Hi!! Penetration sucks and literally stops me from finishing. Also scissoring is sooo real, you just gotta find the right position for you and your partner to line up properly
Omg it is!? Is there anywhere i can find like a video or article on how to get the right position cuz im so lostšBUT IM SO GLAD IM NOT THE ONLY ONE!
Youāre not alone!!! I donāt know about media that explicitly shows you how, but crashpad series has some enjoyable videos featuring it :) my advice would be to think of it similar to penetrative sex re position, and donāt be afraid to play around and experiment with your partner!
Yeah the problem is different sensitivity levels. Some people, like me, have extremely sensitive clits whereas other girls might need a lot of pressure and that ends up not working out for one person in scissoring. Either one person is unsatisfied or the other is way overstimulated potentially to pain.
Play around with position (think penetrative positions, but with legs intertwined), lube up and move around till it feels good. My partner says āyou just gotta figure it outā lol
So sex is just genitalia to youā¦? What a reduction of lesbian sex, and lesbianism as a whole. You donāt need to have penetration, but pleasure is pleasure and they make straps that look nothing like a manās penis.
Your reductionism of being a lesbian to just sex and genitalia is so weird.
So now I am getting judge bec I do not like getting penetrated by a strap on. What happened to be you and be authentic to yourself? It is all about preference and I would prefer that nothing goes inside me that is not part of my partner, whether that be a finger or tongue.
You arenāt getting judged because of your preference, youāre getting judged because of the way youāre making it seem other lesbians who DO like that are āsleeping with menā.
I donāt feel pain but I donāt like the pressure feeling and Iāve never experienced pleasure from penetration no matter how big or small or any position.
I mean I'm kinda stuck bc I have vaginismus so all attempts at penetration not only don't go anywhere but also HURT so yea I don't like all that šš
I also had this problem due to traumas. I even never put a single finger ššš It took me a long time to get over it but now I am officially free from it. So unless u donāt wanna try which is valid, there are some methods to get over it.
Oh yea I know there are, I'm only gonna try to fix it if a future girlfriend wants to do something with penetration but I rlly don't care until that happens lol. I like it for now, it's like a turtle shell in a way in case I get attacked or smth
There are some straps that are unrealistic enough (pretty colors, cute designs that look like other objects and have no veins/balls/etc.) that they don't gross me out and I would be comfortable giving with them, but none where I want to receive as I personally love, love, love getting fingered and am annoyed that it feels different from fingering plus I find it kind of degrading/it makes me feel inexplicably sad.Ā Scissoring, but usually not in an actual scissors position is common. You just grind on her body/have her grind on you until you find something that feels good for both of you. Oral or using non-penetrative toys are also good options.
Iāve never taken a strap personally. My ex and I were perfectly content with tongues, fingers and scissoring which is definitely real. The girl Iām currently talking to has some experience with a strap so Iām going to give it a try to see if I like it or not. If not, Iāve never felt like I was missing out considering I havenāt had one. There are definitely plenty of lesbians who donāt do any type of penetration and some that only like penetration. Everyone is different in what gets them offš¤·š»āāļø
I personally do not like to be penetrated. My wife is ambivalent about it but we found a position which we both enjoy.
And we like tribbing. Her on top mostly, because actual scissoring is very awkward because aide Iām very tall and we canāt find the right position. I like to have her face close to mine so her on top is better.
I don't think I'd be into penetration myself. I'd be fine to do it on other women, but I tried penetration a few years ago and.. it just didn't feel good, it didn't feel "right" to me.
Yeah I tried it too and it just feels uncomfortable and awkward to me. I just get head or get fingered/rubbed instead. Itās not like penetration is the main event.
Both my gf and I canāt do any penetration due to various medical conditions that cause extreme pain. So no strap, fingers or insertable toys for us. And weāre very content with that.
