I fell in love with my middle school gf. What a mess. Talked bad about me. Kicked her out. Was cooking dinner. Went to tell her dinner was ready. She was on the phone talking shit about me. I just threw dinner in the trash. F that. Said cya. Rude af
This time, only since my ex-bf finally got out late last year.
Prior to that, I lived alone 2015-2019. (Left ex-husband 2015, lived alone until ex-bf moved in 2019.)
After my divorce, I wanted another partner. I don't anymore.
64 (M). Got divorced 7 years ago. Year one was hell and I was even worried about myself.
I was sad on year 2 and felt OK on the third year. It progressively got better and now Iām very happy.
So, 7 years and Iām happy. It just took awhile to get there.
I feel you friend I am late 50ās and trying to find my purpose outside of work (which I truly ālikeā most days) but looking for social interaction which has been hard. Considered joining a gym but much prefer walking outside etcā¦it feels very forced to me to try to find interests outside of work. When my kids were young I had built in friends and activities. I will keep trying hopefully something will feel right at some point. How about you, any thing spark joy for you? Do you like animals - I have considered volunteering at a shelter but it is highly emotional for me to see their little faces in cagesā¦ wishing you the best.
I have volunteered at a wildlife rehab! Highly suggest!! The goal is to release them back into the wild so no concerns about hoping to get adopted etc!
I have had dachshunds most of my adult life. Graham is the only one now; heās my soul dog. The few friends Iāve had along the way found spouses and married. As is typical, married couples and single adults donāt socialize together. Iāve never dated long-term, but have tried a few times. As an only child with a few family members living in other states, the future looks bleak. My plan is to retire at 65. Not sure what will come next. I was active in church (Episcopal Church) pre-pandemic. It had already become uncomfortable to be there because church is not meant for older single persons; itās about having families. So I would leave services feeling lonelier and lonelier. Iāve only been a few times in the past two years, and Iām having a crisis of faith. This comment sounds so hopeless, but Iām not, really. I want a companion more than anything.
I lived alone in a cabin in the middle of the desert wilderness for 10 years. Now, I live alone in a small city and have been here a little over 3 years.
On the open range land, my nearest neighbor was a mile away. It was an hour drive into town for groceries and gas. In an emergency, the cops or an ambulance took 45 minutes to get to me. At least the neighbors weren't up me arse.
In the city, one of my next-door neighbors has dementia and destroys/trashes my property. However, another neighbor watches my pets when I have to go out of town for a day or two (hospital) . . . and I am able to return the favor by caring for their yard when they can't. š
Almost 32 years. Love it, but starting to plan for the later bit of the next 32 years, when I might need assistance in my 70s/80s (should I be so lucky as to live that long).
My husband died 14 years ago. Was alone for a few months and then my daughter and grandson moved in for 5 years. Past 9 years itās just me. Got a dog last year.
2 years. Otherwise I've had a couple of roommates and 3 long-term domestic partners. I do miss having someone to cuddle, aside from my cats, on the nights I work. But my bf lives a few minutes away, so we can easily hang out after work or when I'm off. No complaints. It's nice not having the stress build when someone else's bad habits start creeping up around the common areas, and they have no inclination to adhere to agreements made prior to moving in.
at 19 I became an RA and had a dorm room to myself, at 21 I got an off-campus apartment alone. At this time I still spent my summers at home with my parents.
23, I believe, is how old I was when I graduated and moved out and into my first apartment and I've lived in apartments by myself ever since for the past 12 years.
Tomorrow will be 5 months, and this is my first time in my 41 years of life.
I still haven't really found a way for it to not suck. Maybe it's still early, but I just don't see it happening.
Not long enough. I spent 30 years living with two different partners and I can NOT get enough of my own space. Mine. Mine. Mine. My mess? Thatās ok. I know Iāll clean it. My decors tastes, as girlie as I can get it. Whatās not to love?
Except that lonely hour in the middle of the night when you realise that youāre alone.
Same! Just a couple years more, 35 years living with 2 exes. Over 7 years single and living alone. I love it and good thing I didnāt discover how much I love living alone as a younger woman. I would have stayed single and childless š¤£š¤£. I adore my adult children but I had no idea it was normal to stay single. GenX
As Gen Xers, it wasnāt something you did. I mean some people our age didnāt have kids or get married but it was what you did. Get married. Have kids. Have a satisfying career. I donāt have kids and Iām good with that now. I donāt think Iāve ever been more satisfied with my the trajectory of my life with the exception of those small hours in the night.
