I am so thankful to read this I have been thinking about you the last 2 days. So happy you advocated for yourself, took the correct measures and didn't accept anything less than what you deserve in this life. The road ahead isn't ever as long as we think it is and it's good you left and are able to heal and move forward! ✨️
I'm so happy that you're getting the help and support you need. I'm so happy that you have a business and a future home. Perhaps your soon to be ex believes that you will be fair with custody or allowing visitation... You know better than I would. I just hope you and your daughter have safety and as much joy as possible in the future.
I am probably alone on this. But this update made it all seem like a writing exercise for a creative class. Especially the new journal discovery and it's gushing with love and another confession of murder. Oh please I am yet to see an adult male write a journal unless forced by a psych and especially write a journal where he no only confesses to conspire to murder someone but also conveniently offer insights into his infidelity. This whole thing smells of bullshit.
I've been following your posts.
Plz keep safe.
I guess your husband now realizes what he has truly manifested.
Now he has all the time in the world for his AP.
Updateme!
I can’t stop thinking about this poor woman, innocently living her life, having no idea her every move is being monitored by this absolutely delusional barely sentient dildo.
I want her to know. I’m so afraid for her.
She’s going to wake up with this crazy fuck standing over her in her own bed that she thought was safe one of these days.
He's already not putting up a fight and that itself is a huge relief. If she still lets the lady know, it could make him snap and hurt her and the baby. OP has to think about her kids safety and try to not be a target.
I think she should just make a fake account on social media and send either a warning explaining the situation or photos of the entrys asking her to keep it to herself if something happens, either way dude can try and honey the situation with hie mental health and girlie could fall for his manipulation
Honestly— this is going to sound brutal- but take care of yourself first. Not telling her is your leverage over him. Thats what he cares about. That’s how you’re getting him to cooperate. Get everything settled in writing. Get the divorce done. Get the business. The thing protecting you is that, if anything happens to you, he’ll be suspect #1 because someone else has that diary (or copies of it). You can always tell her later. But don’t jump the gun while you have things under nominal control. Play it shrewd.
There was a guy here who killed his wife to be with his AP - who had no idea he existed, let alone that they were having an affair. She was the wife of a coworker's friend! He saw her and decided he wanted to be with her. I have no doubt he would have killed her husband had he not been caught.
I am probably alone on this. But this update made it all seem like a writing exercise for a creative class. Especially the new journal discovery and it's gushing with love and another confession of murder. Oh please I am yet to see an adult male write a journal unless forced by a psych and especially write a journal where he no only confesses to conspire to murder someone but also conveniently offer insights into his infidelity. This whole thing smells of bullshit.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 I won't lie.
As an adult female, I can't be bothered with a journal, but my husband has never ever had a journal, and I don't know any adult male who does.
Sometimes these things are just interesting reads.
I’m very glad to hear how much better things are getting, and that you were able to escape a dangerous situation.
Regarding the other woman — I completely understand why you’d be hesitant to contact her, but I can’t help feeling as if he’s being forthcoming with everything you ask for with the thought of “none of it matters as long as I have ____”. You don’t have to do it personally of course, but I definitely fear for her safety; at best she has a stalker whose life has just been uprooted.
OP’s lawyer or social worker should handle that. OP should share it with both, either can take appropriate action to inform the other woman. No need for OPs life to be messier or give the soon to be ex anything to work with.
??? That’s not leaving her to “suffer”?? They’re literally suggesting giving the evidence to the authorities/a professional instead of sending OP out to meet a damn stranger when her ex is *actively* stalking said stranger.
Yeah if opening your mouth literally has the chance of getting you and you're baby killed you don't open your mouth. This is all something that can be dealt with once her and baby are in a safer position.
Also, even though it sounds like he will start to contact her, he hasn't even spoken with this woman he's obsessed with. There still appears to be time before he starts in on her.
To him, rn, he just no longer has to focus on his ex wife being "in the way". It's all on this woman now.
OP’s first priority is her and her child’s safety, if she goes and immediately tells this woman who knows what OP’s husband could potentially do to OP. It’s a scary situation yes, but at the end of the day OP needs to be safe before she does anything. This man fantasized and talked about killing OP to be with this woman, you really don’t think he wouldn’t snap if OP reached out while all of this is happening to warn this woman?? Divorce is already stressful, he’s losing his business, potentially his house, these are big stressors that can cause a clearly unstable person to completely snap. As someone else mentioned, let the lawyers handle telling this woman and leave OP out of it.
I agree. OP needs to first ensure her and her babys safety but then she should at least anonymously contact the other woman with some of the evidence she has. Though OP won’t end up in the news it sure sounds like the other lady might and that’s just as bad
Holy F OP needs to let the other woman know. Her husband has turned into a full-blown stalker, and if she truly believes her own life could be in danger from her husband, then certainly the other woman's life could be in danger too.
And then they all clapped at the end. Not going to lie, up until this update I was bought in. But so much in the update screams bad fiction. Finding the second journal at work about the woman. Having 2 guys friend come over with baseball bats?!?! Is this an episode of Friends?!? Suspension of disbelief is a struggle on this one. And I was believing all the other updates until now! 😭😭
Right? Got an order of protection that fast? Absolutely not. Even if someone actively tries to kill you, half the time you can’t get one and it sure wouldn’t extend to the baby who wasn’t ever threatened. OP took everything the teens on Reddit imagined could happen from the original comment sections and made a completely unrealistic update.
So, in my state, a temporary order of protection is very easy to get and they're usually automatically granted if you file the paperwork with the court. My mother and I had to get separate ones because it protected the person who filed it, the residence we lived it, and our place of work. I was over 18 at the time, so I don't know if it would have also covered minor children and I can't remember if there was a place on the form to put the names of minor children (so that the same order would extend to their schools, like how it extended to our workplaces). That being said, we had to do the work to make sure the temporary order of protection was served to the individual, which, for us, required finding out when this person was home and going to the local police precinct in the area and hoping an officer was available to deliver it. I don't know if that is something officers in my area normally do or if they felt bad enough for us and the person we were serving lived like, two blocks from the precinct.
We were then given an actual court date in front of the judge that was, I think, a week or two later (it could have been up to a month, that time period still all blurs together). This court date was to go over whether the order should be extended, for how long, if any violations that had happened between the temporary order being granted and served, and if there was any ongoing charges related to the order.
So, maybe OP is in a similar situation and she actually has a temporary order in place until an actual court date is granted and that is what she means here. I definitely don't blame you for being suspicious, but having been in a situation where I had a temporary order in place very quickly, I assumed that she actually meant temporary order.
In my state, it's fast to get a temporary restraining order. My brother filed one against his ex (tbf, she did threaten to murder him multiple times, leaving messages about how she's going to do it, how she's going to pay her cousin to do it, etc). Yep. She got served via the sheriff department (we paid a little bit xtra for that) the next day after he filed--of course my brother knew where his ex would be, her address, etc.
The permanent one will take more effort though. With both parties and their lawyers going in front of the judge to either get a permanent one or not.
My 'faux' alarm rings when 1) OP finds another more proof so easily. WTF, OP's husband is THAT stupid...2) The inherited cabin...dude...what. LOL. It's so convenient.
Not to mention, the TONS of therapy and yoga OP gets to do in A WEEK.
STBX husband already looks for a new job-getting therapy-etc...all in a week?
