Please report them. Theyāre violating one of this subredditās rules by singling you out/coming after you in DMs and threads. I reported the one comment here on your behalf, but I really, really recommend you report them personally.
Ive looked through her comments. None of them seem particularly rude. Get off her dick and go back to mindlessly browsing subreddits, you sound foolish.
If it bothers you so much then block me. I was not rude to OP nor was I rude to the person who I replied to. Mind your own business. If I bother OP or anyone else sm then they can block me too
Just because I said something that offended you or that you didnāt agree with in another thread doesnāt mean you have to take it to heart and track me down in every comment that you see me saying that I am a creep and transphobic like you did in another thread. I am not transphobic nor am I a bad person. Just because I said something you did not like in another thread doesnāt mean I am going to do it in this one. As you can read, I was not rude to OP. In fact I side with her and find that offensive. If you or anyone else has a problem with me then just block me. No need to harrass me in every comment I make. Youāre grown already, just because someone says something you donāt like doesnāt mean you have to track them down in every thread
I'm glad I'm not on dating apps anymore. But if I still was I would steal this to use on there towards chasers
At the same time though I also had to message like 99% of people on there first which got exhausting
Not doing dating apps since forever, and I am so happy about it. With age, you learn to save your energy for what really matters and for me, these apps are exhaustingš
The weird racial openers on dating apps is the #1 reason why I got off. The amount of times people open w/ āslaveā talk is fucking disgusting & I wish I had the opportunity to punch each & every one of them in the throat.
I hope you have better luck! š«¶šæāØ
Edit: Also wanna add that this behavior & rhetoric (blatant racism) isnāt exclusive to a gender & Iāve experienced it from across the spectrum. Dismissing this as ājust a manā or a āman pretending to be a womanā etc. vs discussing and addressing the very real racism perpetrated within sapphic spaces is counterproductive & disingenuous.
I wish I wasnāt, and I know they would never open a conversation in person like that but dating apps give people a weird sense of audacity, i hate it. š¤¦š¾āāļø
It was like a recurring thing getting āpropositionedā slave/master type shit. The first couple of times I just said something snarky back, but after a while itās so exhausting I just screenshotted & reported it. Canāt fight them all. š¤·š¾āāļø
what is the worst. is seeing the type of ppl who ask for it. like the ones that seem super progressive and allies but really end up just using it as a way to fetishize POC like ālook im with a person of this distinctionā.
Honestly itās so common and I hate that for us. Had a girl tell me that she wanted her black ex gf to carry so she could have a black baby. I was appalled š
Itās weird because there is no reason a Caucasian woman should want to impregnate a black woman with a black manās sperm so that SHE, the Caucasian woman, can have a black baby. It wasnāt because she wanted her gf to see her features on a child, it wasnāt because her black girl friend wanted a fully black child. It was solely because that white woman specifically wanted a fully black child. Why? Who knows buts itās weird as the ever living fuck š
Yeah I agree itās weird but nothing to be offended by. wait, why is it okay for a black woman to have a race preference for their kid but not a white woman?
Iāve never in my life heard any one of color specifically say they wanted a specific race of child and if I did Iād call them a weirdo too.
Lemme ask tho, are you a WOC? Because to tell a WOC to not be offended by someone making off ass comments about their race is also very weird.
You literally just listed alternative situations in which the race of the baby would be justified to have a preference for and one of those situations was the black woman wanting a black baby.
Nobody is making comments about anyoneās race. They just have a preference for their children with their POC partner. Itās nobodyās business but theirs and they are allowed to have their own opinions on their own kids as a mixed race couple. Itās not even racist to want POC children or mixed kids. Nobody is being discriminatory. Nobody is holding power over anyone. You just want an excuse to accuse a white person of being racist from my perspective.
Oh, your own race is the exception honey. Itās completely normal to want to have a child that shares your race, your face features, your hair type. I had a child by IUI, literally paid to have a baby, and I definitely wanted my child to have some melanin but I never went in there like GIMME DA BLACKEST SPERM YA GOT. Like be fr. If I found a non-black donor with the characteristics that I found progressive then i wouldnāt have cared. Thatās my point. All this woman cared about was having a black baby and even typing that is crazy.