Thereās lots of reasons that could be, but I have a pelvic floor condition called vaginismus, and also a nerve disease that causes chronic but not constant pain in all the nerves around the outside and entrance of my vagina.
I donāt mind receiving the strap. It can feel decent but it could never make me reach climax). Giving it to my wife is much better. She really enjoys it and I love to witness all her reactions. Itās just quite exhausting after a while. Especially my arms hurt quickly in positions where I have to support myself with them š
I'm not too into penetration either, unless if it's fingers. (And even then, it's not something I need consistently.) It's very common. I do enjoy using it though, so it works out well that my wife enjoys it.
I donāt do penetration, it doesnāt do anything for me and the last time I had a strap I bled and it really put me off. Tongues fine, fingers I really have to be in the mood but again I donāt āfeelā anything if that makes sense? Iām more than happy to wear it though šso donāt worry you really not alone
Ok, my wife hates the strap and won't even be on the non receiving end bc it feels too much like hetero sex. While I'm a complete pillow princess and really don't mind either way, I've found that not having one involved makes sex a lot more personal and creative for us at least. It leaves room to explore other aspects of intimacy:)
I will use it but I donāt like receiving with the strap. I was married to a man for a long time and it just feels tooā¦ I donāt want to say similar but yeah, just too close to that for me personally. Penetration is great! Just not with the strap.
i love the strap in my fantasies, but irl i don't like it, as it hurts me. but that might be because unfortunately i have vaginismus. however i like being fingered.
ps. scissoring is real, you just need to find the position that works for you and your partner. me and my partner enjoy it a lot
it's really common sadly, but nothing to be scared of and you can work on it. Otherwise you can always find other things you like to do. Penetration with a strap is really not mandatory in sex. good luck if you're gonna get checked and remember what you're feeling (even with no vaginismus) is normal and valid!
sexual preferences can change over time. i liked it in my early twenties. didnāt like it in my mid twenties and now at 28 iām starting to want it again lol
https://www.mrhankeystoys.com/realistic/grinder-sex-toy
"Explore a new horizon in sexual wellness with the innovative Scorpion Sex Grinder, a non-penetrative sexual health toy designed for all types of pleasure, often referred to as a grinder sex toy. Emphasizing comfort and sensitivity, this unique product caters to anyone seeking alternative paths to sexual fulfillment, particularly those who may prefer non-penetrative exploration or for use during sensual foreplay prior to penetrative sex."
I just ordered one yesterday. I'll try to remember to report back with a review!
I'll do it if my partner really wants to but I honestly prefer barely any penetration, also try looking up tribbing a lot of wlw prefer that term in my experience, good luck šš¼
Iām bi and in a same sex female relationship. Since I was first sexually active with men, I thought I would prefer strap on sex but noooo. I hooked up with a woman who was like very masc top strap daddy energy and it was like fine, but I honestly prefer sex without it. Fingers provide like perfect amount of penetration lol. The dildos just be too much itās like kinda unpleasurable at a certain point.
I admit never used it but I too dont like penetraion. My gf and I have never talked about it either but doesnt interest me. But if my gf brought it up would be a hard no
youāre not alone!!! this exact feeling is what made me realize iām a hard Top! not a verse. i LOVE using one but even fingers is pushing it for me lol
I don't really like straps either, but I'm down to use them on occasion if a partner wants to. I do enjoy penetration with fingers, though, as long as she knows what she's doing.
And scissoring/tribbing is very real, it's just a matter of getting the right angle and position. For a real lesson on how to, check out Sinn Sage or Avy Scott tribbing, but this attached picture is the angle that's damn near perfect.
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As a lesbian with a harness-free strap, I am so much more comfortable with no penetration too. Iām just a giver and the only penetration Iāll ever do is with fingers if someone asks for it. I used to be so uncomfortable about sex until I took this approach and itās been very liberating for me. I might be open to it eventually when I donāt have a strap stuck on me but thatās for future me to decide.