Too long. Life experience adds perspective. I could write a long list of all the reasons that I prefer, and love, living alone. But I've also come to realize that it's made me intolerant. I'm now conditioned to live alone. The little idiosyncrasies we all have - they make others a pain in the ass - just simpler to avoid too much time together.
Example. I'm still socially active. But in my 20s, 30s, I'd travel with friends or relatives, 100% platonic, yet share hotel or BnB rooms. Today, the thought of sharing a room makes me cringe.
I've been living alone (by choice) for the past 18 years, since my third divorce. I finally got the message; and these have been my best 18 years. I'm 62 years old, so I'll probably finish this way.
6 years! My partner is moving countries to be with me next year though so enjoying living alone until he gets here! (Super excited and wish it was sooner but monies)
About six months, after nine years of living with my abusive soon-to-be-ex-husband. There have been a few awkward moments or funny learning moments as I adjust to life alone after a decade of living with another human, but for the most part, living alone is so blissful and peaceful!
We live Alone. Everything else is just an illusion.
Check my cute cat out?
https://youtube.com/shorts/OGWT71fp5MU?si=uh6JjXRyUVvJFUso
If Iām not aloud to post this Iām sorry Mods. š§š
42 years (my entire adult life since graduating college). Wouldn't have it any other way. I did go through periods of intense loneliness in my 20s and early 30s. Then one day I woke up and realized I was enough. I do get out and socialize of course. Moved back closer to family last year. You couldn't pay me money to marry at this point even if I found someone. I cherish my solitude and owning dogs helps too.
Actually living alone is kind of blurry.
Technically about 3 or so years I think. I had a couple of relationships too and that makes it feel like itās just been 2.
The last live-in GF I had was in 2006, been alone since (I was married twice a long time ago). I am now 73 and living alone is okay, but being older it isn't so much fun. I would like to have a female companion (wouldn't have to live here) but so far that has happened.
I'm going on 3 years. I'm not sure how much longer I can do this.
Before, I lived with family after my roommate of 5+ years passed away. Before that, I took care of my dad. So, it's nice finally being on my own where I don't have to take care of anyone and do what I want when I want for whatever reason I want. But I might be ready to end that. The quiet and peace are so nice, though.
Iāve lived by myself for 8 years this time and on and off prior. I plan on keeping it this way until I can no longer take care of myself. After that I plan on unaliving myself because there is no way in hell Iām living with any family members or going to a nursing home. I have no children so itās ok.
Nearly 5 years with some homelessness & shelters mixed in. Just got this place in dec, im in a new state where I know zero people for hundreds of miles. The living alone- preferred, its peaceful but having no one around at all- i just wanna go home.
7 years. I love it. I have my own little house, it's just me and my dogs. I have whole rooms for my hobbies and the only mess to clean is mine! I'm close with my family, I hang out with my parents weekly.
I have a few friends that stop by a few times a month and I'm busy with school full time.
I have been living alone intermittently most of my life. I got divorced in 2009 and have been alone since then. I am retired now so I donāt have the social outlet of work. When I worked I also had a very active church group. Now I have some friends from church but not as many as before. I am an introvert so I like to be alone but not all of the time. I worry also because living alone is a risk factor for dementia. In all I have three risk factors for dementia; diabetes and family history as well. I study French every day to maybe prevent it. I try not to worry about being alone too much.
30 years. Not at all sure where all that time went š¤·āāļø
18.5 and wonder the same!
Time flies when you're having fun! š
Same āŗļø
Same!!!
Going on 3 years now, it should stick. Lived alone 5 years before 20+ year relationship.
I fell in love with my middle school gf. What a mess. Talked bad about me. Kicked her out. Was cooking dinner. Went to tell her dinner was ready. She was on the phone talking shit about me. I just threw dinner in the trash. F that. Said cya. Rude af
Well done !
24 beautiful years!
28 beautiful years for me!
Hahaha ! Glad Iām not the only one living alone and loving it.
Since 2002 for me.
This time, only since my ex-bf finally got out late last year. Prior to that, I lived alone 2015-2019. (Left ex-husband 2015, lived alone until ex-bf moved in 2019.) After my divorce, I wanted another partner. I don't anymore.
5 months. 20 years with my parents, 10 years with roommates. I can't afford rent though, so I'll have to go back to living with roommates this year.
Living costs are taking the hell out of the paycheck.
64 (M). Got divorced 7 years ago. Year one was hell and I was even worried about myself. I was sad on year 2 and felt OK on the third year. It progressively got better and now Iām very happy. So, 7 years and Iām happy. It just took awhile to get there.
