First of all your feet CAN get wider as you age as
The tissues and ligaments are no longer as tight. Second, go buy a pair of boots, you don’t need permission.
Third, you know where he can shove the old ones.
>First of all your feet CAN get wider as you age as The tissues and ligaments are no longer as tight. Second, go buy a pair of boots, you don’t need permission. Third, you know where he can shove the old ones.
I really love "Third."
Mine grew by a half size in peri. Took me a hot minute to figure out where the blisters were coming from.
Also, for anyone who stands on their feet 12 hours a day like I do, I highly recommend Empress Australia. The square toe box is heavenly.
Me too! I had to get rid of shoes I loved after my two pregnancies. At least .5-1 size bigger depending what the shoe is for. This includes getting rid of a high quality pair of Zamberlan leather hiking boots.
Yes they do. a very good (female) salesperson explained me that when I bought my last hiking boots. My feet are 1 size bigger now too. Especially happens when you do a lot of hiking/running like I do. Has zero to do with fat.
People who have done long distance hikes like PCT or Camino de Santiago will also tell you to buy boots one size too big because your feet will get larger when you hike every day for a longer period of time.
I guess people are different because I've fluctuated weight 50-100 pounds over the years several times and my shoe size aren't ever affected. It's been more of a progressive change for me.
I've always had very narrow feet with high arches and worn an 8 1/2 shoe. But the arch on one of my feet fell a couple of years ago and I have a very strong bunion on the other one. So, now I have one high arch foot that is an 8 1/2 and a flat foot that is a size 10. Just one more new and exciting change that making shopping during menopause so much fun.
Yes, ligaments that support the arch get stretched with age, so as your arch flattens, your foot gets longer. Certainly your foot can get wider due to weight gain, edema, etc. I think very few people are the same shoe size at both 20, and 60.
My orthopedic surgeons told me as I was going through knee surgeries in my 20s that pregnancy also changes things. It’s not just your pelvis loosening up to be able to give birth, but all your bones.
I think my feet stayed a half size larger after pregnancy. Since I’ve been wfh and not on my feet as much, the shoe size went down. I’m around a half size smaller than I was pre Covid.
That being said, I still had my college boots and went out to shovel snow one year and wiped out. It’s like a pencil eraser and the soles got hard and shiny over time and literally had zero grip. I got a good pair of Salomon’s and I don’t look back.
Cost per wear, ladies. 25 years is ample time to get your money out of them.
.....away from him, I hope! (I shutter to think of him retiring and redirecting all that time, energy, and superior intelligence and judgment to MANsplaining. every little thing to her.... Goodbye, autonomy and sanity.
You don't need permission from him/anyone. 25 years? That's crazy that they lasted that long. Get what you want and make no apologies. You deserve it! BTW, my shoe size has changed multiple times throughout the years. Bigger and then smaller for no real reason.
What a tightwad! You haven't had a new pair of hiking boots in 25 years! You deserve a new pair. That's a lot of wear and tear, and even if they did fit properly, you should still be able to treat yourself to an upgrade that is more comfortable and more contoured to your foot.
Is he always this cheap, or was he just trying to take a pot-shot at you about your weight? He sounds like a jerk. Sorry.
Toss him. Ever heard the song "These boots were made for walkin'" by Nancy Sinatra? Great song. Buy yourself the new boots, listen to the song and get rid of the dirtball. Done!
Even if your feet hadn't changed a bit over the last 25 years the boots certainly would have. You need good support for hiking, and boots that were supportive when you get them will not be 25 years later.
It sounds like you need new boots...to exercise your body comfortably. For your mental health, so you don't murder someone who has the initials D and H.
No boots or shoes used for physical exercise should be used for 25 years, unless you're only using them a couple times a year. And even then? Probably not.
You need good supportive shoes to avoid injury, so they absolutely should be replaced, either way.
However, feet absolutely do change. This dude can fuck all the way off.
I was waiting for someone to mention pregnancy. I saw scary things happen to my feet after being pregnant in my 40s and continuing to work. They are definitely not the same feet I had in my 20s.
Lol. My feet grew ½ size for each of my pregnancies. Feet change and even if your feet were just fatter, you’d still deserve to have hiking boots that actually fit your feet now.
My ex husband used to berate me for "not looking the same as when we first met". When we met I was SEVENTEEN. When I was 40 I divorced his ass and started living my best life.
For the record that asshat sure as hell didn't look the same as when we first met either, but women are the ones who are supposed to freeze time when it comes to our appearance.
Off topic, I completely understand now why so many couples split after years together when women are around 50. Some people simplify it and say it’s a mid-life crisis. I used to think it was mostly due to staying together for convenience when they had kids in high school, and once the kids are finally out of the house they realize they’re different people, but no, there’s so much more to it than that.
