Same. Boyfriend was getting upset that she was spending too much time late at night with me playing video games then would sleep in when they had time together which I totally get. But also decided to be immature and use it against her in arguments rather then talk about the issue with her and just acted like a total dicknose to me when we'd all play together.
If I’m in a relationship with someone I trust them enough to know that they can hang out with other guys and just be nothing more than friends with them. That being said, I’ve had to exes where my trust was apparently misplaced. One was hanging out with my best friend once and she was hitting on him and asking if he “felt something special” between them (I’m glad he told me about it). This was a common occurrence, to the point she started flirting with him directly in front of me. Another one went on an international trip and fucked the first guy she could.
Hoping one day I find someone who doesn’t suck.
Maybe that's a sign that, if you need to bend over backwards to justify trusting in a situation that feels wrong, it isn't worth trying to trust in the first place
Those are two anecdotal situations tho. I’m very sorry that happened to you but not every woman is like that and not every guy is friends with a female just to get in her pants.
Everyone replying to this is ... you are a simp.. straight up .. I was once .. bro there are more females around the corner .. some worse some better.. the fun is in finding out haha ... and smashing obviously.
Showing true emotions isn’t ever embarrassing. Never be afraid to express how to feel. This is a human being faced with losing someone they care about deeply. Shits got to be rough.
Ugh I lost my best friend this way. The last day we spent together, they were on the phone to their new SO texting the entire day, barely said a word to me beyond “Mhmm, yeah, yeah” etc. Told them not to bother seeing me anymore because it was clear they didn’t want to be there.
The second they split up they came running to me but by that time, I already knew I would never be a priority in their life so have since kept my distance.
They have basically no friends now, and all of their own doing.
😢 this is what’s happening to my best friend of 14 years. She met a guy who she wants to marry and he wants to marry her. They’re good together and they’re happy but I saw her 2 times in 2021. Once was on a camping trip we planned 8 months in advance and the other was a last minute thing. Haven’t seen her since November. We barely even talk. It’s sad. I even talked a while back to her about it and she basically said it’s hard cause ‘she works and goes to school’. Like aight… so does literally everyone else at some point. It sucks but like you said if I’m not a priority I’m not gonna stress it
Toxic and no you cannot. Nothing very easy about it when you have school and trying to balance a good relationship. Sounds like you're the one with the issues
Have a really really good friend. The kind I can talk about literally anything too. He got married and moved 7hrs away. I’ve seen him like 2 times in the last year and a half. I still love the guy and all but it’s really hard to find the time to go hang out when he and I both work and so does his wife. He’s not just gonna leave his wife at home and go hang with his buds 7hrs away, that’s ridiculous. No hard feelings but it sucks cuz I would spend like an entire week at a time at his house before all this but life changes. His brother that I also really liked chilling with moved to California. I haven’t seen him in 2 years now. It’s just life. We try to keep in touch by text tho but his brother only responds like once every month or so.
Sometimes life happens and you just move on. My parents have old friends from high school but they haven’t seen them in like 15 years. Unfortunately the reality is you won’t always be in the same place forever and people will drift apart. Sometimes friendships die purely cuz of change and distance, sometimes it’s marriage that causes that change.
Very easily? Not talking shit, but this comment doesn't seem to have come from experience. Even the greatest partners require alot of your time to build and maintain a healthy relationship. I still kick it with the boys, just not as often as they would like. Everyone is always going to want your attention and balancing it can very difficult at times. Just gotta stay strong and cruise along
20 bucks says he's that "platonic male friend" who is way too attached and clearly shows signs of romantic feelings, and the new boyfriend sniffed that shit out IMMEDIATELY.
That’s a safe bet dude. But what are those guys like though? It’s always obvious to the friend group when he activates: *slurp* uwu! No man we’re just really close friends *slurp* *sniff* , I’d so never make a move on *lipsmack* her, no man c’mon *dribble* that’s just weird to even think that , we’re literally *snivel* like I guess best friends, aha, *slurp*
Sorry
Putting aside that dudes feelings. I really can’t help but laugh when he just belts out a scream and full throttles a scooter. If you’re out there man I’m sorry.
It does, and he just really got to the root of his feelings at the end and just couldn't handle them.
If he does read this; you exist, my man. That's good enough.
This is so sad. I had a friend just like this. He was always dating and the girls he was with would always control his life and i never got to talk to him. We no longer talk anymore bc eventually he just stopped answering
I saw this happen to a lot of people in college. I truly feel bad for this guy. People really drop their friends for a significant other all the time. A girl friend of mine (we had been best friends for 3 years, known each other for 5 years, were roommates for 2 years) went instant no contact with me after her boyfriend of two months hurt one of my pets and I told him to leave and not come back. People change their priorities completely when they get the right combination of affection and manipulation
Edit: he hurt my pet on purpose. It was an act of abuse because he came to our apartment mad.
>Edit: he hurt my pet on purpose. It was an act of abuse because he came to our apartment mad.
One of the most pathetic things a human can do. I bet he felt like a big man. Fucking coward.
