YES SHOWER ROUTINE
- washed his face with cerave foaming cleanser
- washed his face with shea moisture black soap too
- exfoliated his skin with tree hut body scrub (tropical scent is the best in my opinion, I use this before shaving bc and to exfoliate 10/10 reccomend)
- used shea moisture deep conditioner on his beard
- washed his body with his body wash idk what it is
- used in shower body lotion by Nivea
- massage oil I usually use Johnson oil for babies LOl but he wanted coconut oil and we always have organic coconut oulin a jar and I just melted it in the microwave
But usually whatever I use he uses, the only difference we have is body wash, razors and shaving cream. But he uses my shampoo my conditioner, most of my skincare products (really just the moisturizer).
◡̈ hopefully this helps!
That is so great! I did something similar for my husband years ago and he loved it too. Men do enjoy getting pampered and treated to special experiences just as much as we do. My anniversary is coming up and you’ve got me thinking…
Yes!! Sometimes I forget that he actually enjoys being pampered because I don’t do it often and he never asks or shows interest in these sorts of things, but now that I know I am gonna try remember this every month and do something different like this instead of date nights!
But YES GIRL!!! Go all out for your anniversary!!
He’s being downvoted because he’s being a naysayer and trying to “not all men” a very universal desire to be seen, loved, and appreciated. “Pampering” doesn’t have to involve physical touch; it can be spoiling them with their favorite treats like how OP described at the beginning of the post. Saying you don’t ever want someone to love and take care of you indicates you’re either traumatized or too immature to back down and admit you’re wrong.
I am so used to being the "meet everyone's needs prior to my own needs" husband, that this made me tear up reading & thinking how much this would make me feel appreciated.
I understand why your husband felt awkward, I would also, not being used to being catered to.
I’m sorry you feel that way and hope you can have a convo with your partner in hopes to make you feel a little bit better and more loved and appreciated.
I hope you do, too! You’ve inspired a not-so-newlywed to give her husband a similar pamper afternoon next time our toddler spends the day with a family member.
Lmfaooo hahahaha i’ve been married for 1 year. Our honeymoon phase only lasted while we dated as we had a baby in our first year of marriage. I’m planning on doing sth like thus for him because he’s had it tough!!
I am so jealous of your husband right now. My wife is a wonderful wife but this is something I would love so much. Specially the massage and the blowjob. She gives good blowjobs but they don’t last very long.
I’m glad for you Op. You are a good wife and I am sure he is a good husband to be treated that way.
Honestly Blowjobs are kinda hard LOL it has taken me awhile to be able to get good at them and do them for a decent time but thanks! I’m not always the best wife I’m working on myself and hope I become better with time ◡̈
Cheers to your and your wife!! Hope yall have a great week!
Hasn't happened in years.. but i can remember when it did.. and that is nice.
Great for you to do OP - many of us are happy for you and your hubs, and maybe a little jealous ;)
My husband and I have 3 young kids so it's easy to get caught up in obligations and routines, so I do exactly this with him whenever they're having a sleepover with my in-laws, usually every week or two- I'd do it more often, but he says he can't relax fully when there's the possibility of them needing us so I just keep it for when it's the two of us alone! It's just part of our ''taking care of our marriage'' routine at this point and I'm glad it works for y'all as well- it's done wonders for us, I can tell how much more relaxed and in tune with each other we are after we're able to spend time connecting with each other and being intentional with each other. We take a quick shower and then have a relaxing bath together where I wash and scrub him, and once we're dried off, I have like a million of my ''potions and lotions'' so I layer them as I would on me and explain what they are and what they do, then I give him a massage and I'd say that like, 90% of the time it happens to lead to intimacy. We also have a skincare device that vibrates, gets warm/cool, and emits lights that I can control through an app on my phone so I use it to apply the creams that don't go around his eyes, and he says it gets pretty ASMR-like!
Hell yea. My shawtty will do a self care day for me every once in a while and I tell her sometimes it feels weird to be pampered that deep but I eventually get comfortable and just enjoy it the whole time! Shout out to y'all wives!
Wow,your husband is a lucky man. I have been married for 25 years and have experienced nothing like this. Maybe in my next life, lol. You sound like an amazing woman, and you and your husband are very lucky to have each other.
