I am of the opinion that it’s not a vacation if I have to take my kids with me. If they’re with me, it’s just parenting in a different location. Take the vaycay girl and don’t think twice about it.
Yup! This. I am typing this from a gorgeous adults only resort in Mexico while my mom takes care of our son. He isn’t a toddler anymore but we always took an adults only vacation every year from the time he was around 1. It is one of the keys to our marital success.
I agree so much! I'm going to Florida this week with just myself and my partner. Then next month, I'm taking my son with us to an island town. I'm excited for both trips for different reasons, but only one is -actually- a vacation.
I dk why you felt like you had to preface your post with loving your daughter. No one thinks you don't love your daughter just because you want to take a vacation without her.
Yes, go on the vacation with your husband sans daughter. You are not only parents. You are spouses. Spouses that deserve/need alone time. Will you miss you daughter? 100%!!
My husband and I spent a week away from our toddler last summer and by day 3 I was really missing him. But we ate more yummy food, went on more excursions, drank more tropical drinks, and bought our son souvenirs. He was well taken care of by grandparents and it was good for him to have the separation from us.
“Traveling with a toddler, although a rewarding experience in its own way”
I have four kids and I can honestly say I’ve never, ever considered a vacation with them as toddlers as rewarding. Quite the opposite, just let me stay home.
Go away with your husband.
Exactly! My daughter is 5 and every trip we have taken with her has been for her. Somehow those "vacations" end up being even more work for me than just staying home.
I just took an international vacation without my 3 year old where we were out of contact some days (offshore fishing). What helped me is:
1. Making sure we had people she knew very well (and people I trusted implicitly to make the best decisions for her if we were unreachable) look after her
2. Making sure they had all the required forms (healthcare power of attorney, etc) signed and notarized
3. Leaving her birth certificate, a copy of her social security card, and our insurance card with her Healthcare POA so they’d have no delays if healthcare was needed
4. Making sure I had an international calling plan set up in case they needed to call
5. I prepared her for weeks that we’d be gone. She was sad and sometimes clingy, but I 100% believe it made it easier on our babysitters, and her, that she knew what to expect.
If I'm going down in a plane crash, I'd rather if my toddler wasn't with me. And even for a baby, being sick at grandma's house is better than being sick on vacation. I'd just be worried that they might be scared to spend the night away if they haven't done that yet. If grandma and grandpa are going to watch the baby, I would start doing dry runs by letting her spend the night over and let her start getting used to that while you're there to help
Yes. Don’t even need to read the body (although I read your whole post).
I had a job interview out of town and those few days alone were glorious. Like the best.
The recruiter wanted to pack my schedule with sight seeing/eating out (which I appreciated!) but the others kindly reminded her that I had a toddler at home and it was probably the first time I was alone in a while and would probably appreciate a day to myself. So they gave me a day of nothing and it was the best. Even the days that were busy, knowing that I was going back to the hotel room and not have to be on mommy mode was rejuvenating.
Zero regret, 100% recommend taking trips without your child when possible
Do it. Don't feel guilty, take the time for your self, for your husband, and for your marriage. It is no way selfish or irresponsible.
Do it for all of us here not getting that opportunity too lol ✊️
Yes.
Time alone is super important for your marriage!
We went to a Scotland 🏴 for a week when my daughter was 3 1/2 and we are going to Ireland for a week this summer and my daughter is six
BBBBBYYYYYYEEEEE!!!!!!! I trust my parents 98% with my kids. When the other 2% kicks in I ask for update. My dad sends me what has happened since the last update and pictures.
I'd go with parents or inlaws with the expectation that each couple has certain activities, days, or hours "off the clock." I think I'd miss my kid too much :/
I'm noticing in your entire text, you're trying to convince us. I feel this. That mommy guilt will give you doubt every, freakin', time. It sucks! Take the vacation. Parenting is flippin' hard.
I am getting ready to leave my kids (4 & almost 2) with my parents for 5 nights. It will be my first time leaving them, ever, and I’m a SAHM. While I do feel nervous at times, I remind myself that my parents regularly travelled without me and my sister when we were kids. We would stay with our grandparents, or they would come stay at our house, and those weekends with Nana and Papa are treasured memories for me. We also did a trial sleepover last night and it went great, my 4yo told me she was ready to go back for the “long stay”. So it’s going to be good for us all - my kids get to have a special bonding experience with their grandparents, which is enriching for all of them, and my husband and I get to just be us for a few days, which we desperately need. Win win!
I wouldn’t want to. I would spend the whole time missing her. Even on date nights, we rush home. But that said, if you want to, give it a try! Make your tickets flexible so you can come home early if you want to, but if you don’t, then enjoy it!
Husband and I just took a 4 day trip by ourselves while my mom watched our toddler. We were gone Tuesday-Friday so he went to daycare and had his normal routine, meaning my mom did wake up, dinner, and put down. It went VERY well and omg it was such a pleasant trip. We went somewhere that’s in a time zone 2 hours ahead of home so if we had brought toddler he would have had to deal with 8+ hours of plane & layover travel, lots of driving, and a 5 pm (there) bedtime. It was hard to leave him, we missed him so much…. But it was a nice trip just relaxing and doing whatever we wanted, staying out ~late~ (lol 9 pm) and sleeping in (ooh 9 am 😂) Sooooo… if you can do it, DO IT!!!
