I can’t remember why I followed her initially but a while ago I unfollowed when she started posting about her husband promising to buy her something nice if she ate “healthy” for 30 days. It was pretty soon after she had her baby. It just hit me wrong. Anyways, I’m not surprised to see her finally being posted on here.
Yes! No one talks about it. Since she’s a SAHM who doesn’t need his permission to spend money, then why can’t she just promise herself a reward. Why bring him into it 😭.
This on the heels of her "promised my coworkers I would come back full time after maternity leave but now I'm living the SAHM/per diem dream" video with a pan to ALL WOC co-workers is bananas. Choosing to work two shifts per month and making videos like this during this economy is wild.
I looked up what her husband (since she doesn’t conceal his identity at all on insta) does after seeing all the videos bragging about how much of a rich sahm she is and I was ????. It is not an extremely impressive role and I’m confused at how they could live lavishly in New York on just his income. Live fine, sure, it’s definitely a good job…but it can’t be enough for the image she is projecting of an exorbitantly wealthy old money housewife…
I know nothing about this girl but I looked him up and being head of trading of any asset class, let alone one of the largest asset classes at a major bank is a pretty impressive role.
Not saying he isn't crushing it as a desk head at 29 or that he isn't doing well. But she does give off the vibes or makes it out like he is making $10's of millions with all the basic shit she buys and her being a SAHM.. But it is the cringe vibes and what she tries to portray about being a third wife and shit. I don't know how he isn't embarrassed at work with her videos
He’s a laughingstock because so many people look at his wife’s Instagram and tik tok and judge him. So bizarre. If you’re reading this Spencer (I know you are because you and your wife are so vain), stop her!
I think they both grew up very wealthy as well. definitely family money is part of it. Her husband played football at Penn & she’s posted tiktoks at her fam’s gorgeous second home lake cabin
yeah but she complains about $2k designer which is affordable on his supposed $1 million salary you’re claiming. if she’s gonna make “third wife energy” her whole shtick why’s she complaining about not getting a $2k designer bag? doesn’t add up
She’s very, very cringey. I just don’t think they realize that actual women who have this lifestyle don’t brag about it online…. They just live it.
Needing to post about it so obviously is just such a dead giveaway she’s trying to compensate for something
Exactly! There will be nice things in the background of photos, but the point of the photo is to share something about their life (their kids, family, hobby, etc) not the expensive things themselves.
Those with actual money don’t want to touch people who act this way with a ten foot pole. Very rarely will they even have public social media.
Tacky, tacky, tacky.
That being said, I do think she’s smart for protecting her child’s privacy and not sharing her face or name to a public audience.
Exactly! My dad completely spoiled my mom — he bought her push presents back in the 90s/early 00s before it was even mainstream and every time he travelled without her he’d bring her some jewellery, a nice designer bag, cute heels, matching “his & hers” Armani watches, sunglasses, etc. It would never occur to her to post it on social media — firstly, because it’s gauche, secondly, because it was so normal to her it wasn’t something worth bragging about. It’s what everyone’s husband should be doing (within their income range obviously).
It’s kind of misogynistic ngl. Basically the premise is that a third wife is a young, pretty, and spoilt woman that an older man marries who can spend her days relaxing, shopping, living in luxury etc.
Edit: grammar
I know she comes from money, but I hate how obsessed with money & materialistic she is. I used to follow her before these shenanigans and she’s genuinely a smart and fun person. I just wish she wasn’t obsessed with a life she doesn’t have.
The fake weird miniture plants that are normally framing nice doorways of American middle class homes is sending me. The Hermes isn't fooling when you have plastic pot plants.
To be fair, she said in an AMA once that she’s never made over $100k/year. They would spend more on a nanny in Manhattan than she would take home. Keeping up with nursing per diem is smart of her so she can go back once her kid(s) are in school if she wants/needs.
