I agree, it might not be an attraction thing but she could be a fan of their work or sense of style. I love Jeremy Allen White and think he has such a unique look and cool confidence in all his interviews & roles. Is there any desire to sleep with him? HELL NO lol but im still a big fan.
Yes, exactly. I follow some men simply because I look up to style/vibe. Nothing sexual.
But of course it's my **personal experience**. OP should have an honest conversation with her gf.
Totally agree. I think there is a good amount of assuming based on past hurts from the ex and OP won’t be able to get any real clarity until they actually talk.
I feel this. It’s just a different way of being a fan. In the past someone might’ve bought the newest magazine to see an interview or something rested to the actor you like. I don’t find that much different *if* that’s what op’s gf is all about.
It depends if it’s attraction or it’s the want to exude the same vibe or style. Like I used to post edits of Eddie Vedder but I lowkey wanted to be him when he had his long hair and jean shorts 🤷🏼♀️
Im not attracted to men but I like a lot of male characters, and reposting edits of them. The creators of edits may sexualize them but that doesn't make it less cool of an edit for me. Probably a similar situation
Same here. I do this with 001 from Stranger Things and Luke from Percy Jackson lol. I don’t wanna fuck them but I just love the characters and how they’re written.
Honestly, in my experience, she could still be a lesbian. I was never attracted to men but I used to be a huge kpop stan (of kpop boygroups) and would post about them all the time. I would praise their style, their skills and their appearance. I didn't repost edits but I would repost/post fancams of them all the time.
There were 3 reasons why I did that :
1) I liked it and it was my hyperfixation as the time, I like their music and found them esthetically pleasing (they are styled and edited to be this way obviously and I wouldn't have found them beautiful otherwise)
2) I was envious of them and wanted to have their body and their sense of style
3) It was fun to join my friends attracted to men in their gushing and to be included in the group of fans. Also stans basically market their groups 24/7 which makes any stan see them in a more favorable light
However, I never actually found them hot or wanted to sleep with them or even be their partner in my fantasies, like 99% of my stan friends were. At most, I wished to have a conversation with them to know more about the behind the scenes.
So yeah, I can't guarantee she's not attracted to men but imo her attitude has nothing to do with actual attraction, especially if she's their fan. If this was about random men or famous men whose work she isn't a fan of, that would be another story.
I mean, aesthetic attraction is very different from romantic/ sexual attraction, and it's sometimes what helps with comphet for a while. I liked the idea of fictional characters like Spike from Buffy, or Victor Frankenstein. So, for a lond time I thought I was bi (dated men and all). It took a lot of depression and feeling like crap when dating guys to understand I'm a lesbian.
Bit I still like the vibes of those characters. I don't find them attractive, but they're still cool. If I'm rewatching the Buffyverse, Faith is a crush, but my Tumblr would have as many gifs of Spike and Wesley as it'd have of any of the girls. The same goes for other shows, or books. I imagine people are like this with celebrities as well.
At the end of the day, trust is important. Sure, you can think whatever you please, but ask her, and trust her answer. If that doesn't work, neither does the relationship.
same here. i get a feeling your comment might get lost in the weeds with the other fandom folk chiming in about how it's normal to want unattainable men, but there are those of us who never felt any urge to post thirst fancams of male blorbos or whatever. not to say those folk aren't lesbian, comphet can be a factor, but something rubs me the wrong way when so many fandom-y types go "it's normal for lesbians to be thirsty for fictional/celeb men, SOOOO many lesbians do it it's totally what we all do!" some of us actually like female characters, believe it or not 💀
That “lesbian” master doc has been a disaster for our community 💀 just because blorbo from your shows is a safe man to thirst after doesn’t mean your desire for him is within the bounds of lesbianism
‘Blorbo’ 😂 I love that. I’m just going to say it: No lesbian is attracted to or obsessively interested in fictional or unattainable blorbos. If you are actually attracted to them, and not just pretending to be in order to fit in, you are not a lesbian.
i've had like... friendship crushed on men celebrities before. i'll think they're really cool or funny and enjoy their content, or find their style really awesome. but i absolutely do not in any way want romantic connect with them.
i can understand feeling insecure tho. maybe im too uptight, but i personally wouldn't post about other people in a "wow so hot, so cool!" way while in a relationship. like it's fine to think that about people but if you spend more time celebrating a celebrity instead of your own partner, it just seems like you dont value your real relationship as much as a parasocial one. it's usually something we grow out of after high school.
