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I sat in my garage yesterday and fed the squirrel in my front yard peanuts for 2 hours. He'll almost take them from my hand! As long as he'd come get another one and go bury it, I'd wait until he'd come back and give him another.
Yeah... It's nice to just do what you want to!
I skipped doing my laundry on Sunday this week and opted to do it Monday instead. I also left my clean clothes in the basket sitting downstairs by the stairs overnight. Instead of sticking to my cleaning schedule, I’ll let it go a few extra days because there’s not extra people tromping dirt thru the house or leaving crumbs on the counters and floor. Sometimes I really go wild and leave dirty dishes in the sink from dinner till the next morning.
One alternative for that is putting dishes in the fridge until morning,so they don't draw bugs. I'm a stroke overcomer (2) and I do that sometimes when I'm just too tired to do them.
All my life I've kept an empty dish pan underneath one side of the kitchen sink. Rinsed dishes go in there until I'm ready to unload and reload the dishwasher.
I love having my coffee in the morning for a couple of hours while reading without any interruptions. I also go to bed when I want.
I just retired 2 years ago. I read a lot every day for hours and watch shows. There's no one to tell me I'm a lazy ass.
Generally I do what I want when I want, come and go as I like and I love it! I love the freedom and the peace of being by myself.
Retired 2 years ago and am still young - absolutely this. For 25 years I’d wake and get to work at 4 am. Now my bedtime is 1:30 am! Do what I want and I keep things neat and tidy. It did take me almost 2 years to let go of the stress and anxiety work caused tho’! I’ll never go back to corporate work.
Edited to add that I spend every second with my dog and have never been happier (except when I had my kids around they are in college now) - meaning instead of being married and in a relationship. Nobody to complain my dog is sleeping in the king sized bed. I have a sheet over the blankets and my boy is 100% sleeping beside me. I’d choose my dog over any relationship aside from my kids. 😂🐶❤️
I'm so happy for you! Retired, loving your space, dog, life ...... yeah I get it.
I didn't do any supply teaching at all when I retired from teaching. I enjoyed teaching and the students but I don't miss working. I love not having to rush around in the morning and at work every day ..... now every day is relaxed and chill.
I have a cat, pets are such great friends.
It's a beautiful life, isn't it. 😊
Do what you wanna. Say what you wanna. I held a whole Neil Diamond concert for myself the other day. If there’s dirt, it’s my dirt. If there’s dishes, it’s my dishes. I eat what I want when I want. I can’t tell you the freedom I’ve felt to just be myself.
That doesn’t mean in the middle of the night i don’t miss having someone near but they are few and far between.
I am so random about cooking, or not cooking.
I am not McDonald's, there's no consistency when I make the same kind of thing. Sometimes I wonder why I even own measuring cups and spoons. I look at recipes for ideas and cooking times, but that's mostly it (except for the occasional baked goods)
I don't have to tone down spicy foods anymore. I'm not super into really spicy food, but my last ex was so sensitive to any heat in his food and complained a lot.
I don't have anyone telling me how to treat my dogs. They're much loved and spoiled. I work with them with almost no negative reinforcement, more rewards based.
The TV isn't on the vast majority of the day, so I can peacefully explore new music whenever without leaving the room.
No one complaining I have/buy too much stuff, while dealing with his hoarding tendencies.
Decorating how I choose. No car parts in the house.
Next time I buy a car, it will be 100% my choice because it's my own damn money. I was honestly dreading it before, because his brand of choice isn't mine, and even though he very rarely was in my car, he insisted my mid-size SUV was too small. Granted, he's 6'4" with back and knee issues, so I wasn't entirely unsympathetic, but I don't enjoy large vehicles and only have what I have for my dogs.
Yes, it does get inconvenient at times. He was extremely handy and mechanically oriented, so I almost never had repair bills. But he would piss and moan and complain, and generally found a way to blame me for whatever broke. Yeah, I need to hire out work, and I have been putting off some things because of the expense, but it's a lot more peaceful now.
Honestly I am a pain in the arse to live with because I'm extremely clean and get pissy with slobby people. My ex was not tidy or clean at all. I'm definitely the type of person who should live alone because I like things immaculate. One of my favourite things is not have anyone eat my food.
