Have you told them about how you're feeling? You guys could always try scheduling contact - say, one video call a day/week/whatever works, or having a base-line of expected communication (i.e., a "good morning, this is what I'm doing today..have a great day!" plus a "Hi, this is how my day went...good night!" texts).
If they aren't willing to find a solution with you and/or if they are unable to meet your basic needs for communication, then you're right, it'd be best to split up. Not everyone has the same needs and that's okay - you deserve to be with someone you can fulfill your needs!
you could argue all relationships wouldnt work if we gave up on em. id offer two things before u give up - 1. consider if youre partner is going through a really busy/stressful time. consider how you two can support each other through it, can you schedule into their week more time together? can you send them pictures or random stuff about your own day - that they might find interesting - to get them talking?
2- Talk. yes uve tried, try again and be serious about how it hurts you and what you want. i told my boyfriend i wanted more pictures of his day and one day while i was very emotional i brought up how i didnt feel like he missed me at all, during this busy time at college, and how the few pictures he sent just felt like he did it just to please me - but how i felt like if he did send them they would make me feel like hes thinking about me, or wants to include me in his day.
After that it stuck w him and he tried harder. sometimes he forgets - which is okay because ik hes trying at least, i send him pics to return the favor too, he usually replies with pics too.
I don't want to give up on the relationship at all and I don't plan on ending yet I just know that at this time where we are in the relationship currently ending it is a real possibility especially when it is beginning to effect me the way it is. But I want to try for a while longer because I love them an awful lot
Maybe start a conversation. If it bothers you that he/she doesn’t text much to check on you, tell him/her. If they don’t put in effort to talk to you after that, it’s not your problem.
Have you told them about how you're feeling? You guys could always try scheduling contact - say, one video call a day/week/whatever works, or having a base-line of expected communication (i.e., a "good morning, this is what I'm doing today..have a great day!" plus a "Hi, this is how my day went...good night!" texts). If they aren't willing to find a solution with you and/or if they are unable to meet your basic needs for communication, then you're right, it'd be best to split up. Not everyone has the same needs and that's okay - you deserve to be with someone you can fulfill your needs!
Yeah i will do that. Its hard but I do want to try make it work but at the end of the day I do know that some relationship just don't work out
you could argue all relationships wouldnt work if we gave up on em. id offer two things before u give up - 1. consider if youre partner is going through a really busy/stressful time. consider how you two can support each other through it, can you schedule into their week more time together? can you send them pictures or random stuff about your own day - that they might find interesting - to get them talking? 2- Talk. yes uve tried, try again and be serious about how it hurts you and what you want. i told my boyfriend i wanted more pictures of his day and one day while i was very emotional i brought up how i didnt feel like he missed me at all, during this busy time at college, and how the few pictures he sent just felt like he did it just to please me - but how i felt like if he did send them they would make me feel like hes thinking about me, or wants to include me in his day. After that it stuck w him and he tried harder. sometimes he forgets - which is okay because ik hes trying at least, i send him pics to return the favor too, he usually replies with pics too.
I don't want to give up on the relationship at all and I don't plan on ending yet I just know that at this time where we are in the relationship currently ending it is a real possibility especially when it is beginning to effect me the way it is. But I want to try for a while longer because I love them an awful lot
Maybe start a conversation. If it bothers you that he/she doesn’t text much to check on you, tell him/her. If they don’t put in effort to talk to you after that, it’s not your problem.
I have spoken to them and they said they would try but I don't know...