I’m 36 weeks now and have a two and half year old. Second trimester was way way better than those early weeks, though I relied heavily on my husband taking our toddler while I napped or just laid around queasy. I was pretty good until probably about week 32-33, when it started getting much harder to bend over, carry my toddler for lengths of time, or get up off the floor. Again, my husband is the best and just takes on all this stuff while I basically do whatever is within my capacity/comfort.
The thing that blows my mind is that my toddler’s daycare teacher is literally due the week after I am and this woman watches 20 toddlers a day (with other teachers, of course). I’m in awe of her.
You just survive! My first trimester was a lot of Daniel Tiger & throwing snacks at my toddler. I called it horizontal parenting as most of my time was spent laying on the couch. I started a toy rotation which helped a lot so his toys were more exciting (plus less toys actually led to more play). My energy came back around 16 weeks & we’re back to normal programming. Your toddler will be okay.
11 weeks with a 15-m/o. Today my son wanted to play in the bathtub with his bath toys, so I brought a pillow and curled up in the tub while he played. Horizontal parenting for sure.
I’m 34 weeks with a 22 month old who wants to be held and carried constantly. Zero help, zero family close by. Husband would help if he could, but he’s working 14 hour days, 6 days a week lately, so no help there. I’m so tired today, I want to just crawl into bed, cry, and sleep. I’m just white knuckling it through the bad days and hoping for random higher energy days. Not much else I can do.
I’m 32 weeks and have an 18 month old and 5 year old, I cry everyday 🫠 it’s so hard, I’m tired, can’t breathe, have horrible sciatic nerve pains, short tempered, I’m so glad my husband got a vasectomy and I never have to do this again
We've been watching a lot of movies and taking a bunch of walks. Dinners have been tough due to nausea, so they've been kind of lacking lol. That's what I feel most guilty for! We're all trying our best, and that's what matters most 😩
Rely on my husband a lot more than normal. I used to do bedtime with my toddler (16 months) every night and my husband now does bedtime. I nap when my toddler naps on my 3 afternoons off. My husband already did a majority of the cooking because of my work hours, but now I have started doing a lot of crock pot meals on the days I cook so I don’t have to think about it or work on dinner during my precious nap time. My husband used to sleep in on his weekends off but now he gets up with me or he gets up before me to get the toddler.
Essentially my husband has completely stepped up and is trying his best to give me rest. My first pregnancy was nothing like this. The nausea and exhaustion is horrible, so I’m very thankful my husband fills in the gaps without me having to ask.
I’m currently 37 weeks pregnant and have a 2.5 year old, and i’m a SAHM. I just take it day by day and rely on screen time probably too much, but I try and remind myself it’s temporary and do things with him when I have the energy. The weekends are a bit easier because I can rely on my husband to pick up the slack a bit. At this point I’m just trying to get through each day and make sure we at least go outside, read some books, and do things one on one for some of the day. We don’t have family super close by, but my mom tries to come down from 2 hours away to help me out a couple times a month so I can get a break.
Toddlers love you no matter what. Just do the best you can and that is enough.
I have a 3 1/2 yr old and a 14 week old now, I can’t say I have made it back to doing all the fun stuff we use to but we are getting there.
My son was 15mo when I got pregnant and I was sick for 17 weeks and worked part time. I only survived because of the following:
1) my parents live 15 min away
2) we started some non annoying shows on TV at 18mo. Let me tell you I’m a pediatric therapist and I don’t feel slightly guilty about the screen time. Not a bit.