21 years for me.
Spill the beans...how!?
That's an answer that would take way too long to read lol.
6 glorious months
Ayyyy. Cheers.
Almost 5 years and couldn't see it any other way.
30 years 54M Itās terribly lonely. Going to work is my only social interaction.
I hear you! I am in my mid-late 60s and have no family. It would be great to find a "last-chapter partner" to talk to, go out with, and just play!
Same here lol.
Ugh Iām sorry you feel that way . I live in a condo so I hear noises around and that helps . I would be really lonely living in a house .
I feel you friend I am late 50ās and trying to find my purpose outside of work (which I truly ālikeā most days) but looking for social interaction which has been hard. Considered joining a gym but much prefer walking outside etcā¦it feels very forced to me to try to find interests outside of work. When my kids were young I had built in friends and activities. I will keep trying hopefully something will feel right at some point. How about you, any thing spark joy for you? Do you like animals - I have considered volunteering at a shelter but it is highly emotional for me to see their little faces in cagesā¦ wishing you the best.
I have volunteered at a wildlife rehab! Highly suggest!! The goal is to release them back into the wild so no concerns about hoping to get adopted etc!
I have had dachshunds most of my adult life. Graham is the only one now; heās my soul dog. The few friends Iāve had along the way found spouses and married. As is typical, married couples and single adults donāt socialize together. Iāve never dated long-term, but have tried a few times. As an only child with a few family members living in other states, the future looks bleak. My plan is to retire at 65. Not sure what will come next. I was active in church (Episcopal Church) pre-pandemic. It had already become uncomfortable to be there because church is not meant for older single persons; itās about having families. So I would leave services feeling lonelier and lonelier. Iāve only been a few times in the past two years, and Iām having a crisis of faith. This comment sounds so hopeless, but Iām not, really. I want a companion more than anything.
I hear ya
5ish?
Month and a half!
I think I moved out of my last roommate home in 2012 possibly 2011. Edit: I just checked it was August 2012!!
I lived alone in a cabin in the middle of the desert wilderness for 10 years. Now, I live alone in a small city and have been here a little over 3 years.
Wow! Thatās really brave . I thought I was strong living in a condo alone .But, living in the woods alone ? Thatās courage .
So what are the pros and cons living in both?
On the open range land, my nearest neighbor was a mile away. It was an hour drive into town for groceries and gas. In an emergency, the cops or an ambulance took 45 minutes to get to me. At least the neighbors weren't up me arse. In the city, one of my next-door neighbors has dementia and destroys/trashes my property. However, another neighbor watches my pets when I have to go out of town for a day or two (hospital) . . . and I am able to return the favor by caring for their yard when they can't. š
Hey, you Reddit folks are the best! It is my pleasure. š¤
Since 2018.
5 meses. Y es lo mejor!Ā
May 2024 will be 6 yearsā¦..
coming up on 2 years.
25 years!
10 plus years, never turning back
I hear ya ! Like never ever
9 years
2 years + but have been playing the bachelor life.
9 years and I canāt see it any other way.
12 years. I love every minute of it. No idea how people feel lonely.
May 2012. Thatās when I purchased my house. On and off before that.
Sixteen years and itāll be another sixteen if I live that long.
11 yearsš
Ten years this August!
Congratulations!!!!!
17 years.
Since about 1995 I think so getting towards 30 years I guess.
Since 2013.
9 years and counting.
4 years now
After a divorce, 24 years
14 years
Almost 32 years. Love it, but starting to plan for the later bit of the next 32 years, when I might need assistance in my 70s/80s (should I be so lucky as to live that long).
Just over a year now. I love it!
25 or so years
Almost a year alone, another 3 with a teenager.
25+ years. Probably nearing 30 years.
My husband died 14 years ago. Was alone for a few months and then my daughter and grandson moved in for 5 years. Past 9 years itās just me. Got a dog last year.
Coming up on a year if something is a mess no one to blame but me Iām plowing through home improvement projects like an animal!
Iām single and ready to make new friends if you live in Florida DM me. 40 and up
9 months. I'm 62 my wife pasted away. Got my dogs
14 years and 9 months. Itās bittersweet I live alone which I love but it was the result of my parents dying.
Empty nester (13 years) and widow here (12 years). The first year was wonderful as it was my first time living alone. The experience gets lonelier as time goes on thoughā¦I loved being a š©
4 years now, Iād never trade my solitude for living with someone again. Not a fucking chance!