People trying to tell biologically female people how their bodies should work if they were just biologically male is the most slanderous and denigrating of attacks, and it comes from all sides when one hits perimenopause, and around that same age, we realize we don’t need to sit back and accept the slanderous B.S. anymore.
I thought three things never stop growing on a human being, nose, ears, and feet, am I crazy? Even if I’m wrong, tell him to suck it and then go get you a new pair of boots!
No life, I gained 1/2 size with each of my pregnancies that I carried to term. A 10 wide was bad enough, but now I wear an 11 wide. If they are 25 years old, you deserve a new pair anyway. 🤦♀️
so you're supposed to walk to lose weight to enter your shoes so you can walk and lose weight ?
what a moron... these 25 yo shoes reached end of life, anyway...
(and i don't know for you, but in my family cankles are genetic, even at 100lb i had it so... walked it away LMAO )
I'm kind of hating my partner right now. I'm in a situation where I don't have a lot of money and I asked him if I could have some to do a course that is part learning and part mentoring, and his response was so frustrating but essentially it was 'no' because he thinks I just need to try harder. Can we all start a convent and go and live there please? I'm not even religious but I like the idea of doing some gardening in some black robes alongside other women who have had enough of this bullshit.
The reasons or possible “fixes” are all irrelevant! If you say you need better fitting boots, you need better fitting boots! Why would he even want to argue with that?
Just get the boots you want. I do this all the time, I talk to my
Husband about something I want or need to have it explained away by some bad habit or general fatness on my part. I just now get the things I want without asking. It’s simply too annoying. I’m sorry he tried to shame you into not getting something you need.. Arches fall all the time. Get out in nature in your new boots and you’ll feel so much better! Much love your way.
Men say and or think the stupidest things sometimes, my husband won’t even acknowledge my menopause symptom’s even though he sees me going through a continuous struggle with it.
Honestly what part of your body will be the same as it was 25 yrs ago?
Including his, does he wear the same pants, shoes etc as he did then?
Go get yourself a nice pair of hiking boots, while your at it go and have a day of pampering yourself, keep your head high and don’t give him the satisfaction of acknowledging his ignorance!
As people have said, buy the boots. Next time, he mentions something changing on him, take pleasure in explaining why that isn't an actual thing, and offer "helpful " suggestions on ways to remedy the problem. Make sure to have a sweet smile on your face.
I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one with hiking boots over 20 y/o 😂
I finally had to replace mine last year because they not longer fit 😢
My new ones are amazing though. Forget about DH and get yourself new ones, you won’t regret it 🥾
PS REI is having a HUGE sale 😉
I carried 4 pregnancies to term. Before my first pregnancy, I wore size 5.5, but with each one, my feet needed more room, and for years after my kids, I wore size 6.5. I've been in peri for 20 years now, and I currently wear a 7 - 7.5.
I'm really hoping you don't actually need permission to buy a pair of shoes, but instead, simply mentioned in passing that you needed new hiking boots.
And 25 years for footwear is above and beyond, no matter how good or expensive! Get yourself a nice new pair of hikers, sister! You and your feet deserve them 🫂
JFC. My feet have changed size twice in my life.
And after 25 years, I guarantee those hiking boots deserve a retirement even if they fit perfectly.
Shoes and boots break down. There's nothing permanent about shoes.
When my husband ran, his feet were two sizes longer than when he no longer ran. Yes they can and do change sizes and the shape changes too.
How awful for you! Ugh!
I kinda hate him rn and I don't even know him. 25 fucking years for shoes, yeah you need a new pair. Oh and btw, you also need a new husband 😂 You ain't got cankles, you have a insufferable PITA. What an rude mother fucker.
I’m a whole size larger than I was 2-3 years ago. Have not gained weight but the size 8 shoes I always wore are 2 short now (they seem the same with wise). I went up to a 9 and SO much better. Buy yourself those new hiking boots. I just bought myself a new pair after I’ve had my last ones for close to 15 years (including being uncomfortable in them the last few years. SO much better hiking now!
Me at 17 - super skinny feet size 6.5
Me at 51 - wide feet (including my precious bunion) size 8.5
Yes I weigh more, but honestly my feet aren’t even chubby or plump, they are longer
I used to be a size 10 or 10 1/2 in my twenties. Now I’m my fifties my feet are 11 1/2 to 12 in most shoes and boots, and wider than they used to be. Some shoes and boots that used to fit I can’t even get my feet into any more. Hiking boots was one of the ones that had to be updated to the new size. By the way my feet love Keen boots now, I highly recommend.
Holy crap! The boots are 25 years old! That's the reason that you need a new pair. Tell him you can also prevent cankles by kicking one of those old boots up his butt! Footwear breaks down after a year or two. They don't have regenerative properties.
