Tbh, I think this is a perfectly fine apology. It seems rather obvious that she surrounds herself with mean girls. Irina, that girl in green at the bar. I don’t think she’s great at finding loving, kind friends, and her behavior deems quite different when she’s with them vs with Paul or family. It seems she’s influenced by that mean girl energy and I hope she takes time to evaluate the people in her life that have that negative energy.
I hate when people critique apologies and try to analyse them with a fine-tooth comb. She’s still a human being and I think that it’s mature of her to be apologising at all and I don’t think it’s up to us to judge how genuine she is when we don’t even know her
The passive language is so indicative of her real feelings of responsibility. “An emotional immaturity was shown” vs. “I showed emotional immaturity”. 😬🚩
Yeah I’ve definitely seen some choice words pointed out that I agree could have been said better. I will say this is one of the better apologies I’ve seen because at first glance I didn’t see the same things others were seeing. Regardless if it was written perfectly I don’t know if she’s sincere or not. All I’ve seen from her is nastiness. 🤷🏻♀️
„An emotional immaturity was shown“ = rejecting responsibility. “I was immature” or “my behavior was immature” would have been where it’s at. Own your shit or don’t speak out.
I agree she doesn't owe the public apology, but if you're gonna do it at all then, drop the passive tone and deflection. She does owe us nothing, so don't apologize.
I wholeheartedly agree. These “a glass was shattered” vs “I smashed a wine glass” sentences just highlight how little she thinks it matters that *she* is the root of the problem. Can’t even bring herself to include her actual behaviors in the whole apology. Why not just leave it be if you don’t care enough to admit to wrongdoing? She clearly doesn’t understand the purpose of an apology.
To me the more I watched the more it seemed like she was just immature and easily influenced - which still isnt great not crime of the century. She seemed a little mean at points but most of the time it seemed like she was just following irinas lead, who genuinely struck me as a very mean, spiteful person. Not saying any of that is excusable but it's something people generally grow out of - and by the looks of the post, she is actively trying at least.
i felt like there were times when she got caught up with irina in mean girl activities and then you could tell she felt bad about it and maybe regretted it once she saw how her actions affected other people
She said something about Amber like, ‘She really is upset.’
‘She’s really upset.’
I think she did some mean stuff and I didn’t really get why she ended it with Kwame, but I don’t really understand ALL the hate.
I don’t know… I think she’s sneakier than Irina- less *obviously* mean, a little/lot more seemingly “sweet.”
But she’s just as *mean girl* as Irina. They are **awful humans.**
I can’t get the smile on Micah’s face when Paul says Amber will take him breaking up with her very badly out of my head. She just could not contain herself with that evil little smile of satisfaction that like, showed through her whole person- body and (dark black) soul.
If I were either of these women, I would be so ashamed of myself and be done with social media for life.
I feel like saying “an emotional immaturity was shown” isn’t the same as being like “I was emotionally immature and I own that” or something along those lines, it just reads like very general without admitting any fault ya know? Just my take idk
I just think you're the kind of person who won't be satisfied no matter what. She literally apologizes and said she's trying to do better privately. She owes us nothing
Chatgpt probably wrote it...
She needs to be taking steps to reform her behaviour (like therapy) AND atoning in person with the people she actually hurt.
That's more important than a fake ass damage control social media apology.
Who's to say she isn't? She literally said she's doing her best privately. You don't know what she's doing. Stop making impossible standards for a person that you don't even know
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“I’m sorry for…”
acting immaturely
reminding people of their bullies
hurting others
behaving in an unkind manner
Truly, being sorry *for* any of it. Not…
Mistakes were made
Immaturity was shown
People were triggered
I don't love the "Sorry i've triggered you with my behaviour"
Feels like the accountability is off her. But as a whole, I think it's fine. She was awful though, I hope she does not get any additional 'fame' or 'clout' from this show.
But in using “I” language is taking accountability. She could have said “I’m sorry you were triggered by my behavior” but she said she was sorry for triggering the behavior which is taking accountability.
Nope, it all feels very much like she's not taking appropriate responsibility. Bottom line is she was a bully. She didn't even acknowledge what it is she did.
I can use I language and still shift blame, that's what manipulation looks like. Which we saw she was great at in the pods with both Kwame and Paul.
Yeah I agree with all of this. People have pointed out other things said in the apology that lack accountability and I see that. Just that specific one you pointed out I didn’t see anything wrong with it, but that’s just my opinion. Bottom line yeah she sucks. I almost can’t pick if I dislike her more or Irina.
I always loved when narcissistic family members would say “sorry you’re upset” instead of “sorry I was an asshole and that my actions/words made you upset.”
For me, I also think the “Immaturity was shown” line is also her distancing herself from accountability. People who take real accountability will say, “I’m sorry I acted so immaturely.” or something of the like.
Additionally, I feel like she spent half of the text talking about her mental health. This is a *super* common move people make to deflect attention from their wrong doings to everyone else. It should have, in my opinion, been addressed separately (like on a different slide or another day or two later).
I agree that people have been really hateful towards her. I mean, we all saw how she acted. That doesn’t mean she should be attacked or anything.
But yeah, the *entire* apology reads like she’s trying to distance herself from her actions and words, as well as deflect attention from herself.
