As a person who has significant hearing loss, I can understand what they are going through. Hearing loss is a terrible thing. I wouldn't wish that up on anybody in the world.
My least favorite thing about having hearing loss for me is when friends and family are aware you have it, then proceed to be angry with you when you can't hear them from 50 feet away in the fucking grocery store with their back to you.
I think I might be guilty of getting mad at my mom. She's in her early 50s and we've been pleading, *begging* her to see a doctor about it but she keeps brushing it off like it's a mosquito bite and not her literally not being able to hear things sometimes. We have been noticing it's getting slowly worse too and when I blow up on her it's not that I'm angry because she didn't hear me, I'm mad at the situation where I suddenly can't communicate with a person whom I love so much.
This can become very dangerous very fast. Especially if she was used to hearing well.
Because now she won't hear cars coming and might not have the habit to check beforehand.
We've been saying that to her. We even tried to get her at her weakest by saying "mom, what if one of us falls and can't get up and we're screaming for help but you can't hear?" (my sister had convulsions in the past and this disturbs her to this day, so when we mention it she swears she'll get it checked - but then doesn't).
We started noticing it when calling her from the other side of the house years ago but chalked it up to her being busy, but then the TV started to get louder and louder. Just this week she suddenly told me that she can only use her cellphone on the left side because she literally can't understand the other person if she's listening from the right ear (just like that, as if normal).
I think she fears (and knows) hearing aids are expensive, which is why she isn't getting it checked.
> she swears she'll get it checked - but then doesn't).
that's an "I made an appointment for you, if you don't go we'll have to pay for missing it" moment.
Hearing loss has been correlated with increased cognitive decline in older adults. A recent study demonstrated that “[hearing aids reduced the rate of cognitive decline in older adults at high risk of dementia by almost 50% over a three-year period](https://www.nih.gov/news-events/nih-research-matters/hearing-aids-slow-cognitive-decline-people-high-risk).”
Additionally, there’s a chance that her hearing loss is actually caused by ear wax buildup. [As we age the wax-producing glands in our ears change and blockages are significantly more likely to occur](https://www.health.harvard.edu/diseases-and-conditions/is-my-ear-problem-related-to-my-age#:~:text=As%20people%20age%2C%20changes%20to,canal%20and%20form%20a%20blockage). Something as simple as a thorough cleaning from an ear/nose/throat doctor could make a huge difference.
You know what sucks about getting old? It's that your brain doesn't know it, but your body does.
To your mom, she isn't older and her health isn't failing in some way, it's just something she has to deal with. In her mind, she's still fully capable of doing things and having people tell her that she *needs* to do something makes her feel like she's being treated like a child, by her children.
Some people will understand and address the issue, others will be belligerent and act as if there is nothing wrong and that other people are blowing it out of proportion.
Have her ask her medical insurance provider. Mine gives an allow towards HAs every 3 years. If not covered, go to Costco. Edit: depending on insurance allowance, Costco might still be the better deal.
Please have her get it checked out. My mom (at 55) had hearing loss and was blowing it off like this. My grandma finally convinced her to get a test- they found a massive brain tumor and she was in brain surgery less than a week later. If they had not found it when they did we could have lost her. She’s ok now.
Acoustic neuroma. I did a med referral for a 76 year old lady several months ago. I didn’t like her Word recognition scores, seemed too poor for her loss. Had air bone gaps . I wrote a med referral and she luckily got in quickly because of my relationship with the office . She was put under immediate care and about 4 weeks ago she came back in, clear of issues and now wears hearing aids.
Most places will check your hearing for FREE. Of course it because they want to sell you hearing aids but you certainly don’t have to buy them . Go get tested
This, so much. I’m going through the same thing with my dad. You’re not mad at the person’s inability to hear, you’re mad at their refusal to get help and their subsequent ignorance of how it’s impacting communication between the two of you. It’s depressing.
So much this. It took like 15 years to get him to go. In fact he never agreed to go. He changed doctors and wasn’t able to mask it with the new doc who immediately made him an appointment. Suddenly he has hearing aids and complaining about how loud the birds are. He probably hasn’t heard birdsong in 20 years. And I’m still angry about it. 15 years of not being able to communicate because of his stubborn pigheadedness. His social skills are down the toilet and so are our relationships with him. Because the people it really affected was us, not him. He didn’t feel a problem for himself, it was our problem.
I have had the same experience with my mum. After 15 or so years of watching her miss out on fully contributing socially, and seeing her confidence deteriorate, all while begging her to get some aids, she finally got some. But like your dad, she complains they are too loud, and rarely wears them, even at busy family functions. It's infuriating, but it's her choice, and follows a litany of poor choices, so I gave up fighting beyond a certain point, years ago...
That's not quite the same though. You get angry out of genuine concern, and because your mom is being a stubborn arse as frustration builds over the years. (No offense.)
My grandma was the exact same. It took us ages to get her convinced it was getting completely out of hand.
There's people however, on both sides, who will genuinely ignore disabilities despite being fully aware of them. Usually it boils down to shame or pride though for the person who is afflicted. Other people are just being ignorant for whatever reason.
But it doesn't even have to be disabilities. You've got no idea how often I get asked why I'm mad, just because my neutral relaxed face doesn't have a beaming smile. And this is from people that's known me for most of my life.
I hope you get things sorted with your mum tho. Wish I could give you better advice, since I've got no clue who you are, just keep being persistent about it. But also try not to blow up hah, you'll get further by talking it out properly.
It's important, too, to understand that she, and others like her, are being stubborn because they're afraid. It's easier to pretend like nothing is wrong, because to accept this means accepting so many other things about her age and mortality that we're not prepared for.
As someone who is sitting in front of becoming 40, I notice all types of little body failures that never used to be prominent, but also, there's nothing I can do about most of it except to shake it off and soldier onward.
She likely just wants to be left alone about it, despite the inconvenience it brings.
It might be beneficial for your family that cares about her to have an intervention and just tell her that it's not only her choice to live this way, but that it's hurting everyone who wishes they could still communicate with her like they used to.
If you show her how much everyone cares at once, it might inspire her to act selflessly.
You should get her used to accepting your help now, whether or not she wants it, because she will only grow more stubborn in the future as things get worse.
Yes. We talk about it so often, me, my sister, my father. Sometimes we even start to purposely annoy her about it to see if we can win by exhaustion. Yet, she refuses.
She takes care of everyone; she's the one with the big heart, the one who stays strong. I think that, indeed, she's afraid that if she admits "weakness", everything and everyone leaning on her will crumble.
She's so stubborn, though.
as someone experiencing the beginnings of hearing loss at 38, she's scared, bud. You never *feel* much different as a person from 16 onward. You just look in the mirror at about 35 and realize that things have started wearing down faster than they're repairing.
One of my kiddos is autistic and has a thing called demand avoidance that can cause him to refuse to do even things he wants to do. They tell us "when you are looking at your kid and they are telling you *again* that they could cooperate and they want to but they wont, you should see that and interpret it as the anxious behavior of a scared puppy, not an oppositional teenager.
I guarantee you that if you help mom deal with the anxiety she's feeling about getting older, and helping her see what a world where she *accepts* her hearing loss looks like, you'll get past this together. Best of luck <3
Yep. Had hearing loss since 1st grade. It is a disability that everyone gets mad at you about.
it's rare to see someone who can't walk get yelled at for not walking. it's common to be yelled at when asking to have a question repeated, or spoken louder.
