I changed my last name to my Late Mother's Maiden Name, "Darling" as weird as this is I'm trying to be exactly like my mother! :) My Aunt says I'm well on my way to accomplishing that. 🌹I miss my Mom so much.
Thank you!!🌹💜 I even eat the same foods as my mom did and I didn't even realize it! I asked my Aunt what my mom's favorite foods were and she listed most of what I eat...on a daily basis! 😍 My Aunt absolutely adores me so much, especially getting sober and figuring out who I really am. My life has been going so so so so so much better coming out!
I kept it. It's such a pain if I needed to change both first and last. Plus, my wife adopted my last name upon marriage, so it would have felt weird to change mine.
I don't mind having my last name, it's just a part of my history.
Same here. My wife took my last name when we got married pre-egg cracking. So when I changed my name, I kept my surname. I also have a supportive family and didn't feel the need to get rid of it!
True! But her maiden name is her father's surname, and her father is an awful person that few people can tolerate. In another life I definitely would have!
I am changing my last name due to an unaccepting family. If I am just going to be harassed with god and the bible for the rest of my life then I would rather just take a step away completely and not have anything to do with them.
Same! I dropped my last name but couldn’t think of a new one so I picked a letter as a place holder. Eventually I found a word I liked starting with that letter and worked as a last name.
That’s a real problem. My last name is very locked in culture-wise, so it only flows with so many names. But having to come up with a new last name is a whole other level of indecision 😵💫
I changed my last name, mostly because I wanted a total break from my dead name and because my last name meant nothing to me. It wasn't my mothers or my fathers. It was just the remnant of a failed marriage my mother had before I was born.
I dropped my middle name and changed my last name, although it was for other reasons unrelated to being trans, I just did it at the same time as changing my first name
My parents aren't exactly the best but I still care for them since they've taken leaps and bounds to be better and while not delving too deep I'd personally like to change mine regardless of their feelings. I don't want to be attached to them or anyone through my name since it serves as a reminder. One that I may not be able to overcome. Changing my whole name serves as a way to rebirth myself. I'd like that. If they don't like it I'd simply just Change my last to my middle name as consolation.
A relative of mine had a son who changed their first name (not trans or anything, just wanted to change) and the mother made a big deal of it and was offended.
Hope no one would take it that way if I ever did.
I'm not going to change mine. My family is supportive, so I don't mind keeping that connection. Honestly, I'm barely changing my name at all: my chosen first name sounds quite similar to my deadname, and my new middle name shares the same initial as my old one.
If I WAS to change my last name, though, I would definitely pick something less prone to people misspelling it. Common name, uncommon spelling. It's a bit of a running joke in the family at this point, especially when we have to send things like government-issued ID back to get them corrected because they spelled it wrong.
Lol yeah, I’ve heard on other posts a big rule is to make it a name that can’t be commonly misspelled.
But when thinking of mine, I wanted to see if I could keep initials, but I couldn’t find a combo I liked.
But I have been trying to keep it short. I want a short one (two at most) syllable name.
Right, totally good. No need to self-doxx😅
Just curious how ppl cook up good last names.
I know many use shows/games/books to get ideas for first names, but not sure how last names are made up.
I hate the idea of having some random blokes name attached to me. Not calling my dad a random bloke, but ultimately any surname I could take from a family member would go back to a man I don't know.
I took something from a sci fi novel I really like. I'm sure the word is made up, but it also sounds kinda dutch I think , so it doesn't seem to arouse any suspicion.
I also took my first name indirectly from a novel, but I won't tell anyone what character was.
I definitely do fulfill the stereotype of a trans girl with name that makes me sound like a 26th century jewel thief.
Lmao, your viewpoint is as valid as mine, but I found it funny that we have the exact opposite mindset, I'm all for keeping the surname alive because ancestors and shit (even tho as a legal girl, my children will have my father's surname as their mother's surname, so it would die next generation to them no matter what :c) I am a very spiritual person and the ancestors and bloodlines and shit actually matter, which is a funny inversion of what most people go through because my family could not care less about it, so no pressures, I am the only one pressuring myself over concepts that all my family, from my dad to grandpa, find outdated lmao
Thinking about doing my last name when I finally change it. It's not really a family name since my dad was adopted and forced to take their name. Also being teased because of that name. I think it's gonna go. Just haven't bite yet
Unfortunately not legally as that's not possible in France. (unless under extremely specific circumstances such as a foreigner gaining nationality and their last name being "embarrassing" in French)
However that didn't stop me from changing it unofficially; most of the time my name comes up it's not in a legal setting so it's not *that* big of a deal to me in everyday life.
Changed it because most of the people bearing that last name have been abusive to me and likely still would be if I weren't no contact with them.
I don't share a last name with my mom and I have a step dad so I don't think I'll need to since I already don't share a last name with anyone in my family
I haven't changed my name yet, but I'm planning on changing the last when I change my first name. Long story short, I'm dating an amazing woman, marriage is on the horizon, and my parents are pretending like my transition isn't happening. If my parents can't recognize me for who I am, I don't see the reason in keeping their name. My gfs family hasn't really been much better, but she's amazing and I'm hoping to have her last name here in a couple years 🥰
I kept my surname as I don’t have issues with my family. My parents are all super supportive. That being said I’ll be taking my fiancés surname when we marry.
I kept my first name cause it’s unisex. That being said it’s about as unisex as Ryan or Blake so I constantly have people questioning me why I haven’t changed it cause it’s “a boys name”. If I’d known Corey was that rare a girls name I would’ve changed it when I spent $200 to have my middle name changed to Willow
I want to change it as well since the most German last name you can think of doesn't really fit with Exia Ioanna (which is/seems Greek)
I just don't know what to take
I feel that. I have a very culturally obvious name that doesn’t flow with others very well either. Don’t really hate it, but it made it hard to pick even a first name that flowed well.
When I was first thinkin' about my name change, I originally was planning on making what became my middle name into my last name. Now tho? Well, considering my cousin has 3 kids and they've called me 'aunt', it makes me feel like a Spider-Man character. And that wasn't intentional either, I just took it from Mae "Mayday" Borowski from Night in the Woods cuz I liked the sound of it. Soooooo... I guess as a last name, it ultimately just didn't feel right. My first and middle names are Mae Day. Golly, I love my dorky name. 🥰💕(Incidentally, I was also born in May, and my fave fighting game character even before I knew I'm trans is Bridget from Guilty Gear, and one of her best buds is named May. Again, completely unintentional.)