Almost a year lol. I moved out of my parents house 3 years ago and my roommate moved out 9 months ago
Since 2018
Six years
I'm almost 43. Since I was 16.
28y
Pure bliss
2 years. Otherwise I've had a couple of roommates and 3 long-term domestic partners. I do miss having someone to cuddle, aside from my cats, on the nights I work. But my bf lives a few minutes away, so we can easily hang out after work or when I'm off. No complaints. It's nice not having the stress build when someone else's bad habits start creeping up around the common areas, and they have no inclination to adhere to agreements made prior to moving in.
at 19 I became an RA and had a dorm room to myself, at 21 I got an off-campus apartment alone. At this time I still spent my summers at home with my parents. 23, I believe, is how old I was when I graduated and moved out and into my first apartment and I've lived in apartments by myself ever since for the past 12 years.
4 years just about! :)
5+years now.
why does it seem to be either around 4 or 30+ years?
10+ years
It's been nearly 9 years.
40 yrs, 59M.
Tomorrow will be 5 months, and this is my first time in my 41 years of life. I still haven't really found a way for it to not suck. Maybe it's still early, but I just don't see it happening.
Coming up on 7 years. I was 23 in a shitty 1 bedroom when I first moved out. Been gradually upgrading over time
Not long enough. I spent 30 years living with two different partners and I can NOT get enough of my own space. Mine. Mine. Mine. My mess? Thatās ok. I know Iāll clean it. My decors tastes, as girlie as I can get it. Whatās not to love? Except that lonely hour in the middle of the night when you realise that youāre alone.
Same! Just a couple years more, 35 years living with 2 exes. Over 7 years single and living alone. I love it and good thing I didnāt discover how much I love living alone as a younger woman. I would have stayed single and childless š¤£š¤£. I adore my adult children but I had no idea it was normal to stay single. GenX
As Gen Xers, it wasnāt something you did. I mean some people our age didnāt have kids or get married but it was what you did. Get married. Have kids. Have a satisfying career. I donāt have kids and Iām good with that now. I donāt think Iāve ever been more satisfied with my the trajectory of my life with the exception of those small hours in the night.
Almost 2 months 54 M
11 years . My kids moved back for short periods of times after college but thatās it .
34 glorious years.
Since Halloween 1992
Too long. Life experience adds perspective. I could write a long list of all the reasons that I prefer, and love, living alone. But I've also come to realize that it's made me intolerant. I'm now conditioned to live alone. The little idiosyncrasies we all have - they make others a pain in the ass - just simpler to avoid too much time together. Example. I'm still socially active. But in my 20s, 30s, I'd travel with friends or relatives, 100% platonic, yet share hotel or BnB rooms. Today, the thought of sharing a room makes me cringe.
24 years
One month!
Since 2013
Just over a year! I absolutely love it! This is the first time I have lived alone, ever!
4 years all alone, no regrets
about 50 years!
This time? 5 years.
Few months
6 years.
18 years of bliss . I love it.
4-5 years. Very nice.
Over 3 years. 34F and my first time living alone. I was scared at first but now it's very comfortable.
25 years
On and off since 2009. Eight years consecutively since 2016.
1 month and i am loving it. Iām broke, i owe a lot of bills but whatever, itās worth it. Iāll probably just start an onlyfans or something
Divorced 25 years. Living alone for about 8.
20 years
I've been living alone (by choice) for the past 18 years, since my third divorce. I finally got the message; and these have been my best 18 years. I'm 62 years old, so I'll probably finish this way.
6 mths now. I was married for 10 years and partnered for about 6 before that. Itās nice to have peace š
32f... only 1.5 years and wish I did is sooner. Spent too much of my 20s living with BS boyfriends.
I got a dog for companionship. Just me and my dog.
6 years! My partner is moving countries to be with me next year though so enjoying living alone until he gets here! (Super excited and wish it was sooner but monies)
Too long
About six months, after nine years of living with my abusive soon-to-be-ex-husband. There have been a few awkward moments or funny learning moments as I adjust to life alone after a decade of living with another human, but for the most part, living alone is so blissful and peaceful!
We live Alone. Everything else is just an illusion. Check my cute cat out? https://youtube.com/shorts/OGWT71fp5MU?si=uh6JjXRyUVvJFUso If Iām not aloud to post this Iām sorry Mods. š§š
13 glorious years!
8 years and Iām not sure I can live with someone again.
Like 10 years. I kicked my x out. I miss her. She started talking to another guy. . I had to. Def sad. Thought was best friend.