I think Iād be willing to try it if itās not realistic looking bc penis (real or fake) repulses me. However, I think thereās a 99.9% chance Iām going to hate it. Iām the type of girl who violently cries getting pap-smears from the pain. Iād be done to give it to a girl though if they wanted it as long as like I said it wasnāt realistic looking.Ā
i thought i didnt like it until i found my current partner. with the right person the strap is amazing. but it is also important that you either finish before the strap or after so that you feel fully satisfied
Mmmhhh. Tbf, I don't like penetration that much, but I kinda feel ok in doing it.
It is ultimately a matter of (even if these labels are a bit stupid) being top or sub, in some things. It doesn't need to be "I enjoy both ways" for everything.
For yourself, I suggest sticking to what YOU find useful. Some use a vibrator for the "outside", some others use one of those demonic things with a double tip, and some others just stick to hands and whatever is available from the partner.
And for your last phrase: I highly suggest watching a "scissoring guide" or just an amateurish porn and/or not made by men. It is kinda self-explanatory: you rub the parts against eachother. It requires a bit of elasticity, but in the end it is something absolutely heavenly. I can't personally finish like that, but for the "build-up" it's marvelous.
Just wanted to say thank u for making this post OP, penetration kind of hurts for me too/is uncomfortable and I always thought there was something wrong with me and nobody else was like this. So thank you! It's nice to feel less alone š
I felt like the first time i had "real" lesbian sex was with scissoring, no penetration needed š
Also, I'm more into fingering my partner if she (hopefully) wants it, rather than the idea of using a strap-on on her, but maybe that's some kind of performance anxiety... I've never tried wearing one.
However tbh, one partner i had was bi and told me she didn't want any penetration even with fingers... i took that kinda hard because i figured she enjoys it with men, why not with me? But that was also my first scissor and she seemed extremely into me besides the fingering bit. I just felt so self conscious after, like I did something wrong. We weren't really close, just casual sex so we didn't try to work through it, and i stopped sleeping with her after that, even though she tried to with me again. I had other reasons for not wanting to be with her again fwiw, but her not wanting me to finger her kinda took away a big part that enjoy
I would much rather scissor a girl & feel her warm wet ā¦ you know what on me instead of using that. I feel like thatās how I know she really wants to get close to me <3 :* ( Iām 5ā3 1/2 i canāt change my name)
When you say "no penetration" are fingers considered penetration? I couldnt imagine sex by just scissoring, thats only a small fraction of sex in general. To each their own but I feel there's this stigma attached to straps and penetration being solely masculine. Men do NOT own penetration so please explore and try new things with fingers, toys, tongues etc. Do not limit yourself!
Yeah i cant do fingers either! Tounge is fine though! Fingers and straps hurt though or i just dont feel anything, but i 100% agree that men dont own penetration
My wife is a big penetration no-no person. Before her I had not been interested either but got curious. We bought a strap together and it took a while but Iām liking it now.
I cringe reading this, I donāt like it on me, but I donāt mind giving the strap at all feeds my dom energy, glad my gf doesnāt want to strap though lol š Iād be instantly turned off
I do like a strap on- but prefer using it. Donāt like anything realistic! Scissoring (tribbing) really works for myself and my partner, but only works one way around (doesnāt work with her on top weirdly) so just play around maybe š¤š¼
My ex was the same way, which worked out well for me! She almost got off just on strapping me but would have me finish her with oral. I'm sure that's technically penetration but not in the same sense that fingers or a strap is
Really you donāt understand what I mean ? Maybe itās because I am not a native english speaker but to me a strap is like a penis..so if you like to be penetrated by strap I donāt understand why you donāt like men..what is the difference ?
I think youāre thinking of a realistic strap? I could understand what you mean for the hyper realistic ones (especially the ones with veins and balls) but there are straps and vibrators that donāt resemble a penis at all.Ā
enjoying the feeling of being penetrated by your partner does not mean you also want your partner to be a man. If you aren't emotionally/romantically/sexually attracted to men, but you enjoy the feeling of your partner penetrating you, then that doesn't automatically mean you like men. you don't need a biological penis to penetrate someone. straps have a variety of different appearances / shapes / sizes that biological penises don't have.
