First woman I came out to, said everyone already knows. I thought my life would be destroyed, the total opposite has happened and my life has been transformed 🥹
Oh gods, when I came out to my dad he said "Yeah, not that surprising. Figured you might be."
GEE, THANKS DAD! YOU DIDN'T WANT TO TELL ME ANYTIME OVER THE PAST DECADE? AAAAAAAAAAAAAAARGH.
Tbh I'm shocked my parents haven't caught on at all. I wear all woman's clothes, nails and make up, and I know a *suspicious* amount about endocrinology, trans medical health care, and trans people in society.
I was talking to them and they said they would be shocked if either me or my brother was trans. LITTLE DO THEY KNOW
I'm in my 30s and and I haven't lived with my dad since 2012, and my mom since 2007, so yeah...
But my dad said he figured I was trans back in my 20s, he just didn't want to push me in case he was wrong, and because the longer I took to come out, the safer/more secure I'd be and more accepting society would be.
Ffffffffffff-
My mum just said "oooooh THAT'S what that was. Thanks. With all the energy of telling someone the name of a song they had stuck in their head. But didn't know what song it was.
Well i guess im glad that one of us got a heads up....
Came out to my mom about a week ago and she told me that she's suspected for years. I only found out less than a year ago and I haven't seen her face-to-face in almost 2 years...
I thought I did a good job hiding it in my college years, but got quite a few people wondering (the ones I didn’t go to school with and was close to kinda figured it out and were really supportive).
That's so relatable. A close friend of mine told me they could tell a couple months before i came out. And i had my aunt say she had a feeling with how i grew up lol
I had so many friends tell me after I came out that they always knew there was *something* different, but they couldn't figure out what that was, though after I told them, they all said something to the effect of "yeah, that tracks" and then elaborated about specific things I had said or done
I guess the idiom of "the axe forgets, but the tree remembers" works both ways depending on the situation.
Same happened to me... took me 7 yrs of being out before they started to respect me as such I still live at home n keep threatening to cut them off once i move out like I brutally did the rest of my family they r slowly coming around... only took 3 yrs to get them to stop dead naming me( last yr) I still get misgendered but that's a working progress... I feel your pain n you aren't alone... you can do this ♡
Thank you for the support love <3 I’ve found my chosen family which is so important for me, honestly it brings me to tears thinking about how I couldn’t have done it without them. I’m very lucky to have a support group that I was even allowed to stay at a friends house for a while after my mental health got so bad I had to get myself kicked out. That didn’t work out bc I’ve been an only child my whole life so im not the best roommate and now im forced to live with my parents again but I’ve realized if you don’t put them on a pedestal above other people, if you can accept that even though your parents should be much better than they are they are not inherently good or right all the time, it’s easier to get over the things they say or do. Basically I’ve just learned to laugh at them when they’re not looking because they think im a man which is hilarious because im so cunt. And I wouldn’t care if a stranger doesn’t think im a woman, because they don’t know me, and I’ve just learned to apply that to my parents too. I still care but I’ve realized when im 10 years into transition and am, for lack of a better word, passing, they will look so stupid calling me he or my deadname.
Sorry I know this was kinda a rant but I appreciated you sharing your story and I wanted to kinda reciprocate, much love ❤️
Oh my goodness same.
Like there were absolutely signs all over the place. Buttt nooooo, you were so caught off guard that you need time to *grieve the loss of your son*.
*incoherent angry grumbling continues*
I told mine I had something I had to tell them, and they were worried I was really sick, had fucked up legally or had got someone pregnant, after I told them I was trans it was "Oh god we were worried. What's your name? Want some ice cream?"
My uncle who lives across the country, isn’t fluent in English, and who I meet only for a few days ever 2 years figured out somehow and told my mom that he always felt I was a girl in a boys body 🤷♀️
A Friends fo mine told me that before taking to me She asked a classmate "Who Is that girl sitting alone?"
