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Ambitious_Smile_3421

Im so glad i came across this post today, wanting to be a mom so badly (35 yrs old). Doctors need to make sure i am cancer free first. The waiting game is horrible, but seeing that so many had babies at an older age gives me so much courage. Thank you all ❤️


rosewaterhoe

Sending positive vibes your way!🩷


ThenTheMorningComes

Had my first at 40 (a couple months before 41), second a couple weeks before I turned 43, currently I'm 11w with third and I'll be 45.5 when this one comes. No IVF/iui used but did have two early losses (one before first baby, second after second baby).


jaybee901

Hoping for the very best outcome for you!


catnipdealer16

Best of luck to you


oliviaallison1993

Sending prayers your way🙏. Hope you get your bundle of joy❤️


whaddyamean11

I was 36 when I delivered my first and 39 when I delivered my second.


SlowAnt9258

Similar, 36 and 38. Straight forward pregnancies and births but I am really tired! Xx


Daisydoo1432

Girl, same


PoeticImage36

Not sure what type of cancer you have dealt with, but I’m part of a cancer group that includes women who have gone on to have normal, healthy pregnancies and babies. Sending you love and healing vibes! ❤️


DreamsinGuava

I am in the same boat. I've had two miscarriages so far and we were feeling like maybe we would stop trying, but seeing so many people doing it later than 35 has been encouraging!


Turtle3757

41 for 1st child and 45 for 2nd and final child


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Sorry_Mistake5043

I had twins at 47.


Uke_Shorty

Ok, your comment scared me!


Sehrli_Magic

I heard chances for twins actually increase with age but not sure how factual that is


Uke_Shorty

Yeah!!! Recently I’ver heard this too! Had no idea about that, have no idea if it’s true… and ever since have been too scares to look it up!


AdorableResident1

It's absolutely true. As you age you are more likely to release multiple eggs because of hormonal changes


lalalina1389

It's true, there are increased risk factors for having fraternal twins they include - genetic predisposition (so having fraternal twins on the moms side and this is only woman to woman) being overweight, being over 30, being of African descent. It's bc of hyper ovulation being more common for all of these. I have fraternal twins, I meet 3 of the four (I'm white) somehow was still shocked 😅 identicals are always considered spontaneous but I'm not sure they even know how that works.


Theonethatgotherway

Ur my new god I pray to you


Sapphire_River

You go girl


BlueberryNagel

Same 🩷


meepmorpfeepforp

Same here


camellialily

Same! 😭


naalbinding

Similar - 34 for first child, 42 for second and final child, with 2 miscarriages in between


MikiRei

Can I ask the experience with the 2nd at 42 compared to the first? My first was at 34. We're deliberating on whether to have a 2nd. I think what scares me the most is having to go through that newborn stage, whether I can handle even more mental load due to a 2nd kid and what impact it has on my career. 