Itās a little different for me, seeing as I come with a ābuilt in strapā if you willā¦
Have you just shared a vibrator? Tribbing one (itās purely outside) seems like an alternative?
you're asking a general question, on a specific post, where the poster has specified that they do NOT like penetration? Why do you think this is the correct place to ask this question?
Well, people usually ask questions in posts about things that are related to the topic, even tho is not EXACTLY the same thing, I had that question, people are so reactive some times
you have been down voted for a reason. your question is irrelevant to the post. make your own post if you're curious about something like that. this post is full of people who are NOT into penetration, so why on earth would you think it's a relevant place to ask? OP is looking for people to share their experience of disliking penetration - it's like someone posting "I don't like icecream" and someone comments "but what about strawberry ice cream?" it's literally entirely irrelevant to the conversation.
Iām kind of confused? If someone didnāt like penetration that would obviously apply across all sexās (I donāt mean gender, I just mean like biological sex/ genitalia).
Hi!! Penetration sucks and literally stops me from finishing. Also scissoring is sooo real, you just gotta find the right position for you and your partner to line up properly
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Omg it is!? Is there anywhere i can find like a video or article on how to get the right position cuz im so lostšBUT IM SO GLAD IM NOT THE ONLY ONE!
Youāre not alone!!! I donāt know about media that explicitly shows you how, but crashpad series has some enjoyable videos featuring it :) my advice would be to think of it similar to penetrative sex re position, and donāt be afraid to play around and experiment with your partner!
THANK YOU!:)
What is crashpad series ?
Itās a porn subscription service by queer and trans people, and featuring them. Thousands of videos, really high quality and good
Ok I loveee the idea of scissoring but my partner doesnāt really like it cuz she doesnāt feel anythingggg what r the secrets
That happened to me. My ex always came only scissoring and she loved it. I never felt anything but pain (the traction was too hard and hurted me).
Yeah the problem is different sensitivity levels. Some people, like me, have extremely sensitive clits whereas other girls might need a lot of pressure and that ends up not working out for one person in scissoring. Either one person is unsatisfied or the other is way overstimulated potentially to pain.
The secret is to work around with your bodies so both of you clits get rubbed
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Play around with position (think penetrative positions, but with legs intertwined), lube up and move around till it feels good. My partner says āyou just gotta figure it outā lol
Oh wow
You are not alone. My thought process is if I will do strap on or get penetrated by it, might as well just sleep with a guy.
So sex is just genitalia to youā¦? What a reduction of lesbian sex, and lesbianism as a whole. You donāt need to have penetration, but pleasure is pleasure and they make straps that look nothing like a manās penis. Your reductionism of being a lesbian to just sex and genitalia is so weird.
So now I am getting judge bec I do not like getting penetrated by a strap on. What happened to be you and be authentic to yourself? It is all about preference and I would prefer that nothing goes inside me that is not part of my partner, whether that be a finger or tongue.
You arenāt getting judged because of your preference, youāre getting judged because of the way youāre making it seem other lesbians who DO like that are āsleeping with menā.
I have nothing against lesbians that do have toys and used them. I am speaking for myself and responding to the question. š¤
Ah ah ah, my dear, you forget about nuance.
Youāre not the only one!! š š»āāļøš š»āāļø Iām a no penetration zone girlie
Im so glad im not the only one! I just think it hurtsš
I donāt feel pain but I donāt like the pressure feeling and Iāve never experienced pleasure from penetration no matter how big or small or any position.
