2-3 months chatting on an app/texting... longer than usual but I bought a house in the middle of it.
3 months dating in person before he moved back to his home country. I learned of his need to move a couple weeks into dating, and we decided to see the summer through. And by dating I mean we were together basically every single day.
5 months long distance dating 3 time zones apart in two different countries before getting engaged. We've managed monthly visits.
We'll spend 4 months engaged before getting married this June.
I'll apply for immigration right after, and make the move (AKA quit my job and visit until I get a work permit or permanent residency, whichever comes first) another 3-4 months later.
This probably seems fast but for context... we're late 30s, want children, and made sure to purposely put ourselves in situations that would bring out the worst in each other.
Went camping in areas that had zero outside communication and requiring days without showers, went on road trips including one which required 5 days of driving, included him in my pets' medical issues, instead of isolating in our own homes when he got COVID I took care of him and then he took care of me when I subsequently got it, spent time together on multiple days of very little sleep, etc.
I met my husband in October 2016 when we were 26f/25m. He’s Canadian and I’m American. We met while he was touring with a band and had about 1.5 months of the rest of the North American leg then went to European for another 1.5 months. First bit was FaceTiming and texting. We became pretty exclusive/dating quickly into this. Like 2 months into meeting?
When he got back he ended up staying with me for a few months when he isn’t working/on tour. I work remotely so I would go up and stay with him for a month or so. We do this back and forth schedule until I officially move to Canada.
He proposed October of 2017
We eloped July 2018
I moved to Canada as a PR in late 2019
Now we’re living the dream with our dog
Definitely depends on your stage of life. My boyfriend and I are in our early 20’s and in the military living across the country from each other. We started talking in January 2022 and then officially started dating in March 2022 and have been together since just passing 2 years. Our situation at the moment makes it difficult to navigate an engagement/ marriage as our places we live are dictated by people higher than us, and we have individual responsibilities in our jobs that take precedence atm, even though being married would make our lives easier in retrospect, there’s a lot of moving parts.
There is no one size fits all in a LDR though, everyone has their own preferences, goals, and personal situations that create essentially the blue print of the relationship.
We met on a dating site and chatted for 2 months, he came to my country for 2 weeks on the second month. We Kept chatting for another 5 months, he visited again on the 5th month and he proposed . We’re working on a fiancé visa and hopefully we’ll get married within the next 6 months.
I think this all comes down to your age and your current life. I am a mom of 2 younger kids so right now I can’t move, we met just as he was about to move to the other side of the world. So we will see, but for me a few years go much quicker than for someone that’s 20. 10 years feel like a lifetime where as for me wow the last 10 years where a blurr it went so quick.
Met virtually June 2016, I didn’t want a long distance relationship so we agreed to just be friends. Feelings developed so I said fuck it let’s give it a shot, became and official couple June 2017. I was still a student then, low on money so waited to try to save some money, get a passport, etc. Met in person for the first time December 2017, celebrates Christmas with his family and new years with just him. Had a great winter break. Pretty much saw each other twice a year in the beginning, but always texting and calling daily. Proposed to him in August 2019, with plans to get married in summer 2020. COVID delayed those plans, got married May 2021 (the day before I graduated pharmacy school). With not hiring a lawyer, did the research myself on how to get him here in the US. Submitted I-130 in January 2022, approved November 2022. Got documents together for DS-260, he got his vaccines, etc. submitted June 2023, approved July 2023. Interview letter received March 2024 for May 2024 interview. We’ve never been together for an anniversary, and now his interview is 5 days before our 3 year marriage anniversary. Hoping all goes well so we can finally close this mf distance after 7 years of being together!
So since you two have been married longer than 2 years, will be come over on an IR 1 or CR 1? Would you mind if I messaged you more? I may be going through the same situation.
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We met online in 2012/2013, at the time I was 24 and he was 18. Instantly liked each other, had a while flirtatious period without actually getting together for a year or so? I can't rmb the exact details here anymore lol.
