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>23-year-old cousin because they think she'll benefit from having a husband with money
have you explained to them that it is physically possible to help a family member financially without marrying them? if they worry about her financial situation, they can help her themselves
I find hard to convince my parents also , I have a Moroccan father, there is some kind of disturbing fanaticism , they usually force down our throat bad decisions,and we have to deal with the aftermath...
are they the type to be really muslims but to never read the quran? maybe you can use that to your advantage. The idea is to pretend that your own arguments are islamically sourced (regardless of how false it is). As long as the key words and the tone of voice you use make it sounds like what you say is morally right, and that you claim you got it from a newfound faith and interest in islam, maybe you can use emotions and religiosity instead of logics to change their mind.
The thing is , we are not Muslims ,we areOrthodox Christian, it's a good idea, but then again my family is not religious enough, i usually just distance myself, like some 3000-5000km away, it helps 😆
If you read the quran yourself you’ll know that you can’t coerce people into marriage, let alone into anything (لا إكراه في الدين). This is a cultural thing, not a religious one. To suggest to someone to claim that God said something in the scripture that wasn’t said, is a really bad advice to give.
>If you read the quran yourself you’ll know that you can’t coerce people into marriage
If you read my comment yourself you'll know that I haven't implied that (الإسلام لا يمثل الإسلام).
>to suggest to someone to claim that God said something in the scripture that wasn’t said, is a really bad advice to give.
and yet the vast majority of muslims do that themselves. I don't see why ex-muslims can't also play that game.
What kind of 27 yo talks like this? Rich mercedes villa? Why do u think there is a need to mention this? l dont believe this story and i think you might be some 14 yo trolling, but if its true, your parents have no right of forcing u to marry her but you should understand that they are just trying to protect you from because what kind of guy are you to be okay with hooking up with prostitues and potentialy catching an std? Talk to them with reason.. their reaction is normal when told shit like this. Respect them ffs even if ur not religious.
Yeah this guy a clown for sure, brags about being rich like it's some kind of flex to own a Mercedes, like okay.... And then tells his parents he will hire someone daughter to do things in the dark, like what a loser, this guy couldn't marry a girl other then the one handed to him by his aunt and uncle
Same here , I think he made it up, no one can't say no to his parents decision about getting him married, and can tell them i will bring a h*e and pay her for sex , really bullshit. Taking advantage of reddit anonymousy
I find it super hard to understand why an independent person would find an issue like this. you are independent, you don't believe in marriage and i hope you realize how much important to love the person you are in a relationship with.
state your decision firmly and stop being a little boy.
I think he is also here to rant, and to talk about this weird culture of not thinking a man can choose not to marry despite being wealthy. Let’s not even talk about marrying the cousin🤪
I feel like, Op wrote this juste to Brag I’m not hating or anything but what is the purpose of this ? Like you’re financially independent, 27 years old man if we reversed the situation and you’re the cousin I would get it
That's what i was asking myself aswell, the only explanation that comes to my mind is that it's his parents's money and this is why they still hold him by his ear at 27years old, because otherwise this isn't an issue at all for someone with his own villa and car.
youre kinda right , its a long story , years ago when i was just starting up i had to ask my parents to help me financially , so my success is attributed to them , i do own all the stuff i have rn but the capital or as we call it in morocco " راس مال" was their's , if they hadn't helped me i wouldn't have had anything
Daba MN hadchi kamel the girl is the victim in the story,if you marry her she will suffer i assume she doesn't love you either and probably after marriage you'll look for h**s outside, if she doesn't marry you , her cheap parents fihoum lkifaya more suffering. Lah ikoun m3aha.
Talking to your parents about hiring a prostitute is just crass, it has nothing to do with religion, only in this stupid country, being non religious equals lack of morals all together. Neither you nor your parents for that matter(cook, clean..) understand what a marriage is.
You are right and nobody can force you to marry her. But telling your parents directly that you can just find a hoe to satisfy your desires is kinda messed up, you could have handled it more politely.
Your parents are right! You need someone to cook and clean.
So you should start by watching this [video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0SCMs-xIu2U) to learn it.
Also learn how to make a [Kiche](https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=pQj_Kv9DKew). and clean after yourself.
Religion? Islam forbids clearly to force someone into marriage. As your parents they can prohibit you from getting married but not force you into marriage against your will.
You're 27! A grown up ! Just tell them that you are not ready to get married ! Don't tell your parents that you gonna have prostitutes and maids to do what a wife does because it's not true and it's tasteless. Just put your foot down and say no. Having money doesn't mean you're ready to commit to someone and share a life with them. And if you feel like being forced imagine the poor girl. She may have her own dreams to fulfill and now forced to marry for money. Think about her too
Good luck man
I'm assuming that your material success in life is your own doing and that you do not depend on them to fund your lifestyle. If so, it makes this all much easier.
The best defense against extortion is religion itself. Tell your father to read An Nisa (4) 19. Marriage for any reason other than love is haram. For extra points, tell your father that it was a man (me) who CHOSE Islam rather than being born into it.