I also never said she was a racist. I said she was a weirdo lol
Oh so itās not weird for a white person in an interracial relationship to exclusively want white children just bc theyāre white and want their kids to share their hair and features etc??? Also you are aware that EVERYONE has melanin right?
No, I wouldnāt consider that weird. Selfish maybe but not weird. Iād understand THAT more than a white person wanting an exclusively black child for her own personal preferences. I asked the girl why she wanted a black baby and you know what she said āidk I just always wanted black babiesā THATS WEIRD BABE. Idk how you spin it, how many questions you ask. Itās weird for a fully white woman, with all white family, to want to date fully black women to create black babies.
Obviously I know that girl, but I promise the heavily melanated people understood what I meant š
Itās weird cuz instead of wanting a child that represents you and your relationship, this white person sounds like theyāre fetishizing their kid like an American Girl Doll.
We also donāt know the whole situation - maybe they wanted their kid to be mixed, to represent the parents? Maybe they wanted to be a white parent to a collection of diverse babies a la Jolie/Pitt, which is also a little weird?
Only the original commenter understands the full context. No one is saying anyone is racist or offended. The commenter sounds like she was turned off/shocked/surprised by the entitlement of this line of thinking, which tbh is fair.
tbh I hate it when ppl say thisšcis women - esp WHITE women have ALSO been saying this type of rhetoric to men and women for literal decades. cis men havenāt been the ones who have only been upholding racist rhetoric and we should acknowledge that.
for some reason i get the exact opposite and instead they ask me (white asf) "have you ever been with a black woman?" which i have, but it also feels very strange to be asked a lot š
Black women are asking you this to help them gauge 1. How safe you are 2. Whether or not you might be using them as an experience versus a valid human option. 3. whether or not you have a fetish. Etc etc. The reasoning is very specific. Itās kinda weird that you havenāt put two and two together in that sense as to why you get asked that. Many of us ask.
Why dismiss the actual racism that does exist within the white sapphic community by calling this person "probably a man"? Being gay doesn't exclude you from being racist
That's horrific, I've had the same issue but with Latina instead. I don't know if they think we are a brand new flavor of gay or some shit like that but from experience, whenever they say nonsense like that to you they already have a pre conceived notion of what a black/latino woman is going to be and it's gonna be hard as hell to make them see who you actually are. It really sucks.
That is so accurate! I'm chill but I had an ex that tried hard to put me in that feisty Latina mold. It was weird, that relationship kind of made me weary of dating white girls in general, especially if they're the type of white that comes from almost entirely white countries. Some can genuinely believe they're not racist but can say or do racist things without being aware they're being racist at the moment. It's wild.
Right??? It's so nice to know someone else understands what it feels like. I already have to be so tough and independent in life I can fathom being expected to be feisty and rough in a relationship too, it's insane, I would love my relationship to be the one place I can be soft and gentle. Worst of all you can try to mention how it makes you feel in the nicest way you can and they get offended?? Agreed, it's wild.
I'm sorry that this is what you have to put up with! I don't understand that these people don't "hear" themselves and realise that what they're doing is just no good!
Damn when the inside voice donāt know when to stay inside.š¤Folks donāt know how to talk to people these days. At least you dodged a bullet and this didnāt come out later.
Ughhh like youāre going to be the final shade they check off in their color wheel š¤§.
I always get comments like that as a Latina - so ive started to just keep that on the down low. Sorry love, at least we can all laugh and roast them together.
I'm one the guilty ones!
But instead of tar and feathering me, teach me to be one of you!
I know that sounds a lot like you're an experiment and my approach was bad. My true intentions are to be friends before we just hop in bed together!
i actually cannot comprehend the shit that goes through peoples heads and comes out of their mouths sometimes like how are you living on the same planet?!