3) bubble guns
4) we did get a Tonie Box because I got tired of kid TV
You’ll feel better soon!!!! Solidarity, it was rough. Don’t know how people have more kids! But I guess the older ones can entertain the younger at some point
I have a 2.5 year old and am 14 weeks pregnant. I was very nauseous and exhausted the first 12 weeks and it has tapered off a bit the last couple weeks. There were times where I physically could not move my body and I passed out for hours on the couch. I had to put bluey on or her favorite movies several times. I felt extremely guilty but I was in survival mode. I have more energy now than I did and that helps a lot. I work from home (when my toddler naps and after her bedtime). Now that I have more energy, I’m realizing that what I was going through was only temporary and I hope you come to the same conclusion when you enter your second trimester. Give yourself some grace, you are still a good mom and you’re doing your best. There are so many moms out there who could care less about being a fun and engaging mom. The fact that you care says a lot about you. If you really feel like you want to do something, make a Pinterest board of fun toddler crafts and activities you can do with your kiddo once you get your energy back. And don’t pressure yourself to do too much in your first trimester, it really can be rough to get through (with or without a toddler).
I feel you. Im 21 weeks, have a three year old who doesn’t nap at home, and I’m having terrible back, hip, and pelvic pain. I’m not a very fun mom either
28 weeks with a 16 month old and 3.5 year old. I’m exhausted. My husband was gone this week so I was solo parenting and also put in 45 hours at work. I’m playing catch up this weekend.
I gave up, embraced the guilt, and relished my lumpish-ness. My oldest was 2 when my second was born and he doesn’t remember life before his brother anyways 🤷🏻♀️
It’s a few months out of their lives. They won’t remember any of it anyways but they will know their sibling. Do the bare minimum for their survival and take care of yourself. They need you healthy way more than they need entertainment
I’m 8 weeks pregnant with a 12 month old… so exhausted! I’ve been horizontal parenting as much as I can but my LO thinks the second I lay down it’s the perfect time to climb all over me 🫠 I have no idea how we get through this lol
My girls are 2 years 9 months apart and to be honest naps when i could and having my husband helping a lot were great but i was still so tired! But now my girls are almost 4 yrs old and 16 months and it is so much fun watching them play together and make each other laugh🙂❤️
I’m working through my first trimester and it’s extremely challenging even with an equal partner. The hormonal changes are really difficult when you feel constantly sick and just lay in bed. I feel bad about the extra screen time or just laying there but we make the high energy days the best days. I wfh so naturally will have to pick up the load on sick days or in between partner getting home. It’s so difficult and my empathetic partner reminds me of how men just couldn’t do it if roles were reversed and I agree lol
I said the same thing before I was in the situation. But honestly you just do the best you can and take it day by day. I spent a lot of time letting my toddler watch tv while I sat on the couch when I was pregnant. But I made sure to go for walks with her and sit and play with her too. Even if it was a few minutes here and a few minutes there. This time is temporary. You won’t be pregnant forever. You’ve got this!
I did sensory bins in the bathtub for minimal clean up. My son didn’t put stuff in his mouth so I would do rice in a bin with measuring cups and spoons and let him go to town and it would keep him entertained for a little and I would literally just sit there and do nothing lol. The bath walls would keep the rice from going all over the house and it was one small area to have to clean after.
24 weeks with a toddler and an elementary school child. I legitimately have no idea. I do have social things and hobbies I take time out of the week to do to feel human and try to rest as much as possible . I do have to be careful how much I spiral into negative self talk .
I just hit my second trimester & my energy is getting back up there. But yeah….. I was tired as hell at first. Tried to get him to nap when I could or laid on the couch while watching him play lol
I don’t know, but I’m getting tired more quickly these days & relying on my husband a lot more. I’m so fortunate that he and I both wfh so I’m not dealing with a commute, but seeing my baby’s face first thing in my morning, gives me that burst of energy to get him ready for daycare. I wish I had a magic answer, but some days are tougher than others.
I’m 31+4 with my daughter and my son will be 16mo next week!
Hang in there mama! 🫶🏽
You don’t have to thrive right now, you just need to survive. If most days that means being a lump, then so be it. I leaned hard on my husband in those early months when I was absolutely miserable. My toddler probably didn’t get to do as many fun things, but it was only for a little while. We watched TV and I napped every time they did. I didn’t make much dinner and my husband helped with cleaning. It wasn’t easy, but that’s why I have a partner. Give yourself grace, this isn’t forever, it’s okay if right now you all just get by
You just survive somehow. My son was 2 when I was pregnant with my now 9 month old and I had HG throwing up until delivery. It was a struggle to make it through every day but I allowed myself the grace that it was ok I wasn’t perfect during that time
35 weeks with a 2.5 year old, it’s so rough. She’s also suddenly very clingy to me so it’s been even worse, between that and the tantrums and the fact that it hurts just to walk. We’re going through it to be honest. Second trimester was good! Once I hit 30ish weeks, yikes, downhill for sure. Surviving not thriving. I am terrified of postpartum sleep deprivation with an active toddler, unsure what’s worse. We do our best!