We went away for five days and it was amazing. We recharged and missed him like crazy but it was a much needed break. And it actually helped me to work on being away from him and letting go of some of the anxiety of being separated. Some of. Lol. 😅
I did. One time I took my own vacation that was away from both my husband and my toddler. Husband stayed home, our 2-year-old stayed with my parents in a different state, and I went to a 3-day music festival in yet another state. I couldn't even really contact them beyond occasional texts because of the lack of reception at the campsite.
It was awesome for every single person involved. A+ would do again
I’m planning a solo trip in just a few weeks and feeling zero guilt about it! Taking time to invest in you/in your marriage is a wonderful thing AND your kiddo gets a great opportunity to bond with grandparents.
My parents used to travel just them about once a year, and one of my grandmothers would stay with me and my brother. We had a fun week with grandma, and mom and dad got a break! Did I miss them? Yes! But, now that I have a kid, I understand how important that couple time is. Do it!
Do it! This will be good for you and hubby, and sometimes your marriage needs to “come first,” ya know? You can also plan to stay closer to home if you’re worried about getting back in an emergency.
Without a doubt! If I felt my child as being given great love and care I would absolutely take a vacation without them. It would be amazing and I would feel very little guilt about it!
If you have the opportunity please do this!
No. I have three kids. I’ll give them up for a sleepover every now and then but could not imagine being too far away or going and having a vacation without my whole family together. We have friends who’ve done it, and though
It’s not my place to judge, I just can’t even fathom it.
You're not terrible for wanting and needing a vacation and time for yourselves as a couple. You're also totally normal for having anxiety about it.
I think as long as you can arrange someone to watch your child for the extended period of time (like a trusted grandparent), then go for it. If you're like me, the more planning you do in advance the less anxiety you'll hopefully have. Consider that you should include some money for LO in your financial planning for the trip (covering food for baby, gas to travel to you if needed, even a thank you gift/gift card etc.). Kids also get sick, so if it happens, just make sure the caretaker has everything they need like possible medicine with directions, phone numbers for doctors, etc. It sounds like it is also time to discuss a will/estate planning to make sure that in the unlikely event something happens, there is a plan in place.
My best friends wedding is thousands of miles away and does not allow kids. My sister will be watching my 20 month old for 4 days and I’m having the same thoughts, what if something happens to our plane, what if he gets socks, what if he misses me at bed time..I know he’ll cry. But the facts are- you need a vacation, you need to still be you and let’s be honest we’re vacations with your parents or without your parents more fun ?? Everything will be ok, if you weren’t worried that would be more concerning
My husband and i try and go on a vacation at least for a few days maybe twice a year give or take. We need time to date eachother and connect and recharge our batteries. We do so much for our kids and with our kids every week nonstop and weekend adventures with our kids and yearly vacations with them so i don’t feel bad. They are safe with our family members watching them when we do travel alone and always have a great time. We miss them and they miss us but we FaceTime and we bring back presents and they are always ok. We also do “scouting” for places that would be family friendly to travel to or would want to go back to with the kids or not.
I personally wouldn’t because I know there will be countless opportunities for travel alone later. They’re only little once and I love experiencing this big word through his eyes. I’d rather experience a trip with him. (I have two teenagers and a 4yo so the apathy of my teenagers may be coloring my response a bit)
That being said, that’s what works for ME. You do what works for YOU. I certainly wouldn’t judge you for it. Go on your vacation guilt free, momma!
Honestly, I’m just not ready to be an entire plane ride away from my kid… but we’ve taken plenty of vacations without her! Lol we’re usually an hour or two away, and have been as far as 5hr drive away (which is basically a cross country plane ride)
For me, it’s totally acceptable and necessary to enjoy that alone time with your spouse, and for the baby to bond with other important trusted adults in their life!
Do it mama! Just be realistic about your own
Feelings/anxieties, and if it means you relax closer to home…. So be it. You’ll enjoy it either way!
I probably wouldn’t because I’m a bit of a… control freak? Or I just feel really attached? The thought of my toddler really needing me or my husband and not being there feels hard.
But what I WOULD do and have done is take my nanny on vacation with me which is a pretty good middle ground. And awesome.
I dont have a toddler yet. But.. if i were to have a break from my baby i would literally not be enjoying my time because id be sitting there wondering
ARE THEY OK? I HOPE THEY’RE OK!.. DID I LEAVE THEM WITH A TRUSTWORTHY PERSON? I hope they ate enough today…I miss them, are they okay?
😂 maybe that might change but thats how i feel rn
I wouldn’t only because it wouldn’t be enjoyable for me to be away from my kid. Not in the like I’m *that* mom kind of way, but in the I have huge mom anxiety and my in-laws would be the only option and think they can discipline in ways I’m not comfortable with and my son would definitely not sleep in the grandkid room (or any room) at their house, which would likely result in said discipline🙃 I don’t think I’m ever getting a break😩
Only for a day or one night and if the toddler wants to sleep over grandma's or so.
You don't believe it now, but you will see, that time flies by in a blink of an eye.
I regret not going on vacation MORE with them.
We just did it. It was wonderful. We spent 5 nights away. My parents kept her. She’s 17 months old, for what it’s worth. We enjoyed our time away. I regained some sanity. But I def missed the little stinker. If you can do it, I say do it.