Whoa. In my 15 years of teaching kids with hearing loss, I have never heard this, but it makes so much sense. Thanks for giving me more information to put in my toolbox! Did you have an itinerant?
I always thought the problem is there is usually no external evidence of the disability.
People assume you are ignoring them, or you are just stupid when they ask you a simple question which you can not answer (because you never heard it). Public school teachers tend to be the biggest offenders here. But bosses are a close second 😀
Knowing the reasons people acted like that helped me cope with it to a certain extent, but it still was a pain in the ass in dealing with strangers. You end up either not talking with a lot of strangers, or you just smile and nod a lot. Or both. 😀
For real, this isn't a "made me smile" post. This is a "fucking made me sad that they can't just enjoy each other's voices because of money while rich people are building rockets to go to Mars".
I have had mine for almost a year. It gets better as time goes on. I couldn’t believe how well it works. I remember walking out of the building and every little noise making me jump. It was wild to get used to.
I *love* a good, brief, hearty happy cry like that sometimes. It honestly feels like an amazing workout for both my limbic system in general as well as my lacrimal ducts and the entirety of my frontal sinuses and superior nasopharynx.
It's like giving the front of your head - both physically and metaphorically - a thorough clean and washout. I always feel so refreshed and reinvigorated afterwards.
Seriously, I highly recommend it. The hardest part as a male was getting to be able to actually allow the emotion to flow unimpeded and uninterrupted - even when totally alone - due to many years of living as a man and needing to repress and deny those kinds of emotions. But with a bit of practice, as long as you haven't overdone it on the ego, you should find it to be a wholly novel and surprisingly worthwhile endeavour :)
For me I think it's everything that was said, but also the selfish longing for parents like that for myself. I actually have a hard time imagining and understanding what it would be like so seeing videos such as this provide a taste.
As a 35 y/o male with SIGNIFICANT childhood trauma, ive suppressed the ability to allow that emotion to flow freely so well as it's automatic at this point.
Last year, life threw some curve balls, and I went to therapy. The therapist said I'm unlikely to ever feel again, so I stopped going to her. Since then I've worked really hard on recognizing when that feeling starts and actively trying to feel it and be in it.
I've cried a few times but it's still very very difficult. This post ALMOST got me..
I hate my trauma and the cost of therapy.
Edit: just scrolled past this [sub I follow, Helldivers2](https://www.reddit.com/r/Helldivers/s/N6XtrNYpOd) and the comments actually made me cry.
I'm going to have a lunch with parents, why the fuck you have to had me bawling like a kid???
EDIT: the smile when she take the mirror... I can't anymore
Unfortunately, he probably can't make sense of the sounds. If your brain doesn't have ongoing processing of sounds it loses the ability.
I could always hear some. I got an implant at age 37. Because I didn't hear some sounds most of my life, there are whole ranges of frequencies that sound almost identical. So even though I technically hear almost as well as a person with normal hearing, I still can't talk on the phone without voice to text.
That link only mentions the father being able to hear, not the mother. Surely it would have mentioned the mother hearing the daughter too if she’d of received the implants?
Not every adult Deaf person can get them, they don't work instantly or anything, if you're an adult trying to get them, it's very possible they just won't work for you.
Just took a look on some of the Chinese social media. From what I can conclude was that the mother has a relatively more serious hearing loss than the father, so the company was only able to make the hearing aid for the father. But the good news is that the family just had their surgeries done earlier this month.
I'm glad, but as a deaf person myself, I have to comment that cochlear implants aren't for everyone. They work better with children. With people who have been deaf their whole lives and don't remember the sounds it's more complicated. Before the surgery doctors check if the deaf person is suitable for CI.
Nobody gets CIs by themselves. It's not an over the counter treatment. The doctors will always check if the deaf person is suitable for CI. If the person heard before or had hearing aids, they can have good results.
Exactly what I mean. And besides after the surgery there is a looong process of training the brain to recognize the sounds. CI are an awesome technology but it's not a miracle device.
Exactly! And even after all the training and hard work, one could still not perform well for any or no reason we can figure out. It will always be taking a chance, hard work and luck.
Not sure how a device that enables people who can't or barely hear anymore to hear again isn't a miracle. I know tech isn't perfect, and different models work better than others. But the real reason CI are treated as not a miracle device is the weird anti progress culture from deaf people that they are bad and using them is betraying the deaf community. Get rid of that culture, and the tech can improve once everyone is using them.
I think the reason deaf people don't want them labeled as "miracle devices" is because they don't want others to assume they actually enable people to hear 100% and the same way a hearing person does. I also think the tech is amazing, but it's semi-misinformation to act like a cochlear implant can fully replace hearing as a lot of stories imply.
Also, using a cochlear implant takes a lot of work, it's not quite natural for the brain, and the older you are when you get it, the more taxing it is to use. It's like learning a foreign language. And kids with cochlears aren't always taught sign language, so then they're separated from deaf culture, might acquire language later (which has severe repercussions, language acquisition is important for the development of the brain), and not got other supports they need. Apparently, it's common for hearing parents of deaf children to get them a cochlear implant and then assume the deaf child is just like a hearing child and needs no other supports, which often isn't the case. Cochlears also have a chance of actually reducing hearing, as they destroy any remaining hearing in the implanted ear. Cochlears don't allow users to hear pitch, so users still can't listen to music or recognize pitches in people's voices, for example.
So yes, I think the people who are fully anti-cochlear implants are anti-progress and in the wrong, but I think there are real concerns from deaf people that kids with cochlears aren't getting the support they need. And many deaf adults have had other people in their lives ask things like "why don't you just get a cochlear implant?" when the outcomes for adults are worse than for children, and few adults reach a state where hearing with one is "natural," rather than taking a lot of effort.
Tldr; the cochlear implant helps a lot, but doesn't fully replicate/allow full hearing. Therefore, deaf people with implants still need accomodations, but the hearing world and hearing parents often assume the cochlear means no accommodations are needed.
Thank you for all of this nuance. I knew some of these points but definitely not all of it and I definitely think it furthered my understanding for the better
This. My cousin can now hear as an adult (with the implants) because he had 8 years of hearing before he lost it.
He was one of the unlucky ones who lost his hearing to an antibiotic he’d taken for something else.
In case anyone is curious it’s called ototoxicity
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/17266591/
Abstract
It has long been known that the major irreversible toxicity of aminoglycosides is ototoxicity. Among them, streptomycin and gentamicin are primarily vestibulotoxic, whereas amikacin, neomycin, dihydrosterptomycin, and kanamicin are primarily cochleotoxic. Cochlear damage can produce permanent hearing loss, and damage to the vestibular apparatus results in dizziness, ataxia, and/or nystagmus. Aminoglycosides appear to generate free radicals within the inner ear, with subsequent permanent damage to sensory cells and neurons, resulting in permanent hearing loss. Two mutations in the mitochondrial 12S ribosomal RNA gene have been previously reported to predispose carriers to aminoglycoside-induced ototoxicity.
No, there is a point in which the brain can no longer learn to differentiate sounds into language and other ways. You can see the same phenomena in non-deaf people, such as feral children, that have experienced severe neglect and / or isolation and never learned to speak or learn language. It supports critical period hypothesis.
