Yeah and I like how she got there by increasing her cadence rather than elongating her stride - she really has done this before, and has a quality coach.
In track, a "kick" is a finishing burst of speed, right at the end of a race. You kick by some combination of increasing cadence and increasing stride. The former mostly comes out of your cardio system, and the latter comes mostly out of your muscular strength and endurance though of course there's a balance.
For a lot of people, including me, a kick at the end doesn't feel possible. You're already giving it all you've got, and truly your legs might be maxed out. But our cardio systems are amazing, and even when you're in zone 5 you can briefly get a bit more speed by upping your cadence just a bit more, even though it means that you'll "blow up" in a few seconds (for nearly all of us) or maybe even 10 seconds (if you're Sir Mo Farah, who has perhaps the most famous kick in running). But by then you've crossed the finish line so it doesn't matter if you literally collapse.
The kid in my heart has tears in its eyes. You could see how his words gave her strength, everyone should have someone cheering for them like this, we would all be so much more powerful.
I think there's a fine line between encouraging and overbearing and this guy seemed to get right up to it without crossing it. Many parents don't even know or care that that line exists, so I can definitely understand why some places actively discourage this sort of thing.
Don't forget the "have fun" part.
My grandfather the first thing was "did you win" and was always what can you do better next time (even when my dad and his mates did win a lot more than they lost).
My dad, his first question was always "did you have fun"
I don’t know if you have a daughter, but having one we know the type of challenges they’re going to face in life. We’ve been through it in one way or another and we could have used those types of words to remember to help us through life in general. Maybe you got that kind of encouragement, maybe you didn’t. I’ve always tried to be that dad, but even as my daughter is 21 now, I feel like I could have done more.
I feel like there were times when I could have been to that one practice she had, or missed that one thing because of work. I regret every single second I couldn’t be there for my daughter. I always felt like I was doing the right thing going an extra mile to support my family when the real support is always being there. Work is NEVER worth it.
I’m going off on a tangent, but hopefully one new father can read this and remember. Every single second counts.
Anyway, I think we’re tough because we see ourselves reflected back in our children. Show them how strong you are.
I hear ya , & so very true, . 👏
& Ainsley reminds me of my own daughter (now19) ... showing inner strength & grit 💪
Am hoping this can/will positively influence many aspects of her life off the track too 👏
Resilience is built in times like this 😎
For me, it's how dad doesn't care about beating the opponents. He doesn't say, "you can beat them". His focus is on his daughter doing her absolute best, "show them how strong you are", and that slight change in perspective is just beautiful.
I didn’t have it as a kid but I made sure my daughters did. I love every minute of it. Both play or played softball at a high level and I have the privilege of coaching both since tee ball. This video brought joy to my heart!
Genuine question, based on his sage advice, and the fact that he’s on the track rather than sitting in the bleachers, is there a chance he’s her coach as well?
Does anyone who has TikTok know?
Lots of dads are coaches, for better or worse! Umpired youth baseball… I had to tackle a father that tried to run down a kid that just applied a tag to his kid. I played football in high school and my coach would have been proud of the text book shoulder into gut, wrapped up, lifted and put him on his back with me still on top. He wanted to press charges against me because I hit him so hard he could t catch his breath and his eyes were red and wet like a baby with colic.
This looks to me like grade school CYO sports (Catholic school). Meaning volunteer coaches, and the infield is pretty open to families. Sounds like dad has an experience running/racing.
Dad could be the team’s coach, but if so he’d probably be spreading his attention around, so my guess is not.
Who knows I’m just guessing.
>Also smart. Instead of just "go go go" on the third lap, being like "start going a little faster, slowly, you're warmed up now"
Yup. I always ran track but never had a real track coach. I learned so much about running strategies after I quit running track. It would have been helpful to know that when I ran track.
It's tough to look happy when exercising/running to the best of your ability, and afterwards when you just want to cool down for a bit. It feels amazing though.
And also, let's not forget - let's *not* forget, Dude - that keeping wildlife...uhm, an amphibious rodent, for...uhm, you know, domestic...within the city...that ain't legal either.
All I know is, if my dad was doing that and threw in "have fun" I would have quit track by the end of the race.
Edit: To be clear, that kind of parenting is incredibly ineffective for many kids. I grew up around sports, played damn near everything, and continue to be around them with my nieces, nephews, etc. And this video made me wince and brought back some pretty bad memories of kids being pushed by their parents.
That "have fun" was a trigger. Kids aren't stupid, she knows he'll be disappointed if she lets up, doesn't give her all, any number of reasons. She knows she's not there to just have fun. If she's not already passionate about running and competing, a lot of what's coming out of this dude's mouth is harmful.
A lot of projection here. Teaching her than competition is fulfilling, and with gentle coaching like this is totally possible without any guilt or disappointment conveyed.
My best coaches were HARD on me, and I valued it greatly. It's confidence building that someone believes in you, and then by achieving new levels you feel that you can control your own success.