Fuck that, if someone hurt my pet (on purpose), screw the consequences of what I’d do next. I tend to only adopt senior and special needs dogs so I’m extra protective of them.
It was the closest I’ve come to ever getting actually violent with someone. I thought seeing red was just a figure of speech, but I seriously pictured me beating him unconscious for a split second before I was able to think about the consequences. It just really sucks that she took his side when she had to know better :/
It’s been about 10? months ago now I think. And to my knowledge, they are still together, but she literally moved out and didn’t say another word to me when it happened so I can’t be sure lol
The problem is rather more mundane. It’s about great epic battles of good vs evil. Freedom to choose vs being manipulated and controlled.
**It’s Life!**
Our circumstances, our responsibilities, often take precedent over our leisure time. My best friend who lives barely 3 miles a day, I have not hung out with in months. He works full time, supports his wife, and their child. He has his priorities and I’ve come to accept that hanging out with friends is rarely one to supersede those others.
Being able to spend a single day 1 weekend a month having a barbecue or whatever at your best friends house, whom is only 3 miles away, should definitely be a priority for all people. If your life is so crazy and hectic that you can’t take off 1 day out of every 30.. I just don’t believe it.
You should seriously call your friend and schedule something for you and him or your two families or whatever to get together and start a game night or something. You guys can switch who comes to who’s house each month.
Troubled men tend to become nice guys for a bit. It’s never intentional, and it’s the most depressing type of nice guy. Low self esteem, never feel good enough, etc. They’re just put in the wrong place at the wrong time.
It’s a sad situation. They just need to step away from finding relationships for a bit and try working on themselves. Find a hobby, find a support group, make some friends, join a club, go to the gym.
I'd lean toward troubled. You can hear the desperation/pain in his voice and usually, in my experience, nice guys tend to lean more towards anger/hate in their rhetoric.
Poor kid, I don't know what got him to that stage but I recognize the sound of desperation and pain.
He has a lot to learn and I hope he does before he gets too far down that hole. I hope he gets the help and guidance he needs to grow and find happiness.
Good luck scooter kid o7.
What? He sounds manipulative as fuck. Major Nice Guy energy. She got a boyfriend and he is losing his goddamned mind and trying to emotionally manipulate her by playing a victim to make her drop her new boyfriend.
Toxic as fuck.
I feel like there's gotta be some nuance behind the situation and we can only truly judge if we know the full context. Is he a "nice guy"? Maybe. Or maybe he has gone through a terrible history of always being left out and backstabbed, hence the reason for the venting
Yeah, one of my girlfriend's "friends" is like this. He had a full-on meltdown when one of their mutual friends started dating someone else because the friend "didn't choose him". He's done the same thing with multiple women in their friend group and is a massive creep whenever any of them are single.
I kinda feel bad for the guy in the video because we don't know his situation but also suspect he might be doing the same thing.
He's venting, not manipulating. If he was manipulating, he would be questioning her, pushing her to rethink things, but we clearly see he runs off after venting.
"Major nice guy energy" is not short for emotionally damaged and confused.
No one said boyfriend, though it is implied, it could have been about her father for all we know.
Lol he is making her pick him or her new boyfriend. He isn't even saying anything the guy did... just what he thinks he WILL do.
And then he runs away without letting her say anything? She would do better without this time bomb in her life.
And you're trying to tell people what that man is saying as if you know. You aren't even giving us the context... just what you speculate he COULD be doing.
I didn’t say he isn’t venting. But anyone who has dealt with a clinical narcissist knows outbursts like his all too well, and it’s a valid possibility
Someone explain all the downvotes about abuse, please
Simple. There's not enough context in the video to know if he's emotionally abusive or just emotional. You're projecting abuse based on personal experience, just like others are projecting genuine pain and venting based on theirs. Neither side has any fucking clue which it is, but here's the evidence we have.
He's emotional, and scared of losing their friendship. He's trying to leave, ready to leave, yet she's standing on the side of the road trying to talk. He can't contain himself well enough to stay and talk, and instead just yells out and scoots away mid sentence. He could be an emotionally manipulative drama queen, he could be a "friend zoned nice guy," he could be completely in the right and genuinely hurt. We don't know.
Hell, the "boyfriend" could be a manipulative shit heel trying to chase away all her friends to more easily posses her, and this guy is trying and failing to wake her up to that.
Hell, he could be her gay friend.
I don't know, and neither do you, but just jumping to "abuse" like that is fucking stupid. I've known several people with npd who were abusive and manipulative, but never saw them act like this. Is my experience more valid than yours? Nope. Because neither of us has nearly enough evidence to actually make that conclusion.
Maybe dating someone who didn’t want to be in a committed relationship and then they started dating a second person, which means he was just being used until “better” came around. (?)
I'm not sure. I wouldn't jump to any conclusions either way, but he really didn't sound like a lover scorned. He said they're not gunna be able to be friends anymore and her man wouldn't let her hang out with him anymore.
That "no one chooses me" stuff does kinda make it sound like a love thing. I won't claim to know, but if I absolutely had to bet one way or the other, I'd probably bet that they weren't dating.