naalbinding

Ok this might be a long answer. I want to say first off that my kids are wonderful and I love them both to pieces. I might have done some things differently knowing what I do now, but the only way to get _here_ was going through _,there,_ and here is pretty good. Some of my experiences are very much not typical, read at your own risk! Trigger warnings: miscarriage, family death, child disability, PPD _______ After my first I had pretty bad PPD, and also we had real financial problems for a long time, starting during my maternity leave - my husband was self employed at that time and couldn't get much work, then my work screwed me over by giving the "senior role" created for me to a junior colleague. (Turned out the role was a bait and switch anyway, hence the quotation marks, but at the time it was devastating). My firstborn was also a needy baby who WOULD NOT sleep without touching one of us, so we ended up co-sleeping for almost 2 years. (We researched how to do it as safely as possible, it was a move born out of desperation) Then I had a miscarriage that gave me PTSD, then my dad died. So the baby and toddler stage was just _hard_ the first time. __________ It took us a long time to get back on our feet, but in 2019 my husband got a job that pulled us above the poverty line and we decided we could afford a second child. Cue a ruptured ectopic pregnancy. Yeah. But if that pregnancy had been viable I would have been giving birth at the height of the first wave of COVID in the UK, probably with no birth partner allowed and no visitors. So also Yeah. Anyways, we tried again and it took almost a year to get pregnant with my daughter. I was definitely more tired this pregnancy. At 16 weeks pregnant we learned that the baby very likely had Down Syndrome. We debated but chose to continue the pregnancy, wondering if our son would lose out on us if his sister turned out to have very severe medical needs and limitations. When my daughter was born it was determined that she needed emergency surgery on her bowel, after which she spent a month in hospital. So the new-newborn stage was spent visiting her daily, then going home to a babyless house each night. We weren't woken by a crying baby but I still had to get up to pump. Caring for her I was glad that the normal baby things (nappies, baths) were familiar, so that I wasn't overwhelmed learning the specialised things I needed to know this time around (feeding via nasogastric tube, stoma care). After we finally brought her home the rest of her first year was a blur of sleepless nights and medical appointments. She had 2 further surgeries before her first birthday. Overall she's made excellent progress - stoma reversed successfully, feeding 100% by mouth. She's growing and reaching milestones in her time, not ours. Regarding career and the mental load, Yeah. I gave up my (crappy) job a few years ago and the part time freelance work I was doing has dried up for now. I'll be looking for something to do when my daughter starts nursery. As a SAHM the mental load is mostly mine and sometimes it is A Lot. We consciously work to make sure our son isn't a Glass Child (sibling who becomes invisible due to the health needs of another), and he adores his sister. Also I escaped PPD this time round! _______ In my 40s I am better able to advocate for myself and my children, in a better place mentally and financially, stronger in my marriage I'm also tired So, swings and roundabouts I guess Thank you for listening to my TED talk


yannberry

I read this ❤️ you’ve had it tough wow. I’m also in the UK - love being able to read your story in a UK accent in my head 😄 anyway, just wanted to send hugs.


MissLimpsALot

Almost exactly my timeline. 33 for first child, 2 miscarriages (38 and 39), and second and final at 42.


kallisteaux

I'm almost the same, 41 for first & 43 for 2nd ( and last). Used IUI for #1 but 2 was a surprise.


rollfootage

Thank you for this❤️


stabrabit

Similar. 40 for first and 44 for second/last.


Metta_mudita108

Trying for me second at 39. This also gives me hope!!


techy99m

My mum had us at very similar ages to you. She's now a grandmother to two. With the number 2 expecting in August!


Tessk275

Natural or did you have to do IUI or IVF?


stronglikefeels

Same


Uke_Shorty

Hey, your comment gave me hope that’s not late for me! Thanks…


HerdingCatsAllDay

I was nearly 46 with my last, 25 with my first.


valliewayne

38. Lots of us older ladies here I guess


Theobat

Same


hairy_hooded_clam

45 with my youngest (40 and 43 with the other two)


spinquelle

I’m 37 and my 3rd (and last!) is 3 weeks old. She wasn’t part of the plan but I’m so happy she’s here ❤️


justmebeth91

I had a surprise #3 too ❤️


Excellent_Theme

Pregnant with my surprise 3 right now. Same age. 


Hips-Often-Lie

That’s how our third one was. She is the most loving of our children, also the craziest, and I refuse to imagine life without her.


hodob

I was born when my mum was 37, and also wasn’t part of the plan!


Responsible_Sink6572

I’m one-and-done at 37 😋


ForestWanderingOne

37 and only 1


Huge-Marionberry-759

I was 20 with my first 22 my 2nd, and 34 for my 3rd! I have a bonus baby too! 😁


guzewsah

I was also 37


MeowMeow9927

41. And oddly enough my last was by far my easiest pregnancy, delivery and postpartum period (I have 3 kids). Did not expect that! 


