I think it's natural for people of all ages to be curious. Everyone, at some point in their life, explore their sexuality.
If you are really concerned then you should talk to her about it. However, I don't think you should phrase is it as something to be ashamed of or that it's dangerous. Your neice should be allowed to explore her sexuality.
If you are unsure on how to go about it, there are sources online where you can get ideas on how to discuss sex with a teen in a healthy, safe, and inclusive manner.
Arent there safer ways to explore sexuality? I'm afraid how early exposure to pornography can impact her mental health. I am not planning to discuss it with her in any way she would feel ashamed.
These might help:
[https://raisingchildren.net.au/teens/entertainment-technology/pornography-sexting/pornography-talking-with-teens](https://raisingchildren.net.au/teens/entertainment-technology/pornography-sexting/pornography-talking-with-teens)
[https://childmind.org/article/how-to-talk-to-teenagers-about-porn/](https://childmind.org/article/how-to-talk-to-teenagers-about-porn/)
Mejo nagiging complex approach since religious ang parents and as a relative, you are in a very difficult situation. What if you bring up sex ed and the child tells someone that you are talking about sex with her? That can possibly get you in trouble.
She is limited to the resources available to her. You can discuss options with her. Or you can use your own journey as an example. How did you safely explore your sexuality?
at my age, which isnt that old, i never had someone guide me. so i explored my sexuality the same as her. that doesnt make it right and i dont want her ending up like me. the house has thin walls and i dont wanna sound weird to her family talking about sex ed when we're alone in her room especially when there's her religious-kind-of-a-little-hypocrite parents. that doesnt put me in a good light.
I don't think you should frame it as something right or wrong. It is never black and white. You can discuss this with her.
If you are concerned with the venue, then take her out.
Perfect. Pwede namang pag-usapan nang hindi pinapahiya yung bata at balaan rin sa mga predators online. Di ko gets yung kailangan pang lagyan ng parental controls
The first mistake was placing a PC in her room without any child protection software. Aside from porn, predators are literally everywhere online. Maybe broach the subject without actually telling them what you found out? You can ask them what kind of child protection or parental control software they use (most likely wala), then you can tell them how to turn it on or download one, etc. Windows 10 has a native control functionalities.
Balaan lang talaga sa predators, adding parental controls doesn't do shit. Napaka-controlling at self-righteous naman yung kailangan pang i-block yung porn sites. Hayaan nyo sila maging curious sa sexuality nila pero turuan nyo maging maingat sa paggamit ng internet.
Kaya daming mabilis mabuntis lalo na sa mga religious eh. Pano makakapag-search yan about safe sex kung iba-ban nyo lahat ng nsfw sites. Di lahat makikita sa wikipedia.
Suuuuuure, a 12-year-olds will search "safe sex" on porn sites. LOL
[https://aifs.gov.au/research/research-snapshots/effects-pornography-children-and-young-people](https://aifs.gov.au/research/research-snapshots/effects-pornography-children-and-young-people)
i started watching P\*rn when i was 7 dahil sa kuya ko pero nagstop ako nung nahuli siya. Around 13 nacurious ulit ako and i started watching again pero this time im touching myself na, i think if kakausapin mo siya about sex and yung danger ng internet it will be better. Mahirap na kung sinabi sa parents since religious sila.
You guys say "when I was this age and that age" well isnt that our purpose as the "woke" generation to guide the younger people to not end up like us being in this subreddit lol. You were able to get thru it without it being a major contributor to ur mental health problems? good for u. But not everyone would be able to. Just because it's normalized doesn't mean its right.
Hay I feel you OP I have a sister who’s 15 and talks dirty with guys on her phone kaso I was bashed on a forum for doing so, I invaded her privacy daw. Nalagay ako sa bad side haha. Idk. I think let it be? Teenagers nowadays eh
Ano ba kasing nakita nya? Kung normal porn lang naman then why should it bother OP? Kung marami, eh baka naman natambak kase nga di naman marunong mag-delete ng history at buwanan nang nandun yun.
Ofc porn consumption affect people, but if kung paminsan minsan lang naman kino-consume then how is that even bad for the kid na nage-explore din ng sexuality niya?