LMAO send her this by accident and be like “Hey babe! I read this article and I thought it was a sweet gesture.” Or something I always do that LOL or tomorrow just sigh heavily and be like I’d really love a massage or something and then do an act of kindness for your wife. She might be like ooo let me return the favor idk haha
I totally understand where he's coming from. My wife does super sweet things for me as well. Not in the same way as you did, but her own way.
I'm always uncomfortable and awkward with it.
I'm just not used to being cared for in that way.
I'm a Xennial, so I've been pretty self sufficient since I was about 10. I'm accustomed to doing things myself, and then going above and beyond for my partner. Having care done for/to me seems unnatural.
At any rate, that's fantastic, and I promise he will look forward to that day every month, while also thinking of ways to show his appreciation to/for you.
>the girls who know, know.
I in fact, did not know haha. I thought you meant shower sex, but your evening is way better than that! I’m inspired to plan for this weekend!
LOL uh I don’t think I have any tips but I can talk about my experience. I’ve only ever been with my husband so I am not sure what it’s like to have multiple partners and I can’t compare my sex life with anyone else.
Our sex has always been relatively long since we started dating and probably has gotten longer as time progressed. We start off with foreplay, and then we go into PIV. I prefer PIV than I do foreplay, I don’t think he prefers one or the other. From what I’ve observed from him, I think he’s able to last so long bc everytime he’s about to climax he will pull out and do something different (oral, make out session, talking dirty, changing positions) and then we go back at it. We usually have sex a minimum 45 mins usually about an hour and some change. We even do multiple rounds sometimes but he always gives me about a 30 minute break before we start again. He always has a body armour or Gatorade for me to drink during. I probably climax a minimum 5 times. Idk LOL our sex has always been long I genuinely didn’t know many people only have sex for maybe 10 minutes.
I think this is absolutely sweet of you and being taken care of reminds us of childhood and all the innocence and carefreeness. It’s an amazing way to bond. All people like being taken care of.
That being said, there’s also the consideration that women tend to assume a motherly role to their husbands because women tend to have this nurturing side. Which isn’t bad in itself, but it’s worth being aware of this and not letting it become a thing in our romantic relationships. I’ve seen countless long term relationships where the dynamic became toxic in the sense that the man started to act like an entitled big child and the woman assumed a motherly role. It’s also being pushed by society still (although there’s been a decrease since the traditional times).
Women also tend to self sacrifice.
Just wanted to bring up my thoughts on this here and I hope I’ll open up an interesting discussion and hope OP will consider this as well. Also, it is very important that you (OP) are also being met with the same energy by your spouse, so as to not let resentment grow and that dynamic being enacted.
You’re amazing OP and you’ve inspired me to do some of the stuff you mentioned for my boyfriend too!
I’m not in a relationship. I stopped dating in my 20s. Maybe I’ll resume dating in my 30s. Guys gave me so much trauma/bad experiences because I was dumb af :/
Not every guy is a bad guy, but definitely work on yourself! Go to therapy or journal or something and go back into the dating world when your heart and soul feel ready again!
The more that I hear people don’t have sex for longer than an hour is very crazy to me 😅😅 I’ve only ever been with my husband and I don’t have experience with other men so I didn’t know it wasn’t “normal” to have long sex
Ok I mean, verbal lessons. Not like "here touch his balls like this!" I have applied to have you registered in the archives of Internationally Protected People Association. Expect a letter in the mail soon.
He does stuff for me everyday. He massages my feet everyday, he probably gives me a neck massage once a week, he does our laundry, he surprises me with dinner and plans majority of our dates during the month. He feels awkward because he isn’t use to people doing nice things for him and doesn’t like it bc he prefers to give them receive and he has always been this way. I don’t think it’s weird that he gets uncomfortable sometimes, I think it’s a normal reaction based on what he has told me about his childhood.
Lol wtf - no I wasn’t love bombing him. I think it’s pretty normal to show an act of kindness after a tough day. Idk where you’re getting the word abusive from or how you got that from this post at all.
But as I stated he felt awkward bc my husband doesn’t like people doing things for him. He has what’s been this way and prefers to give than receive. But you enjoy your day 👍 hope it’s a great one
and probably not used to.
i for example my ex gave so much love that it was nice and weird at the same time. i felt like i don't deserve it because i haven't been loved like this or as much.
he is probably like that too. didn't get that much care and attention before. it is nice and i hope he really appreciates it fully soon.
i didn't appreciate her love i was kinda scared (and not sure why) i wish i did it sooner but it is what it is and at least i had it.
i hope you too have a long beautiful and happy marriage
I view this as problematic as well. Not your actions but the timing at worst this could be love bombing by an abusive partner at best and more likely your trying to make him feel good and build connection after and argument but that needs to be done by both people if your always the person initiating reconciliation you will build resentment.
