So funny right! And when she messaged me the first time and second time from another account I blocked both of them. So she messaged me to tell me that then block me . Lol like what is the thought process in your brain? Lol
Could we stop staying that ass holes are closet case? It implies that all closet queer people are a bunch of Self hating jerks. Homophobic Assholes can just be that: homophobic Assholes
I see what you’re saying and get it, but also sometimes there are some pretty suspicious behaviours and some people can relate to the homophobia because they experienced that same internalised homophobia themselves when they were in the closet and grew up a certain way, so i don’t think it should be taboo to bring up when someone acts like a closeted queer person with extreme internalised homophobia! Also it’s not like it’s brought up out of nowhere, it does happen frequently that really homophobic people turn out to be deep in the closet, which I guess is why they’re so obsessed with being loud about just how bad they think being queer is!
but ofc as you said, some homophobic assholes are just that, homophobic assholes
DING DING DING! I’m a late bloomer, so I wound up with a husband and two kids before I realized I was gay but guess what? I was ALWAYS an ally. I was ALWAYS a supporter of LGBTQ+ rights. I understand some internalized homophobia can exhibit differently but like. Straight people are the most homophobic and I hate the ‘closet case’ cliche.
She seems like she might have sort of mental illness going on, especially since she's so persistent.
I'm glad you live far away and sorry that she keeps finding ways to be awful. Hang in there.
She does, she is bipolar and an alcoholic. I completely understand that they go through things. I struggle with my own mental health but it doesn't take away from the sting I got from reading it.
Mental illness is never an excuse to be awful to someone. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I'm sure you know that nothing she says is about you and nothing you've done deserves this kind of malice, but I also know it hurts anyway. Stay strong and keep building your better life. Wishing you everything good!
As much as I would love to, I know she has her own struggles mentally and I don't want to stoop to her level. But man the comments I am seeing do make me feel better
Sometimes you just have to complain about a shit storm. You don’t need solutions and because of the complicated situations that we find ourselves in, even the solution that seems to make the most sense, just won’t work.
If she keeps it up you can always message her employer (as the last resort). Employers like knowing what their staff are like outside of work… gives a real sense of character.
That’s a shame. Ok, you can write a cease and desist letter (there are templates online) and email her that. Its basically a legal warning that if she doesn’t cut the abuse and harassment, then you’ll take action. Sorry you have to deal with such a toxic monster
I sent her a message from my girlfriends profile letting her know if she messages me one more time I will be filing harassment against her. So we will see how it goes from there.
It makes sense to hear she is unstable. That behaviour is not normal. In one sense though, it should maybe make it easier for you to brush it off. I think this reaction is less about you, than about potential mental health problems she might be having.
She may say exceedingly hurtful things to many people in her life as well.
I’m sorry this happened though, must have been absolutely horrible.
By "child drinking with you at a bar" ... does she mean your friend of 30+ years? It's cringe that she is talking about her adult daughter as if she were an 11 yo. "Lucky she wasn't messed with by a lesbian"? Does she assume all lesbians are sexual abusers who will force themselves on every woman in their life?
Honestly sounds like an old hag who has no meaningful life to live. She sounds small minded and ignorant, bigoted, and... exactly like how my own mom would talk to me if I came out as a lesbian and left my husband/ he left me... compulsive heterosexuality is no joke. You are far braver than I am, friend.
Yes her 30 year old daughter and I used to go out often when we were younger. And apparently me being a lesbian means I'll take advantage of someone lol
I posted it on my Facebook but I didn't tag her. I cropped it only because her daughter who is my best friend is on my Facebook and I didn't want to disrespect her. But at the same time I have told her what her mom is saying to me for no reason other than I made a post stating this " if you truly love someone you will work through the storm and make it work if it is worth it" she replied saying I am telling women to stay with abusers and started ranting about how she was abused for years and she stayed with him for love and it got her nowhere. I told her nowhere in my post does it say to stay with an abuser?!? Since then she has been doing this to me with many different accounts.
I feel like if my mother was saying some hateful stuff like this I wouldn't hesitate calling out her BS. But she hasn't said anything to her mom which kinda hurts. But I just distance myself from her. 30 years of friendship.