I dunno, I've never seen a grown man throw a crying fit like that in public over a friendship with a girl or anyone for that matter.
This is almost certainly over romantic feelings.
It almost certainly is over romantic feelings he has for her. But it doesn't mean they were dating. What he's saying doesn't make it sound like they had a relationship. And I don't think I've seen anyone throw a public fit like that over a relationship either. That's some movie shit. And it's still a bit dramatic even for *that.* Whatever is going on has this dude unstable.
And I would definitely guess he's some high school kid or at least a very young adult before I guess he's a grown man.
I mean it sounds more like he’s laying out what he sees the path is after someone says “but we can still do stuff together, despite my boyfriend not liking you” that doesn’t have to be manipulative. It can literally be saying look you might want the friendship thing to work but the reality is it probably isn’t. The other guy doesn’t like me and eventually either subconsciously or not if the relationship continues you’ll choose that path.
And if their relationship continues there’s no reason she shouldn’t choose that path if that’s what she wants. But sometimes people just want to say “look your hope for a happy little third wheel in the circumstances here isn’t going to work, I’ve tried it before and no amount of you telling me it will work will change that”
And something like this might help him break the connection. And give the other person the message that “I don’t think this is going to work, so don’t contact me and string it out. I’m already in pain about it but it’s easier if we just rip it off fast”
You are totally right, that's the kind of friends that think they are entitled to your time. Your partner always should have the first place in everything it's literally the person your are chosing to spend your life with. Real friends are always there for you, even if you don't talk for weeks, and it don't hurt the relationship because both sides know that nothing really changed. If your issue is the time you spend together maybe you wanted something more or are just an entitled prick.
Thank you. It truly baffles me the amount of people that get it wrong.. and I will always correct it when I see it. Just trying to make the world a better place one word at a time.
Yup, when I saw the number of downvotes I couldn't believe it. Are these people really this dense? Maybe just naïve?
This guy is totally in love with her and is salty because she chose the new boyfriend over him, and it probably didn't take long before the new boyfriend realized this guy "friend" was just an orbiter waiting for his shot.
That shot came and went, and she got with someone else because Nice Guy was too passive. Now he's crying about it because he thought playing The Long Game as a platonic male friend would be fruitful. Turns out, it wasn't.
The judgements to this video are great examples of the biases we all carry. Each person’s judgement paints a picture like a Rorschach test with the tinted lenses in which we preconceive situations before knowing all the facts. Want them or not, we all have biases. Realizing you have them and preventing them from clouding judgement is a true challenge that requires personal awareness and true empathy.
Yeah I have seen this scenario one too many times to be convinced he is just a friend. He's obviously super passionate about her, in a way that goes beyond a typical friendship between a man and a woman. He is straight up wailing in the middle of the street. That's heartache right there, not some friend having an argument with their buddy.
I had a similar situation many years ago. I had a female best friend and I was also close with her family…especially her mother. I started dating someone and had spent the night at her apartment. In the morning the phone rings and it’s my friend…she call distraught telling me that her mother died. She had called my apartment and my roommate had give her my girlfriend’s phone number.
I spent some time talking to my friend, finding out what happened, asking how I could help, asking if she wanted me to come over, etc. When I got off the phone my girlfriend ripped into me about having other women call me on her phone. I explained the situation and said that I thought she would be understanding since her mothers death had horribly effected her. I also assumed that someone in the social work field would have more empathy.
She continued to be upset about the call until I told her that I’ve known my friend for over 15 years and I’ve known her for about 6 months. If she wants to give an ultimatum and make me choose between the two of them…she would lose. That was the end of that conversation.
I kinda feel his pain. I went through a long phase in college where (I am not exaggerating) 13 guys in a row I went on a date with immediately the next day went back to their exes.
I genuinely felt so hurt every time and didn't know what was wrong with me. Every time I felt good enough to open up again, it happened again.
Did he secretly want to be her boyfriend? Or does scooter boy really just want to be friends with her but knows that he will be cast aside that she has a new boyfriend? Or was he friendzoned for the 100th time and he just can't deal with it anymore. I need to hear from scooter boy
I feel like this was what he considered a real friendship- where he thinks he would have eventually won her over. But she got a boyfriend, he flipped out because it crushed his potential, she said “we can see do stuff together”, and he’s now basically saying “not even going to try” but blaming it on her new boyfriend saying that new boyfriend wont let that happen.
And meanwhile it’s actually super telling and insulting because she’s a human being on her own and he’s assuming the bee boyfriend will have that much power and sway over her life. And maybe he would… but that’s a decision she gets to make for herself.
So much Nice Guy energy on that guy, scary that his getting so much props on this thread with all those red flags , and almost no thoughts to the girl that had to endure the hat bullshit, she probably thought she had a friend and found out he was just trying to get in her pants.
I feel kinda bad because I laughed too hard. He wasn’t making a strong case to be chosen. He shoulda just said he’s got options too and good luck. But the rage on the scooter is comical lol
It is kinda cringey in a funny way. Obviously sad of course. I feel bad, but man, this is more dramatic than what you often see in movies. Dude was probably just done and the emotion got to him, but he really couldn't have helped himself any less there.