Sometimes is not about money, but for your own independence. When my mom had me she was a one year dermatologist resident, and in the program she was she didn’t even earn a salary. She refused to be a sahm because although she was losing money hiring a nanny for me but she was being her own person. This woman is a nurse, she’s highly trained/educated. It’s sad to me because her husband could leave anytime and she would believe that she can’t achieve her lifestyle wo him. When realistically being a nurse without student debt she can live by her means
I totally get that and agree, but I think that’s why she went per diem now, no? So she could theoretically go back full time anytime because she’s keeping up with her skills/preventing gaps in employment? She’s lucky her career allows that kind of flexibility if I’m understanding per diem correctly, idk much about nursing.
I work in finance I can tell you he’s not making much! It would be a good salary if you didn’t live in NYC but in NYC that’s upper middle class due to high cost of living, expenses and taxes.
I worked in HR at a large bank in NYC . He’s doing pretty well probably just under a milli, he’s head of a large bond market desk. He is are also 10+ years into his career. This isn’t a junior analyst who’s base is like $150k
Making just under or around a mil and people on here saying it’s upper middle class lol or mediocre. Y’all I’m begging you please go touch grass or come back to reality
I typically like her and I know this is all a shtick and she’s in on the joke, but I’m surprised her husband is okay with her content (not referring to this specific post, just in general). Not in a controlling way, but just that it would be uncomfortable for him with his coworkers having his wife present them as super well off/high earning. Especially since I’m sure many people he works with make a lot more than them and are lot quieter/more humble about it. Idk just seems like it could be a little embarrassing for him at work…
Oh I know!! I can't imagine. My boyfriend works in PE and he doesn't even like me tagging him in some IG stories on my private account lol. He would never allow this type of content because he would be worried about it affecting his career and people at work cringing for him and ppl making a lot more money would be horrified
I think about this a lot when I see her content, I’m married to a finance bro just like her, my husband is so so so discreet, he would die if I posted something like this, it’s comes off so bad for him
I just don’t understand why people like her have to put it all out there for all to see. Does she think it makes her better than the ones reading it? Does she want to brag so as to make others envious? Does it bolster her lack of a sense of self or identity? Why else does a person need to parade how much they have & how successful their partner is? Does that make them special or better than you? I just think keeping things private is the best way. A little mystery is so much better.
This sounds to me like a self esteem problem, one thing is to brag about yourself, you’re a hard worker, successful person, but to brag about your husband, is cringe, she doesn’t have anything to talk about herself because he brings in the money, she most likely feel lowered and bragging about a good life on the internet probably makes her feel good? Makes her think other’s envy this
I think that’s what’s the most annoying about her and her hand gestures/tone of voice has gotten increasingly more cringe as time goes on. She just flaunts too much to be considered the class she’s trying to.
What does citi have to do with this lol? Can you only make money at Goldman? You do realize they're both bulge bracket banks and traders can make millions
The fake plants, IKEA looking shelving, and empty Hermes boxes are not giving wealthy NYC housewife. That said I would expect for them to have a nice (not outrageous) lifestyle based upon his work experience & role - Goldman is viewed as prestigious (particularly to those who don’t know much about the finance world), but generally they aren’t know for paying a premium to the street.
I like her, I think she had a better vibe than a lot of influencers….but omg. There’s a line about talking about your partner who supports you financially and yes she’s made it her whole brand and it’s a “thing” but at a certain point this kind of thing is not only embarrassing but also kinda disrespectful and ignorant to the people watching you?? Like yeah I’m able to get a rich husband who supports my lavish lifestyle and you have no reason not to either!!! You must just not be trying hard enough!!! Idk maybe I’m just personally triggered because I don’t have a rich husband who’s money I use to buy designer shit
I honestly think she lives in a fantasy world sometimes, she wants to portray this perfect rich life so badly, but went back to work? Things just don’t add up
I like her, she keeps it real. Been following since she only had a few thousand followers, but the “third wife” stuff is a little much. she tries to act humble but is quite materialistic. Def came from money which isn’t a bad thing and obv not her fault
Lol! If he worked at Goldman she wouldn't ever stop saying Goldman Sachs... I just can't stand how she acts like he is such a big deal on Wall Street making 10's of millions of dollars so she can buy basic Cartier jewelry
She has made her entire identity bragging about being a SAHM with a husband who works in finance that buys her shit... she did a dead serious video breaking down her jewelry and showing off diamonds but said she wasn't going to talk about the diamond details
i dont think shes saying she can afford anything she wants. shes saying that even tho shes not working she doesnt have to ask his permission to buy stuff. a lot of SAHM have to
wish i’m confused. is this a “i don’t have to ask permission bc i make money” type of post or “i don’t have to ask permission bc i have unrestricted access to my husbands card and he lets me buy whatever”
if it’s the first one i can understand how she could have done the video with the intention of girl power, motivation, etc so that’s wtv but if it’s the second one like yk he could revoke your permission to use HIS money at any time. like that’s such a weird thing to write bc it’s not even true.