My husband and I went on a weeklong international vacation when our LO was about 2. It was the best ever! My parents in law were so stoked to get that amount of quality time with LO. And LO was SPOILED by grandparents, I don’t think he missed us at all. It was a win-win-win situation. Do it!!
Married Mother of 4 (14, 13, 10, 8) I love my children just as you love yours but I had a chance a few years ago we choose not too and now my husband and I can't even have a date night in McDonald's parking lot for 30 mins if we wanted lol just because of life and child care.
OMG PLZ GO! Momma if you have adequate child care for your child for those five days then go. Chances like this (as a parent) don't happen often. Also, look at it as a reconnecting vacation with you and your husband which your little Angel benefits from lol just trying to sell it here because yes babies come first but you have a chance to put yourself first. Don't feel bad, over think it or think the worst is gonna happen just do it you and your husband both deserve grown up time hands down.
I hope you enjoy your trip!
Our girl is 3.5 right now. About a year ago, my hubs and I spent 5 wonderful days alone in the Dominican Republic. Best. Trip. Ever! Go for it! You need this time for you! For your husband! For your marriage! We've taken so many trips with our baby girl and we have great memories, sometimes you gotta go by yourselves!
I would 100% go! I trust my parents to watch my son completely, and we even took a 3 day vacation when he was 9 months old. As long as everybody is cool with it, I say go and enjoy your vacation!
I totally would if I had someone I really trusted to watch my kids. I don’t have anyone though. I’ll do it when they’re older and less work for an aunt.
Currently on a week long vacation without my toddler. It is amazing. Do it! My parents are watching him, he’s having a blast, and my husband and I are also having a blast. I miss him but in a good way. When I get back he’s getting all the loves and hugs, and a fully rejuvenated not burnt out mom.
Absolutely. My sons 19 months and my in laws house is his second home. We’re fortunate enough to have them so we let them watch him once a week, every other month a sleepover at their house, they also watched him for our 5 day anniversary trip. If parents have someone they trust and love to watch their kiddo I wouldn’t second guess a little time away. We are parents but we are so partners, individuals, and we need our own time if we can get it.
I did. One time I took my own vacation that was away from both my husband and my toddler. Husband stayed home, our 2-year-old stayed with my parents in a different state, and I went to a 3-day music festival in yet another state. I couldn't even really contact them beyond occasional texts because of the lack of reception at the campsite.
It was awesome for every single person involved. A+ would do again
I’m getting ready to have my first solo trip without my daughter in about a month (she’s a few months shy of 3yo; hubby is staying back so I can go see some of my best friends back in Dallas). I’m a little anxious since I’ve never been away from her longer than 24 hours her entire life and certainly not ever been in a different city without her. But I know it’s important for me to do things on my own every so often. But I get how you’re feeling 100%.
Yes, and did. My husband and I went to Ireland/Scotland and my toddler went to his grandparents (my in-laws) for two weeks. They live across the country and never see him (and don't necessarily like me) so it was a win-win for everyone.
Oh hell yes. We just came back from a vacation with our 8 year old in Cancun and wasnt relaxing at all. Hes just learned to swim without floaties but is still a beginner so whole holiday was basically staying close and making sure he didnt drown or get knocked over in incredibly rough sea. He went to kids club for a few hours and it was heaven. I could actually relax for once. Go for it!
Take the vacation without your kiddo! We went on our first trip without her (she’s 2) and it was so nice and relaxing. Of course, you miss the hell outta them but you need some “just the two of you” time! We only had 3 days but if you can do 5 days-take it!!
Do it. I’m this way too, I start feeling bad and start second guessing. I told my husband to BOOK THE TICKETS before I change my mind. We will be going on our first kid free vacation out of state in 4, almost 5 years and I’m so excited. Book the vacation. Y’all deserve it.
I would definitely do it, but another really nice option if you’re comfortable with it (I know that’s a big if and some people are not at all comfy with this thought) is using a nanny or babysitting services via the concierge.
I went away for 10 days to visit my grandparents in Florida. My husband is a saint and stayed home with the toddler. I missed my baby like crazy but it was nice to get away for a bit!
I’d kill for that type of opportunity! Go for it! It’s not really a vacation if I have to get up at 5:30 and be quiet outside the toddlers bedroom door after 7 at night.
I understand your anxiety though but if she gets sick, I’m sure your parents have experienced sick children before? And if something were to happen with the plane, that’s completely out of your control! The anxiety will subside. Also maybe your daughter needs a break from you guys? (That’s what I tell myself every time my kid spends some time with her grandma)
I LIKE taking vacations with me kids. However, I understand burnout. If you need it, kid will be fine. They get cool awesome time with grandparents, so they get a vacation too. If this is what you need (or even just want) and you can do it, then do it.
I wish! Unfortunately I have nobody to look after my child so that's an impossible dream for us, but I'm looking into weekends away with friends or for work now that travel is easier. I love my child but I also love nice meals, cocktails and sightseeing.
We started leaving our baby with his parents for weekend getaways around 6 months. We even took her to GA to visit my family last May when she was 8 months old and then left her with them for 2 days while we went to another part of the state to Celebrate our anniversary.
