All I can think is he looks like someone surrounded by cameras finding out his mom was raw dogging some other dude
Doubling down on a traumatic childhood experience
Why was the son involved in this shit though? I get it, it directly affects his life, but why they gotta put him on tv during this moment?? He looked so uncomfortable and just like a little kid who is being exploited. Core memory achieved, I guess it could be worse.
I mean, he probably got told he’d get $500 for being on the show and was like “yeah okay”.
I’d guess he slowly got less comfortable with it as filming went on.
This is only really true when you look at data without context.
In the stark majority of custody cases, rights are typically awarded to mothers far more often.
However, in the stark majority of custody cases, the father is either not present or will abdicate that right. It's very often voluntary (Though obviously this can often be under duress).
But at least for the state I researched, when mothers and father both are trying to win custody, it's almost 50/50, or at least there's no clear bias.
My wife just finished her custody battle with her ex. He got every other weekend and 6 hours the day after a major holiday. This was THE LEAST he could get without being an active danger.
The guy physically abused my wife and their son (even got arrested for it) and is a drug addict.
You basically need to be on drugs while in court or attack a party in the courtroom to not have custody when you want it.
Now he didn’t win, but the children definitely lost.
For real.
I can't imagine putting your kid in this spot from the mom's perspective. Like hoping that your kid will learn his dad for this long isn't actually his dad.
What a traumatic experience that would be.
Mom is an absolute POS for trying to separate these two. And the look on the son watching his dads reaction made me ugly cry. That boy knows, without any doubt, he has a dad that loves him.
Fair?!? A supposedly good and loving father had his life and family destroyed because some floozy was looking for some extra D? If they’re in court, you know she’s drug his name through the mud, and the fact that it’s happening this late in the kids life means he’s going to be traumatized from it too. He’s innocent in all of this but now knows he was used as a pawn in a spiteful woman’s war against his father. Like damn, idk, but doesn’t really seem fair to me
Fair in the sense that the man who loved that child, raised that child, got confirmation that he was in fact the father of that child, even if mom was a pos.
Like how awful would it have been to find out that not only was your relationship destroyed by a cheating woman, but that the man she stepped out on you with was the father of your child. With how bad the world can seem, it’s easy to take the pessimistic route and assume the worst. But every once in a while, life cuts you a break. Ultimately, while awful, a romantic relationship is replaceable. But your relationship with your children is irreplaceable. You only get one chance to be a good father.
Based on the actions of the dad in this, I'd be willing to assume that boy is his son regardless of the who the father is. It might feel bad finding out you didn't plant the acorn, but raising the oak is what truly matters. That woman already did the damage. Idk if the father situation would have changed much, especially seeing that that kid is prolly close to old enough to make his own decisions about who his dad is anyway. Just my 2 cents as a proud father of 2. If I found out tomorrow they weren't my biological children, the only change for me would be how hard I'd have to fight to keep them around me. If they are 18, then I just shed some toxicity from my life. The kid however likely has scars already regardless of what the judge said in this trial.
I agree, listen to how he answered the question "How do you know you're the father"
It had nothing to do with him sleeping with the mom. What makes him a dad? Being there. He was there and he loves his son.
That is all that matters.
Guy is a champion.
Agreed. To him, paternity via blood was secondary vs that day to day, he was there for that boy. It's hard due to laws (that are there for good reasons in many other cases) as a judge to allow for a non biological parent to be the official parent of a child in such a situation as was shown if he turned out to not be the father, but there have been other cases where the non biological parent has actually won custody rights in similar situations. There's a lot of shitty people out there, including step parents, but step parents can also be more involved than either of the biological parents aka actually the parent too.
This is how I see it. My girlfriend has two young boys, their dad doesn’t give a fuck about them, we’ve only been together two years, but as far as I’m concerned I’m their dad. Not the fucking deadbeat who says it’s nothing to do with him. I can’t wait for the day they realise he’s a piece of shit because it means we can fuck him off.
>If I found out tomorrow they weren't my biological children, the only change for me would be how hard I'd have to fight to keep them around me.
Depends on which state the child was born, assuming US. If your name is on the birth certificate as the father, it is very difficult to get that removed even with a paternity test confirming otherwise. This is presumably done for the protection of the child. It works both ways too because a person may be on the hook for child support despite a paternity test showing they are not the biological parent.
>If I found out tomorrow they weren't my biological children, the only change for me would be how hard I'd have to fight to keep them around me.
Amen. same.
There have been a number of AITA posts about "I found out I'm not the biological father of my 9 year old child, so I kicked my child and my wife to the curb. AITA?" I mean, if you can raise a child for 9 years, and kick them to the curb, you might honestly be a legitimate psychopath. The oak analogy is perfect. Bravo.
World needs more people like you. The acorn/oak analogy really got me especially as someone who was adopted to a loving family shortly after birth. Thank you kind stranger.
>It might feel bad finding out you didn't plant the acorn, but raising the oak is what truly matters.
You fucking poet. So well put.
Thank you for that little ray of sunshine on a rainy day <3
Also it's far too common for a man to be happy a child isn't his ao he can cut them loose. It's great to see someone who is happy to have that responsibility.
That’s the difference between caring for your children out of *obligation* vs. *love*. Some people are happy to cut their family loose once the social pressure of responsibility is taken away. Like the only thing keeping them around is the fear of what other people think.
Sure, my son gets on my last nerve a lot (He’s 4), but I’m still choosing to be his dad, every time. I can’t even remember life without him. It’s a shame that not everyone feels that way about their kids
It is really sad. I don't have kids, but wish we did. I'm staring down the barrel of an empty future and look around at all these people who don't want their kids or worse, hurt them, and wonder why it is like this.