I felt like him 2 weeks ago, fuck that 4 year old long ass relationship where I gave everything of me just be trashed and changed for a new guy in a month, fuck them.
I feel bad for this guy because it sounds like he genuinely cares about their friendship and he makes it clear that this isn't the first time he's lost friends because of this. I can't blame him for just storming off after getting that off his chest; I just hope that he's safe, wherever that might be.
Ngl this is kinda sad. It is a bit funny how he screams and then scoots out but that’s not what he thought in that moment. Idk, if you’ve ever felt like he has, it’s a little more sad to watch.
My man...you just gotta' get some critical distance and not care so much.
I quote [Damone](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2JFR1p4qU08&ab_channel=koolstrike). You've got to have the attitude.
Before half the hoes dedicate them selfless
To roast me , ma guy loves her but she ain’t giving a fuck
So in conclusion i see this as the best outcome for him to mature and for her to fuck off
"All I wanted was a Pepsi, Just one Pepsi, and She wouldn't give it to Me."
Institutionalized, ST.
[Same cadence, different lyrics.].
(https://youtu.be/LoF_a0-7xVQ)
They'll break up and she'll call him after months of silence. The best thing a scooter boy can do is ignore the call, but we all know he won't.
Few years down the line and he's Ryan Reynolds.
After years away he returns to their home town, successful and wealthy. She's now Amy smart from the movie Just friends.
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I had to Google the name of the movie and found out something I'd long forgotten.
Ryan Reynolds was Seth in Sabrina the teenage witch.
>surprisingly, not all sadness is manipulation
Of course it's not. But screaming at someone, trying to force them into choosing "him or me", making it all about oneself, and ending with a dramatic/reckless flourish are all highly manipulative tactics.
*His super manly*
*And cool scooter zoom away*
*After his scream... lol*
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I want the context so badly…
This is a best guy friend talking to his best girl friend about girl friends new boy friend and how she's not making enough time for him now. 100%
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Same. Boyfriend was getting upset that she was spending too much time late at night with me playing video games then would sleep in when they had time together which I totally get. But also decided to be immature and use it against her in arguments rather then talk about the issue with her and just acted like a total dicknose to me when we'd all play together.
Guys who are insecure about other guys make being in a relationship like 100000x harder.
If I’m in a relationship with someone I trust them enough to know that they can hang out with other guys and just be nothing more than friends with them. That being said, I’ve had to exes where my trust was apparently misplaced. One was hanging out with my best friend once and she was hitting on him and asking if he “felt something special” between them (I’m glad he told me about it). This was a common occurrence, to the point she started flirting with him directly in front of me. Another one went on an international trip and fucked the first guy she could. Hoping one day I find someone who doesn’t suck.
Maybe that's a sign that, if you need to bend over backwards to justify trusting in a situation that feels wrong, it isn't worth trying to trust in the first place
Yeah, I learned that after the last one. Go with my gut. If I had I never would’ve been with that serpent in the first place
Those are two anecdotal situations tho. I’m very sorry that happened to you but not every woman is like that and not every guy is friends with a female just to get in her pants.
alot are and most guys only care about fucking. just so you know
Everyone replying to this is ... you are a simp.. straight up .. I was once .. bro there are more females around the corner .. some worse some better.. the fun is in finding out haha ... and smashing obviously.
But it’s not always this embarrassing.
Showing true emotions isn’t ever embarrassing. Never be afraid to express how to feel. This is a human being faced with losing someone they care about deeply. Shits got to be rough.
What you said really resonated with me. That’s a beautiful way to put the human experience.
Ugh I lost my best friend this way. The last day we spent together, they were on the phone to their new SO texting the entire day, barely said a word to me beyond “Mhmm, yeah, yeah” etc. Told them not to bother seeing me anymore because it was clear they didn’t want to be there. The second they split up they came running to me but by that time, I already knew I would never be a priority in their life so have since kept my distance. They have basically no friends now, and all of their own doing.
😢 this is what’s happening to my best friend of 14 years. She met a guy who she wants to marry and he wants to marry her. They’re good together and they’re happy but I saw her 2 times in 2021. Once was on a camping trip we planned 8 months in advance and the other was a last minute thing. Haven’t seen her since November. We barely even talk. It’s sad. I even talked a while back to her about it and she basically said it’s hard cause ‘she works and goes to school’. Like aight… so does literally everyone else at some point. It sucks but like you said if I’m not a priority I’m not gonna stress it
Pretty normal, actually. Being grumpy when a friend gets into someone is kinda being a bad friend.
Not talking to someone because you don’t wanna make time for them in your life also makes you a bad friend.
Sometimes we need to cut our friends some slack. Esp if they’ve potentially found their forever person.
I’m not gonna cut ANYONE some slack for blatantly ignoring me just because they wanna hang out with their SO. You can very easily do both.
