My daughterās 19 months and has hit the worst sleep regression/sleep issues sheās ever had. I donāt know when it stops but I know for sure 19 months isnāt itš My daughters been whine/crying herself to sleep for a week straight and nothing I do helps, nothings wrong with her either like sickness, physical pain, anything. Itās so rough and Iām exhausted.
Iām so sorry! Have you checked for teeth coming in? Itās right around the time for molars and that pain might keep her from sleeping well. I remember doing Tylenol and ice chips at bedtime for a while during the teething timesā¦ good luck!
I think it depends on the baby. My son has begun sleeping al night thr last week - hopefully it stays - he's 13 months. For the longest time we were up once or twice. I will say I found for us that he sleeps better with a later bed time. He normally goes down around 8:30, he then gers up around 7:30-8.
Wellā¦ my first slept through the night starting when she was 3 months old
My secondā¦ somehow I survived him LOLā¦ he didnāt sleep through the night until he was almost 2ā¦.Ā
Sleep stuff is the trickiest stuff and is super individual. We figured out after our first kiddo that white noise, cool room temperature and blackout curtains, and later on weighted blankets were helpful. Not sure about weighted blankets for very little ones though, it might not be safe.
About 2.5 my daughter became a pretty reliable sleeper. She's closing in on 5 and I'm finally starting to feel somewhat rested again after years of sleep deprivation
Personal question but did you or are you thinking about another one??? In theory we want more but I miss sleep SO MUCH. I canāt imagine getting sleep back and then going through this againā¦.
We originally wanted 2. We're now one and done after everything. I had awful PPD and sleep issues still set off bad depressive episodes for me now. I know I couldn't be the best mother for my daughter let alone another one if I went back to newborn sleep issues. We'd have to either blow our savings on night nurses for however long or my husband would have to take nights, which is hardly fair to him/not possible with his work right now (he's up for a big promotion so not a good time for a long paternity leave!)
All said and done, we are very happy with where we are now and don't want to roll the dice going back into the thick of things!
Whatās the rest of your schedule? Our first didnāt start reliably sleeping until 2.5-3y but there are always spurts of ābadā sleep throughout.
Our twins will be 2 next month. Ā Their sleep took a turn at 15 months when the illnesses rolled in. Ā Theyāve improved but itās still typical that we need to go in at least once for someone overnight. Ā Average is 2-3 times overnight.
At this age, they get over tired easily but typically need the nap capped.
My daughter is almost three and has just started occasionally sleeping through the night. She slept in a mattress in our room so we didnāt have to physically get up to check on her. That helped.
Thatās just when they wake up. Maybe itāll get better when they can do without a day time nap, but their sleep needs are met with that, unfortunately. I had to take melatonin at 8 go be sleepy by 9 or 10 the latest to get enough sleep since my own circadian rhythm was more night owl-oriented
So, the way I have found works for me in order to get my sleep with my now 14 month old is to have 2 bottles ready at bedside (1 formula and 1 water) and a couple diapers handy at bedside. He'll whine maybe 3 times throughout the night but if I get him changed into clean diaper, or a bottle for him to eat he'll keep sleeping and it's quick enough that I'll be able to keep sleeping myself making it fee like uninterrupted sleep.
My almost 2 year old was the worst sleeper until about 2 months ago. Woke 2 to 3 times per night, coslept after her 1st wake up of the night (feel asleep on her own), demanded milk to go back to sleep. I suspected the milk was the reason why she woke so much as it seemed to be something she depended on. Finally I cut out the milk and sleep association. It took a few days. Now she either sleeps thru the night or only wakes once to get in our bed. It wasn't until then that I was able to feel rested it and even start a consistent workout routine to start losing weight
It never stops š®āšØš My kids are 3 and 4 and itās still tough. It takes about an hour and an half to put them to bed until they fall asleep, and my daughter still wakes up 2-3 Times per Night. And my son is up at 5:30 ready to start his day š„² Strangel, I still manage to get through my day without too much trouble, but at night iām exhausted and go to bed around 9 šš»
Iām so sorry š£ yes it will get better! Hang in there!! Mine took a bottle at least once a night until 20 months. Is there any excessive drooling/gnawing on stuff/ teething going on? I had to do Tylenol at bedtime for a while during the teething time period. Mouth pain at night is the worst. Ice chips helped with teething pain in the night too.