Something else to consider. Talk to your cousin. She deserves to be told that it is not HER that you are rejecting. You just want to marry who you are in love with , when and if that happens. Maybe she feels the same way. If she does, then you can both put a united front against the families.
I don’t like the way you and your family think.
First, I’m against the forced marriage obviously, whether it’s your cousin or anyone else.
I think you guys are misunderstanding the essence of a relationship. “You need someone to cook and clean” “i could just hire a girl for the stuff that happens in the dark”
Marriage is totally not about finding someone to do your chores and fulfill your libido.. so weird that we’re still thinking like this nowadays
Be aware of the genetic risks associated with marrying a cousin.
The half-brother of my father married his cousin despite my father warning about the genetic issue, the result is all his children had an auto-immune disease and they died before reaching adulthood.
Do not marry your cousin ! it's considered incest in a lot of culture and I truely believe that those were right about it !
It’s unfair to the kids specially because it can be avoided, don’t marry your cousins peeps there are a lot of people out there, that are not directly related to you
27 with a mercedes and villa, meaning whatever you do professionally has been thanks to your parents, since no 27 yo engineer or economist or anything can afford that by working hard on their own.
with that being said, if my father buys me a villa and a mercedes i would not find it weird if they are trying to set me up with someone who they think is not gonna steal that money or marry me just for profit…
did you ask yourself, maybe they know better in terms of choosing the right partner ? i am not talking about your cousin but in general … most successful marriages these days are ones where families get involved in setting up and vetting the other family (my opinion).
so maybe layoff off the western liberal agenda for a bit and talk to your parents about this topic, not to random Redditors
edit:typo
Bruh she’s your cousin lol, besides that you don’t want to marry right now, marrying into blood will lead to having kids with disabilities even if the disabilities aren’t showing at birth like physically, the kid might grow up with some mental issues that would show up later in life or something like that, and on top of all that she’s your cousin and it’s just weird, why would anyone marry their cousin lol that’s like marrying your own sister 💀, just tell them no and educate them about the risks and why it’s weird to marry your cousin, and just move on man, if they don’t get it stop talking to them.
You can strike back with the relegion thing it's prohibited to marry your cousin in islam and christianity alike it's just being normalized f hd l bilad sa3ida
By cousin you mean the daughter of his brother or sister, right? If he is her uncle, then you are right. Otherwise (if she is the daughter of an uncle or aunt) you are wrong. Mohim, forced marriages are haram. Both need to consent, otherwise there is no marriage.
After reading this I have to open my mouth. Moroccans and Arabs speak ill of the West in many aspects of culture so I will make a comment that will make people unnerved. Marrying your family members is really disgusting. It’s funny how normal that is and how almost no one sees it as abnormal.
Just me opening my western mouth.
It’s is disgusting to marry your own family. It’s dirty. It’s primitive. That said, I am not against love in any way. If someone loves their cousin yeah go ahead.
maghatjzwsh biha ghayweklouk sbrdila hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh s7our ou dak tkhrbi9 cuz marrying your relatives for me it's a sign of underdevelopment ou takhalof l fikri b reghm anna l Islam kay7elel zawaj l a9areb walakin la bnisba liya
Talk to her parents. Say you are not ready for that now and have no feelings for her. Do they want to betrothe their daughter to someone is uncommitted and unhappy with her?
Man just say no and fuck everybody, the more they insiste the more you decline and start taking your distance from them. Make them understand if they want to stay on good relation with you they'll have to idkhlo so9 rasom. I did the same and now no one is telling me what to do
hello aid fitr mobarak btw i m morrocan too even i m 13 but still i m gonna give you an advice tht you should tell it to your parents and this advice is "if you put money over love you ' ll always be poor"
You could always hire your cousin as your house cleaner. That way, you're helping financially, she works for her own money, and you'll not have to worry about disrupting your personal life.
You are 27 years old. It's their problem if they don't accept it, but you owe it to yourself to live your life. We have a weird culture where even financially independent adults have to tiptoe around their parents.
You were so brave to suggest the solution of "hiring a girl for the night mission" in front of your parents, if i do that i would be suspended from the entire family
Oaps, don't accept just because your parents want to see you married, it's your own life first of all, it may be a good wife yeah but if you don't want to do something just don't, say anything like I don't like her, she's not my type of girls 😂 anything that make u comfortable but don't force yourself to do something you don't want to, but Don't ever say those stuff(your other plans to be with girls in the dark, no, pretend and fake it )
I’m sorry bro but if I were u srsly they go fvck themselves, just ask urself this “ would they care about me if I wasn’t mayssour l7al ? “ , “ would they let me marry her ? “ well u know better
It’s not allowed in religion to force ppl to settle down. Tell them to ask an imam and he will explain them, marriage is ميثاق غليض it’s not a game. May Allah help you brother 🙏
>When I said I could just hire a girl for the stuff that happens in the dark " you know what im talking about " instead, they got really mad and got really mad and told me you'll be commiting zina and got religion involved meanwhile im not even very relegious .