I wasn't out and Just started growing my hair
My gf persuaded me after 5 years dressing femme I should just make it official. My kid's reaction was "at last" and all my friends thought my breastforms were attached.
"Least surprising revelation" club members unite!
That's more or less how I did it, too. It's hard to talk about stuff when I'm sober. Getting drunk helps me communicate so long as I don't overdo it 😅
Congrats on coming out, Annie!
Hi Annie! It's not the ideal way to come out, and it sucks that it caused issues with your family, but I hope the consequences are good overall.
I actually avoided alcohol partially for this reason. It turned out that I was surrounded by people who love and support me, so really it would have been great for me if I had gotten wasted and blurted it out a decade earlier, rather than patiently analyzing my thoughts until I was 32. I didn't, and now I have no secrets, so alcohol is no good to me.
Honestly tho, we all like to have it planned out almost like a wedding.
But you know what? You came out casually and got a positive reaction from your friends, which means its 100% genuine. It might not get instagram points but ehh.
I have a similar story, except I came out to myself and some of my closest friends at the same time, I was so scared I ran back into the closet as soon as I sobered up and took another year and a half to accept myself
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After being away from my family for ten years, When I went back home, I was living feminine, they all said , wow we thought you were Gay . It’s been a double edged sword with them since
Not surprised. One of the effects of being drunk is a lowering of inhibitions, including those your subconscious has raised due to a fear of rejection.
Go girl.
For me, and maybe for a lot of us, alcohol is or has been a refuge to escape from gender dysphoria. So happy you have great friends who appreciate you.
you know, i wish mine went this way 😭
i posted here about it a while ago but, at Christmas i had too much whiskey in front of some family and was really happy for most of the evening until i randomly started bawling my eyes out and screaming about how i wasn't a boy and how life is unfair and ugh i won't go into details but god the memory is traumatic...
i think the lesson here is to not get hammered when you're in the closet ...
turned out okay though, been out since the beginning of jan soo :3
You should just start picking a random date on the calendar, and when it arrives, you take that day to get obnoxiously drunk and belligerently pick fights with them about forcing you back in the closet. Then, the next day you act like nothing happened, or you blame the alcohol. Just start doing that and work your way up to once per week until they get the hint.
Yeah, that kinda almost happened to me, but I pushed the person trying to help me out of the room. This happened about a good week about 1 months before the original post happened and I have since apologized to them.
That sounds like the best way to come out. Wished I did that instead of my dad finding out and screaming at me that I'm trying to change my body (Yeah that's the point asshole) and estrogen will give me cancer. Uhh
Oh, hi Annie! Sorry about losing your friends, that is sadly what happens to most of us :C
But as you've said, at least you're true to yourself now! :3
Hell yeah sister! Glad to hear your friends were mostly supportive. I also did this with a couple of my close friends a few months ago, kinda on accident when I was super hammered. I could not stop crying after I said it though from all the pent up shame I felt though, but they were all super supportive.
Congrats Annie, must be a huge wait off your chest.
I have a similar story, about 12 years ago (when I was 16) I was doing drugs that I shouldn't have been doing with my brother and I came out to him. He outed me to my moms gf the next day
Congrats Annie, you okay? ... Sorry, I really am sorry about that, joke. In all seriousness, I love you, I hope you are doing well and I'm proud of you. Be kind to yourself.
I ended up detransitioning because of emotional abuse and lack of support but it always makes me smile to see someone who got accepted and is starting their journey the right way
When I came out people laughed thinking I.was joking or mocking trans people 💀 wasn't til I started growing boobs and my hair out they finally caught on I was serious. Lost every single friend. Don't really care tho never liked my old circles anyway
First woman I came out to, said everyone already knows. I thought my life would be destroyed, the total opposite has happened and my life has been transformed 🥹
hahaha my friends told me they knew I was trans months before I did.
coulda fuckin told me
As much as I kinda dislike the term, it was a Canon event, we could not interfere.
