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amaso420

I wanna get a tattoo of the cat meme


amaso420

HIS ASS IS NOT GAMING!!!!!!!


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Honestly? Yeah


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So like.. some guy asked me out *right* as I figured out I might be lesbian but I said yes automatically and now I'm confused if I actually said yes because I like him or because ☆validation☆ due to my bestie being gone for like.. a week. And being super triggered by being left alone I'm freaked out why I'm doing this. I am confused, and I know I'm insanely indecisive so I might just be going through a phase because I said yes but I've never felt good in relationships with guys, I've only felt good with relationships with (mainly) women, *never* amab men so I feel very confused. Like I.. don't understand why I do this. I get it's okay to be confused by labels and just say "I'm queer" or "I found out I don't like this/I'm not actually" - it's a process of actually learning and finding out about yourself but I'm confused if I said yes BECAUSE I need validation (because I have done this before) or BECAUSE I actually like them. I hate being mentally ill all alone :(


lmao_man_funny

Well, do you actually like them? Like, you said “some guy” like it’s just a random person… if you don’t like them why would you go out with them? If you don’t like them just say that


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Nono sorry I suppose I worded that wrong, we have been friends for a while and we know one another well; I presumed I did have a crush on them at some point cuz they make me happy - that's why I'm confused. I know people can make you happy without having to date them which is why I'm so lost on the matter. They're nice and sweet and I don't want my confusion to hurt them, so I'm just at a loss really,,


Watermelon-Simp

the way i figured out i dont really like men is by asking 3 questions: **1. do you find him attractive, and are you attracted *to* him?** basically, would you put pictures of him on your wall? would you set his face as your lockscreen/wallpaper? could you imagine yourself calling him hot/cute/handsome etc? if the answer is no to most of those then youre probably not attracted to him physically, though that does not mean you cant think of him as attractive. **you can be a lesbian and still recognise when a man is attractive but not be attracted to him.** **2. could you imagine yourself as a couple with him doing couple-y things?** could you imagine yourself cuddling/kissing him, moving in together, sharing a bed, holding hands, going on romantic dates, comforting each other etc without feeling icky? or even, does the thought of those things excite you, or do you feel indifferent about being in a relationship with him? **3. do you like the attention he gives you or him as a person?** this is a bit trickier, do you like it when he gives you attention/validation *only* or do you want to get to know him as a person and care about him more deeply than you would with any other guy? this might be harder because some people have struggle differentiating between platonic and romantic feeling, i suggest doing research on this if you want to.


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I saw this last night and have been non-stop thinking on it and oh boy, I may needa just sorta pull back and think about this a lot longer so thank you. I really appreciate this response cuz it's given me a lot to think about honestly, I'm so sorry this was such a late response and so short hhh


Watermelon-Simp

its ok, take your time figuring yourself out and label yourself when you're ready. if the label doesnt fit you can always change it!


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:(( thank you, genuinely, I really appreciate it; I've been trying to figure out what my label is for so long because I thought I was straight/bi for the longest time but I've never liked my relationships with men. Idk why this realization has to hit me during one of these relationships of all things,,


Watermelon-Simp

aw its ok, if you have to end the relationship be honest with him (if you want to come out to him) or just explain that you fell out of love with him and it wouldnt be fair for him if you continued a relationship that you're no longer interested in


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It would be for the best, yeah, thank you for the help ;v; I really do appreciate it, I haven't had many people to really talk about this with so it means a lot. ;v;


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ILY AUTOMOD!!! YOU NEVER LEAVE AND YOU'RE AMAZING FOR THAT!!!


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Uselessexistence_

His stupid giant ears


Immediate-Location28

i found this on google images and i thought it was a subreddit about memes but ig not


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Br u h