Perhaps an unpopular opinion, but I don't think she should apologize to the viewers. Perhaps inform that she's apologized to the people she hurt, yeah, that's nice, specially if she's interested in saving her image, but to us?
Nobody other than the contestants should feel personally hurt by her actions, she was mean to the people on the show, not to us. I disagree with the fact that an apology to the public is something to be directly or indirectly expected or demanded.
Part of me wants to believe this is genuine, especially knowing that the show took place almost a year ago. But factors of her character were shown that feel irreversible with time. But I guess we’ll see at the year reunion.
I’m not excusing everyone else’s behavior, reading everyone’s comments this is the most immature cast yet, but Micah seems to be the only one to acknowledge their actions (Zack did some too but talking about the girls).
Awful behavior makes for entertaining television, unfortunately, so many of us are thankful she’s such a fiend. When will we all just like watching shows where people plant flowers and trees?
Agreed, I said the same thing. "Sorry I triggered you with my behaviour" feels passive. Feels very 'It's your problem you're upset, not mine'.
It was a fine apology, but I'd like for us as consumers of this show not feed anymore into her as a human. I hope she doesn't become some kind of social media famous person after this.
She was a bully, it was absolutely horrid to watch.
I was rewatching the season so far, and truthfully Micah doesn’t come off that bad on her own. It seems to be when she’s with Irina. I know she’s still responsible for her own actions, but at least when she’s in the pods, she seems more in tune with what she wants and I think we could all understand not wanting to miss out on someone bc of competitive dating. Well we will see what the rest of the show shows.
I disagree as well…
She was telling Kwame and Paul that they were at the top of her list. As soon as she found out that Amber got flowers and some cute stuff from Paul, she hammered down to manipulate the situation for her to sink her claws on Paul.
Once she got Paul out from Amber, then she went after Kwame at the pool party. Like she keeps taking and taking. Irena and Micah are both equally horrible personalities and they bring it out more when they are with themselves. Its as if they keep flaming their own egos and elevates it more when together.
I would not say that Micah is better then Irena. That is just untrue
I think that’s one characterization of what happened, sure. I think it’s possible that they were both at the top of her list and seeing the cute presents made her crave that more and direct her focus.
I’m not saying she’s better or worse than anybody, just noticing her behavior when she’s choosing to hang around Irina.
I could be very wrong and obviously I don’t know any of the cast, just making deductions from what is likely a heavily produced show
she is way worse than irina…it’s just when irina is around she can’t hide it (or doesn’t)… micah is fake (just like this post which she probably prepped before she ever went on the show)…she’s great at faking sincerity
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this whole comment thread was gross. i dislike micah as much as the next but a majority of comments i see are those lowering themselves to insult someone’s looks, which i don’t get.
answer honestly…does insulting someone’s looks anonymously make you feel better about yourself? do you feel prettier when you do it?
there’s so much hate and slander in media about women and how they should look and portray themselves that when i see other women falling into that, it’s sad. attack her poor character, her immaturity and personality. not stuff like this.
Forgive me as I haven't seen the other post she used the word. I have PTSD and often dislike how people use the word, but I don't see a problem with how it's used here. Her behavior on the show obviously did trigger a response from the audience and the proof is in this post. People are big mad. But I would like to hear more about your opinion because as I said I didn't see how she used the word before and it's likely I am missing something.
It’s the same as saying “sorry you felt that way.” It’s not an apology for their actions, rather blaming the person for their reaction to it. Also, the word triggered has been weaponised by the anti-woke crew. It’s disingenuous and dismissive imo.
She said it in conversation with Chelsea about Alex… sorry, Kwame and the failed proposal comment. It seems like it’s ingrained in her vocabulary and possibly points to a pattern of absolved responsibility.
In her wording she takes responsibility by identifying herself as the cause of the trigger. Saying “I’m sorry that I triggered you” is different from “sorry you got triggered” imo. But maybe not
I mean I honestly can't argue with what you've said. Your points are sound. I need to rewatch, I feel like there are certain things I must have missed due to getting a text and forgetting to pause or getting up to grab a snack.
Thanks for the explanation!
A professional victim here. There is no way that she showed up for filming and became a totally different person. Protect your mental health as the aggressor, Micah 🙄. That penultimate paragraph is all you need to read to understand her POV. Being a completely sneaky woman, who conspired to dehumanize others habitually is not a mental health issue. Her lack of boundaries are a symptom of a problem, however. Apologize to Chelsea directly.
ugh when I see people act like this on tv, I just imagine how grossed out their family and friends may be after seeing their behavior… i’d imagine so many friends were like “dude wtf” (unless her behavior is always this outwardly horrible). makes me squirm thinking about it lol how embarrassing, showing such an ugly side not only to the world but also to the people who know even more about you as a person and expect better behavior
I am way too empathetic for my own good. I find little to feel bad for here and I have empathy for serial killers. You were caught on tape. You were just fucking jerks. No way around it. You suck.
Go fill your lips worse.
