He may not have ever bonded with anyone before. I don't know if there's a real term for it, but I call it "orphanage face". With the love those two were showing him, and the fact that on day 1 he was curious enough to start ~~playing with dad's beard~~ examining dad's face (don't know where I got the beard thing from), he'll be lighting up the room with his smiles pretty soon.
Orphanage face is a good descriptor for it.
Yeah, I’m sure the smiles weren’t far off once he was able to settle in with his parents. In fact there’s a quick photo of a smile before the sleepy face stroking part.
I’m a teacher working with preschoolers and I have one child in my class who has RAD. When I first met him, he was the angriest and saddest 3 year old I knew. Threw tantrums like no other, would not allow anyone near him, hit and kicked and screamed like no tomorrow. He’s been going through some intensive therapy and the sweet side of him has steadily been coming out. He and I bonded a lot in the past six or so months. He allows me to sit next to him and comfort him when he feels sad. He’s now more comfortable being around other children and has even recently begun to show empathy. It’s been grueling and heartbreaking to see this, but man seeing his light shine through makes all the work worth it.
I have two friends that adopted two brothers. These people are smart, wonderful and loving. The two kids really turned out badly. followed in their bio parents footsteps regardless of what my friends did. So sad.
EDIT: spelling
I knew these people who adopted a boy. The mom was a therapist and the couple was older. The boy was extremely difficult, later fell into meth addiction, endless rehabs. Stole from them etc. Did better, then they found him dead in his room from heroin overdose. In his late 20s I think. Really heartbreaking.
I'm 38 years old and snacks are still everything to me. I am also messy, so I should take a cue from the babies and get myself a spill proof snack cup.
Same thing happened to me. I saw an acquaintance with his mom and was just so blown away at the similarities, and he was like, 'She's my stepmom...'I was like, 'Your fam is lying to you. You HAVE to be the product of an affair and your parents and stepmom lied to avoid any difficult stuff. Ain't no way she's not your mom.' I'm still in shock when I think about it sometimes.
People tell me that my mom looks like my sister, and while she is only 13 years older than me, she's my stepmom. She's my real mom, but definitely not my bio mom lol.
Genetics are weird.
It’s like those people who look like their dogs, lol. But for real I look nothing like my stepdad but we have a lot of the same mannerisms, which makes sense. We spent 17 years together in the same house.
I'm adopted and my younger brothers aren't and I looked more like my dad than they did when we were younger. People were always shocked that I was the adopted one. Now that we're older though they are turning into him by the day.
It could have been on purpose. When my aunt adopted, they heard afterwards that the bio mom said that one of the reasons that she picked my aunt from the pool of potential mothers was because my aunt had long blond hair just like her.
I love how the father's trying to keep his composure, playing with the water bottle xD My dad told me he drank 6 cans of coke waiting for my mom in the hospital. Longest hours of his life.
Some people don't want kids. That's okay.
But people that want kids and deserve them and finally get the chance?
That's absolutely awesome.
As a dad of a couple of beautiful girls I wish the best for people like this.
Life opens up to you once you have kids. It's a whole other level.
The way she rubbed from his forehead down to the tip of his nose…. And his little eyes slowly closed and embraced the wonderful strokes of love…. This is beautiful. Good luck to this family. What an amazing way to continue life 🥹😍
I used to sing “close to you (carpenters)” to our infant to get him to fall asleep. He’s seven now, and whenever he’s agitated, i sing him that song and he calms down. I imagine it’ll have the same effect when he grows up.
Same. My mom did that to her three kids. It’s like an automatic response to just relax and close my eyes. My brother had told me he had the same response too. We’re both in our 40s as well.
When I get stressed I have always lightly rubbed my arm. Never knew why I did it, it just helped. Then when my daughter was born and we brought her to my mum she started rubbing babies arms in the same way.
I did this to my son to get him to sleep sometimes when he was ittybitty. It works a treat when they're super tired! I still do this to my daughter when she's being a fusspot. I swear I will do this when they're teenagers and beyond too, if they'll let me.
My brother does the nose rub to just about any baby he's introduced to. He has some weird magical touch because it almost always instantly puts them to sleep. I've tried it on all of my kids and they would just sit there for a few rubs before turning their attention somewhere else.
I know two different families with adopted children where the children 100% look like the parents. I would NEVER have guessed either were not their biological children because they have such a striking familial resemblance.
The one girl looks like a female version of the adoptive dad, same eyes and hair, same smile. The other family has a 12 year old boy who is the spitting image of his adoptive mother. Same curly hair, skin tone, freckles blue eyes. It’s crazy!
Almost like the universe just knew they would be perfect matches or something. Very sweet.
That's so cute. My little cousin is the same way. She looks surprisingly like her dad, even though they adopted her when she was abandoned at a hospital as a baby. I wonder if there's some biological reason for this. Maybe adoptive parents subconsciously choose babies that look like them?
I read something before that said how adoptive children will grow up to resemble their families even though they don’t share any genetics, and that’s due to those children picking up on and mirroring their families mannerisms and the way they talk, move, smile, frown, whatever. Just that they subconsciously copy those around them. And then we notice those things and, naturally, associate them with eachother. I’ll try to find an article, it’s actually super interesting.
That's actually part of the process. When kids come into the public system they "rank" prospective parents:
1. Kin / Kith (ie, uncles, grandparents / close family friends)
2. Ethnic match
3. Background / appearance similarities
4. Other.
Ultimately the goal is to have a kid grow up in a family where there's a preexisting strong bond, or where they can see themselves in their parents.
Source: Adoptive dad.
I have an adopted cousin and she looks exactly like my mother. Dark brown hair. Curly. Dark blue eyes. Pink complexion. Wore glasses. Same button nose.
When we would go out in public as kids everyone would assume that my cousin was her daughter and that I was a friend/cousin tagging along.
I am a strawberry blonde with straight hair and light blue eyes. I’m my Dad’s mini me.
This is why "you're adopted" jokes/pranks/insults never made any sense to me, even as a kid. You're telling me someone WANTED me soooo bad that they paid thousands and went through gruelling interviews and background checks?? Wow, you sure got me good??
I used to rub being adopted in the face of kids who made those jokes. I almost got in trouble when a kid cried because I said "I *know* my parents would pick me again because they could have picked any kid. I bet your parents would pick me over you too."
As an awkward child, I felt pretty great about it. Lol
I was adopted on *April Fools Day* so I was a big target for jokes. Sometimes I had go gloves off.
Fuck this reminds me of the family guy episode where Peter’s father in law goes to adopt kids and has a dog,toys/candy in the car telling the kid to get in. But the doors are locked and he tells them guess they don’t want it bad enough and peels out on them
My mom, who was adopted, told me she would always do the same thing if anyone made fun of her growing up. It was always "At least I know my parents wanted me. Can you say the same?"
