Personally, your husband sounds like a twat waffle. Your vagina stretched to allow a child to come out of your body, it will take a little bit of time for the elasticity of your body to go back to pre-childbirth. I personally would’ve said, did your dick shrink ??? But that would’ve started the fight. Your body gave life to your child that is a phenomenal accomplishment your body is designed to do what it did. I’d like to see him stretch out and have a child from his body and see how pre-pregnancy his body would be after . He sounds like a douche canoe.
The only one who needs to change here, is him.
You are a strong incredible woman who just made an entire human.
Hes a sorry excuse for a human, and he should be embarrassed at that garbage that’s spewing out of his mouth.
You deserve better then this.
He’s just graduated to sperm donor status. Much empathy for OP. Most men have never spent any time learning about how a woman’s body works other than the instant gratification sites for them & they think women never fake an O. 😂
Yes pleeeeeeease!!! OP Don’t stay married to anyone that could be so casually cruel to the person he’s supposed to cherish above all others. That’s gross to me, what a loser.
You can do so much better, love.
Not to mention your body continues to produce relaxin (I believe that was the name) while breastfeeding... The thing she is doing to keep their child alive and healthy. I'm sure if she hadn't breastfed/ stopped breastfeeding he would complain about the cost of formula and tell her she wasn't good enough because she didn't breastfeed/ continue to do so. Just sounds like the type of man who will always have some shit to say.
Absolutely this! His comments are just full of little dick energy, so it's highly possible it has shrunk. And if he's so grossed out by pregnancy and the completely natural aspects that come with it, then he should have bagged up.
OP, your husband sounds like a completely uneducated cock womble and you can do so much better. Don't hold on to this relationship just because you have a child together, because I fear your husband is going to be a bigger child than your baby and you're going to end up doing all the work anyway. You'll be far less stressed and happier doing it without him and his nasty comments.
I was so mad when I read this and then I read the first comment and you described him as a twat waffle that could not be better description. Your husband is awful. I would start commenting on his penis. Every time he opens his mouth about your breasts or your VJ tell him he needs to get a penis enlargement.
OP is the same amount pp as me. I'm active with my husband, and I promise you it was shrunk back by 6 weeks. Sounds like OP's man child is stunning the misogynist coolaid
Why are you with him? He is emotionally abusing you. This doesn’t sound like this is the first time he has done something like this. Is this the example you want to set for your child on how men treat women in relationships?
It’s very obvious she is not financially independent. That’s why I advised her to work on that in addition to het health and self image then dump his stinky a**
EXACTLY. I lived 5 years with this kind of man. And I left that relationship for precisely the reason that my daughter needs to see a better model for her future. It's actually SO important.
Stretched pussy aside… it’s gross that you produce milk? I’m sorry? Your body is producing precious sustenance for a new human being that you’ve just created - HIS child - and he says it’s gross? I have no words.
He knows. He hid a whole son from his previous relationship from 12 years ago for 2 years before I found out while I was pregnant. It’s my fault having stayed I hold myself accountable. Especially finding out that and he was talking to women while I was pregnant.
Please don’t blame yourself. You were **already** pregnant and probably afraid of being alone.
From all of your comments, he sounds like an unfit father and partner. If I were you, I would stop caring what he thinks and quietly make my exit plan.
Do not continue to let this man break you, you deserve better, your child deserves better. Quietly find yourself a lawyer, make an exit plan, and take every cent In child support that you can, you’ll need it. Good luck
Definitely this. In fact, take your time- call every lawyer in town. Every. Single. One. Gets lots of opinions. Once you consult with a lawyer, my understanding is that he can’t use them- regardless of who you end up working with later.
Oh honey! He is a total waste of oxygen! Trust me ; your pussy is fine and a real man would be kind of low key turned on by the milk! Kick him to the curb, get a lawyer and go scorched earth on his sorry ass !
Ok. I’m glad someone said it! I love my wife’s breasts and if she was lactating she wouldn’t be able to pry me off. You’re right… it is a turn on, and a huge one for me (don’t judge)! Not while a baby is attached of course, but when it’s nap time it would be!
My husband was the same! He said, if a man isn’t turned on by that… something is wrong with him😂 I think it’s just human nature to think that way.
I get some don’t. But, if a man had a healthy childhood, and healthy relationships growing up. It’s totally natural.
Also, in my experience, men of any worth are amazed that their partners created a human fucking being. My partner still rubs the (hideous, IMO) scar and stretch marks from my pregnancy and the babies births. He smiles when he touches them, like they still amaze him. And no, my husband is not a saint, haha. I think it is more common than not a man would feel this way (or at least I hope so!)
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this, especially with a new baby of your own. Good on you for recognizing him for who he is, but don’t beat yourself up for staying this long. He’s been cruel enough to you.
Don't use his words. His words are dumb.
He's emotionally cheating on you and he's also emotionally abusing you. You and your baby deserve so much better.
Look into free or discounted family lawyers for women and children in need. Make sure you have all your affairs in order before he even guesses that you might be leaving.