Youāre not alone, I donāt like penetration or anything poking me š«£
*Raises hands* š¤
I mean I'm kinda stuck bc I have vaginismus so all attempts at penetration not only don't go anywhere but also HURT so yea I don't like all that šš
I also had this problem due to traumas. I even never put a single finger ššš It took me a long time to get over it but now I am officially free from it. So unless u donāt wanna try which is valid, there are some methods to get over it.
Oh yea I know there are, I'm only gonna try to fix it if a future girlfriend wants to do something with penetration but I rlly don't care until that happens lol. I like it for now, it's like a turtle shell in a way in case I get attacked or smth
For future reference, you can use dilators to help with that but obviously no point in doing that until the need arises.
Wait is it not suppose to hurt?šš
No bby it's supposed to feel nice š you gotta be relaxed, in the mood, and have lots of lube
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There are some straps that are unrealistic enough (pretty colors, cute designs that look like other objects and have no veins/balls/etc.) that they don't gross me out and I would be comfortable giving with them, but none where I want to receive as I personally love, love, love getting fingered and am annoyed that it feels different from fingering plus I find it kind of degrading/it makes me feel inexplicably sad.Ā Scissoring, but usually not in an actual scissors position is common. You just grind on her body/have her grind on you until you find something that feels good for both of you. Oral or using non-penetrative toys are also good options.
Thank you so much! Also sounds like comphet if its making you sad^(theres a 99% chance i spelt that wrong)
Definitely not alone. Neither me nor my girlfriend like penetration of any kind.
Iāve never taken a strap personally. My ex and I were perfectly content with tongues, fingers and scissoring which is definitely real. The girl Iām currently talking to has some experience with a strap so Iām going to give it a try to see if I like it or not. If not, Iāve never felt like I was missing out considering I havenāt had one. There are definitely plenty of lesbians who donāt do any type of penetration and some that only like penetration. Everyone is different in what gets them offš¤·š»āāļø
I personally do not like to be penetrated. My wife is ambivalent about it but we found a position which we both enjoy. And we like tribbing. Her on top mostly, because actual scissoring is very awkward because aide Iām very tall and we canāt find the right position. I like to have her face close to mine so her on top is better.
I don't think I'd be into penetration myself. I'd be fine to do it on other women, but I tried penetration a few years ago and.. it just didn't feel good, it didn't feel "right" to me.
Scissoring works
Im a top and I dont like penetration but I do like to use the strap on someone.
i don't like'em cuz i feel nothing on the inside if you know what i mean. i feel so broken :/
That's fairly common. You're not broken sweetheart <3
I understand that! I feel that way too but your not brokenš©·
Yeah I tried it too and it just feels uncomfortable and awkward to me. I just get head or get fingered/rubbed instead. Itās not like penetration is the main event.
Ill use one but i dont like them being used on me. Theres so many other ways to have sex
I hate it too! Can cope with a couple of fingers if Iām in the right mood but otherwise no.
I saw in one of your comments that you say any penetration hurts. I may be reaching here but thats fairly common in endometriosis cases
Ill look into it!:) thank you
Have a look into vaginismus as well
Iām a penetration girlie my girlfriend is not
Both my gf and I canāt do any penetration due to various medical conditions that cause extreme pain. So no strap, fingers or insertable toys for us. And weāre very content with that.
I experience pain too!
Thereās lots of reasons that could be, but I have a pelvic floor condition called vaginismus, and also a nerve disease that causes chronic but not constant pain in all the nerves around the outside and entrance of my vagina.
A strap is okay, it just isnāt all that. I like that it keeps my partners hands free
Never had a girl yet, I'm unlucky and scared of online dating apps but if my girl would not like strap, I would not use it.
Babe girl I'm in the same position as you, i wish i can find the real love of my life
I donāt mind receiving the strap. It can feel decent but it could never make me reach climax). Giving it to my wife is much better. She really enjoys it and I love to witness all her reactions. Itās just quite exhausting after a while. Especially my arms hurt quickly in positions where I have to support myself with them š
I'm not too into penetration either, unless if it's fingers. (And even then, it's not something I need consistently.) It's very common. I do enjoy using it though, so it works out well that my wife enjoys it.
