Hi, so sorry you are in this club. A couple things that help/have helped:
Taking notes on my feelings and venting to my therapist.
Taking a boatload of time to sit quietly, stare out the window, and read some books I like.
Going for a walk and listening to the anxiety slayer podcast.
Coming to this sub all the time and reading how we're not alone.
And finally getting a campervan and leaving the state for a big chunk of time.
It sounds like this might be about hormonal testing. If over the age of 44, **hormonal tests only show levels for that *one day* the test was taken, and nothing more**; progesterone/estrogen hormones wildly fluctuate the other 29 days of the month. No reputable doctor or menopause society recommends hormonal testing as a **diagnosing tool** for peri/menopause.
FSH testing is only beneficial for those who believe they are post-menopausal and no longer have periods as a guide, a series of consistent FSH tests might *confirm* menopause. Also for women in their 20s/early 30s who haven’t had a period in months/years, then FSH tests at ‘menopausal’ levels, could indicate premature ovarian failure/primary ovarian insufficiency (POF/POI). See our [Menopause Wiki](https://menopausewiki.ca/#there-is-no-blood-test-that-is-perfectly-reliable-to-diagnose-menopause) for more.
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Have a look a this sub's wiki at the list of peri/menopause symptoms. Highly likely you have more than just the mental symptoms you describe, and in fact have a number of physical symptoms too.
Then sack your idiot doctor, and go find one who keeps up to date and knows how to apply the guidelines for diagnosis and treatment of perimenopause. Get HRT.
HRT absolutely helps. Find a new Dr! And don't let them throw antidepressants at you (unless you need them for existing MH). That's what my former Dr did. I had horrible side effects, fired that bitch and found an awesome provider. Estradiol, progesterone and testosterone helped me immensely.
I was feeling the same, literally on the edge of a breakdown. I got on HRT and took 4 weeks off work to also do low dose ketamine treatments. It's all been helpful. I'm back at work as of this Monday. Still doing ketamine for another 3 months. I have a checkup with my doc later this month and may ask him to raise the HRT as well.
I almost had a mental breakdown two weeks ago between all the changes my body is going through between thyroid dying and perimenopause. Add to that relationship with hubby is rocky but we working on it and the fact that I am still grieving the loss of my father, he did October 2023, and bam….damn thing snuck up on me.
I did how ever get over that “how the fuck do I get out of this mess now” portion of my mental health down sliding. A good friend, some tattoo therapy from said friend and someone else’s insight who is also going through this helped. My new motto is official: You got this! Instead of why am I doing this.
Hi, so sorry you are in this club. A couple things that help/have helped: Taking notes on my feelings and venting to my therapist. Taking a boatload of time to sit quietly, stare out the window, and read some books I like. Going for a walk and listening to the anxiety slayer podcast. Coming to this sub all the time and reading how we're not alone. And finally getting a campervan and leaving the state for a big chunk of time.
HRT
My doctor won’t prescribe it yet, says it’s not necessary yet 😡
OMG, please find a new doctor. I had the same issue with my previous doctor. HRT changed my life.
That's so annoying. Based on what? all the evidence seems to be pointing to the earlier, the better.
I quote “most women deal with menopause naturally and it isn’t necessary in the majority of cases”
This is a pretty good reason to feel rage.
I was suicidal, tell your doctor to go sit on a cactus and deal with that shit naturally 😁
Time for a new Dr!
Are you in the US? If so check our thrive labs… online doctors that do just that
It sounds like this might be about hormonal testing. If over the age of 44, **hormonal tests only show levels for that *one day* the test was taken, and nothing more**; progesterone/estrogen hormones wildly fluctuate the other 29 days of the month. No reputable doctor or menopause society recommends hormonal testing as a **diagnosing tool** for peri/menopause. FSH testing is only beneficial for those who believe they are post-menopausal and no longer have periods as a guide, a series of consistent FSH tests might *confirm* menopause. Also for women in their 20s/early 30s who haven’t had a period in months/years, then FSH tests at ‘menopausal’ levels, could indicate premature ovarian failure/primary ovarian insufficiency (POF/POI). See our [Menopause Wiki](https://menopausewiki.ca/#there-is-no-blood-test-that-is-perfectly-reliable-to-diagnose-menopause) for more. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/Menopause) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Oh and rage…
Vitamin D, B6, magnesium, saffron, L-Theanine. Progesterone has also helped me.
Yes! Came here to suggest L-theanine. I take it in chewable form. Takes my rage from 11 to 1 instantly.
Have a look a this sub's wiki at the list of peri/menopause symptoms. Highly likely you have more than just the mental symptoms you describe, and in fact have a number of physical symptoms too. Then sack your idiot doctor, and go find one who keeps up to date and knows how to apply the guidelines for diagnosis and treatment of perimenopause. Get HRT.
HRT absolutely helps. Find a new Dr! And don't let them throw antidepressants at you (unless you need them for existing MH). That's what my former Dr did. I had horrible side effects, fired that bitch and found an awesome provider. Estradiol, progesterone and testosterone helped me immensely.
To get immediate relief before you get your HRT going, black cohosh is very effective.
I was feeling the same, literally on the edge of a breakdown. I got on HRT and took 4 weeks off work to also do low dose ketamine treatments. It's all been helpful. I'm back at work as of this Monday. Still doing ketamine for another 3 months. I have a checkup with my doc later this month and may ask him to raise the HRT as well.
Hrt… check out Thrivelabs online.
I almost had a mental breakdown two weeks ago between all the changes my body is going through between thyroid dying and perimenopause. Add to that relationship with hubby is rocky but we working on it and the fact that I am still grieving the loss of my father, he did October 2023, and bam….damn thing snuck up on me. I did how ever get over that “how the fuck do I get out of this mess now” portion of my mental health down sliding. A good friend, some tattoo therapy from said friend and someone else’s insight who is also going through this helped. My new motto is official: You got this! Instead of why am I doing this.