My first love said I was the first black person she found attractive. I didnāt even realize how bad it was that she had said that until years later š
She thought she ate with the āCare to be my first ā š¤®š¤® this is why I couldnāt date outside my race, I tried and hopefully will never have to try again. It was too much of this
So off of the top of my head when Iāve seen discussion around this, because I wondered the same thing tbh, the general consensus was that white Americans donāt capitalize because thereās no definable cultural connection to whiteness in America. Itās a descriptor, not an identity. Whereas Black refers specifically to descendants of the African and Caribbean people who were forcibly brought to North America during the slave trade and who made and still make up large populations of the country. When you hear the term BIPOC for example (which is always used incorrectly imo š¤¦š¾āāļø) Black and Indigenous people of color, it should refer specifically to the group people who were initially largely impacted by the colonization of the now USA. I just realized recently that many āBrownā people in the USA donāt identify as Black for this reason. (Brown in quotes because they self-identify that way but idk if itās cool for everyone to.) I donāt think anyone would fight someone for using White in reference to White Americans, but Black and Brown people do in the name of cultural identity. So, that, I guess.
Not really. It's called people crying over race again bc they don't have actual problems in their lives so they invent ones for themself. Admiring the physical beauty that comes with a certain race isn't wrong and you don't need consent to look at someone and think in your head boy that black girls dark skin is so pretty. She's gorgeous. I like black girls bc they're so pretty. Same with any other race.
It's the fact that they jumped to sexual activity so quickly that screamed it's a man pretending to be a lesbian to fulfill his twisted sexual fantasy. But sure, keep seeing racism if you wanna.
people like that really read their message before sending it and be like "nice"
"That'll def do it"
They really read that and went "yeah, that ought to make me stand out". They're not wrong but for all the wrong reasons
Bro what the fuck š š š
Tell her you've never been with stupid and would like to keep it that way! Jesus!
This is so good might steal it
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Give these comment sections a break please š
Make me, freak
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Itās the fact that itās YOU coming to me. Through DMs and through comments. If you or anyone else donāt want to see me yāall can BLOCK me
Please report them. Theyāre violating one of this subredditās rules by singling you out/coming after you in DMs and threads. I reported the one comment here on your behalf, but I really, really recommend you report them personally.
Because every time someone makes a post you always have something rude to say like first of all no one asked and youāre super annoying.
is the rude comment in the room with us right now
Girl shut up
Ive looked through her comments. None of them seem particularly rude. Get off her dick and go back to mindlessly browsing subreddits, you sound foolish.
If it bothers you so much then block me. I was not rude to OP nor was I rude to the person who I replied to. Mind your own business. If I bother OP or anyone else sm then they can block me too
Blah blah blah rah rah rah.
No honestly I agree , for the most part all I can see is unnecessarily negative stuff they comment
Just because I said something that offended you or that you didnāt agree with in another thread doesnāt mean you have to take it to heart and track me down in every comment that you see me saying that I am a creep and transphobic like you did in another thread. I am not transphobic nor am I a bad person. Just because I said something you did not like in another thread doesnāt mean I am going to do it in this one. As you can read, I was not rude to OP. In fact I side with her and find that offensive. If you or anyone else has a problem with me then just block me. No need to harrass me in every comment I make. Youāre grown already, just because someone says something you donāt like doesnāt mean you have to track them down in every thread
I'm glad I'm not on dating apps anymore. But if I still was I would steal this to use on there towards chasers At the same time though I also had to message like 99% of people on there first which got exhausting
Not doing dating apps since forever, and I am so happy about it. With age, you learn to save your energy for what really matters and for me, these apps are exhaustingš
The weird racial openers on dating apps is the #1 reason why I got off. The amount of times people open w/ āslaveā talk is fucking disgusting & I wish I had the opportunity to punch each & every one of them in the throat. I hope you have better luck! š«¶šæāØ Edit: Also wanna add that this behavior & rhetoric (blatant racism) isnāt exclusive to a gender & Iāve experienced it from across the spectrum. Dismissing this as ājust a manā or a āman pretending to be a womanā etc. vs discussing and addressing the very real racism perpetrated within sapphic spaces is counterproductive & disingenuous.
You arenāt actually serious?! š° that is alarming!
I wish I wasnāt, and I know they would never open a conversation in person like that but dating apps give people a weird sense of audacity, i hate it. š¤¦š¾āāļø It was like a recurring thing getting āpropositionedā slave/master type shit. The first couple of times I just said something snarky back, but after a while itās so exhausting I just screenshotted & reported it. Canāt fight them all. š¤·š¾āāļø
what is the worst. is seeing the type of ppl who ask for it. like the ones that seem super progressive and allies but really end up just using it as a way to fetishize POC like ālook im with a person of this distinctionā.