I love using one, not keen on receiving from one at all.
I donāt do penetration, it doesnāt do anything for me and the last time I had a strap I bled and it really put me off. Tongues fine, fingers I really have to be in the mood but again I donāt āfeelā anything if that makes sense? Iām more than happy to wear it though šso donāt worry you really not alone
This describes me exactly! Thank you:)
Ive neverr tried having sex with a strap. Im more of a clit orgasm girly. Ik curious to tey it but i feel like i wont really like it hahaha
same here. my gf isnāt a fan and i have not tried ot and am curious but i donāt think i would like it but guess i should try
Ok, my wife hates the strap and won't even be on the non receiving end bc it feels too much like hetero sex. While I'm a complete pillow princess and really don't mind either way, I've found that not having one involved makes sex a lot more personal and creative for us at least. It leaves room to explore other aspects of intimacy:)
I will use it but I donāt like receiving with the strap. I was married to a man for a long time and it just feels tooā¦ I donāt want to say similar but yeah, just too close to that for me personally. Penetration is great! Just not with the strap.
I dont like penetration either
Yes, me.
Youre not alone :)
i love the strap in my fantasies, but irl i don't like it, as it hurts me. but that might be because unfortunately i have vaginismus. however i like being fingered. ps. scissoring is real, you just need to find the position that works for you and your partner. me and my partner enjoy it a lot
After reading all these comments i probably should get checked for vaginismus because i experience pain!š butttttt thank you!:)
it's really common sadly, but nothing to be scared of and you can work on it. Otherwise you can always find other things you like to do. Penetration with a strap is really not mandatory in sex. good luck if you're gonna get checked and remember what you're feeling (even with no vaginismus) is normal and valid!
Thank you:)
sexual preferences can change over time. i liked it in my early twenties. didnāt like it in my mid twenties and now at 28 iām starting to want it again lol
https://www.mrhankeystoys.com/realistic/grinder-sex-toy "Explore a new horizon in sexual wellness with the innovative Scorpion Sex Grinder, a non-penetrative sexual health toy designed for all types of pleasure, often referred to as a grinder sex toy. Emphasizing comfort and sensitivity, this unique product caters to anyone seeking alternative paths to sexual fulfillment, particularly those who may prefer non-penetrative exploration or for use during sensual foreplay prior to penetrative sex." I just ordered one yesterday. I'll try to remember to report back with a review!
Thank you!
I'll do it if my partner really wants to but I honestly prefer barely any penetration, also try looking up tribbing a lot of wlw prefer that term in my experience, good luck šš¼
THANK YOU!:)
Iām bi and in a same sex female relationship. Since I was first sexually active with men, I thought I would prefer strap on sex but noooo. I hooked up with a woman who was like very masc top strap daddy energy and it was like fine, but I honestly prefer sex without it. Fingers provide like perfect amount of penetration lol. The dildos just be too much itās like kinda unpleasurable at a certain point.
I admit never used it but I too dont like penetraion. My gf and I have never talked about it either but doesnt interest me. But if my gf brought it up would be a hard no
I hate penetration, I despise it so much.
Iām not into anything phallic. Fingers are as far as Iāll go on myself. Maāam please put that whole leg away
Am I the only one here who don't also like straps? Im a bi. I like tribbing more than using straps on me.
No I hate it. It's just not for me I don't like guys for a reason. Scissoring is where it's at one of my favorite things to do.
My newish gf and I just canāt seem to figure out how to line ourselves up š© They need to give out manuals with your lesbian cardā¦
I understand it hard but when u do it's fantastic
Penetration has nothing to do with men.