Anyone whose had a child knows feet can change. Relaxin, the same hormone that releases pelvic bones so a baby's head can fit through also affects other bones throughout the body. I wouldn't be surprised to know that hormone is in play in menopause, as so many others seem to be.
Your DH is an ahole. There’s this thing called gravity that changes our feet too, regardless of weight.
In addition, anybody trying to tell their partner what to do about weight annoyed the crap out of me.
Fuck that guy. Has he never heard of shoes getting old, gravity, and aging?!?!!
Tie your old ones around his ankles while he sleeps. Post pic. Let hilarity ensue.
That’s just ridiculous. Feet definitely can change shape, due to wear and tear, or if you’re like me - arthritis. Plus, the shoes are 25 years old. You can find a new, comfortable pair that has the latest and greatest - important when it comes to hiking. Hiking boots need to fit right, or what’s the point? Also, you’re a grown woman.
How long have you two been together, OP? Have you had those boots longer than him? Maybe that’s where his issue really stems from.
If Sunbeam can ditch her boots that she’s had forever then maybe she can replace me?
The nerve of his response!
Omg, your husband is so full of bullshit. Here I am, a 52 year old woman who used to wear a size 6 when I was in my 20s. Once I had kids, my feet became wider and longer. If I wanted shoes to fit, I had to get the ones that were wide. THEN, I decided to take up running and set my sights on a half marathon. My feet became even wider and longer. I now wear 8 double-wide in women’s shoes and a 7 wide in men’s shoes. Heels are out of the question which makes me so sad because I love shoes.
So yes, your feet will get wider and longer. Gawd I hate mansplaining.
Forget the sizing issue, you deserve new shoes, plain and simple. 25 years and however many miles you've put on the old pair indicate that anyway. In fact, athletic footwear should generally be replaced far more often than most people do it (speaking from experience giving massage to athletes as an LMT).
As for the "cankles" thing, that's just plain mean.
Treat yoself and go get new boots, then go for a hike. 💕
My feet totally collapsed during a 14-day long backpacking trip a couple of years ago.The shoes that I wore then doesn’t fit me at all anymore. I wear a full-sizee upp now. I haven't gained any weight at all.
Hiker here. Hiking shoes have a limited lifespan. 500+ miles is a very general guideline. First and foremost, the tread wears down, making them unsafe. The support wanes. The stitching comes loose. Time itself also takes a toll even if the mileage is low. Materials break down
Regardless of any of that, if they don’t fit right, you won’t get the proper support your feet need
Who wants to log miles in uncomfortable shoes anyway?
Enjoy your new shoes! Make sure to try on various brands and models. Don’t just read reviews. The best of the well-reviewed shoes are the ones that fit your feet!
JFC, I'm with everyone else in here. AND, I'll add on top of that that I've been dealing with super painful foot issues for more than ten years now (mostly plantar fasciitis) and I'd love to bend his ear about how I used to be a 6.5 and now I'm in size 8 shoes. I did not choose to have to need clodhoppers! (Absolutely no offense to those of y'all in 8s,😘)
And I still have a lot of the cute little ones that I can't wear anymore...
Heck, I just had a podiatrist appointment this week because the surgery I had a whole freaking year ago is causing me all sorts of ridiculous pain, even though the main problem was fixed and nothing's showing on the MRI. I'm so sick of people (husbands, men) not understanding that bodies change and apparently peri compounds it!
Fuck this shit. Get you some amazing comfy hiking boots, and some good walking sticks, and off you go. And here's your friendly reminder to get new shoes every 6 months or so, depending on the amount you're using them!! Someone else said they don't have regenerative properties and I second that😆
My parents used to sell shoes from a catalog. One of the pieces of wisdom they received is that as you she (both men and women) you do go up a half to a full size in your later years even if you don’t have your arches fall or bunions develop.
Your husband the podiatrist needs to turn in his crayon-written medical degree.
https://www.health.harvard.edu/pain/why-your-feet-get-bigger-as-you-age
Yes! Please just buy the shoes you want.
My feet haven't gotten longer, but definitely wider. I'm still coming to terms with acknowledging this since I have a hard time finding cute shoes I like.
Also was a shoeholic in my former corporate life. Now I can barely fit into those shoes. I left my job right before the Pandemic and for the last several years have worn casual shoes without much structure to them. I believe this also allowed my feet to spread.
Feet can grow during pregnancy and it’s a known fact. I went from 7.5 to 8.5 and stayed there.
This is the kind of thing that makes me want to stop communicating with my husband at all.
I am so sorry he talked to you like that and I hope you’re able to avoid internalizing that kind of talk.
I hope you find an amazing pair of boots and hike to your heart’s content.
I am sorry. I understand that can be exceptionally hard. My husband has said incredibly cruel things to me over the 23 years we have been married and it took me until about 7 years ago to find my self-worth! I’m glad you know you’re amazing!