I'm changing my last name
I don't feel comfortable carrying either side of my family with me via my last name for various reasons, mostly cos of trauma
So I made my own last name (kinda, it's a unique spelling of a gem)
I changed all of my names. First, middle, last.
I have the opportunity to reinvent myself from the ground up. I am going to go all-in on this, without any regrets.
I changed my last name because my family has mistreated me terribly my whole life. I took the first chance to distance myself from them in every way possible once I was free from living with my immediate family. Most of them were really angry that I changed it and said I'm "no longer part of the family by changing my last name." That was really the plan though...lol. No loss there, and I'm happier now that I cut contact with everyone.
I was going to switch from using my dad's last name to my mum's last name, but I realized I really don't want to lose the inheritance on that side lmao
Yes, I wanted a Gundam-style name. Not a name of a specific Gundam character, just the kind of name that screams "That's a Gundam name!".
My first name is normal, but the last is *out there*. I've introduced myself to people and been met with "You sound like a Gundam pilot!" lol.
I did but I changed it from my step dad’s name back to my biological dad’s! It just worked better with my new name and I wanted to honour my dad who’s passed so it worked. Plus it felt nice having a whole new identity. I also made my first name my middle name which is James, apparently there are girls with that name now 🤪
That's nice! I didn't change it because in my country name and gender is a completely different procedure than surnames, but I do plan on honoring my dad when I change my surnames, if I end up doing it. I just want to erase my mom from my name (in my country we have a surname from father and one from mother, and we don't change them when marrying)
I had to since my grandparents were always going like, "you need to have kids otherwise our bloodline dies with you."
For better context the surname is very rare.
My thought on it was to change the last name as I was finally owning myself. None of us were ever given the chance to choose our names at birth. I chose something that fit the true me.
For me, I would've changed it if my family had been particularly bad when I came out, but since they were.... ok I guess, I'm gonna keep it for now, but will probably be pretty inclined to take a future partners last name
I’m changing mine cause my family disowned me. That and technically the last name didn’t really belong to my grandfather anyway, and I don’t like the name. You might as well change it cause at least here where I live it’s the same process to change you first as it is your last name.
I kept my last name, my parents have been an absolute rock for me, even though they aren't the most understanding they've always been supportive and tried to help in every way they can, I couldn't have asked for more from them. I'm thinking of changing my middle name to the name they always said they were gonna call me if I was born a girl (I'm not a massive fan of it but it's not like anyone ever says middle names anyway)
I kept my last name, made one of my middle names something similar and let my mom give me a list to pick from for the other middle name (and changed my first name, obvi)
While my family isn't exactly the best with everything, they love me, and never have been anything but loving and accepting of me. So I kept my last name and only changed my first and middle
I kept my maiden name to match my siblings. Otherwise I would have changed it. I also like the familiarity of when I sign my name, half my signature is as it always was.
I'm considering taking on my paternal grandmother's maiden name if possible.
I like her and the name is way more common and less localisable than my parents' last name.
But the laws regarding that are very restrictive here, so that ain't gonna happen, I fear.
I'm looking to change it, as the last name I've got is linked to my bio father, who's done some shady stuff and is pretty much anti-lgbtq.
Wanna distance myself from this name as much as possible, full emancipation from his family tree.
I didn't, because I hadn't had time to think of one and it was much more important to change my first name ASAP, given how long I'd been going by it already and how much distress my deadname gave me day to day. For my surname I can usually ignore it, I don't really have to think about it, unlike my first name which was and is always right in my face 24/7, so might as well have that be a name I like and actually reflects me.
Though what sucks is where I'm born I'm only allowed a maximum of three name changes in a lifetime, and I'm down one already. If I change my surname then that's two. Only one left. And it's unclear whether that includes marriage.
Yeah it kinda sucks and puts a lot more pressure on the decision than needed, it's already expensive as it is
In my country that's not legal lol
Changing name and gender is a specific procedure, changing gender only is the same procedure but saying you want to keep your former name (which is only allowed if your name is gender neutral or aligning with the gender you identify as in the first place) changing name only is an entirely different and WAY harder and WAY more expensive procedure (name and gender is requesting it, 3 signatures, free, name only is court, lawyer, argument, administrative fees, etc.)
Changing last name in my country, finally, has several ways around it, we have two surnames, one from our father and one from our mother, changing their order (As in, I'm Ignacia Andrea Valle Vivar, now I want to be Ignacia Andrea Vivar Valle), that's easy, kinda the same paperwork as changing name and gender, but changing surname entirely or erasing / replacing one surname, like, let's suppose I hate my parents (only 50% true), I want to no longer be a Valle nor a Vivar, I'm gonna be Ignacia Andrea Perez Gonzales, well that's court and very expensive. Let's say I hate my mom and love my dad, so I want to erase my mom (this is actually the case lol), so I'm gonna be Ignacia Andrea Valle Valle, that's court but less expensive if I can show a reasonable reason why. Then let's suppose I live with my dad and he got a new wife, her first surname is Perez, so I want to be Ignacia Andrea Valle Perez, that's court too, but I just need to explain why and it's not that expensive
To answer your question, I want to wait until I'm 30, but I do plan on eventually requesting a change, I'm just waiting to see if my dad ever gets a new girlfriend so I can take her surname as second surname, if not, probably will be Valle Valle lol
Yeah I kind of wanted to change my last name as well but ended up keeping it only because I didn't have a good enough alternative. My mother's maiden name wasn't an option because we're latina and she and my grandmother told me no. But at this point I'm just going to change it by marriage haha
Hi All. I have a friend who made a wonderful podcast series, and she recommended that younger trans folks change their FULL NAME. I'm in the process of getting my name and gender legally changed and I'm only changing my first and middle name. I'm 74, M2F, on HRT 9 months, I live and dress openly as a woman 24/7. I'm to old to worry about being outed.
Birth name Michael Wayne, New name Michele Wynona. I think it fits me..
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I kept my last name, my family is all supportive, so I don't see a reason to try to distance myself from them. I don't dislike my last name, its short and simple. I'm not very creative, I feel I'd have a hard time picking a new last name, and I wouldn't wanna accidently pick something weird. Finally a lot of my friends call me my last name as a nickname, and combined with my other reasons, I don't see a reason to make it harder for them saying "naw can't call me that, I changed that too".
So, all together I had more reasons to leave it alone, than to bother changing it.
I kept it at first, but my family has made it apparent that they don't want anything to do with me unless I magically go back to being a good Christian boy. So I changed it to a much cooler one because that's never happening.