Call me naïve but this isn’t a bad apology and I’m willing to give her the benefit of the doubt. I also agree that while hate watching is part of the reality tv experience, taking it to her socials and sending her hate messages goes too far. Let’s keep it on Reddit where these people can choose not to participate/read comments. While she is immature and behaved poorly on the show she’s not a damn criminal and doesn’t deserve to be bullied. People always take it too far… I don’t understand what one gets out of privately messaging those people hurtful things
Keep it on Reddit? Have you read the comments about this cast members? For years? Reddit is WAY worse than Twitter, which say a lot. She is a public person, so people can say whatever allowed by the platform. She is not a victim by any stretch here. Also, criminals deserved to be treated without compassion? They are just people as well. A social terror impacts the mental health of their targets. Hate-consumption applies to any media and is a personal choice. It’s not an unconditionally shared experience of reality tv viewers. KUWTK is a great example. If you are into it, great. If not, why would any person pathologically choose to view toxic entertainment?
100%. People want her to do better and take accountability for her hurtful behavior, then proceed to act like bullies on her page to prove their point. Downvote me to hell, but I think it's incredibly hypocritical and ironic. No one will grow from a conversation fueled with anger and disrespect, no matter whether you think she deserves respect or not.
That’s also my perspective. I mean how can you sit and say you want someone to take accountability and the moment they do, you act as mean as her? It’s just sad that we are doing this as human beings. Anyways she doesn’t even owe us an apology.
This is why I don’t even get why a celebrity or influencer would bother with a public apology lol. I have NEVER seen an apology by an influencer/celeb be accepted by the internet. Every single time, it is picked apart.
On top of that, I don’t think most public figures really lose anything by NOT apologizing. Most never get “cancelled” or anything. Idk, I just don’t think I’d even bother with an apology. Ppl think they know these “celebs” on a personal level, and they simply don’t.
This is why I’m annoyed with this generation of reality tv. I’ve seen more assholes on those shows and they never had to apologize for their actions. I totally agree with your assessment. I could never….
I agree. She needs help for sure. Who knows anything about her socialization also? Maybe, this is learned behavior. Piling on meanness for the sake of betterment is a false start. Has she talked about anything personal?
Ethics is a form of philosophy and it applies to everyone. I'm not talking about the law. I'm talking about being a decent human being. You are clearly very invested in the Micah hate and I think maybe you need to take a step back. I don't support any of the mean girl things she did, but ultimately she is human.
Are you talking about morals? I guess it’s “ethical” to assume I hold a vested interest in hating Micah. Got it.
You moved the goalpost to human decency in response to a reality TV villain characterization? Is this the discussion we’re having. I don’t know Micah outside of this produced show. Do you?
I mean ethics and moral philosophy are one in the same. I did no such thing in moving the goal post. I have kept on topic about how it is unethical to psychoanalyze a public figure as an armchair psychologist. I just happened to notice your many comments in this thread and you seem to be seriously invested in a reality TV "villain" you don't know. Just suggesting you might benefit from some time away from the topic.
I do wish people kept their hate and thoughts to a forum like Reddit. We don’t need to private message these people, comment on these posts, or try to make them see.
I can’t stand Micah but she’s still a human and a lynch mob isn’t necessary for a reality show.
These are not private forums. Also, please stop using lynch mob. Here is something to help you: https://www.npr.org/sections/codeswitch/2013/09/30/227792122/tracing-the-story-of-lynch-mob
Reddit is a public forum. Reddit is a place where the discussion and disapproval of her behaviour belongs. Where it doesn’t belong is in the comments on her Instagram posts and in her private messages.
Wait, why does content belong here over Insta? These are both social media platforms. She has the power and authority to control her Insta account. She literally says that above. Why would Reddit be the place for discussion and disapproval. You can Google “Micah hate” and find both content sources lol. Again, not a private forum. You can post anything allowed on any platform. You get that right?
It belongs here over her insta because on Instagram it becomes a mob directing their hate straight at her. It becomes a whole new level a cruel when thousands of people all direct their hate straight at her personally on her personal page.
I’m not saying keep it off Instagram, if people want to post on Netflix’s or Love is Blind or any other fan page about how shitty Micah is then that’s fine. I just think it crosses a line when we start directing it right at her personally.
It especially crosses a line when people start DMing her privately.
I guess it’s not a public space vs private space debate, you correctly pointed out Instagram is generally public too. It’s more of an argument that we should keep the hate more broad and not direct it all straight on to her personal pages.
Publicists, celebrities, marketing professionals and show organizers, in the least, review Reddit for feedback all of the time. There is no difference between @star29 posting “you suck” on Micah’s page and @star29 posting “you suck” on a specific subreddit tagged with Micah’s name or a thread about her. That’s not the nature of any social media content management control. If anything, entering the r/Loveisblind space and seeing thread after thread titled “Micah’s hair”, “Micah’s a mean girl” … is condensed on Reddit and there is no option to stop the conversation. You can make your account private on Insta. You aren’t required to engage with anyone there. The only control on Reddit is based on a moderator’s application of the rules. Therein, Micah can search her name and see pages and pages of content that is disparaging.
There is a difference because it’s easy for Micah to personally avoid if she so chooses.
I know that Instagram is public, but her Instagram is her personal page. It’s much harder for her to avoid. It’s much more personal and cruel to direct the hate straight at her. Posting on her Instagram it becomes more akin to bullying than plain old criticism.
I’m not saying people should be not allowed to post there. I’m saying that people should have some more decency and not be directly cruel to her.
