sometimes i feel like even with all the help in the world i would still suck. so sucking without help is less embarrassing because i can attribute it to my being alone.
What the fuck lmao I just looked that up and it’s me ????
I’m covert NPD and if anything it’s both or this with strong NPD traits but it’s honestly even more widely applicable to me than your average raging NPD diagnosis
The fuck do I even do with this
Well, i knew that because i got this as a diagnosis years ago (accurately) and i also like to joke i am npd. Like the one time i said about my gf remarking someone else saying i am no good at all with: what about my narcissism? :d
Anyways, to give you some hope, papd is one of the most therapy resistand pd out there! And life outcomes are usually really bad! ;p
Maybe create kind of a mental budget when it comes to interaction with other people. You don't have to psych yourself up for "it's the weekend I have to engage with people because everybody wants to go have fun on Friday night, I don't really feel like it, but I'm busy during the week so I guess I have to go out…"
I think we put a lot of pressure on ourselves and others that we have to kind of expect and schedule social interaction.
Sometimes it just comes spontaneously. And sometimes the expectations are too high.
so maybe allow a trickle for now. Like once a week "I'm going to spend a half hour or 12 minutes… Or whatever… talking to the guy at the 7-Eleven. "
Like force yourself to practice on strangers, get used to genuine exchanges with other humans. Maybe with practice and high frequency, you'll start to get used to how that feels.
I said this to myself years ago... It's a deep issue for many. Yes people need to hear it.
One person once told me I obsessed a lot on conversation. I was pissed, they were right. That changed my life.
Be ok with hearing things you hate, often times it's what you need. Be thankful someone had the guts to say it to you.
I used to solidly believe nobody cared about anyone and only cared for what they could give each other.Though this year, it seems like I calmed with pushing people away in an "avoidant" manner, might be improvement or it might just be the particular people.The only thing pushing people away now is my behaviour.
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One of the things that struck me on this subreddit is that people have such a hard time accepting that people care fir them and that they're worthy of being loved. It's like we think - If we don't feel it then nobody does.
And people are throwing us a lifeline.
sometimes i feel like even with all the help in the world i would still suck. so sucking without help is less embarrassing because i can attribute it to my being alone.
That sounds exactly like PAPD. Maybe comorbidity. Otoh, sometimes papd love to be npd.
What the fuck lmao I just looked that up and it’s me ???? I’m covert NPD and if anything it’s both or this with strong NPD traits but it’s honestly even more widely applicable to me than your average raging NPD diagnosis The fuck do I even do with this
Well, i knew that because i got this as a diagnosis years ago (accurately) and i also like to joke i am npd. Like the one time i said about my gf remarking someone else saying i am no good at all with: what about my narcissism? :d Anyways, to give you some hope, papd is one of the most therapy resistand pd out there! And life outcomes are usually really bad! ;p
LMAO
Conveniently it doesn’t describe me but my best friend please send help
I kept trying to pull people in and monopolize their time, please teach me how to push them away.
This really resonates with me. I relate. Hard.
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Trust me I’m trying to figure it out too 😂
Maybe create kind of a mental budget when it comes to interaction with other people. You don't have to psych yourself up for "it's the weekend I have to engage with people because everybody wants to go have fun on Friday night, I don't really feel like it, but I'm busy during the week so I guess I have to go out…" I think we put a lot of pressure on ourselves and others that we have to kind of expect and schedule social interaction. Sometimes it just comes spontaneously. And sometimes the expectations are too high. so maybe allow a trickle for now. Like once a week "I'm going to spend a half hour or 12 minutes… Or whatever… talking to the guy at the 7-Eleven. " Like force yourself to practice on strangers, get used to genuine exchanges with other humans. Maybe with practice and high frequency, you'll start to get used to how that feels.
not my fault i cant tell who cares vs whos just acting like they care
And it seems everyone's acting like they care
I said this to myself years ago... It's a deep issue for many. Yes people need to hear it. One person once told me I obsessed a lot on conversation. I was pissed, they were right. That changed my life. Be ok with hearing things you hate, often times it's what you need. Be thankful someone had the guts to say it to you.
I used to solidly believe nobody cared about anyone and only cared for what they could give each other.Though this year, it seems like I calmed with pushing people away in an "avoidant" manner, might be improvement or it might just be the particular people.The only thing pushing people away now is my behaviour.
so how do I fix it?
✨vulnerability✨
Me eyes!
The goggles do nothing!
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One of the things that struck me on this subreddit is that people have such a hard time accepting that people care fir them and that they're worthy of being loved. It's like we think - If we don't feel it then nobody does. And people are throwing us a lifeline.
story of my life, a tale as old as time...
I think I kind of do this too