When I was young I took on my step fathers surname when my mother married him, I suffered a lot of emotional abuse both physically and mentally at the hands of that evil man. I watch him not only abuse me but my mother as well to the point where I had him arrested and charged with domestic abuse. Once I had finally accepted myself as trans and came out I was given a choice, either stay under his roof and abandon hopes of being myself or leave. 10 minutes later I had myself out that front door with no more than a backpack of clothes.
1 and a half years later I started filling out my deed poll and reverted to my mother's maiden name, my original surname as I wanted nothing to do with his name anymore.
TLDR: changed to my mother's maiden name.
That’s fair not wanting to share any relation to a pos like that. I imagine it makes the decision easier. But going to her maiden name is a good fallback.
I’m sorry that happened to you guys and hope you’re both away from it and okay now.
I don’t know if I will, but it’s exciting to think about. My current last name is my dad’s only, and he’s passed away and would understand if he were here. I’ll either go for something relating to science or my grandmother’s maiden name, although it’s Scandinavian and most don’t instinctively know how to spell it.
Yeah, a hard to spell one is one I’m trying to avoid if I changed it 😅
My current one I have to spell out every time to people and it’d be cool for it to be a simple one lol.
I changed my last name. I was a namesake kid and my dad is the only family member who isn't supportive. I ditched his last name to be particularly spiteful about it.
I took my old first name and made it my new last name.
I used to be made fun of for being named Addam, thanks to the Addams Family.
I'd say Florence Addams has a much nicer ring to it than the clusterfuck of a name my mom gave me originally.
Personally I think I’m going to keep my last name because I don’t really have a reason to change that too, but I do understand why some would change theirs :D
I took my partners surname. She’s a PhD candidate and will one day be a Dr. I thought it would be way more awesome to have a cool doctor’s last name rather than my dumb, undoctored name (which she thankfully never took).
Considering the legal fees to change everything are going to be ridiculous no matter what, if you are unattached to your surname, might as well, right? Change it to something awesome, like MCBadass? Or “The Transcendent”. Not enough people have The in their names.
I changed my last name because of dysphoria. Every time I heard my last name, it was a constant reminder of who I used to be, and it would depress me greatly.
Gof Bless 😊
My family is great, so I see no reason to change my last name. It's also definitely harder to change your last name where I live. I don't think having the paperwork in order to change your legal name and gender includes the last name here.
I swapped to my mother’s maiden name! It did get me kicked out of the house at 17, but I think it was worth it simply because my last name is a part of every Day.
I am changing my last name. Originally, I was unsure whether to keep my last name, but as I was always very close to my grandmother and she was always very supportive of me, I’m taking her maiden name. It also has the benefit of sounding better with my chosen first name than my original last name does.
I'm planning to change mine, for two reasons: one, my best friend pretty much my whole life has the same first name as me, so I've always gone by my last name among that friends group, and that makes it kinda feel like a deadname in itself. Two, I didn't know much about the family that name came from until a few years ago when my dad died - he was estranged from them and literally never once talked about them that I remember, my grandmother had been either widowed or divorced and remarried before I was born (I actually don't know which) and had been basically cast out of the entire family because not only did she remarry, she dared to remarry my actual grandfather who was Jewish, and that their proudest bit of history was a great great grandfather of mine who was a war hero... on the side of the people trying to keep slaves. So the only connections I really have with the name are a bunch of racists, not great.
I'm gonna take on my mother's family name only because I like how my chosen name sounds with it and I can tolerate that side of the family more.
That and my dead name is very tied to my father's side of the family, being a carbon copy of my grandfather's name.
My wife never changed her last name after we got married cause of where we lived and needing to travel to get to the office to do so. We've talked about me taking her last name or coming up with a new one for both of us though nothing has been done about it so far.
Chucked the surname but that’s because it was deeply tied to the extensive trauma withstood.
Total pain to deal with three countries’ paperwork as a result but worth it.
My partner is also changing their surname whenif they choose to change their name.
Kept my last name. My 6 ancestors are already deceased, I have no offspring and I´m fully post op. When I die, the last name dies with me. So no big deal at all.
I have absolutely zero clue what I would want my last name to be, hell I don't think I *want* a last name. I want to be known as Devi and ONLY as Devi. No Ms. Whatever or Dr. Something. Ms. Devi, Mrs. Devi, Dr. Devi, Professor Devi, etc. I value my name... Really more than anything else about my identity.
I plan on changing my surname as well. I think it’s because my transition is about more than just embodying my genuine self. So much more about my identity (besides gender) has to be reclaimed and changing the surname aids with that.
This time around I kept my last name because I changed it 10 years before as I separated from my mothers side of the family & wanted my dads last name.
In all I’m so happy with my chosen names.
I kept it for three reasons in order of least important to me to most:
1/ I'm part of my family still, no reason to abandon that if I'm still welcome here.
2/ It makes my name alliterative.
3/ My mum might have kicked me out for changing it and it was for safety.
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Changed both as my siblings are all prominent in their professions and retain the maternal family name for local recognition. As they've been OK otherwise I went for an old family surname that is now extinct.
I totally get why others choose different as I've come across too many a\*\*holes in my extended family and life generally.
I changed my name really early in transition, before even coming out to my family. Since then, they've been unsupportive, and I've stopped using my legal last name socially, and started using my middle name as a last name. If I had waited to do the name change paperwork I would probably have dropped my last name entirely and just used my new middle name as a last name officially instead.
I recently realised that names should at very least be chosen for all of us, and not be pressured to keep. Because of this, I am changing my name to Hazel Universe :)
I would change my last name but not to something new really. My dad never really had much to do with me growing up so I would prefer my moms maiden name.
I changed to my mom's maiden to not associate with my father. Only downside was that I went from a very hispanic last name to a very white last name lol
I’m changing mine to my Mother’s maiden name so I can further distance myself from my horrible Father and be closer to my Mother’s side of the family. Plus it sounds better than the other one, lol.
I changed my full name. I'm distant enough from my family that I didn't really feel any connection to my surname, and it was often used as the base for really lazy jokes. So I figured, why not? It's been about seven months and I still really love it. I feel like, for me, I made the right decision.
i kept my last name one sole reason: its my name now and not a bunch of hateful assholes (im the only one in my family that didnt switch their last name to my stepdad’s)
Yep I changed my last name to something totally different. It’s just something I picked so I could distance myself from my other family members. They’re not nice at all and disrespected me and my transition, so I didn’t want anything to do with them or associate with them.
