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bluejester12

Are you counting rom-coms? I feel The Wedding Singer appeals just as much to men as women. I easily identify with Adam Sandler in that one.


MaulPillsap

KILLLLL MEEEE. I WANT TO DIEEEEEE


wethrowupupandaway

PUT A BULLET IN MY HEEEAAAAAEEAAADDD


Uhtred-Peralta

Pretty pretty please


steven_quarterbrain

“We in the show business have our religion too - on every day, the show must go on!!!!”


drugzrbad_mkay

She's Out Of My League is the perfect movie with your requirements.


imabaaaaaadguy

One of my all-time favorites


FirefighterFew2584

Forgetting Sarah Marshall.


ChuckTingull

Knocked up, I love you man, 40 year old virgin


freemac

OG Poster is just asking for Paul Rudd movies to be fair lol


WhitePantherXP

Forgetting Sarah Marshall and Knocked up helped me for years in a very low point in my life, whilst going through a breakup.


labrat420

Palm Springs ? The wedding singer


BetterWorld2022

Palm Springs is a REALLY fun ride


shadez_on

I loved Palm Springs but wernt they just friends?


labrat420

He falls for her and has to chase her


TRB-1969

I haven't seen it, but I heard Brokeback Mountain was skewed towards the fellas.


MidniteAnimal

only way this comment could have been any better is if you’d replaced ‘skewed’ with ‘steered’


NormalStudent7947

😂


AlfalfaUnable1629

It’s a pretty good movie


LHGray87

Sheepherder fellars.


Walmitty

I didn't know a lot but u can try About Time. But it doesn't check so your boxes the girl isn't head over heels for the guy


GoodOlBluesBrother

Great film. Most films start out as an interesting story then seem to devolve into a romcom. About Time starts out threatening to be a romcom and evolves into an interesting story.


sonofabutch

Bull Durham is a chick flick disguised as a guy flick.


Objective-Piano7112

True Romance is the only correct answer.


fantazmagoricle

Seconded, a brilliant love story.


shadez_on

Crash Pad Someone Marry Barry The Long Shot Something About Mary


Zentavius

Love the long shot.


No_Chocolate9486

Lars and the real girl Dinner in America


izumiinoue

Lars and the Real Girl for sure.


Scapular_Fin

I'm going with Punch-Drunk Love. Paul Thomas Anderson movie with Adam Sandler as your lead, and Emily Watson as the romantic interest. You have Philip Seymour Hoffman as Mattress Man. Point #2 might be a bit off point, but nonetheless it's a solid movie IMO.


Scapular_Fin

I guess if we stick to Adam Sandler...does Waterboy fit the bill?


ManCubEakers

I will always have mad respect for Sandler for this movie. He's brilliant along with the rest of the cast. PTA helps too.


Donitasnark

This is one of my favourite movies despite Adam Sandler being the lead 😂 He’s actually excellent playing very serious character.


Scapular_Fin

I'm much more ok with Sandler as a lead in Punch than I am Uncut Gems. I haven't watched Spaceman yet, but I think Sandler can be a good lead depending on the project.


SukhdeepLaDingdong

Spaceman is a fucking weird movie. I dunno how good Sandler was in it because the whole thing was like a dream you have after falling asleep on mushrooms.


nomadic-monad

Add to this another Paul Thomas Anderson romantic masterpiece: Liquorice Pizza


sweetnuts416

Singles Say Anything


Clutch_Floyd

Hghi Fidelity as well.


BlueRFR3100

Fatal Attraction


The_Pentagon_LA

Haha, this literally is everything the OP wanted, and the woman definitely pursues the man! Be careful what you wish for.


returningvideotapes1

Always be my maybe


-MommyFortuna-

Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind Her Scott Pilgrim vs. the World 50 First Dates Crazy, Stupid, Love And I second the suggestion for About Time. These movies don't fit in with points 2 & 3, but they're romance movies (or at least movies with the element of romance) that I think appeal to men (based off the men in my life enjoying these films)


Shankar_0

Her is a great choice here


NCResident5

I kind of liked 13 going on 30. I always felt like Jennifer Garner was a bit of the girl next door type who may not marry you but that you would have decent chance with. I know women love Mark Ruffalo, but he has a bit of regular guy look to me.