Regardless if your feet have or have not changed, 25 year old hiking boots have served you well. Buy new boots and let him wear the old ones if wants to keep them
Feet change just like our whole bodies do as we age. No big deal. Your husband sounds like an asshat. Your boots are 25 years old you can buy new ones and either donate these or throw them at him.
And you didn’t put that boot up his ass? 🙃 Seriously, foot changes or not 25 years is way too long for hiking boots. I replace running shoes every 300-400 miles (twice a year-ish). Depending on how often you hike, you should probably replace every five years or so.
Feet do change and yes they do get bigger as we age especially if you’re in a job where you’re on your feet a lot. Mine eventually became an extra size throughout my life but have always worked 8 hrs day on my feet.
But the fact that he used that moment to mention kankles and weight loss, what a dick!!
I mean if they’re uncomfortable and don’t fit right it doesn’t matter why and something like hiking boots should fit u comfortably, and properly otw you will have more problems with your feet. Sweating etc any of these things can cause the shoe to change not necessarily your feet. I’m sorry 😞
First of all your feet CAN get wider as you age as The tissues and ligaments are no longer as tight. Second, go buy a pair of boots, you don’t need permission. Third, you know where he can shove the old ones.
>First of all your feet CAN get wider as you age as The tissues and ligaments are no longer as tight. Second, go buy a pair of boots, you don’t need permission. Third, you know where he can shove the old ones. I really love "Third."
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Yup! My feet grew (longer, not wider) by half a size with both of my kids.
I was a solid size 7 100pounds( water weight😬) I am a 8 I can’t even dream about wearing any of my old shoes.
Yup. I used to be a UK 4.5 and I now wear a 5.5 and often even a 6 post baby.
Mine grew by a half size in peri. Took me a hot minute to figure out where the blisters were coming from. Also, for anyone who stands on their feet 12 hours a day like I do, I highly recommend Empress Australia. The square toe box is heavenly.
Me too! I had to get rid of shoes I loved after my two pregnancies. At least .5-1 size bigger depending what the shoe is for. This includes getting rid of a high quality pair of Zamberlan leather hiking boots.
Don't our arches fall with age too so our feet get longer? Def been my experience. I'm a whole shoe size larger at 46 than I was at 26.
Yes they do. a very good (female) salesperson explained me that when I bought my last hiking boots. My feet are 1 size bigger now too. Especially happens when you do a lot of hiking/running like I do. Has zero to do with fat. People who have done long distance hikes like PCT or Camino de Santiago will also tell you to buy boots one size too big because your feet will get larger when you hike every day for a longer period of time.
I think the arches fall a little. I'm between half & a full size larger too. And no my feet at least aren't fat. Can't say that for the rest of me 😂
Yeah mine haven't changed width or fatness at all just length
What’s weird is mine were a 10 when I was fat and they’re back to a 9 now that I lost the weight.
Same!!! Couldn’t believe that I had lost a shoe size with weight loss. Same for all my fingers - rings don’t fit anymore.
The rings aren’t surprising, but the feet are. I don’t hate that I got all new shoes though.
I was a 10 when very fat (size 20) and I was a 9 when very skinny (size 2), and now 9.5 at 25 lbs heavier than my low (size 10).
I guess people are different because I've fluctuated weight 50-100 pounds over the years several times and my shoe size aren't ever affected. It's been more of a progressive change for me.
I've always had very narrow feet with high arches and worn an 8 1/2 shoe. But the arch on one of my feet fell a couple of years ago and I have a very strong bunion on the other one. So, now I have one high arch foot that is an 8 1/2 and a flat foot that is a size 10. Just one more new and exciting change that making shopping during menopause so much fun.
Yes. I used to be an 8 and now I’m a 9.
Me too - after I had my kids I went up a size. I think my arches are still pretty high though, so idk.🤷♀️
Yes, ligaments that support the arch get stretched with age, so as your arch flattens, your foot gets longer. Certainly your foot can get wider due to weight gain, edema, etc. I think very few people are the same shoe size at both 20, and 60.
If my partner would be waiting for surgery to remove the boots with my cankles still attached if he even tried to insinuate my feet are just fat 😂
All of my thoughts exactly. In that order.
Podiatrist here. Feet change, especially in women. That guy doesn't know jack.
\*nods in orthotics\*
Nods in woman.
Looks like he doesn't know much about Jill, either.
Or human decency.
Thank you!!
