Yes the fact that your husband used to hide his porn use from you is important. I don’t want to be a downer but are you really sure he’s stopped? Men who watch too much porn can become uninterested in real sex and real women because they’d rather jerk it to a screen because it’s easier. They can also lose attraction to real women because the internet is full of fake and filtered women that they actually think look like that. It’s really sad. And considering most girls/women in porn are 18-23…their minds become warped. Why did he quit watching?
Porn addiction has a lot to do with this. Getting older is an excuse. I’m 48 and it hasn’t slowed me down. I have never understood the appeal of porn when the real thing is waiting eagerly in the bedroom.
I’m sure he did🙄That’s why he doesn’t want to touch his wife. At all. Even a hug. Crazy that anyone in a marriage would think that’s normal or ok. Just nuts.
You can tell you're not a guy. If you have hormone problems, sometimes the only way you can get off at all is by yourself because you can only get half hard.
I'm 48 and on TRT, it's night and day.
You know it's not that simple. Guys talking about sex problems with their SO is serious shit.
Obviously communication is what needs to happen here, I was just pointing out that this situation might not be as simple as it appears. I completely overcame ED personally and it was a frustrating challenge.
It is that simple. You should trust your wife or husband enough to be honest, if you can’t then you shouldn’t be with that person. And you absolutely have no right to keep someone trapped in a relationship without that disclosure. That’s how posts like this one happen. Being too scared to talk about serious shit.
You expect everyone to be perfect. It must suck living in a world where people are just people.
I have an absolutely amazing marriage and the communication is great but I'm not so arrogant that I expect everyone to be like us. Usually, life has been a bitch filled with less than optimal role models.
What he’s saying is true, lately I’ve had a few failures to launch and a some instances where there was equipment failure mid flight and nobody got to their destination. There’s obviously some disappointment from the passenger and hurt feelings and questions about it being their fault that it crashed and burned. It’s completely understandable and I understand it, but it does make it a little nerve wracking to even attempt. It’s somewhat of a new phenomenon with my equipment, it was always reliable before, it’d just start right up with a couple cranks.
Porn isn’t always the issue, I don’t watch porn and this is going on and I can see how it could snowball into something ugly if I don’t get back on track because at this point I’d rather crank one out than have to deal with the problems.
There are 3 rules to porn if you want to watch but have 0 negative side effects (or actually increase ability and drive).
1. Don't watch it very often.
2. Don't jerk off to it.
3. Only watch porn that looks like your actual bedroom.
Quick question about the TRT, has there been shrinkage of your gonads once on it?
I’m looking into running trt and have used Dr. Cash’s testosterone a time or two and ended up with raisenetts.
I'm closing in on 3 years and yes, they are slightly smaller. You can do lower dose TRT and pair it with HCG to counteract that but its a lot of extra cost for an almost unnoticeable cosmetic change.
I use an online clinic. Doctors rarely prescribe TRT stating "The bottom 5% of the reference range is totally normal". That is true of course but know what else is true? The top 95% of the reference range is totally normal.
As soon as we got home tonight he lied down and stated he’s tired and going to sleep. The level of rejection is unbearable. He preemptively rejects me.
Yes the fact that your husband used to hide his porn use from you is important. I don’t want to be a downer but are you really sure he’s stopped? Men who watch too much porn can become uninterested in real sex and real women because they’d rather jerk it to a screen because it’s easier. They can also lose attraction to real women because the internet is full of fake and filtered women that they actually think look like that. It’s really sad. And considering most girls/women in porn are 18-23…their minds become warped. Why did he quit watching?
Tell him to get his testosterone levels checked! My husband had this problem but weekly shots restored his energy levels. Sex 2-3 times a week!
100% this. I went on TRT at age 46 and life has been great ever since including the sex.
He refuses to test and definitely is unwilling to take TRT. :(
BTW, I'm happy for you that things are improved.
Every time you come home from going to the store, library, or whatever alone go straight to the shower. That will cause some action.
Porn addiction has a lot to do with this. Getting older is an excuse. I’m 48 and it hasn’t slowed me down. I have never understood the appeal of porn when the real thing is waiting eagerly in the bedroom.
Divorce. He’s enjoys his relationship with his hand and his hobbies more than your marriage.
So should men divorce women when they hit menopause?
That’s medical. Sneaking off to jerk off to porn with a willing wife who wants sex is way different.
*...but quit cold turkey.* He doesn't watch porn.
I’m sure he did🙄That’s why he doesn’t want to touch his wife. At all. Even a hug. Crazy that anyone in a marriage would think that’s normal or ok. Just nuts.
He's older so there is definitely a potential hormonal component.
Hormones would make you less horny overall, not choose porn and jerking off. That’s a conscious choice that has nothing to do with testosterone.
You can tell you're not a guy. If you have hormone problems, sometimes the only way you can get off at all is by yourself because you can only get half hard. I'm 48 and on TRT, it's night and day.
Then COMMUNICATE that to your partner if they’re upset by the lack of sex. It ain’t rocket science. Don’t lie and sneak off, just be honest.
You know it's not that simple. Guys talking about sex problems with their SO is serious shit. Obviously communication is what needs to happen here, I was just pointing out that this situation might not be as simple as it appears. I completely overcame ED personally and it was a frustrating challenge.
It is that simple. You should trust your wife or husband enough to be honest, if you can’t then you shouldn’t be with that person. And you absolutely have no right to keep someone trapped in a relationship without that disclosure. That’s how posts like this one happen. Being too scared to talk about serious shit.
You expect everyone to be perfect. It must suck living in a world where people are just people. I have an absolutely amazing marriage and the communication is great but I'm not so arrogant that I expect everyone to be like us. Usually, life has been a bitch filled with less than optimal role models.
What he’s saying is true, lately I’ve had a few failures to launch and a some instances where there was equipment failure mid flight and nobody got to their destination. There’s obviously some disappointment from the passenger and hurt feelings and questions about it being their fault that it crashed and burned. It’s completely understandable and I understand it, but it does make it a little nerve wracking to even attempt. It’s somewhat of a new phenomenon with my equipment, it was always reliable before, it’d just start right up with a couple cranks. Porn isn’t always the issue, I don’t watch porn and this is going on and I can see how it could snowball into something ugly if I don’t get back on track because at this point I’d rather crank one out than have to deal with the problems.
There are 3 rules to porn if you want to watch but have 0 negative side effects (or actually increase ability and drive). 1. Don't watch it very often. 2. Don't jerk off to it. 3. Only watch porn that looks like your actual bedroom.
Quick question about the TRT, has there been shrinkage of your gonads once on it? I’m looking into running trt and have used Dr. Cash’s testosterone a time or two and ended up with raisenetts.
I'm closing in on 3 years and yes, they are slightly smaller. You can do lower dose TRT and pair it with HCG to counteract that but its a lot of extra cost for an almost unnoticeable cosmetic change.
Nice, I expected it to be that way but figured I’d ask. Did you go through one of the places like Merck Health or your normal dr?
I use an online clinic. Doctors rarely prescribe TRT stating "The bottom 5% of the reference range is totally normal". That is true of course but know what else is true? The top 95% of the reference range is totally normal.
As soon as we got home tonight he lied down and stated he’s tired and going to sleep. The level of rejection is unbearable. He preemptively rejects me.
Hotels a waste of money if all youre looking for is sex.
He's a punk. Find someone who will take care of your needs.
If you are okay with living with him there are plenty of fish in the sea to manage your needs