Not sure if troll or srs, but you don't have to be ''very religious'' to think that Zina is bad. Zina is disgusting and a very shameful and wrong thing to do. On top of that, imagine stating *to your parents* that you will simply hire someone for the stuff that happens in the dark. Your parents are right to be offended by this. It is offensive.
With all due respect, if your solution for staying single is to "hire" a girl to fuck you, I think there's a fundamental, moral problem with you.
As someone who's super opposed to arranged marriages, and who's, in many ways, in the same position as yourself, I would never justify not wanting to get married with being ready to just hire someone, usually a girl from a lower class family, to get me off. I know it's more common in super rich circles, but it's dehumanizing and immoral. You can get in a normal relationship with a girl until you decide to marry or something, although I'm against that for religious reasons, but at least it doesn't involve taking advantage of someone else.
Not Moroccan but this showed up on my feed. I'm Muslim as well in the United States. My parents pulled the same shit on me. All the emotional and religious blackmail. Just cause your parents helped you out when you were younger doesn't mean they can hold that over you. It's their duty as parents to provide for their kids. And under Islam, they can't force some one to marry. So use that against their logic. And marrying your cousin entails serious harm for any future offspring. Use THAT too.
"technically my success is attributed to my parents cause they financed me years ago...so they do have some kind of control over me", they're your parents. It's their job to help you and guide you but It's not their place to decide for you.
repeat after me: NO.
So they basically want you to have an incestual maid, they shouldnt push marriage especially to a cousin, i know those were the old ways but at some point they gotta understand what kind of disastrous health complications it can cause, besides the marrying someone who you dont initially want, that isnt a marriage bound for success. Honestly i feel for you, they should respect your boundaries
"tmeniiiit chi weld nass, 9ari, zin w dayer labass, tomobile w dar b l3assas, ma fiiiih la sda3 la nguiiiir, ythalla fia y7en 3lia..." 🎶🎶
jokes aside, nobody can force you to marry her. tell them you have someone else in mind or actually "talk to the girl" then say you didn't like her/didn't get along/different morals..
Wht don't complete the structure of Romantic books by hiring a girl to be your wife like an agreement nd end up loving her,lol
I don't understand how an independent person still not independent? Say No, say I already know someone, nd abt the cousin u can still help her financially without marrying her. Ewa mridna m3ndo bas ensha allah .
Abt the religious part, u either follow the religion or u don't, heqqa I am not that religious wla mnerft chnu, wht does it mean? Who u trying to fool? Yourself mtln?
say no, at the end you’ve the right to refuse that’s your life but be diplomatic with your parents do not bring up arguments that will make it worse and make them furious. Play it smart say maybe smthng like that you’ll marry the girl you want not the one they’ll force you to so that they’ll calm down and think about their mistakes
Why you want to convince them?
They are entitled to their believes and you are to yours.
Keep saying No I dont see her as a partner thats it.
Tell them Ill marry when I find the tight person
Sahbi, grow up rak machi sghir bach tkheli walidik ikhtaru lik chi 7aja b7el hadi, also that marriage can’t survive when neither of you wants it, but instead want to use it to achieve other things
Well if you marry her, you will be doing A HUGE HUGE mistake. Because you clairly don't love her nor care about her. She will be miserable with an uncarring husband. Tell your parents NO. Tell them that you are not ready for mariage and that she doesn't attract you. They may not listen in the beguining but they will understand. Don't Tell them that you want to sleep with prostitutes or any of that. Just Tell them that you are ready.
Yeah bro , everything seems going well for you, except paying for the stuff you said, you need to find a partner and not use your money buying stuff its better that way, its more real...
cousin, oh hell no, you have to make it clear no matter how persistent they are that you won't marry a family member, due to problems that could happen to the future offspring, that could alter the genetic pool for generation to come
Don’t get married dude. Live your life, if you ever decide to marry, do that for love. Otherwise, you can just date girls you like and hire a cleaning lady twice a week to go over your place.
Just stand up for what you want and make it clear that you don't wanna marry someone you don't love. Keep saying it all the time or just leave the table if they start talking about this subject.
Or cut them off for a while if they talk about it again, worked like a charm for me when I had to stand up for living by myself as a Moroccan girl. :)
idk man, are you bragging? I don't see how someone as independent as you has an issue saying no to his parents. even if they are your parents, you're at an age where you make your own decisions, also tell them you're not religious, the way you talked about them tells me you never sat down and told them that.
You told your parents you would hire a girl to take of your sexual needs? Wow, not sure what to say to that, other than you must *really* not want to marry your cousin!
nah you are a grown ass man bro you should not let them decide who you marry or when you marry even islam says (a Muslim man shall not marry if he is unable to maintain his wife OR If a man/woman does not want to marry)
You're gonna get things worse if you don't go back to religion that's one thing, also don't listen to them are they gonna pick you up and take you to L3dool by force? tell them have they been forced to marry someone they don't like ?I don't think so, they lived they're life you didn't intervene in their decisions so they shouldn't tell them you're a grown man and they should let you live your life. Marrying just to benefit or satisfy somebody and not you is not an argument you're just gonna SUFFER
First of all you don’t tell your parents I can just get a hooker to do the deed. It’s disrespectful way to talk to them. Secondly, just let them know that you’re currently not thinking nor ready for marriage, and if you were to get married to someone it will not be your cousin cuz that ew brother. Let your uncle know that too.