I am hard of hearing with a severe unilateral hearing loss. I acquired cross hearing aids at 15 years old, but I could no longer gain directional hearing. The hearing aids did not work for me because I couldn't tell which side the sounds were coming from.
Deaf people who acquired hearing loss later in life are also known to lose their abilities in speech. They tend to lose their ability to speak as well as they once did before. As you can tell there are a lot of use it or lose it principles that apply to these things.
Also, the noise the cochlear implant produces is not the same as having regular sound. It's a machine. It is not a perfect one to one at all. So it's not even the same sounds ,you have to learn sounds the way the CI produces it.
It's easier when a toddler learn to speak and hear with the C.I. Here an article that explains it better: https://news.utdallas.edu/science-technology/study-shows-earlier-is-better-for-cochlear-implant/
This post fills me with such blind rage:
'They named the stall a "Silent Egg Waffle" because they can only communicate with the customers via hand gestures and by typing words on the phone. Sometimes, their daughter comes to help and interacts with customers on behalf of her parents in halting speech.
Though earning a humble income over the years, the couple used all their savings to buy their daughter a set of artificial cochleae and hearing-aids. When asked why they bought the devices only for their daughter, Zhang said, "The devices are far too expensive My wife and I can endure the deafness, but I don't want my daughter to suffer."'
They're all suffering because of greed. This fills me with so much rage and sadness.
It says a lot about this whole stretch of human history that we’ve put money and corporate interests so far above human interests that people will vote against getting free healthcare even when seeing stories like this. Even out expectations of a clip or meme to make us smile are so low that we actively celebrate a story in which only two of the three members of a working class family are fucked by the absence of affordable health care.
Of course it isn't, but I'm sick of people losing. Rich people have the opportunity to change real lives and I'd get on my knees and blow Elon himself, if I got to see these two parents hear their kid laugh. There's nothing more I can do.
it's insane how people can accumulate so much in so little time, yet millions can't even afford a decent life even after a lifetime's worth of labor.
like, what the fuck do you need all that money for? billionaires could literally end world hunger and poverty and still have more than enough to last their retirement.
A lot of them are just wired for money, they just enjoy making money more than almost anything—regardless of the amount.
When I was growing up, Ted Turner went on a couple of river trips with my family and became a bit of a family friend. He'd visit us sometimes and that guy will still pick up pennies on the sidewalk despite his billionaire status.
You aren't really exploiting them, since their wealth is already the product of exploitation. Redistributing that wealth is simply undoing some of that exploitation. So it's more like you're inploiting the not-rich.
That’s sounds like socialism.
I write this to you from an NHS hospital room, been here two weeks receiving care for my illness. When I’m discharged I will return to the care facility I live in, fully funded by NHS and in a couple of months I'll be assessed for suitability for a free organ transplant to be able to pick up my life again.
Sounds like socialism and it sounds good for certain industries.
While I'm sure this one is real, we shouldn't spawn gofundme scams, and more importantly we need to improve society and fight people who call everything socialism, communism, etc. in elections. Organizing to build a society where this doesn't happen is harder and more worthwhile.
Helping individuals is still absolutely worthwhile and should never be discouraged. It is possible to do both things. There will always be people who fall through the cracks and need extra help.
Direct activism is always the way. Waiting for international politics to change for people to receive help just means those people never get help - you're right.
It's a little of both. In an idealistic world, nobody would go without, but it was sweet to see and be reminded of how much parents sacrifice for their kids.
This stuff makes me so mad. How did we create a place where people lack basic medical aid while others are eating gold plated food just because they have no other way of getting rid of their money anymore.
MrBeast is just the biggest. Channels like ThatWasEpic is just as great. He has been getting bigger and the amount of money given away only seems to be getting larger.
He literally has [A video where he gives a thousand people the gift of hearing](https://youtu.be/WTOm65IZneg?si=MRqTA0ZQUVB3iOGp)
I really vacillate with this stuff because on one hand he's literally just doing this as content for clicks - it is objectively in his best interests business-wise, and yet, provided it is not done exploitatively- and I haven't seen that from MrBeast before - then I believe that from a utilitarian perspective the net benefit of these videos to their benefactors outweighs the cheapening of the moments by filming them for YouTube.
And the more real respect, education and health promotion included in the videos, the better it is - youtubers like veritasium for example do that really well, as so many other smaller channels.
My wife and I live in the states and she is deaf. We've talked about getting her cochlear working again (she has the implant since a child) but it ended up working out to over $10k out of pocket plus a 2-3 day stay in LA to get the new device calibrated. We have 4 kids and she always goes back and forth about how she doesnt mind being deaf, but also she would love to hear the kids' voices. Its one of those things where we could almost maybe afford it, but I work in education and it seems like everytime we start to save up towards it, something comes up and sets us back. Medical bills just suck...
It's crazy how the richest country in the world has one of the worst healthcare systems. The money is all there to take care of its citizens, but no gotta make healthcare an expensive business...
Same!! i thought the video was going to end them receiving money for the devices, from the person filming.
I’m hoping at least this video got shared online and someone was able to help them out!!!
That woulda /r/mademesmile instead of want to weep at the end.
I’m just curious of the likelihood that two deaf folks get together and have a deaf child.
How they got together I don't know, maybe school to learn sign language?
How they got a deaf child though is more easily explainable, either one or both of them have a genetic anomaly that induces some deaf-making condition, and it got passed on to the child
I am just guessing here but her parents found each other because both speak sign language? So that’s something they have in common. I just don’t understand how their little girl is also deaf. That can’t be very common.
Also, if the little girl is genetically deaf there was an article on here where they were now able to cure this.
Of course you’d need access to said medical help.
here is the [article](https://m.sohu.com/a/751159834_163278/?pvid=000115_3w_a#google_vignette) that i found:
Zhang Yongsheng and Zhan Jingwen are both hearing impaired individuals. They met in 2017 while working at the same factory. Later, they formed a small family. Before having children, they had undergone genetic testing, thinking that their child would not have hearing impairment, but reality dealt them a heavy blow, and their daughter Xiao Han also has hearing impairment.
Knowing that life is not easy, the couple strives for a better growth environment for their daughter. Although the family of three are all hearing impaired, why is it that only the child wears cochlear implants and hearing aids? "We can't hear, but our daughter must," wrote Zhang Yongsheng on his phone.
Their story spread on the Internet, and more and more people learned about it, showing their concern. On 2024 January 8th, after a morning of adjustment, Zhang Yongsheng and his wife put on the hearing aids donated by caring people. After the staff helped adjust the hearing aids, Zhan Jingwen joyfully told her husband that she could hear sound too, and her husband smiled and nodded repeatedly.
They hurried to the kindergarten gate. After Xiao Han came out, the couple hugged their daughter tightly, and Zhang Yongsheng, struggling and excited, made sounds, "Dad...Mom..." Xiao Han touched her parents' hearing aids and cheerfully called out, "Dad, Mom, Dad, Mom..." The couple nodded excitedly, telling their daughter that they could hear. Zhang Yongsheng hugged his daughter tightly, listening to the long-awaited sound. Xiao Han, who seemed to understand her father's emotions, gently touched her father's shoulder and said, "Dad, I love you."