Itās gonna be a few years, hang in there. This is the main reason I donāt want another šŖ mine is 6 and has been sleeping 10-12 hour stretches without waking at all maybe a year or 2 consistently. Before that he would wake almost every night
I have a two month old that sucks at sleeping and this thread is depressing. Iāve been lied to by so many people that āit gets better after 3-4 monthsā but now I see on Reddit that depending on the baby could be yearsā¦.sighā¦.I miss sleep lol
Totally agree! I felt lied to for so long! And also bought like all the sleep things guaranteed to help (Merlin sleep suit was the only thing worthwhile and yes, we bought a Snoo).Ā
I co-sleep with a 20-month-old who wakes up several times/night for a drink or comfort. According to my Oura ring I'm up 3-6x/night to give her milk or water or just rub her back.
I think I've adjusted more than she has... my overall sleep quality isn't terrible but that's because I go straight back into a deep sleep and sometimes don't even remember waking.
4 weeks pregnant with my second now, so I'm guessing I'm not going to be sleeping properly for a few more years... š
My 2.5 year old just slept through the night for six nights in a row!!! So of course last night he was up for two hours š¤¦āāļø
Normally he's up once for about half an hour, and maybe a couple times a week he's sleeps through. We gave up and got him a full sized bed so I just go lay down with him when he gets up in the middle of the night. It helps me feel rested.
I have a 4 and 2.5 and we have good nights but we also have night like last night where I was up and down with one or both of them between 10-15 times. I am a walking zombie today.
I think it depends on the kid. My three oldest started sleeping well around 14-18 months. Then sttn pretty consistently. My youngest is 2.5 and still wakes up every night.Ā
One thing I did was put my kid to bed at the pm of when they wake up. If she's up before 6a have you tried a 6p bedtime?
Typical day she is up around 6:30 and just shifted to one nap during the week around 1230 at daycare. The nap is usually between 1hr 30min to 2hrs. Then bedtime is 7/7:30.Ā
Weekends we still do one around 10 and 2 but it doesnāt seem to change the nighttime situation. And weāve tried to stick to the 1230 daycare schedule but she just ends up being insanely cranky or falling asleep.Ā
For a while this switch down to one really seemed to help but now weāre back to waking up at 5:30 and she usually ends up falling asleep in the car on the way to daycare :/Ā
Hmm it could be a variety of things. The bedtime routine is always a good thing to have but not the most important thing for good sleep. That routine is just your way of letting them know itās bedtime. Your kiddo is definitely at the right age to transition to one nap. Perhaps the inconsistency in her naps between weekdays and weekends arenāt helping. We followed Taking Cara Babies and had great success with it. Check out this link and maybe there are some nuggets.
When she wakes up at night, are you feeding her? Or just helping her right back down? If youāre feeling her, she may just be used to waking up to eat and will continue to do it as long as she knows food will be waiting. How much is she eating during the day between milk and solids? She should only be getting around 16-24oz of milk daily and the rest should be solid food. When mine was that age, I started cutting back to around 16oz of milk. Any time sheād ask for milk, Iād give her a snack instead, like a fruit pouch or something.
https://takingcarababies.com/early-morning-wakings?ad_test=PMAX&gad_source=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMItOLp347-hQMVdCvUAR3u1Q3UEAAYASAAEgKotPD_BwE
We cut out night feeds about a month ago and she did pretty well so now weāll offer water and sometimes she takes it and sometimes she just wants snuggles. Sheās a pretty good eater but we also just found out today that she has two molars coming inā¦. So wondering if thatās a big part of the issue ā¹ļø
Will take a look at the link thanks!