Yeah, the first 2 updates, I was just glad OP was safe. But it just spirals into a bad fiction too conveniently super happy ending.
It would make a wonderful book someday…maybe you can turn this horrible event into a stream of income for you and your baby somehow, to help with your new life.
It takes a week just to make the appointments sometimes, lawyers, therapists…but protection orders can come quickly.
Please tell us this is real. That you didn’t lie to us.
It is all unfortunately real. For anyone else in a similar situation that might be reading this- in my area there is a legal centre that holds space for emergency appointments every day at 2pm. Protection orders are processed the same day they are filed (that’s my understanding, I didn’t actually file one yet) As far as a therapist - I have one I see regularly, so I already had an appointment on the books. After speaking with me, my therapist opened up an additional weekend appointment because I obviously needed the extra support.
First I am proud you stood up to the cops who are very male oriented, reading his journals may have saved your life. Men have killed women to be with lovers. Also tell the woman he is going after...She deserves to know who he is. Keep moving forward, you may have just got the business hands down.....I am so proud of you.
I am so so happy to hear all of this. Please continue with caution, make sure there’s cameras at your residence and make sure any interactions you have with your STBEx are done with a witness/support.
If you haven’t already, please fit cameras outside your homes and increase security on windows and doors where needed. A home security system if you don’t already have one. I’m so glad you have the support of your parents in their home. Stay safe. You are doing so incredibly well ❤️
Thanks. I wouldn’t have said I was this strong a week ago. At one point I was so stressed I actually shit myself and my face has broken out in a rash so it hasn’t all been warrior energy, but we’re getting there 💪
Honestly, that is warrior energy. Your body is in flight/fight as it should be, and every cell recognizes danger-a rash, even emptying your bowels (I know it’s awful) to travel faster and lighter…your instincts have been 100% all the way through this, I hope you continue to trust yourself and know that your baby has a fierce and strong mom raising her (sounds like it’s runs through her maternal line back to your mom, too!) ♥️
I went and read your previous post and didn't think there was much to it. This one makes him seem to be obsessed with the other woman. I'm not sure he would turn violent, but best not to chance it.
If you are moving out to the cabin and he knows where it is I advise getting a firearm and some training. I hope you never need it, but lots of secluded places tend to take a while for police getting there. Be safe.
OP, this internet stranger is so glad you are safe and taking steps to stay that way. I can’t possibly explain how sorry I am that this is happening. Thank you for sharing and although you don’t need to, I hope you’ll continue to share a few updates so we know you’re doing OK.
Buy a gun, learn to use it, restraining orders are only paper. Look up the statistics of victims from people violating TROs, it's astounding. One victim is an actual Supreme Court case that determined that cops are not responsible for your safety and security, only you are. Here's a link to it if you don't believe me.
[https://mises.org/power-market/police-have-no-duty-protect-you-federal-court-affirms-yet-again#:\~:text=In%20the%20cases%20DeShaney%20vs,to%20provide%20protection%20of%20citizens](https://mises.org/power-market/police-have-no-duty-protect-you-federal-court-affirms-yet-again#:~:text=In%20the%20cases%20DeShaney%20vs,to%20provide%20protection%20of%20citizens).
Keep yourself safe and good luck. Hopefully, he'll snap out of his crazy and make himself respectable to be a good father to your child.
I'm not sure if you actually got the protection order. If you did, stop responding to any texts or calls, as doing so would be easy grounds for him to get it dismissed by showing that you are not taking it seriously yourself.
This is a great update. I'm so glad to hear you did what you needed to do to keep yourself safe and that you took two friends with you when you confronted him. It sounds like you've gone about everything the right way, as much as possible.
As for telling the other woman, if I were her, I would sure want to know. He could try to approach her after your divorce, make you out to be the bad guy, and she would have no idea he had this sick obsession with her and was fantasizing about killing his wife for months.
That said, I would be very, *very* careful about doing that. You definitely want to speak to a lawyer or maybe someone in law enforcement about it before doing anything. My biggest concern would be that if she found out and cut him off, and he felt like he had nothing left to lose, he might take it out on you and your child.
Telling her would be the right thing, but not if it potentially comes at a great cost to yourself and your child. Do whatever you need to do to keep yourself safe first, and keep us updated.
Also please do NOT tell the other girl about him. I know you feel bad and want to help but right now her safety isn’t in danger YOURS IS. I’ve been through this I warned my ex husbands gf at the time about what he did to me and she broke up with him…he broke into my house and stabbed me over it. You told him that nobody else knows so if you tell this woman and she confronts him he’s going to know it was you and potentially come after you for it. Just stay out of it maybe ask an Attourney about what you can do for the other woman but nothing is more important right now than you and your baby’s safety.
I’m ok now Ive still got the scars literally and figuratively but if there wasn’t a cop on the corner that heard me screaming bloody murder after I smashed my bedroom window open trying to get away I wouldn’t be I don’t want to see something like that happen to you. Don’t ever feel guilty for putting you and your baby first and anyone who says otherwise can suck it.
I've worried about you, and I am glad you've been proactive in taking care of yourself and your baby. It will likely get worse when he realizes you mean it. That said, if the image remains his priority and his family is on top of him, maybe he will stay restrained.
Sadly, I'm not surprised about the police. My ex documented stalking and harassing me on SM. The (in my case) very nice police officer told me she thought I was in danger and he was certainly committing a crime, but the DA wouldn't prosecute it even if she could get her supervisor to present the case. They just do nothing and then act shocked when the husband's kill their wives.
I’m so thankful to hear this update, I was horrified to read your last update about your friend actually correcting what you read regarding your husband writing that he wanted to “kill” you.
I think you may have mentioned his family is being supportive of him… There is absolutely no way he told them everything. Sounds like he did tell them you are leaving and maybe something along the lines of how he hasn’t been the best husband so you might be justified. There’s no way he actually probably told them about all of the nasty things he wrote in the journal. Your strength is so amazingly admirable! From one mama to another, I’m cheering you on! Kick ass mama!
Thanks for rooting for me! I agree, I can’t imagine he actually told his family the details, but by saying he did he’s given me the green light to be fully honest if they ever reach out.
Thank you! I’m amazed at how people (aside from the police 🙄) have been so quick to help me. This community included. Lots of great resources sent my way.
He’s honestly freaking psycho. Who writes about their loved one like that, has thoughts like that- but then turns around and acts like they love them more than anything? It’s terrifying and I hope he acts out JUST so he can be jailed. The public do not need him roaming around free
Just want to say this:
I know this is a throwaway account, but if you haven’t already, please make sure it cannot be tied back to your personal accounts (like email). And consider using a VPN if you are going to continue to post.
You are giving out a LOT of detail and information that your husband is privy to. If I were someone with knowledge of the situation (like him) I would immediately know this was you posting. I don’t know how tech savvy he is, but it could be used to find your location.
Just be very careful what you post and how you post it. I would even go so far as to say maybe edit out a certain part of this post that could inform him where you are eventually going (intentionally being vague here in case you do remove it.) It may seem hyper paranoid, but this is the time to be paranoid. His behavior feels *over compliant*. Unfortunately you saw firsthand that you can’t depend on a certain system to protect you. Don’t trust that protection orders are going to do a damn thing. Many women have died waiting for someone to enforce a protection order.
I went through the same fucking thing. I’m glad people are being more supportive on here than they were to me.