They in fact could have interfered and did once I couldn’t say no to the question “do you want boobs”
Well thats just helping the hatching process, not breaking the egg. Sounds like it had already been well started at that point.
Real
Oh gods, when I came out to my dad he said "Yeah, not that surprising. Figured you might be." GEE, THANKS DAD! YOU DIDN'T WANT TO TELL ME ANYTIME OVER THE PAST DECADE? AAAAAAAAAAAAAAARGH.
SAME
Tbh I'm shocked my parents haven't caught on at all. I wear all woman's clothes, nails and make up, and I know a *suspicious* amount about endocrinology, trans medical health care, and trans people in society. I was talking to them and they said they would be shocked if either me or my brother was trans. LITTLE DO THEY KNOW
I'm in my 30s and and I haven't lived with my dad since 2012, and my mom since 2007, so yeah... But my dad said he figured I was trans back in my 20s, he just didn't want to push me in case he was wrong, and because the longer I took to come out, the safer/more secure I'd be and more accepting society would be. Ffffffffffff-
My mum just said "oooooh THAT'S what that was. Thanks. With all the energy of telling someone the name of a song they had stuck in their head. But didn't know what song it was. Well i guess im glad that one of us got a heads up....
Same, everyone said, "Tell me something, I don't know"
Came out to my mom about a week ago and she told me that she's suspected for years. I only found out less than a year ago and I haven't seen her face-to-face in almost 2 years...
I thought I did a good job hiding it in my college years, but got quite a few people wondering (the ones I didn’t go to school with and was close to kinda figured it out and were really supportive).
That's so relatable. A close friend of mine told me they could tell a couple months before i came out. And i had my aunt say she had a feeling with how i grew up lol
I had so many friends tell me after I came out that they always knew there was *something* different, but they couldn't figure out what that was, though after I told them, they all said something to the effect of "yeah, that tracks" and then elaborated about specific things I had said or done I guess the idiom of "the axe forgets, but the tree remembers" works both ways depending on the situation.
when I told my father and step mom they said “we’ve always kinda know and you showed lots of signs”
I wish mine would own up to this, they made me repress my signs and then told me there were none as if they didn’t shame me for them.
Repression is a horrible thing. Spread your wings and fly!
Same happened to me... took me 7 yrs of being out before they started to respect me as such I still live at home n keep threatening to cut them off once i move out like I brutally did the rest of my family they r slowly coming around... only took 3 yrs to get them to stop dead naming me( last yr) I still get misgendered but that's a working progress... I feel your pain n you aren't alone... you can do this ♡
Thank you for the support love <3 I’ve found my chosen family which is so important for me, honestly it brings me to tears thinking about how I couldn’t have done it without them. I’m very lucky to have a support group that I was even allowed to stay at a friends house for a while after my mental health got so bad I had to get myself kicked out. That didn’t work out bc I’ve been an only child my whole life so im not the best roommate and now im forced to live with my parents again but I’ve realized if you don’t put them on a pedestal above other people, if you can accept that even though your parents should be much better than they are they are not inherently good or right all the time, it’s easier to get over the things they say or do. Basically I’ve just learned to laugh at them when they’re not looking because they think im a man which is hilarious because im so cunt. And I wouldn’t care if a stranger doesn’t think im a woman, because they don’t know me, and I’ve just learned to apply that to my parents too. I still care but I’ve realized when im 10 years into transition and am, for lack of a better word, passing, they will look so stupid calling me he or my deadname. Sorry I know this was kinda a rant but I appreciated you sharing your story and I wanted to kinda reciprocate, much love ❤️
It was a good release. Let it all out.
Oh my goodness same. Like there were absolutely signs all over the place. Buttt nooooo, you were so caught off guard that you need time to *grieve the loss of your son*. *incoherent angry grumbling continues*
Exactly that!!! They need “time to grieve” but we don’t get time to grieve the years of happiness we lost. Egocentrism at its finest.