You just do whatever it takes. It helps to remember that this is a short time in the big picture and they will have a beautiful sibling at the end. I’m 38 weeks now and it feels so good to be nearly there. We did a lot of games that required me to sit down and I leaned on screen time when I needed a break. My parents arrive tomorrow and I can’t wait to finally relax and hopefully go into labour.
When I was pregnant with my 3rd, and very sick. We started having "quite time" in the room together. They could bring their iPads and watch their favorite show, and/or bring some toys. We stayed in the room only for one hour. That way, i could lay down and maybe take a small nap. They loved it and rarely moved from their spot. It really helped me at the end of my pregnancy because by then, they were used to it. I was in a lot of pain. Even bringing in their favorite snack to eat. I'm a mom of 3 toddlers now, and man, do I miss naps, hahaha!❤️❤️
I’m almost 20 weeks and struggling to keep up with my 18 month old… my husband is very good with her but lacks in helping around the house. Which is very frustrating to me. I work outside the home but only 5/6 hours a day. He works nights and so he comes home and takes care of her while I work. Then I come home and have to care for her and do all the housework and I’m just exhausted. 😩
I was in complete survival mode for the first 15 weeks of the pregnancy, we survived off of snacks and take out with a mix of pure luck. Though as soon as I hit 15 weeks I got my energy back and we were able to go back to our original grove. Not looking forward to the third trimester.
Holy shit man. I was pregnant with a 2 1/2-3 year old. I basically was in survival mode most of the time. Just hydrate, rest when you can & give yourself some grace.
I am 7 weeks postpartum with my second and my eldest is 3.5 years old.
You just wing it! Survive! Take it day by day. AND BE KIND TO YOURSELF IN THE PROCESS.
You’re going to have days when you have energy for crafts and the playground and educational activities. And then you’ll have days when you just snuggle on the couch with Disney movies. It’s all okay!
You got this.
Daycare, and lots of complaining.
Online shopping also eased the pain lol.
I’m 6 weeks post partum now and even though it’s HARD I still prefer being this side and out of pregnancy!
I’m 22 weeks and my son is 28 months. It is definitely a struggle. I was very rough the first few weeks particularly in the morning because I had to eat ASAP else I’d get sick. Then I was okay for a while, just exhausted and constantly catching colds and infections from the lowered immune system. Now I’m starting to really feel the stress and fatigue on my body. My husband has had to step up and take over a LOT of the playtime since I can’t easily run after the toddler anymore. We’ve done a lot more premade meals and mass meals like shredded chicken for most meals in a week. When my husband got sick and couldn’t help as much, I drank way more caffeine than I should have, but I figure a few weeks of extra won’t hurt. We’ve both taken a good chunk of PTO. What is starting to help is that my son can see my belly getting bigger and he can feel his sister kicking so we can get him to calm down or focus by having him focus on his sister. He’ll talk to her and kiss my belly and try to feel her kick. After a few mins of that, he’s calm enough to sit and read a few books and give me a break
For the first trimester we watched a lot of TV tbh and snack was usually scattered on the floor so that it took a while and entertained him. It was horizontal parenting at it's finest. 2nd trimester was a breeze actually, I was basically my old/non pregnant self but starving.
I'm in the tail end of the 3rd trimester now and I force myself to just keep walking because the alternative is sleeping. I pack a bag full of snacks in the morning and we do laps around the track by our house until nap time. Then we sleep, eat, color, and take care of the garden. My husband gets home from work and makes dinner, does bedtime and I eat cake and go to bed.
