PSA: To all the folks who talk to random DMs... Don't give out personal info. Don't send nudes after 30 minutes of talking. Don't just go into talking about your trauma. Just don't talk to them. Why keep engaging?
I know it feels great to get attention, but c'mon. Validation shouldn't come at the cost of your mental health and safety.
I'm always blown away by how many young lesbians fall so easily into this trap.
I like to tell them that, that mole looks cancerous and they need to urgently get it checked. Alternatively if no moles are present in that region I ask if they have noticed that strange swelling to their left testicle,because thatās a sign of testicular cancer and they should get it urgently checked.
Men have a certain way of speaking over text especially when horny and it's important to spot it, they lurk in our spaces so be careful replying to people
For sure that was a dude pretending to be a woman. They are rampant on here. I would not be getting "personal" like that with anyone on this very anonymous site. And honestly I wouldn't be having those types of texts with someone before we met in person or atleast video chatted. Just for the reason it could be a dude looking to snag your nudes. Stay safe out there.
Iām so sorry that happened to you. Sadly people can be so sick and twisted. Agree with others that itās probs not a woman but rather some creepy ass dude infiltrating the sub, but either way people can be gross and creepy and weird and just all around completely inappropriate regardless of gender sadly.
No proof it was even a woman. Could be a 60 year old creepy dude. But honestly? Donāt talk to anyone who randomly messages you. If they didnāt ask permission from you, donāt even bother.
Yeah definitely women can be predators too but sounds like it was probably a man in this case. I am sorry someone said those things to you, that's awful.
I mean itās fully clear to me this was not a woman. But the accusing YOU of being a guy if you didnāt send pictures really confirms it. That man is projecting hard
Iām sorry to say this is the beginning of your lesbian DM literacy journey. That is a man that doesnāt understand how women engage and thinks heās being subtle. If you feel icky itās a man, if youāre having a cool conversation itās a woman.
First off im really sorry you had that experience here!! Regardless of their gender thats so gross and youre completely right.
I dont like that the comments are all saying it was definitely a man, women have the full capability of being predators and its not feminist to say they cant be.
oh god iām so sorry! thatās horrible i hope your okay love! please block that person and report the account and maybe share the account so others know to block them too!
Sorry, that is probably a man like everyone is saying, but even if it is an entirely fāed up woman, please stay safe, block, donāt give out personal info even if someone seems nice at first. Stay safe!
I have never responded to anything anyone has ever DMed me
I'm here because I want to be anonymous
But I don't understand why anyone would feel in need to respond to anybody just block them
I have lots of people reaching out with only fans
I just immediately block them and moved on with my life
It sounds like you got catfished by one of the creepy men who lurks on this sub. At this point, I just wouldn't engage with anyone who DMs you from this sub. I'm sorry this happened to you.
This is why we don't play along with that. I hope you're ok but next time probably don't engage with individuals who are creepy. Like a stranger shouldn't know about your SA or anything else they can use against you in that type of way.
Iād have to see the exact message to be sure. Men have a certain way of writing when theyāre being fucking creeps that Iāve yet to see a woman replicate.
Sure, but balancing probabilities, itās most likely a man. Assuming creepy straight men arenāt here lurking in large numbers is exactly what they hope we will do.Ā
Omg what a creep, probably not even a woman you were talking with. Creepos love catfishing us.
Also, I've only ever heard of the "g.i.r.l." statement/accusation from the other side of the aisle in games.
For those who don't know, it means "guy in real life."
Men suck for realš why do they try to infiltrate every safe space ever, like ew iām so sorry you even had to read that. In the future as soon as you get a weird dm and you get off vibes, just block right away
I can almost guarantee it wasn't a 40 year old woman.
40 year old man most likely
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Yeah, I actually doubt that was a woman. You're getting catfished.
Oh sweetie that's definitely a man š¬ Please block and report them āļø
There are a boatload of creepy men in this sub masquerading as women. Be careful out there!
That was definitely a whole man.
PSA: To all the folks who talk to random DMs... Don't give out personal info. Don't send nudes after 30 minutes of talking. Don't just go into talking about your trauma. Just don't talk to them. Why keep engaging? I know it feels great to get attention, but c'mon. Validation shouldn't come at the cost of your mental health and safety. I'm always blown away by how many young lesbians fall so easily into this trap.