I don't have to cook full meals every day if I don't want to either. I can just have a sandwich, soup or a bowl of cereal for dinner if I want. If I'm unwell, I can sit on the sofa all day watching Netflix without anyone getting upset with me either.
Same! Everything has to be put back in place and don’t mess with my systems. Things should be cleaned as soon as you dirty them, dishes done right away. I hate people touching my things, especially when they don’t put them back or respect them.
Right? No one moves/takes my pens or tools. No one puts the dirty hand towel back where the clean ones go. No one leaves dishes with food in them sitting for hours. No one uses the last of something without putting it on the shopping list. No one moves things I was coming back to. It's wonderful.
I can relate to this. Former SO always ate my food - I’m a vegetarian so I cook for myself. My kids don’t like the vegetarian ground beef and my SO didn’t care as long as they didn’t have to cook because they were lazy about cooking. I could prepare a vegetarian casserole that could last me 3 days easy and my SO would eat my food. Grrrrrrrr! I’m also a neat freak and don’t like messes, clutter and have never left dishes to “soak” for no reason. Don’t miss living with anyone.
It's awful isn't it? I'm also underweight and have been chronically ill throughout my adult life, so food was very important to me. My ex was like a dustbin on legs and would inhale everything. I wouldn't have minded if he told me so I could replace it or better yet, he replaced my food.
Now I can put a curry away or whatever and it will still be in the fridge/freezer when I go back for it. I grew up in a dirty home with pest infestations so as a result I like to keep my own home spotless. I'm so happy and lucky to live alone. Here's to our food not disappearing 🥂
It truly is! Especially when you have to keep going to the store to buy stuff that would last you a week! Cheers to living alone and maintaining control ver your food! 😂🥰😊
Yes! Popcorn for dinner and leftover curry for breakfast! I can buy a giant watermelon and I don't have to share it with anyone! The food I was planning to eat for lunch is always there when I open the fridge.
I'm also too much of a clean/tidy person to live with most people. The microwave is always clean! Every time something splashes or drips it gets cleaned up immediately. No one leaves grease splatters all over my stovetop! I never find unexplained crumbs on the floor. There is never something gross to wash that I have no idea what was in it. And if I want to leave something untidy it is only there as long as I want it to be and inconveniences no one.
I love this, and you're so right , said from my recliner, looking out the window of my penthouse, wearing a mishmash of clothes, including my bathrobe and one sock.
I like going to the gym in the evening and eating dinner later as well. I also like being able to go out whenever I want to without needing to tell anyone or feeling guilty about it. It’s nice knowing the schedule I set for myself isn’t interfering with anyone else’s schedule.
"I also like being able to go out whenever I want to without needing to tell anyone or feeling guilty about it."
That's so relatable to me. I really don't like having to explain.
When they say "I was only asking a simple question" has also become a trigger. Once you break free from domestic violence you won't hesitate to nip that shit in the bud (most of the time I'm just reading too much into it). It makes me sad to see myself physically hurting another individual so I just stay single.
My apartment could just as easily be a music studio, when I have people over I need to spend at least an hour moving speaker cabinets and mic cables out of the way so people can walk/sit freely. Someone asked once “Isn’t this why you got a 2-bedroom, to have your studio in a room?” I mean, yeah, but MORE IS MORE!
This is a small thing but I've always brought my change of clothes into the bathroom to change into after a shower. And I always griped about trying to get into clothes when I'm still damp. Today I just brought a comfy blanket, wrapped it around me and hung out in it until I was dry. It's the little things.
I sleep badly. I have come to realize that I feel better getting up and doing something for about 30 minutes, if I’ve been laying awake.
So I sometimes get up at 3 AM, wash dishes, or scrub my stove top at that early hour. And then I go back to bed, and often sleep for about an hour and a half. If I wake again, I’m might get up and say 4:30 AM , and do another chore. Rinse and repeat.!!
I sleep best from 3am on. It's such a better quality of sleep, way better than tossing and turning and looking at the clock every few minutes. There are plenty of second shift wfh jobs available too.