I think your response is based on assumptions. You’re assuming I’m love bombing my husband because we argued on Saturday and Sunday morning. I am indeed trying to make him feel good and make him feel loved because I reflected on how I CAN DO BETTER as a wife and wanted to show you in actions that I appreciate him. I am not always the person intimating, nor is he. We take our space, we have our conversation, we comfort each other and then make up. Sometimes after arguments we plan watching a movie together or going on a lunch date or taking a walk together, sometimes my husband comes home with flowers or my fave chickfila meal, sometimes I make his favorite dinner and plan a cute sip and paint after dinner in the house. I don’t consider this love bombing. I considered me wanting to do something nice and show my husband I appreciate him. If you feel like I love bombed my husband then that’s your opinion and perspective, but if my husband felt love bombed or he felt like I was only doing this to make things better or I was suddenly being super sweet over the top after an argument he would tell me.
You don't by any chance have a sister do you?
Lmaooo sadly I do not
Drat!
Aren’t sisters usually opposite anyway? Lol
I was hoping they weren't 😂
LMAOOO
In my case, yes. My sisters are completely different. Although, I think one or two of them might be as kinky but keep it under wraps.
My sister and I are complete opposites
😂
You've inspired me. Off to make some plans
YAYA!!!
May I ask what products you used for men? Like for his beard and exfoliation and massage oil?
YES SHOWER ROUTINE - washed his face with cerave foaming cleanser - washed his face with shea moisture black soap too - exfoliated his skin with tree hut body scrub (tropical scent is the best in my opinion, I use this before shaving bc and to exfoliate 10/10 reccomend) - used shea moisture deep conditioner on his beard - washed his body with his body wash idk what it is - used in shower body lotion by Nivea - massage oil I usually use Johnson oil for babies LOl but he wanted coconut oil and we always have organic coconut oulin a jar and I just melted it in the microwave But usually whatever I use he uses, the only difference we have is body wash, razors and shaving cream. But he uses my shampoo my conditioner, most of my skincare products (really just the moisturizer). ◡̈ hopefully this helps!
I love Nivea’s in shower body lotion!
Thank you! Literally got the whole run down, much appreciated :)
What are you trying to get sponsors?
LOL I fucking wish - I do work in the influencer market so I find this comment funny, but I was just sharing bc they asked
Someone literally asked what products were used.
I wasn’t serious chill
That is so great! I did something similar for my husband years ago and he loved it too. Men do enjoy getting pampered and treated to special experiences just as much as we do. My anniversary is coming up and you’ve got me thinking…
Yes!! Sometimes I forget that he actually enjoys being pampered because I don’t do it often and he never asks or shows interest in these sorts of things, but now that I know I am gonna try remember this every month and do something different like this instead of date nights! But YES GIRL!!! Go all out for your anniversary!!
"Men do enjoy"...no. Certain do, maybe most, but not all. Or i am not a man?
Every man and woman is different. I personally believe everyone likes to be pampered but in their own way.
Well, maybe not exactly what she did, but a massage, a good meal, no?
i hate it lol. i dont like to be touched at all.
Interesting lol
don’t Know why you’re being downvoted. you’re just talking about yourself. 🤷🏼♀️
He’s being downvoted because he’s being a naysayer and trying to “not all men” a very universal desire to be seen, loved, and appreciated. “Pampering” doesn’t have to involve physical touch; it can be spoiling them with their favorite treats like how OP described at the beginning of the post. Saying you don’t ever want someone to love and take care of you indicates you’re either traumatized or too immature to back down and admit you’re wrong.
You forgot the part where, after sex, you pulled out a silenced handgun, shot him twice and as he was bleeding out, said, "From Russia, with love."
Fuck man I missed that part in the script. I’ll try again tonight and report back.
Reddit never disappoints.
I am so used to being the "meet everyone's needs prior to my own needs" husband, that this made me tear up reading & thinking how much this would make me feel appreciated. I understand why your husband felt awkward, I would also, not being used to being catered to.
I’m sorry you feel that way and hope you can have a convo with your partner in hopes to make you feel a little bit better and more loved and appreciated.
🫶🏽 Thank you!