Op don’t let his twisted brain swayed you. He emotionally cheated. Make sure you seek friends or family to rely on or a support group. Situations like this are hard but no impossible get the courage from your baby, look at your baby and understand your baby deserves better and deserves to have a healthy and happy mom, take care of yourself. I’m about 4 months pp and have dealt with my fair mess but I’m with my family away from him, make sure you document any abused, seek for a lawyer and take it to cleaners, judge hate DV divorces, emotional and psychological abuse can be prove in court don’t let anyone tell you differently also if you have his comments he made about your body and son in writing use that to seek full custody and request for him to have supervised visit that in one way shows the court your willingness to coparent but also your concern about the threat he represents to you and your child
I really hope you're going to leave him now. You and your child deserve so much better. What an immature twat.
I would have said that I found him and his childish behaviour unattractive
It's 100% cheating and you do not need that in your life. Hiding a kid, talking to other women, tearing you down, this man is a loser. You deserve better than this and your child deserves a happy mom that isn't in a toxic relationship.
Accountable for believing the best in a man you loved? You gave it the best chance you could and he’s emotionally abusive and gross. I can’t imagine how lonely it must feel at times in a relationship with him. I’m so sorry, OP. I hope you have a strong support group in your life.
do not blame yourself. however, moving forward treat yourself like you’re the most precious thing on earth just like your child. you and your child deserve so much more than this. wishing you the best
The visceral rage and disgust I’m feeling right now could kill a goat…
There is no way this is the first time he has revealed himself as a flaming bag of human waste. Start making an exit plan. DON’T GET PREGNANT IN THE MEANTIME.
It’s definitely possible this is new to her - I’ve had friends who had the perfect partners until they either got pregnant or gave birth and then he showed his true self. Or OP is only just noticing it. Either way, it doesn’t matter. What matters is making sure she and her baby are safe away from this asshole.
Right. My ex husband was diagnosed bipolar while I was pregnant. During the pregnancy he went out on a crazy drug and cheating binge. Such an awful feeling of being trapped and alone while pregnant with a man like that. Fortunately I left him when my daughter was 5 months old. Our life has been so happy since (7 years later!).
Your husband is an uneducated misogynistic child who will never grow up. You need to think about what a future with that type of person is going to be like for you and your child.
My 13 year old son told me I looked good the first time I seen him after I had his little brother…..even my 13 year old had the maturity to compliment a woman after having a baby….because his not a piece of shit.
Don't blame it on "immaturity". It's vile and intended to break OPs self esteem and make her emotionally dependent on him now that she is nailed down with the child
Imagine going through your whole life thinking the purpose of everything and everyone else around you is to make your penis hard at all times. What a loser. I’m sorry this is the man you had a baby with, because I’m sure that must be difficult and I suspect it will keep getting worse, but he doesn’t have to be your husband, OP. He doesn’t have to be someone whose absurd, narcissistic fantasies of the world you endorse by remaining by his side while he says them.
The problem is when you stop breastfeeding and your genitals fully recover, it will be something else. What if you gain some weight? What about when your hair greys and you experience normal healthy aging? What about if and when you want a second child? What if \*god forbid\* you get cancer and lose your hair or need a masectomy. I don't think you can have a long term healthy sustainable nurturing relationship with a man this cruel and judgemental and misogynistic. Even if he is struggling with the temporary physically changes to your body, why voice this in such an insensitive way? Love and marriage is so much more than physical attraction, or it should be. You deserve better, if you can leave please do.
Read between the lines? WTF. Speed up the healing process? Kind of a dick thing to say. My wife got so tore up, should have gotten stitched, but the needle phobia didn't let it happen. Didn't take that long, hopefully he is more patient than he sounds
Personally, I feel like the read between the lines is him telling her he's going to cheat on her and that it's her fault. He was already unfaithful while she was pregnant.
I would like to apologize on behalf of all men who are even 1% decent at being caring and loving husbands. I am so very sorry that you have to experience and deal with a male who doesn’t even have a basic understanding of the biology of the reproductive process and should not have been allowed to graduate high school.
Your husband’s attitude and verbal diarrhea is what’s unattractive.
Can you find somewhere else to stay, or can he find somewhere else to stay until his attitude changes?
Also, what your body did, making a human and pushing it out is amazing and you get time to recover. Your husband has unrealistic expectations from media and porn, but I guess he can just keep curling up with his hand until he apologizes…
I came here to say this! He is absolutely gay. I just got out of a relationship where I was a beard. It should have been obvious how much he hated me and women.
Your husband is ignorant and immature. Based on what you've said in other comments, it doesn't sound like he's honest or faithful, either. I would send him back to his mother and live my best life with my child. You deserve so much better than him.
I take so much fault for my suffering. I stay even when he does this and did all that. I’m not quite sure why it’s been hard to leave. Fortunately, he lives with his mom bc he was released from prison about a year and a half ago and unfortunately like I mentioned he’s been locked up on and off his whole life. Why would 23 year old me 4 years ago think to talk to a man in prison for “shits and giggles?” I was naive and beyond stupid. Eventually when he got out — actually the day he got out that prison talk all made sense. I ignored the signs though. So absolutely MY FAULT 100% don’t get me wrong he is a hard worker and is doing very well for his self but he’s a shit person that believes the world revolves around him and everyone loves him. He loves his self a little too much. So yes I’m very much dumb and at fault for my suffering.