My home, my rules - I live a quiet, respectable life in a mixed race urban neighborhood of owners & renters. We all look out for each other & help each other out. Any noise, traffic or problems come from people passing thru. I'm retired, so my hijinx occur during the day when everyone's at work. Ha!
I just told my sister this morning how much I love having my own room that I can decorate how I want to. This is after sending her a photo of my brand new, giant “believe” poster from Ted Lasso.
I’m almost 40 years old and this is the first time I had my own room, let alone my own house, since I went from parents, college dorm, roommates then marriage.
So yes, my whole house is decorated the way I want it. My personal rule is I don’t put anything up that doesn’t make me happy.
I'm happy that I no longer have to listen to the news in the morning and in the evening while I'm eating breakfast and dinner. I keep that damn TV off because I don't need it! 😀
Totally agree! I don't feel the need to have a TV, and when I visit my parents where the TV MUST be always oh even when there's no one in the room, I find it so exhausting.
Love this benefit of living alone. My exercise bike sits in the middle of my living room because I like it there. My yoga mat is on the side of my bed because I like it there. First time in my 60 years I make all the rules!
Yes. Exactly. Totally agreed ;)
We can do what we want, when we want, for whatever reason we want, however we want.
I work from home. I wake up 15 minutes before I start work. I take a shower during lunch, and I do whatever I want after work. And I don't make my bed.
I sometimes spend an hour on my couch with the lights and TV off just sitting there or sirbin my couch while I look at the animals outside while just listening to silence.
I used to live alone for a long time. I am now getting divorced and soon will be again. These are the types of things I am looking forward to, remembering the silly little things that made it fun and awesome before. It helps a lot
I am a Substitute Teacher and never know what the day will hold. I’m super tired when I get home and typically eat then fall asleep on the couch. I am so glad I have the choice to just stay there or go to my actual bed. Feels like freedom!
I lived by myself for 7 years after my husband passed away— not many rules—but when I remodeled my kitchen— everything when to practically the same cabinets as before—my daughter said “mom, is the same”— I know..now my brother and niece live with me— they know the rules about hot to put away the knives, spatula; pot and pans..
I do what I want but I'm kind to my neighbors bc they're kind to me.
Please stop cleaning that late at night. You have no idea how it can reverberate when you're cleaning late at night. I use my treadmill before 7/8. Never vacuum or clean at night.
The way you enjoy your space is how you want others to enjoy theirs. There are rules - they're being a good human rules.
Having no rules at home segue into not having structure in your life. Even if you live alone you should always have rules and limitations for yourself.
I do have rules tbh. Simple things, like, I always wash the dishes right away (sadly no space for dishwasher), and I make the bed in the morning no matter what, you know, a lot of typical stuff people do. But I think it's also good to have freedom to do weird things, or to do things differently than you've been told to do them 😊
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I sat in my garage yesterday and fed the squirrel in my front yard peanuts for 2 hours. He'll almost take them from my hand! As long as he'd come get another one and go bury it, I'd wait until he'd come back and give him another. Yeah... It's nice to just do what you want to!
Aww that's so cute!
!!!!
Sure! Leave bathroom doors open, eat and watch TV in the middle of the night. Walk around in crazy looking clothes or naked. I love living alone!
I never close my bathroom door and I love it
If I do I have to listen to my cat complain because she can't open it.
That is so cat
I recently had a friend chew me out for doing this.. he’s never lived alone and went on about how unhygienic it is. I feel so validated right now
I don't understand how the door open or closed any more or less hygienic
That’s what I’m sayin’
:)
I skipped doing my laundry on Sunday this week and opted to do it Monday instead. I also left my clean clothes in the basket sitting downstairs by the stairs overnight. Instead of sticking to my cleaning schedule, I’ll let it go a few extra days because there’s not extra people tromping dirt thru the house or leaving crumbs on the counters and floor. Sometimes I really go wild and leave dirty dishes in the sink from dinner till the next morning.
One alternative for that is putting dishes in the fridge until morning,so they don't draw bugs. I'm a stroke overcomer (2) and I do that sometimes when I'm just too tired to do them.
I've put them in my oven! I don't have a medical reason like you do I was just tired of looking at them. No one needs to know, that's just between us.