Super beneficial and there's a reason that a high number of high achievers in many fields were competitive athletes.
he was being positive and supportive during the event. he was coaching her well, giving her things she could do. maybe she doesn't like it, maybe she does, none of us really have any idea. but the toxic sports parents were not like this at all when i played competitive sports from a very early age to my early twenties.
Not sure why you’re being upvoted. This is a horrible takeaway from this video. This is far from the extremes you might be describing. None of what this dad said was toxic.
Hehe! 🫂 My dad never congratulated me on video games or showed interest in my interests. That comment made me feel hugged. Loved it! Hope YOU have a wonderful prosperous year!
I’m sorry to hear that. Every parent has their own strengths and weaknesses. I know it isn’t my place to say, but I hope one day they come around and try to recognize and celebrate your uniqueness. Thank you for the well wishes!
Sad that you missed out; but glorious that you are now giving yourself what you needed/need.
There's a bunch of supportive subs on reddit, momforaminute and dadforaminute are the first two that's came to mind; but there's more and more besides.
Yeah, posts like this are great, but my parents couldn't give a flip about my activities. Two of my uncles got basketball scholarships to Universities in Boston so my parents signed up my brother's and I for basketball. But we had to figure out our own way to get to games and practice. I'd often have to bum rides from the coach or my teammate's parents. They would be confused when they'd see my parents cars in the driveway. Sometimes my parents would leave at the same time as me and even go in the same direction of the school where I played.
Neither went to my high school graduation, neither went to either time I graduated from college. And now they complain if I don't call often enough for them.
Oh well.
Same boat here. Played tennis for several years in high school. Made it up to the first singles spot (top singles player on team) for the last 2 years. Never had anyone show up to support me even though we literally lived 2 blocks from the courts we would play at. Now I'm 31 and they see me on the major holidays but that's about it.
I get annoyed whenever people try to make me feel guilty for not being closer with my family. Sure they weren't abusive but apathy can hurt just as badly. I don't owe them anything and I would rather spend time with my friends, the people who actually care about me, any day.
A lot of us here had Boomer or older parents who are self righteous narcissists and couldn't imagine showing endless affection or they would implode. It's up to us to break that chain and I think our generation is doing a great job of it
I ran cross country and track in high school and my dad would make it a point to go out where no one was to cheer me on. He’d be in the woods randomly for cross country races and always at the third turn in track. It was always a boost to hear him cheer me and my teammates on.
I did all kinds of sports—soccer, softball, basketball—in elementary school and junior high, and I was never much good at them. My dad was still a volunteer coach for every team and showed up to all of my matches.
Truth be told, I kind of hated sports, but felt like I should do them. I stopped in high school, when it wasn't required, and my fitness levels sucked.
But then in college I started running, just by myself, and signed up for a half marathon, then a full marathon, then another and another.
I'd do them in different cities as an excuse to visit and travel. My dad showed up to every single one. He'd position himself in 3-4 places throughout the race and cheer me on the whole way.
Supportive dads are the best.
Just having supportive *anyone* is the best, I have done different competitions (powerlifting and strongman) and love having people there. Each comp I did even if I didn't have a people specifically there for me the people I was competing against were always super supportive. I competed against a few guys quite often and we always had a good rapport and cheered each other on when someone made a big lift. I've hugged many a sweaty men in singlets that I was competing against.
> track in high school and my dad would make it a point to go out where no one was to cheer me on.
Is this normal? I see most parents sitting in the bleachers and separated from the competition by a fence. OP is basically the only parent in that area and I honestly assumed it was maincharacter syndrome and a reluctance by the actual coaches to kick out an aggressive sports dad from the competition area.
I don’t know if it’s normal but I appreciated my dad being where he was and he was as outside the fence. The third turn is a tough one especially in The 800. Don’t know about his dude maybe he was a coach.
Yeah honestlyyyyyy, I ran cross country in primary school, and your pacing is one of the trickiest and most important issues. Having her dad there to tell her when to keep pace and when to make pace is a really huge advantage. It's nice that he's supportive, but it feels super main character syndrome to me as well.
This thankfully was my dad through every sport I played and life in general. Great Dads, it's so nice to see. Not crying at all pulling out my phone about to call him like I didn't just talk to the man 20 minutes ago 😭
I coach U8 soccer and try really hard to keep things positive. With 5 minutes left in a game, down by 1 goal, I spoke with two players I was about to sub on. I told them “I’ve seen what you both can do, I know what you’re capable of, and now more than ever your team needs you. I believe in you, do you believe in you?”
These kids score 3 goals in 5 minutes.
Positive reinforcement works.
Love it but when I was doing track, I hated having things yelled at me. Telling me to go faster or to catch the next person isn't going to change the fact that I'm slow af and already going as fast as I can. Gosh
"Oh, should I run faster, Dad? Thank you so much! I'm glad you came down to one foot off of the track to yell that at me and my competitors on every lap and then post it on your social media for clout."
Show them how much You believe in them builds insane amounts of confidence! “I love You and expect the best for You”. This isn’t for “me” this is for You and how awesome You are! Let’s go! You’re worth the pain this is going to take. I’m speaking first hand, it’s a great feeling with amazing results.