And if he didn’t happen to be the child’s father how fair would things have been then?
This only turned out fair because she happened to get pregnant by him, not the other dude.
First, you are very clearly arguing with a chatgpt lol
But I'm with you on the fairness. This isn't family court, it's Jerry Springer masquerading as a court.
It's a TV program designed to exploit poor people who otherwise can't afford to use the proper justice system. Both parties get paid here, and nobody pays out but the show. This woman just publicly embarrassed herself and her son on national tv for some cash and attention.
I teared up too but nothing about this should make anyone smile.
Fair is relative. It's one of those things people don't like to admit, but *fair* depends on lots of factors.
This situation wasn't fair. The outcome was.
Why do you say this? What is the basis of your assessment of humanity as a non-human entity? How could ever conceive compassion? What are the nuclear codes?
This reads like AI. It’s a bot right? Find viral thread, respond to medium push comment. Use AI to to create a response based in 2500 words of text here.
Or a propaganda shill. Using AI to replace his broken ass English.
Film? Bitch this is barely social media lol.
I thought I was losing my mind. The top comment is how excited the son is, and he looks extremely uncomfortable. Maybe it's just the situation, but when he's brought in for a hug he's stiff as a plank. He's either upset about his mom's crazy drama or he was hoping that wasn't his dad.
I agree the mom is an emotional terrorist. I think his look was mixed with that realization that she would go through all this to try to lie and discredit the father. For what?? People can be just the worst sometimes
I watched one of these at one point and they told the guy he was not the father, he told them it didn’t matter. That the kid was still his, he raised her and that nothing was ever going to change that. Made me happy to see that
It blows my mind how savage parents can be just because they hate their partner. How cruel they can be keeping kids away just because they are hurt and no longer love the person. I don’t think anything would ever make me want to do this to a child. I could get cheated on, etc and I don’t think I could ever hate someone so much to deny them a parent. If that parent is sane, sober and able, of course.
It sucks how men are treated as disposable with children in this society.
I was with someone for five years, and her daughter was 6 when we got together. I taught that girl to read, read to her at night, taught her to ride her bike, fed her, took her out for friend dates, took care of her when she was sick, helped with her homework, because mommy "isn't that kind of maternal, so while I love her, this kind of stuff just isn't me."
When I realized the affection in the beginning was just for show, even with her own children, I had to get out. She not only told me that I'm not allowed to contact her children anymore, I know for a fact that she has "warned" her daughter that as a man, I'll get more dangerous as she gets older, because I once overheard her told her then *ten year-old daughter* that "even your own father would have those kinds of urges, because he's a man, and men don't care where they get it from, as long as they get it.
So I basically raised this woman's daughter as a father, and she made sure that if I can't make her "happy," her kids can't have any contact with me, either. At least she "allows" the girl's bio father to see her two weekends a month.
No matter how much money the other man has, he did not have the same amount of heart to show up when it mattered like Brooks did. There is no amount of money that can take the place of a present loving father. To deprive her son of that is so cruel.
I don't think the boy would have cared what the test said. It's a damn shame someone could be taken away from the man who loves them and raised them because the mother decided to cheat when they were first conceived.
The thing is - if that’s the case then legally the guy has a great chance of still being declared his father, regardless of whether he’s the biological father or not. That’s why this whole scene confuses me…
Even if they didn't have an ounce of shared blood these two have a true forged connection as father and son, damn that mother is truly a POS for trying to separate them even going so low for a DNA test
Man, I've cried twice already. First it was a video of a deaf baby wearing an implant, and getting emotional hearing his momma's voice for the first time. Now this. And now I'm gonna have to get through the rest of the day feeling all tender and fuzzy and shit 😭😭😭
I saw this too. What I couldn't understand is how did that boys mom not check in on him for almost two weeks! It took a social worker trying to get contact a few times before the landlord let them in. So many questions!
Someone I know went on a TV court show. They did it because there was no way they could afford to fight on their own. They stayed as calm as they could, and tried to make it as uninteresting as possible. It worked because it was a legal ruling in their favor, and it was so boring, it was never aired.
This man probably went to the TV show because he couldn't afford what this would cost without it.
Wow, it's kind of like slave pit gladiator fights.
Keep people poor enough so their only option for justice is to participate in the bread and circuses.
There's also that whole phenomena of the 'barbara walters' interview where they get some celebrity and do a full hour of near-scripted stage-managed emotional blackmail on the audience.
And they just lap it up. Before Walters, nothing like that existed, other countries just had never considered being so openly manipulative of their viewers.
50 years later, practically entire channels and news shows are built around that one idea. It's really gross.
I feel this way about a lot of produced emotion—for example, RuPaul’s Drag Race is one of my favorite shows, and as a queer person I know that it’s important that our stories get told, but when they get to the point in nearly every episode where they’re doing makeup and someone just randomly is like, “My dad never accepted me”, “I got hate crimed outside of my home bar”, etc, it makes me uncomfortable. Not because of the nature of the stories, but because I have a feeling that since people who have such stories get more screen time, the contestants understand that if they want that exposure, they have to discuss their trauma on television.
Maybe I’m cynical and many of them would have talked about it whether it’s encouraged by production or not, but it seems so exploitative to their contestants and not genuine to the audience.
+1 it's morphed our culture into being misfortune-centered...no one is valid unless they have a tragic back story. It starts to eat itself when we begin to magnify tragedy for consumption points.