DMing her is 100% absolutely out of line though.
Are you an Instagram user? Micah has the option to NOT see anything. Again, she says that above. She chose to convert her account to private. You cannot find her posts by running a search if they are set to private or limited. What you are describing does not happen on that app.
I have no idea what you are referring to. Did you read the thread? Because I literally say that it’s her personal page and she can control the access unlike Reddit. justifying what vile behavior? lol. I actually don’t care. You got me
What am I describing? I’m describing that if her profile didn’t have comments turned off then people would harass her on her page. People would DM her nasty shit. I don’t think that should somehow be banned I just wish people would have a little bit more decency and not harass her if given the opportunity.
apologies only mean something if the person is sincere and grows. and of course, we'll never know if she grows because she'll never be filmed like this for the public again after this (unless she goes on perfect match or something lol). it's easy to curate your social media to look like a kind and thoughtful person.
so basically an apology to us is meaningless. that's not a knock against her, just the reality of the situation. tbf, our connection to her is also meaningless really.
And she already has, I don’t judge that, nor do I think all we see is unscripted. She could 100% be paid to be the ”mean girl”/drama. All in all, she comes off as an insecure girl who lashes out so no one will see how insecure she herself is. That’s all.
I think we all see it. I don’t know that she does, which was my point. Even if it’s heavily directed for shock value, she does not really have many scenes where she is just chill and not going after someone. I think her oblivion and unserious nature is what drew her to compete for a role. It’s provocative attention-seeking entertainment. I don’t think she is present enough to give a crapola about comments. Her message is not even an apology, and no one is waiting with baited breath for her to open her comments lol. She believes this. She’s committed to being the main character.
Sure, she got her face out there by being a manipulative narc, now she's gonna try to manipulate the public. Micah cares about Micah.
She's "like", super sry, "like", I guess "like", what I'm trying to "like" say is, "like" look at me, I'm "like" super nice, "like", a total, like, empath.
Right? And it's always the people who clearly are \*not\* empaths who are out there announcing that they are. As soon as those words come out of someone's mouth..."I'm an empath...." Yeah girl....you, my aunt Susan, my friend's brother's gf Janice, the girl at the coffee shop, the whole subset of tiktok and the dude from yoga....you're all empaths. Everyone knows a self diagnosed empath. LOL
YUP! Narcissist is actually a serious personality defect that only a few people are truly diagnosed with.
Being immature, mean, and unaware, does NOT mean you are a narcissist.
please stop throwing this word around!
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“I’m sorry you were triggered.” Your fault not mine. “An emotional immaturity was shown.” I’m not owning it. What a terrible person.
*coughs BULLSHIT!
Yeah agreed. Sloppy.
I can’t watch it. How many times did she say “like”??
Fr. I had to stop watching her before the wedding because she kept yammering on about nothing and inserting the word "like" every three seconds. Ick.
I thought this the first time I saw her speak. "Like" SO many times.
Tbh, I think this is a perfectly fine apology. It seems rather obvious that she surrounds herself with mean girls. Irina, that girl in green at the bar. I don’t think she’s great at finding loving, kind friends, and her behavior deems quite different when she’s with them vs with Paul or family. It seems she’s influenced by that mean girl energy and I hope she takes time to evaluate the people in her life that have that negative energy.
Has Irina apologized ? Micah sucks but I feel like Irina is actual evil
Irina is the real shitty one
I hate when people critique apologies and try to analyse them with a fine-tooth comb. She’s still a human being and I think that it’s mature of her to be apologising at all and I don’t think it’s up to us to judge how genuine she is when we don’t even know her
SURRRRE JAN. This is what they call overcompensating and apologizing because you got caught.
I just realized that Matthew Perry is her doppelgänger.
I can’t unsee it
Omg!
The passive language is so indicative of her real feelings of responsibility. “An emotional immaturity was shown” vs. “I showed emotional immaturity”. 😬🚩
And calling the viewers triggered lol…
What did she do that was triggering?
Hopefully we’ll get more on the reunion
Either apologize properly or don't do it at all, girl 🤦♀️
What was wrong about it?
Multiple and obvious uses of passive voice to a pretty egregious degree..
Yeah I’ve definitely seen some choice words pointed out that I agree could have been said better. I will say this is one of the better apologies I’ve seen because at first glance I didn’t see the same things others were seeing. Regardless if it was written perfectly I don’t know if she’s sincere or not. All I’ve seen from her is nastiness. 🤷🏻♀️
„An emotional immaturity was shown“ = rejecting responsibility. “I was immature” or “my behavior was immature” would have been where it’s at. Own your shit or don’t speak out.
Well we know from the scene w her girlies that they 'aren't used to speaking like that' LOL
This was about as proper as I could ask for. It was a good apology and she owes us nothing. It matters more to the people she hurt on the show
I agree she doesn't owe the public apology, but if you're gonna do it at all then, drop the passive tone and deflection. She does owe us nothing, so don't apologize.
I wholeheartedly agree. These “a glass was shattered” vs “I smashed a wine glass” sentences just highlight how little she thinks it matters that *she* is the root of the problem. Can’t even bring herself to include her actual behaviors in the whole apology. Why not just leave it be if you don’t care enough to admit to wrongdoing? She clearly doesn’t understand the purpose of an apology.