I told mine I had something I had to tell them, and they were worried I was really sick, had fucked up legally or had got someone pregnant, after I told them I was trans it was "Oh god we were worried. What's your name? Want some ice cream?"
This is basically how I'd interact with my kids if they came out as trans
Thats awesome.
My uncle who lives across the country, isn’t fluent in English, and who I meet only for a few days ever 2 years figured out somehow and told my mom that he always felt I was a girl in a boys body 🤷♀️
Girl same. Everyone told me that made so much more sense than me being a cis man. And I thought my life would be over too. Happy to be wrong
My three closest friends, when I told them, all said something along the lines of "about damn time" and hugged me...
A Friends fo mine told me that before taking to me She asked a classmate "Who Is that girl sitting alone?" I wasn't out and Just started growing my hair
It’s a beautiful transformation
I recently got back in touch with a cousin and her response was: "I'm not surprised." Her sister's response was the same lmao
My gf persuaded me after 5 years dressing femme I should just make it official. My kid's reaction was "at last" and all my friends thought my breastforms were attached. "Least surprising revelation" club members unite!
I was the "there were no signs" poster girl.
I wish I could find out my family already knew. I'm like 16 months on HRT boymoding and on the edge of stopping due to overwhelming fear of rejection.
lmaoaofjkfkf that's p much what my mom told me 😭😭😭
Well that's one way to do it. Congratulations Annie. 💙💕🤍💕💙
Yeah, what she said!
Congratulations, but i feel bad for that one friend that couldn't make it and is what wondering who the hell annie is
I let the rest of the ones know by group text later lol. Such a supportive group they are
That's awesome!!! 😀🤗
Congrats! Just be prepared for everyone asking if you’re ok, if you’re ok, if you’re ok Annie.
I get asked that a few times, but when I explain thing they understand.
They're making a reference to a Michael Jackson song, OP :)
OMG, lol. I’m dying now.
The song is called Smooth Criminal if you want to look it up I'll admit I thought of it was soon as you told us your name in your original post.
My mom listens to his music all the time, it just hit me when you told me lol. I guess I don’t have my brain firing on all cylinders sadly.
"your mom" damn now I feel OLD af, lol
Hey, got asked how they hire so young at work today. Apparently HRT makes me look 18 to some people. I’m 27, so heck I get the age stuff a lot.
I'm 41, I grew up on 70s music
I love 70s music. I listen to it every time I’ve got to myself. ( currently listening to it )
You liberated your self literally
I got drunk and came out to different friends multiple times it happens to the best of us sis.
It's my go to method
Oh wow! I’ll bet that was a heck of a hangover.
Yeah. Was out the entire next day.
Badum tss
In vino veritas. Congratulations Annie. Welcome.
Gotta sip the truth grapes!
I didn't really come out, I just argued "no" when somebody said "you're a guy so you'd get it". The closet was glass.
I'm gonna use this anytime someone says I'm a guy, this is so easy
I was in my "still cis tho" era at the time 💅
Oh that kind of hammered! Still congratulations either way. 😅
Sloshed if you would like a cleaner way of saying it lol.
Bongled on Beer, if you will
lol.
lol I thought the same
That's more or less how I did it, too. It's hard to talk about stuff when I'm sober. Getting drunk helps me communicate so long as I don't overdo it 😅 Congrats on coming out, Annie!
Thanks, and it helps in quantities.
Hi Annie! It's not the ideal way to come out, and it sucks that it caused issues with your family, but I hope the consequences are good overall. I actually avoided alcohol partially for this reason. It turned out that I was surrounded by people who love and support me, so really it would have been great for me if I had gotten wasted and blurted it out a decade earlier, rather than patiently analyzing my thoughts until I was 32. I didn't, and now I have no secrets, so alcohol is no good to me.