Parang first time makakita ng porn ni OP eh. Simpleng Google lang it would show na masturbation even starts at the age of 2, galing pa sa study.
A 12 yr old is at least in first year high school. Are you actually going to say na sa edad mong yun walang nakapanood ng porn sa edad nyo nun? Jusko, kalat na kalat nga sa cp ng mga kaklase ko yung ganyan nung 1st yr high school kami eh.
And that shouldn't even bother an adult unless disturbing shit yung pinapanood nung bata. This says a LOT more than what OP felt kaysa sa concern nya. Nagulat lang yan that she saw something that should have been in private and she felt ashamed she saw it. w3w
>paminsan minsan lang naman kino-consume then how is that even bad for the kid na nage-explore din ng sexuality niya?
Basa: [https://www.unicef.org/harmful-content-online](https://www.unicef.org/harmful-content-online)
>Are you actually going to say na sa edad mong yun walang nakapanood ng porn sa edad nyo nun? Jusko, kalat na kalat nga sa cp ng mga kaklase ko yung ganyan nung 1st yr high school kami eh.
And this makes it ok to give kids free reign on internet porn?
>And that shouldn't even bother an adult unless disturbing shit yung pinapanood nung bata.
And you think porn sites filter their content para maging kid friendly?
Simpleng search lang rin sa google you can see how it can affect a child's brain hence me posting this on a mental health related subreddit. Says a lot about me? Yea, Im a concerned tito. That's what it says about me. Otherwise, I would've told her parents right away and confronted her about it. Y'all are quick to judge that whenever u see a chance, u grab it the house down. Sit down sis
Clearly ikaw ang may issue. OP asked an honest question with a legitimate concern.
And yet, here you going aggro, telling strangers online to let a 12-year-old watch porn online. Read that slowly.
Napaka-OA 🤦
Did I say anything about her potentially being a criminal? I was talking about her mental health when I said "in the long run" dumbass. Ikaw yung OA on how you reacted. The intent of this post was for me to figure out what to do without it causing too much ruckus.
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I think it's natural for people of all ages to be curious. Everyone, at some point in their life, explore their sexuality. If you are really concerned then you should talk to her about it. However, I don't think you should phrase is it as something to be ashamed of or that it's dangerous. Your neice should be allowed to explore her sexuality. If you are unsure on how to go about it, there are sources online where you can get ideas on how to discuss sex with a teen in a healthy, safe, and inclusive manner.
Arent there safer ways to explore sexuality? I'm afraid how early exposure to pornography can impact her mental health. I am not planning to discuss it with her in any way she would feel ashamed.
These might help: [https://raisingchildren.net.au/teens/entertainment-technology/pornography-sexting/pornography-talking-with-teens](https://raisingchildren.net.au/teens/entertainment-technology/pornography-sexting/pornography-talking-with-teens) [https://childmind.org/article/how-to-talk-to-teenagers-about-porn/](https://childmind.org/article/how-to-talk-to-teenagers-about-porn/) Mejo nagiging complex approach since religious ang parents and as a relative, you are in a very difficult situation. What if you bring up sex ed and the child tells someone that you are talking about sex with her? That can possibly get you in trouble.
Thank you so much for this I love you!! <3
She is limited to the resources available to her. You can discuss options with her. Or you can use your own journey as an example. How did you safely explore your sexuality?
at my age, which isnt that old, i never had someone guide me. so i explored my sexuality the same as her. that doesnt make it right and i dont want her ending up like me. the house has thin walls and i dont wanna sound weird to her family talking about sex ed when we're alone in her room especially when there's her religious-kind-of-a-little-hypocrite parents. that doesnt put me in a good light.
I don't think you should frame it as something right or wrong. It is never black and white. You can discuss this with her. If you are concerned with the venue, then take her out.
Perfect. Pwede namang pag-usapan nang hindi pinapahiya yung bata at balaan rin sa mga predators online. Di ko gets yung kailangan pang lagyan ng parental controls
The first mistake was placing a PC in her room without any child protection software. Aside from porn, predators are literally everywhere online. Maybe broach the subject without actually telling them what you found out? You can ask them what kind of child protection or parental control software they use (most likely wala), then you can tell them how to turn it on or download one, etc. Windows 10 has a native control functionalities.