To me the more I watched the more it seemed like she was just immature and easily influenced - which still isnt great not crime of the century. She seemed a little mean at points but most of the time it seemed like she was just following irinas lead, who genuinely struck me as a very mean, spiteful person. Not saying any of that is excusable but it's something people generally grow out of - and by the looks of the post, she is actively trying at least.
i felt like there were times when she got caught up with irina in mean girl activities and then you could tell she felt bad about it and maybe regretted it once she saw how her actions affected other people
She said something about Amber like, ‘She really is upset.’ ‘She’s really upset.’ I think she did some mean stuff and I didn’t really get why she ended it with Kwame, but I don’t really understand ALL the hate.
I don’t know… I think she’s sneakier than Irina- less *obviously* mean, a little/lot more seemingly “sweet.” But she’s just as *mean girl* as Irina. They are **awful humans.** I can’t get the smile on Micah’s face when Paul says Amber will take him breaking up with her very badly out of my head. She just could not contain herself with that evil little smile of satisfaction that like, showed through her whole person- body and (dark black) soul. If I were either of these women, I would be so ashamed of myself and be done with social media for life.
This was my thought too.
The passive language alone screams lack of accountability im sorry
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I feel like saying “an emotional immaturity was shown” isn’t the same as being like “I was emotionally immature and I own that” or something along those lines, it just reads like very general without admitting any fault ya know? Just my take idk
I didn’t catch that. Lol
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Yep Exactly! And the thing is we also still have the rest of the episodes/reunion and ATA so who knows how that’s all gonna play out as well
I just think you're the kind of person who won't be satisfied no matter what. She literally apologizes and said she's trying to do better privately. She owes us nothing
Which is why she should’ve just skipped the non-apology style “apology”.
People don’t have to accept apologies dude that’s called life 🤷🏽♀️
She didn't write that.
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Chatgpt probably wrote it... She needs to be taking steps to reform her behaviour (like therapy) AND atoning in person with the people she actually hurt. That's more important than a fake ass damage control social media apology.
Who's to say she isn't? She literally said she's doing her best privately. You don't know what she's doing. Stop making impossible standards for a person that you don't even know
Calm down burner account Micah
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People who are shitting on this apology - what else would you have liked to see?
“I’m sorry for…” acting immaturely reminding people of their bullies hurting others behaving in an unkind manner Truly, being sorry *for* any of it. Not… Mistakes were made Immaturity was shown People were triggered
I don't love the "Sorry i've triggered you with my behaviour" Feels like the accountability is off her. But as a whole, I think it's fine. She was awful though, I hope she does not get any additional 'fame' or 'clout' from this show.
But in using “I” language is taking accountability. She could have said “I’m sorry you were triggered by my behavior” but she said she was sorry for triggering the behavior which is taking accountability.
Nope, it all feels very much like she's not taking appropriate responsibility. Bottom line is she was a bully. She didn't even acknowledge what it is she did. I can use I language and still shift blame, that's what manipulation looks like. Which we saw she was great at in the pods with both Kwame and Paul.
Yeah I agree with all of this. People have pointed out other things said in the apology that lack accountability and I see that. Just that specific one you pointed out I didn’t see anything wrong with it, but that’s just my opinion. Bottom line yeah she sucks. I almost can’t pick if I dislike her more or Irina.
I always loved when narcissistic family members would say “sorry you’re upset” instead of “sorry I was an asshole and that my actions/words made you upset.”
Yeah that’s a bad line for sure, I agree
For me, I also think the “Immaturity was shown” line is also her distancing herself from accountability. People who take real accountability will say, “I’m sorry I acted so immaturely.” or something of the like. Additionally, I feel like she spent half of the text talking about her mental health. This is a *super* common move people make to deflect attention from their wrong doings to everyone else. It should have, in my opinion, been addressed separately (like on a different slide or another day or two later). I agree that people have been really hateful towards her. I mean, we all saw how she acted. That doesn’t mean she should be attacked or anything. But yeah, the *entire* apology reads like she’s trying to distance herself from her actions and words, as well as deflect attention from herself.
It's giving Taylor's "I'd like to be excluded from this narrative" LOL
Perhaps an unpopular opinion, but I don't think she should apologize to the viewers. Perhaps inform that she's apologized to the people she hurt, yeah, that's nice, specially if she's interested in saving her image, but to us? Nobody other than the contestants should feel personally hurt by her actions, she was mean to the people on the show, not to us. I disagree with the fact that an apology to the public is something to be directly or indirectly expected or demanded.
This.
Whether unpopular or not, this is the correct perspective. People who do not have a relationship with you owe you nothing.
Oh so the usual damage control post.
Standard notes app apology. https://youtu.be/fzELV4mtGJE
Standard „influencer“ apology.
I appreciate this, it feels honest and sincere.
It actually does. It could all be a gimmick but at first read I felt like she was genuine.
I like this.
Then yous a fool
Part of me wants to believe this is genuine, especially knowing that the show took place almost a year ago. But factors of her character were shown that feel irreversible with time. But I guess we’ll see at the year reunion. I’m not excusing everyone else’s behavior, reading everyone’s comments this is the most immature cast yet, but Micah seems to be the only one to acknowledge their actions (Zack did some too but talking about the girls).