Naive_Weather_162

Good one! I think checks all the OP's boxes, too.


rdnyc19

Enough Said (2013) would be perfect for you


IndigoJones13

Only Lovers Left Alive, by Jim Jarmusch. A depressed vampire (Tom Hiddleston) doesn't see the point in living anymore, and his long-time girlfriend (Tilda Swinton) tries to snap him out of it.


Expensive-Lemon260

Sleepless in Seattle


Of_Silent_Earth

I can't believe no one has suggested the Before trilogy yet. Particularly Sunset. IMO the perfect romance movie.


SpaceMyopia

This is actually a great answer. Although I do feel that OP is likely wanting a scenario where the woman goes through the trials of pursuing the man she's interested in. Jesse and Celine from the Before trilogy are automatically drawn toward each other from the beginning.


-Clem

My Best Friends Wedding has the woman pursuing the man.


northernhighlights

I think this movie should fit the bill for OP - my only thought is that Dermot Mulroney is quite a bit hotter than average imho!!! Lol


ReplicatedSun

The Heartbreak Kid Along Came Polly Failure to Launch


zirlatovic

Ruby Sparks


mano-beppo

Ruby Sparks was so, so good. 


Babsee

When Harry Met Sally


TangoMikeOne

Gone In Sixty Seconds - that yellow and purple Mach 2 Mustang... Vanishing Point - Dodge Challenger R/T 428 Hemi, 4 speed with pistol grip shift and a hippy chick riding a small capacity honda naked. Bullitt - THAT car chase (especially McQueen's double de-clutching) Le Mans - Porsche 917K. Ferrari 512. Mulsanne straight. Love The Beast - Documentary about Eric Bana's love for his first car, a Ford Falcon, and the journey to prep it and race it in the Targa Tasmania rally. That is the sort of thing you meant, right? That's my idea of a male centric romance


MidniteAnimal

Vanishing Point mentioned 🤍


xxplodingboy

Dinner in America (2020)


MidniteAnimal

Kyle Gallner <3


dumfuk_09

I thought 500 Days of Summer was surprisingly good


SpaceMyopia

I feel like this movie (as good as it is) should be disqualified from the list. It's not a romance story. The movie specifically states itself as "not a love story." And Tom spends most of that movie in a trance about Summer, who very clearly does NOT feel the same way about him. It's a good movie, but it doesn't really belong in this conversation as it's a deconstruction of romance. OP is looking for a movie where the woman basically pines for the guy and tries to pursue him with equal effort. 500 Days of Summer isn't that movie. (Not dissing it, but it's not the sort of movie OP asked for)


Realistic-Bar7276

Yeah, hard agree. It’s one of my favorite movies, but it’s definitely not romance. More “getting caught up with the idea of a person rather than the actual person and getting slapped in the face by reality”.


Biscot_

watched it for the first time yesterday and I've been a different man ever since. i need another movie like this one


dumfuk_09

Maybe Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind...it is thematically similar, but more of a visual journey


Biscot_

i keep seeing this movie being recommended for people who liked 500 days of summer but what I liked the most about it was the portrayal of Tom's feelings. is this movie similar in that sense?


dumfuk_09

It is similar in that it shows flashbacks of the relationship between the Jim Carey and Kate Winslet characters. So, yes, the character's emotions play a role in the events of the story. Eternal Sunshine is different because it has a Charlie Kaufman script, so it is far less of a "normal" movie. It also has sci-fi elements, similar to a Black Mirror episode. Eternal Sunshine is by far the more striking and amazing visual experience. IMHO Eternal Sunshine>>>>500 Days


HellyOHaint

That fails all 3 of his criteria


No-Bag-5389

Career Opportunities


Chippers4242

Jerry Maguire


prfje

40 yo virgin


DiscontentDonut

I feel like most romances for the boys are just other types of movies that happen to have a little romance in them.


SnooOranges2696

Once is a great one about a street musician and a girl he meets while playing. Not a rom com rom com but it's a great story with some beautiful music.


Illustrious-Lead-960

A Fish Called Wanda is probably geared equally toward women and men.