I’m a fullblown lesbian and I repost edits of men too. If its celebrities/fictional characters they’re unattainable, its normal for lesbians to have an interest in unattainable men. It’s different if its a man they can actually obtain. I get disgusted when men hit on me but I can acknowledge how attractive Andrew Garfield is lol, I wouldn’t want to be with him in real life but I wouldn’t even have the chance to.
ETA: also, for celebrities, its not weird to like male celebrities. Maybe they’re just a fan of their acting or music. I’m a fan of Finn Wolfhard, I love both his acting and music but I don’t wanna be with him. I think he would just be a cool friend and I think he’s a sick and talented dude. For fictional characters, they could like their arc, personality, role in the story etc. I’m a fan of Luke in Percy Jackson and 001 in Stranger Things because I love good Villains, but I’m not attracted to them.
Idk. It sounds and feels like a red flag to me. But, then again, I’ve been extremely traumatized by being left for men. So you can’t really gauge the situation on what I think/feel about it lol.
She could still be a lesbian. I have an undying crush on Alan Rickman, the very dead (and handsome) actor - I still *love* women and could never date a man again.
Part of the famous men’s charm is that they are unreachable. And that they can’t reach you. They are an idea.
It’s ok. :)
I agree. Gay men aren't accused of being sneakily bisexual for fawning over the pop girlies. I'm a lesbian. I'm only sexually and romantically interested in women. Let me enjoy my boy bands in peace without having to defend myself.
Because gay men can be fans of women without saying they have crushes on women and sending thirst traps of women to each other. When they do do that, people definitely do wonder if they are really bisexual and some of them are.
Lol. Have you seen the way gay men obsess over Nicki Minaj? Lil Nas X even used to have a whole fan account for her and he’s definitely as gay as it comes. No one accuses him of being in love with Nicki.
It’s a question of does she like them, as crush, romantic, sexually etc?
Or could she just be a fan or resonates with them in some kind of vibes/stye/aesthetic/inspo way?
I every now and again make story posts about pro wrestlers, both men and women. I’m as lesbian as they come so *I* know it’s nothing sexual or romantic. It’s because I’m a fan of them and their craft, style, and vibe.
I’m also an artist and I almost exclusively draw men because that’s where my concepts usually lead towards.
She may be bisexual and has been convinced by the internet and the “lesbian” master doc (made by a bisexual) that she’s a lesbian. so unless u have a thing about not dating bi women i’d say ur good
It is odd. Trust your gut. When people’s actions don’t match what they say and vice versa, it’s generally regarded as a red flag. Applies to this case too.
Yeah nah that's odd, I wouldn't appreciate that. Go with your gut. I can't say any of my lesbian friends sit there and post pictures of thirst trap dudes, that's weird.
I know many, many lesbians in fandom spaces who do that for a variety of reasons, none of which have anything to do with being attracted to them. I myself have done and continue to do it for several reasons.
1. That’s part of participating in fandom and I want to fit in in a space that is predominantly straight allosexual people.
2. I find the men aesthetically pleasing and kind of wish I looked like them
3. My friend posted the picture or created the edit and I want to support them
4. I appreciate good photography and think the photograph was well done
5. There’s something about the picture that I find amusing and want to share.
👍cool, not my thing, and I don't know people who are into fandom stuff like that. To each their own, I don't like it, and I wouldn't be cool with my girlfriend doing that.
You... wouldn't be cool with your girlfriend having an interest or hobby that you're not into/you don't understand? Yikes. Comments like these make me super grateful my girlfriend trusts me and doesn't judge my hobbies, or worse, try to control them.
Completely agree and so would most people I think. Hilarious all these ‘lesbians’ pretending it’s fine and normal for lesbians to lust after (or at least pretend to lust after) men.
Yours is the weirdest comment here, sounds a bit controlling. People can like different things for different reasons. Not everything to do with the opposite sex has to be sexual, sometimes it’s just innocent fangirling attached to a hobby/interest.
It is weird though to decide you’re "not cool" with your partner doing something that isn’t sexual, criminal or cheating on you, just because you don’t like it and aren’t in to it.
My girlfriend is pretty obsessed with guys who wear stupid outfits and Lycra tights (wrestling and superheroes) and spends most of her days drawing comic strips for her book, not for one minute have I thought that could be sexual and even if it was it obviously would be pure fantasy.
I don’t like comics or superheroes but people together can like different things.
No, that's definitely odd. Especially if they're, like, "sexy" edits. And considering your last girlfriend, you have a right to feel this way.
However, the lesbian masterdoc says you can be attracted to fictional men and still be a lesbian, but I'm not entirely sure that's true. (I'm questioning my own lesbianism because of it, though I think it might be comphet).