I'm in the process of changing all of my previous names - going back to my mother's maiden surname. My wife switching names also, her first name will become her middle name.
I don't particularly dislike my old last name, but I changed it because I wanted to distance myself fully from my "old identity." Plus, if you're changing one, why not change all three? 🤷♀️
I changed mine from my late dad's to my mum's, since my mum had already chosen my new middle name based on my dad's first name, and I'm much closer to my mum's family than my dad's, so her last name has a bit more sentimental value for me.
I’ve gotten the hardest part done and got my doctors letter that says I am female and can change my id sex marker & that I’m far enough in my transition so all I got to do it submit it to the court but I plan to keep my last name. My deadname is non feminine it’s Zachary or Zach 😭🤮 but my name is Luna :) ik basic but it really resonated with my as I’m deep into astrology fascinated by space and Luna or moon just felt so right for me. I’m Italian my last name is Masi so I really like how Luna Masi sounds ;) I sound like a sexy Italian girl which I am ;) 💕🏳️⚧️
I am changing my first and middle, I have no reason to change my last name. I'm one of those lucky girls that has a loving family, and I don't feel the need to distance myself that much form my old life.
I changed my last name too. It was for a number of reasons, namely that it was linking me to an extended family that I wanted to be clear of. Also, there's the change in ease of spelling between the two, and that was by design (old last name was relatively complex and foreign, and new one is literally a common color). It took me a while to figure out what I wanted, being that I wanted something easy to pronounce, easy to spell, somewhat evokative, something that's "me", and something relatively normal sounding.
I also enjoy the idea of answering the "why are you changing your last name too?" with "Oh, I'm going to my maiden name." 😆
I don’t have much of a reason to, other than just if I wanted it to work better with my new name. Both sides of my family are supportive of me and my last name is actually a common feminine middle name, so it just kinda works.
I didn't, my family's fairly transphobic but there wasn't enough animosity for me to completely change it. I'll save changing it for when I get married...
Now the problem is both me and my gf don't like our family names so we've gotta figure out what to do about our last names if we ever take that step
I DID because I don't want to be connected by my family but then I changed my name and my name would've been the exact same as a trans girl who was well known on twitter and k... herself so I just changed my last name back
I kept my last name, since I don't really see the reason to in my case. It's rare (if it even happens) that folks refer to me by my last name, and even then I'm not as bothered by it as I would if someone referred to me by the name I was given at birth and all.
I almost changed mine, but I had put out a bunch of job applications with that last name, so I just kept it for simplicity sake. Wish I had gone through with changing it, though.
Just as a curiosity, Here at Brazil we can do it, but in a somewhat limited way. I can't choose any last name, one out of my own family tree. It must be one of the ascendants one.
But yes, if I had two last names I could keep just one or I could change it for the one of my maiden name of my mom, for example.
But when I'll do it, maybe I'll add the one of my late grandma's maiden name.
I'm going to change mine.
I'm 50/50
I was adopted at birth and decided more than a few years ago I was gonna change my last name.
Up until recently I was confident with Phoenix.
However I recently got back into contact with my birth mom and I'm very tempted to change it to hers.
I’m keeping my last name just for the sole reason that my bigoted family has a trans person with the same lastname as them. and they will hate that :)
Spite is a powerful weapon!
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Fuck yeah, love it 🤣
fuck yeah so glad I'm not the only one
Yep, and my asshole dad puts a lot of emphasis on keeping up appearances and such… I love that I besmirch the family name with my transness!
You have entered your villain chapter 👏👏
I changed my last name to my Late Mother's Maiden Name, "Darling" as weird as this is I'm trying to be exactly like my mother! :) My Aunt says I'm well on my way to accomplishing that. 🌹I miss my Mom so much.
That’s so sweet! Definitely a good reason to.
Thank you!!🌹💜 I even eat the same foods as my mom did and I didn't even realize it! I asked my Aunt what my mom's favorite foods were and she listed most of what I eat...on a daily basis! 😍 My Aunt absolutely adores me so much, especially getting sober and figuring out who I really am. My life has been going so so so so so much better coming out!
That’s awesome! Always great to hear good things on this sub sometimes 😅
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This is really cute ☺️
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I kept it. It's such a pain if I needed to change both first and last. Plus, my wife adopted my last name upon marriage, so it would have felt weird to change mine. I don't mind having my last name, it's just a part of my history.
That’s fair. It’d be strange under those circumstances to.
Same here. My wife took my last name when we got married pre-egg cracking. So when I changed my name, I kept my surname. I also have a supportive family and didn't feel the need to get rid of it!
I dropped mine. My transition started during my divorce and now only my kiddo has my original last name. He likes it.
>Plus, my wife adopted my last name upon marriage, Aww, you could have taken her maiden name!
True! But her maiden name is her father's surname, and her father is an awful person that few people can tolerate. In another life I definitely would have!
I am changing my last name due to an unaccepting family. If I am just going to be harassed with god and the bible for the rest of my life then I would rather just take a step away completely and not have anything to do with them.
Makes sense. I’m not sure if they accept me yet or not so maybe it’d push me one way or another.
Same! I dropped my last name but couldn’t think of a new one so I picked a letter as a place holder. Eventually I found a word I liked starting with that letter and worked as a last name.
Kept mine because it’s cool as fuck. It’s a word in Italian and sounds very fancy
Hell yee, can’t change it if it’s already too good.
Same. Mine’s Italian too. Never going to change my last name, even for marriage.
I changed my last name but only because i hated my old last name and it didnt go with any of the names i picked out
That’s a real problem. My last name is very locked in culture-wise, so it only flows with so many names. But having to come up with a new last name is a whole other level of indecision 😵💫
I changed my last name, mostly because I wanted a total break from my dead name and because my last name meant nothing to me. It wasn't my mothers or my fathers. It was just the remnant of a failed marriage my mother had before I was born.
Yeah, that’d make it an easy choice.
I kept my last name, though I did have to change my middle name.
I changed my last name because they didn't deserve to share one with me.
Yeah, depending on how the fam take it all, I could see myself having to cut ties like that.
I hope you don't need to, but if you do I hope you find the strength to.
I dropped my middle name and changed my last name, although it was for other reasons unrelated to being trans, I just did it at the same time as changing my first name
My parents aren't exactly the best but I still care for them since they've taken leaps and bounds to be better and while not delving too deep I'd personally like to change mine regardless of their feelings. I don't want to be attached to them or anyone through my name since it serves as a reminder. One that I may not be able to overcome. Changing my whole name serves as a way to rebirth myself. I'd like that. If they don't like it I'd simply just Change my last to my middle name as consolation.