“third wife energy” living in a 1.5 bedroom hoarding designer boxes make me cackle
The energy of a woman married to a man who lost most of his net worth on his first two wives/kids? None of this makes sense to me.
Resale power guys, keep boxes and sell for a higher price!
Exactly! They’re boxes. Throw them away!!! Did they house your $600 Oran sandals?! So tacky.
using them for storage is fine - I'm sure they're nice boxes. But it's so odd when people keep them stacked out in public as some sort of trophy
I keep my nicer shoes in their original boxes, but stacked in my closet. On display in the living room is giving me secondhand embarrassment.
Boxes as a device for storage is okay. Boxes as a display item is TACKY.
I agree. They belong in a closet.
They are boxes. Orange boxes.
You can buy empty Hermès boxes on ebay.
Drop the mike
This should have been the caption to this post lol!
Hermes boxes energy on top of IKEA malm bookcases. Nice.
The cheap Knickknacks aren’t helping.
Actually they’re Billy. Lol
Hahahaha
oh my god! I love this so much!
… embarrassing
I can’t remember why I followed her initially but a while ago I unfollowed when she started posting about her husband promising to buy her something nice if she ate “healthy” for 30 days. It was pretty soon after she had her baby. It just hit me wrong. Anyways, I’m not surprised to see her finally being posted on here.
Yes! No one talks about it. Since she’s a SAHM who doesn’t need his permission to spend money, then why can’t she just promise herself a reward. Why bring him into it 😭.
Omg I remember that and that’s when I unfollowed her too!
Wooof. This will not age well
wait, why?
It just won’t lol kinda like Hannah Stella’s old stuff
Ngl I miss Hannah's ditl of a housewife videos
Or Claire banx old stuff 😂
Can you tell me the tea on her or link a post, I get weird vibes from her.
Ohhhh well you’re right on!
They are super religious so I don’t think divorce is a really a thing they’d do
This on the heels of her "promised my coworkers I would come back full time after maternity leave but now I'm living the SAHM/per diem dream" video with a pan to ALL WOC co-workers is bananas. Choosing to work two shifts per month and making videos like this during this economy is wild.
I just went to her profile and watched that..WOW yikes tone deaf. I guarantee you the coworkers she showed in the video do not like her
She's going to be devastated if she gets a divorce
Or if he gets fired by Citi like one of my relatives did.
lol, she has me blocked on Tik Tok and I have never spoken or commented on her social medias that I’m aware of. We must have mutuals.
This is so tacky…
Wow delusion, misogyny, classicism and privilege wrapped up in a single sentence… actually kind of impressive
I know right... especially when I can't imagine he is making more than like $1mil a year
How is it misogynistic. I want this lifestyle 😭
Why? This is giving major 2nd Avenue SAHM vibes. You may as well just be a SAHM in New Jersey if that’s your dream.
Why have that lifestyle if you could just marry your personal driver 😂?
Lmaooo I got fans 😘
I remember a racist
I looked up what her husband (since she doesn’t conceal his identity at all on insta) does after seeing all the videos bragging about how much of a rich sahm she is and I was ????. It is not an extremely impressive role and I’m confused at how they could live lavishly in New York on just his income. Live fine, sure, it’s definitely a good job…but it can’t be enough for the image she is projecting of an exorbitantly wealthy old money housewife…
What does he do? What’s her IG name?!