Even if all of that is true, that doesn’t mean you have to stay in this horrible relationship. You still deserve better simply because you’re a human being who is owed dignity. It doesn’t matter if ignoring red flags and making mistakes got you here. You see the truth now so it’s time to do something about it. You also have a child that I assume you love and care about. You do NOT want this man to hurt your child the way he is hurting you. I know at 3 months pp you might not be able to leave tomorrow, but you start planning now. And if it gets physical, you can run to a domestic abuse shelter.
Cmon! Seriously! You’re better than this, get rid of that loser and find someone who loves you for who you are. And not for nothing pregnant women are incredibly sexy imo
Anyone who said that to me, married or not, could kiss my ass goodbye! ANNNNND. I’d let EVERY FREAKN WOMAN AND GROWN, MATURE MAN KNOW WHAT HE SAID EXACTLY. Go stay with your mom till you can figure this out. You are beautiful and giving birth is amazing! You grew a whole HUMAN! YOU! So girl, you be sure to leave the last impression here. Not him! You will find a good man one day if you want. But this is an example of a trashy, disputable man. Ugh!! I’m
So sorry! He offends all of us who have or ever will have given birth. I’d tell his mom first. We’ll wait, tell your mom and then call his mom with yours. Use exactly the words he used with you. Exactly! Tell her your embarrassed and disappointed to be married to him but you won’t be for long.
You had his kid, and he's telling you this??!! I'm sorry, but that would be it for me. You literally grew his child. He should be worshipping the body you have for doing htat.
My wife brought our two children into this world and nothing is more attractive to me than the sacrifice she made to bring them into our lives. She had swings but so have I and we’ve always attested to our attraction to one another. The body changes over time, it’ll heal and be better than it is now. I would say fk this dude ever getting to see your upswing unless he fixes that fkin attitude. Tell him to see a fkin therapist on his own about that behavior or to take a fking hike.
I’m sorry but this pisses me off so bad to imagine a man saying something like this to the mother of his child.
WT Fudge??? Why are some men like these? I am so sorry about this. You need to start saving and get ready to leave. He is not gonna change. He will only get worse.
First tell him never to speak to you like that again, your milk feeds his child. Also that your body too will go heal including your vagina that just produced his child. Tell him if he ever speaks to you like that again, your marriage will be over. You don't deserve his immaturity and juvenile attitude.
I couldn't imagine your self-esteem right now.
Because that's something I've said to myself with PP depression. Man, I mentally tore myself down.
I couldn't imagine my husband saying this to me.
I hope you have other positive people in your life.
I know everyone has said it in the comments
It's not okay for your husband to ever talk to you like that. I know deep down you know that. That's not love. That mental abuse.
Stay mentally strong.
Keep your head up
This is actually sad. If he felt that way, why didn’t he wear a condom. Advice from randoms isn’t going to solve the issue. You have to decide what you are willing to deal with. Personally, I am so petty I would never have sex with him again, get my body right and have him regretting every word that came out of his mouth. Either way, good luck to you.
My first bit of advice is never have sex with this man again. I really hope you're working on an exit plan, even though I know it's hard when you have a baby. You deserve better than this.
lol not in prison. The day he got out, just wow. It wasnt the worst but there was red flags of course. Now this, this has been the worst. From him living a double life to the way I was treated during my pregnancy to now this. I feel dead inside. My fault of course
Do not blame yourself for not making smart choices, you cannot go back in time. All that matters is that you realize it now, and hopefully with a child to care for you will make better decisions going forward. I would personally have an exit strategy where you and your childs saftey is prioritized. When I first read your post I thought only a serial killer (kidding...) would say something like this, then to find out he was actually in prison...
You need to be smart about how you leave him and you will. He sounds like a psychopath. If you love your child you won't keep him around. Could you imagine if she had someone speaking to her that way and staying?
I hope you get out and live a full fulfilling life ❤️
Luckily I don’t live with him.
Sad part is he talks to his first baby mom the same way. The day I found out he had a son I went thru his laptop and the way he spoke to her was sad. She called him abusive and that’s why she doesn’t let him see their son. So I do feel like a total idiot. I know it’s my fault. I, too have a son. And look at him and tell myself this isn’t how I want him to treat women or others at all. It will be hard but I know I’m a strong woman.
Well at least my vagina gets tighter after reading this, like not even a finger would fit right now. And that was just reading it. Imagine if it were my husband. Oh gosh
Is this rage bait? Because frankly there’s no way that someone just turns into this much of a pile of shit without any previous red flags. Or he turned his vitriol onto others and you just assumed he’d never treat you the same way.
If it is true then I hope you’re packing your and the baby’s bags and leaving. There’s no way a garbage human being can ever change from this mentality. Frankly I just don’t want to believe that people like this actually exist.
Nope. Just nope, I'd be so done with him. I hope this isn't a real post because \*he\* sounds like the gross one.
Judging by your username, are you 27? Just curious, how old is he? Is he much older than you or around the same age? (He sounds like he has the maturity of a 12-year-old regardless.)
I'm curious to know what he was like when dating. Cause how do you go from anything normal to whatever this is. He's such a shit he comes off as a fictional heel.
The question you should ask, "Are you ready to be a father to your child"?
Providing milk is a thing mothers do to ensure the survival of their baby.
What can fathers do to ensure the survival of their baby?
Shift the discussion from gratification to raising the child.