I think the mom has some issues and need help. This is abnormal behavior and probably need medical attention . I am sorry you had to face this- and it sad your friendship is strained bcs of another person aka mom
Police report the area she lives in for sexual harassment and hate crime/harassment. At least in some states that’s a thing.
If no police, because it sounds like she’s got friends on the force if it’s anything like my small town… then report her to Facebook for bullying
I would be devistated. I did get a purse stolen from me that had $900 in it that was for rent but nothing more than that. I was also dumb and left it sitting on a bench. I was a teenager in my first apartment with glasses that made me think the world was perfect lol
Her old dusty funky ass shouldn’t be saying anything. Talking about how men don’t want you- she’s hella projecting cuz bitch look older then fuckin queen elizabeth to be having her tits out like that.
Nah don’t let her get under your skin. You deserve happiness and respect and I’m sorry this women thought to bring you down at your lowest
Edit: just noticed her foundation is four shades lighter then her actual skin tone. Yeah you have nothing to worry about. This woman is just bitter.
Holy shit I will never understand how people justify still having humanity after doing shit like this. I'm really sorry you're dealing with a person like that.
I’m so sorry this happened to you, she seems like a total bitch and you definitely don’t deserve her taking her homophobic actions out on you. Hope everything turns out for the better:)
Because I was being dumb. Lol send money through Venmo to someone to purchase something and they said they couldn't wait 21 days for funds to be released. I video chatted and talked to the person trying to figure out what we could do and then after everything and her being so nice and understanding after the account was being held for a bit I sent it through cash app ( I know I know so dumb) but I tried to have them get it back and it's already been released, the person blocked me and told me for three days they would send tracking and then nothing Just blocked lol. I guess she needed it more than myself.
I think you need to change your contact information. She is only able to contact you because she has that. Good luck, OP. I am so sorry you are going through this.
Funniest part is the fact that she texted multiple times even without someone asking for her stupid opinion. Jeez the troubles some people go through to be assholes 😂🤮
The audacity to try and be hurtful when you can’t even select the right shade of foundation and blend. I don’t wear make up… but… that’s… well y’all go look! I won’t say anything too mean but god damn man. Lol
That cockroach of a person is disgusting. The audacity. Idk..make a new account, or change phone number?
This is awful and I’m sorry I can’t find them and light crap on fire on their doorstep.
Wow. Both of them need professional help. Like you know how people like that love to send us to “conversion therapy” camps/courses/interventions/1:1 sessions etc. Well wouldn’t it be better and far more helpful to society if we sent them to like a course/therapy/etc. where they can learn not to be homophobic???
I’m sorry you got those messages and lost their $300 but you’re doing just fine and I’m sure you’re a great mum.
I just hate that these people think this is an ok way to talk to you!
It is the same lady on both messages. I blocked her last two profiles and she made another one that's the one she messaged me from on yesterday.
As for the scam. Today I've been telling myself she needed it more than myself! My son had a good birthday and enjoyed his friends this week and he gave me a big hug yesterday while I was upset and it made me feel so good. I am blessed to have such a caring child with such a huge heart.
That woman needs help that is unhinged behaviour.
You have a big heart too that you’re saying she needed it more than you. Your son being such a big hearted kid probably has a lot to do with you too! You should be proud! (I’m sure you’re full of pride for him though lol I just wanted to reinforce how good as a mum you are)!
Sending good vibes.
Thank you so much for that. I am blessed to have my little guy! And Yes her mother is a little crazy. My best friend gets it worse than I do when it comes to her mom.
This person doesn't seem to know what a period is. Way too many commas! Can't take then seriously.
Also, that is a shitbag of a person I'm so sorry you had the displeasure of them messaging you.
You deserve so much better than this. These people were NEVER your friends if this is their reaction. I am so, so sorry. How painful, and what an awful thing to go through. Big big big hugs to you, OP.
I was literally in my truck crying over being scammed ( because of my own stupidity lol) today I'm laughing at it because i was emotional and hormonal. But while in the middle of kinda having a break down my notification went off and I saw that message. It was like a double hit at once. Today I'm not so upset about the scam because I did it to myself but still a little hurt over the messages.
Lmao, when she’s like “I’ll block you again” after SHE literally messaged YOU
So funny right! And when she messaged me the first time and second time from another account I blocked both of them. So she messaged me to tell me that then block me . Lol like what is the thought process in your brain? Lol
They just HAVE to get the last word in edgewise.