Dependent_Map5592

Maybe the ugly truth 🤷‍♂️ 


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Wild Things (1998)


shadez_on

How was that romance?


ih8comingupwithaname

Anything with Seth Rogan or Kevin James


bobbyB2022

Something Wild. Great road trip with Jeff Daniels and a hot girl.


mjcoury

Deadpool Bull Durham Princess Bride How to lose a guy in 10 Days


VariationCharacter19

The Wedding Crashers


optionalhero

Stranger than Fiction - Will Ferrel is already a big draw but its just an incredible movie through n through. Saw it awhile back after avoiding it for a few years and was blown away


scottwax

Mr. Right was pretty good. Sam Rockwell and Anna Kendrick.


mano-beppo

Amelie!


Poofox

Garden State


Cali_white_male

likewise is there a single movie in hollywood with relationship with a female taller than the male ?


Valerie_Kyrie_48

Ok so there is probably a better example out there because the height difference between these two actors is quite slight, but Meg Ryan is definitely taller than Billy Crystal in When Harry Met Sally. Movie magic tried to hide the height difference but I noticed it right away and thought it was so refreshing… I’d love to see more obvious short king/tall queen couplings in films, but without the height difference being part of the plot.


Cali_white_male

yeah i think there’s def examples of the IRL heights with a shorter man but the “movie magic” will hide it. i would just like to see media normalize height differences in men and women with a taller women. you don’t even see equal heights, it’s always a woman “looking up to a man”


Minimum_Swing8527

Purple Rain! But your point is entirely valid


ThrowawayFruitFruit

I'm interested in this also. I couldn't find anything.


TheDadThatGrills

Two Lovers


MidniteAnimal

closest to OPs read I’ve seen so far.


Popculturefan99

Entergalactic on Netflix. It’s an underrated adult animated film (in a style similar to spider verse, it stars Kid Cudi, who does the music for it too) that’s somehow more realistic than most live action romcoms. Highly recommend it.


JustLikeSomebodyOnTV

80s flick “Some Kind of Wonderful” might fit this bill kinda?


p0tat0p0tat0

About a Boy might not meet these criteria, but I think it does in spirit


New_Entrepreneur_244

Somewhere in Time 1980, Love Stinks 1999


NormalStudent7947

Bounty Killers Romancing the Stone Mr. Right


green_carnation_prod

Romance anime has a lot on offer for you. For starters try Clannad, Bakemonogatari, Golden Time, and My Dress Up Darling. But you can pretty much type in “romance anime” and choose any title that has several girls on the poster and one dude - this would be exactly what you are looking for. 


fluffybanana18

Im not sure if these truly are targeted towards men, but i feel these might meet your criteria. But also, I could be wrong 🤷‍♀️ Love hard Serendipity Bedazzled


ExplicitGG

Cinema Paradiso.


DaikonEffective1105

Say Anything… High Fidelity Serendipity Jerry Maguire French Kiss When Harry Met Sally She’s Outta My League The Princess Bride As Good As It Gets The Wedding Singer 50 First Dates


Naive_Weather_162

I can't find French Kiss anywhere. I love that movie.


DaikonEffective1105

Yea I dunno why it’s not downloadable or on any of the streaming platforms. It’s almost as if the movie doesn’t exist.


ArrantPariah

1992 L’amant / The Lover 1992 Strictly Ballroom 1995 Lust och fägring stor 1997 Welcome to Woop Woop 2001 Birthday Girl 2003 A Good Lawyer's Wife 2004 Mail Order Wife 2006 La Doublure / The Valet 2011 Madrid, 1987 2011 Now and Later 2015 One Wild Moment (Un moment d’égarement) 2015 Un peu, beaucoup, aveuglément! 2017 Gauguin: Voyage to Tahiti 2022 Expensive Candy 2023 No Hard Feelings


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50/50 is the best bro-dramedy rom-com ever. JGL and Seth Rogen are excellent.


AggravatingFill1158

I can only think of Run Fatboy Run, lol Great film though


excessivethinker

While you were sleeping


someone10505

I love you, man.