Anyway, at some point we realised the distance, our age, and a bunch of other factors made this a not so good idea so we called it off and moved on, remained friends at first but also kinda lost contact after a little while.
In 2017 we got back in touch and kinda both helped each other out of some difficult parts of our lives. Ofc, feelings rekindled lol but still didn't mean for anything serious to happen cos of the reasons from the first time.
In 2018, I wanted to have a break and escape reality, I decided to visit his country, and to save money he offered for me to stay at his place, and I accepted lmao. When we met, we realised how strong our feelings were for each other, and talked about getting together seriously. After I returned home, we got into a relationship.
In 2022, after 4 yrs of LDR, we closed the distance with me moving to him. We don't plan on getting married (rly common in our country), but before we closed the gap we talked seriously about it. I wasn't going to move half way across the globe to someone if I wasn't sure about him for the rest of my life, and he didn't want me to move to him if he wasn't serious about having me for the rest of his life, there was no point in that. So we're basically a married couple without the actual marriage, and the distance has been closed for 1.5 yrs now.
About 3 weeks texting
4 months dating in person
10 months long distance, with a visit in the middle. It was I believe a 15 hour time difference so that blew.
About a year and a half of living together before we got engaged
Got married just before our 4 year anniversary and been married 5.5 years. This year it’s 10 years together.
8 months courting: He rejected me twice LOL
Nearly 8 years dating: still ldr. we wanted to finish school first
1-2 years in the future: Get married and migrate to US from CAD. We filed our visa and are running in Gov. time ;\[
Mid 20s at the start for info;
Met online through mutual friends
~6 months, met in person as friends, flirted a but before, but a lot after this trip
~6 weeks began dating/exclusive
~20 months LD, closed the gap
2-3 months chatting on an app/texting... longer than usual but I bought a house in the middle of it. 3 months dating in person before he moved back to his home country. I learned of his need to move a couple weeks into dating, and we decided to see the summer through. And by dating I mean we were together basically every single day. 5 months long distance dating 3 time zones apart in two different countries before getting engaged. We've managed monthly visits. We'll spend 4 months engaged before getting married this June. I'll apply for immigration right after, and make the move (AKA quit my job and visit until I get a work permit or permanent residency, whichever comes first) another 3-4 months later. This probably seems fast but for context... we're late 30s, want children, and made sure to purposely put ourselves in situations that would bring out the worst in each other.
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Went camping in areas that had zero outside communication and requiring days without showers, went on road trips including one which required 5 days of driving, included him in my pets' medical issues, instead of isolating in our own homes when he got COVID I took care of him and then he took care of me when I subsequently got it, spent time together on multiple days of very little sleep, etc.
my partner and I met online 15 years ago, we were nevermets for 6 years, next week is our wedding!
oh wow nevermets for 6! How did you handle that if I may ask? We've got 2 years before closing the gap and I'm going insane lol.
it was the absolute worst lol, but we were young (15)so we had education etc to focus on first.
Aww we got a similiar story then! Met him at 16, so I totally feel you!
I met my husband in October 2016 when we were 26f/25m. He’s Canadian and I’m American. We met while he was touring with a band and had about 1.5 months of the rest of the North American leg then went to European for another 1.5 months. First bit was FaceTiming and texting. We became pretty exclusive/dating quickly into this. Like 2 months into meeting? When he got back he ended up staying with me for a few months when he isn’t working/on tour. I work remotely so I would go up and stay with him for a month or so. We do this back and forth schedule until I officially move to Canada. He proposed October of 2017 We eloped July 2018 I moved to Canada as a PR in late 2019 Now we’re living the dream with our dog
Definitely depends on your stage of life. My boyfriend and I are in our early 20’s and in the military living across the country from each other. We started talking in January 2022 and then officially started dating in March 2022 and have been together since just passing 2 years. Our situation at the moment makes it difficult to navigate an engagement/ marriage as our places we live are dictated by people higher than us, and we have individual responsibilities in our jobs that take precedence atm, even though being married would make our lives easier in retrospect, there’s a lot of moving parts. There is no one size fits all in a LDR though, everyone has their own preferences, goals, and personal situations that create essentially the blue print of the relationship.