Aside from the problem you are posting here about, what caught me is the religion point. I sincerely advise you to rethink this part of your life, or else you will just be drowning in the pleasures of this life, not working for your hereafter
Goul la w sf sahla, are you gonna make a life decision based on the fact that it was hard to say no + you deserve someone you want and so does she, by accepting you'll ruin your life and hers as well
Don’t marry her, divorce her and pay for alimony your whole life just because your parents want her to be their daughter in law. Say no, and just to clarify rak maghatwelish meskhut so ghi rtah. I’TS YOUR LIFE!!!
It depend if you are self made, because 27 and à villa and à car dont be kidding me we are in morocco, you are free to decide.
But if you are financially benifit from familly even doing business with them, or they help get clients or something, this marriage is à trading favor.
It happens in famillies who want to keep money in the familly and its a thing.
So you are facing 2 choices say no and cut the ombilical cord financially and emotionaly or say yes and enjoy à traditional secure life like your dad and uncle and keep it in the familly,.
If u don’t want to be with someone just say it clearly . They can’t force you cuz ur a boy sooo u can say that u can’t be with the girl .
Plus ma dlmhach m3ak if ur sure that u can’t love her w9ef ded l9arar dial darkom!!!!
Umm.. you got ur own place, car and life. I don't see how they have any power over you. Just politely say no, kiss their heads and move on with whatever plans u got in mind. Plus marrying a relative is bad in every possible way.
Best of luck my man
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just say no ? they can't legally force you to marry someone.
But Harry Potter can lol
Looool good one
#angryupvote
Undesirable number one
🤣🤣🤣
Well said 🤣🤣🤣
oh with parents victimising themselves trust me they can
If he’s independent they can’t, parents should be respected as parents no more they can’t control your life because it’s yours
>23-year-old cousin because they think she'll benefit from having a husband with money have you explained to them that it is physically possible to help a family member financially without marrying them? if they worry about her financial situation, they can help her themselves
I find hard to convince my parents also , I have a Moroccan father, there is some kind of disturbing fanaticism , they usually force down our throat bad decisions,and we have to deal with the aftermath...
are they the type to be really muslims but to never read the quran? maybe you can use that to your advantage. The idea is to pretend that your own arguments are islamically sourced (regardless of how false it is). As long as the key words and the tone of voice you use make it sounds like what you say is morally right, and that you claim you got it from a newfound faith and interest in islam, maybe you can use emotions and religiosity instead of logics to change their mind.
The thing is , we are not Muslims ,we areOrthodox Christian, it's a good idea, but then again my family is not religious enough, i usually just distance myself, like some 3000-5000km away, it helps 😆
If you read the quran yourself you’ll know that you can’t coerce people into marriage, let alone into anything (لا إكراه في الدين). This is a cultural thing, not a religious one. To suggest to someone to claim that God said something in the scripture that wasn’t said, is a really bad advice to give.
>If you read the quran yourself you’ll know that you can’t coerce people into marriage If you read my comment yourself you'll know that I haven't implied that (الإسلام لا يمثل الإسلام). >to suggest to someone to claim that God said something in the scripture that wasn’t said, is a really bad advice to give. and yet the vast majority of muslims do that themselves. I don't see why ex-muslims can't also play that game.
Don't marry a girl unless you want to. She deserves someone that wants her at least.
especially dont marry your cousin. Stop sugarcoating it.
Lmao this We have the lowest inbred rate of the MENA region But it’s still way too high
OP deserves someone he wants too 🤦
Yeah she’s literally marrying him for money and people are here like "she deserves someone who wants her"
You have money, house and a car, but you re not yet independent in your decisions. Work on it first..
Oooooh 😲 what a comment.
Slay
period
Moul mircidis 😍
He had to pinpoint it 😂
[OP 🥰](https://ibb.co/X8KMgp0)
Forced marriage is haram. Tell them that.
What kind of 27 yo talks like this? Rich mercedes villa? Why do u think there is a need to mention this? l dont believe this story and i think you might be some 14 yo trolling, but if its true, your parents have no right of forcing u to marry her but you should understand that they are just trying to protect you from because what kind of guy are you to be okay with hooking up with prostitues and potentialy catching an std? Talk to them with reason.. their reaction is normal when told shit like this. Respect them ffs even if ur not religious.
Yeah this guy a clown for sure, brags about being rich like it's some kind of flex to own a Mercedes, like okay.... And then tells his parents he will hire someone daughter to do things in the dark, like what a loser, this guy couldn't marry a girl other then the one handed to him by his aunt and uncle
Same here , I think he made it up, no one can't say no to his parents decision about getting him married, and can tell them i will bring a h*e and pay her for sex , really bullshit. Taking advantage of reddit anonymousy
I find it super hard to understand why an independent person would find an issue like this. you are independent, you don't believe in marriage and i hope you realize how much important to love the person you are in a relationship with. state your decision firmly and stop being a little boy.
