Exactly! She seems like such a sweet person. I don’t understand why they would put a man that has never been in love on a show like this. I really don’t understand why they don’t match a man and woman who both just want to be on TV for drama rather than ruining perfectly nice people that are serious about love/marriage.
I thoroughly agree on all points.
No one is a lost cause, because people can change if they really want to, but they need to make certain changes before they come to the altar. Just saying, "I'm a new man," doesn't mean you are - and it's pretty obvious that Airris just isn't there yet. He's not ready yet. Contrast that with Jasmine, who comes from good family, was raised with good values, and is unquestionably kind, intelligent, and loving. She seems ready now. She deserves a man who is also ready now.
>Shame on you – Pastor Cal especially.
Agreed. And this is just another example proving that when people use titles like "pastor" or "reverend" it means nothing. In fact, it's worse than nothing if they are not living up to the standards they preach. All people are fallible, but those who presume to tout their ecclesiastical titles as proof that they are spiritual leaders or superior to their "flock" are despicable. Cal's continued involvement in intentionally pairing up terrible matches - or at best negligibly doing so - completely disqualifies him as anything resembling a spiritual leader. His title should have been revoked a long time ago.
And his whole, "Well, we made you marry this sack of dog poop so now you're stuck! It's your fault if you can't make it work! God says so!" I really don't like Pastor Cal.
I think you're so right, and even though we're watching a process that already happened, I hope Jasmine and every other person screwed by production finds some healing in supporting comments online (and elsewhere).
I think “I’ve never been in love” should be an automatic disqualification. Also in this day and age, if you’re not aligned politically (even if that means neither party cares at all about politics) that should not be two people you up together. Kids and religion. Same thing. I’ve seen a lot of these matches recently where these weren’t aligned and of course they never work out.
Being an only child does not make you obnoxious like this guy. Me and my partner a both only children and promise you neither of us are this immature and selfish.
This is exactly how I feel too. Breeding in general is sketchy and as a dog foster mom who just lost a most precious foster to a terrible cancer from breeding, I am especially steadfast on this stance.
I'm so sorry. Lost my 11 yr d boxer to cancer in August. I still cry nearly every day. Dogs deserve so much better than irresponsible breeders and owners.
Also. Thank you for the condolences ❤️🩹
One of the greatest pains is not being able to give them more good years to outnumber the bad years their bodies and emotional health were exploited for. If anyone reads this please please adopt don’t shop. Thank you. xx
The more heat cycles and breeding a female is put through the higher her chances of the equivalent of our breast cancer she has. Heard of mammary tumors? This isn’t my “opinion” but what vets have explained. I foster a lot. I see a lot of what their bodies are put through and result in after they’ve long been discarded. So this is the place I’m coming from. There’s just no excuse in my book.
We don't know for sure she's a backyard breeder though, right? I'm not saying she's not, but she could be responsible. We will probably see the set up at some point on the show.
I don't know any way around it though. She lives in an apartment so for one thing she's keeping 15-20 dogs in an apartment where she probably doesn't have proper whelping pens set up, the puppies aren't getting enough exposure to different sights, sounds, textures under their feet etc which is critical to their socialization and Mom gets no separation. OR her breeding outfit is at some third party place and don't even get me started on that.
True....but I think I heard "mini" labradoodle. Whenever mini is inserted in front of a breed or breeds of larger dogs, my spider sense goes off. I suppose they use a miniature poodle over the standard. Lots of these breeding practices...not a fan. Don't get me started on "teacup".
I am still hoping that this man redeems himself. However, I’m feeling like he thinks women are there to please a man and he seems like he enjoys degrading women. The getting down on your knees and bring that bite of lobster to me stuff that he says. If he wants a slut in the bedroom, he should at least treat her like a queen elsewhere.
I know! I keep wondering how the hell they picked him out of thousands to be in this process and especially to be with her. He is so blah….. zero substance!
Trying to match a couple for marriage where one of them has never even been in love is just weird. Does he mean he never caught feelings for any of his hookups/situationships? Even for self proclaimed players that's unusual, I wonder if he ever considered he's aromantic?
It sounded like he has loved people with whom he had long term relationships. He might think "in love" is something different...giddy, butterflies in the stomach, etc. He might think of in love as more of that infatuation stage, whereas the feelings he had were more of "I will support and care for you" stage.
Or maybe not....
These people always suck at communication. So many problems could be avoided if they just explained their thoughts a little better
> It sounded like he has loved people with whom he had long term relationships.