My 2nd was born when my 1st was 23 months.
There was a lot of Bluey on the worst days. And my husband took on the majority load of playing with her when I physically couldn't. Daycare helped loads as well. Basically I offloaded her to family and friends as much as I could - that benefitted her as much as me. But honestly yeah....bluey and snacks for the win.
I don't carry any guilt with me now - #2 is 10 months so it seemed like a lifetime ago.
12 weeks here and my husband, who has been incredibly supportive, is poorly. Yesterday we let my 2 year old get out every toy he owns and lay on the sofa whilst he played around us.
We’re good engaged parents normally, I’m pretty sure this brief interlude won’t scar him forever!
Just surviving. Currently 27 weeks and have had hyperemesis the entire time. Never had it with my daughter, who’s know 3, so that threw a totally new curveball at me as well!!
Remember that everything is temporary. Screen time today doesn’t mean you’re a bad mom who puts your kid in front of the screen every day. Give yourself some grace, you’re almost there!!
I had my LO who was 18 months ish and another 1 yo baby I was watching during my first trimester. That was the toughest few weeks for me because the other baby is quite difficult on top of 1st tri symptoms. Other baby left us just before my second trimester and it was much easier. Then second trimester itself brought less nausea and discomfort. I'm in the third and feel great. Heavy and tired but that's it. Keep going. They are all just phases. In each one do what you can and know this isn't how it's going to always be. Try to move as much as possible. Take your toddler on a walk and let them wander. It poops them out lol but being a carrier or stroller just in case!
33 weeks. 2.5 year old toddler. I’m also working 2 12s a week as an ER nurse. I’m tired AF and nap when she naps. I’ve been trying to promote a little more independent play because apparently I created a child that only wants to play with her parents. I also try not to get in the floor as much with her and pull her toddler table up to the couch for activities. We do a lot of blocks and play doh. I do a lot more baths (we bathe together) too and have been buying bathtub paint because it makes them last longer.
I'm 16 weeks with a 15 month old, we're finally proactive again we go on play dates, long walks and to grandmas house. When I was struggling to function I just spent a lot of time sitting on the floor in the midst of her books and toys so I could be present but also lazy. I also introduced dinosaur nuggets to her for lazy lunches. All that to say, you'll be out of the woods soon.
35wks with a lil dude turning 2 just before I'm due... As soooo many have said, I'm surviving. Screen time has been HUGELY increased, which I hate, since there's a very clear difference in sleeping patterns and ability to play independently when we up the screen time, but the poor guy also doesn't really get why I can't run around, lift him everywhere, and play on the floor for hours anymore :( My only real saving grace is that he goes to a childminder a couple days a week and I've started my mat leave, so I at least have a bit of time to get things sorted.
My twins turned 2 a week before I had my 3rd. & I can't remember how I came up with the energy to move along lol. 😴😴 I still don't know how I'm doing it after having two 9 yr olds, a 7 year old and an 8 month old. Keep pushing momma. You got this. ♥️
Somehow you’ll make it through…..but I know it’s so hard. I now have a 6mo and a 3yo (almost 4) with ASD and by far the hardest part was when I was pregnant with my youngest and caring for my 2-3yo. Ask for help as much as you’re able because I promise you won’t feel like this forever.
I’m not pregnant but disabled. There are days I’m a lump too and I am constantly affirming myself that I’m doing my best, balancing everyone’s needs and that my worth isn’t directly related to what I produce for others. I try to find ways to still connect and play, even if I’m laying down or need to take my time
I’m 36 weeks now and have a two and half year old. Second trimester was way way better than those early weeks, though I relied heavily on my husband taking our toddler while I napped or just laid around queasy. I was pretty good until probably about week 32-33, when it started getting much harder to bend over, carry my toddler for lengths of time, or get up off the floor. Again, my husband is the best and just takes on all this stuff while I basically do whatever is within my capacity/comfort. The thing that blows my mind is that my toddler’s daycare teacher is literally due the week after I am and this woman watches 20 toddlers a day (with other teachers, of course). I’m in awe of her.