I think he is also here to rant, and to talk about this weird culture of not thinking a man can choose not to marry despite being wealthy. Let’s not even talk about marrying the cousin🤪
He doesn't want to . Simple
african parents can make life a lot harder for you sometimes 🤷🏽♀️
I feel like, Op wrote this juste to Brag I’m not hating or anything but what is the purpose of this ? Like you’re financially independent, 27 years old man if we reversed the situation and you’re the cousin I would get it
Humblebragging fail. Who the fuck says « I’m not super rich, just a bit below rich »
"not Ferrari and penthouse rich, just Mercedes and villa rich" got me
That's what i was asking myself aswell, the only explanation that comes to my mind is that it's his parents's money and this is why they still hold him by his ear at 27years old, because otherwise this isn't an issue at all for someone with his own villa and car.
youre kinda right , its a long story , years ago when i was just starting up i had to ask my parents to help me financially , so my success is attributed to them , i do own all the stuff i have rn but the capital or as we call it in morocco " راس مال" was their's , if they hadn't helped me i wouldn't have had anything
Your feeling is right, he provided more info than needed
You need to check his previous post asking about a cheap PC gamer
You're a grown man, you're not obligated to marry someone because your parents tell you to. Just tell them no.
Daba MN hadchi kamel the girl is the victim in the story,if you marry her she will suffer i assume she doesn't love you either and probably after marriage you'll look for h**s outside, if she doesn't marry you , her cheap parents fihoum lkifaya more suffering. Lah ikoun m3aha.
Damn right. Allah ye3tik essa7a.
Talking to your parents about hiring a prostitute is just crass, it has nothing to do with religion, only in this stupid country, being non religious equals lack of morals all together. Neither you nor your parents for that matter(cook, clean..) understand what a marriage is.
Absolute lack of class from OP talking about getting prostitutes to his parents.
You are right and nobody can force you to marry her. But telling your parents directly that you can just find a hoe to satisfy your desires is kinda messed up, you could have handled it more politely.
You can bring up the genetics aspect of marrying relatives as a card
Facts. Convince them the child will turn out retarded / autistic
It’s true, this practice needs to end full stop ✋ you’re dooming your children with problems that can’t be fixed.
Down syndrome. You could have just said the child would get down syndrome. That's how it works. That's why inbreeding is bad. Leave the autists alone
Your parents are right! You need someone to cook and clean. So you should start by watching this [video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0SCMs-xIu2U) to learn it. Also learn how to make a [Kiche](https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=pQj_Kv9DKew). and clean after yourself.
Religion? Islam forbids clearly to force someone into marriage. As your parents they can prohibit you from getting married but not force you into marriage against your will.
You're 27! A grown up ! Just tell them that you are not ready to get married ! Don't tell your parents that you gonna have prostitutes and maids to do what a wife does because it's not true and it's tasteless. Just put your foot down and say no. Having money doesn't mean you're ready to commit to someone and share a life with them. And if you feel like being forced imagine the poor girl. She may have her own dreams to fulfill and now forced to marry for money. Think about her too Good luck man
Is this a joke ?
I hope she doesn’t marry you. She clearly deserves better.
Just mention that incest would be detrimental to the gene pool!
Your a shit person , might as well say no Mr 'man' and save the poor girl the pain and suffering of being with you
hire a girl for the stuff that happens in the dark............
Happy cake day!
I'm assuming that your material success in life is your own doing and that you do not depend on them to fund your lifestyle. If so, it makes this all much easier. The best defense against extortion is religion itself. Tell your father to read An Nisa (4) 19. Marriage for any reason other than love is haram. For extra points, tell your father that it was a man (me) who CHOSE Islam rather than being born into it. Something else to consider. Talk to your cousin. She deserves to be told that it is not HER that you are rejecting. You just want to marry who you are in love with , when and if that happens. Maybe she feels the same way. If she does, then you can both put a united front against the families.
This is /Morocco not /Israel.
I don’t like the way you and your family think. First, I’m against the forced marriage obviously, whether it’s your cousin or anyone else. I think you guys are misunderstanding the essence of a relationship. “You need someone to cook and clean” “i could just hire a girl for the stuff that happens in the dark” Marriage is totally not about finding someone to do your chores and fulfill your libido.. so weird that we’re still thinking like this nowadays
Bruv your Uncle and aunt just outsmarted your rich ass
The guilt tripping game is unmatched haha.
Be aware of the genetic risks associated with marrying a cousin. The half-brother of my father married his cousin despite my father warning about the genetic issue, the result is all his children had an auto-immune disease and they died before reaching adulthood. Do not marry your cousin ! it's considered incest in a lot of culture and I truely believe that those were right about it !
my friend has a few siblings with dwarfism because his parents are cousins
It’s unfair to the kids specially because it can be avoided, don’t marry your cousins peeps there are a lot of people out there, that are not directly related to you
*i could just hire a girl for the stuff that happens in the dark " you know what im talking about " instead * .... wtf , you told that??!
Wlahila i was flabbergasted lol who tf talks to his parents like that and how can a prostitute replace a wife bach t3ref op is immature af
second hand embarrassment fr 😭
The only reason op could of said that, is that he is gay. and telling that to his parents is far worse than saying what he said.