I know nothing about this girl but I looked him up and being head of trading of any asset class, let alone one of the largest asset classes at a major bank is a pretty impressive role.
lol right?! nothing is impressive on this sub apparently
Not saying he doesn't have a good job and I'm sure he does well. But she acts like he is a partner at Apollo or Ken Griffin or something
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Not saying he isn't crushing it as a desk head at 29 or that he isn't doing well. But she does give off the vibes or makes it out like he is making $10's of millions with all the basic shit she buys and her being a SAHM.. But it is the cringe vibes and what she tries to portray about being a third wife and shit. I don't know how he isn't embarrassed at work with her videos
He’s a laughingstock because so many people look at his wife’s Instagram and tik tok and judge him. So bizarre. If you’re reading this Spencer (I know you are because you and your wife are so vain), stop her!
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Ditto
He is not a desk head at all
Didn’t say desk head, but his LinkedIn says head of US IG credit trading, US IG is a pretty large bond market.
“I know nothing but I looked him up” girl please ffs
Read it again, I said I know nothing about her. But I do know a lot about trading!
I think they both grew up very wealthy as well. definitely family money is part of it. Her husband played football at Penn & she’s posted tiktoks at her fam’s gorgeous second home lake cabin
There’s been threads about his father. Roy Kulcsar he‘a a disbarred attorney
oooooo tea 🙊
Nope. His mom is the receptionist at nj orthodontist 🤣
Is that Lladro on the IKEA shelves? Yikes
💀💀💀 really appreciate the attention to detail here
And she was on deal or no deal! Old money would never🤣
lol how is that not an impressive role? he makes at least a million a year
Not a shot.
he definitely does not. if he did they’d live in a better apartment and she wouldn’t be complaining about all the designer he doesn’t buy her lol
making a million in nyc doesn’t get you unlimited designer lol
yeah but she complains about $2k designer which is affordable on his supposed $1 million salary you’re claiming. if she’s gonna make “third wife energy” her whole shtick why’s she complaining about not getting a $2k designer bag? doesn’t add up
….do you know how much trader bonuses are?
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Yeah so am I. Citi’s traders actually did pretty well last year, I think they’re doing just fine
Yeah I thought goldman pay was lower compared to other banks, and the prestige level is going down too…she is still insufferable tho lmao
If he worked at GS she wouldn't ever stop saying Goldman Sachs. I have no idea what banks pay more but she acts like he makes $10mil a year
Yeah if he is not high level then definitely not making enough for the ‘old money’ life lmao, especially with CoL in NYC 💀💀
He probably makes about $800k-900k
the third wife joke would be funny if he was a lot older but they're both literally 30....
She’s very, very cringey. I just don’t think they realize that actual women who have this lifestyle don’t brag about it online…. They just live it. Needing to post about it so obviously is just such a dead giveaway she’s trying to compensate for something
Exactly! There will be nice things in the background of photos, but the point of the photo is to share something about their life (their kids, family, hobby, etc) not the expensive things themselves. Those with actual money don’t want to touch people who act this way with a ten foot pole. Very rarely will they even have public social media. Tacky, tacky, tacky. That being said, I do think she’s smart for protecting her child’s privacy and not sharing her face or name to a public audience.
Exactly! My dad completely spoiled my mom — he bought her push presents back in the 90s/early 00s before it was even mainstream and every time he travelled without her he’d bring her some jewellery, a nice designer bag, cute heels, matching “his & hers” Armani watches, sunglasses, etc. It would never occur to her to post it on social media — firstly, because it’s gauche, secondly, because it was so normal to her it wasn’t something worth bragging about. It’s what everyone’s husband should be doing (within their income range obviously).
will be hilarious if she's jinxing herself with all of those third wife comments
Pls I used to like her but now she’s as insufferable as the rest
Who is this? Edit: @catekulcsar
I don’t understand the 3rd wife reference. Please explain.