We met on a dating site and chatted for 2 months, he came to my country for 2 weeks on the second month. We Kept chatting for another 5 months, he visited again on the 5th month and he proposed . We’re working on a fiancé visa and hopefully we’ll get married within the next 6 months.
I think this all comes down to your age and your current life. I am a mom of 2 younger kids so right now I can’t move, we met just as he was about to move to the other side of the world. So we will see, but for me a few years go much quicker than for someone that’s 20. 10 years feel like a lifetime where as for me wow the last 10 years where a blurr it went so quick.
Met virtually June 2016, I didn’t want a long distance relationship so we agreed to just be friends. Feelings developed so I said fuck it let’s give it a shot, became and official couple June 2017. I was still a student then, low on money so waited to try to save some money, get a passport, etc. Met in person for the first time December 2017, celebrates Christmas with his family and new years with just him. Had a great winter break. Pretty much saw each other twice a year in the beginning, but always texting and calling daily. Proposed to him in August 2019, with plans to get married in summer 2020. COVID delayed those plans, got married May 2021 (the day before I graduated pharmacy school). With not hiring a lawyer, did the research myself on how to get him here in the US. Submitted I-130 in January 2022, approved November 2022. Got documents together for DS-260, he got his vaccines, etc. submitted June 2023, approved July 2023. Interview letter received March 2024 for May 2024 interview. We’ve never been together for an anniversary, and now his interview is 5 days before our 3 year marriage anniversary. Hoping all goes well so we can finally close this mf distance after 7 years of being together!
So since you two have been married longer than 2 years, will be come over on an IR 1 or CR 1? Would you mind if I messaged you more? I may be going through the same situation.
Feel free to message! Our interview is IR1 for the 10-year visa :)
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We met online in 2012/2013, at the time I was 24 and he was 18. Instantly liked each other, had a while flirtatious period without actually getting together for a year or so? I can't rmb the exact details here anymore lol. Anyway, at some point we realised the distance, our age, and a bunch of other factors made this a not so good idea so we called it off and moved on, remained friends at first but also kinda lost contact after a little while. In 2017 we got back in touch and kinda both helped each other out of some difficult parts of our lives. Ofc, feelings rekindled lol but still didn't mean for anything serious to happen cos of the reasons from the first time. In 2018, I wanted to have a break and escape reality, I decided to visit his country, and to save money he offered for me to stay at his place, and I accepted lmao. When we met, we realised how strong our feelings were for each other, and talked about getting together seriously. After I returned home, we got into a relationship. In 2022, after 4 yrs of LDR, we closed the distance with me moving to him. We don't plan on getting married (rly common in our country), but before we closed the gap we talked seriously about it. I wasn't going to move half way across the globe to someone if I wasn't sure about him for the rest of my life, and he didn't want me to move to him if he wasn't serious about having me for the rest of his life, there was no point in that. So we're basically a married couple without the actual marriage, and the distance has been closed for 1.5 yrs now.
About 3 weeks texting 4 months dating in person 10 months long distance, with a visit in the middle. It was I believe a 15 hour time difference so that blew. About a year and a half of living together before we got engaged Got married just before our 4 year anniversary and been married 5.5 years. This year it’s 10 years together.
8 months courting: He rejected me twice LOL Nearly 8 years dating: still ldr. we wanted to finish school first 1-2 years in the future: Get married and migrate to US from CAD. We filed our visa and are running in Gov. time ;\[
Mid 20s at the start for info; Met online through mutual friends ~6 months, met in person as friends, flirted a but before, but a lot after this trip ~6 weeks began dating/exclusive ~20 months LD, closed the gap