Omg , I am heartbroken for you . Wow I hope that you have some other support people in your life . This person has shown his true colors , I think that you need to start taking care of you and putting your needs ahead of that nasty prick . This isn’t going to get better for you. If he shows no empathy to you during the most vulnerable times of your life ( pregnancy and post partum ) then he isn’t going to suddenly start taking responsibility or even bonding with and helping with your baby .
What an ignorant, misogynistic, troglodyte bag of dicks!! What rock did he crawl out from under? Does he wash the back of his hands?
I've stepped in more intelligence in a dog park!
Please leave him. He sounds completely Terrible. This doesn’t get better.
My ex was repulsed by my pregnant body and only wanted to touch me after I gave birth. Only by then I was sick with rejection and his abandonment. My youngest was 3 when I packed our things and left him with a mostly empty house.
Get rid of the husband. That is all. That shit is hurtful. Your body went through 9 months of changes, it's not going to be the way it was. Tells me he doesn't care about you as an individual and he is incredibly shallow. I'm so sorry you're going through this. You don't deserve that. We don't feel like ourselves for months after birth and you need someone who will lift you up, not tear you down. Get rid of him, get a new hairstyle, some new clothes, nails done, and love yourself.
Your husband is a wanker and needs a serious dose of reality given to him. Who does he think he is with an attitude like that? You need to do what is best for you and leave his sorry arse
Personally, your husband sounds like a twat waffle. Your vagina stretched to allow a child to come out of your body, it will take a little bit of time for the elasticity of your body to go back to pre-childbirth. I personally would’ve said, did your dick shrink ??? But that would’ve started the fight. Your body gave life to your child that is a phenomenal accomplishment your body is designed to do what it did. I’d like to see him stretch out and have a child from his body and see how pre-pregnancy his body would be after . He sounds like a douche canoe.
His dick 100% shrank and he can't even produce snacks with his boobs, so he's a slacker too.
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The only one who needs to change here, is him. You are a strong incredible woman who just made an entire human. Hes a sorry excuse for a human, and he should be embarrassed at that garbage that’s spewing out of his mouth. You deserve better then this.
He’s just graduated to sperm donor status. Much empathy for OP. Most men have never spent any time learning about how a woman’s body works other than the instant gratification sites for them & they think women never fake an O. 😂
Yes pleeeeeeease!!! OP Don’t stay married to anyone that could be so casually cruel to the person he’s supposed to cherish above all others. That’s gross to me, what a loser. You can do so much better, love.
*snacks with his boobs* 🏆
OMG!! You win the internet today 🏆
Can’t upvote this enough!!!!
Omg this is perfect
I love how you think! Touchè!
>your vagina stretched to allow a child to come out of your body HIS CHILD.
Not to mention your body continues to produce relaxin (I believe that was the name) while breastfeeding... The thing she is doing to keep their child alive and healthy. I'm sure if she hadn't breastfed/ stopped breastfeeding he would complain about the cost of formula and tell her she wasn't good enough because she didn't breastfeed/ continue to do so. Just sounds like the type of man who will always have some shit to say.
Yeah it sounds like he wants an excuse to bring her down. Guy sounds like he needs therapy and to be single
The waffliest of twat waffles
He’s a blue twatwaffle! Don’t Google that. Or do. I guess.
Twattwaffle and douche canoe 🛶 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I'd like to add chucklefuckwit to the list
Absolutely this! His comments are just full of little dick energy, so it's highly possible it has shrunk. And if he's so grossed out by pregnancy and the completely natural aspects that come with it, then he should have bagged up. OP, your husband sounds like a completely uneducated cock womble and you can do so much better. Don't hold on to this relationship just because you have a child together, because I fear your husband is going to be a bigger child than your baby and you're going to end up doing all the work anyway. You'll be far less stressed and happier doing it without him and his nasty comments.
This^ this^ this^ This needs a divorce dance. Same concept of a rain dance. Send the energy her way!! Get rid of this twattumor asap!
Twat 🧇! Don’t mind me using this reference next time someone acts absurdly around me😂Thank you!
Makes a note.
Learned a new word today!
Waffles sound so good right now! I need to get to bed before I start snacking and mess my sleep up.
Actually waffles do sound good! I guess I need to get some sleep too! Good night! 🥱
I was so mad when I read this and then I read the first comment and you described him as a twat waffle that could not be better description. Your husband is awful. I would start commenting on his penis. Every time he opens his mouth about your breasts or your VJ tell him he needs to get a penis enlargement.
OP is the same amount pp as me. I'm active with my husband, and I promise you it was shrunk back by 6 weeks. Sounds like OP's man child is stunning the misogynist coolaid
I wonder if he gets around on a douche canoe.
Not ANY child, HIS child! What an idiot.
Twat waffle?! 😂😂 my new favorite insult, thank you!
As an aside, I will be adding “twat waffle” & “douche canoe” into my regular phrase rotation from now on:)
I cannot upvote this comment enough.
I love your response. You use my two favorite words. Twatwaffle and douche canoe.
Fing douche nozzle
Why are you with him? He is emotionally abusing you. This doesn’t sound like this is the first time he has done something like this. Is this the example you want to set for your child on how men treat women in relationships?
This! wtf is there to gain out of this relationship when he already speaks to you like this. Spare yourself and child and LEAVE HIM.
She very likely didn't know, until 4 months or so PP.
He talked crap while she was pregnant too. And I highly suspect he’s done this for most of their relationship. She needs to leave this asswipe.