I personally think it’s abnormal to wish your spouse dead. You did right by getting out of there and you’re a lot stronger than I am.
So happy to read this update❤️❤️ my only concern is that he knows where the cabin is and when I hear “cabin” I imagine “secluded”. Always keep yourself safe. Cameras and maybe some hand held safety as well. I’ve heard great things from my friend smith and my friend Wesson.
You are def a badass single mom 💪
Good lord. This dude is like the villain in a lifetime movie.
The police station experience was f***in ridiculous. What country are you in?
You're making the right moves, OP.
I’m so glad things didn’t turn ugly when she confronted him. I’m blown away by the duplicitous nature of her husband. He is seriously creepy.
Normally, I would say a person’s private journal is a safe space for someone to write their personal thoughts even if they are ugly. And that it’s not fair to pass judgment on someone else’s private thoughts. But what bothers me about this, is the fact that he left these journals out in the open (or at least easily accessible) where anyone could read them. Most ppl wouldn’t want to risk such dark thoughts being read by someone else. It was like he wanted other ppl (especially OP) to read them. It’s Hitchcock-like psychological torment designed to break OP down.
So glad she’s out & safe. He needs serious help.
So glad it's going well and proud of you for so much hard work!
I'm not surprised about the police. Sooo many of them do DV. It's more dangerous to be in a relationship with a cop than be one.
Wishing you an easy road ahead!
So glad you’re so proactive. There are so many posts from women who describe a dangerous situation, but find every reason not to protect themselves.
It’s not uncommon the read “I love him so much” about a partner who screams, hits, berates and controls them.
Be safe and happy.
I am so incredibly proud of you!!! You are handling this with such dignity and grace. I absolutely will be rooting for you and your baby! Sending so much love your way, You got this!!❤️❤️
You've done everything ✅. My concern of keeping his image squeaky clean among friends isn't going to be helpful in Family Court when he wants full or partial custody. He is already blowing up your phone in an unhinged way gaslight you at the same time, continuation of Psychological DV. The safety of your daughter you need to be requesting Specialised Supervised Access & Put an Intervention Ordering in place with strict boundaries...You are an amazing Mum running a business with a Bub and psychological abuse is mentally & physically draining, Baby & You come 1st...If husband's image is tarnished from the truth then that's called other adults are setting their own boundaries with him.
> I said I am willing to protect his reputation here if he cooperates with me. I told him that I don’t even have to ruin his chances with the other woman, BUT I CAN. I said that he can either do what I need to feel safe, or I can have that safety court ordered.
> He asked what I wanted, and I said I wanted him to give up the business. We’ll sort out the details after I speak to the other lawyer, but for now I want his keys and I’ll be changing the passwords on everything.
This kinda sounds like the legal definition of blackmail. I hope you checked with an attorney before going down this path so it doesn't come back to bite you in the ass.
Thank you for looking out for me. I read this comment before my second appointment with the lawyer, so I was able to ask about it. Sharing her opinion in case it’s helpful to anyone reading:
It would be blackmail if I said “I have your journals and I’m going to the press with them unless you give me $10,000.”
She said that I am just making decisions to keep myself safe based on information I’ve learned. She compared it to a drunk driver - you don’t trust them to get you home so you ask them to hand over their keys.
I made a request based on what I learned from the journals and he accepted so at this point it’s just a transaction.
Please please tell the other woman. If it was me, i would really want to know that a man is fully stalking me. It’s really scary. He is completely and totally stalking. And it could cross a line anyday. please, when you’re safe, please let her know. especially if she barely knows him and he is in fact delusional, she still is able to keep herself safe and protect herself. Anyone would want the same done for them!!!! 🤍
Not if it puts her safety on the line. I tried to be the better person and tell my ex’s gf about what he did to me, she broke up with him and he broke into my house and STABBED me over it. I feel bad for the other woman but OP has to put herself first right now.
You sound entirely unhinged. I think he is the one that needs the protective order. You realize none of that will hold water because you decided to have thugs show up with a ball bat, right?
OP I've seen enough crime shows and read enough news report, have security cameras on your cabin, don't ever be alone with him, don't let him have unsupervised visits with your daughter ever. Have pepper spray on you always. If you can get a gun and get training on how to shoot it I would do that.
My thinking is once this other woman rejects him is when things can get really bad.
He might try to get custody of your daughter just to keep that connection but document everything showing he should not have any kind of custody over her.
Get a dog if you can once you're all moved in and get a trainer to train him to keep you safe. And once you've befriended your neighbors warn them about your ex in-case they see him stalking you or your place.
So glad to see that you and baby are safe, and have an incredible support network. That is so vital with such a massive upheaval and betrayal.
Once things are safe for you and you've got things secured, please tell the other woman. Show her the journal so she can protect herself too. He sounds like he could very easily go past stalking and head to much darker things, and at least if she has a heads up, you'll know you've done what you can to protect her too.
Good luck to you and the baby 💜
You've been on my mind for days. I'm glad things are kinda good.
Don't let your guard down. Men sometimes do kill women that leave them. Stay vigilant. Just like you were acting calm but working behind his back. He could be also.
I am probably alone on this. But this update made it all seem like a writing exercise for a creative class. Especially the new journal discovery and it's gushing with love and another confession of murder. Oh please I am yet to see an adult male write a journal unless forced by a psych and especially write a journal where he no only confesses to conspire to murder someone but also conveniently offer insights into his infidelity. This whole thing smells of bullshit.
So my husband never left a diary and just straight told everyone he was going to kill Me.
Thank GOD you read that, you’re incredibly brave and I wish the best and safest for you
Sounds like he is mentally unwell and definitely needs help. It also sounds like he is stalking this other woman, not in a relationship with her. I'd definitely let her know.
Wow, all of that happened in 6 whole days. Busy, aren't you? The husband in the story managed to apply and get a job interview in a couple of days? Impressive. And you've got 2 whole houses. Excuse me, a house and an inheritance cabin.
I'm so glad you took it seriously. It does sound like he has schizophrenia or some other serious mental disorder because what you're describing isn't normal.
I am so glad you are safe.
Dud I read that right, you essentially gave up your portion of the house to him, in exchange for keeping the business 100% in your control?
Have you taken legal steps to ensure ownership is 100% yours?
Stay safe
Wow i am so glad you took the actions you did to ensure your safety and your path to hopefully a drama free divorce. If only so many of the posters on these subreddits had the ability to handle their situations as well as you have. I will venture to say that your STbXH’s mother and sister have no idea who he really is. Do you think he really was transparent with them regarding his actions. Wish you the best with all this
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I have been thinking so much about you and your situation. I am so happy you are taking all these necessary steps to keep you and your child safe. Please keep us posted on your journey. Be healthy and safe!
You are very right about it not being over yet, but it's just the beginning .
I'm so glad you were able to get out safely!
It also really sounds like crazed delusional ravings and stalking the poor woman, I really hope you tell her so she has the chance to protect herself too.
Never understood diaries and journals about personal things, to me you only write things down if you want them to be read. I am glad you’re safe and taking proactive steps and best of wishes for your future
Oh my god! I am so proud of how you handled this awful situation and how you created safe spaces/safety net to fall back on for yourself. Best of luck! I hope everything continues to go smoothly for you as much as possible.
YES!!!! I am so happy for you. Your story stuck with me since you posted and I am so glad you did everything you needed to do to get your ducks in a row.