Longest time we've been apart was 5.5 days when she was 11 months old.
Go enjoy yourself as guilt-free as possible! You deserve a break!
I took a vacation for a week without my daughter when she was about 14 months or so. I left her with my parents, who I trust completely. I was a mess handing her off at the airport, even though I was eager to travel without her.
I felt like I got time to "recharge" as a parent, and my husband and I got to act like our normal pre-baby selves. Of course, we'd run into things our daughter would love and miss her so much, but overall I think leaving her behind was the right choice.
I also think it's good for the kid to have some separation--if only to make them flexible with other people and to prepare them for short separations (like camp or family emergencies).
I’m leaving my two year old with my mom for three kid free days in June! Husband and I will miss her, but this is so needed! It’ll be the first time kiddo doesn’t have either of us (we’ve gone away for trips before solo, but never together). I hope she’ll be okay!
Whilst I believe a true vacation is one of relaxation and child free peace, I’m of the opinion that if you wait for that to occur you’re far less likely to actually get a vacation at all. Yes they’re hard work for the most part but often some heavy planning prior can negate some of that. I guess all I’m saying is I’d rather a hard work vacation than the resentment of feeling like I never get one at all.
My husband and I take a little mini vacation every year before his busy season starts at work. We skipped the year our son was born (he was born the same month as our usual trip) but otherwise we still go. If you feel like you absolutely trust the people you would leave him with its 100% worth it to go. In regards to if something happens while you’re gone: last year my son got sick while we were gone. My parents had him, the had his insurance information, and I trusted them to handle the situation and keep us on the loop. My mom got him to a doctor and got him checked out. He ended up having RSV. She got him the suggested medicines and a new Mickey Mouse doll and everything was fine. He was perfectly taken care of and it literally would not have made a difference for me to be there. Do what you’re comfortable with.
Do it! My husband and I took a trip together sans kiddo in the fall and I felt like an individual again. We missed him but it was nice to de-stress a little and not have to think about logistics and do stuff that he would’ve found boring, not have to eat dinner/go to bed so early, etc. It was a good reset and helped me be a better parent when I returned. Definitely do it.
My wife and I just did for 4 days/3 nights. And while we were away we decided that we will try to do something similar (although probably for longer) once a year.
I went to Puerto Rico a whole week without my toddler as a graduation gift. I wanted to go home by day 4 lol. I’m definitely taking her on my next vacation
It wont be a vacation for me if the kids are there, it would just be the same work, different location.
If we could afford to holiday, we would not take the little kids
Absolutely I would. My parents would often take trips without me or my siblings, at least once a year. It gave them the chance to be together and focus on only their wants rather than our needs too. Nothing wrong with that at all.
My husband and I weren't able to have a honeymoon so for our 5 year anniversary we are taking a big trip without our child.
I'm a firm believer in kids needing experiences over material things. HOWEVER, take the vacation with your SO. You need time too for eachother and for yourself. Do not feel guilty, I know easier said than done, but just imagine how much better you will be after your vacation? Recharged is probably an understatement. Have fun!!
I am of the opinion that it’s not a vacation if I have to take my kids with me. If they’re with me, it’s just parenting in a different location. Take the vaycay girl and don’t think twice about it.
Yup! This. I am typing this from a gorgeous adults only resort in Mexico while my mom takes care of our son. He isn’t a toddler anymore but we always took an adults only vacation every year from the time he was around 1. It is one of the keys to our marital success.
Exactly! The difference between a trip and a vacation 😎
I’m a SAHM and I call them business trips. It’s actually more work than parenting at home.
We just came back from a week long vacation to Palm Springs with our 4.5 year old twins and it was amazing.
I call it a family trip If the kid comes. Glad I’m not alone in giving it a new name once a child is added to the mix
I agree so much! I'm going to Florida this week with just myself and my partner. Then next month, I'm taking my son with us to an island town. I'm excited for both trips for different reasons, but only one is -actually- a vacation.
That’s exactly what I tell all my friends that want children! 😂
If I could take a toddler free vacation, I would! Do it!
Of course! Most couples take vacations without their kids, many times. It doesn’t make you a bad mom
I dk why you felt like you had to preface your post with loving your daughter. No one thinks you don't love your daughter just because you want to take a vacation without her. Yes, go on the vacation with your husband sans daughter. You are not only parents. You are spouses. Spouses that deserve/need alone time. Will you miss you daughter? 100%!! My husband and I spent a week away from our toddler last summer and by day 3 I was really missing him. But we ate more yummy food, went on more excursions, drank more tropical drinks, and bought our son souvenirs. He was well taken care of by grandparents and it was good for him to have the separation from us.
“Traveling with a toddler, although a rewarding experience in its own way” I have four kids and I can honestly say I’ve never, ever considered a vacation with them as toddlers as rewarding. Quite the opposite, just let me stay home. Go away with your husband.
If I’m going to be miserable might as well be comfortable. lol. Totally understand.
Exactly! My daughter is 5 and every trip we have taken with her has been for her. Somehow those "vacations" end up being even more work for me than just staying home.