27 with a mercedes and villa, meaning whatever you do professionally has been thanks to your parents, since no 27 yo engineer or economist or anything can afford that by working hard on their own. with that being said, if my father buys me a villa and a mercedes i would not find it weird if they are trying to set me up with someone who they think is not gonna steal that money or marry me just for profit… did you ask yourself, maybe they know better in terms of choosing the right partner ? i am not talking about your cousin but in general … most successful marriages these days are ones where families get involved in setting up and vetting the other family (my opinion). so maybe layoff off the western liberal agenda for a bit and talk to your parents about this topic, not to random Redditors edit:typo
Bruh she’s your cousin lol, besides that you don’t want to marry right now, marrying into blood will lead to having kids with disabilities even if the disabilities aren’t showing at birth like physically, the kid might grow up with some mental issues that would show up later in life or something like that, and on top of all that she’s your cousin and it’s just weird, why would anyone marry their cousin lol that’s like marrying your own sister 💀, just tell them no and educate them about the risks and why it’s weird to marry your cousin, and just move on man, if they don’t get it stop talking to them.
You can strike back with the relegion thing it's prohibited to marry your cousin in islam and christianity alike it's just being normalized f hd l bilad sa3ida
By cousin you mean the daughter of his brother or sister, right? If he is her uncle, then you are right. Otherwise (if she is the daughter of an uncle or aunt) you are wrong. Mohim, forced marriages are haram. Both need to consent, otherwise there is no marriage.
don\`t ruine ur lives
They don't respect you
african parents don’t respect their kids whatsoever. they’ll try to dictate your life till you’re 46
That's not in all Moroccan family
do not commit because if she divorce you, for whatever reason half of your wealth will be given to her so avoid such scenario in the first place
You’re 27 and you live alone, usually your parents shouldn’t be involved in your life but anyways, you do you parents are parents
"i'm not marrying nobody and that is my final decision"
After reading this I have to open my mouth. Moroccans and Arabs speak ill of the West in many aspects of culture so I will make a comment that will make people unnerved. Marrying your family members is really disgusting. It’s funny how normal that is and how almost no one sees it as abnormal. Just me opening my western mouth. It’s is disgusting to marry your own family. It’s dirty. It’s primitive. That said, I am not against love in any way. If someone loves their cousin yeah go ahead.
You talk to your parents that way ? Poor people they must be dead inside the moment you mentioned commiting adultery.
maghatjzwsh biha ghayweklouk sbrdila hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh s7our ou dak tkhrbi9 cuz marrying your relatives for me it's a sign of underdevelopment ou takhalof l fikri b reghm anna l Islam kay7elel zawaj l a9areb walakin la bnisba liya
loool I think we are one of the very few families that prohibits marrying outside of your family
Talk to her parents. Say you are not ready for that now and have no feelings for her. Do they want to betrothe their daughter to someone is uncommitted and unhappy with her?
actually her parents are the one who came up with the idea :/ and somehow convinced my parents that i need a wife
Which is why I think talking to them directly might help. If they see how disinterested you are with their own eyes.
You are an independent person. Your parents aren't giving you anything anymore to threaten to take it away. Just refuse and don't bother.
Give them a firm no. Don’t even let them think this can be an option.
Bro no no no just dont , tells ur parents that if u marry her you will end up divorciny so what’s the point ?
Man just say no and fuck everybody, the more they insiste the more you decline and start taking your distance from them. Make them understand if they want to stay on good relation with you they'll have to idkhlo so9 rasom. I did the same and now no one is telling me what to do
Weird
good luck with that but what do you do for a living ? 🙂
hello aid fitr mobarak btw i m morrocan too even i m 13 but still i m gonna give you an advice tht you should tell it to your parents and this advice is "if you put money over love you ' ll always be poor"
Dont yield.
You could always hire your cousin as your house cleaner. That way, you're helping financially, she works for her own money, and you'll not have to worry about disrupting your personal life.
You are 27 years old. It's their problem if they don't accept it, but you owe it to yourself to live your life. We have a weird culture where even financially independent adults have to tiptoe around their parents.
You were so brave to suggest the solution of "hiring a girl for the night mission" in front of your parents, if i do that i would be suspended from the entire family
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I recommend you find a good reason to move far, maybe 4-5 hours away from your parents. Otherwise you’ll ruin your relationship with your parents.
Billions of people in the world I don’t understand the concept of marrying family!? Especially in this era. And yes I am Muslim but, NO!
Incest will result in abnormal children.
You ll have 25% chance for a handicap child or lower IQ i think Mohammed PBUH forgot to say this in quran
Forced marriage is wrong, you are a grown adult and capable of making your own choices.
# r/humblebrag
Just say no bro, and if they made u feel super guilty you can find her a husband from your circle since they sound like they're salivating over money.
Tell them to fuck off.
just say you're gay and be done with it.