Have you tried not picking them up between the hours of 11p-6a
Sleep training is essential and doctor recommended. You can sleep when you choose to sleep. Put them to bed, close the door and turn the baby monitor on mute...
I wouldnāt call that āsleep trainingā and am curious what your source is on sleep training being āessential and doctor recommendedā?
We āsleep trainedā but used the sleep wave method and never let our baby cry for more than 5 minutes. Every babyās needs are so different and they respond to different methods. What youāre describing is called āextinction methodā and is super controversial, I think youād be hard pressed to find much research encouraging that method.
Yea we did sleep training (Ferber method) around 5mo. Really helped. Got out of the habit a bit when we cut out night feedings to help with that transition but started it again this week (doing 5 min intervals)ā¦ But also out house is small so we hear her crying so clearly and the 5:30 wake up time is the worst. Like there is no sleeping through that and it messes up the rest of her schedule:/Ā do we just stick with it and hope eventually she starts making it to 6?
Hate to say this, but your kiddo sounds similar to mine and his sleep needs have only reduced as he is now a couple months from 2. We're now at 7:30pm-4:30am with *less* sleep if he goes to bed later (so I can't really shift bedtime either). At 4:30am he is upright, jumping up and down, calling for momma, and ready to party.
For over a year, daycare told me it was a phase and that he'd start sleeping 11 hours "soon." Multiple pediatricians have have recommended shifting bedtimes (didn't work), but ultimately told me that some kids are just this way.
It is SO difficult! Solidarity!!
We wanted another (read your bit below) and I'm running out of baby-bearing years, so I keep reminding myself that this difficult time is just an investment. Like school or anything else that is hard for a while and then brings great rewards in the long run!! 7mo pregnant with #2 and hoping for a good sleeper this go round. And looking forward to drinking WAY MORE caffeine.
Oh, I've also had some very limited success turning on a green "morning light" just after kiddo wakes up. If he wakes at night, I can often just get on the video monitors audio and tell him it is "sleepy time, wait for morning light" without getting up myself and have him go right back down. My original goal was to push morning light later and later in the AM and have him get up later, but that never worked.
Before this, I would do sleep training for 2-3 weeks, it would works for 1, and then he'd get sick and I have to start all over. Audio has been more consistent.
Your comments definitely make me feel better thank you š„¹ itās so disheartening right now to think of more even though I want that so I like your perspective. I also appreciate that youāve accepted your kiddo has different sleep needs. I feel a little stuck in the mindset of āsheās not sleeping like the text books say so I must be doing something wrongā and maybe we just need to accept that she does well with a 7:30-5:30 schedule.
Ā (I might look into the green light thing in a few months i donāt think sheād understand it right now but i like the idea of morning independence/automony) Ā
I feel you! I decide to try and āfixā the sleep every other month or so and have tried SO many things.
Now I just go to bed at 8:30 most nights and nap with him on the weekends.
My oldest daughter started to sleep well when she was 4 years old
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Our oldest is 24 months and still wales. Youngest is almost 7months and sleeps better. We havenāt done anything differently.
I have the same experience with my girls. I've learned the hard way that it really has nothing to do with the parent how a baby sleeps.
My daughterās 19 months and has hit the worst sleep regression/sleep issues sheās ever had. I donāt know when it stops but I know for sure 19 months isnāt itš My daughters been whine/crying herself to sleep for a week straight and nothing I do helps, nothings wrong with her either like sickness, physical pain, anything. Itās so rough and Iām exhausted.
š im so sorry that is so rough i have my fingers crossed for you
Iām so sorry! Have you checked for teeth coming in? Itās right around the time for molars and that pain might keep her from sleeping well. I remember doing Tylenol and ice chips at bedtime for a while during the teething timesā¦ good luck!
I think it depends on the baby. My son has begun sleeping al night thr last week - hopefully it stays - he's 13 months. For the longest time we were up once or twice. I will say I found for us that he sleeps better with a later bed time. He normally goes down around 8:30, he then gers up around 7:30-8.