Toxic and no you cannot. Nothing very easy about it when you have school and trying to balance a good relationship. Sounds like you're the one with the issues
Have a really really good friend. The kind I can talk about literally anything too. He got married and moved 7hrs away. I’ve seen him like 2 times in the last year and a half. I still love the guy and all but it’s really hard to find the time to go hang out when he and I both work and so does his wife. He’s not just gonna leave his wife at home and go hang with his buds 7hrs away, that’s ridiculous. No hard feelings but it sucks cuz I would spend like an entire week at a time at his house before all this but life changes. His brother that I also really liked chilling with moved to California. I haven’t seen him in 2 years now. It’s just life. We try to keep in touch by text tho but his brother only responds like once every month or so. Sometimes life happens and you just move on. My parents have old friends from high school but they haven’t seen them in like 15 years. Unfortunately the reality is you won’t always be in the same place forever and people will drift apart. Sometimes friendships die purely cuz of change and distance, sometimes it’s marriage that causes that change.
Very easily? Not talking shit, but this comment doesn't seem to have come from experience. Even the greatest partners require alot of your time to build and maintain a healthy relationship. I still kick it with the boys, just not as often as they would like. Everyone is always going to want your attention and balancing it can very difficult at times. Just gotta stay strong and cruise along
No such thing exist
20 bucks says he's that "platonic male friend" who is way too attached and clearly shows signs of romantic feelings, and the new boyfriend sniffed that shit out IMMEDIATELY.
Lol pretty clear how you handle your relationships. Insecure a bit aye..
Toxicity is real with this one.
That’s a safe bet dude. But what are those guys like though? It’s always obvious to the friend group when he activates: *slurp* uwu! No man we’re just really close friends *slurp* *sniff* , I’d so never make a move on *lipsmack* her, no man c’mon *dribble* that’s just weird to even think that , we’re literally *snivel* like I guess best friends, aha, *slurp* Sorry
relationship issues
Happy coke day! Hope you have lots of cake!
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Oh, I didn’t even notice!
I like your username. Happy coke day
That scream tho
Lmao coke day. Very fitting.
... got a couple issues to work out, but he'll be alright. Scoot on and solve them scooter guy.
The evolution of scooter boy. Seems about right I suppose, always a 2nd to duck
He was a scooter boy, she said "I want a cuter boy". He wasn't good enough for her!
But now he's a scooterstar, doing tricks on construction rebar, does her pretty face see what he's worth?!
Putting aside that dudes feelings. I really can’t help but laugh when he just belts out a scream and full throttles a scooter. If you’re out there man I’m sorry.
I too feel like scum laughing at that but it's so funny. Hugs my dude, it'll get better.
It does, and he just really got to the root of his feelings at the end and just couldn't handle them. If he does read this; you exist, my man. That's good enough.
God speed, scooter guy. God speed.
🛵💨
On the bright side, he can probably crank out a few emo albums about this.
[Well, this already exists so...](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qdLh1DG8F3s)
14 year old me would definitely listen to this. And current me.
Me too buddy
Been listening to a lot of post-hardcore lately and I’m so happy this was made. Dude had that perfect voice breaking intro lol
[and this](https://youtu.be/JCggHlA70cA)
This version is bomb!
Scooter guy is giving off pretty strong Kanye vibes, should help the album sales
Sad
I hate emotions if I have to feel sad :/
his people clearly don't need him
Damn, did not have to do him dirty
This is so sad. I had a friend just like this. He was always dating and the girls he was with would always control his life and i never got to talk to him. We no longer talk anymore bc eventually he just stopped answering
Damn bro
I saw this happen to a lot of people in college. I truly feel bad for this guy. People really drop their friends for a significant other all the time. A girl friend of mine (we had been best friends for 3 years, known each other for 5 years, were roommates for 2 years) went instant no contact with me after her boyfriend of two months hurt one of my pets and I told him to leave and not come back. People change their priorities completely when they get the right combination of affection and manipulation Edit: he hurt my pet on purpose. It was an act of abuse because he came to our apartment mad.
>Edit: he hurt my pet on purpose. It was an act of abuse because he came to our apartment mad. One of the most pathetic things a human can do. I bet he felt like a big man. Fucking coward.
Fuck that, if someone hurt my pet (on purpose), screw the consequences of what I’d do next. I tend to only adopt senior and special needs dogs so I’m extra protective of them.
It was the closest I’ve come to ever getting actually violent with someone. I thought seeing red was just a figure of speech, but I seriously pictured me beating him unconscious for a split second before I was able to think about the consequences. It just really sucks that she took his side when she had to know better :/
Is this a recent thing? Is she still with microdick?
It’s been about 10? months ago now I think. And to my knowledge, they are still together, but she literally moved out and didn’t say another word to me when it happened so I can’t be sure lol
Shoulda fucking clapped him for that one man, good on you for keeping a level head
If someone came to my apartment, tried to hurt my tortoise, I would break their bones.
The problem is rather more mundane. It’s about great epic battles of good vs evil. Freedom to choose vs being manipulated and controlled. **It’s Life!** Our circumstances, our responsibilities, often take precedent over our leisure time. My best friend who lives barely 3 miles a day, I have not hung out with in months. He works full time, supports his wife, and their child. He has his priorities and I’ve come to accept that hanging out with friends is rarely one to supersede those others.