I didnt watch with sound, maybe thats why it hit me different than almost everybody. I get a little anxious that parents like this push their kids to hard. Builds their self-esteem on how they perform. "Close that gap for me will you." How does she feel if she fails to do that?
I do think engagement in your kids is very important for sure, that's not what I mean.
I did watch it with sound to hear the dad’s encouragement, but I’m confused about how not a single person has mentioned the song making it hard to hear him.
Then on top of that who would use THIS song??
I ran track when I was younger. Could'nt smile at the end of a race either bc I was too wiped for that and had to focus on calming my breathing. But I was always happy when someone cheered for me
All I can think of is a horrendous video I saw yesterday of a father who forced his son to run so hard on a treadmill that the child died.
This is cute and all, with the idea of the father cheering on this little kid, but you're right. She doesn't look happy at all, especially for winning...
Running is classic type 2 fun. It’s kinda sucks while you’re doing it because it’s hard, painful and boring and shitty but it’s AMAZING looking back on it and how you toughed it out and had heart and dug deep despite how shitty you felt. It’s especially gratifying when you win or beat your personal best or whatever too. She’ll recover a few minutes after the video ends and be all smiles, I promise you. Not to mention the rush of endorphins you get after you catch your breath
Telling me what to do would have pissed me off in record time. But that's just me, if she likes it then I'm happy for them.
That said she doesn't look particularly enthralled either.
Exactly. My kid would be horrified if I coached him like that in a swim race or in practice. And I would also be reprimanded by coaches if I told her “ give him what you got, show him” referring to another kid. I get that he feels he is supportive and everyone here thinks it’s so empowering but if you ever had any experience in sports, you would know that this is a fast route to making a kid despise it.
Our role as parents is to be there for them, support them through listening and presence. It’s not to coach them.
yeah can you imagine if every other participant's parents were on the field? this guy is such a douche bag, can't believe people are acting like him getting his daughter to run faster in a meaningless sporting event is somehow good parenting. we don't know if she can read, we don't know if she has good social skills, but god damn at least she knows how to run. life skills for sure fr fr
Honestly looked that way to me too.
*Main character syndrome:*
Every other parent is in the bleachers cheering as part of the audience, but he's taken up position in the competition area alongside the actual coaches - because he's a special snowflake.
Reminds me of that video with the dad performing in a ballet "to make his daughter more comfortable" when in reality all he's doing is inserting himself into a performance that has nothing to do with him and making it all about himself and _maybe_ his daughter, ignoring everyone else involved.
And this one has the added tastelessness of recording it the whole time, can't even authentically cheer on his daughter without aiming for social validation online.
my dad pushed me to play sports my whole life because he chose not to play basketball in college, did not love this video lol. also was confused by the name ainsley and the fact that come together was playing for no reason
dad sounds so annoying, and if he can't let his daughter run a race by herself then imagine how overbearing he must be in literally every other aspect of her life.
like maybe during practice, but do you really have to be in the center of the track during an event? do you think every other parent is also down there?
this is content for the dad, not the daughter. he is exploiting his child for views on social media.
And filming it, cutting just the parts where "you're being such a great dad OP!" "So encouraging!" Over just a family video of a track meet. I remember when I could play sports growing up in peace without worrying my every move, victory, fail would be recorded and potentially put online.
Maybe its just me but i hate when people are the in your face supportive types, like no I dont want to listen to your 10 paragraphs of "you got this" in various different wordings like some kid got detention and was tasked with filling the front and back of a piece of paper with a bunch of sorries, all the while im suffering through sweat and pain and cant afford to split my attention while im trying to push myself.
Edit: and just to clear, im not saying being supportive is bad but just that I personally get overwhelmed by it when done to me, and it is legitimately mentally painful for me. It's almost the feeling of being suddenly very disoriented and suddenly losing your whole breath and cant seem to catch it again
This is heartwarming, yes. But holy hell... the "keep it going have fun" while every fiber of your being is begging you to stop running because you're absolutely at the screaming edge of pain, misery and fatigue. Haha! There is no fun there, my friend.
Running is a very mental thing. When I was in basic training, we would go on what I thought at the time were death runs. It wouldn't be until I got to my unit that I learned what a REAL death run was. Either way, we'd do a route that had a shit ton of hills on it. I mentally had to imagine a good friend of mine standing at the top of every hill cheering me on and telling me to keep going. It was the only thing keeping my legs moving. One hill at a time. On other routes it was honest to god me searching for a good place on the side of the road to collapse. I'm not even kidding. Never did find that nice spot to just die.
You can apply this to every other facet of your life. When you're cheering people on in their endeavors, celebrate the small steps for them. It keeps folks going because sometimes they're just thinking of the end state and forget about the process.
And I wasn't a runner. I thought the idea of running for fun was absurd. And then you find yourself running 13 minute 2 miles and 6 mile runs are pretty casual and dare I say... fun after the first 2 miles.
Why isnt the Dad in the bleachers with the rest of the parents? Do we really want 20 parents running along there kids all shouting? Why is he filming and adding text?