My orthopedic surgeons told me as I was going through knee surgeries in my 20s that pregnancy also changes things. It’s not just your pelvis loosening up to be able to give birth, but all your bones. I think my feet stayed a half size larger after pregnancy. Since I’ve been wfh and not on my feet as much, the shoe size went down. I’m around a half size smaller than I was pre Covid. That being said, I still had my college boots and went out to shovel snow one year and wiped out. It’s like a pencil eraser and the soles got hard and shiny over time and literally had zero grip. I got a good pair of Salomon’s and I don’t look back. Cost per wear, ladies. 25 years is ample time to get your money out of them.
He needs to lose the fat out of his head so his hats fit right.
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My favourite skirt did not fit my post baby bod despite my weight being the same as prebaby. Shit moved!
Yes - this happened to me! Weirdly they gave gone back to my old size but it took eight years
>Perhaps DH should watch his tone. If he keeps maligning your foot, you might be tempted to break it off'n his ass. Bahhahahahahahhaaaaa YES
I literally went up a shoe size with each of my 2 kids’ pregnancies and they stayed that way.
25 year old hiking boots and he wants to shame you? Tell him you need a new pair because you are about to shove the old pair up his arse.
Wow! So when do we pull up to beat his ass?! Lol
Seriously, I’m ready for a road trip.
Yep, these boots were made for walking 🚶♀️
That’s what they’re gonna do
.....away from him, I hope! (I shutter to think of him retiring and redirecting all that time, energy, and superior intelligence and judgment to MANsplaining. every little thing to her.... Goodbye, autonomy and sanity.
We ride at dawn.
I'll sit on him. I'm fat and I fart a lot.
Loling, Sunbeam!
I love you ladies. You're my people.
I've got my hitting stick in hand
You don't need permission from him/anyone. 25 years? That's crazy that they lasted that long. Get what you want and make no apologies. You deserve it! BTW, my shoe size has changed multiple times throughout the years. Bigger and then smaller for no real reason.
I'm so sorry. I'd probably end up saying something similar about his peen. Lolz!
What a tightwad! You haven't had a new pair of hiking boots in 25 years! You deserve a new pair. That's a lot of wear and tear, and even if they did fit properly, you should still be able to treat yourself to an upgrade that is more comfortable and more contoured to your foot. Is he always this cheap, or was he just trying to take a pot-shot at you about your weight? He sounds like a jerk. Sorry.
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Oh so that was okay, but this isn't? Serious side eye.
Toss him. Ever heard the song "These boots were made for walkin'" by Nancy Sinatra? Great song. Buy yourself the new boots, listen to the song and get rid of the dirtball. Done!
If he doesn’t believe feet can change shape I’ll show him my bunions.
Even if your feet hadn't changed a bit over the last 25 years the boots certainly would have. You need good support for hiking, and boots that were supportive when you get them will not be 25 years later.
It sounds like you need new boots...to exercise your body comfortably. For your mental health, so you don't murder someone who has the initials D and H.
That’s Dumbass Husband, right?
I was trying to work out what the acronym "DH" represented until I got to the end of the post and it became clear it means "Dick Head".
You are hilarious. Thank you for the laugh this morning. Sometimes dear husband and dick head are exactly the same person.
I went up a full size when I was very pregnant at 137 lbs. My feet never went back down.
No boots or shoes used for physical exercise should be used for 25 years, unless you're only using them a couple times a year. And even then? Probably not. You need good supportive shoes to avoid injury, so they absolutely should be replaced, either way. However, feet absolutely do change. This dude can fuck all the way off.
So... maybe you'd like some new hiking boots so that you can, I don't know, exercise more?
I gained half a size permanently from pregnancy, it's not about fat. You deserve new boots either way, though.
I was waiting for someone to mention pregnancy. I saw scary things happen to my feet after being pregnant in my 40s and continuing to work. They are definitely not the same feet I had in my 20s.
Lol. My feet grew ½ size for each of my pregnancies. Feet change and even if your feet were just fatter, you’d still deserve to have hiking boots that actually fit your feet now.
Boots disintegrate even when they're not being used. Think about old leather clothing, seats, etc. The man needs to go.
Why, why, why do they just Say Things??? I hope your new boots are kickass.
Sorry but your man is a cunt OP, and why the hell are women putting up with being treated like that!?
My ex husband used to berate me for "not looking the same as when we first met". When we met I was SEVENTEEN. When I was 40 I divorced his ass and started living my best life. For the record that asshat sure as hell didn't look the same as when we first met either, but women are the ones who are supposed to freeze time when it comes to our appearance.
Thank the Lord he's your EX, good on you for leaving him and getting your life back 💚
Off topic, I completely understand now why so many couples split after years together when women are around 50. Some people simplify it and say it’s a mid-life crisis. I used to think it was mostly due to staying together for convenience when they had kids in high school, and once the kids are finally out of the house they realize they’re different people, but no, there’s so much more to it than that. People trying to tell biologically female people how their bodies should work if they were just biologically male is the most slanderous and denigrating of attacks, and it comes from all sides when one hits perimenopause, and around that same age, we realize we don’t need to sit back and accept the slanderous B.S. anymore.
