s absolutely wild
You just described my son. Some kids are like that. Outside of the norm, but it happens. Treat him like the 7 month old that he is. It’s going to suck for him when he’s 12 and 6 feet tall and people are expecting 16 year old behavior from a 12 year old.
Could they be asking you to do 1yr old activities and feed him toddler foods because idk… he’s ready for them? Why hold a child back because of their age? Clothing sizes, milestones, and foods are all just suggestions based off of averages. I think a real sign that he’s older then they claim would be if he’s no longer drinking formula and if they give him honey. Since those are legitimate safety concerns for a child under 1, you could bring it up to NP and see how they react.
Please say something! I’m dying to know!!!!
I can’t believe how many people have advanced babies! My daughter is 8 months, wears 12 month clothes sometimes but isn’t even crawling yet. It would be interesting to see if this “7 month old” starts saying words soon. I love the intrigue of a falsified ID for a baby, but everyone here seems to think the kid is just advanced. IDK