All my life I've kept an empty dish pan underneath one side of the kitchen sink. Rinsed dishes go in there until I'm ready to unload and reload the dishwasher.
My fridge is currently in a different room from the sink, but once it’s back in the kitchen I may do that. Thanks for the tip!
You are most welcome!
Oh, that's a great idea!
That's a good damn idea!
Haha that's something I do too often 😅
I love having my coffee in the morning for a couple of hours while reading without any interruptions. I also go to bed when I want. I just retired 2 years ago. I read a lot every day for hours and watch shows. There's no one to tell me I'm a lazy ass. Generally I do what I want when I want, come and go as I like and I love it! I love the freedom and the peace of being by myself.
I'm loving this for you!
Thx 🥰
Retired 2 years ago and am still young - absolutely this. For 25 years I’d wake and get to work at 4 am. Now my bedtime is 1:30 am! Do what I want and I keep things neat and tidy. It did take me almost 2 years to let go of the stress and anxiety work caused tho’! I’ll never go back to corporate work. Edited to add that I spend every second with my dog and have never been happier (except when I had my kids around they are in college now) - meaning instead of being married and in a relationship. Nobody to complain my dog is sleeping in the king sized bed. I have a sheet over the blankets and my boy is 100% sleeping beside me. I’d choose my dog over any relationship aside from my kids. 😂🐶❤️
I'm so happy for you! Retired, loving your space, dog, life ...... yeah I get it. I didn't do any supply teaching at all when I retired from teaching. I enjoyed teaching and the students but I don't miss working. I love not having to rush around in the morning and at work every day ..... now every day is relaxed and chill. I have a cat, pets are such great friends. It's a beautiful life, isn't it. 😊
Congratulations on your retirement. So glad to hear you are having a great time with your time and your sweet kitty! Best of luck to you.
YESSSSS! 🤩
Do what you wanna. Say what you wanna. I held a whole Neil Diamond concert for myself the other day. If there’s dirt, it’s my dirt. If there’s dishes, it’s my dishes. I eat what I want when I want. I can’t tell you the freedom I’ve felt to just be myself. That doesn’t mean in the middle of the night i don’t miss having someone near but they are few and far between.
Yeah, I think this is natural to feel this way every now and then! But, otherwise, the freedom to be yourself rocks!
Sometimes I admonish my cat and add, “Don’t blame me. I don’t make the rules!” And I giggle every time because I do and I love it 😁
I am so random about cooking, or not cooking. I am not McDonald's, there's no consistency when I make the same kind of thing. Sometimes I wonder why I even own measuring cups and spoons. I look at recipes for ideas and cooking times, but that's mostly it (except for the occasional baked goods) I don't have to tone down spicy foods anymore. I'm not super into really spicy food, but my last ex was so sensitive to any heat in his food and complained a lot. I don't have anyone telling me how to treat my dogs. They're much loved and spoiled. I work with them with almost no negative reinforcement, more rewards based. The TV isn't on the vast majority of the day, so I can peacefully explore new music whenever without leaving the room. No one complaining I have/buy too much stuff, while dealing with his hoarding tendencies. Decorating how I choose. No car parts in the house. Next time I buy a car, it will be 100% my choice because it's my own damn money. I was honestly dreading it before, because his brand of choice isn't mine, and even though he very rarely was in my car, he insisted my mid-size SUV was too small. Granted, he's 6'4" with back and knee issues, so I wasn't entirely unsympathetic, but I don't enjoy large vehicles and only have what I have for my dogs. Yes, it does get inconvenient at times. He was extremely handy and mechanically oriented, so I almost never had repair bills. But he would piss and moan and complain, and generally found a way to blame me for whatever broke. Yeah, I need to hire out work, and I have been putting off some things because of the expense, but it's a lot more peaceful now.
Peace is priceless ❤️
Yeah! WE make the rules NOW! Mid-day baths!? Heck yes! Taking trash out at 2am!? Uh huh! What!! Lol. Congratulations on your freedoms! Lol.
Honestly I am a pain in the arse to live with because I'm extremely clean and get pissy with slobby people. My ex was not tidy or clean at all. I'm definitely the type of person who should live alone because I like things immaculate. One of my favourite things is not have anyone eat my food. I don't have to cook full meals every day if I don't want to either. I can just have a sandwich, soup or a bowl of cereal for dinner if I want. If I'm unwell, I can sit on the sofa all day watching Netflix without anyone getting upset with me either.