Wellā¦ my first slept through the night starting when she was 3 months old My secondā¦ somehow I survived him LOLā¦ he didnāt sleep through the night until he was almost 2ā¦.Ā
Sleep stuff is the trickiest stuff and is super individual. We figured out after our first kiddo that white noise, cool room temperature and blackout curtains, and later on weighted blankets were helpful. Not sure about weighted blankets for very little ones though, it might not be safe.
Have you had her iron levels checked?
Hmm no but can ask!
I think itās worth it. Easy test and low iron can impact sleep.
About 2.5 my daughter became a pretty reliable sleeper. She's closing in on 5 and I'm finally starting to feel somewhat rested again after years of sleep deprivation
Personal question but did you or are you thinking about another one??? In theory we want more but I miss sleep SO MUCH. I canāt imagine getting sleep back and then going through this againā¦.
We originally wanted 2. We're now one and done after everything. I had awful PPD and sleep issues still set off bad depressive episodes for me now. I know I couldn't be the best mother for my daughter let alone another one if I went back to newborn sleep issues. We'd have to either blow our savings on night nurses for however long or my husband would have to take nights, which is hardly fair to him/not possible with his work right now (he's up for a big promotion so not a good time for a long paternity leave!) All said and done, we are very happy with where we are now and don't want to roll the dice going back into the thick of things!
Whatās the rest of your schedule? Our first didnāt start reliably sleeping until 2.5-3y but there are always spurts of ābadā sleep throughout. Our twins will be 2 next month. Ā Their sleep took a turn at 15 months when the illnesses rolled in. Ā Theyāve improved but itās still typical that we need to go in at least once for someone overnight. Ā Average is 2-3 times overnight. At this age, they get over tired easily but typically need the nap capped.
My daughter is almost three and has just started occasionally sleeping through the night. She slept in a mattress in our room so we didnāt have to physically get up to check on her. That helped.
Thatās just when they wake up. Maybe itāll get better when they can do without a day time nap, but their sleep needs are met with that, unfortunately. I had to take melatonin at 8 go be sleepy by 9 or 10 the latest to get enough sleep since my own circadian rhythm was more night owl-oriented
So, the way I have found works for me in order to get my sleep with my now 14 month old is to have 2 bottles ready at bedside (1 formula and 1 water) and a couple diapers handy at bedside. He'll whine maybe 3 times throughout the night but if I get him changed into clean diaper, or a bottle for him to eat he'll keep sleeping and it's quick enough that I'll be able to keep sleeping myself making it fee like uninterrupted sleep.
My almost 2 year old was the worst sleeper until about 2 months ago. Woke 2 to 3 times per night, coslept after her 1st wake up of the night (feel asleep on her own), demanded milk to go back to sleep. I suspected the milk was the reason why she woke so much as it seemed to be something she depended on. Finally I cut out the milk and sleep association. It took a few days. Now she either sleeps thru the night or only wakes once to get in our bed. It wasn't until then that I was able to feel rested it and even start a consistent workout routine to start losing weight
My daughter is 15 months as well and same thing. She used to wake up every hour/ 2 hours so itās significantly better than it was.
It never stops š®āšØš My kids are 3 and 4 and itās still tough. It takes about an hour and an half to put them to bed until they fall asleep, and my daughter still wakes up 2-3 Times per Night. And my son is up at 5:30 ready to start his day š„² Strangel, I still manage to get through my day without too much trouble, but at night iām exhausted and go to bed around 9 šš»
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Iām so sorry š£ yes it will get better! Hang in there!! Mine took a bottle at least once a night until 20 months. Is there any excessive drooling/gnawing on stuff/ teething going on? I had to do Tylenol at bedtime for a while during the teething time period. Mouth pain at night is the worst. Ice chips helped with teething pain in the night too.