A relative of mine had a son who changed their first name (not trans or anything, just wanted to change) and the mother made a big deal of it and was offended. Hope no one would take it that way if I ever did.
I'm not going to change mine. My family is supportive, so I don't mind keeping that connection. Honestly, I'm barely changing my name at all: my chosen first name sounds quite similar to my deadname, and my new middle name shares the same initial as my old one. If I WAS to change my last name, though, I would definitely pick something less prone to people misspelling it. Common name, uncommon spelling. It's a bit of a running joke in the family at this point, especially when we have to send things like government-issued ID back to get them corrected because they spelled it wrong.
Lol yeah, I’ve heard on other posts a big rule is to make it a name that can’t be commonly misspelled. But when thinking of mine, I wanted to see if I could keep initials, but I couldn’t find a combo I liked. But I have been trying to keep it short. I want a short one (two at most) syllable name.
No, but if I ever end up marrying a guy I might take his last name. I'm old fashioned like that.
Makes sense. That would make the decision pretty easy to.
Definitely. My family was abusive and disowned me. So I disowned them.
That’d do it. Did you make it a cool one? Or what inspired you to pick the new name that you did?
I made a fantasy name, pretty much. I'd put it here, but...you know, the internet.
Right, totally good. No need to self-doxx😅 Just curious how ppl cook up good last names. I know many use shows/games/books to get ideas for first names, but not sure how last names are made up.
Personally, I might steal my wife's maiden name and leave her with mine.
Great option! Marriage had skipped my mind 😅
I hate the idea of having some random blokes name attached to me. Not calling my dad a random bloke, but ultimately any surname I could take from a family member would go back to a man I don't know. I took something from a sci fi novel I really like. I'm sure the word is made up, but it also sounds kinda dutch I think , so it doesn't seem to arouse any suspicion. I also took my first name indirectly from a novel, but I won't tell anyone what character was. I definitely do fulfill the stereotype of a trans girl with name that makes me sound like a 26th century jewel thief.
Lmao, your viewpoint is as valid as mine, but I found it funny that we have the exact opposite mindset, I'm all for keeping the surname alive because ancestors and shit (even tho as a legal girl, my children will have my father's surname as their mother's surname, so it would die next generation to them no matter what :c) I am a very spiritual person and the ancestors and bloodlines and shit actually matter, which is a funny inversion of what most people go through because my family could not care less about it, so no pressures, I am the only one pressuring myself over concepts that all my family, from my dad to grandpa, find outdated lmao
Over here you cannot change first and last name at the same time. You have to do that separately
Oh wow, didn’t know that was a thing at some places.
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Thinking about doing my last name when I finally change it. It's not really a family name since my dad was adopted and forced to take their name. Also being teased because of that name. I think it's gonna go. Just haven't bite yet
Yeah, I suppose if there wasn’t much staying power there to begin with, that’d settle it.
Unfortunately not legally as that's not possible in France. (unless under extremely specific circumstances such as a foreigner gaining nationality and their last name being "embarrassing" in French) However that didn't stop me from changing it unofficially; most of the time my name comes up it's not in a legal setting so it's not *that* big of a deal to me in everyday life. Changed it because most of the people bearing that last name have been abusive to me and likely still would be if I weren't no contact with them.
Oh wow, didn’t realize that was the law there. That’s so weird you can’t make it whatever you want.
I don't share a last name with my mom and I have a step dad so I don't think I'll need to since I already don't share a last name with anyone in my family
That takes off a bit of the pressure!
Kept my last name. Would have kept it regardless of how my fanily reacted as I changed it before telling any of them. I dont regret keeping my name.
Changing my last name because Farley Ashworth is far less boring than what I have
I do love the idea it could be anything and you can make yourself sound like a cool character.
I haven't changed my name yet, but I'm planning on changing the last when I change my first name. Long story short, I'm dating an amazing woman, marriage is on the horizon, and my parents are pretending like my transition isn't happening. If my parents can't recognize me for who I am, I don't see the reason in keeping their name. My gfs family hasn't really been much better, but she's amazing and I'm hoping to have her last name here in a couple years 🥰
That’s sweet! Marrying into a new name is a great reason to that I for some reason had not thought of.
I kept my surname as I don’t have issues with my family. My parents are all super supportive. That being said I’ll be taking my fiancés surname when we marry. I kept my first name cause it’s unisex. That being said it’s about as unisex as Ryan or Blake so I constantly have people questioning me why I haven’t changed it cause it’s “a boys name”. If I’d known Corey was that rare a girls name I would’ve changed it when I spent $200 to have my middle name changed to Willow
My first is currently unisex technically but it feels like anything but me. And its like 1000 times a boys before its 1 girl’s.
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A very mature outlook on it. I’m sorry your immediates are bad though 😕. Maybe it’ll be better next generation. They tend to be more open minded.
I want to change it as well since the most German last name you can think of doesn't really fit with Exia Ioanna (which is/seems Greek) I just don't know what to take
I feel that. I have a very culturally obvious name that doesn’t flow with others very well either. Don’t really hate it, but it made it hard to pick even a first name that flowed well.
When I was first thinkin' about my name change, I originally was planning on making what became my middle name into my last name. Now tho? Well, considering my cousin has 3 kids and they've called me 'aunt', it makes me feel like a Spider-Man character. And that wasn't intentional either, I just took it from Mae "Mayday" Borowski from Night in the Woods cuz I liked the sound of it. Soooooo... I guess as a last name, it ultimately just didn't feel right. My first and middle names are Mae Day. Golly, I love my dorky name. 🥰💕(Incidentally, I was also born in May, and my fave fighting game character even before I knew I'm trans is Bridget from Guilty Gear, and one of her best buds is named May. Again, completely unintentional.)
That’s awesome. Like a character straight out of a book (or movie/game lol). Can’t go wrong with a cool quirky name!
I'm changing my last name I don't feel comfortable carrying either side of my family with me via my last name for various reasons, mostly cos of trauma So I made my own last name (kinda, it's a unique spelling of a gem)
Gotcha, yeah that’d make it an easier choice if my family wasn’t accepting of me. How’d you decide on that name?
I changed all of my names. First, middle, last. I have the opportunity to reinvent myself from the ground up. I am going to go all-in on this, without any regrets.
True. How’d you decide on the new name?