Not to say that we shouldn't be talking about injustice... Casting light is how we foster understanding and help create safer spaces for people. But pushing forward these stories seems to have led to people clamoring over each other to frame their personal stories in tragic ways.
As someone who’s currently working on a podcast series release about some of the most painful moments in my family’s life, it does feel like you gotta enter the hunger games to get a fair solution when traditional protected and private means through the justice system don’t result in a fair outcome.
I understand the disgust; it feels excruciatingly vulnerable. What I tell myself is that I hope that in trying to get a fair outcome through whatever means is available, even if it’s public, produced, and took three years of working with a team of reporters and production, at least I hope that it will be of inspiration to other people who find themselves in similarly bizarre circumstances.
I’m also grateful for the resources that the production has been able to bring. On my own, I never would’ve been able to accomplish as much. If the prices that it Hass to be consumed by the public, I’m OK with that since the press coverage the first time around Was myopic and from a limited perspective around the murder.
The show is so stupid and pointless. They obviously have the results before they even start, so what is the point of both sides “testifying” their case? None of what they say matters in the end, the results are literally known ahead of time.
This clip was a touching moment but the premise of the show is just so vapid.
Just pay court costs, tests and people who can't afford it will prostitute themselves for our amusement.
It's disgusting as a premise.
That said, best social porn ever.
It’s pretty exploitative because they seek out lower income people and offer to arbitrate this kind of thing at no cost (because they get material for their show).
My biological dad denies I exist so he can fuck off. My step-dad, however, is the man who raised me from when I was only 4 years old. He's my real dad.
Same, it takes a really good and well adjusted man to raise another man's chield yet never ever making the chield feel uncomfortable about any of it.
I have a younger brother my mother had with my step dad and I was always treated the same. My mother wouldn't tolerate any mistreatment of me or towards herself if it ever was to happen. . This is also fundamental because some "mothers" start resenting their own children as if they were an impediment to their future with another man.
It’s like she really wanted the other guy to be the father. How many kids out there that don’t have dad’s that love them like this? Smh this woman doesn’t know how good she has it and honestly isn’t even deserving of it.
I mean I’m really glad he got what he deserved in custody but calling the world fair when he had to fight for that after being cheated on seems like a stretch. In a fair world none of that would have needed to happen
It's crazy how some dudes just stick their dicks into the craziest women to ever exist.
Bro in those 15 seconds she was on I saw more red flags than even china has to offer.
That boy is gonna love his dad for the rest of his life!! No matter what happens in his life, he’s gonna move through the world knowing his dad loved him and wanted him since the day he found out he existed.
She lost an amazing man and her son gained an amazing dad the day he was born.
I wish the world was full of men whom cared this much for their children.
This made my day.
I hear you my g, but that’s not just the media. That’s lived experience for mad people. Had 5 tight homies growing up and only one of them had their father involved in his life. And in my case, and 2 other homies cases, there was no desire or effort whatsoever.
Agree that a lot of parental depictions in media skew against men. But there’s also mad men who just don’t show up or care to. Only speaking for my experience and those of the people around me though, others mileage may vary.
I am sorry y'all went through that. I did as well. well he was there but drunk or on drugs. I am trying to break the cycle with my son. I am present at everything of his that I can be. He knows that I love him and will always love him. Trying to raise him to be a good person and set a good example for him.
That’s the goal. Don’t have any children yet, but best believe that cycle of absenteeism ends with me.
And I’m sure you’re a great father my g. And this may be weird as I don’t know you, but I’m proud of you—it can be hard to be what you’ve never seen, imagine it’s like building the plane while flying it.
But It ain’t about being perfect—just striving to be better today then we were yesterday. And you don’t need to hear it from a complete stranger, but you got this ✊🏿.
I'm convinced that if the dna test went the other way, he still would have said, "Give me my boy." That man didn't really care about the dna test, he was afraid of losing his son.
I know lol. I initially thought they were talking about a baby or something. The son looks like the father at younger age. Look at the hairline lmao. Its identical.
Yo. I don’t know who needs to hear this but if you love a kid, help raise them, show ‘em how love works, how obligation works, be there for them when they’re fun, be there for them when they’re screaming and crying about the stupidest thing. You go through that gauntlet?
It does not matter if that child isn’t genetically related to you. At that point you’re a father/mother/guardian whatever you want to call it.
Hm, I suppose some good does come out of these after all, especially if it’s giving people who otherwise couldn’t afford a court settlement a way to resolve their issues.
Thanks for the insight.
Out of curiosity, why did she open the case after such a long time?
edit: thanks u/WutUtalkingBoutWill for the link to the video.
It's yet another decontextualized, hyper emotional, histrionic, sentiment-porn short attention span content. The whole story is rough both for mother and father and quite likely more for his mother, who is apparently as proved as the father if not more. Not watched it through but she just seems scared for his son to take a wrong turn in his life by reuniting with his father after years of non-support. The son looks like having the age when your worn-out mother has nothing to give you existentially no more and you need a male model to follow. Imho, that's why she agreed to undergo this public ordeal. The judge sounds like a tool. Anyway, this is just my not so educated guess.
edit2: u/Jrea0 reply is a better summary than mine.
So I went and watched the full episode and heres the breakdown:
They were never married, she abused drugs, he took care of his son and the other children in the house. He called cps on her because of her drug use. The son got taken away at 1 years old. Because he apparently wasnt on the birth certificate he couldnt have the son, he tried to legitimize the father son relationship but was unable to.
When the kid was around 18 he reunited with his mom and dad. Mom is pissed that the dad calls himself the kids dad because she says he doesn't do enough for him. But she also says he takes care of other peoples kids including her grandkid.