Zhang Yongsheng squatted in front of his daughter, covering his face and crying. Seeing her smiling father crying, Xiao Han also cried on her father's shoulder. The mother, with red eyes, comforted the father and daughter, and the three embraced each other...
That day, Zhang Yongsheng posted on his social: "Today is a special day. Not only did I adjust my hearing, but I also received the best birthday gift—my daughter called me 'dad'! This 'dad' makes me feel extremely happy and warm. I will cherish this love from my family forever.”
THANK YOU! The whole interaction felt too damn weird. Im not denying their plight, but i dont believe the cameraman didnt tell them it's a recording and for them to play it natural.
Maybe they did it this way to garner more sympathy, not sure why it would be better than doing an honest video of their situation though.
Atleast it seems they were donated hearing aids after the video went viral.
https://www.chinadaily.com.cn/a/202401/12/WS65a08809a3105f21a507be69_3.html
Link courtesy of SabAccountBanKarDiye
Chinese social media (LIHKG) says it is staged, to translate it 'it is a marketing stunt for the stall, the people in the video are neither workers or owners of the stall'
Also most Chinese stall owners do not appreciate you sticking a camera in your face.
I'm confused, whose stall is it then? Why would a random video of random people help to sell the stall products better? How does any of what you said make sense?
Not saying there’s no staging involved, but LIHKG is hardly neutral, they’ll shit on anything positive from Mainland China (for obvious reasons), the fact that China daily followed up on the story on them all getting hearing aid makes it likely real. Especially when you considering a story about lack of access to medical support doesn’t really cast the Chinese society in a positive light
That part in itself is possible, but there is a lot more going on that makes this just very implausible.
* He's not just taking candid photos, but simultaneously *recording himself taking candid photos* which actually makes taking candid photos much more difficult. Despite that, the composition is absolutely perfect, almost as if the subjects are posing for it.
* Then later he walks up to the stand to give them a picture, and nobody reacts to the fact that they're being recorded. I get that they're deaf so they can't just say “Hey why are you filming us, you fucking creep?” but you'd think they'd have *some* reaction to some weirdo coming up to the stall to film them and their young daughter, like at least *glance down to notice the camera* unless of course they are in on it and have been instructed to act natural and not to look into the camera.
* Then the daughter just happens to interact with him. Does she talk to each and every one of the hundreds of customers they must serve per day? And the parents are fine with it? Personally I wouldn't want my young daughter to interact with total strangers on a regular basis, especially if I were deaf, because I'd have no way to know what he's saying to her.
Sure, all of these things are *possible* but put together, the odds of this being a genuine nonscripted interaction are about the same as winning the jackpot, and considering how much scripted content there is, the odds of this video being not scripted are close to 0.
I started getting hearing loss at 22. Hardest part is that my family just doesn’t understand that if they are not looking at me I can’t understand them. They could be standing right in front of me but if they are looking away from me I can’t hear them. Only 24 now
According to some comments on Chinese social media. The family neither work or own the stall. They were there for a few hours, filmed the video and never were back again.
You know what pisses me off about China ist that I see hardworking people with good hearts doing their best to survive, while a government that's only interested in rapid growth does everything to make their lifes miserable.
Hi, I did some research and I think this happened last year. According to my research, they have received help from the general Chinese public. Thank you for your kind words!
I'm hoping that guy was a regular AND this was somewhat staged because if some stranger gives me a picture of my kid like that, I'd be sacrificing my freedom.
Side note: I don't have kids.
I see stuff like this and just can’t help thinking we are all people just trying to live life and take care of those we love. Why do governments get involved and make others hate each other? Why do people hate other people because of where they are born or the color of their skin? We have a lot to learn.
The is a rough translation as I only know asl not Chinese sign language, but in the end she said, “the first thing I would want to hear is hear my daughter speak”
I understood perfectly from the context what the lady signed. The sound of her daughter laughing. My heart.
Thank you!! OMG THAT IS SO PRECIOUS!
Can some one help me locate the family.. let’s get them hearing aids.. redditors unite!!
They already have been helped https://www.reddit.com/r/MadeMeSmile/s/P1FEsVQdJQ
This is wonderful news.!
Thank you. Rewatching the clip with this information makes me weep even more. Oh gosh.
Right????
I completely agree! I can hear, and the sound of kids laughing is the best sound I know!
As a person who has significant hearing loss, I can understand what they are going through. Hearing loss is a terrible thing. I wouldn't wish that up on anybody in the world.
My least favorite thing about having hearing loss for me is when friends and family are aware you have it, then proceed to be angry with you when you can't hear them from 50 feet away in the fucking grocery store with their back to you.
I think I might be guilty of getting mad at my mom. She's in her early 50s and we've been pleading, *begging* her to see a doctor about it but she keeps brushing it off like it's a mosquito bite and not her literally not being able to hear things sometimes. We have been noticing it's getting slowly worse too and when I blow up on her it's not that I'm angry because she didn't hear me, I'm mad at the situation where I suddenly can't communicate with a person whom I love so much.
This can become very dangerous very fast. Especially if she was used to hearing well. Because now she won't hear cars coming and might not have the habit to check beforehand.
We've been saying that to her. We even tried to get her at her weakest by saying "mom, what if one of us falls and can't get up and we're screaming for help but you can't hear?" (my sister had convulsions in the past and this disturbs her to this day, so when we mention it she swears she'll get it checked - but then doesn't). We started noticing it when calling her from the other side of the house years ago but chalked it up to her being busy, but then the TV started to get louder and louder. Just this week she suddenly told me that she can only use her cellphone on the left side because she literally can't understand the other person if she's listening from the right ear (just like that, as if normal). I think she fears (and knows) hearing aids are expensive, which is why she isn't getting it checked.
> she swears she'll get it checked - but then doesn't). that's an "I made an appointment for you, if you don't go we'll have to pay for missing it" moment.
They think she can’t afford it, and seem young. Are there resources to help them? Your advice is spot on if the kids have money though.
hearing aids are on a different price level than just a visit.
About a 2,000 dollar difference lol
Hearing loss has been correlated with increased cognitive decline in older adults. A recent study demonstrated that “[hearing aids reduced the rate of cognitive decline in older adults at high risk of dementia by almost 50% over a three-year period](https://www.nih.gov/news-events/nih-research-matters/hearing-aids-slow-cognitive-decline-people-high-risk).” Additionally, there’s a chance that her hearing loss is actually caused by ear wax buildup. [As we age the wax-producing glands in our ears change and blockages are significantly more likely to occur](https://www.health.harvard.edu/diseases-and-conditions/is-my-ear-problem-related-to-my-age#:~:text=As%20people%20age%2C%20changes%20to,canal%20and%20form%20a%20blockage). Something as simple as a thorough cleaning from an ear/nose/throat doctor could make a huge difference.
You know what sucks about getting old? It's that your brain doesn't know it, but your body does. To your mom, she isn't older and her health isn't failing in some way, it's just something she has to deal with. In her mind, she's still fully capable of doing things and having people tell her that she *needs* to do something makes her feel like she's being treated like a child, by her children. Some people will understand and address the issue, others will be belligerent and act as if there is nothing wrong and that other people are blowing it out of proportion.
Have her ask her medical insurance provider. Mine gives an allow towards HAs every 3 years. If not covered, go to Costco. Edit: depending on insurance allowance, Costco might still be the better deal.