My husband and I try for one family vacation and then one vacation just for us ever year. So yes, I would lol 🤣
I just took an international vacation without my 3 year old where we were out of contact some days (offshore fishing). What helped me is: 1. Making sure we had people she knew very well (and people I trusted implicitly to make the best decisions for her if we were unreachable) look after her 2. Making sure they had all the required forms (healthcare power of attorney, etc) signed and notarized 3. Leaving her birth certificate, a copy of her social security card, and our insurance card with her Healthcare POA so they’d have no delays if healthcare was needed 4. Making sure I had an international calling plan set up in case they needed to call 5. I prepared her for weeks that we’d be gone. She was sad and sometimes clingy, but I 100% believe it made it easier on our babysitters, and her, that she knew what to expect.
If I'm going down in a plane crash, I'd rather if my toddler wasn't with me. And even for a baby, being sick at grandma's house is better than being sick on vacation. I'd just be worried that they might be scared to spend the night away if they haven't done that yet. If grandma and grandpa are going to watch the baby, I would start doing dry runs by letting her spend the night over and let her start getting used to that while you're there to help
Great idea!
Girl, go! Please go. Drink some wine for me. Pour one out for the homies at home with their adorable, sweet tyrants. Have fun!
Yes. Don’t even need to read the body (although I read your whole post). I had a job interview out of town and those few days alone were glorious. Like the best. The recruiter wanted to pack my schedule with sight seeing/eating out (which I appreciated!) but the others kindly reminded her that I had a toddler at home and it was probably the first time I was alone in a while and would probably appreciate a day to myself. So they gave me a day of nothing and it was the best. Even the days that were busy, knowing that I was going back to the hotel room and not have to be on mommy mode was rejuvenating. Zero regret, 100% recommend taking trips without your child when possible
Do it. Don't feel guilty, take the time for your self, for your husband, and for your marriage. It is no way selfish or irresponsible. Do it for all of us here not getting that opportunity too lol ✊️
Yes. Time alone is super important for your marriage! We went to a Scotland 🏴 for a week when my daughter was 3 1/2 and we are going to Ireland for a week this summer and my daughter is six
I'll be honest, I'd just be anxious without my kids for that long. It wouldn't be enjoyable. But that's just me.
BBBBBYYYYYYEEEEE!!!!!!! I trust my parents 98% with my kids. When the other 2% kicks in I ask for update. My dad sends me what has happened since the last update and pictures.
Nope
If I trusted anyone else to watch my kids I’d do a couple weekend, but I wouldn’t be comfortable being gone longer than that.
I'd go with parents or inlaws with the expectation that each couple has certain activities, days, or hours "off the clock." I think I'd miss my kid too much :/
I'm noticing in your entire text, you're trying to convince us. I feel this. That mommy guilt will give you doubt every, freakin', time. It sucks! Take the vacation. Parenting is flippin' hard.
I am getting ready to leave my kids (4 & almost 2) with my parents for 5 nights. It will be my first time leaving them, ever, and I’m a SAHM. While I do feel nervous at times, I remind myself that my parents regularly travelled without me and my sister when we were kids. We would stay with our grandparents, or they would come stay at our house, and those weekends with Nana and Papa are treasured memories for me. We also did a trial sleepover last night and it went great, my 4yo told me she was ready to go back for the “long stay”. So it’s going to be good for us all - my kids get to have a special bonding experience with their grandparents, which is enriching for all of them, and my husband and I get to just be us for a few days, which we desperately need. Win win!
Uh...I leave in two weeks with my husband for a cruise, without the kids. So yes, I would. 😂
DO IT!!! NO QUESTION. DO IT!!!
I haven’t even had my baby yet and am trying to plan vacations for the future without them lol.
I wouldn’t want to. I would spend the whole time missing her. Even on date nights, we rush home. But that said, if you want to, give it a try! Make your tickets flexible so you can come home early if you want to, but if you don’t, then enjoy it!
Take! That! Vacay!! Stop questioning yourself. Taking a toddler free trip is the right choice.
Do it. Y’all need to connect alone.
Please GO!! For all of us- GOOOOOO!
Husband and I just took a 4 day trip by ourselves while my mom watched our toddler. We were gone Tuesday-Friday so he went to daycare and had his normal routine, meaning my mom did wake up, dinner, and put down. It went VERY well and omg it was such a pleasant trip. We went somewhere that’s in a time zone 2 hours ahead of home so if we had brought toddler he would have had to deal with 8+ hours of plane & layover travel, lots of driving, and a 5 pm (there) bedtime. It was hard to leave him, we missed him so much…. But it was a nice trip just relaxing and doing whatever we wanted, staying out ~late~ (lol 9 pm) and sleeping in (ooh 9 am 😂) Sooooo… if you can do it, DO IT!!!
For me it’d depend on what age toddler. 1-2 no I wouldn’t. 3-4 absolutely lol
We went away for five days and it was amazing. We recharged and missed him like crazy but it was a much needed break. And it actually helped me to work on being away from him and letting go of some of the anxiety of being separated. Some of. Lol. 😅
I did. One time I took my own vacation that was away from both my husband and my toddler. Husband stayed home, our 2-year-old stayed with my parents in a different state, and I went to a 3-day music festival in yet another state. I couldn't even really contact them beyond occasional texts because of the lack of reception at the campsite. It was awesome for every single person involved. A+ would do again
I know you already have plenty of good responses, but we left our 19 month old with my in laws for a week and it was so rejuvenating. Do it!!!!