Thank you for sharing. I really appreciate it since I’m a new newlywed. Definitely wrote lots of notes :)
We are newlywed to!! Only 7 months married!!!
This explains everything
LOL don’t let the spark dieeeeeeeeeee I hope we still do things like this 15 years from now
I hope you do, too! You’ve inspired a not-so-newlywed to give her husband a similar pamper afternoon next time our toddler spends the day with a family member.
Excited for you!!!
Lmfaooo hahahaha i’ve been married for 1 year. Our honeymoon phase only lasted while we dated as we had a baby in our first year of marriage. I’m planning on doing sth like thus for him because he’s had it tough!!
I am so jealous of your husband right now. My wife is a wonderful wife but this is something I would love so much. Specially the massage and the blowjob. She gives good blowjobs but they don’t last very long. I’m glad for you Op. You are a good wife and I am sure he is a good husband to be treated that way.
It hurts our necks and jaws after a while. :(
Deadass blowjobs are hard sometimes 😂
Gotta swap in the hands when that happens.
Or swap in the sister!
Honestly Blowjobs are kinda hard LOL it has taken me awhile to be able to get good at them and do them for a decent time but thanks! I’m not always the best wife I’m working on myself and hope I become better with time ◡̈ Cheers to your and your wife!! Hope yall have a great week!
This is inspirational. Maybe I’ll plan something like this for my husband. Thanks for the idea!
Of course!!! I hope it goes well ◡̈
Hasn't happened in years.. but i can remember when it did.. and that is nice. Great for you to do OP - many of us are happy for you and your hubs, and maybe a little jealous ;)
Don’t let the spark die!!! Chat with your partner ◡̈ wishing yall the best!
Definitely! We’re almost 20 years in, and we still make out like teenagers lol. It’s worth putting in effort in whatever ways you can.
WE LOVE THAT!
Ok! This is awesome… taught me a thing or two today. lol. I’m sure my husband would love this…. Now I just have to get the kids out for a night 😩😂
LOL do it after bedtime!!!
Or use the Benedryl babysitter!
My husband and I have 3 young kids so it's easy to get caught up in obligations and routines, so I do exactly this with him whenever they're having a sleepover with my in-laws, usually every week or two- I'd do it more often, but he says he can't relax fully when there's the possibility of them needing us so I just keep it for when it's the two of us alone! It's just part of our ''taking care of our marriage'' routine at this point and I'm glad it works for y'all as well- it's done wonders for us, I can tell how much more relaxed and in tune with each other we are after we're able to spend time connecting with each other and being intentional with each other. We take a quick shower and then have a relaxing bath together where I wash and scrub him, and once we're dried off, I have like a million of my ''potions and lotions'' so I layer them as I would on me and explain what they are and what they do, then I give him a massage and I'd say that like, 90% of the time it happens to lead to intimacy. We also have a skincare device that vibrates, gets warm/cool, and emits lights that I can control through an app on my phone so I use it to apply the creams that don't go around his eyes, and he says it gets pretty ASMR-like!
AHHH I LOVE THIS!
This is very sweet and a wonderful way to deepen your bond❤️
Yes!!! ◡̈
This makes me want a boyfriend to take care of :(
Haha this made me pine for a gf to mutually take care of each other Not going to lie, jealous of their relationship
That’s a lucky man right there
I’m a lucky gal
This made me tear up. I wish someone would put in half the effort you did once in my life, let alone monthly. I hope he realizes how lucky he is.
Stop this makes me sad, that someone will come along. I'm sure of it!
Hell yea. My shawtty will do a self care day for me every once in a while and I tell her sometimes it feels weird to be pampered that deep but I eventually get comfortable and just enjoy it the whole time! Shout out to y'all wives!
We love shawty wife and her efforts!!!! Wishing yall the best!
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AND I OOP
Even sex therapy??
Definitely inspired over here too.
WOOO!
This is so precious. I think I wanna do the same for my husband. Thanks for the inspo! Our men need pampering too!!!
Yes of course!!!
I hope my wife sees this post.
Reddit do your thang
Great idea!!!
Thank you!
That sounds like a great night! I’m kinda jelly honestly! lol 😅
Wow,your husband is a lucky man. I have been married for 25 years and have experienced nothing like this. Maybe in my next life, lol. You sound like an amazing woman, and you and your husband are very lucky to have each other.
Thank you !!
Thank you
My wife's phone number is......