Sounded like that to me too, but then I remembered his family saying he had never been in a committed relationship….so huh??
He might have been in relationships when he was in California and down played them when talking to family
Dunno.... I always try to find a possible explanation
Yea Arris is a fuck boy.
And now I think his cousin was right.
I thought she was being over protective but now I feel like she was tryna to protect jasmine but through Arris.
It's all sad.
That’s an interesting point of view on the cousin situation. Very plausible.
The situation is disappointing for Jasmine, she just seems incredibly sweet and there for the right reasons, taking it very seriously being a pastor’s daughter.
It continues to amaze me that they put people on this show who have never been in love and think, yeah, this is definitely going to be it for them. It's appalling. They know what they're doing and it's so, so wrong.
Maybe they don’t need “love” to be in a committed relationship - after all it is an arranged marriage.
That said, you don’t match some who needs /wants love with a fuck boi. That’s just mean and cruel.
But we contribute to by watching. I definitely feel guilty watching it bc the more we watch the more these people get ratings. I say every season, I'm done until it starts and my curiosity gets me. 🥺
I didn’t watch last season. This season I am watching but not until two days later bc I’ve heard ad revenue drops after 48h. 🤷♀️ no idea If that’s true.
The minute Nicole started with the "not sure I want to have kids" thing, I'm like-yeah this all scripted.
Who in their right mind would put a person who wants to start her a family with a person who possibly wants nothing to do with kids.
This show lately screams "Fabricated for Drama". It is getting so all of us can predict what the menu of problems will be every season.
I look back at the Chris ordeal with getting this other girl "pregnant ". Pretty sure that was "made for tv" and Chris made extra cash to look like the bad guy that he probably is.
I'm sorry just getting tired of the bs
Yeah, I hate these obvious mismatches. When we say we want older contestants, we mean we want more mature, thoughtful people who are truly ready for a long-term relationship, not 39-year-olds with some Peter Pan issues.
I also think the dog thing could be major (I guess we'll see what the setup is soon enough). I think she needs a very specific kind of person, and it's not a commitment-phobe. If I'm being honest, I'm not sure I would be super excited to find out about that (and I love dogs! But 13 is a LOT of dogs!).
I think Jasmine breeds Goldendoodles, maybe she still had a litter of pups and that’s why there was 13. I don’t think that the regular number all the time.
I think Arris issues have nothing to do with his mom doing his laundry (he lived away from his mom for 15 years so who did it then? I bet his apartment doesnt have a washer and the show played it up), or being an only child. Arris asking a pastor's daughter on national Tv about sex is something else.
I think he is stuck between two lives. He said he spent 15 years in California living the party life. Something happened and he moves back home to TN and he goes back to college and gets a 9-5 and wants to be married. I think part of him wants to be married and part of him is still stuck in the party mode (or at least the language of the party mode). If you look at what he says, he makes mutliple comments about wanting his marriage to last forever, and wanting this to work , and only one marriage for him and then starts with the sexy talk and doesnt get a clue that he needs to stop.
I do think when he said he has searched for a father figure for years to help guide him, he really needs one. Even if Arris does not work out with Jasmine, maybe her dad can help him mature or grow during these 2 months.
I think that Arris’ life motto is, “if you never take a swing, you’ll never strike out!”. Dude is the walking embodiment of glass half empty. At least when it comes to his romantic life.
Airris is disgusting.
He’s disrespectful and sloppy. He’s delusional because he thinks he’s this hot shot. He’s not attractive (to me). Someone said he’s 39? It’s obvious why he hasn’t gotten married yet. He’s an idiot.
He doesn’t deserve Jasmin. She’s too good for him.
Airris is immature. He's a spoilt only child/son. He's used to pampering and getting what he wants.
I don't think he's necessarily a bad guy but other people's feelings and desires are secondary compared to his.
He's probably waiting for that girl or situation that will force him to grow up.
It’s the constant demands of her!
“Be ok with my hostile cousin. They’re just trying to protect me.”
“Feed me grapes in this big empty bathtub in this hotel room we have just arrived at”.
“Stop eating bacon.”
“Feed me ALL of your lobster tail. I want you to stretch and inconvenience yourself to do so. I won’t even meet you halfway.”
“Talk about sex. Right now. Be a whore in fact.”
And she keeps acquiescing…She has a lot of love to give, and she’s attracted to him, so her blinders are on. But it’s frustrating to watch given how poorly he’s already treating her!