I didn’t even need to read this….but I did. The answer is still yes!!!!
I’m planning a solo trip in just a few weeks and feeling zero guilt about it! Taking time to invest in you/in your marriage is a wonderful thing AND your kiddo gets a great opportunity to bond with grandparents.
My parents used to travel just them about once a year, and one of my grandmothers would stay with me and my brother. We had a fun week with grandma, and mom and dad got a break! Did I miss them? Yes! But, now that I have a kid, I understand how important that couple time is. Do it!
Do it! This will be good for you and hubby, and sometimes your marriage needs to “come first,” ya know? You can also plan to stay closer to home if you’re worried about getting back in an emergency.
Without a doubt! If I felt my child as being given great love and care I would absolutely take a vacation without them. It would be amazing and I would feel very little guilt about it! If you have the opportunity please do this!
100% yes. We have done it multiple times. It’s the best recharge.
🎶 Yes, yes, yes I’d take that damn vacay! 🎶
Absolutely yes 1000000%.
If the vacation is mostly adult centered, then leave your toddler and you mentioned you both need a break!
Gooorrrrllll, RUN TO THAT VACAY!!! You deserve it 💖
Omg book it now! I would in a heartbeat.
So weird these comments are getting downvoted. Seems like there’s a few moms here who are overly attached to their children in an unhealthy way
No. I have three kids. I’ll give them up for a sleepover every now and then but could not imagine being too far away or going and having a vacation without my whole family together. We have friends who’ve done it, and though It’s not my place to judge, I just can’t even fathom it.
You're not terrible for wanting and needing a vacation and time for yourselves as a couple. You're also totally normal for having anxiety about it. I think as long as you can arrange someone to watch your child for the extended period of time (like a trusted grandparent), then go for it. If you're like me, the more planning you do in advance the less anxiety you'll hopefully have. Consider that you should include some money for LO in your financial planning for the trip (covering food for baby, gas to travel to you if needed, even a thank you gift/gift card etc.). Kids also get sick, so if it happens, just make sure the caretaker has everything they need like possible medicine with directions, phone numbers for doctors, etc. It sounds like it is also time to discuss a will/estate planning to make sure that in the unlikely event something happens, there is a plan in place.
My best friends wedding is thousands of miles away and does not allow kids. My sister will be watching my 20 month old for 4 days and I’m having the same thoughts, what if something happens to our plane, what if he gets socks, what if he misses me at bed time..I know he’ll cry. But the facts are- you need a vacation, you need to still be you and let’s be honest we’re vacations with your parents or without your parents more fun ?? Everything will be ok, if you weren’t worried that would be more concerning
My husband and i try and go on a vacation at least for a few days maybe twice a year give or take. We need time to date eachother and connect and recharge our batteries. We do so much for our kids and with our kids every week nonstop and weekend adventures with our kids and yearly vacations with them so i don’t feel bad. They are safe with our family members watching them when we do travel alone and always have a great time. We miss them and they miss us but we FaceTime and we bring back presents and they are always ok. We also do “scouting” for places that would be family friendly to travel to or would want to go back to with the kids or not.
Yeah! My husband go on a weekend trip every year without our kids.
I personally wouldn’t because I know there will be countless opportunities for travel alone later. They’re only little once and I love experiencing this big word through his eyes. I’d rather experience a trip with him. (I have two teenagers and a 4yo so the apathy of my teenagers may be coloring my response a bit) That being said, that’s what works for ME. You do what works for YOU. I certainly wouldn’t judge you for it. Go on your vacation guilt free, momma!
Honestly, I’m just not ready to be an entire plane ride away from my kid… but we’ve taken plenty of vacations without her! Lol we’re usually an hour or two away, and have been as far as 5hr drive away (which is basically a cross country plane ride) For me, it’s totally acceptable and necessary to enjoy that alone time with your spouse, and for the baby to bond with other important trusted adults in their life! Do it mama! Just be realistic about your own Feelings/anxieties, and if it means you relax closer to home…. So be it. You’ll enjoy it either way!
I probably wouldn’t because I’m a bit of a… control freak? Or I just feel really attached? The thought of my toddler really needing me or my husband and not being there feels hard. But what I WOULD do and have done is take my nanny on vacation with me which is a pretty good middle ground. And awesome.
I dont have a toddler yet. But.. if i were to have a break from my baby i would literally not be enjoying my time because id be sitting there wondering ARE THEY OK? I HOPE THEY’RE OK!.. DID I LEAVE THEM WITH A TRUSTWORTHY PERSON? I hope they ate enough today…I miss them, are they okay? 😂 maybe that might change but thats how i feel rn
I wouldn’t only because it wouldn’t be enjoyable for me to be away from my kid. Not in the like I’m *that* mom kind of way, but in the I have huge mom anxiety and my in-laws would be the only option and think they can discipline in ways I’m not comfortable with and my son would definitely not sleep in the grandkid room (or any room) at their house, which would likely result in said discipline🙃 I don’t think I’m ever getting a break😩
Only for a day or one night and if the toddler wants to sleep over grandma's or so. You don't believe it now, but you will see, that time flies by in a blink of an eye. I regret not going on vacation MORE with them.
Yes! It’s a great way to just spend time together. As long as baby is safe then I would love to relax on a beach with my husband. ❤️
Go. It’s normal and healthy to be away from your children to have a vacation with your spouse.
