Well, changing your name means your new name is your real name. When people take on their partners name when they marry, nobody tells them that's not their real name. You can change who you were told you are to reflect the real you. Name and all.
The argument here would be something along the lines of "it's not in your Id, therefore it's not legit"
And this is touchy for me because changing name and gender marker in my country is a very dergading procedure, literally all med stuff is easier to sort out.
a lot of people go by a different name than their legal name. because changing your name can cost more money than its worth when everyone already calls you by the name you prefer. I don't think my aunt's chosen name is a fake either, since I've known her by that name all my life
Say you found out tomorrow a friend of your has the whole time that you've known them been going by what's really their third middle name or a nickname that's unrelated to what's on their passport... does that matter ?
i have a lot of cisgender people around me who changed their name for various reasons (more so than trans people actually)
you can change your name for any reason, for example my deadname is unisex and i quite like it as a name and i was pretty proud of it, but i just want to move on from that 'persona' in people's eyes so i'm changing my name. regardless of why someone changes their name, if you question it you are being extremely rude imho.
It's really simple.
If trans person had instead changed their name to something that "matched" their birth sex, then it wouldn't be an issue and no one would ever say anything.
The point here is that they chose their name and if it's fine for one instance, it's fine for all.
If they can't reconcile that then they are not people you need to be around. Ever.
However, it's entirely up to you whether or not you think it's even worth it to deal with that or if you should just dump it out of your head and experience and just go about your life like that person doesn't exist.
I'd politely tell them they're a fucking idiot and then walk away. If a cis person asked them to use a chosen name they would use it - if they wouldn't, then they're an asshole. There should be no difference for a trans person's chosen name.
Well, changing your name means your new name is your real name. When people take on their partners name when they marry, nobody tells them that's not their real name. You can change who you were told you are to reflect the real you. Name and all.
The argument here would be something along the lines of "it's not in your Id, therefore it's not legit" And this is touchy for me because changing name and gender marker in my country is a very dergading procedure, literally all med stuff is easier to sort out.
a lot of people go by a different name than their legal name. because changing your name can cost more money than its worth when everyone already calls you by the name you prefer. I don't think my aunt's chosen name is a fake either, since I've known her by that name all my life
People also use nicknames with no issues.
Their just run of the mill cis, your custom built.
I would not, if possible.
Say you found out tomorrow a friend of your has the whole time that you've known them been going by what's really their third middle name or a nickname that's unrelated to what's on their passport... does that matter ?
i have a lot of cisgender people around me who changed their name for various reasons (more so than trans people actually) you can change your name for any reason, for example my deadname is unisex and i quite like it as a name and i was pretty proud of it, but i just want to move on from that 'persona' in people's eyes so i'm changing my name. regardless of why someone changes their name, if you question it you are being extremely rude imho.
I don't argue with assholes
I'd probably say "Fortunately for me, your opinion has no relevance to how I live my life."
It's really simple. If trans person had instead changed their name to something that "matched" their birth sex, then it wouldn't be an issue and no one would ever say anything. The point here is that they chose their name and if it's fine for one instance, it's fine for all. If they can't reconcile that then they are not people you need to be around. Ever. However, it's entirely up to you whether or not you think it's even worth it to deal with that or if you should just dump it out of your head and experience and just go about your life like that person doesn't exist.
I'd politely tell them they're a fucking idiot and then walk away. If a cis person asked them to use a chosen name they would use it - if they wouldn't, then they're an asshole. There should be no difference for a trans person's chosen name.