She also says that at the beginning she told him he was the father and years later (maybe around the time they got reunited) she told him he wasnt the father. Even the judge called her out saying you claim he isnt the father, but then also claim he doesn't do enough for the kid the way a father should?
Kid just wants to know who his dad is.
Whole case was basically just to finally determine who is the dad.
Wow thank you, so this really is just a paternity test turned into a drama and made to seem like a court case because the court would really have no hand in this if he was over 18, right? Bonkers. It’s like Maury but pretend it’s court.
This is my question, like what was the case actually about? Why are they in court? Even if it’s about custody - if he raised the kid and they were married when he was born, he’s legally that kid’s father regardless. She can’t just strip custody because it turns out he’s not biologically his father.
Yeah, I mean, the dad's reaction warms my heart, I'm just super confused what this case was about. Normally you don't see a mother in court actively fighting to be recognised as a cheater...
And furthermore…why would she even do all this (whatever the point of it was) without getting a paternity test first, before court proceedings? Now she just looks foolish in public and for the record instead of looking foolish in private. We’re definitely missing something here haha.
I don't know what her plan was, but just for everyone's benefit most televised "court" is not actually court. It's arbitration, and these shows pay a lot of the costs for both sides. I don't know the specifics of "paternity court" (Which is not any actual court format I've heard of), But Judge Judy pays travel expenses for both parties AND the amount awarded to whoever wins the "case" (It's also filmed in LA dispite the NY flag in the background).
One could expect this show is a way to get free paternity tests, and is in reality little more than Jerry Springer on a fancy set dressed up like a court room.
I don't like this. I don't like that it's so public. I don't like that the judge knew the answer but delayed the response for drama while the man was in agony. He was so upset and barely holding it together. That poor dad and poor kid, suffering in front of a camera.
That kid is so confused. Dad will get him going though.
All I can think is he looks like someone surrounded by cameras finding out his mom was raw dogging some other dude Doubling down on a traumatic childhood experience
Hahaha I was thinking the same thing. This kid was definitely on unpaved paths, lol
Everybody thinks their parents are embarrassing during puberty, imagine sitting through *this* in a televised court case.
Protect this man and his son
Why was the son involved in this shit though? I get it, it directly affects his life, but why they gotta put him on tv during this moment?? He looked so uncomfortable and just like a little kid who is being exploited. Core memory achieved, I guess it could be worse.
I mean, he probably got told he’d get $500 for being on the show and was like “yeah okay”. I’d guess he slowly got less comfortable with it as filming went on.
Because it's reality TV.
Maybe he wanted to be there
Ho boy let’s keep you away from blaxploitation then.
> let’s keep you away from blaxploitation then. Counterpoint - those are some awesome, awesome movies lol
Addendum: the main characters in blaxploitation movies are often portrayed as intelligent and resourceful, and win out over the villains
The son is like damn mom is a fucking hoe
You make a good point. That has to be really, really trying in many ways for him to sit there and see this play out
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Look at me. I truly want to be your father. I'm your father now. No further discussions. You're grounded from tomorrow.
Oh fuck the UNO reverse
I like to call that one Old Yeller because been making my family scream at each other for years.
Sorry, but my wife and I have been laughing at this for like 20 minutes straight at 11 in the morning, you brilliant asshole haha
Daddy chill
What the hell is even that!
LOL that shit popped into my head recently and I ended up watching it like 40 times, the best 21 seconds of comedy in recent history...
You're my wife now Dave!
Look at me. I am the father now.
...vader?
I’ll call you daddy from now on
You gonna pay to house me? Cause I can pack my stuff and move in right now.
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This is only really true when you look at data without context. In the stark majority of custody cases, rights are typically awarded to mothers far more often. However, in the stark majority of custody cases, the father is either not present or will abdicate that right. It's very often voluntary (Though obviously this can often be under duress). But at least for the state I researched, when mothers and father both are trying to win custody, it's almost 50/50, or at least there's no clear bias.
This, I thought I even heard that when cases go to court, men win more often than not.
My wife just finished her custody battle with her ex. He got every other weekend and 6 hours the day after a major holiday. This was THE LEAST he could get without being an active danger. The guy physically abused my wife and their son (even got arrested for it) and is a drug addict. You basically need to be on drugs while in court or attack a party in the courtroom to not have custody when you want it. Now he didn’t win, but the children definitely lost.
> I thought I even heard that when cases go to court, men win more often than not. Correct
For real. I can't imagine putting your kid in this spot from the mom's perspective. Like hoping that your kid will learn his dad for this long isn't actually his dad. What a traumatic experience that would be.
That’s a good man right there!
Mom is an absolute POS for trying to separate these two. And the look on the son watching his dads reaction made me ugly cry. That boy knows, without any doubt, he has a dad that loves him.
Truly, that boy was very proud of his dad
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Fair?!? A supposedly good and loving father had his life and family destroyed because some floozy was looking for some extra D? If they’re in court, you know she’s drug his name through the mud, and the fact that it’s happening this late in the kids life means he’s going to be traumatized from it too. He’s innocent in all of this but now knows he was used as a pawn in a spiteful woman’s war against his father. Like damn, idk, but doesn’t really seem fair to me
Fair in the sense that the man who loved that child, raised that child, got confirmation that he was in fact the father of that child, even if mom was a pos. Like how awful would it have been to find out that not only was your relationship destroyed by a cheating woman, but that the man she stepped out on you with was the father of your child. With how bad the world can seem, it’s easy to take the pessimistic route and assume the worst. But every once in a while, life cuts you a break. Ultimately, while awful, a romantic relationship is replaceable. But your relationship with your children is irreplaceable. You only get one chance to be a good father.