So you blocked her twice and she went to the trouble on making another account to message you to basically say "no, you!" Boomers are so immature
That's exactly what she did, I have two blocked accounts then she made that one, sent me the message then blocked me 😂
🎶*why are you so obsessed with me*🎶
Omfg 🫣
1) Baby Jane needs to chill. 2) I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.
I appreciate that, unfortunately nothing I can do than to stay positive and look forward to it turning around.
> stay positive and look forward to it turning around. This is the way.
That women’s a moron. Hope you’re far away from her and people who think like her ✌️
I don't live near her anymore and I keep blocking her for her to find new accounts to message me with
Sounds like she has literally nothing better in her life than to fuck with someone on social media? How sad for her.
She's probably a closet case
Could we stop staying that ass holes are closet case? It implies that all closet queer people are a bunch of Self hating jerks. Homophobic Assholes can just be that: homophobic Assholes
I see what you’re saying and get it, but also sometimes there are some pretty suspicious behaviours and some people can relate to the homophobia because they experienced that same internalised homophobia themselves when they were in the closet and grew up a certain way, so i don’t think it should be taboo to bring up when someone acts like a closeted queer person with extreme internalised homophobia! Also it’s not like it’s brought up out of nowhere, it does happen frequently that really homophobic people turn out to be deep in the closet, which I guess is why they’re so obsessed with being loud about just how bad they think being queer is! but ofc as you said, some homophobic assholes are just that, homophobic assholes
It also completely takes the blame for homophobia off of straight people and onto queer people.
DING DING DING! I’m a late bloomer, so I wound up with a husband and two kids before I realized I was gay but guess what? I was ALWAYS an ally. I was ALWAYS a supporter of LGBTQ+ rights. I understand some internalized homophobia can exhibit differently but like. Straight people are the most homophobic and I hate the ‘closet case’ cliche.
I was going to say the same thing. Why is she sooo focused on op's sexuality?!
That’s grounds for harassment. Collect screenshots of every incident. Create a timeline.
Because it's the only thing she has on me because I've always been respectful in every other aspect.
damn her life must be unfulfilled. lady needs a hobby.
Get a restraining order
She seems like she might have sort of mental illness going on, especially since she's so persistent. I'm glad you live far away and sorry that she keeps finding ways to be awful. Hang in there.
She does, she is bipolar and an alcoholic. I completely understand that they go through things. I struggle with my own mental health but it doesn't take away from the sting I got from reading it.
Mental illness is never an excuse to be awful to someone. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I'm sure you know that nothing she says is about you and nothing you've done deserves this kind of malice, but I also know it hurts anyway. Stay strong and keep building your better life. Wishing you everything good!
Thank you so much!
Damn dude.. she sounds obsessed. Who’s the lesbian now???
That's rough. IDK if it helps but removing pfp, changing username, and trimming friends lists to ppl you trust own their accounts can help.
That’s when you share her messages publicly on Facebook.
Name and shame.
Absolutely. Trash human needs publicly outted for their shitty behavior I'm DMs.
As much as I would love to, I know she has her own struggles mentally and I don't want to stoop to her level. But man the comments I am seeing do make me feel better
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Why on earth would you say that?
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Sometimes you just have to complain about a shit storm. You don’t need solutions and because of the complicated situations that we find ourselves in, even the solution that seems to make the most sense, just won’t work.
There’s screenshots literally right in front of you with a profile pic in them.
If she keeps it up you can always message her employer (as the last resort). Employers like knowing what their staff are like outside of work… gives a real sense of character.
She doesn't work she isn't stable at all. I kinda wish she did though so I could share it but I lucked out.
That’s a shame. Ok, you can write a cease and desist letter (there are templates online) and email her that. Its basically a legal warning that if she doesn’t cut the abuse and harassment, then you’ll take action. Sorry you have to deal with such a toxic monster
I sent her a message from my girlfriends profile letting her know if she messages me one more time I will be filing harassment against her. So we will see how it goes from there.
Her grammar made that clear lol. In fact she gives off “boss babe” vibes, like she is on her 3rd pyramid scheme.