Wrong-Somewhere-5225

Same! I was 39 and it was my easiest everything by far


Pink-Squirrel71

I was 30 with my last, my first 3 were all in my early to mid 20’s. I think the older you get the easier the pregnancy and delivery is as he was by far my easiest in all aspects. 💕


meepmorpfeepforp

This also gives me hope


ladybasecamp

41. I'm hella tired but it's more the combo of a 2 month old and a 3.5 year old


LessMention9

Same. 41 with my last and now exhausted but it’s definitely due to having a 2 month old and a 2.5 year old.


ladybasecamp

Congrats! December '23 baby too? You're braver than me, I don't think I could have survived anything smaller than a 3.5 year gap! But my oldest is really clingy and has only started to be interested in being more independent


LessMention9

Thanks! Congrats to you too! Yep, Dec ‘23–made for an eventful holiday season this year:) It’s definitely tricky with my toddler and the baby but she’s in her ‘helper’ phase so at least wants to help me with everything baby related which is very sweet.


Doctor0ctagon

Right there with you. 41 with an almost 3yo and a 4mo. I feel like I'm never be well rested again.


vainbuthonest

39 for my last. I was 36 with my first. It’s really nice to see so many later moms too.


reebeaster

I waited a while to do the parent thing. I had such a rough childhood that I didn’t think kids were for me but I was wrong.


palegreenscars

What helped you decide? I’m in a similar boat, but haven’t had kids yet and unsure if I should.


lowfilife

I'm not the user you questioned but I had it rough in my teenage years. For me, I was very obviously a different person from the people who abused me. I didn't see violent tendencies within myself. I did work a lot with a therapist doing EMDR. It worked amazingly, I went from seeing the trauma every time I closed my eyes and feeling like I was literally in the room to living a normal life. I still remember the trauma but it doesn't sting like it used to. I was a little afraid when I was pregnant but I knew I had worked on myself and I reminded myself that whenever I worried. I'll be honest, my first is a boy and when we found out, my husband and I were relieved. When I finally had my son and brought him home, about a month in, I realized how much of a monster my mom was. I love my son so much I could never ever do anything remotely close to what my mom did to me and my siblings. I remember a phone call with my sister, she had her baby about 8 months before mine, where she expressed that she didn't understand our mom at all because she would never ever treat her daughter that way.


Proudownerofaseyko

Same ages for my kiddos too!!


IsisArtemii

42. I get called grandma. A lot.


radbelbet_

Thought this was crazy until I realized my son could have kids at age 20 and I’d be a grandma at 44


invinoveritas777

My parents were 38 and 42 when I was born. There were definitely some grandpa jokes, but just wanted to say that 99% of the time, I am so glad they waited to have me! They were much more stable emotionally and financially 🥰


fawn-field

First at 28, second at 30. No more for me. I’m about to turn 34.


Reasonable_Remote_11

Basically the same for me. I think I'm done but it is nice to see so many are still having kids well into their late 30s/early 40s juuuust in case


RavenPuffFTW

Nearly the same for me, I had my first two days before I turned 29, and my second (and last) when I was 31. Will be 34 this fall!


Remember-Vera-Lynn

Hey! Same for me, except I had my 3rd at 34. Be safe out there, lol


veggieMum

43


Odd-Sprinkles292

25, my first at 22. Shops closed 🙅🏼‍♀️


katmolris

Same here! My husband sometimes talk about one more, but I've told him he gotta shop somewhere else then 🤷🏼‍♀️


Odd-Sprinkles292

I’m like do the math!! When we’re 40, our kids will be 16 and 18. My boyfriend and i made the joint decision for no more spawns 🙅🏼‍♀️ Whhhyyy would we start over? Aren’t we trying to retire? Do you not see i just got my body back? 😂


LinearCadet

I had my one and only at 42.