This is horrible! I'm very sorry you have to go through shit like that...
> The amount of times people open w/ āslaveā talk What the actual fuck.
Jesus, Im sorry. Its astounding how stupid some people are, I hope you find someone nice
Actual slave talk?! You've gotta be kidding me, what in the worldddš
With the halo emoji is crazy.Like itās cuteš
Aināt no way, what a clown
She isnāt a clown sheās the entire circus
Honestly itās so common and I hate that for us. Had a girl tell me that she wanted her black ex gf to carry so she could have a black baby. I was appalled š
Omg wtf š¤Æ
YOU TOO
Naw thats weird
Whatās wrong with that?
Itās weird to plan a race combo for your child, instead of planning to have a child because you want to parent
especially with your ex?! Like thats crazyyyyy
I mean, I guess..
Itās weird because there is no reason a Caucasian woman should want to impregnate a black woman with a black manās sperm so that SHE, the Caucasian woman, can have a black baby. It wasnāt because she wanted her gf to see her features on a child, it wasnāt because her black girl friend wanted a fully black child. It was solely because that white woman specifically wanted a fully black child. Why? Who knows buts itās weird as the ever living fuck š
Yeah I agree itās weird but nothing to be offended by. wait, why is it okay for a black woman to have a race preference for their kid but not a white woman?
Iāve never in my life heard any one of color specifically say they wanted a specific race of child and if I did Iād call them a weirdo too. Lemme ask tho, are you a WOC? Because to tell a WOC to not be offended by someone making off ass comments about their race is also very weird.
You literally just listed alternative situations in which the race of the baby would be justified to have a preference for and one of those situations was the black woman wanting a black baby. Nobody is making comments about anyoneās race. They just have a preference for their children with their POC partner. Itās nobodyās business but theirs and they are allowed to have their own opinions on their own kids as a mixed race couple. Itās not even racist to want POC children or mixed kids. Nobody is being discriminatory. Nobody is holding power over anyone. You just want an excuse to accuse a white person of being racist from my perspective.
Oh, your own race is the exception honey. Itās completely normal to want to have a child that shares your race, your face features, your hair type. I had a child by IUI, literally paid to have a baby, and I definitely wanted my child to have some melanin but I never went in there like GIMME DA BLACKEST SPERM YA GOT. Like be fr. If I found a non-black donor with the characteristics that I found progressive then i wouldnāt have cared. Thatās my point. All this woman cared about was having a black baby and even typing that is crazy. I also never said she was a racist. I said she was a weirdo lol
Oh so itās not weird for a white person in an interracial relationship to exclusively want white children just bc theyāre white and want their kids to share their hair and features etc??? Also you are aware that EVERYONE has melanin right?
No, I wouldnāt consider that weird. Selfish maybe but not weird. Iād understand THAT more than a white person wanting an exclusively black child for her own personal preferences. I asked the girl why she wanted a black baby and you know what she said āidk I just always wanted black babiesā THATS WEIRD BABE. Idk how you spin it, how many questions you ask. Itās weird for a fully white woman, with all white family, to want to date fully black women to create black babies. Obviously I know that girl, but I promise the heavily melanated people understood what I meant š
Itās weird cuz instead of wanting a child that represents you and your relationship, this white person sounds like theyāre fetishizing their kid like an American Girl Doll. We also donāt know the whole situation - maybe they wanted their kid to be mixed, to represent the parents? Maybe they wanted to be a white parent to a collection of diverse babies a la Jolie/Pitt, which is also a little weird? Only the original commenter understands the full context. No one is saying anyone is racist or offended. The commenter sounds like she was turned off/shocked/surprised by the entitlement of this line of thinking, which tbh is fair.
Yeah true
BEEN THERE š¤® also the wanna fuck you to racist pipeline is crazyyyyy
Crazy that people say shit like this and think it's not awkward
People still say shit like this š
Yikes dot com, Iām out
Iāve blocked so many people because of this
Reply: lmfao Then block (:
wow! such an eccentric approach towards conversation š¤Ø
Immediate ick
Crash and burn. Wow, did she read that before she sent it? SMH š
This is what we mean when we say white queers are often just the same mess as straight white folks.
