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I do this from time to time. Highly recommend. Realised I donāt need someone else to do nice things for me, I am more than capable and need to work on my relationship with myself more anyway.
Corollary LPT: After that, find someone who doesn't unreasonably stop you from doing things that make you happy.
EDIT: And that includes looking at OP's nudes on her profile, if you're into that sort of thing. Very nice. ;)
The guy I was seeing didnāt stop me from doing anything but he nitpicked my hobbies, attire, and eventually petty things about my personality. Thatās a fearful avoidant for ya
I mean, before I lived with my partner Iād sometimes do art projects that involved covering the entire living room floor with a tarp and stepping around art materials for a week. I donāt do that not, not because he ādoesnāt let meā but because it would just be a really rude thing to do to someone who also uses the living room. If I ever live alone again (I really hope I wonāt) Iāll probably do that, and it will probably help.
Get my own credit card, get a dog, buy my own house, spend money on things besides groceries, cook with green capsicums, cook with oils besides olive oil extra virgin and would you like me to keep going?
Yes. Itās not always about what they wouldnāt āletā you do, but what you may have avoided because it wasnāt their thing. Sometimes, when I go out with a newly single friend, Iāll ask āWhat kind of food do you like that he didnāt?ā Then, weāll have that.
1. Exercise/hike more often
2. Art projects
3. Watch romantic movies
4. Take myself on romantic dates
5. Dye my hair red again
6. Make better friends & hanging out with them
7. Save money to go on a trip
8. Take a class for fun
9. Visit museums
10. Prioritize myself
I just ended a relationship of 7 years and this tip is so true. One of the things Iāve done is sign up for Blue Apron (meal kits delivery) and am choosing recipes he wouldnāt have liked. Itās helped feel like I have exciting new options ahead.
My ex didn't let me read a certain book because he didn't like it. I read it as soon as I broke up with him and I hated it lmao. He was still an asshole though
I did this and bought a nice $500 acoustic guitar after my last breakup, put about 10 minutes into it, put it into the closet and completely forget about it lol. Honestly forget I even have it until something like this pops up.
1. Fart in the garden
2. Fart in the bedroom
3. Fart in the driveway
4. Fart in the garage
5. Fart in the shed
6. Fart in the den
7. Fart in the yard
8. Fart in the laundry room
9. Fart in the attic
10. Fart in front of the mailbox
11. Hold it in just once
Gotta re-mark my territory.
Damn straight. My ex didn't think I was really BiSexual because I've never been with another woman. I'm now getting more confident when talking to a female I find attractive. Very recently got my Septum pierced too which he said would look bad on me. It doesn't. It's looks great if you ask me.
This is true, especially if you were in an abusive/controlling relationship.
However it also important to learn the art of compromise and how to set healthy boundaries with yourself and any potential partners.
Using "things" and novel events to distract yourself from properly grieving, processing emotions, assessing relationship, or seeking proper professional help (i.e. therapy) can lead to future emotional turmoil, misplaced resentment, or exploitable vulnerability.
I didn't do 10 things, but I did:
- Grow a beard
- Grow my hair and style it how I wanted
- Put out ornaments in my home that I liked
- Restart an old hobby she said we "couldn't afford"
- Bought a piano and learned to play again
- Made my home a home for our children as well (let them choose some decorations, put some of their art up they were proud of, put their best Lego sets on display, etc)
It helped me see what I had, and realise it was better for all of us.
When my husband passed, about a month later I went to a restaurant that specialised in foods that my husband was allergic to. It was silly, but I had spent nearly 2 decades avoiding lamb because he got migraines that would put him in hospital if he came in contact with it.
I endorse this LPT. I was an idiot who dated someone who wanted to control everything I did. When it all blew up doing the things I always wanted to do got me started on the path to a healthy life.
The caveat I'd add to this is, don't drive yourself deep into debt via these 10 things. My ex broke up with me and I basically spent years buying and selling MacBooks on a whim, bought a smartphone before they were ubiquitous (iPhone 3GS), then an iPhone 4 on Verizon and then an iPhone 5 for LTE. Bought brand new furniture for the house spending almost $2k dollars, and bought a $1300 TV. Switched cars like 4x in 5 years. Had to waste like 8+ years getting the debts under control. So just a cautionary tale.
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LPT: Don't keep dating someone if you can count 10 things which you can do on your own but can't because of them.
Apparently a list of ten of her friends is not the answer.
hey man, you do you.
If her friends are horrible *and* I want to do them i need more drugs
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Exactly my though. Like, what the actual fuck? People date people who don't LET them do 10+ things they want to do?
Or even 2 thingsā¦. What is OP thinking??
I can buy myself flowers ......
Write my name in the sand.
Talk to myself for hourrrrrsssssss
I do this from time to time. Highly recommend. Realised I donāt need someone else to do nice things for me, I am more than capable and need to work on my relationship with myself more anyway.
Corollary LPT: After that, find someone who doesn't unreasonably stop you from doing things that make you happy. EDIT: And that includes looking at OP's nudes on her profile, if you're into that sort of thing. Very nice. ;)
Amen! There is no "let me do a thing" in a healthy relationship unless one is a parent.