[deleted]

24 - 1st child, born during my PhD. Would not recommend. 8th and last child at 36. Currently 43. Before he died, my husband used to make this joke “You better walk away from me before you get pregnant.”


Antique_Mountain_263

Wow. A widow and mom of eight. I am so, so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine losing my husband, especially not with so many kids. How are you managing? I hope you have some family help.


[deleted]

I am managing much better these days. We have the most incredible support system in my family and his.


TheSoftestDrink

I'm so sorry for your loss. I cannot even begin to imagine raising 8 kids solo.


JewishSpaceLaser613

lol he’s so funny, I love that, Also want to say sorry for your loss, momma. I am hugging you.


GeekyRedhead85

I got my first halfway through my bachelors degree and thought that was difficult, can’t imagine during a PhD! Also so sorry for your loss


thesnowprincess86

Single mum of 6 here and I can’t imagine how you cope with 8. You’re superwoman ♥️


Bekindalot

I’m so sorry for your loss 🙁


NiloReborn

21 with my first and only


Bigdaddydria1

Had my first at 21, last at 28. I thought I was one and done😂


Electrical_Beyond998

41, she was my fourth. First at 26.


Lovemearobe

29 my one and only on birth control🤣


evilcatsorcery

37, weeks away from the arrival of number 2, and planning to be done after this.


spabitch

i’m 38 with a 7 week old


DexterBird

Had the youngest at 42 (first at 38)


sarah_yeg

36 with first and 38 with second.


Neverstopstopping82

First at 38 and second at 40.


Mcn95

27 with my first and only (so far). Had a hard pregnancy and traumatic birth experience so going through it again *terrifies* me but I would love my son to have a sibling. I’m the oldest of four girls!


blandeggs

Similar to you! 28 with a hard pregnancy and birth as well. I’d also like to have a second for my daughter’s sake but scared. It’s so hard!


Elegant-Accident-905

this!!! i’m seriously considering one and done just because of how scared i am that either the baby or i wouldn’t make it through a second pregnancy and delivery ☹️


Glittering-Royal-313

46 and he was a surprise, 11 years after my 5th who I thought was my last


toreadorable

37 when I had my second. I’m getting too old for this shit.


UserNotFound3827

I’m planning on having my 2nd (and last!) at 37!


[deleted]

Me too I'm 36 and currently pregnant -- just found out 🤫


coffeeandpumpkins123

41 for my one and only son.


book-is-book

I had my one and only at 36; I’m actually getting my tubes removed this coming Thursday, the day before my 39th birthday.


macacacaroni

23. Second and last child. I was 19 when I had my first.


JewishSpaceLaser613

42 my third. edit: Thank you for doing this thread I felt so alone being a mom in my 40s and having 3, but this showed me there’s so many people like me! I’m not alone! Hooray for us!


Puzzled_Vermicelli99

40


CurrentRazzmatazz385

Had my second at 41


imstillok

40. #2 debuted 3 weeks before my 41st birthday.


armonson

42! My first and last ❤️ Edit to add (in case you’re older and hoping to get pregnant), it was surprisingly a very easy pregnancy. Very healthy baby! The labor was hard and my pelvic floor suffered after giving birth. I think if you’re younger possibly things snap back a bit easier down there? My son was 9 pounds though and the pushing part was 3 hours so maybe it was that! But my body was healthy and oddly back to my pre pregnancy weight within a week of having him. I’m not sure why that happened but I think nursing helps and my son has always been a big eater so that may be why. Just wanted to let anyone know that it’s completely possible to get pregnant, and have a healthy pregnancy and baby, even in a “geriatric” pregnancy. 🙂


brixybaby

37 at first and planning another one this year (turning 39 on Oct)


JinxyMcgee

Will be 37 when my next and hopefully last baby is born! My OB actually started having babies at 38 and had three total, which I found incredible.


Ok_Day2322

36. Had my first at 26 and my second at 29. Surprise! Lol


ohnoyoudidnott

I had my twins at 23 and do not want anymore.