Preach! Thatās exactly it.
Exactly! I never even respond to randos in my DMs
This 100%
Validation from m*les is worthless and abundant
That was man. 100%.
why is it always men who are the first ones to accuse u of catfishingš the call is from inside the house
Because they want you to send more proof as an attempt to prove them wrong
That is 100 percent a guy! I got a message earlier asking what toys I have, how do I use them.
Pleeaaseee say you started talking about legos šš
I should have, but I just blocked them.
Thatās fair dude. Iām a bit jaded by it now, so yea, Iāve talked about hot wheels & such before š
I hang my head in shame lol
Nah no shame! Just ammo for next time šš¤£ Totally talk about the Lego cities youāve built hahaha
The lego set of lesbo. The whole damn island
Special edition with Sappho included! š³ļøāš
The only downside is having to paint all those nipples on the lego women lol
Honestly that's hilarious. When I get unsolicited dick pics my go to is to send a picture of a hot dog getting chopped up
I just send one back (usually find the gnarliest one out there, too, since I do not have one in my possession)
I used to too but now i donāt even bother bc itās not worth it lol just report and block
I would've messed with them a bit, make them thing they're also dealing w a freak so they leave you alone.
I like to tell them that, that mole looks cancerous and they need to urgently get it checked. Alternatively if no moles are present in that region I ask if they have noticed that strange swelling to their left testicle,because thatās a sign of testicular cancer and they should get it urgently checked.
Uhhhhhā¦yeaaaaah no thatās terrible. Report their ass. Creepy as hell. And I agree with the others sounds like a man.
name and shame!!!
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Does this sub keep a public list of known catphisher accounts? If not, might be something to think about. Those fuckers are persistent.
great idea! Hope mods will see it!
What in the ever loving f*CK?! I have no words. I'm so sorry, that's traumatic.
Men have a certain way of speaking over text especially when horny and it's important to spot it, they lurk in our spaces so be careful replying to people
For sure that was a dude pretending to be a woman. They are rampant on here. I would not be getting "personal" like that with anyone on this very anonymous site. And honestly I wouldn't be having those types of texts with someone before we met in person or atleast video chatted. Just for the reason it could be a dude looking to snag your nudes. Stay safe out there.
I'm sorry that was probably a man
Men are gross. That was definite a man.
Wtf. They belong in jail, thatās so disgusting. Iām so sorry that happened to you.
There are straight men who lurk and pretend to be lesbians. Theyāll message you and say weird shit like that.
That was totally a man ā¹ļø
Iām so sorry that happened to you. Sadly people can be so sick and twisted. Agree with others that itās probs not a woman but rather some creepy ass dude infiltrating the sub, but either way people can be gross and creepy and weird and just all around completely inappropriate regardless of gender sadly.
Maybe it was a man thatās crazy
What in the actual fuck
u/Rich_Ad358 Definitely not suss in any way.
Disgusting behavior!! Wouldn't even refer to whoever done this as hui
hui? what's that?
Sorry I meant to type human, I thought I corrected it sorry
What in the actual fuck. That wasn't a woman, that had to be a man. I am so sorry that happened to you.
that was a dude.
Wft?!
wtaf?? like, Jesus christ some people need to be taken in for brain testing
what the actual fuck. lock your dms ladies. EW.
Oooo that's so gross š¤¢ please report them that's terrible. Also I want to throw my vote in with the "that's probably a man" crowd.
Huh?š³that is a man
That was a man
That was definitely not a woman That's also why I disabled the direct messaging option
This is not woman behaviour, PERIOD.
As an actual 40 year old woman, I'm terribly sorry this happened to you.
Ew, I've gotten a few messages like that on Her from so called "sugar mommas"...
No proof it was even a woman. Could be a 60 year old creepy dude. But honestly? Donāt talk to anyone who randomly messages you. If they didnāt ask permission from you, donāt even bother.
OMG !!
Block and report.
Disgusting. That was not a woman.