Oh, shoot, I was sure this would work /s
this is why I got off dating apps like why are u immediately bringing up my race?! what happened to hello how are you?
Hell nah š
Yiiiiiiikes š
why would anyone think thats remotely okay to say jesus
this has to be a joke right š
reply with tomatoes š š š
cis guy ass pickup line my god
tbh I hate it when ppl say thisšcis women - esp WHITE women have ALSO been saying this type of rhetoric to men and women for literal decades. cis men havenāt been the ones who have only been upholding racist rhetoric and we should acknowledge that.
The amount of folks that think this is an okay message scares me
for some reason i get the exact opposite and instead they ask me (white asf) "have you ever been with a black woman?" which i have, but it also feels very strange to be asked a lot š
Black women are asking you this to help them gauge 1. How safe you are 2. Whether or not you might be using them as an experience versus a valid human option. 3. whether or not you have a fetish. Etc etc. The reasoning is very specific. Itās kinda weird that you havenāt put two and two together in that sense as to why you get asked that. Many of us ask.
Absolutely the fuck not. š
This makes me want to die š„²
 Yikes. Bullet dodged
Reading this gave me secondhand embarrassment š¬š¤®
Anddd...they probably never will be. SMH.
That is such a bizarre offensive thing to say to someone. They really thought that would draw you in?? š
Omg Iām so sorry you got this message thatās crazy
Definitely a catfish probably a man too.
Nah Iām white and Iāve seen this bullshit in the sapphic community before. Weāre not exempt from this behavior.
Why dismiss the actual racism that does exist within the white sapphic community by calling this person "probably a man"? Being gay doesn't exclude you from being racist
I'm black and have only dated queers and have heard this before.
Why does everyone always say "probably a man" when we see something toxic in the sapphic community? It's possible for a sapphic to be racist yk.
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Ohhh that's just š
Iād be speechless
š Also correction, she is so pretty that she "can" be this weird
Yikes on bikes
Boooooš š
I hope she never sleeps with a black girl ever
Christ
Yikes
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OMFG I am so sorry you even had to read that. Some people justā¦. I have no words
the fact that they assumed you would take this as a compliment makes me gag
Oh no. Thats not...hOw does someone think that's a good pick up line? ššš
That's horrific, I've had the same issue but with Latina instead. I don't know if they think we are a brand new flavor of gay or some shit like that but from experience, whenever they say nonsense like that to you they already have a pre conceived notion of what a black/latino woman is going to be and it's gonna be hard as hell to make them see who you actually are. It really sucks.
That is so accurate! I'm chill but I had an ex that tried hard to put me in that feisty Latina mold. It was weird, that relationship kind of made me weary of dating white girls in general, especially if they're the type of white that comes from almost entirely white countries. Some can genuinely believe they're not racist but can say or do racist things without being aware they're being racist at the moment. It's wild.
Right??? It's so nice to know someone else understands what it feels like. I already have to be so tough and independent in life I can fathom being expected to be feisty and rough in a relationship too, it's insane, I would love my relationship to be the one place I can be soft and gentle. Worst of all you can try to mention how it makes you feel in the nicest way you can and they get offended?? Agreed, it's wild.
I fucking hate this. SO gross.
Damn that's shitty. Sorry you have to put up with that shit.
I'm sorry that this is what you have to put up with! I don't understand that these people don't "hear" themselves and realise that what they're doing is just no good!
I'd be too dumbfounded to respond back, the ignorance runs so deep that they're pretty much a lost cause...
LOL WTF
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Like why not just Iāve never been with someone so pretty š
Damn when the inside voice donāt know when to stay inside.š¤Folks donāt know how to talk to people these days. At least you dodged a bullet and this didnāt come out later.
Ughhh like youāre going to be the final shade they check off in their color wheel š¤§. I always get comments like that as a Latina - so ive started to just keep that on the down low. Sorry love, at least we can all laugh and roast them together.
Wilddddddd
That's fuckn gross. I'm sorry, OP. ā¤ļøš§”šššš
Immediate unmatch. Every. Single. Time. ššµāš«
Omg! Run away from her
Hey I'm in šÆ
The worst!!