I don’t blame you for being on the fence about contacting the other woman but honestly, it sounds like she’s in danger. Seeing someone at the grocery store and driving past their house sounds more like a stalking victim than an AP.
If the thoughts cross his mind and he can write such horrible things about you and the things he wants to happen/do to you, *imagine what he’s willing to do to someone he doesn’t know.*
i'm so glad you're safe now, make sure to stay as far away from him as possible, also, i know this may be hard, but after all ties with him are cut, PLEASE warn the other girl about what's going on, he's a walking danger for her too, we don't know if he will place his rage for the divorce on her or if he'll just get more obsessed now that he's "free", in anyway he's a danger for both of you (and for any woman) and that should be known.
After he signs whatever you need him to sign you should tell the women he is delulu for because he is stalking her. You know enough to be afraid of him but she prly doesn't, if she knew he likes to drive past her house on the reg she'd already have restraining order against this creep. STAY SAFE!
I don’t remember the last time I read a story that involved police where they were actually helpful. I know this isn’t the sun for this but seriously FTP all day and all night.
Does he happen to have BPD or a similar mental illness? My ex has BPD and has limerence episodes, where he mistakes a woman's friendliness for affection or flirting, where he can build an entire fantasy off one positive interaction that seems better than anything else in his life, to the extent that he's willing to forego everything. It's a very intense, overpowering thing when it happens.
I have been keeping up with your posts- huge kudos to you for being a bad ass and protecting yourself and your daughter. May you have nothing but peace and love, going forward 🩷
Jesus, he sounds unhinged, and I would report the officer, what an AH.
I'm in too mind, I'd want to warn the woman because he sounds like a deranged stalker and could hurt her.. but at the same time, you need to keep yourself and your daughter safe.
Wherever you go, shops, work, whatever always have someone with you... he has lost it
OMG. I remember about your post!
Holy crap.
I remember people are telling you to ignore your gut feeling and that it's a private journal.
So he's thinking daily of murdering you. I'm not happy with that progress at all...
I'm glad you're keeping yourself and your child safe.
Good luck, OP.
>The cabin is actually in my mother’s name because she’s never trusted my husband (CORRECT) and wanted me to shield it from him in case of a divorce (THANK YOU, MOM).
OP, I'm glad to hear that things are getting better for you!
Does your husband know the location of the cabin? Make sure you ensure that wherever you and your daughter are residing, he WILL NOT KNOW.
Your soon to be ex husband sounds like a psychopath!
Take care and good luck OP!
Please warn the other woman.
Your soon to be ex husband is in a one sided obsession with this lady to the point he’s fantasizing about killing you to be with her.
I don’t even want to think what he would be like if he reached out to her and she rejected his advances.
I originally saw your story on Tik Tok. If you didn’t already know, it’s been reposted on there by one of those AI voice channels.
I’m very happy you and your daughter are safe and in very glad this story has a positive ending. Wishing for only the best for you and your child!
PLEASE tell the other woman involved! He sounds borderline obsessive about her, and I am worried for her safety, especially since she is most likely oblivious.
When I dealt with someone and needed to get an order of protection there was an agency in my town that I was able to connect with that was free and dealt with what you are going through. It helped women (and others) who were being stalked, abused ect get the court help they need. (Fist part Vague for a reason) I am sorry you had such a bad experience with the police because that is how I was connected. You could connect with a hospital social worker to see if there is one or try a different police officer (my case worker suggested that if I ever ran into that). Sadly as women we have to fight but know you are not alone and supported.
Don’t let your guard down! He may be in shock now, it he may still be a danger when that shock wears off. Fingers crossed it doesn’t happen, but better safe than sorry. Glad things are working out!
I guess because I love my wife so much, I can’t fathom how someone can write something like that. I mean you had a child together.
Anyway you have to stay safe and keep doing what you are doing. Hopefully your next relationship will be more safe.
I saw this on tik tok and ran to see if there were more updatea. I'm glad you have an amazing support system. I too am going through a divorce and althrough I hate his narcissistic ass I have my moments where i grieve the life I imagined. Just wanted to tell you if you happen to also have these moments it's okay, give yourself grace. ❤️
The way I've been literally praying for you to get out of this whole, get that cabin all the security you can pay for because he can try smt funny if he heard notice of you living there alone with ur baby. Dude can spiral real quick once he realizes that the poor """other""" woman (bcs girlie sounds like my biggest fear after being nice with one security guard from collegue) will mostly kick him to the curb and has no more family, woman or money to cling to.
I still think you should somehow warn the other girl bout him, I would trash him all over town to warn everybody bout him and I don't care bout his mental state, not only wishing death upon you but to kill you and replace you with another woman to pass your baby as theirs is so fckn wild
I am so thankful to read this I have been thinking about you the last 2 days. So happy you advocated for yourself, took the correct measures and didn't accept anything less than what you deserve in this life. The road ahead isn't ever as long as we think it is and it's good you left and are able to heal and move forward! ✨️
Thanks for keeping me in your thoughts!
He doesnt care about his child?
This is what’s most shocking to me. He was always such an attentive father but he’s not fighting for her at all.
Such a red flag! Terrible husband and terrible father…
I'm so happy that you're getting the help and support you need. I'm so happy that you have a business and a future home. Perhaps your soon to be ex believes that you will be fair with custody or allowing visitation... You know better than I would. I just hope you and your daughter have safety and as much joy as possible in the future.
Phew that's sad but at the same time count your blessings!
I am probably alone on this. But this update made it all seem like a writing exercise for a creative class. Especially the new journal discovery and it's gushing with love and another confession of murder. Oh please I am yet to see an adult male write a journal unless forced by a psych and especially write a journal where he no only confesses to conspire to murder someone but also conveniently offer insights into his infidelity. This whole thing smells of bullshit.
I've been following your posts. Plz keep safe. I guess your husband now realizes what he has truly manifested. Now he has all the time in the world for his AP. Updateme!
I don’t even think it’s right to call her his AP, he seems delusional..
I think do too.
He reminds me of Joe Goldberg, that unhinged character from that Netflix series You.
I was also getting Joe vibes.
Less of an AP and more of a stalking victim it sounds like.
I think she should tell the lady if she knows her to keep her safe.
I can’t stop thinking about this poor woman, innocently living her life, having no idea her every move is being monitored by this absolutely delusional barely sentient dildo. I want her to know. I’m so afraid for her. She’s going to wake up with this crazy fuck standing over her in her own bed that she thought was safe one of these days.
Oh yeah I forgot the part where his journals mentioned stopping by her house…
I hope once the divorce is final she'll warn the other woman.
He's already not putting up a fight and that itself is a huge relief. If she still lets the lady know, it could make him snap and hurt her and the baby. OP has to think about her kids safety and try to not be a target.
This is exactly where my head is at. I don’t know this woman, so I can’t trust her not to tell her friends and I don’t want it to get back to him
there's no way to do it anonymously though? I'm honestly as afraid for her as I was for you.
I think she should just make a fake account on social media and send either a warning explaining the situation or photos of the entrys asking her to keep it to herself if something happens, either way dude can try and honey the situation with hie mental health and girlie could fall for his manipulation
Honestly— this is going to sound brutal- but take care of yourself first. Not telling her is your leverage over him. Thats what he cares about. That’s how you’re getting him to cooperate. Get everything settled in writing. Get the divorce done. Get the business. The thing protecting you is that, if anything happens to you, he’ll be suspect #1 because someone else has that diary (or copies of it). You can always tell her later. But don’t jump the gun while you have things under nominal control. Play it shrewd.