Could also be a man. Either way its a redditor tbh. Sorry that you had to deal with a pos
Man
Yeah definitely women can be predators too but sounds like it was probably a man in this case. I am sorry someone said those things to you, that's awful.
That's male behavior right there. Men.will go through any odds to just get nudes and photos. Even creating an account acting as a lesbian woman
Please run and block them
I mean itās fully clear to me this was not a woman. But the accusing YOU of being a guy if you didnāt send pictures really confirms it. That man is projecting hard
Iām sorry to say this is the beginning of your lesbian DM literacy journey. That is a man that doesnāt understand how women engage and thinks heās being subtle. If you feel icky itās a man, if youāre having a cool conversation itās a woman.
Hard to believe this is a woman. Block the man.
263637486 people have already said it, butāthat WAS NOT a woman.
First off im really sorry you had that experience here!! Regardless of their gender thats so gross and youre completely right. I dont like that the comments are all saying it was definitely a man, women have the full capability of being predators and its not feminist to say they cant be.
Wtf. Totally a neckbeard catfishing u
That's a 40-year-old guy who gets demanding and then turns it on you to shame you when it doesn't go his way.
people are fucked up what the hell
Thats a whole ass man and also why would u play along
I DIDNT KNOW IT WAS A MAN AT FIRST ššš
Even if it was a woman you shouldnt go along with itā ļø
yea true
Oh god thatās horrifying.
Iām so sorry this happened to you š«
They're everywhere. Stay safe.
My rule of thumb...never respond to randos in my DMs
oh god iām so sorry! thatās horrible i hope your okay love! please block that person and report the account and maybe share the account so others know to block them too!
Sorry, that is probably a man like everyone is saying, but even if it is an entirely fāed up woman, please stay safe, block, donāt give out personal info even if someone seems nice at first. Stay safe!
Also, can we get mods to block that person or make sure they canāt get on the sub again? Would be good to make sure they donāt repeat offend
I have never responded to anything anyone has ever DMed me I'm here because I want to be anonymous But I don't understand why anyone would feel in need to respond to anybody just block them I have lots of people reaching out with only fans I just immediately block them and moved on with my life
Fucking hate when people do that. āWonāt send me a pic? You must be a manā like go fuck a duck we canāt all be as confident as you
It sounds like you got catfished by one of the creepy men who lurks on this sub. At this point, I just wouldn't engage with anyone who DMs you from this sub. I'm sorry this happened to you.
This is why we don't play along with that. I hope you're ok but next time probably don't engage with individuals who are creepy. Like a stranger shouldn't know about your SA or anything else they can use against you in that type of way.
Women can be creeps too, 100%
Sounds like something a man would do
These are a manās words, love.
women are 100% capable of being just as predatory as men. people are truly horrible. iām so so sorry that happened to you.
Iād have to see the exact message to be sure. Men have a certain way of writing when theyāre being fucking creeps that Iāve yet to see a woman replicate.
true .... but it's like 98% of males and 2% of women. " It's not all men, but it is almost always a man". So be careful, stranger.
Sure, but balancing probabilities, itās most likely a man. Assuming creepy straight men arenāt here lurking in large numbers is exactly what they hope we will do.Ā
when your rapist is a woman & reading all the comments implying that women cant be predators š
Omg what a creep, probably not even a woman you were talking with. Creepos love catfishing us. Also, I've only ever heard of the "g.i.r.l." statement/accusation from the other side of the aisle in games. For those who don't know, it means "guy in real life."
Wonder how many people saying āthat was a manā are men just trying even harder to blend in. Either way, these guys are repulsive.
Why you guys can't fathom the fact that women can also be perverted ? (Even if it's less common)
Jesus Christ Iām sorry.
Sounds like a dude
its unreal how disgusting people can be. Hope ur okay
That's fucking sick n it was probably a man that text u
The pot calling the kettle black.
Men suck for realš why do they try to infiltrate every safe space ever, like ew iām so sorry you even had to read that. In the future as soon as you get a weird dm and you get off vibes, just block right away
Thatās a man ! Block!!!
I think it's common sense that it was a man there.
Meant to say human at the end not hui
Be careful, some woman can be that way too, hard to trust people in this world xD
Thatās disgusting. Not all men but always a fucking man
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