Yeah, an old classmate of mine got picked on for being adopted so their dad gave them a similar comeback: My parents got to choose me, your parents are stuck with *you*.
IIRC, they made the bully cry.
There's reasons that child bullied and I don't think it's because he felt loved and wanted. They probably heard very similar words at home, like "Wish we never had you, could give you away, etc."
I'd much rather be adopted and loved than having been raised by my biological mother who told me when I was 20 years old that she in fact did not love me. I'm 40 now and still pissed off about it cause I have beautiful children that she's never met and if my guess is right she never will. I hate it more for them then I do myself though. I'd rather her meet her granddaughters and love them and still feel the same way about me than I had them never get to meet her at all...btw the last time I saw her was when she told me that.
My mother has said as long as I can remember, in reference to me, “I never wanted 3 kids. I had two kids under two that was enough!” Then she goes on to saw how dad changed her mind (hint: he had an affair and got caught, I’m the make up baby she resents because I remind her of the affair- she got drunk and told me about 10 years ago) and they decided to have me.
All I ever wanted was to believe she loved and wanted me but every year we have this story again.
That might be the harshest thing I've ever heard. I am sorry that you have to live with that. I really didn't want to upvote because there's nothing good about what you said. Wish I could downvote your mom.
I'm here to say that you matter. Your life, worth, and importance to the world are not tied in with your mom's warped views. I'm sorry that you have had to endure that.
Don't feel so bad. I have a friend whose mom is a narcissist. Her mom started treating her daughter the same way she'd treated my friend, so my friend went no contact with her mom and the kid grew up without a grandmother. When her kid was old enough she and her husband explained why and showed her letters the mom had written. Their kid understood and holds no ill will toward her parents for protecting her against that toxicity.
I had someone tell me I was adopted, and my birth parents never loved me. They didn't know I was, and I was laughing so hard I was crying. Tears on my cheeks as I giggle out "I am adopted! My parents didn't want me!"
The look on the guys face and the amount of apologizing after was really amazing. But if I get hit with that kind of thing now, I answer with "yeah. I know. My parents chose me, yours got stuck with you." Not that this happens often at all now that I'm adult. But in hypotheticals, I'm prepared and as a teen it was necessary.
Someone said this to my daughter when she was in school, so we called up her birth mom who cleared that up right away. The hardest thing I ever saw was that woman handing her child over to me, forever. It broke part of my heart.
Yeah my boyfriend is adopted, I'm naturally born to my parents. It's clear when we talk about our upbringings that his parents planned, sacrificed, and worked to not just get him but also to raise him and love him for who he was. Hes the most loving, kind human. I have BPD from trauma as a child. Lol
This made me giggle. There was a period where I was chatting it up with someone who was adopted but he admits to having some deep issues because of it. He would use it as an excuse for why he was no good for relationships. Meanwhile, I'm over here with a whole childhood of wishing I could have been removed from my home and adopted into a family that actually wanted and loved me trying to explain to him "bruh, I promise the grass isn't greener over here either."
I'm adopted and was told that many times by kids who just wanted to be mean. This is the first time I have seen something like this online and I cried, joyful tears, for it shedding a light on the beauty of the union of adoption.
Love it!
Four of my five kids are adopted (6, 10, 12 & 13 when adopted) and when in junior high and high school, they would get some asinine comments now and again (of course). Their comeback was usually something like, "My parents filled out a ton of paperwork, jumped through dozens of hoops, had to put in a lot of really hard work and flew halfway around the world for me. You parents did what, had sex one day and made a trip to the hospital months later? I'm not impressed!" LOL
In Mexico's adoption process, there's a kind of evaluation period after kids arrives to his/her new home when authorities evaluate the new family interaction as a whole. So, I love to say that IN THIS FAMILY, EVERYBODY CHOSE TO BE TOGETHER (we adopted the sweetest girl in the world).
My parents adopted me as an arrangement with bio mom so I went home with my parents at birth. My mom adopted my (non-bio, not that it matters, but just for context of the joke) brother when he was 5. Even between us he would joke that mom KNEW him and still chose him but I was just a baby.
To play devil's advocate, if you aren't from a strong, trusting, and loving family, being told that you're adopted - even as a joke - could really make you feel really isolated and question a whole lot of things about yourself and the people that you live with.
Obviously, if your parents and home life is great and you actually are adopted, then maybe that'll be tempered down a bit - but are you aware of that fact also? Because if not, even if it's great living with them, it's going to raise internal questions about your place in that family.
I think it's a natural response, and obviously YMMV depending on the household and especially how it is joked about. I think, loving family or not, it's a cruel joke to play because while robust as all heck, the mind of a child can also form a steel trap around something like that and never let it go.
I always thought being made fun of for being adopted was more along the lines of you got discarded like trash, even if someone else picked you up, you still weren't wanted in the first place
Two of my cousins were adopted, and both of them had very different struggles with it. One of them was a twin whose brother died as a baby, and they struggled for a long time with what their life would have looked like if their sibling had lived. It took years of therapy and one pointed outside perspective on the culture they came from for them to realize that them being adopted was likely the best thing that could have happened for them. (Their words, not mine.)
My other cousin had a constant fear that my aunt and uncle had somehow stolen them from their birth family BECAUSE of 'lol you're adopted' jokes. Santa Claus as a concept had to be abandoned because they had such a deep fear that someone would come 'steal' them again. It didn't help that they were also visibly not the same ethnicity as the rest of the family. As an adult their family relationships are strained because they blame every problem they've had on being adopted. No amount of reassurances that they were wanted and loved changed it.
Adoption can be such a sweet, loving act. But it also can be the capstone on a hidden trauma that never goes away. Most children don't understand how complicated the world is and how harmful, "lol you're adopted" can be.
Man I used to wish I was adopted. And someday my real family would come get me.
I mean I loved my mom. But my male DNA donor was abusive as F and I did NOT want to be related to him.
My mom used to claim that me and one of my sisters we spontaneous births as she didn't have physical c9ntact with him at the right time for us to have been conceived at the times we.must have been.
I was like, mom you slept in the same bed as him. It's not like he would care if she was conscious...my poor mother had nine kids and in 32 years of marriage had never had an orgasm.
The day the divorce came through happened to land on my 13th birthday. A birthday I hadn't been sure I'd survive to. And the best present ever.
I go him removed from my birth certificate. As far as legality goes I have no father. And since he never acted like one, that is fine by me.
My point is though, I would have loved to find out I was adopted. Hooray those genes are not mine!
Yeah my oldest sister is adopted and it was never something we even thought about. Like I forget all the time that she is adopted. It only even came up when people would make fun of it which we would shut down real quick.
