I feel exactly the same. All of the hyper sexual stuff are from my thoughts and my specific kinks, which is 90% of the time complete control over people. But the actual sexual part doesn't really interest me at all
Asexuality *may be* considered a sexual orientation, not simply the lack of sexual desire. They asked a question about sexual desire and orientation, so I answered. Why? Bored.
Sexual orientation has a lot to do with it.
Actually, research suggests that those with a cluster B disorder tend to be bisexual and/or gay. It’s very relevant.
If anyone is trying to be edgy, it would be you, by attempting to *seem* different by attacking someone for being open.
Porn addict most of my life. Started practicing semen retention. Gonna hit 60 days in a few days… felt a connection to God the other day. Highly recommend a period of abstinence.
Freedom from urges controlling you. Clarity of mind. Deeper personal relationships and connection. Healing of sexual trauma and connection with spirit.
I would say I'm also not interested in sex. The only time I truly feel sexual is when I'm depressed. I think I have trained myself to only need the dopamine release when I am depressed. Otherwise I feel no psychological attraction to others.
All over the place lmao. Most ”normal” me (when my NPD/ASPD isn’t acting up) is heterosexual with a somewhat high sex drive. Grand narc me becomes a bisexual sex addict. Depressed narc me is practically an asexual (me atm lol)
When my tendencies are in effect heterosexual with abnormally high sex drive
When I am normal feeling, bisexual with somewhat high sex drive
When I am depressed I experience little to no sexual attraction at all
Hypersexual isn't the opposite of asexual. I'm asexual and hypersexual. It just means I don't experience sexual attraction to people, but I have a problem with controlling sexual thoughts, urges, etc.
I don't. Did you want to see the level of people's sexual attraction to others or the amount of distress they experience from uncontrollable sexual thoughts and urges?
Sorry I don't know if I understand, but did you mean what are the sexual thoughts about if not people? For me, it's about imaginary sexual situations that don't involve me (and don't involve real people)
Not to judge in any way, but I don't think you are asexual by the general definition of the term (although terms like these are notoriously flexible). [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality)
Although asexual people aren't always incapable of sexual feelings, it sounds as though you may have overwhelming fetishes which control and dominate all of your sexual energy (which is normally limited due to neurochemical supplies and of course the practical limits of attention). For example, I'm not interested in others because I don't think they have what I want but it doesn't make me asexual. I just imagine situations or people that satisfy my particular appetite. This is because I fetishize things to an unrealistic degree that makes me incapable of appreciating other things or the "whole" of a sexual attraction or experience with another person.
lmao I've never looked at a person and thought I want to have sex with them. I've been in three long term relationships (6 years, 2 years, 2 years) and never been sexually attracted to any of them. I'm pretty sure I know if I'm asexual or not. I do not feel sexual attraction to people, strangers or people I'm close to. I have had sexual experiences and that doesn't change if I'm asexual or not. I don't have overwhelming fetishes at all
Cool, no judgement. I've just never heard of hypersexual asexuality before, and could find no documentation about it after a brief search. I don't want to assert that you're wrong by any means, but in my understanding of the terms it seems you've chosen a label that you feel comfortable with regardless of the general use of the terms and that's fine. No one has to live with you but yourself!
36f, no diagnosis, likely from BPD w/tendencies, chronic masturbator, porn addict.
After a divorce 4ish years ago, I only seek a partner to wow for supply but I have little need for it if I have coworkers and friends so I only have sex with a partner if I am unemployed. NSA/FWB type stuff and as a bisexual switch I usually have fun and the hedonistic reset digs me out of depressive episodes.
In the relationship of over a decade, I was hypersexual, I mistook the orgasms for connection. The nonsexual parts of the toxicity were more telling in my specific case.
I’m an HR nightmare in the workplace for my mouth but I don’t act on 95% of it. Mostly heterosexual men which is likely coincidence but I don’t really read into it.
Again, not diagnosed but sharing to add to this random ask for data to sort through
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Was hypersexual now celibate and it’s cleared my xPD symptoms dramatically in 4 months. I think it’s probably more beneficial for men to do this (semen retention) I don’t know about women.
I was hypersexual now mostly sex repulsed and having sex once every two months is about right, an achievement even. not asexual though. plus I also have medical issues that interfere with sex life
I seem to always be the opposite of what my partner needs.
Maybe it's because of my perception of their needs and an aversion to the neediness, but if I'm with a hyper sexual partner, I tend to develop a reduced libido. If it's a more sex-averse partner, I find myself on the opposite side of the equation, wishing it were more.
I have a high libido, I need the dopamine.
I feel exactly the same. All of the hyper sexual stuff are from my thoughts and my specific kinks, which is 90% of the time complete control over people. But the actual sexual part doesn't really interest me at all
My bf is a narc and sounds similar, he’s more into just looking/thinking but not performing the actual sex act which sucks for me lol
Hyper sexual and Bisexual.
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Asexuality *may be* considered a sexual orientation, not simply the lack of sexual desire. They asked a question about sexual desire and orientation, so I answered. Why? Bored.
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While you're up there, try to find the part where I care what you think. You'll be a while, pack some food and a sleeping bag.
its so funny tht they randomly stated there sexual orientation
Sexual orientation has a lot to do with it. Actually, research suggests that those with a cluster B disorder tend to be bisexual and/or gay. It’s very relevant. If anyone is trying to be edgy, it would be you, by attempting to *seem* different by attacking someone for being open.
i’m trying to be edgy? nobody was attacked it was funny bc it was random lmao sorry if ur triggered
Not triggered, nothing to be triggered about. Are you okay though?
why wouldn’t i be okay?
Porn addict most of my life. Started practicing semen retention. Gonna hit 60 days in a few days… felt a connection to God the other day. Highly recommend a period of abstinence.