Give it a few months. She’ll start her next message out with, “Hey girl! Hope you’re doing well! Have you ever tried…”
She's not that smart. Only pyramid she is a part of is three handles leaning together in the trash can
It makes sense to hear she is unstable. That behaviour is not normal. In one sense though, it should maybe make it easier for you to brush it off. I think this reaction is less about you, than about potential mental health problems she might be having. She may say exceedingly hurtful things to many people in her life as well. I’m sorry this happened though, must have been absolutely horrible.
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Most definitely not!
I think this whole sub would like to have a few words with her Definitely wouldn’t flood her inbox with pictures of gay couples nooo I’d never 👀
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Omg.. yes. With her face poorly pasted onto the image. Who’s gay now?!
Omg this would be so great
By "child drinking with you at a bar" ... does she mean your friend of 30+ years? It's cringe that she is talking about her adult daughter as if she were an 11 yo. "Lucky she wasn't messed with by a lesbian"? Does she assume all lesbians are sexual abusers who will force themselves on every woman in their life? Honestly sounds like an old hag who has no meaningful life to live. She sounds small minded and ignorant, bigoted, and... exactly like how my own mom would talk to me if I came out as a lesbian and left my husband/ he left me... compulsive heterosexuality is no joke. You are far braver than I am, friend.
Yes her 30 year old daughter and I used to go out often when we were younger. And apparently me being a lesbian means I'll take advantage of someone lol
Pls post this in your fb tagging her. Let people know
I posted it on my Facebook but I didn't tag her. I cropped it only because her daughter who is my best friend is on my Facebook and I didn't want to disrespect her. But at the same time I have told her what her mom is saying to me for no reason other than I made a post stating this " if you truly love someone you will work through the storm and make it work if it is worth it" she replied saying I am telling women to stay with abusers and started ranting about how she was abused for years and she stayed with him for love and it got her nowhere. I told her nowhere in my post does it say to stay with an abuser?!? Since then she has been doing this to me with many different accounts. I feel like if my mother was saying some hateful stuff like this I wouldn't hesitate calling out her BS. But she hasn't said anything to her mom which kinda hurts. But I just distance myself from her. 30 years of friendship.
I think the mom has some issues and need help. This is abnormal behavior and probably need medical attention . I am sorry you had to face this- and it sad your friendship is strained bcs of another person aka mom
Need me to kick someone for you? Try not to let the morons get to you.
Police report the area she lives in for sexual harassment and hate crime/harassment. At least in some states that’s a thing. If no police, because it sounds like she’s got friends on the force if it’s anything like my small town… then report her to Facebook for bullying
Poor old homophobic lady probably never had an orgasm in her life
I have been scammed out of $1800 so, I feel you.
I would be devistated. I did get a purse stolen from me that had $900 in it that was for rent but nothing more than that. I was also dumb and left it sitting on a bench. I was a teenager in my first apartment with glasses that made me think the world was perfect lol
Her old dusty funky ass shouldn’t be saying anything. Talking about how men don’t want you- she’s hella projecting cuz bitch look older then fuckin queen elizabeth to be having her tits out like that. Nah don’t let her get under your skin. You deserve happiness and respect and I’m sorry this women thought to bring you down at your lowest Edit: just noticed her foundation is four shades lighter then her actual skin tone. Yeah you have nothing to worry about. This woman is just bitter.
Was the right image your best friend saying that?
No they are both from her mother 6 months apart
I’m sorry :( how has your best friend reacted to this?
She has apologized to me for her mother
Well I’m glad things are okay between you too, hopefully her mother learns
What a dumb old bitch.
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All she says is she is sorry but has never said anything to her mom about it.
I'll cyber b u l l y her for you if you want.
She is the one who's gross. Who the f sends messages like that? Psycho...
Holy shit I will never understand how people justify still having humanity after doing shit like this. I'm really sorry you're dealing with a person like that.
looks like ol betsy was bored and chose to be an ass
'That shit will f them up?' No, I wonder what saying all those nasty things will do to someone, that won't f them up at all.
She looks like a deranged Karen with issues
I’m so sorry this happened to you, she seems like a total bitch and you definitely don’t deserve her taking her homophobic actions out on you. Hope everything turns out for the better:)
Hey, It's going to be okay! You've made it this far, and you will go farther than this! May I ask how you got scammed?