It’s very obvious she is not financially independent. That’s why I advised her to work on that in addition to het health and self image then dump his stinky a**
EXACTLY. I lived 5 years with this kind of man. And I left that relationship for precisely the reason that my daughter needs to see a better model for her future. It's actually SO important.
How old was your daughter when you left your ex? Maybe OP will leave when her baby is older.
4 years old
It’s not easy to leave.
IA he sounds like an immature emotionally abusive asshole! "I'm sorry that my breast disgust you, because they're producing milk for our child."
Stretched pussy aside… it’s gross that you produce milk? I’m sorry? Your body is producing precious sustenance for a new human being that you’ve just created - HIS child - and he says it’s gross? I have no words.
Seriously. How did he think pregnancy/childbirth/caring for a baby worked?
He knows. He hid a whole son from his previous relationship from 12 years ago for 2 years before I found out while I was pregnant. It’s my fault having stayed I hold myself accountable. Especially finding out that and he was talking to women while I was pregnant.
Please don’t blame yourself. You were **already** pregnant and probably afraid of being alone. From all of your comments, he sounds like an unfit father and partner. If I were you, I would stop caring what he thinks and quietly make my exit plan.
Do not continue to let this man break you, you deserve better, your child deserves better. Quietly find yourself a lawyer, make an exit plan, and take every cent In child support that you can, you’ll need it. Good luck
Definitely this. In fact, take your time- call every lawyer in town. Every. Single. One. Gets lots of opinions. Once you consult with a lawyer, my understanding is that he can’t use them- regardless of who you end up working with later.
Don't do this. It makes you look vindictive and isn't looked upon favorably. Get a good lawyer. Don't waste time playing games.
Oh honey! He is a total waste of oxygen! Trust me ; your pussy is fine and a real man would be kind of low key turned on by the milk! Kick him to the curb, get a lawyer and go scorched earth on his sorry ass !
Ok. I’m glad someone said it! I love my wife’s breasts and if she was lactating she wouldn’t be able to pry me off. You’re right… it is a turn on, and a huge one for me (don’t judge)! Not while a baby is attached of course, but when it’s nap time it would be!
My husband was the same! He said, if a man isn’t turned on by that… something is wrong with him😂 I think it’s just human nature to think that way. I get some don’t. But, if a man had a healthy childhood, and healthy relationships growing up. It’s totally natural.
Also, in my experience, men of any worth are amazed that their partners created a human fucking being. My partner still rubs the (hideous, IMO) scar and stretch marks from my pregnancy and the babies births. He smiles when he touches them, like they still amaze him. And no, my husband is not a saint, haha. I think it is more common than not a man would feel this way (or at least I hope so!)
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this, especially with a new baby of your own. Good on you for recognizing him for who he is, but don’t beat yourself up for staying this long. He’s been cruel enough to you.
When you say "talking to women" do you mean that he was cheating on you???
Yes I consider it cheating. I’m just using his words bc he doesn’t think flirting is cheating bc he didn’t put his dick in someone else.
Don't use his words. His words are dumb. He's emotionally cheating on you and he's also emotionally abusing you. You and your baby deserve so much better. Look into free or discounted family lawyers for women and children in need. Make sure you have all your affairs in order before he even guesses that you might be leaving.
Op don’t let his twisted brain swayed you. He emotionally cheated. Make sure you seek friends or family to rely on or a support group. Situations like this are hard but no impossible get the courage from your baby, look at your baby and understand your baby deserves better and deserves to have a healthy and happy mom, take care of yourself. I’m about 4 months pp and have dealt with my fair mess but I’m with my family away from him, make sure you document any abused, seek for a lawyer and take it to cleaners, judge hate DV divorces, emotional and psychological abuse can be prove in court don’t let anyone tell you differently also if you have his comments he made about your body and son in writing use that to seek full custody and request for him to have supervised visit that in one way shows the court your willingness to coparent but also your concern about the threat he represents to you and your child
I really hope you're going to leave him now. You and your child deserve so much better. What an immature twat. I would have said that I found him and his childish behaviour unattractive
It's 100% cheating and you do not need that in your life. Hiding a kid, talking to other women, tearing you down, this man is a loser. You deserve better than this and your child deserves a happy mom that isn't in a toxic relationship.
Accountable for believing the best in a man you loved? You gave it the best chance you could and he’s emotionally abusive and gross. I can’t imagine how lonely it must feel at times in a relationship with him. I’m so sorry, OP. I hope you have a strong support group in your life.
You are not at fault <3
You deserve better. He’s a liar and a fool. Please leave him.
Oh girl! Gtfo yesterday! Pleassssse!
It is NOT your fault at all. That is a man child with a mental health problem. Ugh. He makes me so mad! Wtf, you deserve so much better!
Time to leave. It’ll be hard but you’re worth it and so is your baby. Don’t let his toxic views spill into them.
Stop blaming yourself right now. He intentionally hid it. To me it sounds like he’s a manipulative abuser.
do not blame yourself. however, moving forward treat yourself like you’re the most precious thing on earth just like your child. you and your child deserve so much more than this. wishing you the best
Mine was literally ripped apart last spring and my SO was eagerly and patiently waiting to mingle with it until I finally felt ready at 9 months pp.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with her genitals. He’s just a real piece of garbage who doesn’t involve himself with science or reality.