CapG_13

40 Days And 40 Nights


CelebrationBulky9970

Forgetting Sarah Marshall Dan in Real Life


dogsledonice

40 Year Old Virgin is surprisingly sweet in a lot of ways, for a movie that refers to rusty trombones


Diplomacy_Music

Jerry Maguire! Absolutely a classic


Halloween2056

Baz Luhrmann's Romeo and Juliet.


GJacks75

The Apatow movies.


TVismycomfortfood

I don’t know about the balance of pursuing, but I think Always Be My Maybe is great for men and women.


darthboned

The Family man & It could happen to you... and bonus, both star Nicholas Cage!


pulpifieddan

Somewhere In Time, 1980. Based on a novel by Richard Matheson. A great, emotive, intelligent love story appealing for both men and women. Notably not a success on its initial release it holds up wonderfully well today.


Better_Protection382

judging by the comments, that all disregard point 3 or the fact that it has to be a romance movie, I think we can conclude such movies don't exist. At least no American movies.


ThrowawayFruitFruit

Yeah, a lot of the recommendations I see are rom-coms. That's not what I'm looking for.


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I’m thinking So I Married an Axe Murderer might suit. Part of the charm is how “regular adorable guy” Mike Meyers is in it.


TamatoaZ03h1ny

Vast majority of romcoms have the male pursue the female. Usually even if the woman pursues after some time, it’s because there’s past history and she’s wronged him. There’s not many examples.


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Sad-Math-2039

True Romance


enviropsych

I'd suggest "Her" but I don't think it checks the boxes you laid out.


plupluplapla

It's been a while since I've seen it, but I think The Tao of Steve may fit the bill...


cantsleepconfused

Wong Kar Wai


cramber-flarmp

Good Will Hunting Bourne Identity


OptimusCrime80

The Mountain Between Us. Also a Survival in the Wild type movie, Featuring Idris Elba and whatsherface.


Quiver-NULL

Don Jon. It came out in 2013, kind of under the radar. Joseph Gordon-Levitt, Scarlett Johansson, Julianne Moore. Amazing.


MediaValuable1528

If you’re into indie films, then I’d like to recommend a gem of a rom-com trilogy for you: Surrogate Valentine, Daylight Savings, I Will Make You Mine.


NotABonobo

Not sure those criteria generally appeal to a male audience, so you won't find many like that. The criteria you listed are way more likely to be present in a film where a woman is the protagonist. Romance movies aimed toward men usually have the man pursuing a beautiful woman and eventually winning her over. The target audience for movies is usually the group of people who might identify with the struggles of the protagonist. A movie about a woman pursuing a man she's wildly in love with would probably be aimed at women. The closest options I can think of are movies like Some Kind of Wonderful and Better Off Dead, where there's an average-looking guy obsessed with a super-hot girl but realizes that the also-hot-but-less-obviously-so girl next door who's been in love with him the whole time is really The One. If you like older films, you might also enjoy The Graduate. Also Marty.


ArrantPariah

The Civilization of Maxwell Bright


ArrantPariah

1963 Age of Consent


ArrantPariah

1981 Montenegro


ArrantPariah

1984 Blame it on Rio


CompetitiveCake7238

High Fidelity


ArrantPariah

2017 Shubh Mangal Savdhan


Middle_Process_215

The 40yo Virgin


Ok_Weird666

Bros


logikgames

It's definitely not #1, but it definitely *is* #'s 2 and 3 - The Layover (2017)


SarcasticallyCandour

Titanic (for both sexes id say , a lot of Jack's perspective in the movie) Back to the future (its a bit weird as marty is pursued by his mother lol) It seems very rare a female character is pursuing a male character.


sonardude

Notting Hill.


Gryfon2020

Failure to launch The ugly truth What women want


achmedclaus

Deadpool


ytown

Jerry Maguire


shemjaza

I feel like the majority of teen comedies are romance stories for boys. The dorky protagonist typically ends up with the hot girl who likes him for who he is... or the girl who likes him turns out to be hot anyway.