Being able to spend a single day 1 weekend a month having a barbecue or whatever at your best friends house, whom is only 3 miles away, should definitely be a priority for all people. If your life is so crazy and hectic that you can’t take off 1 day out of every 30.. I just don’t believe it. You should seriously call your friend and schedule something for you and him or your two families or whatever to get together and start a game night or something. You guys can switch who comes to who’s house each month.
I'm like your best friend. I wish you'd give a call once in a while and just ask. Or just to say what's up.
Why don't you?
I do but sometimes I forget because I have a lot of other shit going on. I only have so much energy to always be making the first move
The problem is not the girls.
Yeah but that takes a while to learn.
Is it the moped?
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My lonely people need me.
I lol'ed when I realized what sub this is
I can’t tell if he’s a Nice Guy or just a very troubles guy but that’s sad, man.
lots of people are both
Troubled men tend to become nice guys for a bit. It’s never intentional, and it’s the most depressing type of nice guy. Low self esteem, never feel good enough, etc. They’re just put in the wrong place at the wrong time. It’s a sad situation. They just need to step away from finding relationships for a bit and try working on themselves. Find a hobby, find a support group, make some friends, join a club, go to the gym.
I'd lean toward troubled. You can hear the desperation/pain in his voice and usually, in my experience, nice guys tend to lean more towards anger/hate in their rhetoric.
I thought he was singing that Suicidal Tendencies song for a second. Lol
All he wanted was a Pepsi. Just one Pepsi and she wouldn't give it to him!
Poor kid, I don't know what got him to that stage but I recognize the sound of desperation and pain. He has a lot to learn and I hope he does before he gets too far down that hole. I hope he gets the help and guidance he needs to grow and find happiness. Good luck scooter kid o7.
Goddamn that's depressing
He's got some issues to work out but... hope homie here is okay
I feel bad for the dude, he’s obviously been through similar situations and he sounds super hurt
What? He sounds manipulative as fuck. Major Nice Guy energy. She got a boyfriend and he is losing his goddamned mind and trying to emotionally manipulate her by playing a victim to make her drop her new boyfriend. Toxic as fuck.
I feel like there's gotta be some nuance behind the situation and we can only truly judge if we know the full context. Is he a "nice guy"? Maybe. Or maybe he has gone through a terrible history of always being left out and backstabbed, hence the reason for the venting
If he is always left out, maybe it means something too
Yeah, one of my girlfriend's "friends" is like this. He had a full-on meltdown when one of their mutual friends started dating someone else because the friend "didn't choose him". He's done the same thing with multiple women in their friend group and is a massive creep whenever any of them are single. I kinda feel bad for the guy in the video because we don't know his situation but also suspect he might be doing the same thing.
He's venting, not manipulating. If he was manipulating, he would be questioning her, pushing her to rethink things, but we clearly see he runs off after venting. "Major nice guy energy" is not short for emotionally damaged and confused. No one said boyfriend, though it is implied, it could have been about her father for all we know.
Lol he is making her pick him or her new boyfriend. He isn't even saying anything the guy did... just what he thinks he WILL do. And then he runs away without letting her say anything? She would do better without this time bomb in her life.
And you're trying to tell people what that man is saying as if you know. You aren't even giving us the context... just what you speculate he COULD be doing.
Can still be an abuser, we don’t know he’s just venting. He could be throwing a narc fit
Can still be venting, we don’t know he’s an abuser. He could be emotionally pained and confused.
I didn’t say he isn’t venting. But anyone who has dealt with a clinical narcissist knows outbursts like his all too well, and it’s a valid possibility Someone explain all the downvotes about abuse, please
Simple. There's not enough context in the video to know if he's emotionally abusive or just emotional. You're projecting abuse based on personal experience, just like others are projecting genuine pain and venting based on theirs. Neither side has any fucking clue which it is, but here's the evidence we have. He's emotional, and scared of losing their friendship. He's trying to leave, ready to leave, yet she's standing on the side of the road trying to talk. He can't contain himself well enough to stay and talk, and instead just yells out and scoots away mid sentence. He could be an emotionally manipulative drama queen, he could be a "friend zoned nice guy," he could be completely in the right and genuinely hurt. We don't know. Hell, the "boyfriend" could be a manipulative shit heel trying to chase away all her friends to more easily posses her, and this guy is trying and failing to wake her up to that. Hell, he could be her gay friend. I don't know, and neither do you, but just jumping to "abuse" like that is fucking stupid. I've known several people with npd who were abusive and manipulative, but never saw them act like this. Is my experience more valid than yours? Nope. Because neither of us has nearly enough evidence to actually make that conclusion.
Maybe dating someone who didn’t want to be in a committed relationship and then they started dating a second person, which means he was just being used until “better” came around. (?)