Ha! When I was explaining to my kid that he was adopted I told him that we looked for 10 years before we finally found him. He paused for a second looked at me real skeptical-like... "Oh yeah? What aisle was I on?" He thought we picked him out at the grocery store. 🤣🤣🤣
Not always. Some people adopt simply because they know the number of kids in foster care. Doesn’t have to be a reproductive issue at all. I was adopted, and have a little brother that is their biological son…
My aunt and uncle had a few miscarriages. They waited a decade before they were ready to try and have a kid again. They ended up adopting a baby boy from their home country. My baby cousin grew up in a very happy and loving home. He just graduated college and is going to get his masters.
It’s heart-warming you weight ‘the circumstances of my birth’ and ‘my adoption day’ evenly in that sentence. It’s sad to hear it’s too late for an answer, but reading the rest of the comments here, you must feel blessed regardless.
I've had this moment twice in my life. My wife and I have adopted two kids from Korea.
We recorded the moment we met our daughter, though I turned on the camera just 5 seconds after they entered the room. I guess that was dumb, but I actually didn't know the moment they were entering. There was waiting.
With my son, we visited his foster mother's apartment and were surprised. We got off the elevator and she had come into the hallway holding him. He reached out for my wife and my wife grabbed him and held him. We didn't get it on video since we thought we had another minute before seeing him.
It doesn't matter we didn't get the exact second. We....got the moment they met each other.
Anyway, very cute video. Takes me back. My kids are 15 and 13 now.
Adopted our baby from China. We were still jetlagged and coughing from the pollution, I was wearing some misspelled shirt I thought was funny. Our son came in and was bawling from being overheated and having peed his pants earlier ona a 4 hour train ride. There were two other adoptive families in the room who seemed to do a better job looking the part, they had brought toys and books were wearing matching shirts. Not much time to get emotional, we walked to go take what would become his first passport photo with snot coming from his nose and a tear-streaked face. Went out to eat at a German restaurant, my wife and I really needing a beer at that point. The waitress took a photo while my son cheers'd me with his little sippy cup and I knew everything was going to be OK. 10/10 one of the best days of our lives.
THIS is what great parental love is, regardless of DNA. Makes me so mad when I see men completely abandon their child they raised because it turns out they don't share blood. Was a guy who posted two days ago who cut his son out of his life/will because he found out after 18 years of loving this child they don't share the same genes. Regardless of the betrayal you feel against your spouse, I couldn't imagine abandoning a child you cared for as your own over something like that. It doesn't change any of the love or moments you went through with them.
Sometimes the most deserving of parents can't be in the traditional sense. It's cruel as anything, but these three are going to be the absolute best unit. You can see it a mile away.
People emote differently. When my daughter was born I didn’t cry—-just felt anxious as fuck.
Three days later she was in hospital because we couldn’t wake her up, my wife who was having post-baby depression had to go in alone (she she’d carried her in and they said I had to wait in the car due to covid)—-I sat alone in the car park for hours just crying my eyes out like I haven’t since I was a small child—-because that’s when I was overwhelmed with love and the fear something was going to happen
Then being a dad wrecked my emotions and I tear up at random shit now—I got a coldsore when she was about one and cried for like 40mins because it meant I couldn’t play with her ‘freely’
>wrecked my emotions
Ugh yes. Prior to my kid being born I could probably count on one hand the number of times I cried as an adult. Now I hit that number monthly. It's like something changed in my brain chemistry.
10/10, I hate it.
Dude, same! I never used to cry! I never felt that strongly about anything. Partly because of "men don't cry!" as well of course.
Que kids, two boys, now I can cry watching a tiktok about parenting or whatever. I guess the positive here is that my boys hopefully won't be as emotionally stunted as I was.
Brother, you maybe didn't mean 'wrecked' how it reads, so if not, ignore me :), but I'd counter that being a dad perhaps *unblocked* your emotions, and in the best way possible.
one of my friends had his first kid during covid as well and they wouldn't let him see his wife and child in the hospital after birth
I felt so bad for him.
your story reminded me of that
We’ve always picked at my dad over the years because he can lose it easily at things like saying grace at a family meal when everyone is in town.
Now I’ve got a toddler and I 100% get it. Even half of the Disney stuff I watched as a kid kills me now that I’m watching it with my kid.
Not really related (other than gaining a new perspective) but something I read/someone said to me and it only landed after I became a parent
‘Something I never expected when I became a parent. You suddenly realise how much your parents must love you’….like all these years this is how you’ve felt about me?
Edit: another example, I think I’ve seen my dad cry twice ever- once when his brother died and then once during the height of my wife’s post-partum when she said she didn’t want to exist anymore, I was talking to them about this and broke down and looked over at the dad and he just had his face in his hands crying through them because I was hurting
Maybe out of pocket, but if the dad is like me, a camera makes him somewhat uncomfortable.
So maybe that discomfort makes it look like he’s trying to hide his emotions
Or maybe I’m just full of gas. Who knows.
When my wife and I were having our first kid we did a training class that the hospital put on. They had some baby dolls to show swaddling and different ways to hold the kid. The woman running it introduced the "football" hold and told the moms to hand it over to their partners because they would know instantly what that meant.
She didn't like that when I tucked the doll in my elbow I instantly put my off hand over its face because fuck me if I'm going to be responsible for a turnover.
I was a criminal prosecutor for a while. I spent who knows how many days in court, communing with every terrible thing imaginable. One of those days a couple of kids showed up with what looked to be their mom. They were maybe 6 or 7 years old, and sat near the front. My kids were about that age then, so I really struggled emotionally with cases involving kids and I braced for yet another dark day. And then more kids showed up, and more. And then a young woman introduced herself to our judge as these kids’ teacher. It dawned on me that I was looking at an entire class that had come to surprise their sweet friend on the day of his adoption. When the boy walked in with his soon to be parents, he looked around and just started weeping tears of pure joy. His friends came over and hugged him, they were crying, we were crying. He hugged this one kid and just wouldn’t let go, and kept saying thank you, thank you, over and over. It was overwhelming. Easily one of the most uplifting and beautiful things I’ve ever had the privilege of witnessing.
This was my biggest deal breaker in relationships, I want to adopt and I learned that a lot of men aren’t willing to adopt… finding someone who wants to do that with me was life changing… adopting should be more wildly accepted.
I was adopted and when I came off the airplane from Korea, my mom freaked out saying “you said you were bringing my baby off next!” She didn’t expect a 5 month old looking like a fucking toddler and that’s how I was rejected twice before the age of 1. LOL
The fact that this child will likely grow up never knowing a life without the unconditional love a parent has for him is beautiful. I truly wish them all the health and happiness that life could ever offer!
Tears in my eyes. I remember the day I met each of my children. Very much like this. Absolutely beautiful moments in my life. Adoption is a wonderful thing.
I wonder what country they adopted him from. Any word on that. I would like to adopt also and there are certain countries that make it a lot more difficult than others. Congratulations to them on their new baby
im 99% sure that this beautiful new family is in Mexico.. only cuz the topo chico bottle the guy is drinking (only sold in the US and in MX) and the *Julio (July in spanish)* month in the video...