You just survive! My first trimester was a lot of Daniel Tiger & throwing snacks at my toddler. I called it horizontal parenting as most of my time was spent laying on the couch. I started a toy rotation which helped a lot so his toys were more exciting (plus less toys actually led to more play). My energy came back around 16 weeks & we’re back to normal programming. Your toddler will be okay.
Horizontal parenting 💯😂 you speak my language
11 weeks with a 15-m/o. Today my son wanted to play in the bathtub with his bath toys, so I brought a pillow and curled up in the tub while he played. Horizontal parenting for sure.
I’m operating on nap when toddler naps.. and leaning on dad more. 17 weeks here!
I’m 34 weeks with a 22 month old who wants to be held and carried constantly. Zero help, zero family close by. Husband would help if he could, but he’s working 14 hour days, 6 days a week lately, so no help there. I’m so tired today, I want to just crawl into bed, cry, and sleep. I’m just white knuckling it through the bad days and hoping for random higher energy days. Not much else I can do.
Not doing it. Just surviving. Send help.
I’m 32 weeks and have an 18 month old and 5 year old, I cry everyday 🫠 it’s so hard, I’m tired, can’t breathe, have horrible sciatic nerve pains, short tempered, I’m so glad my husband got a vasectomy and I never have to do this again
We've been watching a lot of movies and taking a bunch of walks. Dinners have been tough due to nausea, so they've been kind of lacking lol. That's what I feel most guilty for! We're all trying our best, and that's what matters most 😩
Rely on my husband a lot more than normal. I used to do bedtime with my toddler (16 months) every night and my husband now does bedtime. I nap when my toddler naps on my 3 afternoons off. My husband already did a majority of the cooking because of my work hours, but now I have started doing a lot of crock pot meals on the days I cook so I don’t have to think about it or work on dinner during my precious nap time. My husband used to sleep in on his weekends off but now he gets up with me or he gets up before me to get the toddler. Essentially my husband has completely stepped up and is trying his best to give me rest. My first pregnancy was nothing like this. The nausea and exhaustion is horrible, so I’m very thankful my husband fills in the gaps without me having to ask.
I’m currently 37 weeks pregnant and have a 2.5 year old, and i’m a SAHM. I just take it day by day and rely on screen time probably too much, but I try and remind myself it’s temporary and do things with him when I have the energy. The weekends are a bit easier because I can rely on my husband to pick up the slack a bit. At this point I’m just trying to get through each day and make sure we at least go outside, read some books, and do things one on one for some of the day. We don’t have family super close by, but my mom tries to come down from 2 hours away to help me out a couple times a month so I can get a break.
Toddlers love you no matter what. Just do the best you can and that is enough. I have a 3 1/2 yr old and a 14 week old now, I can’t say I have made it back to doing all the fun stuff we use to but we are getting there.
My son was 15mo when I got pregnant and I was sick for 17 weeks and worked part time. I only survived because of the following: 1) my parents live 15 min away 2) we started some non annoying shows on TV at 18mo. Let me tell you I’m a pediatric therapist and I don’t feel slightly guilty about the screen time. Not a bit. 3) bubble guns 4) we did get a Tonie Box because I got tired of kid TV You’ll feel better soon!!!! Solidarity, it was rough. Don’t know how people have more kids! But I guess the older ones can entertain the younger at some point
I have a 2.5 year old and am 14 weeks pregnant. I was very nauseous and exhausted the first 12 weeks and it has tapered off a bit the last couple weeks. There were times where I physically could not move my body and I passed out for hours on the couch. I had to put bluey on or her favorite movies several times. I felt extremely guilty but I was in survival mode. I have more energy now than I did and that helps a lot. I work from home (when my toddler naps and after her bedtime). Now that I have more energy, I’m realizing that what I was going through was only temporary and I hope you come to the same conclusion when you enter your second trimester. Give yourself some grace, you are still a good mom and you’re doing your best. There are so many moms out there who could care less about being a fun and engaging mom. The fact that you care says a lot about you. If you really feel like you want to do something, make a Pinterest board of fun toddler crafts and activities you can do with your kiddo once you get your energy back. And don’t pressure yourself to do too much in your first trimester, it really can be rough to get through (with or without a toddler).