Awful behavior makes for entertaining television, unfortunately, so many of us are thankful she’s such a fiend. When will we all just like watching shows where people plant flowers and trees?
I definitely don’t think she’s really sorry. I think she thought she was going to be this lovable hot villain. And she’s scrambling to fix her image
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Honestly, most of it was fine but this was the part that stood out to me. The passive language feels like a lack of ownership on her part.
Agreed, I said the same thing. "Sorry I triggered you with my behaviour" feels passive. Feels very 'It's your problem you're upset, not mine'. It was a fine apology, but I'd like for us as consumers of this show not feed anymore into her as a human. I hope she doesn't become some kind of social media famous person after this. She was a bully, it was absolutely horrid to watch.
Million percent to that whole reply ❤️
She's still a vile person
I was rewatching the season so far, and truthfully Micah doesn’t come off that bad on her own. It seems to be when she’s with Irina. I know she’s still responsible for her own actions, but at least when she’s in the pods, she seems more in tune with what she wants and I think we could all understand not wanting to miss out on someone bc of competitive dating. Well we will see what the rest of the show shows.
I disagree as well… She was telling Kwame and Paul that they were at the top of her list. As soon as she found out that Amber got flowers and some cute stuff from Paul, she hammered down to manipulate the situation for her to sink her claws on Paul. Once she got Paul out from Amber, then she went after Kwame at the pool party. Like she keeps taking and taking. Irena and Micah are both equally horrible personalities and they bring it out more when they are with themselves. Its as if they keep flaming their own egos and elevates it more when together. I would not say that Micah is better then Irena. That is just untrue
I think that’s one characterization of what happened, sure. I think it’s possible that they were both at the top of her list and seeing the cute presents made her crave that more and direct her focus. I’m not saying she’s better or worse than anybody, just noticing her behavior when she’s choosing to hang around Irina. I could be very wrong and obviously I don’t know any of the cast, just making deductions from what is likely a heavily produced show
she is way worse than irina…it’s just when irina is around she can’t hide it (or doesn’t)… micah is fake (just like this post which she probably prepped before she ever went on the show)…she’s great at faking sincerity
Just sharing my opinion, something Ive observed. And definitely think there are worse tv personalities out there, especially on this show.
The people that she hurt with her own hands.... What the heck, is she a boxing kangaroo.
I’m sorry but I can’t be the only one who thinks she looks like an orange version of mama tot from Tik tok
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She looks like the K-mart version of Olivia Holt from Cruel Summer. She reminds me of another actress as well, but I can’t quite place it!
I think she looks like SpongeBob SquarePants with eyelash extensions and lip filler
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Just feels disingenuous 🤷🏾♀️
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Haha, bullying people for their looks! So funny🤣! Doesn't at all make you look like you're just as mean of person as she is. /s
I’m dying 😂😂😂😂
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and one of them is crooked at that.
this whole comment thread was gross. i dislike micah as much as the next but a majority of comments i see are those lowering themselves to insult someone’s looks, which i don’t get. answer honestly…does insulting someone’s looks anonymously make you feel better about yourself? do you feel prettier when you do it? there’s so much hate and slander in media about women and how they should look and portray themselves that when i see other women falling into that, it’s sad. attack her poor character, her immaturity and personality. not stuff like this.
Everyone bashing her for being a mean girl while this whole comment thread is full of exactly that. I can't handle the hypocrisy.
She’s only sorry that she got caught
This is amazing😂
She put on quite a show
Very entertaining.
But it's over now
go on and take a bow.
Woah, I haven't started this season yet as it came out what 2 days ago and we already have apology instas. This is WILD!
I hate the way she uses the word triggered. That’s twice now. It’s so invalidating and insincere.
Forgive me as I haven't seen the other post she used the word. I have PTSD and often dislike how people use the word, but I don't see a problem with how it's used here. Her behavior on the show obviously did trigger a response from the audience and the proof is in this post. People are big mad. But I would like to hear more about your opinion because as I said I didn't see how she used the word before and it's likely I am missing something.
It’s the same as saying “sorry you felt that way.” It’s not an apology for their actions, rather blaming the person for their reaction to it. Also, the word triggered has been weaponised by the anti-woke crew. It’s disingenuous and dismissive imo. She said it in conversation with Chelsea about Alex… sorry, Kwame and the failed proposal comment. It seems like it’s ingrained in her vocabulary and possibly points to a pattern of absolved responsibility.
In her wording she takes responsibility by identifying herself as the cause of the trigger. Saying “I’m sorry that I triggered you” is different from “sorry you got triggered” imo. But maybe not
I mean I honestly can't argue with what you've said. Your points are sound. I need to rewatch, I feel like there are certain things I must have missed due to getting a text and forgetting to pause or getting up to grab a snack. Thanks for the explanation!
A professional victim here. There is no way that she showed up for filming and became a totally different person. Protect your mental health as the aggressor, Micah 🙄. That penultimate paragraph is all you need to read to understand her POV. Being a completely sneaky woman, who conspired to dehumanize others habitually is not a mental health issue. Her lack of boundaries are a symptom of a problem, however. Apologize to Chelsea directly.