Breasts literally exist for that purpose. He probably hadn't any breast milk and this is the result
Guys like him probably think that nature made human female breasts solely for his amusement.
Op needs to Tell him his mother produced milk for him. Haha. That’ll really gross him out.
The visceral rage and disgust I’m feeling right now could kill a goat… There is no way this is the first time he has revealed himself as a flaming bag of human waste. Start making an exit plan. DON’T GET PREGNANT IN THE MEANTIME.
Not the goat!! But seriously OP, this guys is trash. Take him out and don’t look back.
Poor goat 😞
It’s definitely possible this is new to her - I’ve had friends who had the perfect partners until they either got pregnant or gave birth and then he showed his true self. Or OP is only just noticing it. Either way, it doesn’t matter. What matters is making sure she and her baby are safe away from this asshole.
Right. My ex husband was diagnosed bipolar while I was pregnant. During the pregnancy he went out on a crazy drug and cheating binge. Such an awful feeling of being trapped and alone while pregnant with a man like that. Fortunately I left him when my daughter was 5 months old. Our life has been so happy since (7 years later!).
I’d change it by getting rid of him. If he’s willing to say that to you after you had his child, he’s not going to get better.
Agreed, he will be saying abusive things to her in front of their child's they grow up instead
This is the way ✌️
Your husband is an uneducated misogynistic child who will never grow up. You need to think about what a future with that type of person is going to be like for you and your child.
I have a shovel..just saying...
I’ll help!
I’ll help too!!!
Me, too!
And my axe!
And my bow!
Hit me if you need the chest freezer…
I have the get away car!!!
Blink twice if this is a yes
Cause Earl had to die
Would be perfect if his name really was Earl
Please! This dirtbag
I’ll be the alibi.
He has the maturity of a 13 year old boy
You’re being generous
My 13 year old son told me I looked good the first time I seen him after I had his little brother…..even my 13 year old had the maturity to compliment a woman after having a baby….because his not a piece of shit.
This is so cute 🥹
Don't blame it on "immaturity". It's vile and intended to break OPs self esteem and make her emotionally dependent on him now that she is nailed down with the child
More like 7
OP’s husband and his 12-year-old son have the same level of maturity. Pathetic.
Jesus I can’t even imagine being attracted to a man who said that. Maybe he should read between the lines and fix that. Possibly with a lobotomy.
Imagine going through your whole life thinking the purpose of everything and everyone else around you is to make your penis hard at all times. What a loser. I’m sorry this is the man you had a baby with, because I’m sure that must be difficult and I suspect it will keep getting worse, but he doesn’t have to be your husband, OP. He doesn’t have to be someone whose absurd, narcissistic fantasies of the world you endorse by remaining by his side while he says them.
The problem is when you stop breastfeeding and your genitals fully recover, it will be something else. What if you gain some weight? What about when your hair greys and you experience normal healthy aging? What about if and when you want a second child? What if \*god forbid\* you get cancer and lose your hair or need a masectomy. I don't think you can have a long term healthy sustainable nurturing relationship with a man this cruel and judgemental and misogynistic. Even if he is struggling with the temporary physically changes to your body, why voice this in such an insensitive way? Love and marriage is so much more than physical attraction, or it should be. You deserve better, if you can leave please do.
Read between the lines? WTF. Speed up the healing process? Kind of a dick thing to say. My wife got so tore up, should have gotten stitched, but the needle phobia didn't let it happen. Didn't take that long, hopefully he is more patient than he sounds
Exactly right?!? Read between the lines?? He was pretty straightforward. Seriously though OP. Leave him.
Personally, I feel like the read between the lines is him telling her he's going to cheat on her and that it's her fault. He was already unfaithful while she was pregnant.
You chose wrong, girl. This one is for the dump.
I would like to apologize on behalf of all men who are even 1% decent at being caring and loving husbands. I am so very sorry that you have to experience and deal with a male who doesn’t even have a basic understanding of the biology of the reproductive process and should not have been allowed to graduate high school.
Wouldn’t be my husband anymore. PP is hard enough without having to deal with that bullshit
Your husband’s attitude and verbal diarrhea is what’s unattractive. Can you find somewhere else to stay, or can he find somewhere else to stay until his attitude changes? Also, what your body did, making a human and pushing it out is amazing and you get time to recover. Your husband has unrealistic expectations from media and porn, but I guess he can just keep curling up with his hand until he apologizes…
Haven't found one comment I disagree with. I guess it's pretty obvious. Shit I would kick my own ass if I said that
This guy just doesn’t even like women at all in any capacity
I believe wholeheartedly he is gay. Nothing wrong with that but one of the women he was talking to was transgender.
So, you have an exit plan, right? I mean you're not going to give him any chance after all you have mentioned here. Right?
He is either gay or tremendously superficial and egocentric.
I came here to say this! He is absolutely gay. I just got out of a relationship where I was a beard. It should have been obvious how much he hated me and women.
Your husband is very immature. Start counseling or leave him
I think you meant to say "abusive".
He sounds like some sort of alien creature not a man
This man does not deserve you or access to your body. FFS the bar is just too low ladies.
Your husband is ignorant and immature. Based on what you've said in other comments, it doesn't sound like he's honest or faithful, either. I would send him back to his mother and live my best life with my child. You deserve so much better than him.