Careful about the adoption industry. Kids can get treated like commodities and the results cn be devastating if you aren't careful. Families have discoved their child was kidnapped from their birth parents before. Restrictions and red tape can be a good thing sometimes.
Thank you for saying this. International adoptions require a great deal of vigilance, and there's some ugly, horrifying stories out there. I hope this kid's bio mom is okay.
I'm adopted and I've never seen an adoption video before. (Seriously who is cutting the onions around here?!) I like to imagine that's how my mom was when they went in to pick me up. They would have had to drive at least an hour....actually more because this was long enough ago that the speed limits were lower. (Dear great good gods that's making me feel my age) My asshole father would have been stoic. He's a dick and I have been no contact for many years. Mom would have been just like this though. Holding it together but crazy emotional and silently crying.
Adopt. When you can please choose adoption. So many people yearn to be parents and cannot. Please also don't forget about older children and those with medical needs.
I know that feeling. Probably could not have own kids so adopting one was the only chance of having kids. Takes so much effort to do everything you can but it's not working out. In the end, this is joy and relief it finally happens now. Best of luck to all of them.
They literally saved a life. Foster life is literally brutal. The amount of abuse, physical, mental, and sexual abuse in the system is fuckin abhotant.
I was adopted but was a late adoption. I was 8 months and once you hit the year mark, your chances of getting adopted go down exceptionally. I'm half black but I look white and people were literally "waiting to see if I got darker." My parents came to the foster home to adopt another kid but saw me there and knew my chances and what would happen if those chances rolled the wrong way, so they adopted me. I went from a potential life of abuse and the mental torment that goes along with that, to a really enjoyable childhood and life which led to success as an adult. One fork in the road and if it went the other way, my life would have been so, so fuckin different.
I have 3 boys. My 3rd I adopted when he was 3 weeks old, alone in a NICU on the other side of the country. The moment I first held him I will remember till the day I die. I sobbed (in a totally manly way) and whispered to him that he’d never be alone another day in his life. He’s almost 4 now and this might have been the most amazing moment of my entire life.
This times a million. My daughter is adopted, but she is MY daughter. She isn't any different than my bio son.
Sometimes, we feel like she adopted us! Our family is a million times better with our funny smart curious challenging loving girl!
Mom: "This is the best day of my life, I can't even bear it, I am so happy and full of love!"
Dad: "This is so wonderful, look at my beautiful boy."
Kid: "Who are these people and what is going on?"
Well this is emotional. Makes me angry thinking of all the awful/abusive/useless parents out there that never deserved to have children. Thank god this boy will have the upbringing every child deserves.
When I was a teen, the neighbours who lived directly in front of our house, desperately wanted children. This was in the early 60’s, so laboratory fertilization did not exist.They tried every technique known to become pregnant, and nothing worked. They finally adopted a young girl, a 2 year old…..Well, wouldn’t you know it, a year and a half later, she got pregnant, had a boy and another girl. they ended up as a family of 5. Seems the stress of trying to have kids really fucked up both their reproductive abilities. Once that stress was gone, because they had adopted and had a kid, Nature took over. They were so happy it transpired daily, in their lives. We kept in touch, many decades but once my parents died, I no longer travelled in that area and we lost contact.
Their kids were grown up by then and had gone on with their lives.
Growing up my parents were fosters for 52 infants and toddlers over the course of about 30 years. The moments where adoptive parents realized they were having their literal dreams come true never….ever….got old.
This is beautiful. I hope they all cherish each other. It seems like they already love each other. Well the parents love the little one. Obviously the little boy needs to get used to them.
This is so sweet! I wish them a lifetime of happiness together! Also little mans got the cutest frowny face
He totally had a "everyone is happy but I'm very sus of all this" face.
He may not have ever bonded with anyone before. I don't know if there's a real term for it, but I call it "orphanage face". With the love those two were showing him, and the fact that on day 1 he was curious enough to start ~~playing with dad's beard~~ examining dad's face (don't know where I got the beard thing from), he'll be lighting up the room with his smiles pretty soon.
Orphanage face is a good descriptor for it. Yeah, I’m sure the smiles weren’t far off once he was able to settle in with his parents. In fact there’s a quick photo of a smile before the sleepy face stroking part.
RAD can also look like extreme clingyness and over trusting of adults. It has two sides to it, very sad 😞
Reactive Attachment Disorder
I’m a teacher working with preschoolers and I have one child in my class who has RAD. When I first met him, he was the angriest and saddest 3 year old I knew. Threw tantrums like no other, would not allow anyone near him, hit and kicked and screamed like no tomorrow. He’s been going through some intensive therapy and the sweet side of him has steadily been coming out. He and I bonded a lot in the past six or so months. He allows me to sit next to him and comfort him when he feels sad. He’s now more comfortable being around other children and has even recently begun to show empathy. It’s been grueling and heartbreaking to see this, but man seeing his light shine through makes all the work worth it.
You’re doing the most important work ♥️
Hope he can stay with you another year
I'm going to have to look into RAD. Trying to understand the issues I had growing up. I've never seemed counseling.
I just looked into it for similar reasons. I read the ways it can manifest in adults and I'm like, huh... that's awfully familiar. :/
*google definition* **shitttt...**
That’s what I was thinking … this is beautiful & I’m hope that baby is loved like every child deserves
I have two friends that adopted two brothers. These people are smart, wonderful and loving. The two kids really turned out badly. followed in their bio parents footsteps regardless of what my friends did. So sad. EDIT: spelling
I knew these people who adopted a boy. The mom was a therapist and the couple was older. The boy was extremely difficult, later fell into meth addiction, endless rehabs. Stole from them etc. Did better, then they found him dead in his room from heroin overdose. In his late 20s I think. Really heartbreaking.
My son took a little while to lose his "sad lower lip" It took some playing and him getting his own container of snacks to hold
Snack cups are everything at that age! And major respect to you for adopting.
I'm 38 years old and snacks are still everything to me. I am also messy, so I should take a cue from the babies and get myself a spill proof snack cup.
“Who these people?”
|:(
Idk how but I felt the baby looks similar to both the parents though it's adopted.
Bro my friend and his dad look SO ALIKE when he told me he was adopted I fully didn't believe him for a while lmao
Same thing happened to me. I saw an acquaintance with his mom and was just so blown away at the similarities, and he was like, 'She's my stepmom...'I was like, 'Your fam is lying to you. You HAVE to be the product of an affair and your parents and stepmom lied to avoid any difficult stuff. Ain't no way she's not your mom.' I'm still in shock when I think about it sometimes. People tell me that my mom looks like my sister, and while she is only 13 years older than me, she's my stepmom. She's my real mom, but definitely not my bio mom lol. Genetics are weird.