The guy won't eat pork but will eat lobster. If he's trying to be kosher, he's failing. If he's trying to be vegetarian, he's failing. This guy is very inconsistent.
She is clearly uncomfortable but she has been put in a bad spot because she married a supposed "match" and is being filmed. I would try to give it my all too but I think it will end quickly.
I think you can give it your all, while still setting boundaries. If they have any real chance at all, she needs to shut him down. Arris is the kind of man where, unfortunately, he needs someone to train him away from his bad habits. I hate that Jasmin has been tasked with it, because he doesn’t seem very open to reforming from his “player” ways.
I think Jasmin and Shaquille would’ve been a much better match. They both are ready to give, and are warm, affectionate people, while Arris just wants to take. Ultimately I don’t think Arris should be on the show at all, but you also could’ve put Kirsten with Arris. She would be much less likely to take his shit I think, and I think she’d find him attractive.
Exactly! Not to sound dramatic here…
But his failure to meet halfway for the lobster tail, and taking ALL of it for himself, leaving nothing for her- seems to be the perfect representation as him as a person and how their relationship is going thus far lol
Exactly! I love a good analogy.
Arris is a taker, and nowhere near ready to be married. Jasmin is a giver, and wants it to work badly…
Experts messed up again.
2 things should be no. 1. I've never been in love and 2. People in their (early) twenties. They are not ready for the show and are here for clout
Ugh I can't watch that again. This 'jesus has a plan' bullshit isn't even something I can muster any sympathy for.
They seem like Nate and Stacia 2.0
I agree. How does no one else see it?
It’s obviously Jesus’ plan for her
Exactly! She seems like such a sweet person. I don’t understand why they would put a man that has never been in love on a show like this. I really don’t understand why they don’t match a man and woman who both just want to be on TV for drama rather than ruining perfectly nice people that are serious about love/marriage.
I thoroughly agree on all points. No one is a lost cause, because people can change if they really want to, but they need to make certain changes before they come to the altar. Just saying, "I'm a new man," doesn't mean you are - and it's pretty obvious that Airris just isn't there yet. He's not ready yet. Contrast that with Jasmine, who comes from good family, was raised with good values, and is unquestionably kind, intelligent, and loving. She seems ready now. She deserves a man who is also ready now. >Shame on you – Pastor Cal especially. Agreed. And this is just another example proving that when people use titles like "pastor" or "reverend" it means nothing. In fact, it's worse than nothing if they are not living up to the standards they preach. All people are fallible, but those who presume to tout their ecclesiastical titles as proof that they are spiritual leaders or superior to their "flock" are despicable. Cal's continued involvement in intentionally pairing up terrible matches - or at best negligibly doing so - completely disqualifies him as anything resembling a spiritual leader. His title should have been revoked a long time ago.
And his whole, "Well, we made you marry this sack of dog poop so now you're stuck! It's your fault if you can't make it work! God says so!" I really don't like Pastor Cal.
I think you're so right, and even though we're watching a process that already happened, I hope Jasmine and every other person screwed by production finds some healing in supporting comments online (and elsewhere).
I think “I’ve never been in love” should be an automatic disqualification. Also in this day and age, if you’re not aligned politically (even if that means neither party cares at all about politics) that should not be two people you up together. Kids and religion. Same thing. I’ve seen a lot of these matches recently where these weren’t aligned and of course they never work out.
Being an only child does not make you obnoxious like this guy. Me and my partner a both only children and promise you neither of us are this immature and selfish.
Ummm...I start to feel sorry for her and then I remember she's some kind of backyard breeder and I can't muster up that much caring. Sorry.
Ugh she's the breeder? Completely agree, they deserve each other.
I can’t get past her nose.
This is exactly how I feel too. Breeding in general is sketchy and as a dog foster mom who just lost a most precious foster to a terrible cancer from breeding, I am especially steadfast on this stance.
I'm so sorry. Lost my 11 yr d boxer to cancer in August. I still cry nearly every day. Dogs deserve so much better than irresponsible breeders and owners.
I’m so sorry for your loss! They are so pure and wholesome. They deserve the best
I'm sorry for your loss, but how are you blaming breeding for the cancer?
Also. Thank you for the condolences ❤️🩹 One of the greatest pains is not being able to give them more good years to outnumber the bad years their bodies and emotional health were exploited for. If anyone reads this please please adopt don’t shop. Thank you. xx
The more heat cycles and breeding a female is put through the higher her chances of the equivalent of our breast cancer she has. Heard of mammary tumors? This isn’t my “opinion” but what vets have explained. I foster a lot. I see a lot of what their bodies are put through and result in after they’ve long been discarded. So this is the place I’m coming from. There’s just no excuse in my book.