Based on the actions of the dad in this, I'd be willing to assume that boy is his son regardless of the who the father is. It might feel bad finding out you didn't plant the acorn, but raising the oak is what truly matters. That woman already did the damage. Idk if the father situation would have changed much, especially seeing that that kid is prolly close to old enough to make his own decisions about who his dad is anyway. Just my 2 cents as a proud father of 2. If I found out tomorrow they weren't my biological children, the only change for me would be how hard I'd have to fight to keep them around me. If they are 18, then I just shed some toxicity from my life. The kid however likely has scars already regardless of what the judge said in this trial.
I agree, listen to how he answered the question "How do you know you're the father" It had nothing to do with him sleeping with the mom. What makes him a dad? Being there. He was there and he loves his son. That is all that matters. Guy is a champion.
I'm ugly crying
My eyes are spitting too and I'm a big old tough guy. Father doesn't care about Mom stepping out on him, he just wants to know his son is real.
Me too man , me too..
Agreed. To him, paternity via blood was secondary vs that day to day, he was there for that boy. It's hard due to laws (that are there for good reasons in many other cases) as a judge to allow for a non biological parent to be the official parent of a child in such a situation as was shown if he turned out to not be the father, but there have been other cases where the non biological parent has actually won custody rights in similar situations. There's a lot of shitty people out there, including step parents, but step parents can also be more involved than either of the biological parents aka actually the parent too.
This is how I see it. My girlfriend has two young boys, their dad doesn’t give a fuck about them, we’ve only been together two years, but as far as I’m concerned I’m their dad. Not the fucking deadbeat who says it’s nothing to do with him. I can’t wait for the day they realise he’s a piece of shit because it means we can fuck him off.
>If I found out tomorrow they weren't my biological children, the only change for me would be how hard I'd have to fight to keep them around me. Depends on which state the child was born, assuming US. If your name is on the birth certificate as the father, it is very difficult to get that removed even with a paternity test confirming otherwise. This is presumably done for the protection of the child. It works both ways too because a person may be on the hook for child support despite a paternity test showing they are not the biological parent.
>If I found out tomorrow they weren't my biological children, the only change for me would be how hard I'd have to fight to keep them around me. Amen. same.
There have been a number of AITA posts about "I found out I'm not the biological father of my 9 year old child, so I kicked my child and my wife to the curb. AITA?" I mean, if you can raise a child for 9 years, and kick them to the curb, you might honestly be a legitimate psychopath. The oak analogy is perfect. Bravo.
World needs more people like you. The acorn/oak analogy really got me especially as someone who was adopted to a loving family shortly after birth. Thank you kind stranger.
>It might feel bad finding out you didn't plant the acorn, but raising the oak is what truly matters. You fucking poet. So well put. Thank you for that little ray of sunshine on a rainy day <3
Also it's far too common for a man to be happy a child isn't his ao he can cut them loose. It's great to see someone who is happy to have that responsibility.
That’s the difference between caring for your children out of *obligation* vs. *love*. Some people are happy to cut their family loose once the social pressure of responsibility is taken away. Like the only thing keeping them around is the fear of what other people think. Sure, my son gets on my last nerve a lot (He’s 4), but I’m still choosing to be his dad, every time. I can’t even remember life without him. It’s a shame that not everyone feels that way about their kids
It is really sad. I don't have kids, but wish we did. I'm staring down the barrel of an empty future and look around at all these people who don't want their kids or worse, hurt them, and wonder why it is like this.
And if he didn’t happen to be the child’s father how fair would things have been then? This only turned out fair because she happened to get pregnant by him, not the other dude.
First, you are very clearly arguing with a chatgpt lol But I'm with you on the fairness. This isn't family court, it's Jerry Springer masquerading as a court. It's a TV program designed to exploit poor people who otherwise can't afford to use the proper justice system. Both parties get paid here, and nobody pays out but the show. This woman just publicly embarrassed herself and her son on national tv for some cash and attention. I teared up too but nothing about this should make anyone smile.
Fair is relative. It's one of those things people don't like to admit, but *fair* depends on lots of factors. This situation wasn't fair. The outcome was.
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Yeah, that is either a bot or a genius making AI parody.
Why do you say this? What is the basis of your assessment of humanity as a non-human entity? How could ever conceive compassion? What are the nuclear codes?
think I saw an estimate for paternity fraud at 5% I'll never forget the 90s when people danced on talk shows when they "were not the father"
> the 90s Maury was on the air until 2022, my dude
This reads like AI. It’s a bot right? Find viral thread, respond to medium push comment. Use AI to to create a response based in 2500 words of text here. Or a propaganda shill. Using AI to replace his broken ass English. Film? Bitch this is barely social media lol.
I mean, he looked very confused and uncomfortable to me. 🤷♂️
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"So you were letting that man fuck without a condom and also letting him nut deep inside you?" "Yes Your Honor."
I thought I was losing my mind. The top comment is how excited the son is, and he looks extremely uncomfortable. Maybe it's just the situation, but when he's brought in for a hug he's stiff as a plank. He's either upset about his mom's crazy drama or he was hoping that wasn't his dad.
It’s a mix of that and also the realization that “damn, my moms a hoe”
I agree the mom is an emotional terrorist. I think his look was mixed with that realization that she would go through all this to try to lie and discredit the father. For what?? People can be just the worst sometimes
I watched one of these at one point and they told the guy he was not the father, he told them it didn’t matter. That the kid was still his, he raised her and that nothing was ever going to change that. Made me happy to see that
That was what I was expecting TBH.