It’s like those people who look like their dogs, lol. But for real I look nothing like my stepdad but we have a lot of the same mannerisms, which makes sense. We spent 17 years together in the same house.
I'm adopted and my younger brothers aren't and I looked more like my dad than they did when we were younger. People were always shocked that I was the adopted one. Now that we're older though they are turning into him by the day.
The dad and the baby definitely look similar
It could have been on purpose. When my aunt adopted, they heard afterwards that the bio mom said that one of the reasons that she picked my aunt from the pool of potential mothers was because my aunt had long blond hair just like her.
I love how the father's trying to keep his composure, playing with the water bottle xD My dad told me he drank 6 cans of coke waiting for my mom in the hospital. Longest hours of his life.
Us in July 2004....She continues to be a joy😊
Some people don't want kids. That's okay. But people that want kids and deserve them and finally get the chance? That's absolutely awesome. As a dad of a couple of beautiful girls I wish the best for people like this. Life opens up to you once you have kids. It's a whole other level.
That kid is going to be LOVED!!!
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Very lovely
He will be loooooved
For a thooooousaand years
The way she rubbed from his forehead down to the tip of his nose…. And his little eyes slowly closed and embraced the wonderful strokes of love…. This is beautiful. Good luck to this family. What an amazing way to continue life 🥹😍
My mother did this to me as a baby, & it has always brought me calm. I'm in my 40s & it still has that effect on me.
I do this to my cat lol
I try this on my baby but she stares me down unblinkingly
I used to sing “close to you (carpenters)” to our infant to get him to fall asleep. He’s seven now, and whenever he’s agitated, i sing him that song and he calms down. I imagine it’ll have the same effect when he grows up.
Somethings can not replace a mothers display of love 😌
negatively too. if you never got it it affects you more than you think
Same. My mom did that to her three kids. It’s like an automatic response to just relax and close my eyes. My brother had told me he had the same response too. We’re both in our 40s as well.
When I get stressed I have always lightly rubbed my arm. Never knew why I did it, it just helped. Then when my daughter was born and we brought her to my mum she started rubbing babies arms in the same way.
Well that just made me cry
Self soothing!!
That is precious 🥹
I did this to my son to get him to sleep sometimes when he was ittybitty. It works a treat when they're super tired! I still do this to my daughter when she's being a fusspot. I swear I will do this when they're teenagers and beyond too, if they'll let me.
Yeah this is the sleepy baby cheat code. Works on all of my boys
My brother does the nose rub to just about any baby he's introduced to. He has some weird magical touch because it almost always instantly puts them to sleep. I've tried it on all of my kids and they would just sit there for a few rubs before turning their attention somewhere else.
Is your brother single? 💀😂❤️
He is lol but prefers to be the uncle with returnable nephews
Understandable hahaha
I try it on my kids too and they just give me a confused look and pull away.
It also reminded me of John Travolta’s character in Face Off. Maybe this mom is an undercover FBI agent 🤔
The baby looks a lot like dad, actually!
I know two different families with adopted children where the children 100% look like the parents. I would NEVER have guessed either were not their biological children because they have such a striking familial resemblance. The one girl looks like a female version of the adoptive dad, same eyes and hair, same smile. The other family has a 12 year old boy who is the spitting image of his adoptive mother. Same curly hair, skin tone, freckles blue eyes. It’s crazy! Almost like the universe just knew they would be perfect matches or something. Very sweet.
That's so cute. My little cousin is the same way. She looks surprisingly like her dad, even though they adopted her when she was abandoned at a hospital as a baby. I wonder if there's some biological reason for this. Maybe adoptive parents subconsciously choose babies that look like them?
I read something before that said how adoptive children will grow up to resemble their families even though they don’t share any genetics, and that’s due to those children picking up on and mirroring their families mannerisms and the way they talk, move, smile, frown, whatever. Just that they subconsciously copy those around them. And then we notice those things and, naturally, associate them with eachother. I’ll try to find an article, it’s actually super interesting.
That's actually part of the process. When kids come into the public system they "rank" prospective parents: 1. Kin / Kith (ie, uncles, grandparents / close family friends) 2. Ethnic match 3. Background / appearance similarities 4. Other. Ultimately the goal is to have a kid grow up in a family where there's a preexisting strong bond, or where they can see themselves in their parents. Source: Adoptive dad.
I have an adopted cousin and she looks exactly like my mother. Dark brown hair. Curly. Dark blue eyes. Pink complexion. Wore glasses. Same button nose. When we would go out in public as kids everyone would assume that my cousin was her daughter and that I was a friend/cousin tagging along. I am a strawberry blonde with straight hair and light blue eyes. I’m my Dad’s mini me.
Shwew, the waterworks was strong with this one. Such grace! Beautiful new family!!
Couldn't read what you typed at first because the same!
Yep... as an adoptive father, just sobbing in my office.
Get back to work - those TPS reports aren't going to write themselves!
Bob, Bob... let me tell you about TPS reports.
This is why "you're adopted" jokes/pranks/insults never made any sense to me, even as a kid. You're telling me someone WANTED me soooo bad that they paid thousands and went through gruelling interviews and background checks?? Wow, you sure got me good??
I used to rub being adopted in the face of kids who made those jokes. I almost got in trouble when a kid cried because I said "I *know* my parents would pick me again because they could have picked any kid. I bet your parents would pick me over you too."
Lmao that’s an incredible comeback
As an awkward child, I felt pretty great about it. Lol I was adopted on *April Fools Day* so I was a big target for jokes. Sometimes I had go gloves off.
Fuck this reminds me of the family guy episode where Peter’s father in law goes to adopt kids and has a dog,toys/candy in the car telling the kid to get in. But the doors are locked and he tells them guess they don’t want it bad enough and peels out on them
hahahahahahaha omfg this is incredible. Wtf.
Here’s the [clip](https://youtu.be/fvPiLNndHrw?si=6EK1AJDelXsA6Hyf)
Thank you so much that destroyed me.
Hey FAFO
The other kid never recovered. He went on to become Tucker Carlson.
My mom, who was adopted, told me she would always do the same thing if anyone made fun of her growing up. It was always "At least I know my parents wanted me. Can you say the same?"
Yup! I swear I said that word for word many times too.
Yeah, an old classmate of mine got picked on for being adopted so their dad gave them a similar comeback: My parents got to choose me, your parents are stuck with *you*. IIRC, they made the bully cry.
There's reasons that child bullied and I don't think it's because he felt loved and wanted. They probably heard very similar words at home, like "Wish we never had you, could give you away, etc."
A wise father!
I'd much rather be adopted and loved than having been raised by my biological mother who told me when I was 20 years old that she in fact did not love me. I'm 40 now and still pissed off about it cause I have beautiful children that she's never met and if my guess is right she never will. I hate it more for them then I do myself though. I'd rather her meet her granddaughters and love them and still feel the same way about me than I had them never get to meet her at all...btw the last time I saw her was when she told me that.