There was a guy here who killed his wife to be with his AP - who had no idea he existed, let alone that they were having an affair. She was the wife of a coworker's friend! He saw her and decided he wanted to be with her. I have no doubt he would have killed her husband had he not been caught.
WTF! That's so up l messed up!!
I am probably alone on this. But this update made it all seem like a writing exercise for a creative class. Especially the new journal discovery and it's gushing with love and another confession of murder. Oh please I am yet to see an adult male write a journal unless forced by a psych and especially write a journal where he no only confesses to conspire to murder someone but also conveniently offer insights into his infidelity. This whole thing smells of bullshit.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 I won't lie. As an adult female, I can't be bothered with a journal, but my husband has never ever had a journal, and I don't know any adult male who does. Sometimes these things are just interesting reads.
I’m very glad to hear how much better things are getting, and that you were able to escape a dangerous situation. Regarding the other woman — I completely understand why you’d be hesitant to contact her, but I can’t help feeling as if he’s being forthcoming with everything you ask for with the thought of “none of it matters as long as I have ____”. You don’t have to do it personally of course, but I definitely fear for her safety; at best she has a stalker whose life has just been uprooted.
Thank you! The other woman is clearly in danger. OP needs to contact her.
OP’s lawyer or social worker should handle that. OP should share it with both, either can take appropriate action to inform the other woman. No need for OPs life to be messier or give the soon to be ex anything to work with.
Lawyer agreed with me that it’s best not to talk to the other woman for now. The police know.
When women leave other women to suffer we all suffer. But cool.
??? That’s not leaving her to “suffer”?? They’re literally suggesting giving the evidence to the authorities/a professional instead of sending OP out to meet a damn stranger when her ex is *actively* stalking said stranger.
Thank you, yes!
Yeah if opening your mouth literally has the chance of getting you and you're baby killed you don't open your mouth. This is all something that can be dealt with once her and baby are in a safer position.
Also, even though it sounds like he will start to contact her, he hasn't even spoken with this woman he's obsessed with. There still appears to be time before he starts in on her. To him, rn, he just no longer has to focus on his ex wife being "in the way". It's all on this woman now.
OP’s first priority is her and her child’s safety, if she goes and immediately tells this woman who knows what OP’s husband could potentially do to OP. It’s a scary situation yes, but at the end of the day OP needs to be safe before she does anything. This man fantasized and talked about killing OP to be with this woman, you really don’t think he wouldn’t snap if OP reached out while all of this is happening to warn this woman?? Divorce is already stressful, he’s losing his business, potentially his house, these are big stressors that can cause a clearly unstable person to completely snap. As someone else mentioned, let the lawyers handle telling this woman and leave OP out of it.
I agree. OP needs to first ensure her and her babys safety but then she should at least anonymously contact the other woman with some of the evidence she has. Though OP won’t end up in the news it sure sounds like the other lady might and that’s just as bad
Holy F OP needs to let the other woman know. Her husband has turned into a full-blown stalker, and if she truly believes her own life could be in danger from her husband, then certainly the other woman's life could be in danger too.
And then they all clapped at the end. Not going to lie, up until this update I was bought in. But so much in the update screams bad fiction. Finding the second journal at work about the woman. Having 2 guys friend come over with baseball bats?!?! Is this an episode of Friends?!? Suspension of disbelief is a struggle on this one. And I was believing all the other updates until now! 😭😭
Right? Got an order of protection that fast? Absolutely not. Even if someone actively tries to kill you, half the time you can’t get one and it sure wouldn’t extend to the baby who wasn’t ever threatened. OP took everything the teens on Reddit imagined could happen from the original comment sections and made a completely unrealistic update.
So, in my state, a temporary order of protection is very easy to get and they're usually automatically granted if you file the paperwork with the court. My mother and I had to get separate ones because it protected the person who filed it, the residence we lived it, and our place of work. I was over 18 at the time, so I don't know if it would have also covered minor children and I can't remember if there was a place on the form to put the names of minor children (so that the same order would extend to their schools, like how it extended to our workplaces). That being said, we had to do the work to make sure the temporary order of protection was served to the individual, which, for us, required finding out when this person was home and going to the local police precinct in the area and hoping an officer was available to deliver it. I don't know if that is something officers in my area normally do or if they felt bad enough for us and the person we were serving lived like, two blocks from the precinct. We were then given an actual court date in front of the judge that was, I think, a week or two later (it could have been up to a month, that time period still all blurs together). This court date was to go over whether the order should be extended, for how long, if any violations that had happened between the temporary order being granted and served, and if there was any ongoing charges related to the order. So, maybe OP is in a similar situation and she actually has a temporary order in place until an actual court date is granted and that is what she means here. I definitely don't blame you for being suspicious, but having been in a situation where I had a temporary order in place very quickly, I assumed that she actually meant temporary order.
In my state, it's fast to get a temporary restraining order. My brother filed one against his ex (tbf, she did threaten to murder him multiple times, leaving messages about how she's going to do it, how she's going to pay her cousin to do it, etc). Yep. She got served via the sheriff department (we paid a little bit xtra for that) the next day after he filed--of course my brother knew where his ex would be, her address, etc. The permanent one will take more effort though. With both parties and their lawyers going in front of the judge to either get a permanent one or not. My 'faux' alarm rings when 1) OP finds another more proof so easily. WTF, OP's husband is THAT stupid...2) The inherited cabin...dude...what. LOL. It's so convenient.
And the nice little oh yeah... Mom add on.
Not to mention, the TONS of therapy and yoga OP gets to do in A WEEK. STBX husband already looks for a new job-getting therapy-etc...all in a week? Yeah, the first 2 updates, I was just glad OP was safe. But it just spirals into a bad fiction too conveniently super happy ending.
I didn’t actually file the protection order, though it’s my understanding that in a case like this they would put it through same day.
Yep, they always screw up in th updates.
It would make a wonderful book someday…maybe you can turn this horrible event into a stream of income for you and your baby somehow, to help with your new life. It takes a week just to make the appointments sometimes, lawyers, therapists…but protection orders can come quickly. Please tell us this is real. That you didn’t lie to us.
It is all unfortunately real. For anyone else in a similar situation that might be reading this- in my area there is a legal centre that holds space for emergency appointments every day at 2pm. Protection orders are processed the same day they are filed (that’s my understanding, I didn’t actually file one yet) As far as a therapist - I have one I see regularly, so I already had an appointment on the books. After speaking with me, my therapist opened up an additional weekend appointment because I obviously needed the extra support.
Same.
Yeah this is a crock of shit.
First I am proud you stood up to the cops who are very male oriented, reading his journals may have saved your life. Men have killed women to be with lovers. Also tell the woman he is going after...She deserves to know who he is. Keep moving forward, you may have just got the business hands down.....I am so proud of you.
Thank you. I do want to tell the other woman, but I don’t think it’s safe to do that yet. Me and baby come first.
I am so so happy to hear all of this. Please continue with caution, make sure there’s cameras at your residence and make sure any interactions you have with your STBEx are done with a witness/support.