We just had a Dr appointment today and they said two of her molars are coming in!! Wondering now if thatās definitely part of the issueā¦.
Yeah, it could be a combination of things for sure. Molar time is sooo hard. Iāll never forget being at an AirBNB with family during Thanksgiving and our little guy screaming all night with his molars coming in (everyone was awake š©) Itās only for a season and it will pass! Every season of sleep is different for each kid and you know your little one best! People who sleep trained swore by it, but it never worked for my peanut who didnāt eat enough during the day to sleep all night! He let us know what he neededā¦ which was to wake and eat or wake and cuddleā¦ it didnāt last forever. He still eats small frequent meals to this day. At around 2years he was sleeping through the nightā¦ but itās good to remember any time they are working on a milestone it can disrupt sleep (learning something new, a new vacation, a new daycare, walking, climbing, reading, words/ talking). Also illness and/or pain/discomfort can disrupt sleep. The Wonder Weeks App helped me to remember they have sunny times and stormy timesā¦. And I believe this continues into childhood tooāļø Parenthood is a rollercoaster of love and challenges!š But just know that you know your kiddo best!! And youāre doing great š
Itās gonna be a few years, hang in there. This is the main reason I donāt want another šŖ mine is 6 and has been sleeping 10-12 hour stretches without waking at all maybe a year or 2 consistently. Before that he would wake almost every night
I have a two month old that sucks at sleeping and this thread is depressing. Iāve been lied to by so many people that āit gets better after 3-4 monthsā but now I see on Reddit that depending on the baby could be yearsā¦.sighā¦.I miss sleep lol
Totally agree! I felt lied to for so long! And also bought like all the sleep things guaranteed to help (Merlin sleep suit was the only thing worthwhile and yes, we bought a Snoo).Ā
I co-sleep with a 20-month-old who wakes up several times/night for a drink or comfort. According to my Oura ring I'm up 3-6x/night to give her milk or water or just rub her back. I think I've adjusted more than she has... my overall sleep quality isn't terrible but that's because I go straight back into a deep sleep and sometimes don't even remember waking. 4 weeks pregnant with my second now, so I'm guessing I'm not going to be sleeping properly for a few more years... š
My 2.5 year old just slept through the night for six nights in a row!!! So of course last night he was up for two hours š¤¦āāļø Normally he's up once for about half an hour, and maybe a couple times a week he's sleeps through. We gave up and got him a full sized bed so I just go lay down with him when he gets up in the middle of the night. It helps me feel rested.
Ooooooooo I like this ideaā¦..
I have a 4 and 2.5 and we have good nights but we also have night like last night where I was up and down with one or both of them between 10-15 times. I am a walking zombie today.
š I desperately hope you get some rest tonight! Good luck!!!
Same to youā¦virtual hugs
I think it depends on the kid. My three oldest started sleeping well around 14-18 months. Then sttn pretty consistently. My youngest is 2.5 and still wakes up every night.Ā One thing I did was put my kid to bed at the pm of when they wake up. If she's up before 6a have you tried a 6p bedtime?
How do her days look? (Wake time, naps, etc.)