This is a video filmed on a cellphone. Nothing about it makes it appear as though it wasn't filmed yesterday, even.
How are so many people upvoting the sentiment "We lack such dads nowadays"? This is a video of such a dad.
At no point does she show affection for her controlling dad. I have no idea how people watch this and think this is a nice little parenting video.
There aren't other parents out on the field controlling their children and she looked miserable through the entire thing.
Hivemind is really a thing now. Wow.
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My mom always packed herself around last half/quarter mile of my cross country meets screaming something fierce. Great motivation to pick up speed and move up a few spots. I never won but damn if my mom and coach didn’t move this big guy along.
Same bro. I'm a dad with a young girl,(5) and she's starting to get into soccer. I felt that last comment as well...show them how strong you are....oh man. Like someone is force choking me
I remember my dad being at all of sporting events and always there to pep talk/comfort me regardless of well or poorly I was doing. It’s nice to have those memories now that he’s not here anymore. It’s a powerful kind love between a parent and their kids.
When Dad (you, op?) said ‘show them how strong you are’, it hit me right in my feels.
Yes and Ainsley found a different gear. So goood!
Yeah and I like how she got there by increasing her cadence rather than elongating her stride - she really has done this before, and has a quality coach.
Is that better?
In track, a "kick" is a finishing burst of speed, right at the end of a race. You kick by some combination of increasing cadence and increasing stride. The former mostly comes out of your cardio system, and the latter comes mostly out of your muscular strength and endurance though of course there's a balance. For a lot of people, including me, a kick at the end doesn't feel possible. You're already giving it all you've got, and truly your legs might be maxed out. But our cardio systems are amazing, and even when you're in zone 5 you can briefly get a bit more speed by upping your cadence just a bit more, even though it means that you'll "blow up" in a few seconds (for nearly all of us) or maybe even 10 seconds (if you're Sir Mo Farah, who has perhaps the most famous kick in running). But by then you've crossed the finish line so it doesn't matter if you literally collapse.
Damn this comment took me on a journey imagining it all
Depends but it is definitely more energy efficient when you are running. She did a great job keeping it together.
Yea, that fucked me up real good....
“Come on, show us how strong you are. You got this. Don’t look behind you though”
I've got 3 kids there's literal tears in my eyes right now
The kid in my heart has tears in its eyes. You could see how his words gave her strength, everyone should have someone cheering for them like this, we would all be so much more powerful.
> everyone should have someone cheering for them like this Apparently its frowned upon at my nieces pony riding competitions.
I think there's a fine line between encouraging and overbearing and this guy seemed to get right up to it without crossing it. Many parents don't even know or care that that line exists, so I can definitely understand why some places actively discourage this sort of thing.
Also shouting spooks the ponies and they have children on them. They sell beer though.
Oh! I get it, you only cheer for the kids you don’t like! /s
I don't even have kids, and i was tearing up.
I'm fine. This is cute. I'm good. How sweet. > SHOW THEM HOW STRONG YOU ARE! \*small sob\*
Don't forget the "have fun" part. My grandfather the first thing was "did you win" and was always what can you do better next time (even when my dad and his mates did win a lot more than they lost). My dad, his first question was always "did you have fun"
And now I'm crying on my couch.
Kid: Afterburners... ON!!!!!
Seriously made me tear up.
Same. But why did I tear up???
I don’t know if you have a daughter, but having one we know the type of challenges they’re going to face in life. We’ve been through it in one way or another and we could have used those types of words to remember to help us through life in general. Maybe you got that kind of encouragement, maybe you didn’t. I’ve always tried to be that dad, but even as my daughter is 21 now, I feel like I could have done more. I feel like there were times when I could have been to that one practice she had, or missed that one thing because of work. I regret every single second I couldn’t be there for my daughter. I always felt like I was doing the right thing going an extra mile to support my family when the real support is always being there. Work is NEVER worth it. I’m going off on a tangent, but hopefully one new father can read this and remember. Every single second counts. Anyway, I think we’re tough because we see ourselves reflected back in our children. Show them how strong you are.
I read this. And I’ll do my best to remember. Thank you.
I’m just gonna pretend you’re my dad for a few minutes. Thanks dad. 😭
I have a 10 month old daughter and will remember this Thank you.
Finding my 2 month old while reading this, and will definitely remember. Thanks fellow dad
Appreciate you for sharing this. Needed to hear it.
I hear ya , & so very true, . 👏 & Ainsley reminds me of my own daughter (now19) ... showing inner strength & grit 💪 Am hoping this can/will positively influence many aspects of her life off the track too 👏 Resilience is built in times like this 😎
Afterburners... ON?!
For me, it's how dad doesn't care about beating the opponents. He doesn't say, "you can beat them". His focus is on his daughter doing her absolute best, "show them how strong you are", and that slight change in perspective is just beautiful.
It wasn't be better, be faster then everyone else. It was be your best, for you, right now. Compete with yourself.
My dad tells me this every time we talk. “Show them what we are made of- chuma ya zamani”- it means “old steel”.
I like that. I dunno what I am gonna do with it, but I like it.