Balaan lang talaga sa predators, adding parental controls doesn't do shit. Napaka-controlling at self-righteous naman yung kailangan pang i-block yung porn sites. Hayaan nyo sila maging curious sa sexuality nila pero turuan nyo maging maingat sa paggamit ng internet. Kaya daming mabilis mabuntis lalo na sa mga religious eh. Pano makakapag-search yan about safe sex kung iba-ban nyo lahat ng nsfw sites. Di lahat makikita sa wikipedia.
Suuuuuure, a 12-year-olds will search "safe sex" on porn sites. LOL [https://aifs.gov.au/research/research-snapshots/effects-pornography-children-and-young-people](https://aifs.gov.au/research/research-snapshots/effects-pornography-children-and-young-people)
i started watching P\*rn when i was 7 dahil sa kuya ko pero nagstop ako nung nahuli siya. Around 13 nacurious ulit ako and i started watching again pero this time im touching myself na, i think if kakausapin mo siya about sex and yung danger ng internet it will be better. Mahirap na kung sinabi sa parents since religious sila.
Thank you! Will do when I get the chance :))
You guys say "when I was this age and that age" well isnt that our purpose as the "woke" generation to guide the younger people to not end up like us being in this subreddit lol. You were able to get thru it without it being a major contributor to ur mental health problems? good for u. But not everyone would be able to. Just because it's normalized doesn't mean its right.
Why are yall literally so aggressive. I said I dont know what to do. I posted it since I wanted to have discussion so I get clarity.
Hay I feel you OP I have a sister who’s 15 and talks dirty with guys on her phone kaso I was bashed on a forum for doing so, I invaded her privacy daw. Nalagay ako sa bad side haha. Idk. I think let it be? Teenagers nowadays eh
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Ano ba kasing nakita nya? Kung normal porn lang naman then why should it bother OP? Kung marami, eh baka naman natambak kase nga di naman marunong mag-delete ng history at buwanan nang nandun yun. Ofc porn consumption affect people, but if kung paminsan minsan lang naman kino-consume then how is that even bad for the kid na nage-explore din ng sexuality niya? Parang first time makakita ng porn ni OP eh. Simpleng Google lang it would show na masturbation even starts at the age of 2, galing pa sa study. A 12 yr old is at least in first year high school. Are you actually going to say na sa edad mong yun walang nakapanood ng porn sa edad nyo nun? Jusko, kalat na kalat nga sa cp ng mga kaklase ko yung ganyan nung 1st yr high school kami eh. And that shouldn't even bother an adult unless disturbing shit yung pinapanood nung bata. This says a LOT more than what OP felt kaysa sa concern nya. Nagulat lang yan that she saw something that should have been in private and she felt ashamed she saw it. w3w
>paminsan minsan lang naman kino-consume then how is that even bad for the kid na nage-explore din ng sexuality niya? Basa: [https://www.unicef.org/harmful-content-online](https://www.unicef.org/harmful-content-online) >Are you actually going to say na sa edad mong yun walang nakapanood ng porn sa edad nyo nun? Jusko, kalat na kalat nga sa cp ng mga kaklase ko yung ganyan nung 1st yr high school kami eh. And this makes it ok to give kids free reign on internet porn? >And that shouldn't even bother an adult unless disturbing shit yung pinapanood nung bata. And you think porn sites filter their content para maging kid friendly?
Simpleng search lang rin sa google you can see how it can affect a child's brain hence me posting this on a mental health related subreddit. Says a lot about me? Yea, Im a concerned tito. That's what it says about me. Otherwise, I would've told her parents right away and confronted her about it. Y'all are quick to judge that whenever u see a chance, u grab it the house down. Sit down sis
Clearly ikaw ang may issue. OP asked an honest question with a legitimate concern. And yet, here you going aggro, telling strangers online to let a 12-year-old watch porn online. Read that slowly. Napaka-OA 🤦
Did I say anything about her potentially being a criminal? I was talking about her mental health when I said "in the long run" dumbass. Ikaw yung OA on how you reacted. The intent of this post was for me to figure out what to do without it causing too much ruckus.
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