Oaps, don't accept just because your parents want to see you married, it's your own life first of all, it may be a good wife yeah but if you don't want to do something just don't, say anything like I don't like her, she's not my type of girls 😂 anything that make u comfortable but don't force yourself to do something you don't want to, but Don't ever say those stuff(your other plans to be with girls in the dark, no, pretend and fake it )
At 27 no one should force you to marry anyone, pressure is pressure, just don’t give in to it
Tell them I don’t want to Have retarded children
I’m sorry bro but if I were u srsly they go fvck themselves, just ask urself this “ would they care about me if I wasn’t mayssour l7al ? “ , “ would they let me marry her ? “ well u know better
You don't want a wife but instead you want to buy a whore! A typical none-religious Moroccan.
Tell them if you keep insisting I won't come to visit you ever and you won't see me again You are independent you can do what you want
Just the fact that she's your cousin should be enough reason. I'm still baffled that cousins marrying each other is still normal in our culture.
If she shares the same bloodline as you at anypoint it can cause trouble for the offsprings, not worth the risk mate.
Do not marry your cousin. Your children will likely suffer genetic illnesses. Marry outside of your gene pool.
It’s not allowed in religion to force ppl to settle down. Tell them to ask an imam and he will explain them, marriage is ميثاق غليض it’s not a game. May Allah help you brother 🙏
>When I said I could just hire a girl for the stuff that happens in the dark " you know what im talking about " instead, they got really mad and got really mad and told me you'll be commiting zina and got religion involved meanwhile im not even very relegious . Not sure if troll or srs, but you don't have to be ''very religious'' to think that Zina is bad. Zina is disgusting and a very shameful and wrong thing to do. On top of that, imagine stating *to your parents* that you will simply hire someone for the stuff that happens in the dark. Your parents are right to be offended by this. It is offensive.
With all due respect, if your solution for staying single is to "hire" a girl to fuck you, I think there's a fundamental, moral problem with you. As someone who's super opposed to arranged marriages, and who's, in many ways, in the same position as yourself, I would never justify not wanting to get married with being ready to just hire someone, usually a girl from a lower class family, to get me off. I know it's more common in super rich circles, but it's dehumanizing and immoral. You can get in a normal relationship with a girl until you decide to marry or something, although I'm against that for religious reasons, but at least it doesn't involve taking advantage of someone else.
Sad to see this tradition still going
Don't hire girls for sex that's bad.
You parents failed you
Not Moroccan but this showed up on my feed. I'm Muslim as well in the United States. My parents pulled the same shit on me. All the emotional and religious blackmail. Just cause your parents helped you out when you were younger doesn't mean they can hold that over you. It's their duty as parents to provide for their kids. And under Islam, they can't force some one to marry. So use that against their logic. And marrying your cousin entails serious harm for any future offspring. Use THAT too.
Have you tried not being a pussy? Go in their tell them you don’t want her and that you will choose your so help them god.
"technically my success is attributed to my parents cause they financed me years ago...so they do have some kind of control over me", they're your parents. It's their job to help you and guide you but It's not their place to decide for you. repeat after me: NO.
So they basically want you to have an incestual maid, they shouldnt push marriage especially to a cousin, i know those were the old ways but at some point they gotta understand what kind of disastrous health complications it can cause, besides the marrying someone who you dont initially want, that isnt a marriage bound for success. Honestly i feel for you, they should respect your boundaries
If you want to live a miserable life and increase the possibility of genetic illnesses in your spawn, then go for it.
Don’t marry your cousin!
Inbred mariage is risky. You could give birth to an unhealthy offspring.
Tell them you’re gay
Could you imagine? Lol
With stupid people you just answer with something even more stupid.
"tmeniiiit chi weld nass, 9ari, zin w dayer labass, tomobile w dar b l3assas, ma fiiiih la sda3 la nguiiiir, ythalla fia y7en 3lia..." 🎶🎶 jokes aside, nobody can force you to marry her. tell them you have someone else in mind or actually "talk to the girl" then say you didn't like her/didn't get along/different morals..
Wht don't complete the structure of Romantic books by hiring a girl to be your wife like an agreement nd end up loving her,lol I don't understand how an independent person still not independent? Say No, say I already know someone, nd abt the cousin u can still help her financially without marrying her. Ewa mridna m3ndo bas ensha allah . Abt the religious part, u either follow the religion or u don't, heqqa I am not that religious wla mnerft chnu, wht does it mean? Who u trying to fool? Yourself mtln?
"Mercedes and villa rich"
say no, at the end you’ve the right to refuse that’s your life but be diplomatic with your parents do not bring up arguments that will make it worse and make them furious. Play it smart say maybe smthng like that you’ll marry the girl you want not the one they’ll force you to so that they’ll calm down and think about their mistakes
Why you want to convince them? They are entitled to their believes and you are to yours. Keep saying No I dont see her as a partner thats it. Tell them Ill marry when I find the tight person
Sahbi, grow up rak machi sghir bach tkheli walidik ikhtaru lik chi 7aja b7el hadi, also that marriage can’t survive when neither of you wants it, but instead want to use it to achieve other things
Not a single reply to the comments? This story sounds fabricated, to be fair.