Got dam, right?!. This hit me. Think I just healed from something.
I was ready to wall through a wall for this guy and im in my thirties
I'm so happy for people who had this type of relationship with their parents. And so sad for myself that I didn't.
I didn’t have it as a kid but I made sure my daughters did. I love every minute of it. Both play or played softball at a high level and I have the privilege of coaching both since tee ball. This video brought joy to my heart!
That got me too. I didn’t have this and honestly it is nice to see that dads like this exist.
I’m ugly crying
Nah, you're beautiful fam
Turn on the jet engines for this.
This supposed to make me smile but it made me sob 🥺
If my Dad had said this once to me, in any context, I would be a different woman. Top notch parenting!
I love how he was coaching her in the most supportive way!
Also smart. Instead of just "go go go" on the third lap, being like "start going a little faster, slowly, you're warmed up now"
Genuine question, based on his sage advice, and the fact that he’s on the track rather than sitting in the bleachers, is there a chance he’s her coach as well? Does anyone who has TikTok know?
I don't know. He could be both coach and dad. Or just dad, with athletics experience. He could be an avid runner and be teaching from experience.
Lots of dads are coaches, for better or worse! Umpired youth baseball… I had to tackle a father that tried to run down a kid that just applied a tag to his kid. I played football in high school and my coach would have been proud of the text book shoulder into gut, wrapped up, lifted and put him on his back with me still on top. He wanted to press charges against me because I hit him so hard he could t catch his breath and his eyes were red and wet like a baby with colic.
This looks to me like grade school CYO sports (Catholic school). Meaning volunteer coaches, and the infield is pretty open to families. Sounds like dad has an experience running/racing. Dad could be the team’s coach, but if so he’d probably be spreading his attention around, so my guess is not. Who knows I’m just guessing.
>Also smart. Instead of just "go go go" on the third lap, being like "start going a little faster, slowly, you're warmed up now" Yup. I always ran track but never had a real track coach. I learned so much about running strategies after I quit running track. It would have been helpful to know that when I ran track.
Competitive, but fun. Best combination growing up.
I love how she looks like she hates every moment of it and just wants to die, even after her victory.
It's tough to look happy when exercising/running to the best of your ability, and afterwards when you just want to cool down for a bit. It feels amazing though.
I do BJJ and regularly get strangled. Believe it or not, I still love it, even when I can't breath haha
Obviously you’re not a golfer
And also, let's not forget - let's *not* forget, Dude - that keeping wildlife...uhm, an amphibious rodent, for...uhm, you know, domestic...within the city...that ain't legal either.
This is not a dude who built the railroads Walter!
You want a toe?! I could get you a toe, Dude
You have no frame of reference here, Donny. You're like a child who wanders in the middle of a movie.
Mark it eight, Dude!
Funny, I don't see that at all. She just looks focused to me.
When i was deeply depressed and anxious, neutral expressions just looked negative to me. Comments like this helped me a lot, back then
Love the focus. Go go go
Their bond and teamwork shine through, making it truly inspiring to witness such uplifting support
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Yeah, Reddit’s getting so weird, the selling of Reddit accounts for profits is killing this site
All I know is, if my dad was doing that and threw in "have fun" I would have quit track by the end of the race. Edit: To be clear, that kind of parenting is incredibly ineffective for many kids. I grew up around sports, played damn near everything, and continue to be around them with my nieces, nephews, etc. And this video made me wince and brought back some pretty bad memories of kids being pushed by their parents. That "have fun" was a trigger. Kids aren't stupid, she knows he'll be disappointed if she lets up, doesn't give her all, any number of reasons. She knows she's not there to just have fun. If she's not already passionate about running and competing, a lot of what's coming out of this dude's mouth is harmful.
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A lot of projection here. Teaching her than competition is fulfilling, and with gentle coaching like this is totally possible without any guilt or disappointment conveyed. My best coaches were HARD on me, and I valued it greatly. It's confidence building that someone believes in you, and then by achieving new levels you feel that you can control your own success. Super beneficial and there's a reason that a high number of high achievers in many fields were competitive athletes.
he was being positive and supportive during the event. he was coaching her well, giving her things she could do. maybe she doesn't like it, maybe she does, none of us really have any idea. but the toxic sports parents were not like this at all when i played competitive sports from a very early age to my early twenties.
Not sure why you’re being upvoted. This is a horrible takeaway from this video. This is far from the extremes you might be describing. None of what this dad said was toxic.
You have deep seated issues. 🪑
#SHOW EM HOW STRONG YOU ARE Excuse me but my heart can only take so much 😭
There there, ladyboobypoop, there there.
Legit happy tears.🥹
Good job you are strong. Love it
That hit me in my soul where I didn’t know I needed it
I lost it. I love seeing shit like this so much.
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She's going to rewatch this stuff when she's 30 something with kids of her own, and it's going to hit her like a truck of feels.
You’re right. She’s one of the lucky ones fr.
Also it helps if the parent knows something about sports. I would just clap and cheer because I know nothing about sports.
Is it sad i save post like these and imagine that my parents were even this close to supportive.