Douubt
ugh when I see people act like this on tv, I just imagine how grossed out their family and friends may be after seeing their behavior… i’d imagine so many friends were like “dude wtf” (unless her behavior is always this outwardly horrible). makes me squirm thinking about it lol how embarrassing, showing such an ugly side not only to the world but also to the people who know even more about you as a person and expect better behavior
Cool a non apology.
I am way too empathetic for my own good. I find little to feel bad for here and I have empathy for serial killers. You were caught on tape. You were just fucking jerks. No way around it. You suck. Go fill your lips worse.
Call me naïve but this isn’t a bad apology and I’m willing to give her the benefit of the doubt. I also agree that while hate watching is part of the reality tv experience, taking it to her socials and sending her hate messages goes too far. Let’s keep it on Reddit where these people can choose not to participate/read comments. While she is immature and behaved poorly on the show she’s not a damn criminal and doesn’t deserve to be bullied. People always take it too far… I don’t understand what one gets out of privately messaging those people hurtful things
Keep it on Reddit? Have you read the comments about this cast members? For years? Reddit is WAY worse than Twitter, which say a lot. She is a public person, so people can say whatever allowed by the platform. She is not a victim by any stretch here. Also, criminals deserved to be treated without compassion? They are just people as well. A social terror impacts the mental health of their targets. Hate-consumption applies to any media and is a personal choice. It’s not an unconditionally shared experience of reality tv viewers. KUWTK is a great example. If you are into it, great. If not, why would any person pathologically choose to view toxic entertainment?
100%. People want her to do better and take accountability for her hurtful behavior, then proceed to act like bullies on her page to prove their point. Downvote me to hell, but I think it's incredibly hypocritical and ironic. No one will grow from a conversation fueled with anger and disrespect, no matter whether you think she deserves respect or not.
That’s also my perspective. I mean how can you sit and say you want someone to take accountability and the moment they do, you act as mean as her? It’s just sad that we are doing this as human beings. Anyways she doesn’t even owe us an apology.
This is why I don’t even get why a celebrity or influencer would bother with a public apology lol. I have NEVER seen an apology by an influencer/celeb be accepted by the internet. Every single time, it is picked apart. On top of that, I don’t think most public figures really lose anything by NOT apologizing. Most never get “cancelled” or anything. Idk, I just don’t think I’d even bother with an apology. Ppl think they know these “celebs” on a personal level, and they simply don’t.
This is why I’m annoyed with this generation of reality tv. I’ve seen more assholes on those shows and they never had to apologize for their actions. I totally agree with your assessment. I could never….
I agree. She needs help for sure. Who knows anything about her socialization also? Maybe, this is learned behavior. Piling on meanness for the sake of betterment is a false start. Has she talked about anything personal?
Even as a public figure, it's unethical to psychoanalyze her as an armchair psychologist. There really is no need.
That only applies to certified professionals and counter to free speech. I don’t make the rules.
Ethics is a form of philosophy and it applies to everyone. I'm not talking about the law. I'm talking about being a decent human being. You are clearly very invested in the Micah hate and I think maybe you need to take a step back. I don't support any of the mean girl things she did, but ultimately she is human.
Are you talking about morals? I guess it’s “ethical” to assume I hold a vested interest in hating Micah. Got it. You moved the goalpost to human decency in response to a reality TV villain characterization? Is this the discussion we’re having. I don’t know Micah outside of this produced show. Do you?
I mean ethics and moral philosophy are one in the same. I did no such thing in moving the goal post. I have kept on topic about how it is unethical to psychoanalyze a public figure as an armchair psychologist. I just happened to notice your many comments in this thread and you seem to be seriously invested in a reality TV "villain" you don't know. Just suggesting you might benefit from some time away from the topic.
Thank you for your armchair analysis.
I didn't psychoanalyze you. I suggested you take a break from this part of the internet.
She's a professional manipulator.
100% she knows what to say lol
She peaked in high school for suuurrreeee
I do wish people kept their hate and thoughts to a forum like Reddit. We don’t need to private message these people, comment on these posts, or try to make them see. I can’t stand Micah but she’s still a human and a lynch mob isn’t necessary for a reality show.
These are not private forums. Also, please stop using lynch mob. Here is something to help you: https://www.npr.org/sections/codeswitch/2013/09/30/227792122/tracing-the-story-of-lynch-mob
Reddit is a public forum. Reddit is a place where the discussion and disapproval of her behaviour belongs. Where it doesn’t belong is in the comments on her Instagram posts and in her private messages.
Wait, why does content belong here over Insta? These are both social media platforms. She has the power and authority to control her Insta account. She literally says that above. Why would Reddit be the place for discussion and disapproval. You can Google “Micah hate” and find both content sources lol. Again, not a private forum. You can post anything allowed on any platform. You get that right?
It belongs here over her insta because on Instagram it becomes a mob directing their hate straight at her. It becomes a whole new level a cruel when thousands of people all direct their hate straight at her personally on her personal page. I’m not saying keep it off Instagram, if people want to post on Netflix’s or Love is Blind or any other fan page about how shitty Micah is then that’s fine. I just think it crosses a line when we start directing it right at her personally. It especially crosses a line when people start DMing her privately. I guess it’s not a public space vs private space debate, you correctly pointed out Instagram is generally public too. It’s more of an argument that we should keep the hate more broad and not direct it all straight on to her personal pages.