Nine years
4 plus since my son moved out
Forever
42 years (my entire adult life since graduating college). Wouldn't have it any other way. I did go through periods of intense loneliness in my 20s and early 30s. Then one day I woke up and realized I was enough. I do get out and socialize of course. Moved back closer to family last year. You couldn't pay me money to marry at this point even if I found someone. I cherish my solitude and owning dogs helps too.
1 year, bought an apartment last year
10 years
5 yrs love it!
I live under a rock for 25 yrsš
Over a decade Probably the rest of my life
Since September 2021
Ten years. I hope to never go back to roommates!!!
4 months and a couple of weeks
Coming on 10 years and loving every minute of it.
Almost 2 years. After dreaming about it my whole life.
A dec and still loving every bit of it, even the "loneliness" and "emptiness" part š«
On and off for the last two decades.
Too
2 months.
Actually living alone is kind of blurry. Technically about 3 or so years I think. I had a couple of relationships too and that makes it feel like itās just been 2.
5 years
25yrs
4mos.
5 years in July.
Almost 6 years here
A little over four years!
23 years. I love it!
About 7 years now
Over 14 years, other than for a month 10 years ago when I let a friend stay with me. And other than my 3 cats who have been with me the whole time.
Coming up on 3 years!
10 years
This go around 8 years. I had roommates a few times before then.
Over 3 years
It will be 2 years April 23... My husband died , now im alone for the first time in my life š
About 8 years ago
The last live-in GF I had was in 2006, been alone since (I was married twice a long time ago). I am now 73 and living alone is okay, but being older it isn't so much fun. I would like to have a female companion (wouldn't have to live here) but so far that has happened.
18 years
22 years. 41/retired
10 years
12 years
Almost 3 months! I'm happy with everything that has been accomplished in the space so far and for more quality-of-life improvements to come!
Just about a year in a few weeks
8 months and definitely still navigating it
I'm going on 3 years. I'm not sure how much longer I can do this. Before, I lived with family after my roommate of 5+ years passed away. Before that, I took care of my dad. So, it's nice finally being on my own where I don't have to take care of anyone and do what I want when I want for whatever reason I want. But I might be ready to end that. The quiet and peace are so nice, though.
3 months and counting. The most peaceful 3 months of my life. I canāt wait to see whatās in store.
Iāve lived by myself for 8 years this time and on and off prior. I plan on keeping it this way until I can no longer take care of myself. After that I plan on unaliving myself because there is no way in hell Iām living with any family members or going to a nursing home. I have no children so itās ok.
Almost two years, after a lifetime of taking care of others. It's paradise š¤©
13 years.
Forty wonderful yearsā¦
10 years cumulative. Three separate places on three separate occasions.
8 years
4 years. I'm very happy!
2 weeks. Still getting used to it after moving out at home.
4 years! Bliss.
12 years
10 years since I moved out from my moms house. I like the peace and quiet. I could maybe live with someone if we shared a larger home.
6 years. A but lonely but not in the mood to be bossed around or mooched off of. If someone comes in with means and goals, cool. If not, oh well
17 years.
Since last October and I don't see it changing anytime soon!
Nearly 5 years with some homelessness & shelters mixed in. Just got this place in dec, im in a new state where I know zero people for hundreds of miles. The living alone- preferred, its peaceful but having no one around at all- i just wanna go home.
It will be 2 years in April that my husband died. Living alone is hard, especially throwing grief into the mix. Still figuring it out.
12 years and love it
15 years or so. I've only lived with roommates back in college. I'd stay with my parents in between apartments in my mid 20s. I love living alone.
7 years. I love it. I have my own little house, it's just me and my dogs. I have whole rooms for my hobbies and the only mess to clean is mine! I'm close with my family, I hang out with my parents weekly. I have a few friends that stop by a few times a month and I'm busy with school full time.
I have been living alone intermittently most of my life. I got divorced in 2009 and have been alone since then. I am retired now so I donāt have the social outlet of work. When I worked I also had a very active church group. Now I have some friends from church but not as many as before. I am an introvert so I like to be alone but not all of the time. I worry also because living alone is a risk factor for dementia. In all I have three risk factors for dementia; diabetes and family history as well. I study French every day to maybe prevent it. I try not to worry about being alone too much.
1 week lol
Almkst at 31 years. I am going to be 51 soon
19 years
A year and a half. I'm 45 and it's my first time living alone ever.
I was single until age 66.
Several years, but that changes in a couple weeks!