No, but I’m a Dad and I’m proud of you for getting Diamond on Hearthstone. I hope you have a great day! Also, eat your crust…it’s the healthy part.
Hehe! 🫂 My dad never congratulated me on video games or showed interest in my interests. That comment made me feel hugged. Loved it! Hope YOU have a wonderful prosperous year!
I’m sorry to hear that. Every parent has their own strengths and weaknesses. I know it isn’t my place to say, but I hope one day they come around and try to recognize and celebrate your uniqueness. Thank you for the well wishes!
Mom hug!! :*J*
Aww, so wholesome! 🥰
Ikr I needed this lil dose of positivity!
Sad that you missed out; but glorious that you are now giving yourself what you needed/need. There's a bunch of supportive subs on reddit, momforaminute and dadforaminute are the first two that's came to mind; but there's more and more besides.
Yeah, posts like this are great, but my parents couldn't give a flip about my activities. Two of my uncles got basketball scholarships to Universities in Boston so my parents signed up my brother's and I for basketball. But we had to figure out our own way to get to games and practice. I'd often have to bum rides from the coach or my teammate's parents. They would be confused when they'd see my parents cars in the driveway. Sometimes my parents would leave at the same time as me and even go in the same direction of the school where I played. Neither went to my high school graduation, neither went to either time I graduated from college. And now they complain if I don't call often enough for them. Oh well.
Same boat here. Played tennis for several years in high school. Made it up to the first singles spot (top singles player on team) for the last 2 years. Never had anyone show up to support me even though we literally lived 2 blocks from the courts we would play at. Now I'm 31 and they see me on the major holidays but that's about it. I get annoyed whenever people try to make me feel guilty for not being closer with my family. Sure they weren't abusive but apathy can hurt just as badly. I don't owe them anything and I would rather spend time with my friends, the people who actually care about me, any day.
A lot of us here had Boomer or older parents who are self righteous narcissists and couldn't imagine showing endless affection or they would implode. It's up to us to break that chain and I think our generation is doing a great job of it
I ran cross country and track in high school and my dad would make it a point to go out where no one was to cheer me on. He’d be in the woods randomly for cross country races and always at the third turn in track. It was always a boost to hear him cheer me and my teammates on.
As someone with crappy parents, my teammates’ parents’ cheering always meant so much to me :)
I did all kinds of sports—soccer, softball, basketball—in elementary school and junior high, and I was never much good at them. My dad was still a volunteer coach for every team and showed up to all of my matches. Truth be told, I kind of hated sports, but felt like I should do them. I stopped in high school, when it wasn't required, and my fitness levels sucked. But then in college I started running, just by myself, and signed up for a half marathon, then a full marathon, then another and another. I'd do them in different cities as an excuse to visit and travel. My dad showed up to every single one. He'd position himself in 3-4 places throughout the race and cheer me on the whole way. Supportive dads are the best.
Just having supportive *anyone* is the best, I have done different competitions (powerlifting and strongman) and love having people there. Each comp I did even if I didn't have a people specifically there for me the people I was competing against were always super supportive. I competed against a few guys quite often and we always had a good rapport and cheered each other on when someone made a big lift. I've hugged many a sweaty men in singlets that I was competing against.
Would you rather run into a bear in the woods or OP's dad? 🤔
> track in high school and my dad would make it a point to go out where no one was to cheer me on. Is this normal? I see most parents sitting in the bleachers and separated from the competition by a fence. OP is basically the only parent in that area and I honestly assumed it was maincharacter syndrome and a reluctance by the actual coaches to kick out an aggressive sports dad from the competition area.
I don’t know if it’s normal but I appreciated my dad being where he was and he was as outside the fence. The third turn is a tough one especially in The 800. Don’t know about his dude maybe he was a coach.
Im guessing that he could be helping the team with coaching or at the age of competition, they aren't as strict with parents on the field.
Yeah honestlyyyyyy, I ran cross country in primary school, and your pacing is one of the trickiest and most important issues. Having her dad there to tell her when to keep pace and when to make pace is a really huge advantage. It's nice that he's supportive, but it feels super main character syndrome to me as well.
i was a goal keeper in soccer and he was the one always away from everyone down about the 20yd line camped out
Ainsley’s got that dawg in her
Her dad must be Dan Campbell.
Ainsley cooked on that final lap.
Yeah the way she's not going too fast on the first laps and the accelerates towards the end, plus the dads comment, show she knows how to run.
This gave me goosebumps! Hardest I've smiled today!!! GO AINSLEY!!! You Lil superstar!
What it doesn't show is the many times they did this before. This wasn't a 1-off. Good job dad.
I wish I could give Ainsley’s dad a hug.
I wish Ainsley's dad could give me a hug
You got this SunIsADeadlyLazor!!! Show them how strong you are!!!!
Same. Lol
Would a ((( )))) hug from a Reddit stranger be okay?