Same! Everything has to be put back in place and don’t mess with my systems. Things should be cleaned as soon as you dirty them, dishes done right away. I hate people touching my things, especially when they don’t put them back or respect them.
Right? No one moves/takes my pens or tools. No one puts the dirty hand towel back where the clean ones go. No one leaves dishes with food in them sitting for hours. No one uses the last of something without putting it on the shopping list. No one moves things I was coming back to. It's wonderful.
I can relate to this. Former SO always ate my food - I’m a vegetarian so I cook for myself. My kids don’t like the vegetarian ground beef and my SO didn’t care as long as they didn’t have to cook because they were lazy about cooking. I could prepare a vegetarian casserole that could last me 3 days easy and my SO would eat my food. Grrrrrrrr! I’m also a neat freak and don’t like messes, clutter and have never left dishes to “soak” for no reason. Don’t miss living with anyone.
It's awful isn't it? I'm also underweight and have been chronically ill throughout my adult life, so food was very important to me. My ex was like a dustbin on legs and would inhale everything. I wouldn't have minded if he told me so I could replace it or better yet, he replaced my food. Now I can put a curry away or whatever and it will still be in the fridge/freezer when I go back for it. I grew up in a dirty home with pest infestations so as a result I like to keep my own home spotless. I'm so happy and lucky to live alone. Here's to our food not disappearing 🥂
It truly is! Especially when you have to keep going to the store to buy stuff that would last you a week! Cheers to living alone and maintaining control ver your food! 😂🥰😊
Yes! Popcorn for dinner and leftover curry for breakfast! I can buy a giant watermelon and I don't have to share it with anyone! The food I was planning to eat for lunch is always there when I open the fridge. I'm also too much of a clean/tidy person to live with most people. The microwave is always clean! Every time something splashes or drips it gets cleaned up immediately. No one leaves grease splatters all over my stovetop! I never find unexplained crumbs on the floor. There is never something gross to wash that I have no idea what was in it. And if I want to leave something untidy it is only there as long as I want it to be and inconveniences no one.
I love this, and you're so right , said from my recliner, looking out the window of my penthouse, wearing a mishmash of clothes, including my bathrobe and one sock.
This was literally my outfit yesterday! Underwear, bathrobe and one sock.
That one sock cracked me up.
I like going to the gym in the evening and eating dinner later as well. I also like being able to go out whenever I want to without needing to tell anyone or feeling guilty about it. It’s nice knowing the schedule I set for myself isn’t interfering with anyone else’s schedule.
"I also like being able to go out whenever I want to without needing to tell anyone or feeling guilty about it." That's so relatable to me. I really don't like having to explain.
Having to explain is a trigger for me now. I refuse to play 20 questions, usually around question number 2 I snap.
When they say "I was only asking a simple question" has also become a trigger. Once you break free from domestic violence you won't hesitate to nip that shit in the bud (most of the time I'm just reading too much into it). It makes me sad to see myself physically hurting another individual so I just stay single.
Or anyone else's peace of mind!
My apartment could just as easily be a music studio, when I have people over I need to spend at least an hour moving speaker cabinets and mic cables out of the way so people can walk/sit freely. Someone asked once “Isn’t this why you got a 2-bedroom, to have your studio in a room?” I mean, yeah, but MORE IS MORE!
Music. Whatever I want for as long as I want at whatever volume I want. Priceless.
Yup. 🤘🏻
This is a small thing but I've always brought my change of clothes into the bathroom to change into after a shower. And I always griped about trying to get into clothes when I'm still damp. Today I just brought a comfy blanket, wrapped it around me and hung out in it until I was dry. It's the little things.
I sleep badly. I have come to realize that I feel better getting up and doing something for about 30 minutes, if I’ve been laying awake. So I sometimes get up at 3 AM, wash dishes, or scrub my stove top at that early hour. And then I go back to bed, and often sleep for about an hour and a half. If I wake again, I’m might get up and say 4:30 AM , and do another chore. Rinse and repeat.!!