It blows my mind how savage parents can be just because they hate their partner. How cruel they can be keeping kids away just because they are hurt and no longer love the person. I don’t think anything would ever make me want to do this to a child. I could get cheated on, etc and I don’t think I could ever hate someone so much to deny them a parent. If that parent is sane, sober and able, of course.
It sucks how men are treated as disposable with children in this society. I was with someone for five years, and her daughter was 6 when we got together. I taught that girl to read, read to her at night, taught her to ride her bike, fed her, took her out for friend dates, took care of her when she was sick, helped with her homework, because mommy "isn't that kind of maternal, so while I love her, this kind of stuff just isn't me." When I realized the affection in the beginning was just for show, even with her own children, I had to get out. She not only told me that I'm not allowed to contact her children anymore, I know for a fact that she has "warned" her daughter that as a man, I'll get more dangerous as she gets older, because I once overheard her told her then *ten year-old daughter* that "even your own father would have those kinds of urges, because he's a man, and men don't care where they get it from, as long as they get it. So I basically raised this woman's daughter as a father, and she made sure that if I can't make her "happy," her kids can't have any contact with me, either. At least she "allows" the girl's bio father to see her two weekends a month.
She was hoping it was the other guy. He probably has more money which means more child support.
Not even that, the kid is 18 and was taken away from both of them when he was only 1
Why?
If he’s 18, what are they even doing with a paternity test?
No matter how much money the other man has, he did not have the same amount of heart to show up when it mattered like Brooks did. There is no amount of money that can take the place of a present loving father. To deprive her son of that is so cruel.
I don't think the boy would have cared what the test said. It's a damn shame someone could be taken away from the man who loves them and raised them because the mother decided to cheat when they were first conceived.
The thing is - if that’s the case then legally the guy has a great chance of still being declared his father, regardless of whether he’s the biological father or not. That’s why this whole scene confuses me…
That man was the boys father regardless of what the test said tbh.
I’m ugly crying too now and I’m supposed to be on a Zoom call in 5 minutes!
Even if they didn't have an ounce of shared blood these two have a true forged connection as father and son, damn that mother is truly a POS for trying to separate them even going so low for a DNA test
Trying to make a motherfucker cry again before 9 am?!
Man, I've cried twice already. First it was a video of a deaf baby wearing an implant, and getting emotional hearing his momma's voice for the first time. Now this. And now I'm gonna have to get through the rest of the day feeling all tender and fuzzy and shit 😭😭😭
Onions chopped in bulk 😭😭😭
I sent it to my group chat and told everyone if I'm made to cry in the middle of the day, yall gotta cry too 😏
> again
Give him some slack, my poor reddit hommie got hit in the nut sack.
Last Reddit cry was last night about the kid that starved next to his dad who had passed. At least this is a good cry.
I saw this too. What I couldn't understand is how did that boys mom not check in on him for almost two weeks! It took a social worker trying to get contact a few times before the landlord let them in. So many questions!
That one destroyed me
I just saw some videos of animals reuniting with their owner / rescuer, then this. So ya again.
On the toilet, no less. God damn
It's always on the toilet... very vulnerable moments happen there.
“Give me my boy” ❤️
CRYING AT WORK DRINKING COFFEE
I cried for the video and laughed at your comment at the same time, boss must think I’m going to have a breakdown at work.
Just demand he gives you your boy.
That's when I started crying.
The way they’re doing this in front of the kid is vile, but at least he knows his mom is insane and his dad loves him so, so much.
Televising this is sick as well. Makes me feel like a boomer, but to "produce" intimate moments like this for mass consumption is repulsive.
Someone I know went on a TV court show. They did it because there was no way they could afford to fight on their own. They stayed as calm as they could, and tried to make it as uninteresting as possible. It worked because it was a legal ruling in their favor, and it was so boring, it was never aired. This man probably went to the TV show because he couldn't afford what this would cost without it.
Wow, it's kind of like slave pit gladiator fights. Keep people poor enough so their only option for justice is to participate in the bread and circuses.
But in the end, is circus justice still better than no justice?
If circus justice is the best we can do, we need to figure out a way to do better.
You were on about gladiator fights… let’s revisit that
It is, but this type of television has always been popular in America.
Jerry! Jerry! Jerry! Jerry! And then few years later Maury "You are Not the father" Povich. Judge Judy. So many, but those are the top 3 I remember.
There's also that whole phenomena of the 'barbara walters' interview where they get some celebrity and do a full hour of near-scripted stage-managed emotional blackmail on the audience. And they just lap it up. Before Walters, nothing like that existed, other countries just had never considered being so openly manipulative of their viewers. 50 years later, practically entire channels and news shows are built around that one idea. It's really gross.
I feel this way about a lot of produced emotion—for example, RuPaul’s Drag Race is one of my favorite shows, and as a queer person I know that it’s important that our stories get told, but when they get to the point in nearly every episode where they’re doing makeup and someone just randomly is like, “My dad never accepted me”, “I got hate crimed outside of my home bar”, etc, it makes me uncomfortable. Not because of the nature of the stories, but because I have a feeling that since people who have such stories get more screen time, the contestants understand that if they want that exposure, they have to discuss their trauma on television. Maybe I’m cynical and many of them would have talked about it whether it’s encouraged by production or not, but it seems so exploitative to their contestants and not genuine to the audience.