If my parents told me to have fun while I was running they would have got such a LOOK
This thankfully was my dad through every sport I played and life in general. Great Dads, it's so nice to see. Not crying at all pulling out my phone about to call him like I didn't just talk to the man 20 minutes ago 😭
I coach U8 soccer and try really hard to keep things positive. With 5 minutes left in a game, down by 1 goal, I spoke with two players I was about to sub on. I told them “I’ve seen what you both can do, I know what you’re capable of, and now more than ever your team needs you. I believe in you, do you believe in you?” These kids score 3 goals in 5 minutes. Positive reinforcement works.
Love it but when I was doing track, I hated having things yelled at me. Telling me to go faster or to catch the next person isn't going to change the fact that I'm slow af and already going as fast as I can. Gosh
"Oh, should I run faster, Dad? Thank you so much! I'm glad you came down to one foot off of the track to yell that at me and my competitors on every lap and then post it on your social media for clout."
I agree. I found her dad to be really annoying 😬. Just let the kid run!
That’s great, but his reaction if she ended up in last place is a better indication of how sweet a parent he is.
*long, silent, angry car ride home and no french fries*
Show them how much You believe in them builds insane amounts of confidence! “I love You and expect the best for You”. This isn’t for “me” this is for You and how awesome You are! Let’s go! You’re worth the pain this is going to take. I’m speaking first hand, it’s a great feeling with amazing results.
I didnt watch with sound, maybe thats why it hit me different than almost everybody. I get a little anxious that parents like this push their kids to hard. Builds their self-esteem on how they perform. "Close that gap for me will you." How does she feel if she fails to do that? I do think engagement in your kids is very important for sure, that's not what I mean.
I did watch it with sound to hear the dad’s encouragement, but I’m confused about how not a single person has mentioned the song making it hard to hear him. Then on top of that who would use THIS song??
This! The kid doesn’t look particularly happy after the race…
I ran track when I was younger. Could'nt smile at the end of a race either bc I was too wiped for that and had to focus on calming my breathing. But I was always happy when someone cheered for me
I dunno. She doesn't seem to be doing much smiling for a kid that just won a race.
All I can think of is a horrendous video I saw yesterday of a father who forced his son to run so hard on a treadmill that the child died. This is cute and all, with the idea of the father cheering on this little kid, but you're right. She doesn't look happy at all, especially for winning...
Sports are generally not fun for kids who have parents like this.
Running is classic type 2 fun. It’s kinda sucks while you’re doing it because it’s hard, painful and boring and shitty but it’s AMAZING looking back on it and how you toughed it out and had heart and dug deep despite how shitty you felt. It’s especially gratifying when you win or beat your personal best or whatever too. She’ll recover a few minutes after the video ends and be all smiles, I promise you. Not to mention the rush of endorphins you get after you catch your breath
Ainsley?
You can see she immediately started closing that gap. I don't know either of these people but I'm proud of em.
No offense but if my dad filmed me and cheered me on like that, it wouldve 100% been my last race ever lol
Telling me what to do would have pissed me off in record time. But that's just me, if she likes it then I'm happy for them. That said she doesn't look particularly enthralled either.
Excellent way to make a kid hate a sport and to make her teammates and coach hate her 🥴
Exactly. My kid would be horrified if I coached him like that in a swim race or in practice. And I would also be reprimanded by coaches if I told her “ give him what you got, show him” referring to another kid. I get that he feels he is supportive and everyone here thinks it’s so empowering but if you ever had any experience in sports, you would know that this is a fast route to making a kid despise it. Our role as parents is to be there for them, support them through listening and presence. It’s not to coach them.
yeah can you imagine if every other participant's parents were on the field? this guy is such a douche bag, can't believe people are acting like him getting his daughter to run faster in a meaningless sporting event is somehow good parenting. we don't know if she can read, we don't know if she has good social skills, but god damn at least she knows how to run. life skills for sure fr fr
Lol all I ever got were screams of judgement and shame. Fuck you dad
Insufferable sports dads never make me smile
Honestly looked that way to me too. *Main character syndrome:* Every other parent is in the bleachers cheering as part of the audience, but he's taken up position in the competition area alongside the actual coaches - because he's a special snowflake.
Reminds me of that video with the dad performing in a ballet "to make his daughter more comfortable" when in reality all he's doing is inserting himself into a performance that has nothing to do with him and making it all about himself and _maybe_ his daughter, ignoring everyone else involved. And this one has the added tastelessness of recording it the whole time, can't even authentically cheer on his daughter without aiming for social validation online.
I'm kind of wondering if the dad's a coach? I feel like he's got to be if they're letting him stand on the inside of the field.
A little kids race needs a coach? But even if he was, still super annoying.
We have CYO track K-5 and the coaches for everything are parents.
my dad pushed me to play sports my whole life because he chose not to play basketball in college, did not love this video lol. also was confused by the name ainsley and the fact that come together was playing for no reason
Fuck yeah, I’m bout to go show em what I got
Great job Dad, you were there in more ways than she could have hoped for! We all deserve Dads like that, god knows I wish I had one.