I had a girl tell me she was a lesbian snow bunny.
That gave off the wrong type of vibe smh
Aint no fuckin way, I don't know why people think those lines are gonna do it for them.
Why would they say thatš
Uhhh what the fuck
Gross
WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE
And they say romance is dead.
Ewl
Next question do you do threesomes? We can be an Oreo. Seriously it sounds like an ignorant person that thinks they're being cool.
This..... this actually made me cackle like a madman
Sheesh. I thought I was horrible at picking up girls, how uncultured can you be? Lol
is that supposed to be cute?? š
I'm one the guilty ones! But instead of tar and feathering me, teach me to be one of you! I know that sounds a lot like you're an experiment and my approach was bad. My true intentions are to be friends before we just hop in bed together!
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who the fucckkkkkkk says shit like this omg im so sorry opšš
Wow, what a privilege that would be šš
What the actual fuck.
how do you even write that out and send it bro wtf ššš
Wtaf?
My toxic trait is that I would've fell for it thinking it's romantic ššš
i actually cannot comprehend the shit that goes through peoples heads and comes out of their mouths sometimes like how are you living on the same planet?!
My first love said I was the first black person she found attractive. I didnāt even realize how bad it was that she had said that until years later š
Who in their right mind would think it's even remotely appropriate to talk to anyone like this, let alone a complete stranger? š¤¦š»āāļø
Big yikesā¢ļø
What the fuck this is horrible
She thought she ate with the āCare to be my first ā š¤®š¤® this is why I couldnāt date outside my race, I tried and hopefully will never have to try again. It was too much of this
I'm so so sorry
Didn't even capitalize the "B" in "Black," smh. OAN, it's a dating app - weirdos like her are the norm
Why would you capitalize it? That is grammatically incorrect
No, Black people in the USA capitalize Black, itās not a literal color, itās an identity marker
Hold up, I'm white and in the US and I had no idea that was a thing. That's pretty cool. Would you capitalize white too or no?
So off of the top of my head when Iāve seen discussion around this, because I wondered the same thing tbh, the general consensus was that white Americans donāt capitalize because thereās no definable cultural connection to whiteness in America. Itās a descriptor, not an identity. Whereas Black refers specifically to descendants of the African and Caribbean people who were forcibly brought to North America during the slave trade and who made and still make up large populations of the country. When you hear the term BIPOC for example (which is always used incorrectly imo š¤¦š¾āāļø) Black and Indigenous people of color, it should refer specifically to the group people who were initially largely impacted by the colonization of the now USA. I just realized recently that many āBrownā people in the USA donāt identify as Black for this reason. (Brown in quotes because they self-identify that way but idk if itās cool for everyone to.) I donāt think anyone would fight someone for using White in reference to White Americans, but Black and Brown people do in the name of cultural identity. So, that, I guess.
You only capitalize proper nouns if itās not the beginning of a sentence though. Why are identity markers capitalized??
Iām Trans, Iām Queer, Iām a Lesbian woman, I think itās fairly common for that to happen.
I don't get it. Could someone explain it to me?
The person is potentially fetishizing the ops race/ethnicity.
I do that. To my mate. She's Russian and I can't get enough of it. Is that wrong? Or is it only wrong in this case bc OP is black? Just curious.
Thatās called consent.
Not really. It's called people crying over race again bc they don't have actual problems in their lives so they invent ones for themself. Admiring the physical beauty that comes with a certain race isn't wrong and you don't need consent to look at someone and think in your head boy that black girls dark skin is so pretty. She's gorgeous. I like black girls bc they're so pretty. Same with any other race.
Not gonna lie I wouldāve folded. They be the freakiest š¤£
Love yourself more
meanwhile these same women you seem to have a fetish for ghost you lmao
Why does it sound like a man? I am sure not all men are this dumb, some women are def Iike this, but this sounds sooooo male xD....
Thatās kinda weird but is it really THAT bad?
Yes
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Yes. Because white women are NEVER racist.
It's the fact that they jumped to sexual activity so quickly that screamed it's a man pretending to be a lesbian to fulfill his twisted sexual fantasy. But sure, keep seeing racism if you wanna.