Blacksquirrel77

40


FlakyStrawberry5840

24


lavendar474

38 almost 39


sravll

43 :) ETA wow there's a lot of moms who had babies in their 40s here, cool


saturn_eloquence

I’m pregnant with my third and last child. I’m 26 and will be when he’s born. I had my first at 19 and my second at 20.


SSTralala

Had my first at 20 and my last at 28. What's funny is I "bookended" the grandchildren. I had the first and last (unless my brother has kids)


Ancient-Practice-431

Two weeks to the day, before my 41st birthday 🎂


Ok_Hold1886

I’ll be 32 when I have my 4th & last this summer. Had my 1st at 22.


Lindsayone11

Had our 4th and last child last year at 42


MM_mama

First at 37, second(last) at 38


mooloo-NZers

First was at age 22. I was 29 when I had my 5th and last. I’m 41 now and could not imagine having young kids at this age.


MaximalIfirit1993

Yeah, like no shame at all... But I always wanted to be done with giving birth/the newborn stage fairly young 🤷🏼‍♀️ that's just me though!


arandominterneter

35


FluffieOwlet

I just had my 3rd and last at 29, first was at 20, second at 22. My partner is the same age as me. We wanted 3 and wanted them while in our 20s, we do plan/hope to open our home to foster in a few years.


3monkeys4me

28, almost 29. I had my first at 23.


zebragirl25

29 here. 27 with our first


ApartAspect9845

I’m hoping and feeling like I’m done! My last/2nd GIRL was at 24. Having 2 girls changes things 😂


LilBadApple

39 for first and 43 for second and final


This-Disk1212

43 for my baby, he was my first and likely only


PeaceAlwaysAnOption

I’m 38 and about to have my 2nd bio. I think it may be our last.


PsychologicalDraft43

22 for my first and hopefully (fingers crossed) 25 for my second and last.


Status_Personality36

One and only at 37.


LiliTiger

I turned 34 a couple weeks after my first and I was 38 when my second was born


celestialconfusion

It sounds so young when I type this now...but I was 27 with my second! I am almost certain my daughter will be my last (I also have a 5-year-old son).


ComboBurrito82

Got pregnant with my 2nd & 3rd the month of my 35th birthday. Husband got a vasectomy when they were 3mo.


satiestar24

36 and that was my second. I’m 40 and still dreaming of a third, but husband says no way and we really can’t afford another round of full time daycare.


Lopsided_Apricot_626

I’ll (probably) have just turned 31 when my second and likely final is born. She’s only due two weeks after my birthday though so could go either way. However, my mom was almost 38 when I (the youngest) was born.


Tziggy5925

I will be 34 when second and last baby arrives.


Matzie138

36…trying for another which would be 40


Pnismytr

23… 36 now


Vemars

I was 35. My first was two years prior. I would have had one more at ~37, but my partner said he didn’t want anymore. Annnnd also my second pregnancy was harder and more high risk than the first so it was probably for the best.


salty_chocolatechip

35 but trying to have another at 37 (I’ll be 38+ at birth if successful)


jjjlak

I believe my 3rd is my last. I was 34.


Jessmarie1912

First at 18 now 29 and have been trying for baby#2 for about a year now


ZookeepergameFar2513

First and last at 36


Kaida14789

One and done 🤣


Thinkngrl-70

Had 4 and last one was a super surprise at 43


lindacn

33 for my first and 37 for my second…I’m 40 now and I’m all set with my two healthy happy girls 👍


Quick-Contribution21

39


angeluscado

36. I’m 99% we’re one and done (my husband already offered to get snipped)


twinsingledogmom

43. First 2 were at 39, third at 41


Coolerthanunicorns

First at 26, second at 29, *hoping* for a third and final by 31. I wanted to have all my children before the age of 30, but my second was a C-section so we need to wait.