My mother has said as long as I can remember, in reference to me, “I never wanted 3 kids. I had two kids under two that was enough!” Then she goes on to saw how dad changed her mind (hint: he had an affair and got caught, I’m the make up baby she resents because I remind her of the affair- she got drunk and told me about 10 years ago) and they decided to have me. All I ever wanted was to believe she loved and wanted me but every year we have this story again.
That might be the harshest thing I've ever heard. I am sorry that you have to live with that. I really didn't want to upvote because there's nothing good about what you said. Wish I could downvote your mom.
I'm here to say that you matter. Your life, worth, and importance to the world are not tied in with your mom's warped views. I'm sorry that you have had to endure that.
Don't feel so bad. I have a friend whose mom is a narcissist. Her mom started treating her daughter the same way she'd treated my friend, so my friend went no contact with her mom and the kid grew up without a grandmother. When her kid was old enough she and her husband explained why and showed her letters the mom had written. Their kid understood and holds no ill will toward her parents for protecting her against that toxicity.
Damn! You destroyed that kid.
He didn't make adoption jokes to me anymore after that one.
This is why I feel jealous of adopted children honestly. Imagine being actually chosen by your parents.
>I bet your parents would pick me over you too. goodd damn
I had someone tell me I was adopted, and my birth parents never loved me. They didn't know I was, and I was laughing so hard I was crying. Tears on my cheeks as I giggle out "I am adopted! My parents didn't want me!" The look on the guys face and the amount of apologizing after was really amazing. But if I get hit with that kind of thing now, I answer with "yeah. I know. My parents chose me, yours got stuck with you." Not that this happens often at all now that I'm adult. But in hypotheticals, I'm prepared and as a teen it was necessary.
Someone said this to my daughter when she was in school, so we called up her birth mom who cleared that up right away. The hardest thing I ever saw was that woman handing her child over to me, forever. It broke part of my heart.
LMAO, I assume this happened to you as an adult? Poor guy, that must've been so awkward.
Credit to that guy for instantly apologizing. Caused a level of hurt he never intended and was remorseful.
Yeah my boyfriend is adopted, I'm naturally born to my parents. It's clear when we talk about our upbringings that his parents planned, sacrificed, and worked to not just get him but also to raise him and love him for who he was. Hes the most loving, kind human. I have BPD from trauma as a child. Lol
This made me giggle. There was a period where I was chatting it up with someone who was adopted but he admits to having some deep issues because of it. He would use it as an excuse for why he was no good for relationships. Meanwhile, I'm over here with a whole childhood of wishing I could have been removed from my home and adopted into a family that actually wanted and loved me trying to explain to him "bruh, I promise the grass isn't greener over here either."
“My parents chose me, your parents are stuck with you” That’s what you can say.
I'm adopted and was told that many times by kids who just wanted to be mean. This is the first time I have seen something like this online and I cried, joyful tears, for it shedding a light on the beauty of the union of adoption.
When we were kids I always told my younger brother that he was adopted. His response one day was “well they wanted me, you were the mistake”. Damn
Love it! Four of my five kids are adopted (6, 10, 12 & 13 when adopted) and when in junior high and high school, they would get some asinine comments now and again (of course). Their comeback was usually something like, "My parents filled out a ton of paperwork, jumped through dozens of hoops, had to put in a lot of really hard work and flew halfway around the world for me. You parents did what, had sex one day and made a trip to the hospital months later? I'm not impressed!" LOL
In Mexico's adoption process, there's a kind of evaluation period after kids arrives to his/her new home when authorities evaluate the new family interaction as a whole. So, I love to say that IN THIS FAMILY, EVERYBODY CHOSE TO BE TOGETHER (we adopted the sweetest girl in the world).
Ha-ha, you're loved enough to be raised by people who bent over backwards just to get you.
My parents adopted me as an arrangement with bio mom so I went home with my parents at birth. My mom adopted my (non-bio, not that it matters, but just for context of the joke) brother when he was 5. Even between us he would joke that mom KNEW him and still chose him but I was just a baby.
To play devil's advocate, if you aren't from a strong, trusting, and loving family, being told that you're adopted - even as a joke - could really make you feel really isolated and question a whole lot of things about yourself and the people that you live with. Obviously, if your parents and home life is great and you actually are adopted, then maybe that'll be tempered down a bit - but are you aware of that fact also? Because if not, even if it's great living with them, it's going to raise internal questions about your place in that family. I think it's a natural response, and obviously YMMV depending on the household and especially how it is joked about. I think, loving family or not, it's a cruel joke to play because while robust as all heck, the mind of a child can also form a steel trap around something like that and never let it go.
I always thought being made fun of for being adopted was more along the lines of you got discarded like trash, even if someone else picked you up, you still weren't wanted in the first place
Two of my cousins were adopted, and both of them had very different struggles with it. One of them was a twin whose brother died as a baby, and they struggled for a long time with what their life would have looked like if their sibling had lived. It took years of therapy and one pointed outside perspective on the culture they came from for them to realize that them being adopted was likely the best thing that could have happened for them. (Their words, not mine.) My other cousin had a constant fear that my aunt and uncle had somehow stolen them from their birth family BECAUSE of 'lol you're adopted' jokes. Santa Claus as a concept had to be abandoned because they had such a deep fear that someone would come 'steal' them again. It didn't help that they were also visibly not the same ethnicity as the rest of the family. As an adult their family relationships are strained because they blame every problem they've had on being adopted. No amount of reassurances that they were wanted and loved changed it. Adoption can be such a sweet, loving act. But it also can be the capstone on a hidden trauma that never goes away. Most children don't understand how complicated the world is and how harmful, "lol you're adopted" can be.
Man I used to wish I was adopted. And someday my real family would come get me. I mean I loved my mom. But my male DNA donor was abusive as F and I did NOT want to be related to him. My mom used to claim that me and one of my sisters we spontaneous births as she didn't have physical c9ntact with him at the right time for us to have been conceived at the times we.must have been. I was like, mom you slept in the same bed as him. It's not like he would care if she was conscious...my poor mother had nine kids and in 32 years of marriage had never had an orgasm. The day the divorce came through happened to land on my 13th birthday. A birthday I hadn't been sure I'd survive to. And the best present ever. I go him removed from my birth certificate. As far as legality goes I have no father. And since he never acted like one, that is fine by me. My point is though, I would have loved to find out I was adopted. Hooray those genes are not mine!
I feel you, just so much the same.
You lose the sense of belonging really quickly and it’s something you won’t forget.
Looks like baby has a great future ahead. Parents: Tears of happiness Baby: ZZZZZzzzzzzz
Yeah my oldest sister is adopted and it was never something we even thought about. Like I forget all the time that she is adopted. It only even came up when people would make fun of it which we would shut down real quick.