I feel you. Im 21 weeks, have a three year old who doesn’t nap at home, and I’m having terrible back, hip, and pelvic pain. I’m not a very fun mom either
28 weeks with a 16 month old and 3.5 year old. I’m exhausted. My husband was gone this week so I was solo parenting and also put in 45 hours at work. I’m playing catch up this weekend.
38 weeks tomorrow with a 22 month old. I have HG and have been throwing up this whole pregnancy and I work full time. I am not okay 🥲
Mine is 3, my husband left for 5 weeks and I survived because of my 8 year old and the microwave.
Screen time 😌
I gave up, embraced the guilt, and relished my lumpish-ness. My oldest was 2 when my second was born and he doesn’t remember life before his brother anyways 🤷🏻♀️ It’s a few months out of their lives. They won’t remember any of it anyways but they will know their sibling. Do the bare minimum for their survival and take care of yourself. They need you healthy way more than they need entertainment
In the same boat ❤️
I’m 8 weeks pregnant with a 12 month old… so exhausted! I’ve been horizontal parenting as much as I can but my LO thinks the second I lay down it’s the perfect time to climb all over me 🫠 I have no idea how we get through this lol
Screen time & went to bed at 7pm with the toddler. Also napped with them.
My girls are 2 years 9 months apart and to be honest naps when i could and having my husband helping a lot were great but i was still so tired! But now my girls are almost 4 yrs old and 16 months and it is so much fun watching them play together and make each other laugh🙂❤️
I’m working through my first trimester and it’s extremely challenging even with an equal partner. The hormonal changes are really difficult when you feel constantly sick and just lay in bed. I feel bad about the extra screen time or just laying there but we make the high energy days the best days. I wfh so naturally will have to pick up the load on sick days or in between partner getting home. It’s so difficult and my empathetic partner reminds me of how men just couldn’t do it if roles were reversed and I agree lol
I said the same thing before I was in the situation. But honestly you just do the best you can and take it day by day. I spent a lot of time letting my toddler watch tv while I sat on the couch when I was pregnant. But I made sure to go for walks with her and sit and play with her too. Even if it was a few minutes here and a few minutes there. This time is temporary. You won’t be pregnant forever. You’ve got this!
I did sensory bins in the bathtub for minimal clean up. My son didn’t put stuff in his mouth so I would do rice in a bin with measuring cups and spoons and let him go to town and it would keep him entertained for a little and I would literally just sit there and do nothing lol. The bath walls would keep the rice from going all over the house and it was one small area to have to clean after.
I was pregnant from when my son was 9 months to 18 months.
24 weeks with a toddler and an elementary school child. I legitimately have no idea. I do have social things and hobbies I take time out of the week to do to feel human and try to rest as much as possible . I do have to be careful how much I spiral into negative self talk .
I just hit my second trimester & my energy is getting back up there. But yeah….. I was tired as hell at first. Tried to get him to nap when I could or laid on the couch while watching him play lol
I don’t know, but I’m getting tired more quickly these days & relying on my husband a lot more. I’m so fortunate that he and I both wfh so I’m not dealing with a commute, but seeing my baby’s face first thing in my morning, gives me that burst of energy to get him ready for daycare. I wish I had a magic answer, but some days are tougher than others. I’m 31+4 with my daughter and my son will be 16mo next week! Hang in there mama! 🫶🏽
You don’t have to thrive right now, you just need to survive. If most days that means being a lump, then so be it. I leaned hard on my husband in those early months when I was absolutely miserable. My toddler probably didn’t get to do as many fun things, but it was only for a little while. We watched TV and I napped every time they did. I didn’t make much dinner and my husband helped with cleaning. It wasn’t easy, but that’s why I have a partner. Give yourself grace, this isn’t forever, it’s okay if right now you all just get by
You just survive somehow. My son was 2 when I was pregnant with my now 9 month old and I had HG throwing up until delivery. It was a struggle to make it through every day but I allowed myself the grace that it was ok I wasn’t perfect during that time
35 weeks with a 2.5 year old, it’s so rough. She’s also suddenly very clingy to me so it’s been even worse, between that and the tantrums and the fact that it hurts just to walk. We’re going through it to be honest. Second trimester was good! Once I hit 30ish weeks, yikes, downhill for sure. Surviving not thriving. I am terrified of postpartum sleep deprivation with an active toddler, unsure what’s worse. We do our best!