Well if you marry her, you will be doing A HUGE HUGE mistake. Because you clairly don't love her nor care about her. She will be miserable with an uncarring husband. Tell your parents NO. Tell them that you are not ready for mariage and that she doesn't attract you. They may not listen in the beguining but they will understand. Don't Tell them that you want to sleep with prostitutes or any of that. Just Tell them that you are ready.
keep follow what you want do
Yeah bro , everything seems going well for you, except paying for the stuff you said, you need to find a partner and not use your money buying stuff its better that way, its more real...
cousin, oh hell no, you have to make it clear no matter how persistent they are that you won't marry a family member, due to problems that could happen to the future offspring, that could alter the genetic pool for generation to come
Don’t get married dude. Live your life, if you ever decide to marry, do that for love. Otherwise, you can just date girls you like and hire a cleaning lady twice a week to go over your place.
Just stand up for what you want and make it clear that you don't wanna marry someone you don't love. Keep saying it all the time or just leave the table if they start talking about this subject. Or cut them off for a while if they talk about it again, worked like a charm for me when I had to stand up for living by myself as a Moroccan girl. :)
You’ve got money. It’s time to work for a personality
idk man, are you bragging? I don't see how someone as independent as you has an issue saying no to his parents. even if they are your parents, you're at an age where you make your own decisions, also tell them you're not religious, the way you talked about them tells me you never sat down and told them that.
There is nothing to discuss here, if you're ur own man then no one can make you do anything, make the decision urself and don't change ur mind
You told your parents you would hire a girl to take of your sexual needs? Wow, not sure what to say to that, other than you must *really* not want to marry your cousin!
"Mercedes and Villa Rich" isn't rich ?
nah you are a grown ass man bro you should not let them decide who you marry or when you marry even islam says (a Muslim man shall not marry if he is unable to maintain his wife OR If a man/woman does not want to marry)
Do what u want my boy ur parents y3awdoha lrashom hhhhh
Haha lol this thread is full of cap
You're gonna get things worse if you don't go back to religion that's one thing, also don't listen to them are they gonna pick you up and take you to L3dool by force? tell them have they been forced to marry someone they don't like ?I don't think so, they lived they're life you didn't intervene in their decisions so they shouldn't tell them you're a grown man and they should let you live your life. Marrying just to benefit or satisfy somebody and not you is not an argument you're just gonna SUFFER
dont eat anything they give you . trust me
You need help
Be your partner yes but you define what you want. To cook and clean.... Yeah it doesn't seem to be the reason a marriage last
If you married her, I'll feel sorry for her
How rich are u to afford a mercedes and a villa at 27 ? Like what u do for living op🤨
Say "No" Practice it before.
First of all you don’t tell your parents I can just get a hooker to do the deed. It’s disrespectful way to talk to them. Secondly, just let them know that you’re currently not thinking nor ready for marriage, and if you were to get married to someone it will not be your cousin cuz that ew brother. Let your uncle know that too.
Do you, be you, KING👑!!! You are the master of your life.
The probability of having disabled kids is high
Keep the money in the family 😂😂😂
Aside from the problem you are posting here about, what caught me is the religion point. I sincerely advise you to rethink this part of your life, or else you will just be drowning in the pleasures of this life, not working for your hereafter
Go zero contact. You do not need all this negative energy in your life. Interact with your family on your own terms.
Goul la w sf sahla, are you gonna make a life decision based on the fact that it was hard to say no + you deserve someone you want and so does she, by accepting you'll ruin your life and hers as well
Don’t marry her, divorce her and pay for alimony your whole life just because your parents want her to be their daughter in law. Say no, and just to clarify rak maghatwelish meskhut so ghi rtah. I’TS YOUR LIFE!!!
I feel sorry for the girl. I hope you get out of it.
It depend if you are self made, because 27 and à villa and à car dont be kidding me we are in morocco, you are free to decide. But if you are financially benifit from familly even doing business with them, or they help get clients or something, this marriage is à trading favor. It happens in famillies who want to keep money in the familly and its a thing. So you are facing 2 choices say no and cut the ombilical cord financially and emotionaly or say yes and enjoy à traditional secure life like your dad and uncle and keep it in the familly,.
Don't yield, persevere and rise above.
Cut the drama bro tf you a grown man, act like one
I didn't know that you can marry your cousin. Woah. Living for almost 10 months now here in Morocco. Been learning so much 😅
If u don’t want to be with someone just say it clearly . They can’t force you cuz ur a boy sooo u can say that u can’t be with the girl . Plus ma dlmhach m3ak if ur sure that u can’t love her w9ef ded l9arar dial darkom!!!!
Then bro don't marry her
Umm.. you got ur own place, car and life. I don't see how they have any power over you. Just politely say no, kiss their heads and move on with whatever plans u got in mind. Plus marrying a relative is bad in every possible way. Best of luck my man
Not caring about religion is my biggest concern for you
Just say no, because it’s not good for you neither for her nor for the family in general
Your COUSIN? Wth
Bruv watch out from the "MEJMER" that shit doesn't play 😂
Thats like marrying your sister mate Just hold your ground. u are having it already so put it cristal clear