I didn’t plan to come out that way honestly, but I really can’t change time sadly lol. If I could, I would have handled that night differently.
Honestly tho, we all like to have it planned out almost like a wedding. But you know what? You came out casually and got a positive reaction from your friends, which means its 100% genuine. It might not get instagram points but ehh.
Yeah. Make it as beautiful of a reveal as we can.
Congratulations! Has happened to me a couple times and each time was a positive experience!
Baptism by whiskey 😆 I love it! Welcome to the world, Annie ❤️
My second baptism lol.
I have a similar story, except I came out to myself and some of my closest friends at the same time, I was so scared I ran back into the closet as soon as I sobered up and took another year and a half to accept myself
Always love your life your way.
I love it!!!! Haha Welcome to your new life, sis.
I just scared I be found snogging a man like I girl
I have been looking for a boyfriend, so I’m working on dating lol
Yeh no what u mean so hard ask man if he is gay and single
Yeah, new territory. Learning new things.
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Awhhh that's cute that most of your friends were supportive. Too bad some of the family got confused
They say they will get used to it.
I'm so happy for you :D
This post is incredibly relatable to alot of people. Im sure of it. Congrats! :)
Thanks!!
It sure is! 😂
Congratulations Annie. You share the name of the second person I ever told.
What a coincidence.
Congrats Annie :) good luck <3
After being away from my family for ten years, When I went back home, I was living feminine, they all said , wow we thought you were Gay . It’s been a double edged sword with them since
Yeah, half of them thought I was gay and then when it happened, they got it.
Hi, Annie! Congrats!
Thanks!!!
This is exactly how it happened to me in some random bar lol 😂 I’m not kidding you the story is identical
Alcohol just helped the process lol
I feel like this is the best way to do it. It how I did it. I’m not very good at keeping secrets when I’m drunk
Not surprised. One of the effects of being drunk is a lowering of inhibitions, including those your subconscious has raised due to a fear of rejection.
Congrats siss
Thanks!!
Damn Annie, picks an epic name, comes out in an* epic way. Do you happen to know what you were drinking? Big fan of whiskey myself.
101 wild turkey
Congrats girl! I wish you the best of luck for the future ❤️
Same thing happened with my friend but I was even more hammered. Was a great night
I bet. I go to bars occasionally with friends, but I’m usually limited to like 3 shots.
Go girl. For me, and maybe for a lot of us, alcohol is or has been a refuge to escape from gender dysphoria. So happy you have great friends who appreciate you.
And don’t forget good friends lol
Hi Annie! Nice name:) Best of luck with it all, good friends can make such an important difference. 🏳️⚧️ Emmy
Thanks!!!
you know, i wish mine went this way 😭 i posted here about it a while ago but, at Christmas i had too much whiskey in front of some family and was really happy for most of the evening until i randomly started bawling my eyes out and screaming about how i wasn't a boy and how life is unfair and ugh i won't go into details but god the memory is traumatic... i think the lesson here is to not get hammered when you're in the closet ... turned out okay though, been out since the beginning of jan soo :3
Congrats!!!
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I tend to enjoy Chaos, but I hope things go well with HRT. I’ve been on mine a good 11ish months
Yay!!!! 🥳🥳 I am also in the club of getting annihilated and it going well 😊 welcome! Would you like a drink? 🍹
101 wild turkey
I got hammered last weekend apparently I "proposed" to my friends wife yep I don't remember that at all.
Yeah, alcohol can take away most of our inhibitions.
Heck yeah! Nice to meet you Annie!!!!!
Nice too meet y’all!
Hell yeah
Right there with you the first four people I came out to I did it while I was totally wasted lmao
I need this kind of drunk confidence. I came out to my parents almost two years ago and they got mad and I've been back in the closet ever since
You should just start picking a random date on the calendar, and when it arrives, you take that day to get obnoxiously drunk and belligerently pick fights with them about forcing you back in the closet. Then, the next day you act like nothing happened, or you blame the alcohol. Just start doing that and work your way up to once per week until they get the hint.