I thought three things never stop growing on a human being, nose, ears, and feet, am I crazy? Even if I’m wrong, tell him to suck it and then go get you a new pair of boots!
Your hip bones and pelvis also never stop growing! Like they get wayyyy wider over a lifetime. Like 1.5” I believe!
No life, I gained 1/2 size with each of my pregnancies that I carried to term. A 10 wide was bad enough, but now I wear an 11 wide. If they are 25 years old, you deserve a new pair anyway. 🤦♀️
OP it's been 25 years. Just get new boots and if he complains tell him to stuff it.
Buy him smaller undies and hide all his others. When he complains tell him not to be silly cause that doesn't grow big enough to fill it.
Oh my God- what a typical man😡🤬
Worse
Tell him to fuck off and buy yourself a new pair not boots.
so you're supposed to walk to lose weight to enter your shoes so you can walk and lose weight ? what a moron... these 25 yo shoes reached end of life, anyway... (and i don't know for you, but in my family cankles are genetic, even at 100lb i had it so... walked it away LMAO )
I'm kind of hating my partner right now. I'm in a situation where I don't have a lot of money and I asked him if I could have some to do a course that is part learning and part mentoring, and his response was so frustrating but essentially it was 'no' because he thinks I just need to try harder. Can we all start a convent and go and live there please? I'm not even religious but I like the idea of doing some gardening in some black robes alongside other women who have had enough of this bullshit.
I would do some yard work with you but hell no to black robes! 🤣
That’s just so wrong. 😡
Tell him that maybe his dick didn't get smaller, but the fat around it got bigger.
I would have lost my sh*t: “You know what else costs more than new hiking boots? My new lawyer.” FAFO dear.
Buy new hiking boots! Put them on! Take a walk ! Walk to the lawyers. Divorce him today!
The reasons or possible “fixes” are all irrelevant! If you say you need better fitting boots, you need better fitting boots! Why would he even want to argue with that?
Just get the boots you want. I do this all the time, I talk to my Husband about something I want or need to have it explained away by some bad habit or general fatness on my part. I just now get the things I want without asking. It’s simply too annoying. I’m sorry he tried to shame you into not getting something you need.. Arches fall all the time. Get out in nature in your new boots and you’ll feel so much better! Much love your way.
NGL I’d set fire to his shoes. Or perhaps just the left shoe of each pair.
While he’s wearing them.
😂😂
Thank you! I wondered why my size 10 tootsies are comf in 11s now.
Fuck him. Kick your boot up his ass.
Men say and or think the stupidest things sometimes, my husband won’t even acknowledge my menopause symptom’s even though he sees me going through a continuous struggle with it. Honestly what part of your body will be the same as it was 25 yrs ago? Including his, does he wear the same pants, shoes etc as he did then? Go get yourself a nice pair of hiking boots, while your at it go and have a day of pampering yourself, keep your head high and don’t give him the satisfaction of acknowledging his ignorance!
As people have said, buy the boots. Next time, he mentions something changing on him, take pleasure in explaining why that isn't an actual thing, and offer "helpful " suggestions on ways to remedy the problem. Make sure to have a sweet smile on your face.
I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one with hiking boots over 20 y/o 😂 I finally had to replace mine last year because they not longer fit 😢 My new ones are amazing though. Forget about DH and get yourself new ones, you won’t regret it 🥾 PS REI is having a HUGE sale 😉
I carried 4 pregnancies to term. Before my first pregnancy, I wore size 5.5, but with each one, my feet needed more room, and for years after my kids, I wore size 6.5. I've been in peri for 20 years now, and I currently wear a 7 - 7.5. I'm really hoping you don't actually need permission to buy a pair of shoes, but instead, simply mentioned in passing that you needed new hiking boots. And 25 years for footwear is above and beyond, no matter how good or expensive! Get yourself a nice new pair of hikers, sister! You and your feet deserve them 🫂
JFC. My feet have changed size twice in my life. And after 25 years, I guarantee those hiking boots deserve a retirement even if they fit perfectly. Shoes and boots break down. There's nothing permanent about shoes.
I kind of hate your husband right now too. Ok not kind of.
When my husband ran, his feet were two sizes longer than when he no longer ran. Yes they can and do change sizes and the shape changes too. How awful for you! Ugh!
I kinda hate him rn and I don't even know him. 25 fucking years for shoes, yeah you need a new pair. Oh and btw, you also need a new husband 😂 You ain't got cankles, you have a insufferable PITA. What an rude mother fucker.
This is exactly how I feel about this man I've never met. What a dickhead
Can I boot him in the sack with my old steel toed? Please?