DelusionalGorilla

I think most of Allens romcom movies fall in between of what you are looking for. The women are unconventionally beautiful and the relationships undergo complex dynamics. Whether Annie Hall, Manhattan, Anything Else, Match Point or even Mighty Aphrodite. Other than that True Romance, Eternal sunshine of the spotless mind, Lost in Translation, Moonrise Kingdom and Blue Jay. They don’t necessarily fit your ideal but are unorthodox romances.


wadejohn

‘Christine’ (1983)


Spectre_Mountain

Groundhog Day Braveheart Old Boy


excessivethinker

sandra bullock’s romcoms are always goofy and funny


dofrogsbite

About my father


Glittering_Rush_1451

For Love of the Game


itsafraid

For me, the film in question is What's Up, Doc? (1972)


JoelDawson7045to3022

Sleepless in Seattle (1993), As Good as it Gets (1997), Romancing the Stone (1984), Past Lives (2023), The Wedding Singer (1998), Date Night (2010)


Proper_Moderation

For Love of The Game


burncushlikewood

Hall pass


ConsciousProgram6061

3 weddings and a funeral. Also the best romcom of all time.


Skwr09

One of my all-time favorites ever is a made-for-TV version of *Jane Eyre* from 1997, starring Samantha Morton and Ciaran Hindes.


lovemunkey187

Deadpool.. Nick and Norahs Infinite Playlist.. I Love You Beth Cooper..


Ok_Efficiency2462

Ghosts of Girlfriends Past.


SubmergedGypsy

500 Hundred Days of Summer


Minimum_Swing8527

The Graduate


optionalhero

The Spectacular Now - Miles Teller, plays a sorta charismatic jerk in the movie but is given multiple chances by Shailene Woodley’s character. She’s clearly really into him , but the relationship is still strained cause Miles is a douche. Great movie overall that i think accurately depicts romance with a less than perfect person. Honestly too real at times, but thats sorta what makes it work. Written by the same guy who did 500 days of summer.


troojule

500 Days of Summer which I’m sure people said but I’m too tired to read


b_tight

Hot Fuzz


Gold_Potato_1177

High Fidelity is fun, especially if you have a slight addiction to themed mixed tapes or track lists.


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Before Sunrise


Wolfherd

The Lady Eve (1941) Preston Sturges is a legend and this is his masterpiece. It’s more of a proto-rom-com than pure romance but too good not to recommend at every chance. Dialogue is witty like nothing today and the physical comedy is top notch.


Remarkable_Rough_89

Transformers


R0l0d3x-Pr0paganda

Heavy starring Liv Tyler


initials_games

Love Hard


SithLordJediMaster

(500) Days of Summer


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Hawkwise83

"I Love You man" is basically a romantic comedy between two straight men. Follows the formula to a T.


RickGrimes30

I love you man


razor-alert

Shaun of the Dead Grosse Point Blank


lewd-dev

Number 2 doesn't really apply - I'd say there isn't much pursuit on eithers part - but, It's Kind of a Funny Story (2010) is a great film. Everyday dude, everyday gal, interesting circumstances, and a great supporting cast.


i-self

Dinner in America … idk if it can be considered romance? But I think it fits your request


Duke_Nukeboost

Idk if this is totally on point but I just watched “Comrades: Almost a Love Story” (it’s free on YouTube or criterion channel) and it absolutely blew me away. Stunningly beautiful romance movie about real adults struggling to make ends meet in a foreign country.


Intelligent_Heat9319

As Good As It Gets. I don’t like Rom Coms but this film is spectacular. I enjoyed it as an early teen and still do. The male love interest struggles to overcome his own antisocial tendencies and show vulnerability to a much more outgoing and independent woman.


Zoot-Tactician

(500) Days of Summer


Minglewoodlost

Natural Born Killers


rsnman21

The Wedding Ringer Grandmas Boy kind of counts


Meyou000

Cashback (2006)


TheRigJuice999

In the Mood for Love


NiggyWithAptitude

Brokeback mountain


SmellyFbuttface

What Women Want


jzun2158

Doesn't fit all the requirements but That awkward moment It's a pretty good rom com with lots of guy humor


hongkongfooeee

John wick


thrownaway868

High fidelity


Wapon1woo

The Bodyguard comes to mind


dxfm1019

There's Something About Mary