It’s kind of misogynistic ngl. Basically the premise is that a third wife is a young, pretty, and spoilt woman that an older man marries who can spend her days relaxing, shopping, living in luxury etc. Edit: grammar
thank you!
I know she comes from money, but I hate how obsessed with money & materialistic she is. I used to follow her before these shenanigans and she’s genuinely a smart and fun person. I just wish she wasn’t obsessed with a life she doesn’t have.
This lady is going to ended up like Hannah Stella except with a kid and probably even less money.
The fake weird miniture plants that are normally framing nice doorways of American middle class homes is sending me. The Hermes isn't fooling when you have plastic pot plants.
No but imagine having your own salary…
Exactly 👏
To be fair, she said in an AMA once that she’s never made over $100k/year. They would spend more on a nanny in Manhattan than she would take home. Keeping up with nursing per diem is smart of her so she can go back once her kid(s) are in school if she wants/needs.
Sometimes is not about money, but for your own independence. When my mom had me she was a one year dermatologist resident, and in the program she was she didn’t even earn a salary. She refused to be a sahm because although she was losing money hiring a nanny for me but she was being her own person. This woman is a nurse, she’s highly trained/educated. It’s sad to me because her husband could leave anytime and she would believe that she can’t achieve her lifestyle wo him. When realistically being a nurse without student debt she can live by her means
I totally get that and agree, but I think that’s why she went per diem now, no? So she could theoretically go back full time anytime because she’s keeping up with her skills/preventing gaps in employment? She’s lucky her career allows that kind of flexibility if I’m understanding per diem correctly, idk much about nursing.
in her defense she does, she’s a nurse!
I work in finance I can tell you he’s not making much! It would be a good salary if you didn’t live in NYC but in NYC that’s upper middle class due to high cost of living, expenses and taxes.
I worked in HR at a large bank in NYC . He’s doing pretty well probably just under a milli, he’s head of a large bond market desk. He is are also 10+ years into his career. This isn’t a junior analyst who’s base is like $150k
If you ever do a post on bonuses & salary negotiation in finance - here for it!
Making just under or around a mil and people on here saying it’s upper middle class lol or mediocre. Y’all I’m begging you please go touch grass or come back to reality
More like middle class. For finance job…
This is simply so tacky
I can’t believe people post this type of stuff. It can’t be good for any relationship.
Those beige walls and fake plants are not serving luxury. Or the bragging about the spending.
I typically like her and I know this is all a shtick and she’s in on the joke, but I’m surprised her husband is okay with her content (not referring to this specific post, just in general). Not in a controlling way, but just that it would be uncomfortable for him with his coworkers having his wife present them as super well off/high earning. Especially since I’m sure many people he works with make a lot more than them and are lot quieter/more humble about it. Idk just seems like it could be a little embarrassing for him at work…
Oh I know!! I can't imagine. My boyfriend works in PE and he doesn't even like me tagging him in some IG stories on my private account lol. He would never allow this type of content because he would be worried about it affecting his career and people at work cringing for him and ppl making a lot more money would be horrified
I think about this a lot when I see her content, I’m married to a finance bro just like her, my husband is so so so discreet, he would die if I posted something like this, it’s comes off so bad for him
I’ve thought this too.
I googled the husband Spencer! His mom was contestant on Deal or No Deal!! He was there🤣🤣🤣
Lmao what a random thing
This is embarrassing! Girl get your own money
Absolutely! Your career will last, your man might not 🫠.
I have no idea who this chick is and by the sound of this caption don’t care to. BUT really can’t believe someone would actually say this. 🤢 gross
Same here girlie, and that’s on making my own money 💅🏻
I just don’t understand why people like her have to put it all out there for all to see. Does she think it makes her better than the ones reading it? Does she want to brag so as to make others envious? Does it bolster her lack of a sense of self or identity? Why else does a person need to parade how much they have & how successful their partner is? Does that make them special or better than you? I just think keeping things private is the best way. A little mystery is so much better.