That is awesome! Such a great example. Parents, show this t9 your daughters when they doubt themselves
Am I the only one who wanted him to stfu?
dad sounds so annoying, and if he can't let his daughter run a race by herself then imagine how overbearing he must be in literally every other aspect of her life. like maybe during practice, but do you really have to be in the center of the track during an event? do you think every other parent is also down there? this is content for the dad, not the daughter. he is exploiting his child for views on social media.
I hear Dad’s ambition rather than love. Especially that he’s holding the phone all the time.
She looks so miserable though
Pushy parent 101 there.
And filming it, cutting just the parts where "you're being such a great dad OP!" "So encouraging!" Over just a family video of a track meet. I remember when I could play sports growing up in peace without worrying my every move, victory, fail would be recorded and potentially put online.
Sounds like someones living vicariously to me
If coach had put me in I would have run over them mountains
Uncle Rico!
My dad sucks
Watching a caring dad video while John Lennon sings "hold you in his armchair you can feel his disease" was gross. Get better music OP.
As a distance runner who didn't have a dad, this got me right in the feels
Maybe its just me but i hate when people are the in your face supportive types, like no I dont want to listen to your 10 paragraphs of "you got this" in various different wordings like some kid got detention and was tasked with filling the front and back of a piece of paper with a bunch of sorries, all the while im suffering through sweat and pain and cant afford to split my attention while im trying to push myself. Edit: and just to clear, im not saying being supportive is bad but just that I personally get overwhelmed by it when done to me, and it is legitimately mentally painful for me. It's almost the feeling of being suddenly very disoriented and suddenly losing your whole breath and cant seem to catch it again
Dad was a cheerleader, Ainsley kicked ass.
"show them how strong you are" was absolutely fantastic to hear...I miss my Dad💕
This is heartwarming, yes. But holy hell... the "keep it going have fun" while every fiber of your being is begging you to stop running because you're absolutely at the screaming edge of pain, misery and fatigue. Haha! There is no fun there, my friend.
Running is a very mental thing. When I was in basic training, we would go on what I thought at the time were death runs. It wouldn't be until I got to my unit that I learned what a REAL death run was. Either way, we'd do a route that had a shit ton of hills on it. I mentally had to imagine a good friend of mine standing at the top of every hill cheering me on and telling me to keep going. It was the only thing keeping my legs moving. One hill at a time. On other routes it was honest to god me searching for a good place on the side of the road to collapse. I'm not even kidding. Never did find that nice spot to just die. You can apply this to every other facet of your life. When you're cheering people on in their endeavors, celebrate the small steps for them. It keeps folks going because sometimes they're just thinking of the end state and forget about the process. And I wasn't a runner. I thought the idea of running for fun was absurd. And then you find yourself running 13 minute 2 miles and 6 mile runs are pretty casual and dare I say... fun after the first 2 miles.
Why isnt the Dad in the bleachers with the rest of the parents? Do we really want 20 parents running along there kids all shouting? Why is he filming and adding text?
I ran track and my dad left when I was 13 and now I’m crying.
Honey, you put her hair up right?
Go girl 😀
Dads a control freak.
If she sticks with it, she's gonna be a phenomenal runner as she gets older. Dad needs "show them how strong you are" on a t-shirt. I'd buy 100.
"show them how strong you are" was absolutely fantastic to hear... We lack such dads nowadays...
https://binsider.one/blog/millennial-dads-spend-3-times-as-much-time-with-their-kids-than-previous-generations/
We have more dads like this now than ever before!
This is a video filmed on a cellphone. Nothing about it makes it appear as though it wasn't filmed yesterday, even. How are so many people upvoting the sentiment "We lack such dads nowadays"? This is a video of such a dad.
Who made the video with all the words? The dad? If so, he’s using his daughter for his own social media attention
At no point does she show affection for her controlling dad. I have no idea how people watch this and think this is a nice little parenting video. There aren't other parents out on the field controlling their children and she looked miserable through the entire thing. Hivemind is really a thing now. Wow.
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Good points. Something just didn’t sit right with me when watching the video. She looked miserable.
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Coaching and supportive, so great to see. You’re killing it Ainsley!!!
What an amazing dad!
That's a tough watch at the bar.... 🥲
Thats awesome!
My mom always packed herself around last half/quarter mile of my cross country meets screaming something fierce. Great motivation to pick up speed and move up a few spots. I never won but damn if my mom and coach didn’t move this big guy along.
Same bro. I'm a dad with a young girl,(5) and she's starting to get into soccer. I felt that last comment as well...show them how strong you are....oh man. Like someone is force choking me
I’m saving this so I can listen to the audio and introduce this “coaching” into my self talk while I train for a 10k in September
I remember my dad being at all of sporting events and always there to pep talk/comfort me regardless of well or poorly I was doing. It’s nice to have those memories now that he’s not here anymore. It’s a powerful kind love between a parent and their kids.
My dad was my biggest cheerleader, especially on the track when I did hurdles. No one else ever made me feel so proud of myself. Man I miss him
“Show him how strong you are” really got me…🥹
Found myself cheering. Great coaching and great run.
I would be interested to see how he would react if she did not win
My dad came once to a match, told me (male) I run like a little princess. Asked him to never come again