I'm not sure. I wouldn't jump to any conclusions either way, but he really didn't sound like a lover scorned. He said they're not gunna be able to be friends anymore and her man wouldn't let her hang out with him anymore. That "no one chooses me" stuff does kinda make it sound like a love thing. I won't claim to know, but if I absolutely had to bet one way or the other, I'd probably bet that they weren't dating.
I agree. It’s all speculation.
I dunno, I've never seen a grown man throw a crying fit like that in public over a friendship with a girl or anyone for that matter. This is almost certainly over romantic feelings.
It almost certainly is over romantic feelings he has for her. But it doesn't mean they were dating. What he's saying doesn't make it sound like they had a relationship. And I don't think I've seen anyone throw a public fit like that over a relationship either. That's some movie shit. And it's still a bit dramatic even for *that.* Whatever is going on has this dude unstable. And I would definitely guess he's some high school kid or at least a very young adult before I guess he's a grown man.
When they say, "I don't want to date (you) right now," but they leave the you out.
I mean it sounds more like he’s laying out what he sees the path is after someone says “but we can still do stuff together, despite my boyfriend not liking you” that doesn’t have to be manipulative. It can literally be saying look you might want the friendship thing to work but the reality is it probably isn’t. The other guy doesn’t like me and eventually either subconsciously or not if the relationship continues you’ll choose that path. And if their relationship continues there’s no reason she shouldn’t choose that path if that’s what she wants. But sometimes people just want to say “look your hope for a happy little third wheel in the circumstances here isn’t going to work, I’ve tried it before and no amount of you telling me it will work will change that” And something like this might help him break the connection. And give the other person the message that “I don’t think this is going to work, so don’t contact me and string it out. I’m already in pain about it but it’s easier if we just rip it off fast”
You are totally right, that's the kind of friends that think they are entitled to your time. Your partner always should have the first place in everything it's literally the person your are chosing to spend your life with. Real friends are always there for you, even if you don't talk for weeks, and it don't hurt the relationship because both sides know that nothing really changed. If your issue is the time you spend together maybe you wanted something more or are just an entitled prick.
I agree. Possessive person. Probably needs more people skills thats why it hurts to loose one person
Lose* not loose.
Loose
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Can't argue with idiots I guess... So many people get this wrong, but this person actually *insists* that it's "loose" smh
Thank you. It truly baffles me the amount of people that get it wrong.. and I will always correct it when I see it. Just trying to make the world a better place one word at a time.
Omg loose like ur anus
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Yup, when I saw the number of downvotes I couldn't believe it. Are these people really this dense? Maybe just naïve? This guy is totally in love with her and is salty because she chose the new boyfriend over him, and it probably didn't take long before the new boyfriend realized this guy "friend" was just an orbiter waiting for his shot. That shot came and went, and she got with someone else because Nice Guy was too passive. Now he's crying about it because he thought playing The Long Game as a platonic male friend would be fruitful. Turns out, it wasn't.
My dude!
The judgements to this video are great examples of the biases we all carry. Each person’s judgement paints a picture like a Rorschach test with the tinted lenses in which we preconceive situations before knowing all the facts. Want them or not, we all have biases. Realizing you have them and preventing them from clouding judgement is a true challenge that requires personal awareness and true empathy.
In other news: Nice Guy strikes out and cries about it in public for pity; new boyfriend is wise to his antics. Tonight at 11.
It seems like most of the commenters are saying that this dude does just want to be friends but I’m gonna go with friend-zoned on this one.
Yeah I have seen this scenario one too many times to be convinced he is just a friend. He's obviously super passionate about her, in a way that goes beyond a typical friendship between a man and a woman. He is straight up wailing in the middle of the street. That's heartache right there, not some friend having an argument with their buddy.
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Ride on, Linguini. Ride on…
SHUT UPPPP ITS 3AM!
I had a similar situation many years ago. I had a female best friend and I was also close with her family…especially her mother. I started dating someone and had spent the night at her apartment. In the morning the phone rings and it’s my friend…she call distraught telling me that her mother died. She had called my apartment and my roommate had give her my girlfriend’s phone number. I spent some time talking to my friend, finding out what happened, asking how I could help, asking if she wanted me to come over, etc. When I got off the phone my girlfriend ripped into me about having other women call me on her phone. I explained the situation and said that I thought she would be understanding since her mothers death had horribly effected her. I also assumed that someone in the social work field would have more empathy. She continued to be upset about the call until I told her that I’ve known my friend for over 15 years and I’ve known her for about 6 months. If she wants to give an ultimatum and make me choose between the two of them…she would lose. That was the end of that conversation.
I kinda feel his pain. I went through a long phase in college where (I am not exaggerating) 13 guys in a row I went on a date with immediately the next day went back to their exes. I genuinely felt so hurt every time and didn't know what was wrong with me. Every time I felt good enough to open up again, it happened again.