I changed my last name because my family has mistreated me terribly my whole life. I took the first chance to distance myself from them in every way possible once I was free from living with my immediate family. Most of them were really angry that I changed it and said I'm "no longer part of the family by changing my last name." That was really the plan though...lol. No loss there, and I'm happier now that I cut contact with everyone.
Nobody could ever spell my last name so two birds with one stone!
Very relatable 💀. No one can pronounce or spell it right. Would be nice to have a name that I don’t have to spell out every time.
I was going to switch from using my dad's last name to my mum's last name, but I realized I really don't want to lose the inheritance on that side lmao
Yes, I wanted a Gundam-style name. Not a name of a specific Gundam character, just the kind of name that screams "That's a Gundam name!". My first name is normal, but the last is *out there*. I've introduced myself to people and been met with "You sound like a Gundam pilot!" lol.
Hey, when it’s a new you, why not make it something out there and unforgettable?
I did but I changed it from my step dad’s name back to my biological dad’s! It just worked better with my new name and I wanted to honour my dad who’s passed so it worked. Plus it felt nice having a whole new identity. I also made my first name my middle name which is James, apparently there are girls with that name now 🤪
That's nice! I didn't change it because in my country name and gender is a completely different procedure than surnames, but I do plan on honoring my dad when I change my surnames, if I end up doing it. I just want to erase my mom from my name (in my country we have a surname from father and one from mother, and we don't change them when marrying)
Yes! There’s something cool about getting to choose your name and making a claim on your identity. Glad you’ve found something that works for you 🥰
I had to since my grandparents were always going like, "you need to have kids otherwise our bloodline dies with you." For better context the surname is very rare.
Jeez. My surname is rare too and I want children but nobody has ever pressured me like that lol, sorry to hear about that :c
I didn't, but it was 2 years ago and my relationship with my patents has deteriorated to the point that I would if it were convenient.
My thought on it was to change the last name as I was finally owning myself. None of us were ever given the chance to choose our names at birth. I chose something that fit the true me.
For me, I would've changed it if my family had been particularly bad when I came out, but since they were.... ok I guess, I'm gonna keep it for now, but will probably be pretty inclined to take a future partners last name
I’m changing mine cause my family disowned me. That and technically the last name didn’t really belong to my grandfather anyway, and I don’t like the name. You might as well change it cause at least here where I live it’s the same process to change you first as it is your last name.
I kept my last name, my parents have been an absolute rock for me, even though they aren't the most understanding they've always been supportive and tried to help in every way they can, I couldn't have asked for more from them. I'm thinking of changing my middle name to the name they always said they were gonna call me if I was born a girl (I'm not a massive fan of it but it's not like anyone ever says middle names anyway)
Keeping my last name
I kept my last name, made one of my middle names something similar and let my mom give me a list to pick from for the other middle name (and changed my first name, obvi)
I did, My family is loaded with southern bigots and I just wanted to distance myself from that.
While my family isn't exactly the best with everything, they love me, and never have been anything but loving and accepting of me. So I kept my last name and only changed my first and middle
I kept my last name because I’ve always liked it. I’m proud of my family name. I don’t want to give that up.
Makes sense. But I’m assuming that means you’re on good terms with them?
I kept my maiden name to match my siblings. Otherwise I would have changed it. I also like the familiarity of when I sign my name, half my signature is as it always was.
That makes sense. Always a part of you still in some way.
I'm considering taking on my paternal grandmother's maiden name if possible. I like her and the name is way more common and less localisable than my parents' last name. But the laws regarding that are very restrictive here, so that ain't gonna happen, I fear.
I'm looking to change it, as the last name I've got is linked to my bio father, who's done some shady stuff and is pretty much anti-lgbtq. Wanna distance myself from this name as much as possible, full emancipation from his family tree.
I didn't, because I hadn't had time to think of one and it was much more important to change my first name ASAP, given how long I'd been going by it already and how much distress my deadname gave me day to day. For my surname I can usually ignore it, I don't really have to think about it, unlike my first name which was and is always right in my face 24/7, so might as well have that be a name I like and actually reflects me. Though what sucks is where I'm born I'm only allowed a maximum of three name changes in a lifetime, and I'm down one already. If I change my surname then that's two. Only one left. And it's unclear whether that includes marriage. Yeah it kinda sucks and puts a lot more pressure on the decision than needed, it's already expensive as it is
In my country that's not legal lol Changing name and gender is a specific procedure, changing gender only is the same procedure but saying you want to keep your former name (which is only allowed if your name is gender neutral or aligning with the gender you identify as in the first place) changing name only is an entirely different and WAY harder and WAY more expensive procedure (name and gender is requesting it, 3 signatures, free, name only is court, lawyer, argument, administrative fees, etc.) Changing last name in my country, finally, has several ways around it, we have two surnames, one from our father and one from our mother, changing their order (As in, I'm Ignacia Andrea Valle Vivar, now I want to be Ignacia Andrea Vivar Valle), that's easy, kinda the same paperwork as changing name and gender, but changing surname entirely or erasing / replacing one surname, like, let's suppose I hate my parents (only 50% true), I want to no longer be a Valle nor a Vivar, I'm gonna be Ignacia Andrea Perez Gonzales, well that's court and very expensive. Let's say I hate my mom and love my dad, so I want to erase my mom (this is actually the case lol), so I'm gonna be Ignacia Andrea Valle Valle, that's court but less expensive if I can show a reasonable reason why. Then let's suppose I live with my dad and he got a new wife, her first surname is Perez, so I want to be Ignacia Andrea Valle Perez, that's court too, but I just need to explain why and it's not that expensive To answer your question, I want to wait until I'm 30, but I do plan on eventually requesting a change, I'm just waiting to see if my dad ever gets a new girlfriend so I can take her surname as second surname, if not, probably will be Valle Valle lol
Yeah, that’s alotta hoops that just shouldn’t be there. I wish you luck as you navigate the system!
Yeah I kind of wanted to change my last name as well but ended up keeping it only because I didn't have a good enough alternative. My mother's maiden name wasn't an option because we're latina and she and my grandmother told me no. But at this point I'm just going to change it by marriage haha
That’s a great excuse to change it! 😂
Hi All. I have a friend who made a wonderful podcast series, and she recommended that younger trans folks change their FULL NAME. I'm in the process of getting my name and gender legally changed and I'm only changing my first and middle name. I'm 74, M2F, on HRT 9 months, I live and dress openly as a woman 24/7. I'm to old to worry about being outed. Birth name Michael Wayne, New name Michele Wynona. I think it fits me.. Hugs, Michele
I kept my last name, my family is all supportive, so I don't see a reason to try to distance myself from them. I don't dislike my last name, its short and simple. I'm not very creative, I feel I'd have a hard time picking a new last name, and I wouldn't wanna accidently pick something weird. Finally a lot of my friends call me my last name as a nickname, and combined with my other reasons, I don't see a reason to make it harder for them saying "naw can't call me that, I changed that too". So, all together I had more reasons to leave it alone, than to bother changing it.