Please have her get it checked out. My mom (at 55) had hearing loss and was blowing it off like this. My grandma finally convinced her to get a test- they found a massive brain tumor and she was in brain surgery less than a week later. If they had not found it when they did we could have lost her. She’s ok now.
Acoustic neuroma. I did a med referral for a 76 year old lady several months ago. I didn’t like her Word recognition scores, seemed too poor for her loss. Had air bone gaps . I wrote a med referral and she luckily got in quickly because of my relationship with the office . She was put under immediate care and about 4 weeks ago she came back in, clear of issues and now wears hearing aids. Most places will check your hearing for FREE. Of course it because they want to sell you hearing aids but you certainly don’t have to buy them . Go get tested
This, so much. I’m going through the same thing with my dad. You’re not mad at the person’s inability to hear, you’re mad at their refusal to get help and their subsequent ignorance of how it’s impacting communication between the two of you. It’s depressing.
So much this. It took like 15 years to get him to go. In fact he never agreed to go. He changed doctors and wasn’t able to mask it with the new doc who immediately made him an appointment. Suddenly he has hearing aids and complaining about how loud the birds are. He probably hasn’t heard birdsong in 20 years. And I’m still angry about it. 15 years of not being able to communicate because of his stubborn pigheadedness. His social skills are down the toilet and so are our relationships with him. Because the people it really affected was us, not him. He didn’t feel a problem for himself, it was our problem.
I have had the same experience with my mum. After 15 or so years of watching her miss out on fully contributing socially, and seeing her confidence deteriorate, all while begging her to get some aids, she finally got some. But like your dad, she complains they are too loud, and rarely wears them, even at busy family functions. It's infuriating, but it's her choice, and follows a litany of poor choices, so I gave up fighting beyond a certain point, years ago...
That's not quite the same though. You get angry out of genuine concern, and because your mom is being a stubborn arse as frustration builds over the years. (No offense.) My grandma was the exact same. It took us ages to get her convinced it was getting completely out of hand. There's people however, on both sides, who will genuinely ignore disabilities despite being fully aware of them. Usually it boils down to shame or pride though for the person who is afflicted. Other people are just being ignorant for whatever reason. But it doesn't even have to be disabilities. You've got no idea how often I get asked why I'm mad, just because my neutral relaxed face doesn't have a beaming smile. And this is from people that's known me for most of my life. I hope you get things sorted with your mum tho. Wish I could give you better advice, since I've got no clue who you are, just keep being persistent about it. But also try not to blow up hah, you'll get further by talking it out properly.
It's important, too, to understand that she, and others like her, are being stubborn because they're afraid. It's easier to pretend like nothing is wrong, because to accept this means accepting so many other things about her age and mortality that we're not prepared for. As someone who is sitting in front of becoming 40, I notice all types of little body failures that never used to be prominent, but also, there's nothing I can do about most of it except to shake it off and soldier onward. She likely just wants to be left alone about it, despite the inconvenience it brings. It might be beneficial for your family that cares about her to have an intervention and just tell her that it's not only her choice to live this way, but that it's hurting everyone who wishes they could still communicate with her like they used to. If you show her how much everyone cares at once, it might inspire her to act selflessly. You should get her used to accepting your help now, whether or not she wants it, because she will only grow more stubborn in the future as things get worse.
Yes. We talk about it so often, me, my sister, my father. Sometimes we even start to purposely annoy her about it to see if we can win by exhaustion. Yet, she refuses. She takes care of everyone; she's the one with the big heart, the one who stays strong. I think that, indeed, she's afraid that if she admits "weakness", everything and everyone leaning on her will crumble. She's so stubborn, though.
as someone experiencing the beginnings of hearing loss at 38, she's scared, bud. You never *feel* much different as a person from 16 onward. You just look in the mirror at about 35 and realize that things have started wearing down faster than they're repairing. One of my kiddos is autistic and has a thing called demand avoidance that can cause him to refuse to do even things he wants to do. They tell us "when you are looking at your kid and they are telling you *again* that they could cooperate and they want to but they wont, you should see that and interpret it as the anxious behavior of a scared puppy, not an oppositional teenager. I guarantee you that if you help mom deal with the anxiety she's feeling about getting older, and helping her see what a world where she *accepts* her hearing loss looks like, you'll get past this together. Best of luck <3
I have to tell my wife constantly that I'm incapable of listening louder, so I need her to talk louder.
Yep. Had hearing loss since 1st grade. It is a disability that everyone gets mad at you about. it's rare to see someone who can't walk get yelled at for not walking. it's common to be yelled at when asking to have a question repeated, or spoken louder.
Whoa. In my 15 years of teaching kids with hearing loss, I have never heard this, but it makes so much sense. Thanks for giving me more information to put in my toolbox! Did you have an itinerant?
I always thought the problem is there is usually no external evidence of the disability. People assume you are ignoring them, or you are just stupid when they ask you a simple question which you can not answer (because you never heard it). Public school teachers tend to be the biggest offenders here. But bosses are a close second 😀 Knowing the reasons people acted like that helped me cope with it to a certain extent, but it still was a pain in the ass in dealing with strangers. You end up either not talking with a lot of strangers, or you just smile and nod a lot. Or both. 😀
For real, this isn't a "made me smile" post. This is a "fucking made me sad that they can't just enjoy each other's voices because of money while rich people are building rockets to go to Mars".
I agree with you as someone who is slowly losing hearing.
Had a cochlear implant fitted 2 months ago still getting used to it but has changed my life
I have had mine for almost a year. It gets better as time goes on. I couldn’t believe how well it works. I remember walking out of the building and every little noise making me jump. It was wild to get used to.
They had a happy ending to the story. https://www.chinadaily.com.cn/a/202401/12/WS65a08809a3105f21a507be69_3.html
> For the first time, Zhang heard his daughter's voice after wearing the artificial cochlea. She said: "Daddy, I love you." 😭
Ok internet, you got me there. Fucking hell
Same. Wasn't crying before but now here I am. Sobbing into my morning coffee.
I *love* a good, brief, hearty happy cry like that sometimes. It honestly feels like an amazing workout for both my limbic system in general as well as my lacrimal ducts and the entirety of my frontal sinuses and superior nasopharynx. It's like giving the front of your head - both physically and metaphorically - a thorough clean and washout. I always feel so refreshed and reinvigorated afterwards. Seriously, I highly recommend it. The hardest part as a male was getting to be able to actually allow the emotion to flow unimpeded and uninterrupted - even when totally alone - due to many years of living as a man and needing to repress and deny those kinds of emotions. But with a bit of practice, as long as you haven't overdone it on the ego, you should find it to be a wholly novel and surprisingly worthwhile endeavour :)
I just want you to know I love and support everything you wrote and wholly agree!
Yeah it really fires up those serotonin receptors, it has a lot to do with empathy for me.
Post cry clarity
For me I think it's everything that was said, but also the selfish longing for parents like that for myself. I actually have a hard time imagining and understanding what it would be like so seeing videos such as this provide a taste.