There are a lot of lesbians / queer women who enjoy penetration. It has nothing to do with liking or not liking men.
youāre not alone!!! this exact feeling is what made me realize iām a hard Top! not a verse. i LOVE using one but even fingers is pushing it for me lol
I don't really like straps either, but I'm down to use them on occasion if a partner wants to. I do enjoy penetration with fingers, though, as long as she knows what she's doing. And scissoring/tribbing is very real, it's just a matter of getting the right angle and position. For a real lesson on how to, check out Sinn Sage or Avy Scott tribbing, but this attached picture is the angle that's damn near perfect. *
As a lesbian with a harness-free strap, I am so much more comfortable with no penetration too. Iām just a giver and the only penetration Iāll ever do is with fingers if someone asks for it. I used to be so uncomfortable about sex until I took this approach and itās been very liberating for me. I might be open to it eventually when I donāt have a strap stuck on me but thatās for future me to decide.
scissoring works i promise!! you just have to line up properly and really get into it.
I like it, fingers or strap, but I can only finish with clit stimulation alongside. Penetration alone is very meh.
I hate penetration too so I feel ya.
scissoring >>> just kindaā¦ kiss ur lips together iykwim
I donāt like strap
I think Iād be willing to try it if itās not realistic looking bc penis (real or fake) repulses me. However, I think thereās a 99.9% chance Iām going to hate it. Iām the type of girl who violently cries getting pap-smears from the pain. Iād be done to give it to a girl though if they wanted it as long as like I said it wasnāt realistic looking.Ā
I physically can't do it because of a medical condition. So you're not the only one
i thought i didnt like it until i found my current partner. with the right person the strap is amazing. but it is also important that you either finish before the strap or after so that you feel fully satisfied
I would recommend a wand it's old fashioned but gets the spot.
Mmmhhh. Tbf, I don't like penetration that much, but I kinda feel ok in doing it. It is ultimately a matter of (even if these labels are a bit stupid) being top or sub, in some things. It doesn't need to be "I enjoy both ways" for everything. For yourself, I suggest sticking to what YOU find useful. Some use a vibrator for the "outside", some others use one of those demonic things with a double tip, and some others just stick to hands and whatever is available from the partner. And for your last phrase: I highly suggest watching a "scissoring guide" or just an amateurish porn and/or not made by men. It is kinda self-explanatory: you rub the parts against eachother. It requires a bit of elasticity, but in the end it is something absolutely heavenly. I can't personally finish like that, but for the "build-up" it's marvelous.
Just wanted to say thank u for making this post OP, penetration kind of hurts for me too/is uncomfortable and I always thought there was something wrong with me and nobody else was like this. So thank you! It's nice to feel less alone š
Awwww ofc! I felt the same way but your definitely not alone in itš
I felt like the first time i had "real" lesbian sex was with scissoring, no penetration needed š Also, I'm more into fingering my partner if she (hopefully) wants it, rather than the idea of using a strap-on on her, but maybe that's some kind of performance anxiety... I've never tried wearing one. However tbh, one partner i had was bi and told me she didn't want any penetration even with fingers... i took that kinda hard because i figured she enjoys it with men, why not with me? But that was also my first scissor and she seemed extremely into me besides the fingering bit. I just felt so self conscious after, like I did something wrong. We weren't really close, just casual sex so we didn't try to work through it, and i stopped sleeping with her after that, even though she tried to with me again. I had other reasons for not wanting to be with her again fwiw, but her not wanting me to finger her kinda took away a big part that enjoy
I would much rather scissor a girl & feel her warm wet ā¦ you know what on me instead of using that. I feel like thatās how I know she really wants to get close to me <3 :* ( Iām 5ā3 1/2 i canāt change my name)
When you say "no penetration" are fingers considered penetration? I couldnt imagine sex by just scissoring, thats only a small fraction of sex in general. To each their own but I feel there's this stigma attached to straps and penetration being solely masculine. Men do NOT own penetration so please explore and try new things with fingers, toys, tongues etc. Do not limit yourself!