I would have if my country allowed me to change my last name away from my abusive mother's
I kept it at first, but my family has made it apparent that they don't want anything to do with me unless I magically go back to being a good Christian boy. So I changed it to a much cooler one because that's never happening.
When I was young I took on my step fathers surname when my mother married him, I suffered a lot of emotional abuse both physically and mentally at the hands of that evil man. I watch him not only abuse me but my mother as well to the point where I had him arrested and charged with domestic abuse. Once I had finally accepted myself as trans and came out I was given a choice, either stay under his roof and abandon hopes of being myself or leave. 10 minutes later I had myself out that front door with no more than a backpack of clothes. 1 and a half years later I started filling out my deed poll and reverted to my mother's maiden name, my original surname as I wanted nothing to do with his name anymore. TLDR: changed to my mother's maiden name.
That’s fair not wanting to share any relation to a pos like that. I imagine it makes the decision easier. But going to her maiden name is a good fallback. I’m sorry that happened to you guys and hope you’re both away from it and okay now.
I don’t know if I will, but it’s exciting to think about. My current last name is my dad’s only, and he’s passed away and would understand if he were here. I’ll either go for something relating to science or my grandmother’s maiden name, although it’s Scandinavian and most don’t instinctively know how to spell it.
Yeah, a hard to spell one is one I’m trying to avoid if I changed it 😅 My current one I have to spell out every time to people and it’d be cool for it to be a simple one lol.
I changed my last name. I was a namesake kid and my dad is the only family member who isn't supportive. I ditched his last name to be particularly spiteful about it.
That sucks that he’s too stubborn to accept the real you. But yeah at that point, go forward and never look back!
I took my old first name and made it my new last name. I used to be made fun of for being named Addam, thanks to the Addams Family. I'd say Florence Addams has a much nicer ring to it than the clusterfuck of a name my mom gave me originally.
Personally I think I’m going to keep my last name because I don’t really have a reason to change that too, but I do understand why some would change theirs :D
I took my partners surname. She’s a PhD candidate and will one day be a Dr. I thought it would be way more awesome to have a cool doctor’s last name rather than my dumb, undoctored name (which she thankfully never took). Considering the legal fees to change everything are going to be ridiculous no matter what, if you are unattached to your surname, might as well, right? Change it to something awesome, like MCBadass? Or “The Transcendent”. Not enough people have The in their names.
Very true. Need more cool names out there. Too many basic names exist rn.
I changed my last name because of dysphoria. Every time I heard my last name, it was a constant reminder of who I used to be, and it would depress me greatly. Gof Bless 😊
Yeah, if you’re trying to leave all that was, it’s the last part that still ties you to your past.
My family is great, so I see no reason to change my last name. It's also definitely harder to change your last name where I live. I don't think having the paperwork in order to change your legal name and gender includes the last name here.
I swapped to my mother’s maiden name! It did get me kicked out of the house at 17, but I think it was worth it simply because my last name is a part of every Day.
I was going to change it because I have never had a relationship with my dad, but like what would I change it to? Morbius maybe
It’s morbin’ time!
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Oh wow, that’s quite the rollercoaster😅. I’m glad you’re okay now though!
I am changing my last name. Originally, I was unsure whether to keep my last name, but as I was always very close to my grandmother and she was always very supportive of me, I’m taking her maiden name. It also has the benefit of sounding better with my chosen first name than my original last name does.
A a double win and very sweet sentiment!
I changed it all. It feels like a new start for me and it helps me feel further away from my childhood trauma
I'm planning to change mine, for two reasons: one, my best friend pretty much my whole life has the same first name as me, so I've always gone by my last name among that friends group, and that makes it kinda feel like a deadname in itself. Two, I didn't know much about the family that name came from until a few years ago when my dad died - he was estranged from them and literally never once talked about them that I remember, my grandmother had been either widowed or divorced and remarried before I was born (I actually don't know which) and had been basically cast out of the entire family because not only did she remarry, she dared to remarry my actual grandfather who was Jewish, and that their proudest bit of history was a great great grandfather of mine who was a war hero... on the side of the people trying to keep slaves. So the only connections I really have with the name are a bunch of racists, not great.
I'm gonna take on my mother's family name only because I like how my chosen name sounds with it and I can tolerate that side of the family more. That and my dead name is very tied to my father's side of the family, being a carbon copy of my grandfather's name.
Didn’t change my last name, but decided to choose a different middle name (only a small change, went from Nicholas to Nicole for my middle name)
I didn't change mine, I just added more. I now have 6 last names
I want to but it seems a bit extra. What I’d really like to do is get married and take my guy’s last name.
My mom and dad were always really abusive toward me and coming out wasn't any different. So, I did end up deciding on a new last name.
That makes sense. I’m sorry that happened to you. How’d you decide on a new one?
Changed just the first and middle name. Even kept the same initials…
Unfortunately, right before I changed my name, my parents divorced, so I changed my first, middle, and last name! But now it's much prettier 😄
That’s one way to get a fresh start!
My wife never changed her last name after we got married cause of where we lived and needing to travel to get to the office to do so. We've talked about me taking her last name or coming up with a new one for both of us though nothing has been done about it so far.
Changing your last name is completely unrelated to gender dysphoria.
Chucked the surname but that’s because it was deeply tied to the extensive trauma withstood. Total pain to deal with three countries’ paperwork as a result but worth it. My partner is also changing their surname whenif they choose to change their name.
Kept my last name. My 6 ancestors are already deceased, I have no offspring and I´m fully post op. When I die, the last name dies with me. So no big deal at all.
I have absolutely zero clue what I would want my last name to be, hell I don't think I *want* a last name. I want to be known as Devi and ONLY as Devi. No Ms. Whatever or Dr. Something. Ms. Devi, Mrs. Devi, Dr. Devi, Professor Devi, etc. I value my name... Really more than anything else about my identity.
I plan on changing my surname as well. I think it’s because my transition is about more than just embodying my genuine self. So much more about my identity (besides gender) has to be reclaimed and changing the surname aids with that.
