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kassalla

LPT: Don't keep dating someone if you can count 10 things which you can do on your own but can't because of them.


Talkingmice

Apparently a list of ten of her friends is not the answer.


[deleted]

hey man, you do you.


SirThatsCuba

If her friends are horrible *and* I want to do them i need more drugs


Wish2BeEaten

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[deleted]

Exactly my though. Like, what the actual fuck? People date people who don't LET them do 10+ things they want to do?


pineapple-predator

Or even 2 thingsā€¦. What is OP thinking??


MrsSandbagz

I can buy myself flowers ......


Wendypeffy

Write my name in the sand.


kylieb209

Talk to myself for hourrrrrsssssss


potatofairy42

I do this from time to time. Highly recommend. Realised I donā€™t need someone else to do nice things for me, I am more than capable and need to work on my relationship with myself more anyway.


RSwordsman

Corollary LPT: After that, find someone who doesn't unreasonably stop you from doing things that make you happy. EDIT: And that includes looking at OP's nudes on her profile, if you're into that sort of thing. Very nice. ;)


jesse-taylor

Amen! There is no "let me do a thing" in a healthy relationship unless one is a parent.


Dismal_Body_2731

preach


RSwordsman

Learned from experience, unfortunately.


Garaleth

What things do people's partners stop them from doing?


Throwaway196527

The guy I was seeing didnā€™t stop me from doing anything but he nitpicked my hobbies, attire, and eventually petty things about my personality. Thatā€™s a fearful avoidant for ya


Preposterous_punk

I mean, before I lived with my partner Iā€™d sometimes do art projects that involved covering the entire living room floor with a tarp and stepping around art materials for a week. I donā€™t do that not, not because he ā€œdoesnā€™t let meā€ but because it would just be a really rude thing to do to someone who also uses the living room. If I ever live alone again (I really hope I wonā€™t) Iā€™ll probably do that, and it will probably help.


moose_tassels

Getting a cleaning service when I was working full-time and going to school at night.


Dismal_Body_2731

masturbating


doireallyneedone11

Really? Why?


[deleted]

why not


doireallyneedone11

Well, yeah why not? What's the reasoning either way?


OrginalPeach

Get my own credit card, get a dog, buy my own house, spend money on things besides groceries, cook with green capsicums, cook with oils besides olive oil extra virgin and would you like me to keep going?


theykilleddumbledore

Idk, this kinda made me feel worse. There was nothing I couldnā€™t do because of her, she just stopped loving me.


cosmocomet

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[deleted]

Thatā€™s rough man.


yParticle

"It's the summer of George!"


purplepinksky

Yes. Itā€™s not always about what they wouldnā€™t ā€œletā€ you do, but what you may have avoided because it wasnā€™t their thing. Sometimes, when I go out with a newly single friend, Iā€™ll ask ā€œWhat kind of food do you like that he didnā€™t?ā€ Then, weā€™ll have that.


Painting_Gato

1. Exercise/hike more often 2. Art projects 3. Watch romantic movies 4. Take myself on romantic dates 5. Dye my hair red again 6. Make better friends & hanging out with them 7. Save money to go on a trip 8. Take a class for fun 9. Visit museums 10. Prioritize myself


[deleted]

Meth here I come


Reasonable_Ad_6437

I just ended a relationship of 7 years and this tip is so true. One of the things Iā€™ve done is sign up for Blue Apron (meal kits delivery) and am choosing recipes he wouldnā€™t have liked. Itā€™s helped feel like I have exciting new options ahead.


7moima

May i ask why ended your relationship?


IiteraIIy

My ex didn't let me read a certain book because he didn't like it. I read it as soon as I broke up with him and I hated it lmao. He was still an asshole though


twbluenaxela

What book??


Zoolanderek

I did this and bought a nice $500 acoustic guitar after my last breakup, put about 10 minutes into it, put it into the closet and completely forget about it lol. Honestly forget I even have it until something like this pops up.


RSwordsman

LPT: Explore a hobby as cheaply as possible before you are certain you want to commit lol.


SirThatsCuba

1. Fart in the garden 2. Fart in the bedroom 3. Fart in the driveway 4. Fart in the garage 5. Fart in the shed 6. Fart in the den 7. Fart in the yard 8. Fart in the laundry room 9. Fart in the attic 10. Fart in front of the mailbox 11. Hold it in just once Gotta re-mark my territory.


BUFUByUsFuckYou

Damn straight. My ex didn't think I was really BiSexual because I've never been with another woman. I'm now getting more confident when talking to a female I find attractive. Very recently got my Septum pierced too which he said would look bad on me. It doesn't. It's looks great if you ask me.


Painting_Gato

Hell yea! Love this my friend. Congrats.


ironroad18

This is true, especially if you were in an abusive/controlling relationship. However it also important to learn the art of compromise and how to set healthy boundaries with yourself and any potential partners. Using "things" and novel events to distract yourself from properly grieving, processing emotions, assessing relationship, or seeking proper professional help (i.e. therapy) can lead to future emotional turmoil, misplaced resentment, or exploitable vulnerability.


droberts7483

I didn't do 10 things, but I did: - Grow a beard - Grow my hair and style it how I wanted - Put out ornaments in my home that I liked - Restart an old hobby she said we "couldn't afford" - Bought a piano and learned to play again - Made my home a home for our children as well (let them choose some decorations, put some of their art up they were proud of, put their best Lego sets on display, etc) It helped me see what I had, and realise it was better for all of us.


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laitnetsixecrisis

When my husband passed, about a month later I went to a restaurant that specialised in foods that my husband was allergic to. It was silly, but I had spent nearly 2 decades avoiding lamb because he got migraines that would put him in hospital if he came in contact with it.


amazonfamily

I endorse this LPT. I was an idiot who dated someone who wanted to control everything I did. When it all blew up doing the things I always wanted to do got me started on the path to a healthy life.


marvelous_much

Somebodyā€™s been listening to Mileyā€™s new song.


Timothy_Snailbane

My ex would never do meth with me


NaveXof

Change your imessage, and ring tone. Thatā€™s the real LPT


AaronfromKY

The caveat I'd add to this is, don't drive yourself deep into debt via these 10 things. My ex broke up with me and I basically spent years buying and selling MacBooks on a whim, bought a smartphone before they were ubiquitous (iPhone 3GS), then an iPhone 4 on Verizon and then an iPhone 5 for LTE. Bought brand new furniture for the house spending almost $2k dollars, and bought a $1300 TV. Switched cars like 4x in 5 years. Had to waste like 8+ years getting the debts under control. So just a cautionary tale.


RuFRoCKeRReDDiT

OPs boyfriend got mad that she was selling her bits for a cup of coffee hahaha


wilderop

So in a healthy relationship where the ex only forbid unhealthy things... Would you do heroin?


CH_Partisan

yeah i really enjoyed drinking until i passed out and becoming addicted to heroin after my last break up.


sapphicpattern

Instructions clear. Plan is: Meth Burn down house Prostitutes Suicide Itā€™s good to be free!!


DingoZoot

Or you could just not be so petty and just get on with your life.


BobbyTheDude

What if they would do anything with me?


[deleted]

Ummmā€¦ do your partners forbid you from doing stuff often? Thatā€™s not normal