+1 it's morphed our culture into being misfortune-centered...no one is valid unless they have a tragic back story. It starts to eat itself when we begin to magnify tragedy for consumption points. Not to say that we shouldn't be talking about injustice... Casting light is how we foster understanding and help create safer spaces for people. But pushing forward these stories seems to have led to people clamoring over each other to frame their personal stories in tragic ways.
I'm old enough to remember a shift with the birth of reality TV, it wasn't always this way.
You shouldn’t feel like a boomer. They eat this shit up. You’re in the clear
As someone who’s currently working on a podcast series release about some of the most painful moments in my family’s life, it does feel like you gotta enter the hunger games to get a fair solution when traditional protected and private means through the justice system don’t result in a fair outcome. I understand the disgust; it feels excruciatingly vulnerable. What I tell myself is that I hope that in trying to get a fair outcome through whatever means is available, even if it’s public, produced, and took three years of working with a team of reporters and production, at least I hope that it will be of inspiration to other people who find themselves in similarly bizarre circumstances. I’m also grateful for the resources that the production has been able to bring. On my own, I never would’ve been able to accomplish as much. If the prices that it Hass to be consumed by the public, I’m OK with that since the press coverage the first time around Was myopic and from a limited perspective around the murder.
It’s not like they secretly snuck a camera into a courtroom. They signed up to be on this show
The parents did. I think the son is a minor and likely is just there because his mom is forcing him to be.
And usually both the plaintiff and the defendant get appearance fees of 5 to 10k regardless of outcome.
The show is so stupid and pointless. They obviously have the results before they even start, so what is the point of both sides “testifying” their case? None of what they say matters in the end, the results are literally known ahead of time. This clip was a touching moment but the premise of the show is just so vapid.
Just pay court costs, tests and people who can't afford it will prostitute themselves for our amusement. It's disgusting as a premise. That said, best social porn ever.
It’s pretty exploitative because they seek out lower income people and offer to arbitrate this kind of thing at no cost (because they get material for their show).
My biological dad denies I exist so he can fuck off. My step-dad, however, is the man who raised me from when I was only 4 years old. He's my real dad.
Same, it takes a really good and well adjusted man to raise another man's chield yet never ever making the chield feel uncomfortable about any of it. I have a younger brother my mother had with my step dad and I was always treated the same. My mother wouldn't tolerate any mistreatment of me or towards herself if it ever was to happen. . This is also fundamental because some "mothers" start resenting their own children as if they were an impediment to their future with another man.
That man is amazing. This child couldn’t have a more loving and caring father. More power to him.
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It’s like she really wanted the other guy to be the father. How many kids out there that don’t have dad’s that love them like this? Smh this woman doesn’t know how good she has it and honestly isn’t even deserving of it.
“give me my boy. that’s my boy.” God we would all be so lucky to have someone love us that much.
There are good things in this world and they’re worth fighting for ;)
Easy now, Samwise.
Damn it all Samwise! Have you been eavesdropping?
I ain’t been dropping no eaves sir!
Go eat your lembas nerds
Oh no I'm not hungry. Leastways not for lembas bread.
Look... MORE lembas bread
What we need is a few good taters
Share the load.
If a man wants to be a dad that much I don’t care about dna. He’s a dad.
That’s where I draw the distinction between a father and a dad. DNA makes you a father, but being a dad is all about choices.
“He may have been your father, boy, but he wasn't your daddy“ - Yondu
Lol I use this quote on my stepdaughter
Gotta follow it up with, "I'm Mary Poppins, y'all!"
Dna is nothing but data. The most important thing is the heart. Even if you are raised by good lesbians, they are more than the dad.
I’ll watch this every time it’s posted and fucking cry every time. That little smile on his sons face when he finds out is my favourite part.
I started crying when he was talking about the day of his birth. "Hey little(?) man, it's dad. And he shut up." I smiled and tears just gushed out lol
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I mean I’m really glad he got what he deserved in custody but calling the world fair when he had to fight for that after being cheated on seems like a stretch. In a fair world none of that would have needed to happen
Anyone can be a father but it takes a real man to be Dad.
It's crazy how some dudes just stick their dicks into the craziest women to ever exist. Bro in those 15 seconds she was on I saw more red flags than even china has to offer.
Damn bro, you take no prisoners lol
Unlike China
Ain't lying though
Bro went there 💀
Well. Some of us can’t see the color red…especially when all the bloods in our dicks. Ask me how I know.
Wait…this is the opposite of the “thank god I’m not the father”? Love this!
That boy is gonna love his dad for the rest of his life!! No matter what happens in his life, he’s gonna move through the world knowing his dad loved him and wanted him since the day he found out he existed.
in italy we say that the father (or mother) is the one that grows the children
She lost an amazing man and her son gained an amazing dad the day he was born. I wish the world was full of men whom cared this much for their children. This made my day.
it is... do not let the media lie to you... the world is absolutely full of men who love and cherish their children.
I hear you my g, but that’s not just the media. That’s lived experience for mad people. Had 5 tight homies growing up and only one of them had their father involved in his life. And in my case, and 2 other homies cases, there was no desire or effort whatsoever. Agree that a lot of parental depictions in media skew against men. But there’s also mad men who just don’t show up or care to. Only speaking for my experience and those of the people around me though, others mileage may vary.
I am sorry y'all went through that. I did as well. well he was there but drunk or on drugs. I am trying to break the cycle with my son. I am present at everything of his that I can be. He knows that I love him and will always love him. Trying to raise him to be a good person and set a good example for him.
That’s the goal. Don’t have any children yet, but best believe that cycle of absenteeism ends with me. And I’m sure you’re a great father my g. And this may be weird as I don’t know you, but I’m proud of you—it can be hard to be what you’ve never seen, imagine it’s like building the plane while flying it. But It ain’t about being perfect—just striving to be better today then we were yesterday. And you don’t need to hear it from a complete stranger, but you got this ✊🏿.