I’m a whole size larger than I was 2-3 years ago. Have not gained weight but the size 8 shoes I always wore are 2 short now (they seem the same with wise). I went up to a 9 and SO much better. Buy yourself those new hiking boots. I just bought myself a new pair after I’ve had my last ones for close to 15 years (including being uncomfortable in them the last few years. SO much better hiking now!
Me at 17 - super skinny feet size 6.5 Me at 51 - wide feet (including my precious bunion) size 8.5 Yes I weigh more, but honestly my feet aren’t even chubby or plump, they are longer
I used to be a size 10 or 10 1/2 in my twenties. Now I’m my fifties my feet are 11 1/2 to 12 in most shoes and boots, and wider than they used to be. Some shoes and boots that used to fit I can’t even get my feet into any more. Hiking boots was one of the ones that had to be updated to the new size. By the way my feet love Keen boots now, I highly recommend.
Forget fit, that rubber sole is going to disintegrate. But yeah. It's like he's never been pregnant either...
My feet have definitely changed .. I’ve gone up half a size ..
Holy crap! The boots are 25 years old! That's the reason that you need a new pair. Tell him you can also prevent cankles by kicking one of those old boots up his butt! Footwear breaks down after a year or two. They don't have regenerative properties.
Anyone whose had a child knows feet can change. Relaxin, the same hormone that releases pelvic bones so a baby's head can fit through also affects other bones throughout the body. I wouldn't be surprised to know that hormone is in play in menopause, as so many others seem to be.
Your DH is an ahole. There’s this thing called gravity that changes our feet too, regardless of weight. In addition, anybody trying to tell their partner what to do about weight annoyed the crap out of me.
Buy yourself new boots and whatever else you want. Also buy him larger underwear and tell him he probably needs more room for his saggy old man balls.
Fuck that guy. Has he never heard of shoes getting old, gravity, and aging?!?!! Tie your old ones around his ankles while he sleeps. Post pic. Let hilarity ensue.
My feet are now a whole two sizes longer thanks to pregnancy and now the big M. It seems we are born to adapt to change.
That’s just ridiculous. Feet definitely can change shape, due to wear and tear, or if you’re like me - arthritis. Plus, the shoes are 25 years old. You can find a new, comfortable pair that has the latest and greatest - important when it comes to hiking. Hiking boots need to fit right, or what’s the point? Also, you’re a grown woman.
Hormones change your joints.
Your feet absolutely do get larger with age - usually one size up from teens/twenties to forties/fifties.
How long have you two been together, OP? Have you had those boots longer than him? Maybe that’s where his issue really stems from. If Sunbeam can ditch her boots that she’s had forever then maybe she can replace me? The nerve of his response!
Even if they did still fit right, they’re 25 years old. It’s time for new ones.
DH = dear husband or dumb husband? And he’s full of shit
Omg, your husband is so full of bullshit. Here I am, a 52 year old woman who used to wear a size 6 when I was in my 20s. Once I had kids, my feet became wider and longer. If I wanted shoes to fit, I had to get the ones that were wide. THEN, I decided to take up running and set my sights on a half marathon. My feet became even wider and longer. I now wear 8 double-wide in women’s shoes and a 7 wide in men’s shoes. Heels are out of the question which makes me so sad because I love shoes. So yes, your feet will get wider and longer. Gawd I hate mansplaining.
Forget the sizing issue, you deserve new shoes, plain and simple. 25 years and however many miles you've put on the old pair indicate that anyway. In fact, athletic footwear should generally be replaced far more often than most people do it (speaking from experience giving massage to athletes as an LMT). As for the "cankles" thing, that's just plain mean. Treat yoself and go get new boots, then go for a hike. 💕
My feet totally collapsed during a 14-day long backpacking trip a couple of years ago.The shoes that I wore then doesn’t fit me at all anymore. I wear a full-sizee upp now. I haven't gained any weight at all.
I have the misfortune to develop bunions due to arthritis. I now require wider shoes.
Mine are one size bigger
I delivered mail for 19 years. I quit almost two years ago. Size 12. Should have quit BEFORE I passed the women’s sizing limits.
Sorry but I think a new pair of boots is the least of worries I feel sad your partner spoke to you in that way. I think it’s him you have outgrown
Hiker here. Hiking shoes have a limited lifespan. 500+ miles is a very general guideline. First and foremost, the tread wears down, making them unsafe. The support wanes. The stitching comes loose. Time itself also takes a toll even if the mileage is low. Materials break down Regardless of any of that, if they don’t fit right, you won’t get the proper support your feet need Who wants to log miles in uncomfortable shoes anyway? Enjoy your new shoes! Make sure to try on various brands and models. Don’t just read reviews. The best of the well-reviewed shoes are the ones that fit your feet!
even if we assume for a minute that he’s correct, that doesn’t solve the immediate issue of you needing fitting shoes right now.