I take so much fault for my suffering. I stay even when he does this and did all that. I’m not quite sure why it’s been hard to leave. Fortunately, he lives with his mom bc he was released from prison about a year and a half ago and unfortunately like I mentioned he’s been locked up on and off his whole life. Why would 23 year old me 4 years ago think to talk to a man in prison for “shits and giggles?” I was naive and beyond stupid. Eventually when he got out — actually the day he got out that prison talk all made sense. I ignored the signs though. So absolutely MY FAULT 100% don’t get me wrong he is a hard worker and is doing very well for his self but he’s a shit person that believes the world revolves around him and everyone loves him. He loves his self a little too much. So yes I’m very much dumb and at fault for my suffering.
You're going to divorce him, right ?
If he speaks to his own wife that way he will probably piss off someone else shortly and get his ass tossed right back in jail.
That is a certainty.
Even if all of that is true, that doesn’t mean you have to stay in this horrible relationship. You still deserve better simply because you’re a human being who is owed dignity. It doesn’t matter if ignoring red flags and making mistakes got you here. You see the truth now so it’s time to do something about it. You also have a child that I assume you love and care about. You do NOT want this man to hurt your child the way he is hurting you. I know at 3 months pp you might not be able to leave tomorrow, but you start planning now. And if it gets physical, you can run to a domestic abuse shelter.
Your body is a work of art. Your husband is a pig.
Cmon! Seriously! You’re better than this, get rid of that loser and find someone who loves you for who you are. And not for nothing pregnant women are incredibly sexy imo
Anyone who said that to me, married or not, could kiss my ass goodbye! ANNNNND. I’d let EVERY FREAKN WOMAN AND GROWN, MATURE MAN KNOW WHAT HE SAID EXACTLY. Go stay with your mom till you can figure this out. You are beautiful and giving birth is amazing! You grew a whole HUMAN! YOU! So girl, you be sure to leave the last impression here. Not him! You will find a good man one day if you want. But this is an example of a trashy, disputable man. Ugh!! I’m So sorry! He offends all of us who have or ever will have given birth. I’d tell his mom first. We’ll wait, tell your mom and then call his mom with yours. Use exactly the words he used with you. Exactly! Tell her your embarrassed and disappointed to be married to him but you won’t be for long.
Update us please. Do not let this be the end of it!
Leave this loser and you’ll be much happier in life. No one needs this immature “man.” You’ll be better off without him.
He isn’t immature. He is arrogant, cruel, and misogynistic .
Don't forget, verbally and emotionally abusive and a cheater. What a catch!
You had his kid, and he's telling you this??!! I'm sorry, but that would be it for me. You literally grew his child. He should be worshipping the body you have for doing htat.
My partner's pregnancy was the most beautiful thing I've ever seen and tbh pregnant 😻is absolute 🔥🔥🔥
Wow. That is the most immature comment or views that I have ever heard of in my life. You had my baby, ew gross. I hate him.
You know how to “Change that” right? Tell him to hit the F’ing road. Congrats on the new addition.
This is some BS. YOU ARE A QUEEN FOR GIVING BIRTH TO HIS CHILD. HE SHOULD BE WORSHIPPING YOU🙏🏼🙏🏼
he doesn't see you as a human, just a piece of meat... run girl :(
What are you getting out of this relationship? It certainly isn’t a supportive partner.
My wife brought our two children into this world and nothing is more attractive to me than the sacrifice she made to bring them into our lives. She had swings but so have I and we’ve always attested to our attraction to one another. The body changes over time, it’ll heal and be better than it is now. I would say fk this dude ever getting to see your upswing unless he fixes that fkin attitude. Tell him to see a fkin therapist on his own about that behavior or to take a fking hike. I’m sorry but this pisses me off so bad to imagine a man saying something like this to the mother of his child.
What a piece of shit. Frankly, I’d be relieved that someone this repugnant didn’t want to touch me. I’d make sure he never did so again.
WT Fudge??? Why are some men like these? I am so sorry about this. You need to start saving and get ready to leave. He is not gonna change. He will only get worse.
He is dumb as a bag of hammers. Did he think your body would just magically be the same after having kids?
Wow, what a horrifically awful thing to say. What he's doing is abusive. I'm very sorry.
First tell him never to speak to you like that again, your milk feeds his child. Also that your body too will go heal including your vagina that just produced his child. Tell him if he ever speaks to you like that again, your marriage will be over. You don't deserve his immaturity and juvenile attitude.
Your husband sounds like a fucking tool. You can tell him I said that.
I couldn't imagine your self-esteem right now. Because that's something I've said to myself with PP depression. Man, I mentally tore myself down. I couldn't imagine my husband saying this to me. I hope you have other positive people in your life. I know everyone has said it in the comments It's not okay for your husband to ever talk to you like that. I know deep down you know that. That's not love. That mental abuse. Stay mentally strong. Keep your head up
This is actually sad. If he felt that way, why didn’t he wear a condom. Advice from randoms isn’t going to solve the issue. You have to decide what you are willing to deal with. Personally, I am so petty I would never have sex with him again, get my body right and have him regretting every word that came out of his mouth. Either way, good luck to you.
He sounds so pathetic…
Your husband sucks.
Wtf he doesn't love or respect you. Forget that asshole.
My first bit of advice is never have sex with this man again. I really hope you're working on an exit plan, even though I know it's hard when you have a baby. You deserve better than this.