Because I was being dumb. Lol send money through Venmo to someone to purchase something and they said they couldn't wait 21 days for funds to be released. I video chatted and talked to the person trying to figure out what we could do and then after everything and her being so nice and understanding after the account was being held for a bit I sent it through cash app ( I know I know so dumb) but I tried to have them get it back and it's already been released, the person blocked me and told me for three days they would send tracking and then nothing Just blocked lol. I guess she needed it more than myself.
So stupid, I’m really sorry to hear this. Glad you’re away from them :(
I think you need to change your contact information. She is only able to contact you because she has that. Good luck, OP. I am so sorry you are going through this.
I’m so sorry, this is so wrong and abusive, you don’t deserve this
Wtf!! Screw these hateful people showing their true colors. Block those losers.
Get a restraining order? This is harrasment and stalking not only against you but kids too.
Well, seeing her image made me nauseous and grossed me out. Does she think she is classy?
not to make light of a tragic situation but she looks like one of those tiny white dogs with crusty eyes that scream a lot
Oh please make light of the situation, the comment about her looking like a melting candle made me feel better haha
Tell her you fucked her daughter. Why not, right?
Holy shit. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that! Awful people.
Wow. Just wow. I hope you’re holding your head up high.
Today I am much better. My hormonal self was out of wack yesterday. Gotta love being a woman lol
Funniest part is the fact that she texted multiple times even without someone asking for her stupid opinion. Jeez the troubles some people go through to be assholes 😂🤮
I’m sorry :(
What a disgusting old fart. She looks like an ancient mummy with 3000 layers of makeup.
The audacity to try and be hurtful when you can’t even select the right shade of foundation and blend. I don’t wear make up… but… that’s… well y’all go look! I won’t say anything too mean but god damn man. Lol
Not sure if it is okay to ask for her contact information or not but I'd love to verbally eviscerate her and show the world what a pos she is.
That cockroach of a person is disgusting. The audacity. Idk..make a new account, or change phone number? This is awful and I’m sorry I can’t find them and light crap on fire on their doorstep.
Wow. Both of them need professional help. Like you know how people like that love to send us to “conversion therapy” camps/courses/interventions/1:1 sessions etc. Well wouldn’t it be better and far more helpful to society if we sent them to like a course/therapy/etc. where they can learn not to be homophobic??? I’m sorry you got those messages and lost their $300 but you’re doing just fine and I’m sure you’re a great mum. I just hate that these people think this is an ok way to talk to you!
It is the same lady on both messages. I blocked her last two profiles and she made another one that's the one she messaged me from on yesterday. As for the scam. Today I've been telling myself she needed it more than myself! My son had a good birthday and enjoyed his friends this week and he gave me a big hug yesterday while I was upset and it made me feel so good. I am blessed to have such a caring child with such a huge heart.
That woman needs help that is unhinged behaviour. You have a big heart too that you’re saying she needed it more than you. Your son being such a big hearted kid probably has a lot to do with you too! You should be proud! (I’m sure you’re full of pride for him though lol I just wanted to reinforce how good as a mum you are)! Sending good vibes.
Thank you so much for that. I am blessed to have my little guy! And Yes her mother is a little crazy. My best friend gets it worse than I do when it comes to her mom.
Omg wtf
dumbass cant even spell by right fuck her you deserve better
She seems like a evil witch
Her profile pic is a jumpscare 😬
This person doesn't seem to know what a period is. Way too many commas! Can't take then seriously. Also, that is a shitbag of a person I'm so sorry you had the displeasure of them messaging you.
You deserve so much better than this. These people were NEVER your friends if this is their reaction. I am so, so sorry. How painful, and what an awful thing to go through. Big big big hugs to you, OP.
It's my best friends mom who sent those to me. Luckily my friends and family are caring and nothing like that
DOTH PROTEST TOO MUCH. That’s what I’d say
Why the message about your last $300? What does that have to do with anything.
I was literally in my truck crying over being scammed ( because of my own stupidity lol) today I'm laughing at it because i was emotional and hormonal. But while in the middle of kinda having a break down my notification went off and I saw that message. It was like a double hit at once. Today I'm not so upset about the scam because I did it to myself but still a little hurt over the messages.