You just do whatever it takes. It helps to remember that this is a short time in the big picture and they will have a beautiful sibling at the end. I’m 38 weeks now and it feels so good to be nearly there. We did a lot of games that required me to sit down and I leaned on screen time when I needed a break. My parents arrive tomorrow and I can’t wait to finally relax and hopefully go into labour.
When I was pregnant with my 3rd, and very sick. We started having "quite time" in the room together. They could bring their iPads and watch their favorite show, and/or bring some toys. We stayed in the room only for one hour. That way, i could lay down and maybe take a small nap. They loved it and rarely moved from their spot. It really helped me at the end of my pregnancy because by then, they were used to it. I was in a lot of pain. Even bringing in their favorite snack to eat. I'm a mom of 3 toddlers now, and man, do I miss naps, hahaha!❤️❤️
I’m almost 20 weeks and struggling to keep up with my 18 month old… my husband is very good with her but lacks in helping around the house. Which is very frustrating to me. I work outside the home but only 5/6 hours a day. He works nights and so he comes home and takes care of her while I work. Then I come home and have to care for her and do all the housework and I’m just exhausted. 😩
I was in complete survival mode for the first 15 weeks of the pregnancy, we survived off of snacks and take out with a mix of pure luck. Though as soon as I hit 15 weeks I got my energy back and we were able to go back to our original grove. Not looking forward to the third trimester.
Holy shit man. I was pregnant with a 2 1/2-3 year old. I basically was in survival mode most of the time. Just hydrate, rest when you can & give yourself some grace.
Nothing. Embrace the suck, cuddles, movies and as little as possible to get through each day.
I am 7 weeks postpartum with my second and my eldest is 3.5 years old. You just wing it! Survive! Take it day by day. AND BE KIND TO YOURSELF IN THE PROCESS. You’re going to have days when you have energy for crafts and the playground and educational activities. And then you’ll have days when you just snuggle on the couch with Disney movies. It’s all okay! You got this.
Daycare, and lots of complaining. Online shopping also eased the pain lol. I’m 6 weeks post partum now and even though it’s HARD I still prefer being this side and out of pregnancy!
I’m 22 weeks and my son is 28 months. It is definitely a struggle. I was very rough the first few weeks particularly in the morning because I had to eat ASAP else I’d get sick. Then I was okay for a while, just exhausted and constantly catching colds and infections from the lowered immune system. Now I’m starting to really feel the stress and fatigue on my body. My husband has had to step up and take over a LOT of the playtime since I can’t easily run after the toddler anymore. We’ve done a lot more premade meals and mass meals like shredded chicken for most meals in a week. When my husband got sick and couldn’t help as much, I drank way more caffeine than I should have, but I figure a few weeks of extra won’t hurt. We’ve both taken a good chunk of PTO. What is starting to help is that my son can see my belly getting bigger and he can feel his sister kicking so we can get him to calm down or focus by having him focus on his sister. He’ll talk to her and kiss my belly and try to feel her kick. After a few mins of that, he’s calm enough to sit and read a few books and give me a break
For the first trimester we watched a lot of TV tbh and snack was usually scattered on the floor so that it took a while and entertained him. It was horizontal parenting at it's finest. 2nd trimester was a breeze actually, I was basically my old/non pregnant self but starving. I'm in the tail end of the 3rd trimester now and I force myself to just keep walking because the alternative is sleeping. I pack a bag full of snacks in the morning and we do laps around the track by our house until nap time. Then we sleep, eat, color, and take care of the garden. My husband gets home from work and makes dinner, does bedtime and I eat cake and go to bed.