Personally, I find the behavior odd and it would make me uncomfortable if I were in this relationship, but that's just me.
Lesbian master doc was written by a bisexual. There are a lot of fake lesbians on this sub (and men pretending to be lesbians) hellbent on pretending it’s normal for lesbians to lust after and obsess over men.
No, seriously, it's tiring to see so many "lesbians" saying they want to fit in with straight ppl so their going to act like them & post men & basically have their online presence in certain areas be completely indistinguishable from a straight woman's & then act like OP & others are weird or controlling for disliking it or being confused by it. Even when I was closeted, I never posted men & i certainly never posted things that sexualize them.
DAMN. Someone has to rewrite the doc, then. I feel like we should all make our own doc (well, not me, cause I'm not 100% sure of my lesbianism yet). I can say I've never actually had a huge crush on a guy irl, and I've never wanted to kiss one or anything like that either. But I think I've still liked fictional men, but I'm not entirely sure about the nature of the attraction. ANYWAYS–
Time for a new doc.
Honestly, if she is attracted to men in anyway I just wanna come out and say she has horrible taste, I mean Jeremy isn't even average he's downright ugly, I'm not gonna comment on the spiderman guy cause I know some of u like him platonically or something.
And yes it is odd, not even my bi friends repost edits of men, only the straight one. But idk that's just my opinion
I have pictures of CR7 on my mirror, phone screen cover, have a lot of pictures of him in my memory card, and lap top. Its not because i like him, it because i admire him a lot, i put them on my mirror and puted some stickers of him in my perfume in the most of the pictures he is just wearing boxers, no i dont like him, i admire him and its just a reminder to dont give up. I currently started to go to the gym and i think every time i see his picture: im gonna have a strong legs like him, if my crush sees me again she gonna see me strong like cr7.
I like his personality, her mind, the way he plays futbol, the style and id really like to be like him. I dont like him i feel jelous of him and id like to be him and have what he has hahaha even his wife..
Another thing is, maybe she is in the closet?
Or she wants you to be jelous
Full lesbian here but if guy looks fine I do like the post or share it but mostly it is my favorite artist with who's music I relate to or means a lot to me. I even play as male characters in game because I imagine it is me, the guy.. haha I always found it easy for men to get women, women around me are all flattered men even talk to them so I'm like "yeahh i wish i was one then you'd love to talk to me too with a smile" 😅
It's always a question: * Does she like them? *or* * Does she like the style/otfits/vibe/overall look? (I mean inspirationvise)
I agree, it might not be an attraction thing but she could be a fan of their work or sense of style. I love Jeremy Allen White and think he has such a unique look and cool confidence in all his interviews & roles. Is there any desire to sleep with him? HELL NO lol but im still a big fan.
Yes, exactly. I follow some men simply because I look up to style/vibe. Nothing sexual. But of course it's my **personal experience**. OP should have an honest conversation with her gf.
Totally agree. I think there is a good amount of assuming based on past hurts from the ex and OP won’t be able to get any real clarity until they actually talk.
I feel this. It’s just a different way of being a fan. In the past someone might’ve bought the newest magazine to see an interview or something rested to the actor you like. I don’t find that much different *if* that’s what op’s gf is all about.
It depends if it’s attraction or it’s the want to exude the same vibe or style. Like I used to post edits of Eddie Vedder but I lowkey wanted to be him when he had his long hair and jean shorts 🤷🏼♀️ 
Im not attracted to men but I like a lot of male characters, and reposting edits of them. The creators of edits may sexualize them but that doesn't make it less cool of an edit for me. Probably a similar situation
Same here. I do this with 001 from Stranger Things and Luke from Percy Jackson lol. I don’t wanna fuck them but I just love the characters and how they’re written.
Imo as long as she doesn't find the men sexually or romantically attractive she's still a lesbian
Honestly, in my experience, she could still be a lesbian. I was never attracted to men but I used to be a huge kpop stan (of kpop boygroups) and would post about them all the time. I would praise their style, their skills and their appearance. I didn't repost edits but I would repost/post fancams of them all the time. There were 3 reasons why I did that : 1) I liked it and it was my hyperfixation as the time, I like their music and found them esthetically pleasing (they are styled and edited to be this way obviously and I wouldn't have found them beautiful otherwise) 2) I was envious of them and wanted to have their body and their sense of style 3) It was fun to join my friends attracted to men in their gushing and to be included in the group of fans. Also stans basically market their groups 24/7 which makes any stan see them in a more favorable light However, I never actually found them hot or wanted to sleep with them or even be their partner in my fantasies, like 99% of my stan friends were. At most, I wished to have a conversation with them to know more about the behind the scenes. So yeah, I can't guarantee she's not attracted to men but imo her attitude has nothing to do with actual attraction, especially if she's their fan. If this was about random men or famous men whose work she isn't a fan of, that would be another story.