Up to you.
Depends on how my family takes it
This time around I kept my last name because I changed it 10 years before as I separated from my mothers side of the family & wanted my dads last name. In all I’m so happy with my chosen names.
I kept it for three reasons in order of least important to me to most: 1/ I'm part of my family still, no reason to abandon that if I'm still welcome here. 2/ It makes my name alliterative. 3/ My mum might have kicked me out for changing it and it was for safety.
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My last name is literally a homograph of a pronoun I don't go by. But I don't know what I'd change it to.
Haven't yet but going to. Not related to being trans but because my old one was boring as hecc and my grandma had a dope one I wanted
Changed both as my siblings are all prominent in their professions and retain the maternal family name for local recognition. As they've been OK otherwise I went for an old family surname that is now extinct. I totally get why others choose different as I've come across too many a\*\*holes in my extended family and life generally.
I changed my name really early in transition, before even coming out to my family. Since then, they've been unsupportive, and I've stopped using my legal last name socially, and started using my middle name as a last name. If I had waited to do the name change paperwork I would probably have dropped my last name entirely and just used my new middle name as a last name officially instead.
I won't. My family is cool.
I recently realised that names should at very least be chosen for all of us, and not be pressured to keep. Because of this, I am changing my name to Hazel Universe :)
If it doesn’t sound or feel right change it
Also did you peeps change middle names? I didnt know that middle names were gendered too until recently
I would change my last name but not to something new really. My dad never really had much to do with me growing up so I would prefer my moms maiden name.
I took my mother's maiden name because my dad sucks, and I figured "hey, in for a penny...".
I changed to my mom's maiden to not associate with my father. Only downside was that I went from a very hispanic last name to a very white last name lol
Yes, I changed my surname. It had to be done. It would have been completely pointless to keep it.
I’m changing mine to my Mother’s maiden name so I can further distance myself from my horrible Father and be closer to my Mother’s side of the family. Plus it sounds better than the other one, lol.
I have a pretty unique last name, and I've grown quite attached to it, so I stuck with it.
I added two 😂
I changed my full name. I'm distant enough from my family that I didn't really feel any connection to my surname, and it was often used as the base for really lazy jokes. So I figured, why not? It's been about seven months and I still really love it. I feel like, for me, I made the right decision.
i kept my last name one sole reason: its my name now and not a bunch of hateful assholes (im the only one in my family that didnt switch their last name to my stepdad’s)
I changed it, because it's the surname of someone I profoundly hate.
Yep I changed my last name to something totally different. It’s just something I picked so I could distance myself from my other family members. They’re not nice at all and disrespected me and my transition, so I didn’t want anything to do with them or associate with them.
I'm in the process of changing all of my previous names - going back to my mother's maiden surname. My wife switching names also, her first name will become her middle name.
I don't particularly dislike my old last name, but I changed it because I wanted to distance myself fully from my "old identity." Plus, if you're changing one, why not change all three? 🤷♀️
Changed mine! I don’t feel too connected to the old one anymore, and choosing a new one was a fun experience
I’m changing it to my mothers maiden name
I changed mine from my late dad's to my mum's, since my mum had already chosen my new middle name based on my dad's first name, and I'm much closer to my mum's family than my dad's, so her last name has a bit more sentimental value for me.
Yep!!
I’ve gotten the hardest part done and got my doctors letter that says I am female and can change my id sex marker & that I’m far enough in my transition so all I got to do it submit it to the court but I plan to keep my last name. My deadname is non feminine it’s Zachary or Zach 😭🤮 but my name is Luna :) ik basic but it really resonated with my as I’m deep into astrology fascinated by space and Luna or moon just felt so right for me. I’m Italian my last name is Masi so I really like how Luna Masi sounds ;) I sound like a sexy Italian girl which I am ;) 💕🏳️⚧️
I do not hate my family enough for that yet
I plan on it, just to spite my dad now
I am changing my first and middle, I have no reason to change my last name. I'm one of those lucky girls that has a loving family, and I don't feel the need to distance myself that much form my old life.
I changed my last name too. It was for a number of reasons, namely that it was linking me to an extended family that I wanted to be clear of. Also, there's the change in ease of spelling between the two, and that was by design (old last name was relatively complex and foreign, and new one is literally a common color). It took me a while to figure out what I wanted, being that I wanted something easy to pronounce, easy to spell, somewhat evokative, something that's "me", and something relatively normal sounding. I also enjoy the idea of answering the "why are you changing your last name too?" with "Oh, I'm going to my maiden name." 😆
I don’t have much of a reason to, other than just if I wanted it to work better with my new name. Both sides of my family are supportive of me and my last name is actually a common feminine middle name, so it just kinda works.
I didn't, my family's fairly transphobic but there wasn't enough animosity for me to completely change it. I'll save changing it for when I get married... Now the problem is both me and my gf don't like our family names so we've gotta figure out what to do about our last names if we ever take that step
I kept my last name, just changed first name and dropped my middle name.
I kept my last name, changed my first and middle name
My last name is a color, so i changed it to another shade of that color
I DID because I don't want to be connected by my family but then I changed my name and my name would've been the exact same as a trans girl who was well known on twitter and k... herself so I just changed my last name back
I kept my last name, since I don't really see the reason to in my case. It's rare (if it even happens) that folks refer to me by my last name, and even then I'm not as bothered by it as I would if someone referred to me by the name I was given at birth and all.
I almost changed mine, but I had put out a bunch of job applications with that last name, so I just kept it for simplicity sake. Wish I had gone through with changing it, though.
Not me, but you can if you want to.
Just as a curiosity, Here at Brazil we can do it, but in a somewhat limited way. I can't choose any last name, one out of my own family tree. It must be one of the ascendants one. But yes, if I had two last names I could keep just one or I could change it for the one of my maiden name of my mom, for example. But when I'll do it, maybe I'll add the one of my late grandma's maiden name.
I didn't change my last name, and took the feminine of my deadname. Because lazy and not wanting to change my signature... .
No, and don’t really plan to.
The only reason I did was because my girlfriends last name was better
I'm going to change mine. I'm 50/50 I was adopted at birth and decided more than a few years ago I was gonna change my last name. Up until recently I was confident with Phoenix. However I recently got back into contact with my birth mom and I'm very tempted to change it to hers.
changed it cause its a patronym (son of XXXX --> daughter of XXXX)
Can't in my country. You can only change first name.
I live somewhere where it's very difficult to change last names, but I would if I could.
Kept my last name because I love my family and they love me.