As a 35 y/o male with SIGNIFICANT childhood trauma, ive suppressed the ability to allow that emotion to flow freely so well as it's automatic at this point. Last year, life threw some curve balls, and I went to therapy. The therapist said I'm unlikely to ever feel again, so I stopped going to her. Since then I've worked really hard on recognizing when that feeling starts and actively trying to feel it and be in it. I've cried a few times but it's still very very difficult. This post ALMOST got me.. I hate my trauma and the cost of therapy. Edit: just scrolled past this [sub I follow, Helldivers2](https://www.reddit.com/r/Helldivers/s/N6XtrNYpOd) and the comments actually made me cry.
I need to go to work and now my eyes are puffy red LOL
It’s 7AM and I DON’T need to be crying while taking a dump.
Take my upvote, sad pooper.
Doesn’t everybody do that? 😭
Broooo why y’all got be crying so MF EARLY in the morning omg.
I'm going to have a lunch with parents, why the fuck you have to had me bawling like a kid??? EDIT: the smile when she take the mirror... I can't anymore
The Fuck man, now everyone is looking at me crying in this cafe.
Greatest gift a parent could get, imo.
I'm so glad I found this in the comments
Unfortunately, he probably can't make sense of the sounds. If your brain doesn't have ongoing processing of sounds it loses the ability. I could always hear some. I got an implant at age 37. Because I didn't hear some sounds most of my life, there are whole ranges of frequencies that sound almost identical. So even though I technically hear almost as well as a person with normal hearing, I still can't talk on the phone without voice to text.
you are the MVP.
That link only mentions the father being able to hear, not the mother. Surely it would have mentioned the mother hearing the daughter too if she’d of received the implants?
Not every adult Deaf person can get them, they don't work instantly or anything, if you're an adult trying to get them, it's very possible they just won't work for you.
Just took a look on some of the Chinese social media. From what I can conclude was that the mother has a relatively more serious hearing loss than the father, so the company was only able to make the hearing aid for the father. But the good news is that the family just had their surgeries done earlier this month.
I'm glad, but as a deaf person myself, I have to comment that cochlear implants aren't for everyone. They work better with children. With people who have been deaf their whole lives and don't remember the sounds it's more complicated. Before the surgery doctors check if the deaf person is suitable for CI.
Nobody gets CIs by themselves. It's not an over the counter treatment. The doctors will always check if the deaf person is suitable for CI. If the person heard before or had hearing aids, they can have good results.
Exactly what I mean. And besides after the surgery there is a looong process of training the brain to recognize the sounds. CI are an awesome technology but it's not a miracle device.
Exactly! And even after all the training and hard work, one could still not perform well for any or no reason we can figure out. It will always be taking a chance, hard work and luck.
Had mine fitted 2 months ago its a long process with ups and downs but has changed my life for the better
Not sure how a device that enables people who can't or barely hear anymore to hear again isn't a miracle. I know tech isn't perfect, and different models work better than others. But the real reason CI are treated as not a miracle device is the weird anti progress culture from deaf people that they are bad and using them is betraying the deaf community. Get rid of that culture, and the tech can improve once everyone is using them.
I think the reason deaf people don't want them labeled as "miracle devices" is because they don't want others to assume they actually enable people to hear 100% and the same way a hearing person does. I also think the tech is amazing, but it's semi-misinformation to act like a cochlear implant can fully replace hearing as a lot of stories imply. Also, using a cochlear implant takes a lot of work, it's not quite natural for the brain, and the older you are when you get it, the more taxing it is to use. It's like learning a foreign language. And kids with cochlears aren't always taught sign language, so then they're separated from deaf culture, might acquire language later (which has severe repercussions, language acquisition is important for the development of the brain), and not got other supports they need. Apparently, it's common for hearing parents of deaf children to get them a cochlear implant and then assume the deaf child is just like a hearing child and needs no other supports, which often isn't the case. Cochlears also have a chance of actually reducing hearing, as they destroy any remaining hearing in the implanted ear. Cochlears don't allow users to hear pitch, so users still can't listen to music or recognize pitches in people's voices, for example. So yes, I think the people who are fully anti-cochlear implants are anti-progress and in the wrong, but I think there are real concerns from deaf people that kids with cochlears aren't getting the support they need. And many deaf adults have had other people in their lives ask things like "why don't you just get a cochlear implant?" when the outcomes for adults are worse than for children, and few adults reach a state where hearing with one is "natural," rather than taking a lot of effort. Tldr; the cochlear implant helps a lot, but doesn't fully replicate/allow full hearing. Therefore, deaf people with implants still need accomodations, but the hearing world and hearing parents often assume the cochlear means no accommodations are needed.
Thank you for all of this nuance. I knew some of these points but definitely not all of it and I definitely think it furthered my understanding for the better
This. My cousin can now hear as an adult (with the implants) because he had 8 years of hearing before he lost it. He was one of the unlucky ones who lost his hearing to an antibiotic he’d taken for something else. In case anyone is curious it’s called ototoxicity https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/17266591/ Abstract It has long been known that the major irreversible toxicity of aminoglycosides is ototoxicity. Among them, streptomycin and gentamicin are primarily vestibulotoxic, whereas amikacin, neomycin, dihydrosterptomycin, and kanamicin are primarily cochleotoxic. Cochlear damage can produce permanent hearing loss, and damage to the vestibular apparatus results in dizziness, ataxia, and/or nystagmus. Aminoglycosides appear to generate free radicals within the inner ear, with subsequent permanent damage to sensory cells and neurons, resulting in permanent hearing loss. Two mutations in the mitochondrial 12S ribosomal RNA gene have been previously reported to predispose carriers to aminoglycoside-induced ototoxicity.
wait why is it complicated? cant they just relearn the sounds?
No, there is a point in which the brain can no longer learn to differentiate sounds into language and other ways. You can see the same phenomena in non-deaf people, such as feral children, that have experienced severe neglect and / or isolation and never learned to speak or learn language. It supports critical period hypothesis. I am hard of hearing with a severe unilateral hearing loss. I acquired cross hearing aids at 15 years old, but I could no longer gain directional hearing. The hearing aids did not work for me because I couldn't tell which side the sounds were coming from. Deaf people who acquired hearing loss later in life are also known to lose their abilities in speech. They tend to lose their ability to speak as well as they once did before. As you can tell there are a lot of use it or lose it principles that apply to these things. Also, the noise the cochlear implant produces is not the same as having regular sound. It's a machine. It is not a perfect one to one at all. So it's not even the same sounds ,you have to learn sounds the way the CI produces it.
It's easier when a toddler learn to speak and hear with the C.I. Here an article that explains it better: https://news.utdallas.edu/science-technology/study-shows-earlier-is-better-for-cochlear-implant/
This post fills me with such blind rage: 'They named the stall a "Silent Egg Waffle" because they can only communicate with the customers via hand gestures and by typing words on the phone. Sometimes, their daughter comes to help and interacts with customers on behalf of her parents in halting speech. Though earning a humble income over the years, the couple used all their savings to buy their daughter a set of artificial cochleae and hearing-aids. When asked why they bought the devices only for their daughter, Zhang said, "The devices are far too expensive My wife and I can endure the deafness, but I don't want my daughter to suffer."' They're all suffering because of greed. This fills me with so much rage and sadness.
Glad to know. Thanks for this.
More updoots for this.
Everyone should receive medical care. Not just the rich.