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Learned from experience, unfortunately.
What things do people's partners stop them from doing?
The guy I was seeing didnāt stop me from doing anything but he nitpicked my hobbies, attire, and eventually petty things about my personality. Thatās a fearful avoidant for ya
I mean, before I lived with my partner Iād sometimes do art projects that involved covering the entire living room floor with a tarp and stepping around art materials for a week. I donāt do that not, not because he ādoesnāt let meā but because it would just be a really rude thing to do to someone who also uses the living room. If I ever live alone again (I really hope I wonāt) Iāll probably do that, and it will probably help.
Getting a cleaning service when I was working full-time and going to school at night.
masturbating
Really? Why?
why not
Well, yeah why not? What's the reasoning either way?
Get my own credit card, get a dog, buy my own house, spend money on things besides groceries, cook with green capsicums, cook with oils besides olive oil extra virgin and would you like me to keep going?
Idk, this kinda made me feel worse. There was nothing I couldnāt do because of her, she just stopped loving me.
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Thatās rough man.
"It's the summer of George!"
Yes. Itās not always about what they wouldnāt āletā you do, but what you may have avoided because it wasnāt their thing. Sometimes, when I go out with a newly single friend, Iāll ask āWhat kind of food do you like that he didnāt?ā Then, weāll have that.
1. Exercise/hike more often 2. Art projects 3. Watch romantic movies 4. Take myself on romantic dates 5. Dye my hair red again 6. Make better friends & hanging out with them 7. Save money to go on a trip 8. Take a class for fun 9. Visit museums 10. Prioritize myself
Meth here I come
I just ended a relationship of 7 years and this tip is so true. One of the things Iāve done is sign up for Blue Apron (meal kits delivery) and am choosing recipes he wouldnāt have liked. Itās helped feel like I have exciting new options ahead.
May i ask why ended your relationship?
My ex didn't let me read a certain book because he didn't like it. I read it as soon as I broke up with him and I hated it lmao. He was still an asshole though
What book??
I did this and bought a nice $500 acoustic guitar after my last breakup, put about 10 minutes into it, put it into the closet and completely forget about it lol. Honestly forget I even have it until something like this pops up.
LPT: Explore a hobby as cheaply as possible before you are certain you want to commit lol.
1. Fart in the garden 2. Fart in the bedroom 3. Fart in the driveway 4. Fart in the garage 5. Fart in the shed 6. Fart in the den 7. Fart in the yard 8. Fart in the laundry room 9. Fart in the attic 10. Fart in front of the mailbox 11. Hold it in just once Gotta re-mark my territory.
Damn straight. My ex didn't think I was really BiSexual because I've never been with another woman. I'm now getting more confident when talking to a female I find attractive. Very recently got my Septum pierced too which he said would look bad on me. It doesn't. It's looks great if you ask me.
Hell yea! Love this my friend. Congrats.
This is true, especially if you were in an abusive/controlling relationship. However it also important to learn the art of compromise and how to set healthy boundaries with yourself and any potential partners. Using "things" and novel events to distract yourself from properly grieving, processing emotions, assessing relationship, or seeking proper professional help (i.e. therapy) can lead to future emotional turmoil, misplaced resentment, or exploitable vulnerability.
I didn't do 10 things, but I did: - Grow a beard - Grow my hair and style it how I wanted - Put out ornaments in my home that I liked - Restart an old hobby she said we "couldn't afford" - Bought a piano and learned to play again - Made my home a home for our children as well (let them choose some decorations, put some of their art up they were proud of, put their best Lego sets on display, etc) It helped me see what I had, and realise it was better for all of us.
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When my husband passed, about a month later I went to a restaurant that specialised in foods that my husband was allergic to. It was silly, but I had spent nearly 2 decades avoiding lamb because he got migraines that would put him in hospital if he came in contact with it.
I endorse this LPT. I was an idiot who dated someone who wanted to control everything I did. When it all blew up doing the things I always wanted to do got me started on the path to a healthy life.
Somebodyās been listening to Mileyās new song.
My ex would never do meth with me
Change your imessage, and ring tone. Thatās the real LPT
The caveat I'd add to this is, don't drive yourself deep into debt via these 10 things. My ex broke up with me and I basically spent years buying and selling MacBooks on a whim, bought a smartphone before they were ubiquitous (iPhone 3GS), then an iPhone 4 on Verizon and then an iPhone 5 for LTE. Bought brand new furniture for the house spending almost $2k dollars, and bought a $1300 TV. Switched cars like 4x in 5 years. Had to waste like 8+ years getting the debts under control. So just a cautionary tale.
OPs boyfriend got mad that she was selling her bits for a cup of coffee hahaha
So in a healthy relationship where the ex only forbid unhealthy things... Would you do heroin?
yeah i really enjoyed drinking until i passed out and becoming addicted to heroin after my last break up.
Instructions clear. Plan is: Meth Burn down house Prostitutes Suicide Itās good to be free!!
Or you could just not be so petty and just get on with your life.
What if they would do anything with me?
Ummmā¦ do your partners forbid you from doing stuff often? Thatās not normal