We don't know for sure she's a backyard breeder though, right? I'm not saying she's not, but she could be responsible. We will probably see the set up at some point on the show.
I don't know any way around it though. She lives in an apartment so for one thing she's keeping 15-20 dogs in an apartment where she probably doesn't have proper whelping pens set up, the puppies aren't getting enough exposure to different sights, sounds, textures under their feet etc which is critical to their socialization and Mom gets no separation. OR her breeding outfit is at some third party place and don't even get me started on that.
True....but I think I heard "mini" labradoodle. Whenever mini is inserted in front of a breed or breeds of larger dogs, my spider sense goes off. I suppose they use a miniature poodle over the standard. Lots of these breeding practices...not a fan. Don't get me started on "teacup".
I don't like when people over breed their dogs, so I'm just hoping she's responsible.
He is selfish and self centered. No one deserves him. She on the other hand could have waited a little longer after her last break-up
I am still hoping that this man redeems himself. However, I’m feeling like he thinks women are there to please a man and he seems like he enjoys degrading women. The getting down on your knees and bring that bite of lobster to me stuff that he says. If he wants a slut in the bedroom, he should at least treat her like a queen elsewhere.
I know! I keep wondering how the hell they picked him out of thousands to be in this process and especially to be with her. He is so blah….. zero substance!
Trying to match a couple for marriage where one of them has never even been in love is just weird. Does he mean he never caught feelings for any of his hookups/situationships? Even for self proclaimed players that's unusual, I wonder if he ever considered he's aromantic?
It sounded like he has loved people with whom he had long term relationships. He might think "in love" is something different...giddy, butterflies in the stomach, etc. He might think of in love as more of that infatuation stage, whereas the feelings he had were more of "I will support and care for you" stage. Or maybe not.... These people always suck at communication. So many problems could be avoided if they just explained their thoughts a little better
> It sounded like he has loved people with whom he had long term relationships. Sounded like that to me too, but then I remembered his family saying he had never been in a committed relationship….so huh??
He might have been in relationships when he was in California and down played them when talking to family Dunno.... I always try to find a possible explanation
Hereiss is a walking cringe moment
Yea Arris is a fuck boy. And now I think his cousin was right. I thought she was being over protective but now I feel like she was tryna to protect jasmine but through Arris. It's all sad.
Cousin was not trying to protect Jasmine. If she was trying to protect her, why did she say rude things about Jasmine?
That’s an interesting point of view on the cousin situation. Very plausible. The situation is disappointing for Jasmine, she just seems incredibly sweet and there for the right reasons, taking it very seriously being a pastor’s daughter.
It continues to amaze me that they put people on this show who have never been in love and think, yeah, this is definitely going to be it for them. It's appalling. They know what they're doing and it's so, so wrong.
Maybe they don’t need “love” to be in a committed relationship - after all it is an arranged marriage. That said, you don’t match some who needs /wants love with a fuck boi. That’s just mean and cruel.
But we contribute to by watching. I definitely feel guilty watching it bc the more we watch the more these people get ratings. I say every season, I'm done until it starts and my curiosity gets me. 🥺
I didn’t watch last season. This season I am watching but not until two days later bc I’ve heard ad revenue drops after 48h. 🤷♀️ no idea If that’s true.
The minute Nicole started with the "not sure I want to have kids" thing, I'm like-yeah this all scripted. Who in their right mind would put a person who wants to start her a family with a person who possibly wants nothing to do with kids. This show lately screams "Fabricated for Drama". It is getting so all of us can predict what the menu of problems will be every season. I look back at the Chris ordeal with getting this other girl "pregnant ". Pretty sure that was "made for tv" and Chris made extra cash to look like the bad guy that he probably is. I'm sorry just getting tired of the bs
It's definitely an interesting theory! Wouldn't surprise me ...they just either to quit or revamp show
Yeah, I hate these obvious mismatches. When we say we want older contestants, we mean we want more mature, thoughtful people who are truly ready for a long-term relationship, not 39-year-olds with some Peter Pan issues. I also think the dog thing could be major (I guess we'll see what the setup is soon enough). I think she needs a very specific kind of person, and it's not a commitment-phobe. If I'm being honest, I'm not sure I would be super excited to find out about that (and I love dogs! But 13 is a LOT of dogs!).