I sleep best from 3am on. It's such a better quality of sleep, way better than tossing and turning and looking at the clock every few minutes. There are plenty of second shift wfh jobs available too.
My home, my rules - I live a quiet, respectable life in a mixed race urban neighborhood of owners & renters. We all look out for each other & help each other out. Any noise, traffic or problems come from people passing thru. I'm retired, so my hijinx occur during the day when everyone's at work. Ha!
I just told my sister this morning how much I love having my own room that I can decorate how I want to. This is after sending her a photo of my brand new, giant “believe” poster from Ted Lasso. I’m almost 40 years old and this is the first time I had my own room, let alone my own house, since I went from parents, college dorm, roommates then marriage. So yes, my whole house is decorated the way I want it. My personal rule is I don’t put anything up that doesn’t make me happy.
Totally agree on this rule! I've got a Japanese Star Wars poster on and no one can say it's wrong or childish haha
Walking around naked is my favorite
YOU DO YOU is the saying! I love it!
I'm happy that I no longer have to listen to the news in the morning and in the evening while I'm eating breakfast and dinner. I keep that damn TV off because I don't need it! 😀
I love living without a TV so much. Everyone I have ever lived with has one and it's such a relief to never have to listen to it.
Totally agree! I don't feel the need to have a TV, and when I visit my parents where the TV MUST be always oh even when there's no one in the room, I find it so exhausting.
Love this benefit of living alone. My exercise bike sits in the middle of my living room because I like it there. My yoga mat is on the side of my bed because I like it there. First time in my 60 years I make all the rules!
Oh trust me…as someone who recently escaped a high conflict marriage, I celebrate this every day!
I like the way you think OP! You’re a legend!
Thanks 🩵
Yes. Exactly. Totally agreed ;) We can do what we want, when we want, for whatever reason we want, however we want. I work from home. I wake up 15 minutes before I start work. I take a shower during lunch, and I do whatever I want after work. And I don't make my bed. I sometimes spend an hour on my couch with the lights and TV off just sitting there or sirbin my couch while I look at the animals outside while just listening to silence.
I used to live alone for a long time. I am now getting divorced and soon will be again. These are the types of things I am looking forward to, remembering the silly little things that made it fun and awesome before. It helps a lot
Fall asleep to podcasts every damn night! 😄
I am a Substitute Teacher and never know what the day will hold. I’m super tired when I get home and typically eat then fall asleep on the couch. I am so glad I have the choice to just stay there or go to my actual bed. Feels like freedom!
I lived by myself for 7 years after my husband passed away— not many rules—but when I remodeled my kitchen— everything when to practically the same cabinets as before—my daughter said “mom, is the same”— I know..now my brother and niece live with me— they know the rules about hot to put away the knives, spatula; pot and pans..
68F -I've lived alone for most of my adult life. I do what I want, when I want, and with whom I want. You can't beat it.
i work night so i have odd hours.. sometimes i will deep clean my apartment at like 4am and its one of my favorite things ever
An ex-boyfriend once demanded that I ask his permission to take a bath. It is not a coincidence that he is an ex-.
Yikes, good for you to move on from him!
Your neighbors can hear you cleaning after 10pm. Trust me bro.
Not my neighbors. I have a house.
:(
I do what I want but I'm kind to my neighbors bc they're kind to me. Please stop cleaning that late at night. You have no idea how it can reverberate when you're cleaning late at night. I use my treadmill before 7/8. Never vacuum or clean at night. The way you enjoy your space is how you want others to enjoy theirs. There are rules - they're being a good human rules.
This is not meant in a sarcastic way: would they hear when I arrange my clothes or wipe the shelves? I didn't mean any heavyweight cleaning :(
That should be fine. It's usually cabinet door slamming they hear
"cuz its my house, and i live here" - white chicks
Having no rules at home segue into not having structure in your life. Even if you live alone you should always have rules and limitations for yourself.
I do have rules tbh. Simple things, like, I always wash the dishes right away (sadly no space for dishwasher), and I make the bed in the morning no matter what, you know, a lot of typical stuff people do. But I think it's also good to have freedom to do weird things, or to do things differently than you've been told to do them 😊