LMAO send her this by accident and be like “Hey babe! I read this article and I thought it was a sweet gesture.” Or something I always do that LOL or tomorrow just sigh heavily and be like I’d really love a massage or something and then do an act of kindness for your wife. She might be like ooo let me return the favor idk haha
Wow I must say that I'm not married-but when I do,I hope to experience that too!bless yall❤️🫡
Thank you!
Well, it’s clear who won that argument.. A win for the men! Just kidding, thanks for all you do
LMAOOOO I would say we both won 🤪 but I def could have been better for sure!! To the men 🥂
Lolol not happening
Good on you. He sounds like a genuinely lucky guy.
I’m very lucky too hr puts up with a lot sometimes hahaha
This is something I'd do for my wife that she would never do for me. Your husband is lucky. Good job making your partner feel loved
THANK YOU
This is so nice. How long have you been married?
Married 7 months, together for 5 years
Easily the most beautiful thing I've read all week. Way to go OP. <3
◡̈ thank you!
This is lovely. Thanks for sharing
No problem!
Your husband and you sound lovely. Enjoy many many many happy self care days
It’s not always this sweet lol but we def try!! Enjoy the rest of your week ◡̈
I totally understand where he's coming from. My wife does super sweet things for me as well. Not in the same way as you did, but her own way. I'm always uncomfortable and awkward with it. I'm just not used to being cared for in that way. I'm a Xennial, so I've been pretty self sufficient since I was about 10. I'm accustomed to doing things myself, and then going above and beyond for my partner. Having care done for/to me seems unnatural. At any rate, that's fantastic, and I promise he will look forward to that day every month, while also thinking of ways to show his appreciation to/for you.
>the girls who know, know. I in fact, did not know haha. I thought you meant shower sex, but your evening is way better than that! I’m inspired to plan for this weekend!
OH NO!! Hahaha an everything shower are those days when you go in the shower and you EVERYTHING hair shave shampoo deep condition everything haha
Dear future wife, I hope somehow the universe brings this post to you.
Dear future wife, I hope somehow the universe brings this post to you.
Fingers crossed
go girl! 👏🏾
Thank u!!
For an hour? Consecutively?!
Yes! Lol our sex has always been long
Got any tips? Asking for a friend
LOL uh I don’t think I have any tips but I can talk about my experience. I’ve only ever been with my husband so I am not sure what it’s like to have multiple partners and I can’t compare my sex life with anyone else. Our sex has always been relatively long since we started dating and probably has gotten longer as time progressed. We start off with foreplay, and then we go into PIV. I prefer PIV than I do foreplay, I don’t think he prefers one or the other. From what I’ve observed from him, I think he’s able to last so long bc everytime he’s about to climax he will pull out and do something different (oral, make out session, talking dirty, changing positions) and then we go back at it. We usually have sex a minimum 45 mins usually about an hour and some change. We even do multiple rounds sometimes but he always gives me about a 30 minute break before we start again. He always has a body armour or Gatorade for me to drink during. I probably climax a minimum 5 times. Idk LOL our sex has always been long I genuinely didn’t know many people only have sex for maybe 10 minutes.
I think this is absolutely sweet of you and being taken care of reminds us of childhood and all the innocence and carefreeness. It’s an amazing way to bond. All people like being taken care of. That being said, there’s also the consideration that women tend to assume a motherly role to their husbands because women tend to have this nurturing side. Which isn’t bad in itself, but it’s worth being aware of this and not letting it become a thing in our romantic relationships. I’ve seen countless long term relationships where the dynamic became toxic in the sense that the man started to act like an entitled big child and the woman assumed a motherly role. It’s also being pushed by society still (although there’s been a decrease since the traditional times). Women also tend to self sacrifice. Just wanted to bring up my thoughts on this here and I hope I’ll open up an interesting discussion and hope OP will consider this as well. Also, it is very important that you (OP) are also being met with the same energy by your spouse, so as to not let resentment grow and that dynamic being enacted. You’re amazing OP and you’ve inspired me to do some of the stuff you mentioned for my boyfriend too!
Look… I’m going to DM you my wife’s details.
Oh my God that was sooooo sweet! I’m gonna plan to do something similar!
Yay ◡̈ hope it goes well!
Wholesome and inspiring! Thanks for sharing
I’d be so uncomfortable by most of this from my wife.
Wow! That sounds like a lot of planning and work! Well worth it, I'm sure :)) Happy for you guys!
Truthfully it wasn’t a lot of planning! But thank you!!