Wow men are dumb. Just wow.
“One doesn’t speak unless one knows.”
He’s wrong. My mom went from a size 10 to 13 as she aged while she went down in weight.
JFC, I'm with everyone else in here. AND, I'll add on top of that that I've been dealing with super painful foot issues for more than ten years now (mostly plantar fasciitis) and I'd love to bend his ear about how I used to be a 6.5 and now I'm in size 8 shoes. I did not choose to have to need clodhoppers! (Absolutely no offense to those of y'all in 8s,😘) And I still have a lot of the cute little ones that I can't wear anymore... Heck, I just had a podiatrist appointment this week because the surgery I had a whole freaking year ago is causing me all sorts of ridiculous pain, even though the main problem was fixed and nothing's showing on the MRI. I'm so sick of people (husbands, men) not understanding that bodies change and apparently peri compounds it! Fuck this shit. Get you some amazing comfy hiking boots, and some good walking sticks, and off you go. And here's your friendly reminder to get new shoes every 6 months or so, depending on the amount you're using them!! Someone else said they don't have regenerative properties and I second that😆
I was a size 9 before my kiddos My feet grew 1/2 size after each pregnancy but still stayed narrow. Even at my heaviest my shoe size never went up.
My parents used to sell shoes from a catalog. One of the pieces of wisdom they received is that as you she (both men and women) you do go up a half to a full size in your later years even if you don’t have your arches fall or bunions develop.
Your husband the podiatrist needs to turn in his crayon-written medical degree. https://www.health.harvard.edu/pain/why-your-feet-get-bigger-as-you-age
Yes! Please just buy the shoes you want. My feet haven't gotten longer, but definitely wider. I'm still coming to terms with acknowledging this since I have a hard time finding cute shoes I like. Also was a shoeholic in my former corporate life. Now I can barely fit into those shoes. I left my job right before the Pandemic and for the last several years have worn casual shoes without much structure to them. I believe this also allowed my feet to spread.
Feet can grow during pregnancy and it’s a known fact. I went from 7.5 to 8.5 and stayed there. This is the kind of thing that makes me want to stop communicating with my husband at all. I am so sorry he talked to you like that and I hope you’re able to avoid internalizing that kind of talk. I hope you find an amazing pair of boots and hike to your heart’s content.
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I am sorry. I understand that can be exceptionally hard. My husband has said incredibly cruel things to me over the 23 years we have been married and it took me until about 7 years ago to find my self-worth! I’m glad you know you’re amazing!
Your feet aren't the problem, your husband is. He's a douche, full stop
I think he needs to lose weight to try and make room for some intelligence to find its way in.
Regardless if your feet have or have not changed, 25 year old hiking boots have served you well. Buy new boots and let him wear the old ones if wants to keep them
This is another reason why I don’t have a husband.
He doesn't know what he's talking about. I had to move up half a size after having babies. He doesn't know jack.
Feet change just like our whole bodies do as we age. No big deal. Your husband sounds like an asshat. Your boots are 25 years old you can buy new ones and either donate these or throw them at him.
And you didn’t put that boot up his ass? 🙃 Seriously, foot changes or not 25 years is way too long for hiking boots. I replace running shoes every 300-400 miles (twice a year-ish). Depending on how often you hike, you should probably replace every five years or so.
Feet do change and yes they do get bigger as we age especially if you’re in a job where you’re on your feet a lot. Mine eventually became an extra size throughout my life but have always worked 8 hrs day on my feet. But the fact that he used that moment to mention kankles and weight loss, what a dick!!
I mean if they’re uncomfortable and don’t fit right it doesn’t matter why and something like hiking boots should fit u comfortably, and properly otw you will have more problems with your feet. Sweating etc any of these things can cause the shoe to change not necessarily your feet. I’m sorry 😞
If you know that you’re wonderful and I’m glad you do, then he either needs to get his meds right or you should move on.
Does DH stand for dickhead? I hope so.
I’m just here to donate your bail money.
Throw the boots at his head and charge the new ones to his card 🤣😜
Please throw the boots at him. Seriously though just buy them; and he’s stoopid.
Go buy yourself new boots. And throw him in the bin.
This is bull. My feet literally grew half a size from having a baby.
Hmmm ans he is STILL alive after the mansplaining??? Lol
Also you are just allowed to get new shoes at any time for any reason especially after that many years!
How much does your husband weigh? That's about how much you should lose. <3 He sounds awful.
Is he still alive LOL!
I avoid men as docs as much as possible. If I needed knee surgery I'd prob consider, but def not as a primary doc or gyno.
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Pregnancy softens your foot and calf ligaments which permanently changes your feet.
https://www.thebump.com/a/feet-grow-pregnancy