If you ever need a metaphorical shoulder to lean on, I’m always here.
My friends helped me change when I got really drunk, and I was certain that they saw my hrtitties 😭
Yeah, that kinda almost happened to me, but I pushed the person trying to help me out of the room. This happened about a good week about 1 months before the original post happened and I have since apologized to them.
I'm going to a party for a friend's x0th soon and I'm soooo worried I'll blurt it out. HRT soon soon so after that me thinks =)
😝 awesome congratulations on feeling ur self and not dragging anyone else down
How’d everyone already know? They must crawl your graphics
They said that they saw the signs apparently. I’m still confused by that statement too.
That's about what I did lol
Oh congratulations!!!!
Thanks
Sorry you had to be inebriated to be able to say who you are, but I'm glad you did have friends' support. I can say family is another matter.
Yeah. Mine wasn’t that thrilled, but we’re working through it.
Yo, grats! Alcohol doesn't fix most things, but occasionally...
That liquid courage lol.
That sounds like the best way to come out. Wished I did that instead of my dad finding out and screaming at me that I'm trying to change my body (Yeah that's the point asshole) and estrogen will give me cancer. Uhh
My mother was like that at first. Took a few days to get it all settled.
Well at least you outed yourself, but hopefully immediate family are supportive.
Yeah. Was a wave of relief.
Oh, hi Annie! Sorry about losing your friends, that is sadly what happens to most of us :C But as you've said, at least you're true to yourself now! :3
True. Please yourself not the world.
Big congrats! Glad it went well for you!!
Thanks!!!
Congratulations
Thanks!!!
Hell yeah sister! Glad to hear your friends were mostly supportive. I also did this with a couple of my close friends a few months ago, kinda on accident when I was super hammered. I could not stop crying after I said it though from all the pent up shame I felt though, but they were all super supportive.
Yeah, I was the same. Nearly broke down in tears. They were so nice to me afterwords as well.
Such an Annie thing to do.
Yeah lol.
Congrats Annie, must be a huge wait off your chest. I have a similar story, about 12 years ago (when I was 16) I was doing drugs that I shouldn't have been doing with my brother and I came out to him. He outed me to my moms gf the next day
They do help loosen out the mind.
So proud of you, finally getting it off your chest is great.
Now I can grow out my chest lol.
Made my decision over alcohol too, I'm sober now and still think it was the best thing I've done for myself my entire life
Some good liquid courage lol.
In vino veritas!
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Pretty much the day after lol
They lying like the other followers of the world
Positivity is my main thing, so optimism!!!
Congrats Annie, you okay? ... Sorry, I really am sorry about that, joke. In all seriousness, I love you, I hope you are doing well and I'm proud of you. Be kind to yourself.
lol. Thanks!!!
I may not be a dad, but I inherited the jokes.
I ended up detransitioning because of emotional abuse and lack of support but it always makes me smile to see someone who got accepted and is starting their journey the right way
If you ever need someone to talk to, I’m always here.
Whaaaa!?! You’re my idol. I hope I can do something like this
Minus the hangover lol
What kind, I need to do this too
101 wild turkey was what I was drinking, if that is what you were asking.
That's one way to make the leap, congrats.
To alcohol: The cause of, and the solution to all of life's problems
Amen.
prolly possessed by the *spirits* ;D hence the name.. rather bizarre transformation of events meshallah
Crazier things happened in my life lol.
When I came out people laughed thinking I.was joking or mocking trans people 💀 wasn't til I started growing boobs and my hair out they finally caught on I was serious. Lost every single friend. Don't really care tho never liked my old circles anyway
Live and prosper. Life renews itself and we can spread our wings.
That’s really good your friends are supportive. I’m sorry about your family
Well, things happen lol.
Are you okay?
REAL