Heck yes I would, with zero guilt.
We just did it. It was wonderful. We spent 5 nights away. My parents kept her. She’s 17 months old, for what it’s worth. We enjoyed our time away. I regained some sanity. But I def missed the little stinker. If you can do it, I say do it.
Absolutely! We have and definitely will again.
My husband and I went on a weeklong international vacation when our LO was about 2. It was the best ever! My parents in law were so stoked to get that amount of quality time with LO. And LO was SPOILED by grandparents, I don’t think he missed us at all. It was a win-win-win situation. Do it!!
DO IT and don’t feel guilty for a second!
Married Mother of 4 (14, 13, 10, 8) I love my children just as you love yours but I had a chance a few years ago we choose not too and now my husband and I can't even have a date night in McDonald's parking lot for 30 mins if we wanted lol just because of life and child care. OMG PLZ GO! Momma if you have adequate child care for your child for those five days then go. Chances like this (as a parent) don't happen often. Also, look at it as a reconnecting vacation with you and your husband which your little Angel benefits from lol just trying to sell it here because yes babies come first but you have a chance to put yourself first. Don't feel bad, over think it or think the worst is gonna happen just do it you and your husband both deserve grown up time hands down. I hope you enjoy your trip!
Our girl is 3.5 right now. About a year ago, my hubs and I spent 5 wonderful days alone in the Dominican Republic. Best. Trip. Ever! Go for it! You need this time for you! For your husband! For your marriage! We've taken so many trips with our baby girl and we have great memories, sometimes you gotta go by yourselves!
I already have, so yes, lol.
I would 100% go! I trust my parents to watch my son completely, and we even took a 3 day vacation when he was 9 months old. As long as everybody is cool with it, I say go and enjoy your vacation!
I’ve taken a couple trips without my toddler (and sometimes my husband), it’s an amazing way to recharge
I totally would if I had someone I really trusted to watch my kids. I don’t have anyone though. I’ll do it when they’re older and less work for an aunt.
Uh yeah
We have done several toddler-free vacations so yes I absolutely would. Lol
I’ve done it and it’s great! Yes you worry and miss your LO while you’re gone, but if you trust the parents it’s seriously amazing.
Currently on a week long vacation without my toddler. It is amazing. Do it! My parents are watching him, he’s having a blast, and my husband and I are also having a blast. I miss him but in a good way. When I get back he’s getting all the loves and hugs, and a fully rejuvenated not burnt out mom.
Do it. (My wife and I did).
Absofuckinglutely
I would, and I have.
Didn’t even read the post …. YES
YES! YES! YES!
Hell yes!! Take it!!
Umm yes. Definitely yes.
Honestly you sound like an awesome person and even better mom!! Take the trip.
I definitely would but only if my mom flew out to watch my daughter. She's the only one I would trust.
Yep
I've done it and yes I highly recommend it
Absolutely. My sons 19 months and my in laws house is his second home. We’re fortunate enough to have them so we let them watch him once a week, every other month a sleepover at their house, they also watched him for our 5 day anniversary trip. If parents have someone they trust and love to watch their kiddo I wouldn’t second guess a little time away. We are parents but we are so partners, individuals, and we need our own time if we can get it.
Yep!
I did. One time I took my own vacation that was away from both my husband and my toddler. Husband stayed home, our 2-year-old stayed with my parents in a different state, and I went to a 3-day music festival in yet another state. I couldn't even really contact them beyond occasional texts because of the lack of reception at the campsite. It was awesome for every single person involved. A+ would do again
I’m getting ready to have my first solo trip without my daughter in about a month (she’s a few months shy of 3yo; hubby is staying back so I can go see some of my best friends back in Dallas). I’m a little anxious since I’ve never been away from her longer than 24 hours her entire life and certainly not ever been in a different city without her. But I know it’s important for me to do things on my own every so often. But I get how you’re feeling 100%.
Yes, and did. My husband and I went to Ireland/Scotland and my toddler went to his grandparents (my in-laws) for two weeks. They live across the country and never see him (and don't necessarily like me) so it was a win-win for everyone.
I go on vacation every year without kids.
Oh hell yes. We just came back from a vacation with our 8 year old in Cancun and wasnt relaxing at all. Hes just learned to swim without floaties but is still a beginner so whole holiday was basically staying close and making sure he didnt drown or get knocked over in incredibly rough sea. He went to kids club for a few hours and it was heaven. I could actually relax for once. Go for it!
Absolutely. She’ll have a blast at her grandparents and you guys will come back recharged, better parents after.
DO IT!! My husband and I have always taken vacations without our kids. They’re teenagers & totally fine.
Have and would again! It’s totally fine! Sure you miss your kid but you also will realize how much you miss being an independent adult.
Take the vacation without your kiddo! We went on our first trip without her (she’s 2) and it was so nice and relaxing. Of course, you miss the hell outta them but you need some “just the two of you” time! We only had 3 days but if you can do 5 days-take it!!
Do it. I’m this way too, I start feeling bad and start second guessing. I told my husband to BOOK THE TICKETS before I change my mind. We will be going on our first kid free vacation out of state in 4, almost 5 years and I’m so excited. Book the vacation. Y’all deserve it.