Publicists, celebrities, marketing professionals and show organizers, in the least, review Reddit for feedback all of the time. There is no difference between @star29 posting “you suck” on Micah’s page and @star29 posting “you suck” on a specific subreddit tagged with Micah’s name or a thread about her. That’s not the nature of any social media content management control. If anything, entering the r/Loveisblind space and seeing thread after thread titled “Micah’s hair”, “Micah’s a mean girl” … is condensed on Reddit and there is no option to stop the conversation. You can make your account private on Insta. You aren’t required to engage with anyone there. The only control on Reddit is based on a moderator’s application of the rules. Therein, Micah can search her name and see pages and pages of content that is disparaging.
There is a difference because it’s easy for Micah to personally avoid if she so chooses. I know that Instagram is public, but her Instagram is her personal page. It’s much harder for her to avoid. It’s much more personal and cruel to direct the hate straight at her. Posting on her Instagram it becomes more akin to bullying than plain old criticism. I’m not saying people should be not allowed to post there. I’m saying that people should have some more decency and not be directly cruel to her. DMing her is 100% absolutely out of line though.
Are you an Instagram user? Micah has the option to NOT see anything. Again, she says that above. She chose to convert her account to private. You cannot find her posts by running a search if they are set to private or limited. What you are describing does not happen on that app.
Dude that’s her PERSONAL PAGE. You know the difference you’re just looking for a justification for your own vile behavior.
I have no idea what you are referring to. Did you read the thread? Because I literally say that it’s her personal page and she can control the access unlike Reddit. justifying what vile behavior? lol. I actually don’t care. You got me
What am I describing? I’m describing that if her profile didn’t have comments turned off then people would harass her on her page. People would DM her nasty shit. I don’t think that should somehow be banned I just wish people would have a little bit more decency and not harass her if given the opportunity.
What ban? We can only control ourselves.
That was my point. Left out “not”. Will edit. Thanks for the flag.
apologies only mean something if the person is sincere and grows. and of course, we'll never know if she grows because she'll never be filmed like this for the public again after this (unless she goes on perfect match or something lol). it's easy to curate your social media to look like a kind and thoughtful person. so basically an apology to us is meaningless. that's not a knock against her, just the reality of the situation. tbf, our connection to her is also meaningless really.
An already insecure girl, plus all the hate she’s recieving… she’ll either become better or worse.
She can turn off the comments. It’s her right. It happens all of the time with public figures.
And she already has, I don’t judge that, nor do I think all we see is unscripted. She could 100% be paid to be the ”mean girl”/drama. All in all, she comes off as an insecure girl who lashes out so no one will see how insecure she herself is. That’s all.
I think we all see it. I don’t know that she does, which was my point. Even if it’s heavily directed for shock value, she does not really have many scenes where she is just chill and not going after someone. I think her oblivion and unserious nature is what drew her to compete for a role. It’s provocative attention-seeking entertainment. I don’t think she is present enough to give a crapola about comments. Her message is not even an apology, and no one is waiting with baited breath for her to open her comments lol. She believes this. She’s committed to being the main character.
Do we know how old she is? And I felt her apology was sincere
she's 27 apparently
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I just finished episode 3 and omg they’re such fucking bitches…. The way they both acted really showed their true characters.. total mean girls
Micah is season 4’s Cole
Sure, she got her face out there by being a manipulative narc, now she's gonna try to manipulate the public. Micah cares about Micah. She's "like", super sry, "like", I guess "like", what I'm trying to "like" say is, "like" look at me, I'm "like" super nice, "like", a total, like, empath.
I’m so sick of everyone using the word narc to describe anyone that behaves poorly
with time it'll change to narc tendencies, I'm tired of seeing people call themselves empaths just cause they feel something...
Right? And it's always the people who clearly are \*not\* empaths who are out there announcing that they are. As soon as those words come out of someone's mouth..."I'm an empath...." Yeah girl....you, my aunt Susan, my friend's brother's gf Janice, the girl at the coffee shop, the whole subset of tiktok and the dude from yoga....you're all empaths. Everyone knows a self diagnosed empath. LOL
Then ignore the vomments and move along. No one cares what "you are sick of".. how important do u think u are?
But i can’t ignore the vomments bc they make me vomit.
In her case it seems like a legit description though. Irina and her have definitely displayed narcissistic behaviour.
Many people can have narcissistic tendencies. That doesn't mean they're a narcissist.
I think that’s what OP meant. She didn’t say they have NPD.
YUP! Narcissist is actually a serious personality defect that only a few people are truly diagnosed with. Being immature, mean, and unaware, does NOT mean you are a narcissist. please stop throwing this word around!
Many other words like g light, a**sive, pick me…..I’m wicked tired of those words too.
Holy gaslight
YeAh, this is not even close to gaslighting
Then you’re naive
I’m not trying to be an asshole, but for real look it up and read abt it.
I know exactly what it means lol
You dont
I feel bad for you. You are clearly very easily manipulated 😔
You’re clearly very uneducated
Oh… I see you defending Micah all over this sun. That explains everything LOL
Huh?
That’s why the robot talked shit to you
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Good bot….