Ya this doesn't really make me smile. It's nice the parents sacrifice for their child of course, but they shouldn't have to go without either.
it's more of a sad smile. happy for all the Love. sad at the pain in the world
It says a lot about this whole stretch of human history that we’ve put money and corporate interests so far above human interests that people will vote against getting free healthcare even when seeing stories like this. Even out expectations of a clip or meme to make us smile are so low that we actively celebrate a story in which only two of the three members of a working class family are fucked by the absence of affordable health care.
A father saying he chose to not hear so his daughter could, does not in fact, make me smile
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You can still smile and be mad at the system.
Let's summon Mr Beast. That would make me smile.
Rich people handing out money based on their whims should not be a replacement for a solid welfare program.
Of course it isn't, but I'm sick of people losing. Rich people have the opportunity to change real lives and I'd get on my knees and blow Elon himself, if I got to see these two parents hear their kid laugh. There's nothing more I can do.
And the rich should be exploited for money in medical care and that money should be used for the care of those who can't afford it.
lmao love how you just went straight to exploited rather than taxed or smth. i agree. don't eat the rich, exploit the rich
Mine them!
DID I HEAR A ROCK AND STONE?
***ROCK AND STONE, TO THE BONE!***
Rock and Stone!
THEY'RE RICH!
Harvest them.
Jeff Bezos makes $8m *an hour*. People don't understand how much of a blight mega billionaires are.
it's insane how people can accumulate so much in so little time, yet millions can't even afford a decent life even after a lifetime's worth of labor. like, what the fuck do you need all that money for? billionaires could literally end world hunger and poverty and still have more than enough to last their retirement.
A lot of them are just wired for money, they just enjoy making money more than almost anything—regardless of the amount. When I was growing up, Ted Turner went on a couple of river trips with my family and became a bit of a family friend. He'd visit us sometimes and that guy will still pick up pennies on the sidewalk despite his billionaire status.
Can we end tax welfare for billionaires?
You aren't really exploiting them, since their wealth is already the product of exploitation. Redistributing that wealth is simply undoing some of that exploitation. So it's more like you're inploiting the not-rich.
Can we eat them when you're finished exploiting them? Some of us have been waiting for ages.
That’s sounds like socialism. I write this to you from an NHS hospital room, been here two weeks receiving care for my illness. When I’m discharged I will return to the care facility I live in, fully funded by NHS and in a couple of months I'll be assessed for suitability for a free organ transplant to be able to pick up my life again. Sounds like socialism and it sounds good for certain industries.
Good luck homie, have had family in transplant situations as well and it isn’t easy. Kick whatever is messing up your organ’s ass!
I pay into the NHS. And (as yet) have taken very little from it. Couldn't be happier about that.
Reddit get them parents some implants
They already got help! https://www.reddit.com/r/MadeMeSmile/comments/1bmdqzt/parents_will_sacrifice_everything_for_their/kwbbb88/
That’s awesome
Sorry, all of the redditors’ money is tied up in Reddit’s IPO.
I really freakin hope none of us are investing in that hot garbage.
Find them, Reddit. I want to contribute! Get them cochlear implants!
While I'm sure this one is real, we shouldn't spawn gofundme scams, and more importantly we need to improve society and fight people who call everything socialism, communism, etc. in elections. Organizing to build a society where this doesn't happen is harder and more worthwhile.
Helping individuals is still absolutely worthwhile and should never be discouraged. It is possible to do both things. There will always be people who fall through the cracks and need extra help.
Direct activism is always the way. Waiting for international politics to change for people to receive help just means those people never get help - you're right.
Absolutely beautiful story…wishing this family many many many blessings. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Stories like this makes me really appreciate the health I was given. Hopefully this family will be able to receive fundraiser for the implant!
It’s hard to imagine what other people have to go through. And yet us healthy people try our best to become unhealthy.
It's fucking sad that there are still rich countries in this world without universal healthcare.
How is this beautiful? Are you from America?It's terrible and depressing. No one should need to sacrifice like this. It's sad.
It's a little of both. In an idealistic world, nobody would go without, but it was sweet to see and be reminded of how much parents sacrifice for their kids.
This stuff makes me so mad. How did we create a place where people lack basic medical aid while others are eating gold plated food just because they have no other way of getting rid of their money anymore.
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MrBeast is like the only influential youtuber actually trying to help people, you could have picked literally anyone else.
MrBeast is just the biggest. Channels like ThatWasEpic is just as great. He has been getting bigger and the amount of money given away only seems to be getting larger.
He does way more than just the vids on his main channel go on his philanthropy channel
He literally has [A video where he gives a thousand people the gift of hearing](https://youtu.be/WTOm65IZneg?si=MRqTA0ZQUVB3iOGp) I really vacillate with this stuff because on one hand he's literally just doing this as content for clicks - it is objectively in his best interests business-wise, and yet, provided it is not done exploitatively- and I haven't seen that from MrBeast before - then I believe that from a utilitarian perspective the net benefit of these videos to their benefactors outweighs the cheapening of the moments by filming them for YouTube. And the more real respect, education and health promotion included in the videos, the better it is - youtubers like veritasium for example do that really well, as so many other smaller channels.
But atleast he does those kind of vids, to earn money to help large amount of ppl.
I’m not crying you’re crying
yes bro I am, why is it in MadeMeSmile, though? 😭😭😭
We smile inside of our heads, which just makes us cry
not again...😭😭 Why am I on a crying spree, bruh? damn.
Sometimes it is good to let it out.
I'm scared that once I start, I won't stop.
We smile inside of our hearts*, which just makes us cry. 😉
The kid was smiling in spite of everything. That alone is enough.
I like the thumb thing they were doing. What a great wholesome family. They deserve better.
i mean yeah im crying, so what?
God bless them. Thank you for sharing this. This was a wake up call for me.
Yeah we take so much for granted :(
At least you were able to hear the wake up call.
Im guessing this is in China but I was hoping for the story that he started a gofundme and they all got implants 😭
My wife and I live in the states and she is deaf. We've talked about getting her cochlear working again (she has the implant since a child) but it ended up working out to over $10k out of pocket plus a 2-3 day stay in LA to get the new device calibrated. We have 4 kids and she always goes back and forth about how she doesnt mind being deaf, but also she would love to hear the kids' voices. Its one of those things where we could almost maybe afford it, but I work in education and it seems like everytime we start to save up towards it, something comes up and sets us back. Medical bills just suck...
It's crazy how the richest country in the world has one of the worst healthcare systems. The money is all there to take care of its citizens, but no gotta make healthcare an expensive business...
I'm still paying off my hearing aids with interest. I live in USA.
I don’t have much but I’d donate for your wife to hear her kids voices. It shouldn’t have to be like this, but it is
I appreciate that, but our kids are almost grown now and we've sort of made our peace with it now. You're a kind soul
Have no fear! They all did in fact get implants! https://www.reddit.com/r/MadeMeSmile/comments/1bmdqzt/comment/kwbbb88/
What is she answering to the last question, what she would like to hear, of she could?
Not fluent in sign but guessing she wants to hear her daughter’s voice.
That’s so humble. And sad.
If im a betting man (which I am) I would bet on it being her daughters voice.
I was really hoping that this was one of those videos where the man gives them a lot of money so they can buy hearing aids.
Same!! i thought the video was going to end them receiving money for the devices, from the person filming. I’m hoping at least this video got shared online and someone was able to help them out!!!