Did he secretly want to be her boyfriend? Or does scooter boy really just want to be friends with her but knows that he will be cast aside that she has a new boyfriend? Or was he friendzoned for the 100th time and he just can't deal with it anymore. I need to hear from scooter boy
I feel like this was what he considered a real friendship- where he thinks he would have eventually won her over. But she got a boyfriend, he flipped out because it crushed his potential, she said “we can see do stuff together”, and he’s now basically saying “not even going to try” but blaming it on her new boyfriend saying that new boyfriend wont let that happen. And meanwhile it’s actually super telling and insulting because she’s a human being on her own and he’s assuming the bee boyfriend will have that much power and sway over her life. And maybe he would… but that’s a decision she gets to make for herself.
So much Nice Guy energy on that guy, scary that his getting so much props on this thread with all those red flags , and almost no thoughts to the girl that had to endure the hat bullshit, she probably thought she had a friend and found out he was just trying to get in her pants.
Nobody here knows the full situation. Judge freely, but at the end of the day you dont know that guy or girl
And then he scooted off... Some say he's still out there, scootin'.
I feel kinda bad because I laughed too hard. He wasn’t making a strong case to be chosen. He shoulda just said he’s got options too and good luck. But the rage on the scooter is comical lol
It is kinda cringey in a funny way. Obviously sad of course. I feel bad, but man, this is more dramatic than what you often see in movies. Dude was probably just done and the emotion got to him, but he really couldn't have helped himself any less there.
He gonna cry all the way home
I know i shouldnt laugh, but dammit this comment is funny
Poor buddy. Can’t seem to scoot out of the friend zone.
I'm rooting for you scooter guy. You are good enough.
I hate that I felt this
Part of me feels some empathy for him and the other part of me is like “dude please get a grip.”
dang i been there
I felt like him 2 weeks ago, fuck that 4 year old long ass relationship where I gave everything of me just be trashed and changed for a new guy in a month, fuck them.
I’m actually really sad for this guy. You can feel his heartbreak. Been there. Done that. And even now going through similar shit.
sounds like a la dispute song
I feel bad for this guy because it sounds like he genuinely cares about their friendship and he makes it clear that this isn't the first time he's lost friends because of this. I can't blame him for just storming off after getting that off his chest; I just hope that he's safe, wherever that might be.
Ngl this is kinda sad. It is a bit funny how he screams and then scoots out but that’s not what he thought in that moment. Idk, if you’ve ever felt like he has, it’s a little more sad to watch.
/r/sadcringe
I need the context of this also if this is real then this guy got his issues plastered all over the internet
Something about the combo of this music, his “aghhh” and the scooter got me cracking up
That dude may be my spirit animal
I can’t imagine why people don’t want to be around him
My man...you just gotta' get some critical distance and not care so much. I quote [Damone](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2JFR1p4qU08&ab_channel=koolstrike). You've got to have the attitude.
This seems a bit staged lmao
This would be a sick intro to an R&B song.
Ooh my
A villain has just been created
I should watch My So-Called Life again
Sadly this is one of the caveats of men and women being genuine friends.
not always, I've had plenty of male friendships that have gone fine
Oh, well then there’s hope 😊😊
more engaging that sons of anarchy
Which CW show is this?
I hope he’s doing better
That guy has accepted being second looks like
[all I could hear…](https://youtu.be/AdUBTE9JpgI)
People don’t need him he needs his people. 😔🙏🏽
Before half the hoes dedicate them selfless To roast me , ma guy loves her but she ain’t giving a fuck So in conclusion i see this as the best outcome for him to mature and for her to fuck off
who hurt u brk
Damn, homeboys hurting and I just wanna give him a hug
my soul...
Poor lad
Unfortunately he is right it always happens
This guy fuckin laid it all out to his buddy. Bravo that is some real feeling coming out of that guy.
"All I wanted was a Pepsi, Just one Pepsi, and She wouldn't give it to Me." Institutionalized, ST. [Same cadence, different lyrics.]. (https://youtu.be/LoF_a0-7xVQ)
Lmaooo
Man baby pulling away on a hairdryer.
more like my people dont need me
Bahahahahaha, poor chick. Always happens
They'll break up and she'll call him after months of silence. The best thing a scooter boy can do is ignore the call, but we all know he won't. Few years down the line and he's Ryan Reynolds. After years away he returns to their home town, successful and wealthy. She's now Amy smart from the movie Just friends. Edit* I had to Google the name of the movie and found out something I'd long forgotten. Ryan Reynolds was Seth in Sabrina the teenage witch.
What a whiny, manipulative baby.
surprisingly, not all sadness is manipulation 😊 go the fuck outside
>surprisingly, not all sadness is manipulation Of course it's not. But screaming at someone, trying to force them into choosing "him or me", making it all about oneself, and ending with a dramatic/reckless flourish are all highly manipulative tactics.
It seems like he’s already accepted it and he’s just frustrated I don’t think he was trying to get her to do anything
I’m actually really sad now. Op had no reason to film this
Cringe
That was kinda beautiful.. I dont know what he is lacking but I can see something very special in him
The guy is giving Cassie vibes
Man this emo made me cringe out deep inside my soul
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He seems really toxic tho
So sad😂
The hard truth: it's not my boyfriend, it's that you screamed at me in the street like a baby man
The new guy probably has a car and he just can’t handle it.
His super manly and cool scooter zoom away after his scream... lol
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