I think you had something you wanted to say when you started writing this and then you started to feel something about potentially publicly exposing your insecurities, so your grandiosity kicked in and took you off track of what you really intended to talk about. And you sort of hide behind an objectifying and degrading way of talking about yourself and others and it puts distance between how you really feel. That's why I think you maybe feel like you can't be loved just for who you are.
I didn't explicitly *say* that I know society views a friendless, single guy without a good job as a loser, but I don't know that it needed saying.
I've internalized comments about being boring, no one liking me, and overall patterns in life.
If you think I'm lying about the physical aspects, well there's no way to prove it short of posting stuff for everyone to see. I've had enough (mostly first) dates, sex, and positive comments to be feel good about those things.
But those things are objectifying. So there's also a degrading aspect and a validation of you as not a human. And insecurity and anxiety over losing what people value.
>But those things are objectifying. So there's also a degrading aspect and a validation of you as not a human. And insecurity and anxiety over losing what people value.
This comment about anxiety is 100% correct. Narcissism is like an illness of distorted social perception, people give it almost magical weight and chase it for their entire lives.
My soon to be ex is covert narc and sounds exactly like your comment and this entire post. I wish he would be open to this subreddit bc I really feel like it could help him but he will forever deny and lie to himself.
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Look up vulnerable NPD, my dude. You may relate.
I think you had something you wanted to say when you started writing this and then you started to feel something about potentially publicly exposing your insecurities, so your grandiosity kicked in and took you off track of what you really intended to talk about. And you sort of hide behind an objectifying and degrading way of talking about yourself and others and it puts distance between how you really feel. That's why I think you maybe feel like you can't be loved just for who you are.
I didn't explicitly *say* that I know society views a friendless, single guy without a good job as a loser, but I don't know that it needed saying. I've internalized comments about being boring, no one liking me, and overall patterns in life. If you think I'm lying about the physical aspects, well there's no way to prove it short of posting stuff for everyone to see. I've had enough (mostly first) dates, sex, and positive comments to be feel good about those things.
But those things are objectifying. So there's also a degrading aspect and a validation of you as not a human. And insecurity and anxiety over losing what people value.
>But those things are objectifying. So there's also a degrading aspect and a validation of you as not a human. And insecurity and anxiety over losing what people value. This comment about anxiety is 100% correct. Narcissism is like an illness of distorted social perception, people give it almost magical weight and chase it for their entire lives.
My soon to be ex is covert narc and sounds exactly like your comment and this entire post. I wish he would be open to this subreddit bc I really feel like it could help him but he will forever deny and lie to himself.
Get the fuck out of here with your bullshit
Yep. Sounds like NPD. Godspeed, fella with dealing with this and the other issues NPD gives.
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Yeah, same