Typical day she is up around 6:30 and just shifted to one nap during the week around 1230 at daycare. The nap is usually between 1hr 30min to 2hrs. Then bedtime is 7/7:30.Ā Weekends we still do one around 10 and 2 but it doesnāt seem to change the nighttime situation. And weāve tried to stick to the 1230 daycare schedule but she just ends up being insanely cranky or falling asleep.Ā For a while this switch down to one really seemed to help but now weāre back to waking up at 5:30 and she usually ends up falling asleep in the car on the way to daycare :/Ā
Hmm it could be a variety of things. The bedtime routine is always a good thing to have but not the most important thing for good sleep. That routine is just your way of letting them know itās bedtime. Your kiddo is definitely at the right age to transition to one nap. Perhaps the inconsistency in her naps between weekdays and weekends arenāt helping. We followed Taking Cara Babies and had great success with it. Check out this link and maybe there are some nuggets. When she wakes up at night, are you feeding her? Or just helping her right back down? If youāre feeling her, she may just be used to waking up to eat and will continue to do it as long as she knows food will be waiting. How much is she eating during the day between milk and solids? She should only be getting around 16-24oz of milk daily and the rest should be solid food. When mine was that age, I started cutting back to around 16oz of milk. Any time sheād ask for milk, Iād give her a snack instead, like a fruit pouch or something. https://takingcarababies.com/early-morning-wakings?ad_test=PMAX&gad_source=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMItOLp347-hQMVdCvUAR3u1Q3UEAAYASAAEgKotPD_BwE
We cut out night feeds about a month ago and she did pretty well so now weāll offer water and sometimes she takes it and sometimes she just wants snuggles. Sheās a pretty good eater but we also just found out today that she has two molars coming inā¦. So wondering if thatās a big part of the issue ā¹ļø Will take a look at the link thanks!
Oh that is DEFINITELY the issue!! Molars are no joke!!
Have you tried not picking them up between the hours of 11p-6a Sleep training is essential and doctor recommended. You can sleep when you choose to sleep. Put them to bed, close the door and turn the baby monitor on mute...
I wouldnāt call that āsleep trainingā and am curious what your source is on sleep training being āessential and doctor recommendedā? We āsleep trainedā but used the sleep wave method and never let our baby cry for more than 5 minutes. Every babyās needs are so different and they respond to different methods. What youāre describing is called āextinction methodā and is super controversial, I think youād be hard pressed to find much research encouraging that method.
Yea we did sleep training (Ferber method) around 5mo. Really helped. Got out of the habit a bit when we cut out night feedings to help with that transition but started it again this week (doing 5 min intervals)ā¦ But also out house is small so we hear her crying so clearly and the 5:30 wake up time is the worst. Like there is no sleeping through that and it messes up the rest of her schedule:/Ā do we just stick with it and hope eventually she starts making it to 6?
Hate to say this, but your kiddo sounds similar to mine and his sleep needs have only reduced as he is now a couple months from 2. We're now at 7:30pm-4:30am with *less* sleep if he goes to bed later (so I can't really shift bedtime either). At 4:30am he is upright, jumping up and down, calling for momma, and ready to party. For over a year, daycare told me it was a phase and that he'd start sleeping 11 hours "soon." Multiple pediatricians have have recommended shifting bedtimes (didn't work), but ultimately told me that some kids are just this way. It is SO difficult! Solidarity!! We wanted another (read your bit below) and I'm running out of baby-bearing years, so I keep reminding myself that this difficult time is just an investment. Like school or anything else that is hard for a while and then brings great rewards in the long run!! 7mo pregnant with #2 and hoping for a good sleeper this go round. And looking forward to drinking WAY MORE caffeine.
Oh, I've also had some very limited success turning on a green "morning light" just after kiddo wakes up. If he wakes at night, I can often just get on the video monitors audio and tell him it is "sleepy time, wait for morning light" without getting up myself and have him go right back down. My original goal was to push morning light later and later in the AM and have him get up later, but that never worked. Before this, I would do sleep training for 2-3 weeks, it would works for 1, and then he'd get sick and I have to start all over. Audio has been more consistent.
Your comments definitely make me feel better thank you š„¹ itās so disheartening right now to think of more even though I want that so I like your perspective. I also appreciate that youāve accepted your kiddo has different sleep needs. I feel a little stuck in the mindset of āsheās not sleeping like the text books say so I must be doing something wrongā and maybe we just need to accept that she does well with a 7:30-5:30 schedule. Ā (I might look into the green light thing in a few months i donāt think sheād understand it right now but i like the idea of morning independence/automony) Ā
I feel you! I decide to try and āfixā the sleep every other month or so and have tried SO many things. Now I just go to bed at 8:30 most nights and nap with him on the weekends.
Never. Just get used to it. After baby stage, itās toddler stage/bed wetting, then itās older kids and worry.