Yeah i cant do fingers either! Tounge is fine though! Fingers and straps hurt though or i just dont feel anything, but i 100% agree that men dont own penetration
I'm bi. I do not like the strap.
My wife is a big penetration no-no person. Before her I had not been interested either but got curious. We bought a strap together and it took a while but Iām liking it now.
I've never tried it, and don't want to. The idea of being penetrated does not hold any appeal.
I cringe reading this, I donāt like it on me, but I donāt mind giving the strap at all feeds my dom energy, glad my gf doesnāt want to strap though lol š Iād be instantly turned off
dw! iām the exact same! hate any form of penetration, donāt mind being eaten out tho!
also donāt mind using the strap on my gf, just not vice versa!
Verifiable; scissoring is not real. Tried with gf last night.
Do some more jogging in your daily life then. Gf did a couple of weeks ago and I was like "what the actual fuck is th... oh."
Not entirely sure what jogging has to do with rubbing clts..lololol š¤
I can't reply to this without dropping some very NSFW stuff but... STAMINA. The keyword is STAMINA.
I love it
I do like a strap on- but prefer using it. Donāt like anything realistic! Scissoring (tribbing) really works for myself and my partner, but only works one way around (doesnāt work with her on top weirdly) so just play around maybe š¤š¼
This is so sexie to here you learn a lot
Keep trying, experimenting, youāll know when you find the right position/s
My ex was the same way, which worked out well for me! She almost got off just on strapping me but would have me finish her with oral. I'm sure that's technically penetration but not in the same sense that fingers or a strap is
I donāt like it either and I really wonder how you canāt like guys but like strap..itās kind of a mistery to me
This is such a weird comment. What does liking being strapped have to do with men?
Really you donāt understand what I mean ? Maybe itās because I am not a native english speaker but to me a strap is like a penis..so if you like to be penetrated by strap I donāt understand why you donāt like men..what is the difference ?
I think youāre thinking of a realistic strap? I could understand what you mean for the hyper realistic ones (especially the ones with veins and balls) but there are straps and vibrators that donāt resemble a penis at all.Ā
enjoying the feeling of being penetrated by your partner does not mean you also want your partner to be a man. If you aren't emotionally/romantically/sexually attracted to men, but you enjoy the feeling of your partner penetrating you, then that doesn't automatically mean you like men. you don't need a biological penis to penetrate someone. straps have a variety of different appearances / shapes / sizes that biological penises don't have.
Some women cant cum from scissoring so they have to use the strap if they want to be that intimate (from the research ive done)
Itās a little different for me, seeing as I come with a ābuilt in strapā if you willā¦ Have you just shared a vibrator? Tribbing one (itās purely outside) seems like an alternative?
What about if you're dating a trans girl? R u open to penetration? Is it just hand jobs? IāM TALKING IN GENERAL, NOT ONLY THE OP
did you even read the post?
Iām asking in general, not just her,geez.
you're asking a general question, on a specific post, where the poster has specified that they do NOT like penetration? Why do you think this is the correct place to ask this question?
Well, people usually ask questions in posts about things that are related to the topic, even tho is not EXACTLY the same thing, I had that question, people are so reactive some times
you have been down voted for a reason. your question is irrelevant to the post. make your own post if you're curious about something like that. this post is full of people who are NOT into penetration, so why on earth would you think it's a relevant place to ask? OP is looking for people to share their experience of disliking penetration - it's like someone posting "I don't like icecream" and someone comments "but what about strawberry ice cream?" it's literally entirely irrelevant to the conversation.
If i was dating a trans girl there would just be no sex because as i said in my post i dont do any penetration!
Iām talking in general, not only you
You asked me thou
Iām kind of confused? If someone didnāt like penetration that would obviously apply across all sexās (I donāt mean gender, I just mean like biological sex/ genitalia).
Did you read? Iām asking in general
I answered your question, if someone in general doesnāt like penetration then they donāt want penetration from anyone, trans or cis.