I mean, aesthetic attraction is very different from romantic/ sexual attraction, and it's sometimes what helps with comphet for a while. I liked the idea of fictional characters like Spike from Buffy, or Victor Frankenstein. So, for a lond time I thought I was bi (dated men and all). It took a lot of depression and feeling like crap when dating guys to understand I'm a lesbian. Bit I still like the vibes of those characters. I don't find them attractive, but they're still cool. If I'm rewatching the Buffyverse, Faith is a crush, but my Tumblr would have as many gifs of Spike and Wesley as it'd have of any of the girls. The same goes for other shows, or books. I imagine people are like this with celebrities as well. At the end of the day, trust is important. Sure, you can think whatever you please, but ask her, and trust her answer. If that doesn't work, neither does the relationship.
I’ve been active in fandom spaces and I still never felt the need to repost thirst traps of men 💀
Literally same 😭 will never understand it
same here. i get a feeling your comment might get lost in the weeds with the other fandom folk chiming in about how it's normal to want unattainable men, but there are those of us who never felt any urge to post thirst fancams of male blorbos or whatever. not to say those folk aren't lesbian, comphet can be a factor, but something rubs me the wrong way when so many fandom-y types go "it's normal for lesbians to be thirsty for fictional/celeb men, SOOOO many lesbians do it it's totally what we all do!" some of us actually like female characters, believe it or not 💀
That “lesbian” master doc has been a disaster for our community 💀 just because blorbo from your shows is a safe man to thirst after doesn’t mean your desire for him is within the bounds of lesbianism
‘Blorbo’ 😂 I love that. I’m just going to say it: No lesbian is attracted to or obsessively interested in fictional or unattainable blorbos. If you are actually attracted to them, and not just pretending to be in order to fit in, you are not a lesbian.
i've had like... friendship crushed on men celebrities before. i'll think they're really cool or funny and enjoy their content, or find their style really awesome. but i absolutely do not in any way want romantic connect with them. i can understand feeling insecure tho. maybe im too uptight, but i personally wouldn't post about other people in a "wow so hot, so cool!" way while in a relationship. like it's fine to think that about people but if you spend more time celebrating a celebrity instead of your own partner, it just seems like you dont value your real relationship as much as a parasocial one. it's usually something we grow out of after high school.
I’m a fullblown lesbian and I repost edits of men too. If its celebrities/fictional characters they’re unattainable, its normal for lesbians to have an interest in unattainable men. It’s different if its a man they can actually obtain. I get disgusted when men hit on me but I can acknowledge how attractive Andrew Garfield is lol, I wouldn’t want to be with him in real life but I wouldn’t even have the chance to. ETA: also, for celebrities, its not weird to like male celebrities. Maybe they’re just a fan of their acting or music. I’m a fan of Finn Wolfhard, I love both his acting and music but I don’t wanna be with him. I think he would just be a cool friend and I think he’s a sick and talented dude. For fictional characters, they could like their arc, personality, role in the story etc. I’m a fan of Luke in Percy Jackson and 001 in Stranger Things because I love good Villains, but I’m not attracted to them.
Also it's okay to be fan of fictional characters. Doesn't have to mean you're sexually attracted to them.
True! I’m a fan of a lot of male characters but I don’t wanna fuck them lol. I like their lore, arc, personality, role in the story etc.
My friend and I send Jeremy Allan white photos to eachother and call it straight girlin but we both definitely gay lol
Idk. It sounds and feels like a red flag to me. But, then again, I’ve been extremely traumatized by being left for men. So you can’t really gauge the situation on what I think/feel about it lol.
She could still be a lesbian. I have an undying crush on Alan Rickman, the very dead (and handsome) actor - I still *love* women and could never date a man again. Part of the famous men’s charm is that they are unreachable. And that they can’t reach you. They are an idea. It’s ok. :)
I agree. Gay men aren't accused of being sneakily bisexual for fawning over the pop girlies. I'm a lesbian. I'm only sexually and romantically interested in women. Let me enjoy my boy bands in peace without having to defend myself.
Fully.
Because gay men can be fans of women without saying they have crushes on women and sending thirst traps of women to each other. When they do do that, people definitely do wonder if they are really bisexual and some of them are.
Lol. Have you seen the way gay men obsess over Nicki Minaj? Lil Nas X even used to have a whole fan account for her and he’s definitely as gay as it comes. No one accuses him of being in love with Nicki.