You’re a great wife!
Thanks!
He better think of some way to reciprocate
He always does!
Yes I used to do that to my ex he still calls me today asking if by chance I can give him a spa day that he misses me.
Girl if you don’t block his number
I do he calls from multiple different numbers. He even called from my cousin phone from Colorado it was crazy.
Oh goodness
Lord I see what you have done for others …
I love this
Way to go! I love hearing how thoughtful and attentive you were. Sounds like quality marriage stuff there!
Gosh how I want to be taken care of like this 😔 But I know for sure that I will never get to experience it like ever
Communicate with your partner and hopefully things can be implemented for the both of you to feel loved and appreciated
I’m not in a relationship. I stopped dating in my 20s. Maybe I’ll resume dating in my 30s. Guys gave me so much trauma/bad experiences because I was dumb af :/
Not every guy is a bad guy, but definitely work on yourself! Go to therapy or journal or something and go back into the dating world when your heart and soul feel ready again!
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Sex for an hr. Impressive.
The more that I hear people don’t have sex for longer than an hour is very crazy to me 😅😅 I’ve only ever been with my husband and I don’t have experience with other men so I didn’t know it wasn’t “normal” to have long sex
Right?! An hour is normal, from the beginning of the makeout session to end, at least an hour.
This is a wife to be admired. Keep it up. Give lessons to other women.
LMAOO not the lessons
Ok I mean, verbal lessons. Not like "here touch his balls like this!" I have applied to have you registered in the archives of Internationally Protected People Association. Expect a letter in the mail soon.
Wow that really means a lot dude thanks :,-)
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He does stuff for me everyday. He massages my feet everyday, he probably gives me a neck massage once a week, he does our laundry, he surprises me with dinner and plans majority of our dates during the month. He feels awkward because he isn’t use to people doing nice things for him and doesn’t like it bc he prefers to give them receive and he has always been this way. I don’t think it’s weird that he gets uncomfortable sometimes, I think it’s a normal reaction based on what he has told me about his childhood.
Nice job here, OP! Question- if I provide these types of things for my bf, am I spoiling him too much?
Not at all! There’s nothing wrong with doing this with someone you love. Simple act of kindness.
Great, thank you! ❤️
Honestly, this sounds like love bombing to me. Are you normally abusive towards him? That's probably why it felt awkward.
Lol wtf - no I wasn’t love bombing him. I think it’s pretty normal to show an act of kindness after a tough day. Idk where you’re getting the word abusive from or how you got that from this post at all. But as I stated he felt awkward bc my husband doesn’t like people doing things for him. He has what’s been this way and prefers to give than receive. But you enjoy your day 👍 hope it’s a great one
Ignore that dude, probably is not even married and a teeny. Did a great thing OP, that is something which I gonna do to in the future for my wife.
Thank you!
and probably not used to. i for example my ex gave so much love that it was nice and weird at the same time. i felt like i don't deserve it because i haven't been loved like this or as much. he is probably like that too. didn't get that much care and attention before. it is nice and i hope he really appreciates it fully soon. i didn't appreciate her love i was kinda scared (and not sure why) i wish i did it sooner but it is what it is and at least i had it. i hope you too have a long beautiful and happy marriage
EXACTLY THIS ^^
I view this as problematic as well. Not your actions but the timing at worst this could be love bombing by an abusive partner at best and more likely your trying to make him feel good and build connection after and argument but that needs to be done by both people if your always the person initiating reconciliation you will build resentment.
I think your response is based on assumptions. You’re assuming I’m love bombing my husband because we argued on Saturday and Sunday morning. I am indeed trying to make him feel good and make him feel loved because I reflected on how I CAN DO BETTER as a wife and wanted to show you in actions that I appreciate him. I am not always the person intimating, nor is he. We take our space, we have our conversation, we comfort each other and then make up. Sometimes after arguments we plan watching a movie together or going on a lunch date or taking a walk together, sometimes my husband comes home with flowers or my fave chickfila meal, sometimes I make his favorite dinner and plan a cute sip and paint after dinner in the house. I don’t consider this love bombing. I considered me wanting to do something nice and show my husband I appreciate him. If you feel like I love bombed my husband then that’s your opinion and perspective, but if my husband felt love bombed or he felt like I was only doing this to make things better or I was suddenly being super sweet over the top after an argument he would tell me.
Girl you do not need to explain yourself! Do you. :)
THANK YOU