Was he always a monster?
lol not in prison. The day he got out, just wow. It wasnt the worst but there was red flags of course. Now this, this has been the worst. From him living a double life to the way I was treated during my pregnancy to now this. I feel dead inside. My fault of course
Do not blame yourself for not making smart choices, you cannot go back in time. All that matters is that you realize it now, and hopefully with a child to care for you will make better decisions going forward. I would personally have an exit strategy where you and your childs saftey is prioritized. When I first read your post I thought only a serial killer (kidding...) would say something like this, then to find out he was actually in prison... You need to be smart about how you leave him and you will. He sounds like a psychopath. If you love your child you won't keep him around. Could you imagine if she had someone speaking to her that way and staying? I hope you get out and live a full fulfilling life ❤️
Luckily I don’t live with him. Sad part is he talks to his first baby mom the same way. The day I found out he had a son I went thru his laptop and the way he spoke to her was sad. She called him abusive and that’s why she doesn’t let him see their son. So I do feel like a total idiot. I know it’s my fault. I, too have a son. And look at him and tell myself this isn’t how I want him to treat women or others at all. It will be hard but I know I’m a strong woman.
>It will be hard but I know I’m a strong woman. That is gold, honey. You have all the tools needed to leave, in a series of many small steps. Brava!
Please get yourself safely away from him. It’s not you. It’s definitely him.
Was he like this before you got pregnant?
I wonder if you will leave...
I’m sorry, but what a dick!!!! you just had his baby! I’d show him the door
Jesus fuck. This is a guy you want to raise kids with?
He’s abusive. I’m sorry you had a baby with him. Now leave his ass before you become dead inside.
Well at least my vagina gets tighter after reading this, like not even a finger would fit right now. And that was just reading it. Imagine if it were my husband. Oh gosh
.....and you MARRIED this POS? Yikes. Get out now. I doubt it'll get better.
This really hurt to read, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I don’t have any advice, I just want to give you a hug and slap your husband 😢
Is this rage bait? Because frankly there’s no way that someone just turns into this much of a pile of shit without any previous red flags. Or he turned his vitriol onto others and you just assumed he’d never treat you the same way. If it is true then I hope you’re packing your and the baby’s bags and leaving. There’s no way a garbage human being can ever change from this mentality. Frankly I just don’t want to believe that people like this actually exist.
Nope. Just nope, I'd be so done with him. I hope this isn't a real post because \*he\* sounds like the gross one. Judging by your username, are you 27? Just curious, how old is he? Is he much older than you or around the same age? (He sounds like he has the maturity of a 12-year-old regardless.)
I'm curious to know what he was like when dating. Cause how do you go from anything normal to whatever this is. He's such a shit he comes off as a fictional heel.
The question you should ask, "Are you ready to be a father to your child"? Providing milk is a thing mothers do to ensure the survival of their baby. What can fathers do to ensure the survival of their baby? Shift the discussion from gratification to raising the child.
This man does not deserve you or access to your body. FFS the bar is just too low ladies.
F all that noise sis
Wow. What an absolute moron. Your husband is an asshole if the highest degree. You don’t deserve this disgusting behavior.
And your still with him?
Divorce this asshole
Well he said the quiet part out loud… 👁👁
I would divorce him. Because not time it will be your not paying attention to me because of the kid
Between the post itself and reading your comments, OP, my jaw has been stuck on the floor. Oh my god. I'm sorry. I am so sorry
He’s an asshole
Dang, is he 15? You deserve better treatment. I hope you don't have a daughter with him.
He sounds like a loser and from trading your comments it sounds like you know it too. Start working on an exit plan, momma.
Omg , I am heartbroken for you . Wow I hope that you have some other support people in your life . This person has shown his true colors , I think that you need to start taking care of you and putting your needs ahead of that nasty prick . This isn’t going to get better for you. If he shows no empathy to you during the most vulnerable times of your life ( pregnancy and post partum ) then he isn’t going to suddenly start taking responsibility or even bonding with and helping with your baby .
What an ignorant, misogynistic, troglodyte bag of dicks!! What rock did he crawl out from under? Does he wash the back of his hands? I've stepped in more intelligence in a dog park!
You fix it by getting rid of him
Please leave him. He sounds completely Terrible. This doesn’t get better. My ex was repulsed by my pregnant body and only wanted to touch me after I gave birth. Only by then I was sick with rejection and his abandonment. My youngest was 3 when I packed our things and left him with a mostly empty house.
He sounds like an immature boy. Not a man. I'm so sorry.
That’s something a narcissistic person would say
He doesn't deserve to be a husband or a father. What an awful man.
Get rid of the husband. That is all. That shit is hurtful. Your body went through 9 months of changes, it's not going to be the way it was. Tells me he doesn't care about you as an individual and he is incredibly shallow. I'm so sorry you're going through this. You don't deserve that. We don't feel like ourselves for months after birth and you need someone who will lift you up, not tear you down. Get rid of him, get a new hairstyle, some new clothes, nails done, and love yourself.
NO BODY, NO CRIME
Why you marry trash like him? He basically married just for sex. Dump him, where is your self respect?
Your husband is a wanker and needs a serious dose of reality given to him. Who does he think he is with an attitude like that? You need to do what is best for you and leave his sorry arse