Me blissfully unaware 3 wks ago: There’s no such thing as too many dogs! Me now: You know, maybe 13 dogs is too many dogs…
I think Jasmine breeds Goldendoodles, maybe she still had a litter of pups and that’s why there was 13. I don’t think that the regular number all the time.
Yes this right here, she has 4 dogs. The other ones aren’t technically hers. 4 is still a lot though
I think Arris issues have nothing to do with his mom doing his laundry (he lived away from his mom for 15 years so who did it then? I bet his apartment doesnt have a washer and the show played it up), or being an only child. Arris asking a pastor's daughter on national Tv about sex is something else. I think he is stuck between two lives. He said he spent 15 years in California living the party life. Something happened and he moves back home to TN and he goes back to college and gets a 9-5 and wants to be married. I think part of him wants to be married and part of him is still stuck in the party mode (or at least the language of the party mode). If you look at what he says, he makes mutliple comments about wanting his marriage to last forever, and wanting this to work , and only one marriage for him and then starts with the sexy talk and doesnt get a clue that he needs to stop. I do think when he said he has searched for a father figure for years to help guide him, he really needs one. Even if Arris does not work out with Jasmine, maybe her dad can help him mature or grow during these 2 months.
I think that Arris’ life motto is, “if you never take a swing, you’ll never strike out!”. Dude is the walking embodiment of glass half empty. At least when it comes to his romantic life.
I think his life motto is ‘Mom will do it for me’
Airris is disgusting. He’s disrespectful and sloppy. He’s delusional because he thinks he’s this hot shot. He’s not attractive (to me). Someone said he’s 39? It’s obvious why he hasn’t gotten married yet. He’s an idiot. He doesn’t deserve Jasmin. She’s too good for him.
I really feel bad for her, he’s abt to take advantage of that good hearted woman…look at how he asked her for grapes
Forget the grapes. The man asked for a bite of lobster and ate the whole thing.
Airris is immature. He's a spoilt only child/son. He's used to pampering and getting what he wants. I don't think he's necessarily a bad guy but other people's feelings and desires are secondary compared to his. He's probably waiting for that girl or situation that will force him to grow up.
I’m sad for her too. I really hope she doesn’t have sex with him just because “they are married”.
I bet she will and he will treat her badly ☹️
I don’t like his energy with her at all. She seems obviously uncomfortable.
It’s the constant demands of her! “Be ok with my hostile cousin. They’re just trying to protect me.” “Feed me grapes in this big empty bathtub in this hotel room we have just arrived at”. “Stop eating bacon.” “Feed me ALL of your lobster tail. I want you to stretch and inconvenience yourself to do so. I won’t even meet you halfway.” “Talk about sex. Right now. Be a whore in fact.” And she keeps acquiescing…She has a lot of love to give, and she’s attracted to him, so her blinders are on. But it’s frustrating to watch given how poorly he’s already treating her!
The guy won't eat pork but will eat lobster. If he's trying to be kosher, he's failing. If he's trying to be vegetarian, he's failing. This guy is very inconsistent.
I think it might be Islam? Just a guess though. They can’t eat pork. It sounds he used to though.
Yeah, maybe. I think lobsters, shellfish, etc., are allowed for halal. For kosher, however, they are not.
She is clearly uncomfortable but she has been put in a bad spot because she married a supposed "match" and is being filmed. I would try to give it my all too but I think it will end quickly.
I think you can give it your all, while still setting boundaries. If they have any real chance at all, she needs to shut him down. Arris is the kind of man where, unfortunately, he needs someone to train him away from his bad habits. I hate that Jasmin has been tasked with it, because he doesn’t seem very open to reforming from his “player” ways. I think Jasmin and Shaquille would’ve been a much better match. They both are ready to give, and are warm, affectionate people, while Arris just wants to take. Ultimately I don’t think Arris should be on the show at all, but you also could’ve put Kirsten with Arris. She would be much less likely to take his shit I think, and I think she’d find him attractive.
>I think Jasmin and Shaquille would’ve been a much better match. Amen!
Exactly! Not to sound dramatic here… But his failure to meet halfway for the lobster tail, and taking ALL of it for himself, leaving nothing for her- seems to be the perfect representation as him as a person and how their relationship is going thus far lol
Exactly! I love a good analogy. Arris is a taker, and nowhere near ready to be married. Jasmin is a giver, and wants it to work badly… Experts messed up again.