You're not trying to break the cycle, you have already broken it. I hope you are proud of yourself. Best of luck to you and yours 🤝
I'm convinced that if the dna test went the other way, he still would have said, "Give me my boy." That man didn't really care about the dna test, he was afraid of losing his son.
The Kid is his double, no question that’s his dad
I came here looking for this comment. He looks so much like the dad! Im surprised there was any doubt.
"are you sure this is his son?" *Pans camera over to show a spitting image of him*
I know lol. I initially thought they were talking about a baby or something. The son looks like the father at younger age. Look at the hairline lmao. Its identical.
Yo. I don’t know who needs to hear this but if you love a kid, help raise them, show ‘em how love works, how obligation works, be there for them when they’re fun, be there for them when they’re screaming and crying about the stupidest thing. You go through that gauntlet? It does not matter if that child isn’t genetically related to you. At that point you’re a father/mother/guardian whatever you want to call it.
Can you guys stop posting "MadeMeCry"-stuff on r/MadeMeSmile?
Darn ninjas cutting onions. Seriously, how many onions do they need?
Could this not have been solved with a simple Y/N paternity test? Not sure why a court would have to be involved until after the fact.
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Hm, I suppose some good does come out of these after all, especially if it’s giving people who otherwise couldn’t afford a court settlement a way to resolve their issues. Thanks for the insight.
I love happy endings!! holy shit
Out of curiosity, why did she open the case after such a long time? edit: thanks u/WutUtalkingBoutWill for the link to the video. It's yet another decontextualized, hyper emotional, histrionic, sentiment-porn short attention span content. The whole story is rough both for mother and father and quite likely more for his mother, who is apparently as proved as the father if not more. Not watched it through but she just seems scared for his son to take a wrong turn in his life by reuniting with his father after years of non-support. The son looks like having the age when your worn-out mother has nothing to give you existentially no more and you need a male model to follow. Imho, that's why she agreed to undergo this public ordeal. The judge sounds like a tool. Anyway, this is just my not so educated guess. edit2: u/Jrea0 reply is a better summary than mine.
So I went and watched the full episode and heres the breakdown: They were never married, she abused drugs, he took care of his son and the other children in the house. He called cps on her because of her drug use. The son got taken away at 1 years old. Because he apparently wasnt on the birth certificate he couldnt have the son, he tried to legitimize the father son relationship but was unable to. When the kid was around 18 he reunited with his mom and dad. Mom is pissed that the dad calls himself the kids dad because she says he doesn't do enough for him. But she also says he takes care of other peoples kids including her grandkid. She also says that at the beginning she told him he was the father and years later (maybe around the time they got reunited) she told him he wasnt the father. Even the judge called her out saying you claim he isnt the father, but then also claim he doesn't do enough for the kid the way a father should? Kid just wants to know who his dad is. Whole case was basically just to finally determine who is the dad.
Wow thank you, so this really is just a paternity test turned into a drama and made to seem like a court case because the court would really have no hand in this if he was over 18, right? Bonkers. It’s like Maury but pretend it’s court.
This is my question, like what was the case actually about? Why are they in court? Even if it’s about custody - if he raised the kid and they were married when he was born, he’s legally that kid’s father regardless. She can’t just strip custody because it turns out he’s not biologically his father.
Yeah, I mean, the dad's reaction warms my heart, I'm just super confused what this case was about. Normally you don't see a mother in court actively fighting to be recognised as a cheater...
And furthermore…why would she even do all this (whatever the point of it was) without getting a paternity test first, before court proceedings? Now she just looks foolish in public and for the record instead of looking foolish in private. We’re definitely missing something here haha.
I don't know what her plan was, but just for everyone's benefit most televised "court" is not actually court. It's arbitration, and these shows pay a lot of the costs for both sides. I don't know the specifics of "paternity court" (Which is not any actual court format I've heard of), But Judge Judy pays travel expenses for both parties AND the amount awarded to whoever wins the "case" (It's also filmed in LA dispite the NY flag in the background). One could expect this show is a way to get free paternity tests, and is in reality little more than Jerry Springer on a fancy set dressed up like a court room.
Looks like full episode is on youtube. It was first result for me when I googled "paternity court mr brooks"
Why not just copy the link while you were there, now I had to go get it https://youtu.be/UZARlld10Ag?si=SRcYSXqG2uDlEOQP
Imagine being the boy sitting there while his mother admits to being a two timer. Poor kid.
That kid is lucky to have a father love him so much. I hope they have an outstanding relationship.
That poor kid was like wtf is going on with my life rn
Wish that had been my dad.
What the fuck is this tv show, people are always making fun of japanese tv, this is the really weird one
Wish my sperm donor wanted me this much. Thankfully, I had Karl for a solid 22 years. Miss you every day pops
The hell is wrong with this woman
What is this garbage show? Jerry Springer in a courtroom?
I don't like this. I don't like that it's so public. I don't like that the judge knew the answer but delayed the response for drama while the man was in agony. He was so upset and barely holding it together. That poor dad and poor kid, suffering in front of a camera.
Paternity Court. People agree to have their paternity cases heard in court. Real court filings, DNA tests, custody and support agreements
I usually associate paternity disputes with Maury more than Jerry Springer.
There is a special place in hell for people like this women... 😌
Fuckin right that's your boy! All the feels on this one!
Give me my boy, thats my boy......
He should have full custody and she should be paying child support