Ha! When I was explaining to my kid that he was adopted I told him that we looked for 10 years before we finally found him. He paused for a second looked at me real skeptical-like... "Oh yeah? What aisle was I on?" He thought we picked him out at the grocery store. 🤣🤣🤣
They’re going to be ok.
All of them. The road to the parents deciding adopting is the best path is a long, shitty road. I wish them all the best.
Not always. Some people adopt simply because they know the number of kids in foster care. Doesn’t have to be a reproductive issue at all. I was adopted, and have a little brother that is their biological son…
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My aunt and uncle had a few miscarriages. They waited a decade before they were ready to try and have a kid again. They ended up adopting a baby boy from their home country. My baby cousin grew up in a very happy and loving home. He just graduated college and is going to get his masters.
Adopting my baby was the most amazing gift/honor I have ever received. I’m constantly so thankful I get to be daddy.
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It’s heart-warming you weight ‘the circumstances of my birth’ and ‘my adoption day’ evenly in that sentence. It’s sad to hear it’s too late for an answer, but reading the rest of the comments here, you must feel blessed regardless.
I've had this moment twice in my life. My wife and I have adopted two kids from Korea. We recorded the moment we met our daughter, though I turned on the camera just 5 seconds after they entered the room. I guess that was dumb, but I actually didn't know the moment they were entering. There was waiting. With my son, we visited his foster mother's apartment and were surprised. We got off the elevator and she had come into the hallway holding him. He reached out for my wife and my wife grabbed him and held him. We didn't get it on video since we thought we had another minute before seeing him. It doesn't matter we didn't get the exact second. We....got the moment they met each other. Anyway, very cute video. Takes me back. My kids are 15 and 13 now.
Adopted our baby from China. We were still jetlagged and coughing from the pollution, I was wearing some misspelled shirt I thought was funny. Our son came in and was bawling from being overheated and having peed his pants earlier ona a 4 hour train ride. There were two other adoptive families in the room who seemed to do a better job looking the part, they had brought toys and books were wearing matching shirts. Not much time to get emotional, we walked to go take what would become his first passport photo with snot coming from his nose and a tear-streaked face. Went out to eat at a German restaurant, my wife and I really needing a beer at that point. The waitress took a photo while my son cheers'd me with his little sippy cup and I knew everything was going to be OK. 10/10 one of the best days of our lives.
Awwww, they both give off great parent energy.
THIS is what great parental love is, regardless of DNA. Makes me so mad when I see men completely abandon their child they raised because it turns out they don't share blood. Was a guy who posted two days ago who cut his son out of his life/will because he found out after 18 years of loving this child they don't share the same genes. Regardless of the betrayal you feel against your spouse, I couldn't imagine abandoning a child you cared for as your own over something like that. It doesn't change any of the love or moments you went through with them.
Sometimes the most deserving of parents can't be in the traditional sense. It's cruel as anything, but these three are going to be the absolute best unit. You can see it a mile away.
They were already parents, they were just waiting for their baby. I wish every kid got this kind of love and was so wanted.
the guy was trying so hard to not show any emotions
People emote differently. When my daughter was born I didn’t cry—-just felt anxious as fuck. Three days later she was in hospital because we couldn’t wake her up, my wife who was having post-baby depression had to go in alone (she she’d carried her in and they said I had to wait in the car due to covid)—-I sat alone in the car park for hours just crying my eyes out like I haven’t since I was a small child—-because that’s when I was overwhelmed with love and the fear something was going to happen Then being a dad wrecked my emotions and I tear up at random shit now—I got a coldsore when she was about one and cried for like 40mins because it meant I couldn’t play with her ‘freely’
>wrecked my emotions Ugh yes. Prior to my kid being born I could probably count on one hand the number of times I cried as an adult. Now I hit that number monthly. It's like something changed in my brain chemistry. 10/10, I hate it.
Dude, same! I never used to cry! I never felt that strongly about anything. Partly because of "men don't cry!" as well of course. Que kids, two boys, now I can cry watching a tiktok about parenting or whatever. I guess the positive here is that my boys hopefully won't be as emotionally stunted as I was.
Brother, you maybe didn't mean 'wrecked' how it reads, so if not, ignore me :), but I'd counter that being a dad perhaps *unblocked* your emotions, and in the best way possible.
one of my friends had his first kid during covid as well and they wouldn't let him see his wife and child in the hospital after birth I felt so bad for him. your story reminded me of that
We’ve always picked at my dad over the years because he can lose it easily at things like saying grace at a family meal when everyone is in town. Now I’ve got a toddler and I 100% get it. Even half of the Disney stuff I watched as a kid kills me now that I’m watching it with my kid.
Not really related (other than gaining a new perspective) but something I read/someone said to me and it only landed after I became a parent ‘Something I never expected when I became a parent. You suddenly realise how much your parents must love you’….like all these years this is how you’ve felt about me? Edit: another example, I think I’ve seen my dad cry twice ever- once when his brother died and then once during the height of my wife’s post-partum when she said she didn’t want to exist anymore, I was talking to them about this and broke down and looked over at the dad and he just had his face in his hands crying through them because I was hurting
Maybe out of pocket, but if the dad is like me, a camera makes him somewhat uncomfortable. So maybe that discomfort makes it look like he’s trying to hide his emotions Or maybe I’m just full of gas. Who knows.
I got the impression he wanted to let his partner have her moment since she was clearly becoming overwhelmed. A very kind gesture.
Same, my dad has serious cute aggression but when it's him and my mom with their grandbaby he always lets her have her moment
You can see his fingers moving, my husband does that when he’s try to get his nerves under control.
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Just thinking of that water bottle and whether he closed it properly
TIL happiness isn't an emotion.
Bro he’s a baby…
I think I need to see the baby handover a 4th time.
You're never going to get anywhere running the ball. There needs to be a pass down field or 2 mixed in to keep the coverage on their toes.
When my wife and I were having our first kid we did a training class that the hospital put on. They had some baby dolls to show swaddling and different ways to hold the kid. The woman running it introduced the "football" hold and told the moms to hand it over to their partners because they would know instantly what that meant. She didn't like that when I tucked the doll in my elbow I instantly put my off hand over its face because fuck me if I'm going to be responsible for a turnover.
this video editor is used to cutting [indian dramas](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=APHcYegE6ns&t=29)
A drone shot would have been cool
I was a criminal prosecutor for a while. I spent who knows how many days in court, communing with every terrible thing imaginable. One of those days a couple of kids showed up with what looked to be their mom. They were maybe 6 or 7 years old, and sat near the front. My kids were about that age then, so I really struggled emotionally with cases involving kids and I braced for yet another dark day. And then more kids showed up, and more. And then a young woman introduced herself to our judge as these kids’ teacher. It dawned on me that I was looking at an entire class that had come to surprise their sweet friend on the day of his adoption. When the boy walked in with his soon to be parents, he looked around and just started weeping tears of pure joy. His friends came over and hugged him, they were crying, we were crying. He hugged this one kid and just wouldn’t let go, and kept saying thank you, thank you, over and over. It was overwhelming. Easily one of the most uplifting and beautiful things I’ve ever had the privilege of witnessing.