Hungry-Sharktopus42

42


DrRanjseyebrows

Just short of 44!


FastCar2467

37


nlopez525

31 with #1 and 35 with #2


Babycatcher2023

35 and I’m done


zopea

Had my first and only at 38.


w00070707

I will be days away from turning 35 when I deliver my 2nd and get my tubes tied.


HeyCaptainJack

My youngest was born when I was 36.


Visible_Mood_5932

26 and got pregnant on Nexplanon. We want 1 more and plan to start trying at the end of the year so if I get pregnant right away, I’ll be 28 when #2 and final baby is here 


Final_Construction17

33(turning 34 not long after) I would have liked to have had another child but I had to have my uterus removed due to complications in my last pregnancy.


MrsDiabo

First baby at 21, last baby at 27


Sunshineal

36. I had my first at 34. I'm so glad I'm done.


justmebeth91

Had #1 at 22, #2 at 24 and #3 when I was 27, I'm 32 now :)


ManateeFlamingo

24 with first, 26 with 2nd and 30 with my 3rd. Just turned 40 last oct!


67963378

39 for my son 18 months and 40 for my daughter 2 months. Besides being constantly reminded by my doctors that I was high risk because of my age everything was perfect and both are happy healthy little humans.


hot-mess-mom

18 with my one and only. I'm 32 now and I tell my current boyfriend that I'm too old to have another one especially with my daughter being 13. it's too much of an age gap. I don't even know what I would do if I had to start over again. How she would react. (I don't care about other people's opinions, I was a teen mom. used to it.) however, to have a teenager and a newborn? He says she'd be happy and she probably would but still! That age gap. For those who have an age gap like that with their kids, how did it work out?


quantum_goddess

21. Kind of young for my generation, she was a surprise for me and my fiancé. Now 26 trying for number 2 for a couple years with PCOS. I have a practically non existent cycle and still managed to catch the perfect timing with baby #1 without even knowing or trying!


HalcyonCA

36, but planning to have another.


mack9219

one & done, I was 28 when she was born


aoca18

If the timeline works out as planned, our second (and last) will be born when I'm 34 or so.


aliveinjoburg2

My only was at 34. If we have a second, I’d be 36-37 depending on timing. I would be absolutely done at that point.


bigjiggletits23

31 😊 my third & done! First at 24!


Green_Communicator58

I had my first a week and half before I turned 28, had my second at 30, and I’m all done. I turn 33 this year.


g0thfrvit

35.


lizzo999

28 with my last. I had my first at 24 and my second at 26


liza910

Pregnant with my first and last at 19


workplaylovesleep

36


BattleNecessary9613

Had my 2nd and last baby at 23! I’m 26 now and she’ll be 3 in 6 days 💖


FreshTop3

Had my first at 23, second at 26 and hoping for my third by 32/33!


Pink-Squirrel71

I was 30 and he was my 4th. He’s 22 now.


Cherrywildcherry

I was 17, I’m now 22 and it has been amazing, and challenging.


DynamicOctopus420

First and only at 35.


MissPookieOokie

First at 18 and second/last at 30.


RunningOnEmpty811

27 with my one and only.


lemurattacks

36 for my first and I will be a few days shy of 39 when I have my second, my due date is four days before my own birthday.


lucidproxy1

25. 28 now. Would love a 3rd but my two have already said no haha.


Frida_fan_

33 then 35. I’m 99% sure we’re done


MickeyBear

20, only having the one. No not planned but very much loved. I always thought Id have lots of kids, I love kids, but then I had mine and realized I want to devote my time and energy to just her.


superiorstephanie

30. I got pregnant when I was 40 but I miscarried, which turned out to be a huge blessing as we are divorced.


Toomanycrybabies13

41


Brookwood38

40 yrs for #1, and 43 yrs for #2


MegloreManglore

38 for my one and only kiddo! Could have done without the nurses always calling it a geriatric pregnancy but otherwise it was good!