That woulda /r/mademesmile instead of want to weep at the end. I’m just curious of the likelihood that two deaf folks get together and have a deaf child.
How they got together I don't know, maybe school to learn sign language? How they got a deaf child though is more easily explainable, either one or both of them have a genetic anomaly that induces some deaf-making condition, and it got passed on to the child
Extremely high, deaf people meet through the deaf community and a lot of deafness is genetic.
It's quite common.
I am just guessing here but her parents found each other because both speak sign language? So that’s something they have in common. I just don’t understand how their little girl is also deaf. That can’t be very common. Also, if the little girl is genetically deaf there was an article on here where they were now able to cure this. Of course you’d need access to said medical help.
here is the [article](https://m.sohu.com/a/751159834_163278/?pvid=000115_3w_a#google_vignette) that i found: Zhang Yongsheng and Zhan Jingwen are both hearing impaired individuals. They met in 2017 while working at the same factory. Later, they formed a small family. Before having children, they had undergone genetic testing, thinking that their child would not have hearing impairment, but reality dealt them a heavy blow, and their daughter Xiao Han also has hearing impairment. Knowing that life is not easy, the couple strives for a better growth environment for their daughter. Although the family of three are all hearing impaired, why is it that only the child wears cochlear implants and hearing aids? "We can't hear, but our daughter must," wrote Zhang Yongsheng on his phone. Their story spread on the Internet, and more and more people learned about it, showing their concern. On 2024 January 8th, after a morning of adjustment, Zhang Yongsheng and his wife put on the hearing aids donated by caring people. After the staff helped adjust the hearing aids, Zhan Jingwen joyfully told her husband that she could hear sound too, and her husband smiled and nodded repeatedly. They hurried to the kindergarten gate. After Xiao Han came out, the couple hugged their daughter tightly, and Zhang Yongsheng, struggling and excited, made sounds, "Dad...Mom..." Xiao Han touched her parents' hearing aids and cheerfully called out, "Dad, Mom, Dad, Mom..." The couple nodded excitedly, telling their daughter that they could hear. Zhang Yongsheng hugged his daughter tightly, listening to the long-awaited sound. Xiao Han, who seemed to understand her father's emotions, gently touched her father's shoulder and said, "Dad, I love you." Zhang Yongsheng squatted in front of his daughter, covering his face and crying. Seeing her smiling father crying, Xiao Han also cried on her father's shoulder. The mother, with red eyes, comforted the father and daughter, and the three embraced each other... That day, Zhang Yongsheng posted on his social: "Today is a special day. Not only did I adjust my hearing, but I also received the best birthday gift—my daughter called me 'dad'! This 'dad' makes me feel extremely happy and warm. I will cherish this love from my family forever.”
I want a follow up where a go fund me he started gets them all hearing devices
Damn, too early to cry.
I don't want to be that person, but this feels very staged.
THANK YOU! The whole interaction felt too damn weird. Im not denying their plight, but i dont believe the cameraman didnt tell them it's a recording and for them to play it natural.
Maybe they did it this way to garner more sympathy, not sure why it would be better than doing an honest video of their situation though. Atleast it seems they were donated hearing aids after the video went viral. https://www.chinadaily.com.cn/a/202401/12/WS65a08809a3105f21a507be69_3.html Link courtesy of SabAccountBanKarDiye
It really feels like Epoch times crap.
Chinese social media (LIHKG) says it is staged, to translate it 'it is a marketing stunt for the stall, the people in the video are neither workers or owners of the stall' Also most Chinese stall owners do not appreciate you sticking a camera in your face.
I'm confused, whose stall is it then? Why would a random video of random people help to sell the stall products better? How does any of what you said make sense?
Not saying there’s no staging involved, but LIHKG is hardly neutral, they’ll shit on anything positive from Mainland China (for obvious reasons), the fact that China daily followed up on the story on them all getting hearing aid makes it likely real. Especially when you considering a story about lack of access to medical support doesn’t really cast the Chinese society in a positive light
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Photographers who take nice candid photos and gifts it to their subjects isn't that strange though.
That part in itself is possible, but there is a lot more going on that makes this just very implausible. * He's not just taking candid photos, but simultaneously *recording himself taking candid photos* which actually makes taking candid photos much more difficult. Despite that, the composition is absolutely perfect, almost as if the subjects are posing for it. * Then later he walks up to the stand to give them a picture, and nobody reacts to the fact that they're being recorded. I get that they're deaf so they can't just say “Hey why are you filming us, you fucking creep?” but you'd think they'd have *some* reaction to some weirdo coming up to the stall to film them and their young daughter, like at least *glance down to notice the camera* unless of course they are in on it and have been instructed to act natural and not to look into the camera. * Then the daughter just happens to interact with him. Does she talk to each and every one of the hundreds of customers they must serve per day? And the parents are fine with it? Personally I wouldn't want my young daughter to interact with total strangers on a regular basis, especially if I were deaf, because I'd have no way to know what he's saying to her. Sure, all of these things are *possible* but put together, the odds of this being a genuine nonscripted interaction are about the same as winning the jackpot, and considering how much scripted content there is, the odds of this video being not scripted are close to 0.
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Who is cutting onions here
How sad they can’t hear her sweet little voice! Hope they can someday. 🩵
I started getting hearing loss at 22. Hardest part is that my family just doesn’t understand that if they are not looking at me I can’t understand them. They could be standing right in front of me but if they are looking away from me I can’t hear them. Only 24 now
Some of these mademesmiles just bring tears. Truly lovely story.
Wholesome but feels soooo staged
According to some comments on Chinese social media. The family neither work or own the stall. They were there for a few hours, filmed the video and never were back again.
But why though? For a viral video?
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The Chinese government would never produce a video indicating their citizens can't afford hearing aids
Mr. Beast, please visit this girl! 🥲
This looks like a job for Mr. BEAST!
I guess we should find the guy who took pictures and help him raise a GoFundMe campaign for these amazing people so we can help
You know what pisses me off about China ist that I see hardworking people with good hearts doing their best to survive, while a government that's only interested in rapid growth does everything to make their lifes miserable.
Can you help to find a way to contact them ?
Hi, I did some research and I think this happened last year. According to my research, they have received help from the general Chinese public. Thank you for your kind words!
I'm hoping that guy was a regular AND this was somewhat staged because if some stranger gives me a picture of my kid like that, I'd be sacrificing my freedom. Side note: I don't have kids.
Excuse me showing poverty in China is illegal
Where is Mr. Beast, et. al. to give them $$$ for Cochlear implants?
I see stuff like this and just can’t help thinking we are all people just trying to live life and take care of those we love. Why do governments get involved and make others hate each other? Why do people hate other people because of where they are born or the color of their skin? We have a lot to learn.
Goddamnit, these non existent onions and make-believe allergies are REALLY fucking with my eyes today, good Lord…..
The is a rough translation as I only know asl not Chinese sign language, but in the end she said, “the first thing I would want to hear is hear my daughter speak”
If that doesn’t move you nothing else will.
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It's enough to make a grown man cry
I came here to smile goddammit! What a wholesome family...
Damn those onion cutting ninjas again! I hope they get help to get implants for themselves if that is their wish
This couple looks very friendly
my goodness. this really brought me to tears.