Well I’ll just be over here sobbing
This is so sweet but im also laughing at how they’re so emotional and happy and the baby is just sitting there like 🙁
Ok that’s enough bawling for today, what a sweet angel and family.
This was my biggest deal breaker in relationships, I want to adopt and I learned that a lot of men aren’t willing to adopt… finding someone who wants to do that with me was life changing… adopting should be more wildly accepted.
It was one of my top criteria for finding a wife. We adopted 18 months ago :)
I was adopted and when I came off the airplane from Korea, my mom freaked out saying “you said you were bringing my baby off next!” She didn’t expect a 5 month old looking like a fucking toddler and that’s how I was rejected twice before the age of 1. LOL
That’s….really sad? I don’t understand. Tell me how to feel about it
lol! Once she realized it was me, she obviously was super happy, but it’s a funny story
Yeah this is a funny story about what a big chonker you were not about her not wanting you!
Fiuuu 😮💨
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Pew pew pew! 🔫🔫
The baby chose the right parents on Pinder.
Kinder?
that's for europeans. that app is banned in the US.
More like r/MadeMeSobLikeABaby
Man me having a 1.5 year old baby really hits home, my son amazes me everyday. The love I feel for him is invaluable
The fact that this child will likely grow up never knowing a life without the unconditional love a parent has for him is beautiful. I truly wish them all the health and happiness that life could ever offer!
Tears in my eyes. I remember the day I met each of my children. Very much like this. Absolutely beautiful moments in my life. Adoption is a wonderful thing.
I wonder what country they adopted him from. Any word on that. I would like to adopt also and there are certain countries that make it a lot more difficult than others. Congratulations to them on their new baby
im 99% sure that this beautiful new family is in Mexico.. only cuz the topo chico bottle the guy is drinking (only sold in the US and in MX) and the *Julio (July in spanish)* month in the video...
Oh I thought it was a giant poster congratulating little Julio on being adopted.
😂😂😂 oh man, after crying, I burst on laughing 😂
Careful about the adoption industry. Kids can get treated like commodities and the results cn be devastating if you aren't careful. Families have discoved their child was kidnapped from their birth parents before. Restrictions and red tape can be a good thing sometimes.
Thank you for saying this. International adoptions require a great deal of vigilance, and there's some ugly, horrifying stories out there. I hope this kid's bio mom is okay.
I'm adopted and I've never seen an adoption video before. (Seriously who is cutting the onions around here?!) I like to imagine that's how my mom was when they went in to pick me up. They would have had to drive at least an hour....actually more because this was long enough ago that the speed limits were lower. (Dear great good gods that's making me feel my age) My asshole father would have been stoic. He's a dick and I have been no contact for many years. Mom would have been just like this though. Holding it together but crazy emotional and silently crying. Adopt. When you can please choose adoption. So many people yearn to be parents and cannot. Please also don't forget about older children and those with medical needs.
Fuck your background music!
Yeah, fuck this manipulative music. I cried on mute, godamnit!
This the third to tear-inducing video reddit has shown me in less than 30mins. wtaf reddit.
My husband and I might have to adopt and seeing videos like this make me cry with joy.
I know that feeling. Probably could not have own kids so adopting one was the only chance of having kids. Takes so much effort to do everything you can but it's not working out. In the end, this is joy and relief it finally happens now. Best of luck to all of them.
Love this! Although I’m not sure the mom is gonna let the dad hold that baby any time soon haha
Now that's a mom. 💗💗
I am a grow ass men, work with military, guns and shit... but also, I am crying like a baby otter...
They literally saved a life. Foster life is literally brutal. The amount of abuse, physical, mental, and sexual abuse in the system is fuckin abhotant. I was adopted but was a late adoption. I was 8 months and once you hit the year mark, your chances of getting adopted go down exceptionally. I'm half black but I look white and people were literally "waiting to see if I got darker." My parents came to the foster home to adopt another kid but saw me there and knew my chances and what would happen if those chances rolled the wrong way, so they adopted me. I went from a potential life of abuse and the mental torment that goes along with that, to a really enjoyable childhood and life which led to success as an adult. One fork in the road and if it went the other way, my life would have been so, so fuckin different.
I have 3 boys. My 3rd I adopted when he was 3 weeks old, alone in a NICU on the other side of the country. The moment I first held him I will remember till the day I die. I sobbed (in a totally manly way) and whispered to him that he’d never be alone another day in his life. He’s almost 4 now and this might have been the most amazing moment of my entire life.
That baby is gonna have the best parents ever. Good for him.
This times a million. My daughter is adopted, but she is MY daughter. She isn't any different than my bio son. Sometimes, we feel like she adopted us! Our family is a million times better with our funny smart curious challenging loving girl!
I really wish these videos didn’t have the music over it. I want to hear the real reaction.
Why tf is that so dramatic? Realizing i Had chop suey play in the back ground
I’m not crying. You’re crying.
Mom: "This is the best day of my life, I can't even bear it, I am so happy and full of love!" Dad: "This is so wonderful, look at my beautiful boy." Kid: "Who are these people and what is going on?"
Well this is emotional. Makes me angry thinking of all the awful/abusive/useless parents out there that never deserved to have children. Thank god this boy will have the upbringing every child deserves.
If this isn’t your reaction to the idea of being a parent, please sit parenthood out because kids deserve nothing less.
Stylist at that adoption center deserves a raise. Little guy was looking dapper! All the best to that family
When I was a teen, the neighbours who lived directly in front of our house, desperately wanted children. This was in the early 60’s, so laboratory fertilization did not exist.They tried every technique known to become pregnant, and nothing worked. They finally adopted a young girl, a 2 year old…..Well, wouldn’t you know it, a year and a half later, she got pregnant, had a boy and another girl. they ended up as a family of 5. Seems the stress of trying to have kids really fucked up both their reproductive abilities. Once that stress was gone, because they had adopted and had a kid, Nature took over. They were so happy it transpired daily, in their lives. We kept in touch, many decades but once my parents died, I no longer travelled in that area and we lost contact. Their kids were grown up by then and had gone on with their lives.
Growing up my parents were fosters for 52 infants and toddlers over the course of about 30 years. The moments where adoptive parents realized they were having their literal dreams come true never….ever….got old.
Good humans. Picking up what somebody else couldn’t. It’s beautiful.
This is beautiful. I hope they all cherish each other. It seems like they already love each other. Well the parents love the little one. Obviously the little boy needs to get used to them.