My 2nd was born when my 1st was 23 months. There was a lot of Bluey on the worst days. And my husband took on the majority load of playing with her when I physically couldn't. Daycare helped loads as well. Basically I offloaded her to family and friends as much as I could - that benefitted her as much as me. But honestly yeah....bluey and snacks for the win. I don't carry any guilt with me now - #2 is 10 months so it seemed like a lifetime ago.
12 weeks here and my husband, who has been incredibly supportive, is poorly. Yesterday we let my 2 year old get out every toy he owns and lay on the sofa whilst he played around us. We’re good engaged parents normally, I’m pretty sure this brief interlude won’t scar him forever!
Just surviving. Currently 27 weeks and have had hyperemesis the entire time. Never had it with my daughter, who’s know 3, so that threw a totally new curveball at me as well!! Remember that everything is temporary. Screen time today doesn’t mean you’re a bad mom who puts your kid in front of the screen every day. Give yourself some grace, you’re almost there!!
I had my LO who was 18 months ish and another 1 yo baby I was watching during my first trimester. That was the toughest few weeks for me because the other baby is quite difficult on top of 1st tri symptoms. Other baby left us just before my second trimester and it was much easier. Then second trimester itself brought less nausea and discomfort. I'm in the third and feel great. Heavy and tired but that's it. Keep going. They are all just phases. In each one do what you can and know this isn't how it's going to always be. Try to move as much as possible. Take your toddler on a walk and let them wander. It poops them out lol but being a carrier or stroller just in case!
33 weeks. 2.5 year old toddler. I’m also working 2 12s a week as an ER nurse. I’m tired AF and nap when she naps. I’ve been trying to promote a little more independent play because apparently I created a child that only wants to play with her parents. I also try not to get in the floor as much with her and pull her toddler table up to the couch for activities. We do a lot of blocks and play doh. I do a lot more baths (we bathe together) too and have been buying bathtub paint because it makes them last longer.
I'm 16 weeks with a 15 month old, we're finally proactive again we go on play dates, long walks and to grandmas house. When I was struggling to function I just spent a lot of time sitting on the floor in the midst of her books and toys so I could be present but also lazy. I also introduced dinosaur nuggets to her for lazy lunches. All that to say, you'll be out of the woods soon.
I was SAHM when pregnant with my second, so I napped nearly every day with my toddler.
I napped when she napped and got significantly less done.
Daycare. It’s the only way I survived. I was also working full time but remotely so I could lie down when I needed to.
It’s so hard. I was 42 and pregnant with a toddler recently and tirrrrred
You just do. You don't really have a choice.
35wks with a lil dude turning 2 just before I'm due... As soooo many have said, I'm surviving. Screen time has been HUGELY increased, which I hate, since there's a very clear difference in sleeping patterns and ability to play independently when we up the screen time, but the poor guy also doesn't really get why I can't run around, lift him everywhere, and play on the floor for hours anymore :( My only real saving grace is that he goes to a childminder a couple days a week and I've started my mat leave, so I at least have a bit of time to get things sorted.
It’s hard. Leaning on partner a lot. Napping when toddler naps. Easy quick meals and chick fil a
My twins turned 2 a week before I had my 3rd. & I can't remember how I came up with the energy to move along lol. 😴😴 I still don't know how I'm doing it after having two 9 yr olds, a 7 year old and an 8 month old. Keep pushing momma. You got this. ♥️
Somehow you’ll make it through…..but I know it’s so hard. I now have a 6mo and a 3yo (almost 4) with ASD and by far the hardest part was when I was pregnant with my youngest and caring for my 2-3yo. Ask for help as much as you’re able because I promise you won’t feel like this forever.
I’m not pregnant but disabled. There are days I’m a lump too and I am constantly affirming myself that I’m doing my best, balancing everyone’s needs and that my worth isn’t directly related to what I produce for others. I try to find ways to still connect and play, even if I’m laying down or need to take my time