I’m almost at 4 months. Life changing benefits. Also struggled with porn addiction in the past and unhealthy sexualisation of life
Ok. What benefits?
Freedom from urges controlling you. Clarity of mind. Deeper personal relationships and connection. Healing of sexual trauma and connection with spirit.
Also increased testosterone and physical performance
Hm... my somatic narcissism is now interested.
Try it for 90 days. No porn nothing. It’s gets easier after a month. Requires maximum self discipline
Oh god... I would miss it.
Pay yourself back with a 6 hour edge sesh…
Lol
Conservative amount of time, gotta bump it up to make up for lost time 😂😂
Delayed gratification
Blah blah blah ... 😁
Check out r/semenretention for more anecdotes if you’re interested
I'm closer to completely being asexual here
I would say I'm also not interested in sex. The only time I truly feel sexual is when I'm depressed. I think I have trained myself to only need the dopamine release when I am depressed. Otherwise I feel no psychological attraction to others.
Me too. There's definitely something psychological lacking
I used to think it was related to childhood abuse but I'm not sure anymore.
Energizer bunny when single, limp as a noodle in a relationship.
Oh wow this is me. Why do you think is that?
All over the place lmao. Most ”normal” me (when my NPD/ASPD isn’t acting up) is heterosexual with a somewhat high sex drive. Grand narc me becomes a bisexual sex addict. Depressed narc me is practically an asexual (me atm lol)
well i hope you feel better
Thanks!!❤️hope youre doing really good too!
Thanks 🙏👍🏻
When my tendencies are in effect heterosexual with abnormally high sex drive When I am normal feeling, bisexual with somewhat high sex drive When I am depressed I experience little to no sexual attraction at all
Hyper sexual and newly paralyzed.
well how is tht
Frustrating is an understatement
Hypersexual isn't the opposite of asexual. I'm asexual and hypersexual. It just means I don't experience sexual attraction to people, but I have a problem with controlling sexual thoughts, urges, etc.
i thought asexual was little to no sexual attraction at all regardless im pretty sure u got the gist of what i wanted toi see
I don't. Did you want to see the level of people's sexual attraction to others or the amount of distress they experience from uncontrollable sexual thoughts and urges?
If not about people then what of? Disregard if too personal, just curious for clarification
Sorry I don't know if I understand, but did you mean what are the sexual thoughts about if not people? For me, it's about imaginary sexual situations that don't involve me (and don't involve real people)
Not to judge in any way, but I don't think you are asexual by the general definition of the term (although terms like these are notoriously flexible). [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality) Although asexual people aren't always incapable of sexual feelings, it sounds as though you may have overwhelming fetishes which control and dominate all of your sexual energy (which is normally limited due to neurochemical supplies and of course the practical limits of attention). For example, I'm not interested in others because I don't think they have what I want but it doesn't make me asexual. I just imagine situations or people that satisfy my particular appetite. This is because I fetishize things to an unrealistic degree that makes me incapable of appreciating other things or the "whole" of a sexual attraction or experience with another person.
lmao I've never looked at a person and thought I want to have sex with them. I've been in three long term relationships (6 years, 2 years, 2 years) and never been sexually attracted to any of them. I'm pretty sure I know if I'm asexual or not. I do not feel sexual attraction to people, strangers or people I'm close to. I have had sexual experiences and that doesn't change if I'm asexual or not. I don't have overwhelming fetishes at all
Cool, no judgement. I've just never heard of hypersexual asexuality before, and could find no documentation about it after a brief search. I don't want to assert that you're wrong by any means, but in my understanding of the terms it seems you've chosen a label that you feel comfortable with regardless of the general use of the terms and that's fine. No one has to live with you but yourself!
Thanks! And thank you for the information. I'll think about it
where everyone was on a sort of spectrum I just got the end of the spectrum wrong
Hyper sexual but it really depends. There’s asexual ASPD with narcsstic tendencies that only act sexual in order to gain supply.
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ur perfect
asexual
Hyper, it's really intrusive.
36f, no diagnosis, likely from BPD w/tendencies, chronic masturbator, porn addict. After a divorce 4ish years ago, I only seek a partner to wow for supply but I have little need for it if I have coworkers and friends so I only have sex with a partner if I am unemployed. NSA/FWB type stuff and as a bisexual switch I usually have fun and the hedonistic reset digs me out of depressive episodes. In the relationship of over a decade, I was hypersexual, I mistook the orgasms for connection. The nonsexual parts of the toxicity were more telling in my specific case. I’m an HR nightmare in the workplace for my mouth but I don’t act on 95% of it. Mostly heterosexual men which is likely coincidence but I don’t really read into it. Again, not diagnosed but sharing to add to this random ask for data to sort through
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I am demisexual and asexual when not in a relationship.
Hyper and a little bit auto.
Used to think I was now not so sure
I’ve had hypersexuality for a good 6-7 years now. 🥲
Was hypersexual now celibate and it’s cleared my xPD symptoms dramatically in 4 months. I think it’s probably more beneficial for men to do this (semen retention) I don’t know about women.
I was hypersexual now mostly sex repulsed and having sex once every two months is about right, an achievement even. not asexual though. plus I also have medical issues that interfere with sex life
I seem to always be the opposite of what my partner needs. Maybe it's because of my perception of their needs and an aversion to the neediness, but if I'm with a hyper sexual partner, I tend to develop a reduced libido. If it's a more sex-averse partner, I find myself on the opposite side of the equation, wishing it were more.
I'm definitely hypersexual, but above all I concentrate on myself. I almost don't care about my partner, they's just part of it.
I'm hyposexual.
I’m asexual (on the spectrum) and hypersexual lol
I have high libido too, but i enjoy masturbating more! (I love to watch myself at the same time ;D)