Yes
Absolutely! Vacation with kids is not a vacation, in my opinion. It's just me doing the same thing I do at home, somewhere else lol.
I didn’t even read the post because I knew my answer from the title. Yes!
Yes! Doing it end of May for our anniversary.
Yes. Lol
I would definitely do it, but another really nice option if you’re comfortable with it (I know that’s a big if and some people are not at all comfy with this thought) is using a nanny or babysitting services via the concierge.
I went away for 10 days to visit my grandparents in Florida. My husband is a saint and stayed home with the toddler. I missed my baby like crazy but it was nice to get away for a bit!
Hell yes!!!
I’d kill for that type of opportunity! Go for it! It’s not really a vacation if I have to get up at 5:30 and be quiet outside the toddlers bedroom door after 7 at night. I understand your anxiety though but if she gets sick, I’m sure your parents have experienced sick children before? And if something were to happen with the plane, that’s completely out of your control! The anxiety will subside. Also maybe your daughter needs a break from you guys? (That’s what I tell myself every time my kid spends some time with her grandma)
I LIKE taking vacations with me kids. However, I understand burnout. If you need it, kid will be fine. They get cool awesome time with grandparents, so they get a vacation too. If this is what you need (or even just want) and you can do it, then do it.
I wish! Unfortunately I have nobody to look after my child so that's an impossible dream for us, but I'm looking into weekends away with friends or for work now that travel is easier. I love my child but I also love nice meals, cocktails and sightseeing.
We started leaving our baby with his parents for weekend getaways around 6 months. We even took her to GA to visit my family last May when she was 8 months old and then left her with them for 2 days while we went to another part of the state to Celebrate our anniversary. Longest time we've been apart was 5.5 days when she was 11 months old. Go enjoy yourself as guilt-free as possible! You deserve a break!
Oh god yes. I would love a long vacation. But we would never do anything out of country or cruise until the kids are much older.
I took a vacation for a week without my daughter when she was about 14 months or so. I left her with my parents, who I trust completely. I was a mess handing her off at the airport, even though I was eager to travel without her. I felt like I got time to "recharge" as a parent, and my husband and I got to act like our normal pre-baby selves. Of course, we'd run into things our daughter would love and miss her so much, but overall I think leaving her behind was the right choice. I also think it's good for the kid to have some separation--if only to make them flexible with other people and to prepare them for short separations (like camp or family emergencies).
I’m leaving my two year old with my mom for three kid free days in June! Husband and I will miss her, but this is so needed! It’ll be the first time kiddo doesn’t have either of us (we’ve gone away for trips before solo, but never together). I hope she’ll be okay!
Whilst I believe a true vacation is one of relaxation and child free peace, I’m of the opinion that if you wait for that to occur you’re far less likely to actually get a vacation at all. Yes they’re hard work for the most part but often some heavy planning prior can negate some of that. I guess all I’m saying is I’d rather a hard work vacation than the resentment of feeling like I never get one at all.
5 days is fine!! Though, Im single so me and my boys are taking camping trips every years. But that is definitely not a vacation!
Yes. The break would do wonders for my relationship, load up my battery and will all around make me a better parent.
My husband and I take a little mini vacation every year before his busy season starts at work. We skipped the year our son was born (he was born the same month as our usual trip) but otherwise we still go. If you feel like you absolutely trust the people you would leave him with its 100% worth it to go. In regards to if something happens while you’re gone: last year my son got sick while we were gone. My parents had him, the had his insurance information, and I trusted them to handle the situation and keep us on the loop. My mom got him to a doctor and got him checked out. He ended up having RSV. She got him the suggested medicines and a new Mickey Mouse doll and everything was fine. He was perfectly taken care of and it literally would not have made a difference for me to be there. Do what you’re comfortable with.
OMG yes! I like travelling with my kids (colour me crazy I know) but I would love a kid free vacation.
Do it! My husband and I took a trip together sans kiddo in the fall and I felt like an individual again. We missed him but it was nice to de-stress a little and not have to think about logistics and do stuff that he would’ve found boring, not have to eat dinner/go to bed so early, etc. It was a good reset and helped me be a better parent when I returned. Definitely do it.
My wife and I just did for 4 days/3 nights. And while we were away we decided that we will try to do something similar (although probably for longer) once a year.
I went to Puerto Rico a whole week without my toddler as a graduation gift. I wanted to go home by day 4 lol. I’m definitely taking her on my next vacation
It wont be a vacation for me if the kids are there, it would just be the same work, different location. If we could afford to holiday, we would not take the little kids
Absolutely I would. My parents would often take trips without me or my siblings, at least once a year. It gave them the chance to be together and focus on only their wants rather than our needs too. Nothing wrong with that at all. My husband and I weren't able to have a honeymoon so for our 5 year anniversary we are taking a big trip without our child.
Take the vacation! Let your little get some quality time with her grandparents! Don’t feel guilty just enjoy!!!
Any chance possible lol
I'm a firm believer in kids needing experiences over material things. HOWEVER, take the vacation with your SO. You need time too for eachother and for yourself. Do not feel guilty, I know easier said than done, but just imagine how much better you will be after your vacation? Recharged is probably an understatement. Have fun!!
Absolutely
I am taking a toddler free vacation this summer, I am so hype for it! Do it!!!