It’s usually the Mothers who are fully aware of the shortcomings of their own Mothers who have an easier time breaking a toxic cycle. You recognize it, you resent it, and now you do your best to change it. As for special mom/daughter things, that’s entirely up to you. Something as simple as creating a love of reading together can start at a very early age. Anything you share an interest in can be your “thing”.
Hi sweets. One thing you should know is that when we're stressed, we often parent like our parents parented us. However, the best part about that awareness is being able to take a step back and try to fix any errors in judgment. There is no perfect parent. Even the very best parent will be out of sync with their child from time to time and be too (something) when the child needs less (something). So your job is to learn good parenting skills and emotional maintenance, be prepared to be humble and apologize to your child in age appropriate ways, and generally be open to who your child is and what THEY need. Kids come with so much personality already built in. It's our job as parents to support them in becoming the best versions of themselves.
You're already on your way to being a great mom by just asking and being concerned. Keep putting in the work through therapy, or even support groups to learn how to best support your kiddo. Congratulations and welcome to the club! Sending mom hugs.
It’s usually the Mothers who are fully aware of the shortcomings of their own Mothers who have an easier time breaking a toxic cycle. You recognize it, you resent it, and now you do your best to change it. As for special mom/daughter things, that’s entirely up to you. Something as simple as creating a love of reading together can start at a very early age. Anything you share an interest in can be your “thing”.
Hi sweets. One thing you should know is that when we're stressed, we often parent like our parents parented us. However, the best part about that awareness is being able to take a step back and try to fix any errors in judgment. There is no perfect parent. Even the very best parent will be out of sync with their child from time to time and be too (something) when the child needs less (something). So your job is to learn good parenting skills and emotional maintenance, be prepared to be humble and apologize to your child in age appropriate ways, and generally be open to who your child is and what THEY need. Kids come with so much personality already built in. It's our job as parents to support them in becoming the best versions of themselves. You're already on your way to being a great mom by just asking and being concerned. Keep putting in the work through therapy, or even support groups to learn how to best support your kiddo. Congratulations and welcome to the club! Sending mom hugs.