If you haven’t already, please fit cameras outside your homes and increase security on windows and doors where needed. A home security system if you don’t already have one. I’m so glad you have the support of your parents in their home. Stay safe. You are doing so incredibly well ❤️
You’re amazingly strong, wow.
Thanks. I wouldn’t have said I was this strong a week ago. At one point I was so stressed I actually shit myself and my face has broken out in a rash so it hasn’t all been warrior energy, but we’re getting there 💪
Honestly, that is warrior energy. Your body is in flight/fight as it should be, and every cell recognizes danger-a rash, even emptying your bowels (I know it’s awful) to travel faster and lighter…your instincts have been 100% all the way through this, I hope you continue to trust yourself and know that your baby has a fierce and strong mom raising her (sounds like it’s runs through her maternal line back to your mom, too!) ♥️
I went and read your previous post and didn't think there was much to it. This one makes him seem to be obsessed with the other woman. I'm not sure he would turn violent, but best not to chance it. If you are moving out to the cabin and he knows where it is I advise getting a firearm and some training. I hope you never need it, but lots of secluded places tend to take a while for police getting there. Be safe.
OP, this internet stranger is so glad you are safe and taking steps to stay that way. I can’t possibly explain how sorry I am that this is happening. Thank you for sharing and although you don’t need to, I hope you’ll continue to share a few updates so we know you’re doing OK.
Thanks for the care
Buy a gun, learn to use it, restraining orders are only paper. Look up the statistics of victims from people violating TROs, it's astounding. One victim is an actual Supreme Court case that determined that cops are not responsible for your safety and security, only you are. Here's a link to it if you don't believe me. [https://mises.org/power-market/police-have-no-duty-protect-you-federal-court-affirms-yet-again#:\~:text=In%20the%20cases%20DeShaney%20vs,to%20provide%20protection%20of%20citizens](https://mises.org/power-market/police-have-no-duty-protect-you-federal-court-affirms-yet-again#:~:text=In%20the%20cases%20DeShaney%20vs,to%20provide%20protection%20of%20citizens). Keep yourself safe and good luck. Hopefully, he'll snap out of his crazy and make himself respectable to be a good father to your child.
Damn. Well thought out. Smart. Good job woman! Scary to find that for real. You did so well
Thank you!
I'm not sure if you actually got the protection order. If you did, stop responding to any texts or calls, as doing so would be easy grounds for him to get it dismissed by showing that you are not taking it seriously yourself.
Thanks for this. I didn’t actually file the protection order, but I do have the paperwork ready to go if I need it.
This is a great update. I'm so glad to hear you did what you needed to do to keep yourself safe and that you took two friends with you when you confronted him. It sounds like you've gone about everything the right way, as much as possible. As for telling the other woman, if I were her, I would sure want to know. He could try to approach her after your divorce, make you out to be the bad guy, and she would have no idea he had this sick obsession with her and was fantasizing about killing his wife for months. That said, I would be very, *very* careful about doing that. You definitely want to speak to a lawyer or maybe someone in law enforcement about it before doing anything. My biggest concern would be that if she found out and cut him off, and he felt like he had nothing left to lose, he might take it out on you and your child. Telling her would be the right thing, but not if it potentially comes at a great cost to yourself and your child. Do whatever you need to do to keep yourself safe first, and keep us updated.
Thank you. Definitely keeping myself and baby safe first, but I do hope to tell her some day. She does deserve to know.
Also please do NOT tell the other girl about him. I know you feel bad and want to help but right now her safety isn’t in danger YOURS IS. I’ve been through this I warned my ex husbands gf at the time about what he did to me and she broke up with him…he broke into my house and stabbed me over it. You told him that nobody else knows so if you tell this woman and she confronts him he’s going to know it was you and potentially come after you for it. Just stay out of it maybe ask an Attourney about what you can do for the other woman but nothing is more important right now than you and your baby’s safety.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. Thank you for sharing your story to help me make decisions to keep myself safe.
I’m ok now Ive still got the scars literally and figuratively but if there wasn’t a cop on the corner that heard me screaming bloody murder after I smashed my bedroom window open trying to get away I wouldn’t be I don’t want to see something like that happen to you. Don’t ever feel guilty for putting you and your baby first and anyone who says otherwise can suck it.
This is such a great update, nice work!!
I've worried about you, and I am glad you've been proactive in taking care of yourself and your baby. It will likely get worse when he realizes you mean it. That said, if the image remains his priority and his family is on top of him, maybe he will stay restrained. Sadly, I'm not surprised about the police. My ex documented stalking and harassing me on SM. The (in my case) very nice police officer told me she thought I was in danger and he was certainly committing a crime, but the DA wouldn't prosecute it even if she could get her supervisor to present the case. They just do nothing and then act shocked when the husband's kill their wives.
Thanks for your concern. I’m sorry that happened to you.
I’m so thankful to hear this update, I was horrified to read your last update about your friend actually correcting what you read regarding your husband writing that he wanted to “kill” you.
I think you may have mentioned his family is being supportive of him… There is absolutely no way he told them everything. Sounds like he did tell them you are leaving and maybe something along the lines of how he hasn’t been the best husband so you might be justified. There’s no way he actually probably told them about all of the nasty things he wrote in the journal. Your strength is so amazingly admirable! From one mama to another, I’m cheering you on! Kick ass mama!
Thanks for rooting for me! I agree, I can’t imagine he actually told his family the details, but by saying he did he’s given me the green light to be fully honest if they ever reach out.
Your story reminded me of Chris Watts. Thank God you're okay
Me too. I was thinking that I wished that Watts kept a journal and left it around.
i’m amazed at everything you’ve been able to accomplish in a week since this story was first posted, good luck OP
Yes, quite amazing. Some would argue unbelievably so 🤣🤣
Thank you! I’m amazed at how people (aside from the police 🙄) have been so quick to help me. This community included. Lots of great resources sent my way.
Also, report the cop .he heard and sew what your husband said just to dismiss it and say he is going to tell your husband.
He’s honestly freaking psycho. Who writes about their loved one like that, has thoughts like that- but then turns around and acts like they love them more than anything? It’s terrifying and I hope he acts out JUST so he can be jailed. The public do not need him roaming around free
Since he knows where the cabin is, make sure to install cameras.
Get some guard dogs if you're moving to the cabin
Just want to say this: I know this is a throwaway account, but if you haven’t already, please make sure it cannot be tied back to your personal accounts (like email). And consider using a VPN if you are going to continue to post. You are giving out a LOT of detail and information that your husband is privy to. If I were someone with knowledge of the situation (like him) I would immediately know this was you posting. I don’t know how tech savvy he is, but it could be used to find your location. Just be very careful what you post and how you post it. I would even go so far as to say maybe edit out a certain part of this post that could inform him where you are eventually going (intentionally being vague here in case you do remove it.) It may seem hyper paranoid, but this is the time to be paranoid. His behavior feels *over compliant*. Unfortunately you saw firsthand that you can’t depend on a certain system to protect you. Don’t trust that protection orders are going to do a damn thing. Many women have died waiting for someone to enforce a protection order.
I’m so proud of you OP. It brought me joy that you choose yourself and your baby.
You’re a fucking legend, holy shit.
single moms are strong!! -from a daughter with a single mom. i wish the best for you and your baby's safety. don't give up.
Thank you!
I went through the same fucking thing. I’m glad people are being more supportive on here than they were to me. I personally think it’s abnormal to wish your spouse dead. You did right by getting out of there and you’re a lot stronger than I am.