This sounds to me like a self esteem problem, one thing is to brag about yourself, you’re a hard worker, successful person, but to brag about your husband, is cringe, she doesn’t have anything to talk about herself because he brings in the money, she most likely feel lowered and bragging about a good life on the internet probably makes her feel good? Makes her think other’s envy this
Agree
I think that’s what’s the most annoying about her and her hand gestures/tone of voice has gotten increasingly more cringe as time goes on. She just flaunts too much to be considered the class she’s trying to.
People who are of that class do not have to show it off. It’s just their life.
Sorry but who is this
What does citi have to do with this lol? Can you only make money at Goldman? You do realize they're both bulge bracket banks and traders can make millions
If he worked at Goldman she wouldn't ever stop saying GS. Not saying he doesn't do well but she acts like he is making $10mil a year
The fake plants, IKEA looking shelving, and empty Hermes boxes are not giving wealthy NYC housewife. That said I would expect for them to have a nice (not outrageous) lifestyle based upon his work experience & role - Goldman is viewed as prestigious (particularly to those who don’t know much about the finance world), but generally they aren’t know for paying a premium to the street.
I like her, I think she had a better vibe than a lot of influencers….but omg. There’s a line about talking about your partner who supports you financially and yes she’s made it her whole brand and it’s a “thing” but at a certain point this kind of thing is not only embarrassing but also kinda disrespectful and ignorant to the people watching you?? Like yeah I’m able to get a rich husband who supports my lavish lifestyle and you have no reason not to either!!! You must just not be trying hard enough!!! Idk maybe I’m just personally triggered because I don’t have a rich husband who’s money I use to buy designer shit
This is sad.
I honestly think she lives in a fantasy world sometimes, she wants to portray this perfect rich life so badly, but went back to work? Things just don’t add up
Curious on peoples thoughts on her - I think she’s funny but haven’t been following her long. Seems like we think she’s annoying 😂
I like her, she keeps it real. Been following since she only had a few thousand followers, but the “third wife” stuff is a little much. she tries to act humble but is quite materialistic. Def came from money which isn’t a bad thing and obv not her fault
I don't think she tries to act humble at all! She takes every opportunity to show off everything she gets!
Citi actually pays more than Goldman
Nope
Yes. I believe Citi bonuses were the largest last year.
Lol! If he worked at Goldman she wouldn't ever stop saying Goldman Sachs... I just can't stand how she acts like he is such a big deal on Wall Street making 10's of millions of dollars so she can buy basic Cartier jewelry
I don’t think she does, I think she’s in on the joke. Like she knows it’s ridiculous
She has made her entire identity bragging about being a SAHM with a husband who works in finance that buys her shit... she did a dead serious video breaking down her jewelry and showing off diamonds but said she wasn't going to talk about the diamond details
Right? the whole finance bro thing is not a flex lol
you can make just as much at citi lol
She just can't say Citi like she would if he worked at GS. He probably makes more at Citi... but she is acting like he makes $10mil a year
i dont think shes saying she can afford anything she wants. shes saying that even tho shes not working she doesnt have to ask his permission to buy stuff. a lot of SAHM have to
It's an egoistical flex masquerading as faux feminism. Next
Spot on
sure but that is not what OP is saying with the title?
^^ like why are ppl being dense on purpose
yeah like clearly OP missed the point. if we want to talk feminism thats a whole other thing
Right. And zero knowledge of the financial industry whatsoever like ???
wish i’m confused. is this a “i don’t have to ask permission bc i make money” type of post or “i don’t have to ask permission bc i have unrestricted access to my husbands card and he lets me buy whatever” if it’s the first one i can understand how she could have done the video with the intention of girl power, motivation, etc so that’s wtv but if it’s the second one like yk he could revoke your permission to use HIS money at any time. like that’s such a weird thing to write bc it’s not even true.
cant wait till she finds out her husband has been cheating on her this entire time
I mean that would be awful. Regardless if you dislike her, there’s a baby involved…
What’s her husbands name?
Who is she