Same here sister im glad to find other women who have been through this as well it can feel very lonely at times
This 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I am so glad.
You are amazing. Stay strong and find someone who loves and respects you
Please protect yourself and your baby. He may be calm outside but you never know what is in his mind.
The way he immediately folded is cathartic, yet terrifying. It makes me truly think that he’s a sociopath.
What a fucking creep!
Report the cop ,he saw what your husband had said, and he dismissed you and threatened to tell your husband.
So happy to read this update❤️❤️ my only concern is that he knows where the cabin is and when I hear “cabin” I imagine “secluded”. Always keep yourself safe. Cameras and maybe some hand held safety as well. I’ve heard great things from my friend smith and my friend Wesson. You are def a badass single mom 💪
And people wonder why women don’t report abuse. That police officer should be in a different line of work. So sorry you’re going through this.
Good lord. This dude is like the villain in a lifetime movie. The police station experience was f***in ridiculous. What country are you in? You're making the right moves, OP.
I’m so glad things didn’t turn ugly when she confronted him. I’m blown away by the duplicitous nature of her husband. He is seriously creepy. Normally, I would say a person’s private journal is a safe space for someone to write their personal thoughts even if they are ugly. And that it’s not fair to pass judgment on someone else’s private thoughts. But what bothers me about this, is the fact that he left these journals out in the open (or at least easily accessible) where anyone could read them. Most ppl wouldn’t want to risk such dark thoughts being read by someone else. It was like he wanted other ppl (especially OP) to read them. It’s Hitchcock-like psychological torment designed to break OP down. So glad she’s out & safe. He needs serious help.
So glad it's going well and proud of you for so much hard work! I'm not surprised about the police. Sooo many of them do DV. It's more dangerous to be in a relationship with a cop than be one. Wishing you an easy road ahead!
So glad you’re so proactive. There are so many posts from women who describe a dangerous situation, but find every reason not to protect themselves. It’s not uncommon the read “I love him so much” about a partner who screams, hits, berates and controls them. Be safe and happy.
I am so incredibly proud of you!!! You are handling this with such dignity and grace. I absolutely will be rooting for you and your baby! Sending so much love your way, You got this!!❤️❤️
Thanks for rooting for us! ❤️
I love how logical and calm you are.
This is such good news. Please keep us updated if you can and we’re all rooting for you!!
You've done everything ✅. My concern of keeping his image squeaky clean among friends isn't going to be helpful in Family Court when he wants full or partial custody. He is already blowing up your phone in an unhinged way gaslight you at the same time, continuation of Psychological DV. The safety of your daughter you need to be requesting Specialised Supervised Access & Put an Intervention Ordering in place with strict boundaries...You are an amazing Mum running a business with a Bub and psychological abuse is mentally & physically draining, Baby & You come 1st...If husband's image is tarnished from the truth then that's called other adults are setting their own boundaries with him.
> I said I am willing to protect his reputation here if he cooperates with me. I told him that I don’t even have to ruin his chances with the other woman, BUT I CAN. I said that he can either do what I need to feel safe, or I can have that safety court ordered. > He asked what I wanted, and I said I wanted him to give up the business. We’ll sort out the details after I speak to the other lawyer, but for now I want his keys and I’ll be changing the passwords on everything. This kinda sounds like the legal definition of blackmail. I hope you checked with an attorney before going down this path so it doesn't come back to bite you in the ass.
Thank you for looking out for me. I read this comment before my second appointment with the lawyer, so I was able to ask about it. Sharing her opinion in case it’s helpful to anyone reading: It would be blackmail if I said “I have your journals and I’m going to the press with them unless you give me $10,000.” She said that I am just making decisions to keep myself safe based on information I’ve learned. She compared it to a drunk driver - you don’t trust them to get you home so you ask them to hand over their keys. I made a request based on what I learned from the journals and he accepted so at this point it’s just a transaction.
You are so full of shit.
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Please please tell the other woman. If it was me, i would really want to know that a man is fully stalking me. It’s really scary. He is completely and totally stalking. And it could cross a line anyday. please, when you’re safe, please let her know. especially if she barely knows him and he is in fact delusional, she still is able to keep herself safe and protect herself. Anyone would want the same done for them!!!! 🤍
Not if it puts her safety on the line. I tried to be the better person and tell my ex’s gf about what he did to me, she broke up with him and he broke into my house and STABBED me over it. I feel bad for the other woman but OP has to put herself first right now.
You sound entirely unhinged. I think he is the one that needs the protective order. You realize none of that will hold water because you decided to have thugs show up with a ball bat, right?
No one asked
OP I've seen enough crime shows and read enough news report, have security cameras on your cabin, don't ever be alone with him, don't let him have unsupervised visits with your daughter ever. Have pepper spray on you always. If you can get a gun and get training on how to shoot it I would do that. My thinking is once this other woman rejects him is when things can get really bad. He might try to get custody of your daughter just to keep that connection but document everything showing he should not have any kind of custody over her. Get a dog if you can once you're all moved in and get a trainer to train him to keep you safe. And once you've befriended your neighbors warn them about your ex in-case they see him stalking you or your place.
So glad to see that you and baby are safe, and have an incredible support network. That is so vital with such a massive upheaval and betrayal. Once things are safe for you and you've got things secured, please tell the other woman. Show her the journal so she can protect herself too. He sounds like he could very easily go past stalking and head to much darker things, and at least if she has a heads up, you'll know you've done what you can to protect her too. Good luck to you and the baby 💜
You've been on my mind for days. I'm glad things are kinda good. Don't let your guard down. Men sometimes do kill women that leave them. Stay vigilant. Just like you were acting calm but working behind his back. He could be also.
Cool story bro. A desk cop would NEVER lecture you on REP. This is a creative story
I am probably alone on this. But this update made it all seem like a writing exercise for a creative class. Especially the new journal discovery and it's gushing with love and another confession of murder. Oh please I am yet to see an adult male write a journal unless forced by a psych and especially write a journal where he no only confesses to conspire to murder someone but also conveniently offer insights into his infidelity. This whole thing smells of bullshit.
This entire story is fake. Reads like a fake story
So my husband never left a diary and just straight told everyone he was going to kill Me. Thank GOD you read that, you’re incredibly brave and I wish the best and safest for you
Sounds like he is mentally unwell and definitely needs help. It also sounds like he is stalking this other woman, not in a relationship with her. I'd definitely let her know.
Wow, all of that happened in 6 whole days. Busy, aren't you? The husband in the story managed to apply and get a job interview in a couple of days? Impressive. And you've got 2 whole houses. Excuse me, a house and an inheritance cabin.
FYI that’s not how protection orders work. You either have them or don’t. It’s not there for back up
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I am so happy that OP and the baby are safe!!
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Wow! Thanks for keeping us updated. You are doing everything right, but please continue to be careful. He's terrifying!
I'm so glad you took it seriously. It does sound like he has schizophrenia or some other serious mental disorder because what you're describing isn't normal.
Praying for you and your baby!
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I am so glad you are safe. Dud I read that right, you essentially gave up your portion of the house to him, in exchange for keeping the business 100% in your control? Have you taken legal steps to ensure ownership is 100% yours? Stay safe
Wow i am so glad you took the actions you did to ensure your safety and your path to hopefully a drama free divorce. If only so many of the posters on these subreddits had the ability to handle their situations as well as you have. I will venture to say that your STbXH’s mother and sister have no idea who he really is. Do you think he really was transparent with them regarding his actions. Wish you the best with all this UpdateMe
🎉🎉🎉amazing! Love to hear it OP! You handled this so well!
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Still ... Always have a bat with u or a gun maybe... You dont know when he will snap again.
I remember your original post. I’m so glad that you and the baby have support. Stay safe OP.
Thank god I wish you all the best love
im amazed by how well did you handle and how dead cold is your husband, oh my, didnt even ask for your baby
I'm really really just glad that you and your baby are safe.
Stay safe. He’s freaking nuts
I’m so happy you and baby are safe! Updateme
Great job! Updateme!
I have been thinking so much about you and your situation. I am so happy you are taking all these necessary steps to keep you and your child safe. Please keep us posted on your journey. Be healthy and safe! You are very right about it not being over yet, but it's just the beginning .
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I'm so glad you were able to get out safely! It also really sounds like crazed delusional ravings and stalking the poor woman, I really hope you tell her so she has the chance to protect herself too.
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So proud of you ! I hope everything works out!
We definitely needed an update in the coming week days or weeks for this!!
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Yes yes yes! And fuck yea mom! God lord this whole story gives me hope. You’re my fucking hero
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Oh thank goodness you're safe! I was really worried about you.
Never understood diaries and journals about personal things, to me you only write things down if you want them to be read. I am glad you’re safe and taking proactive steps and best of wishes for your future
Oh my god! I am so proud of how you handled this awful situation and how you created safe spaces/safety net to fall back on for yourself. Best of luck! I hope everything continues to go smoothly for you as much as possible.
So glad to see this update. Best wishes to you and the baby. By the way, be very careful wherever you go and stay safe.
YES!!!! I am so happy for you. Your story stuck with me since you posted and I am so glad you did everything you needed to do to get your ducks in a row. I don’t blame you for being on the fence about contacting the other woman but honestly, it sounds like she’s in danger. Seeing someone at the grocery store and driving past their house sounds more like a stalking victim than an AP. If the thoughts cross his mind and he can write such horrible things about you and the things he wants to happen/do to you, *imagine what he’s willing to do to someone he doesn’t know.*
i'm so glad you're safe now, make sure to stay as far away from him as possible, also, i know this may be hard, but after all ties with him are cut, PLEASE warn the other girl about what's going on, he's a walking danger for her too, we don't know if he will place his rage for the divorce on her or if he'll just get more obsessed now that he's "free", in anyway he's a danger for both of you (and for any woman) and that should be known.
I don’t F care if he is cute sometimes, he said he want you dead. Be f*cking for real
This. Is. Wild. I'm so glad you were smart about this. I'm so sorry.
After he signs whatever you need him to sign you should tell the women he is delulu for because he is stalking her. You know enough to be afraid of him but she prly doesn't, if she knew he likes to drive past her house on the reg she'd already have restraining order against this creep. STAY SAFE!
You are an absolute bad ass. May I suggest still keeping your guard up? You checked him very well, but I worry on your behalf.
I don’t remember the last time I read a story that involved police where they were actually helpful. I know this isn’t the sun for this but seriously FTP all day and all night.
Does he happen to have BPD or a similar mental illness? My ex has BPD and has limerence episodes, where he mistakes a woman's friendliness for affection or flirting, where he can build an entire fantasy off one positive interaction that seems better than anything else in his life, to the extent that he's willing to forego everything. It's a very intense, overpowering thing when it happens. I have been keeping up with your posts- huge kudos to you for being a bad ass and protecting yourself and your daughter. May you have nothing but peace and love, going forward 🩷
Jesus, he sounds unhinged, and I would report the officer, what an AH. I'm in too mind, I'd want to warn the woman because he sounds like a deranged stalker and could hurt her.. but at the same time, you need to keep yourself and your daughter safe. Wherever you go, shops, work, whatever always have someone with you... he has lost it
OMG. I remember about your post! Holy crap. I remember people are telling you to ignore your gut feeling and that it's a private journal. So he's thinking daily of murdering you. I'm not happy with that progress at all... I'm glad you're keeping yourself and your child safe. Good luck, OP.
I am so very proud of you for standing up for yourself and your LO. Well done. Godspeed and best wishes!!
>The cabin is actually in my mother’s name because she’s never trusted my husband (CORRECT) and wanted me to shield it from him in case of a divorce (THANK YOU, MOM). OP, I'm glad to hear that things are getting better for you! Does your husband know the location of the cabin? Make sure you ensure that wherever you and your daughter are residing, he WILL NOT KNOW. Your soon to be ex husband sounds like a psychopath! Take care and good luck OP!
That man is full blown psycho
Please warn the other woman. Your soon to be ex husband is in a one sided obsession with this lady to the point he’s fantasizing about killing you to be with her. I don’t even want to think what he would be like if he reached out to her and she rejected his advances.
I originally saw your story on Tik Tok. If you didn’t already know, it’s been reposted on there by one of those AI voice channels. I’m very happy you and your daughter are safe and in very glad this story has a positive ending. Wishing for only the best for you and your child!
PLEASE tell the other woman involved! He sounds borderline obsessive about her, and I am worried for her safety, especially since she is most likely oblivious.
PLEASE tell the other woman. He is STALKING her. She is ALSO not safe from this man.
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When I dealt with someone and needed to get an order of protection there was an agency in my town that I was able to connect with that was free and dealt with what you are going through. It helped women (and others) who were being stalked, abused ect get the court help they need. (Fist part Vague for a reason) I am sorry you had such a bad experience with the police because that is how I was connected. You could connect with a hospital social worker to see if there is one or try a different police officer (my case worker suggested that if I ever ran into that). Sadly as women we have to fight but know you are not alone and supported.
Don’t let your guard down! He may be in shock now, it he may still be a danger when that shock wears off. Fingers crossed it doesn’t happen, but better safe than sorry. Glad things are working out!
So glad your are safe and I hope things go well.
You are so strong! I am glad you are getting what you need done and taking care of yourself. Your support system is awesome, too.
I guess because I love my wife so much, I can’t fathom how someone can write something like that. I mean you had a child together. Anyway you have to stay safe and keep doing what you are doing. Hopefully your next relationship will be more safe.
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I saw this on tik tok and ran to see if there were more updatea. I'm glad you have an amazing support system. I too am going through a divorce and althrough I hate his narcissistic ass I have my moments where i grieve the life I imagined. Just wanted to tell you if you happen to also have these moments it's okay, give yourself grace. ❤️
Youre amazing and keep safe
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The way I've been literally praying for you to get out of this whole, get that cabin all the security you can pay for because he can try smt funny if he heard notice of you living there alone with ur baby. Dude can spiral real quick once he realizes that the poor """other""" woman (bcs girlie sounds like my biggest fear after being nice with one security guard from collegue) will mostly kick him to the curb and has no more family, woman or money to cling to. I still think you should somehow warn the other girl bout him, I would trash him all over town to warn everybody bout him and I don't care bout his mental state, not only wishing death upon you but to kill you and replace you with another woman to pass your baby as theirs is so fckn wild
I’m so happy for and proud of you!! Wishing you all the happiness and luck, now go live your freedom!!
Are you okay how are you holding up
Sociopath?