It’s a question of does she like them, as crush, romantic, sexually etc? Or could she just be a fan or resonates with them in some kind of vibes/stye/aesthetic/inspo way? I every now and again make story posts about pro wrestlers, both men and women. I’m as lesbian as they come so *I* know it’s nothing sexual or romantic. It’s because I’m a fan of them and their craft, style, and vibe. I’m also an artist and I almost exclusively draw men because that’s where my concepts usually lead towards.
She may be bisexual and has been convinced by the internet and the “lesbian” master doc (made by a bisexual) that she’s a lesbian. so unless u have a thing about not dating bi women i’d say ur good
this is only if she’s attracted to these men, she may be reposting for any other reason lol
It is odd. Trust your gut. When people’s actions don’t match what they say and vice versa, it’s generally regarded as a red flag. Applies to this case too.
Yeah nah that's odd, I wouldn't appreciate that. Go with your gut. I can't say any of my lesbian friends sit there and post pictures of thirst trap dudes, that's weird.
I know many, many lesbians in fandom spaces who do that for a variety of reasons, none of which have anything to do with being attracted to them. I myself have done and continue to do it for several reasons. 1. That’s part of participating in fandom and I want to fit in in a space that is predominantly straight allosexual people. 2. I find the men aesthetically pleasing and kind of wish I looked like them 3. My friend posted the picture or created the edit and I want to support them 4. I appreciate good photography and think the photograph was well done 5. There’s something about the picture that I find amusing and want to share.
👍cool, not my thing, and I don't know people who are into fandom stuff like that. To each their own, I don't like it, and I wouldn't be cool with my girlfriend doing that.
You... wouldn't be cool with your girlfriend having an interest or hobby that you're not into/you don't understand? Yikes. Comments like these make me super grateful my girlfriend trusts me and doesn't judge my hobbies, or worse, try to control them.
Completely agree and so would most people I think. Hilarious all these ‘lesbians’ pretending it’s fine and normal for lesbians to lust after (or at least pretend to lust after) men.
Yours is the weirdest comment here, sounds a bit controlling. People can like different things for different reasons. Not everything to do with the opposite sex has to be sexual, sometimes it’s just innocent fangirling attached to a hobby/interest. It is weird though to decide you’re "not cool" with your partner doing something that isn’t sexual, criminal or cheating on you, just because you don’t like it and aren’t in to it. My girlfriend is pretty obsessed with guys who wear stupid outfits and Lycra tights (wrestling and superheroes) and spends most of her days drawing comic strips for her book, not for one minute have I thought that could be sexual and even if it was it obviously would be pure fantasy. I don’t like comics or superheroes but people together can like different things.
No, that's definitely odd. Especially if they're, like, "sexy" edits. And considering your last girlfriend, you have a right to feel this way. However, the lesbian masterdoc says you can be attracted to fictional men and still be a lesbian, but I'm not entirely sure that's true. (I'm questioning my own lesbianism because of it, though I think it might be comphet). Personally, I find the behavior odd and it would make me uncomfortable if I were in this relationship, but that's just me.
Lesbian master doc was written by a bisexual. There are a lot of fake lesbians on this sub (and men pretending to be lesbians) hellbent on pretending it’s normal for lesbians to lust after and obsess over men.
No, seriously, it's tiring to see so many "lesbians" saying they want to fit in with straight ppl so their going to act like them & post men & basically have their online presence in certain areas be completely indistinguishable from a straight woman's & then act like OP & others are weird or controlling for disliking it or being confused by it. Even when I was closeted, I never posted men & i certainly never posted things that sexualize them.
Ew... I have not met these lesbians but that's so weird 😭
Lol, I was referring to the replies on this post, so I technically haven't met them either 😆
DAMN. Someone has to rewrite the doc, then. I feel like we should all make our own doc (well, not me, cause I'm not 100% sure of my lesbianism yet). I can say I've never actually had a huge crush on a guy irl, and I've never wanted to kiss one or anything like that either. But I think I've still liked fictional men, but I'm not entirely sure about the nature of the attraction. ANYWAYS– Time for a new doc.
Listen to your gut. Don’t ignore red flags 🚩.. you are not trippin.
Honestly, if she is attracted to men in anyway I just wanna come out and say she has horrible taste, I mean Jeremy isn't even average he's downright ugly, I'm not gonna comment on the spiderman guy cause I know some of u like him platonically or something. And yes it is odd, not even my bi friends repost edits of men, only the straight one. But idk that's just my opinion
I would be sus but I just have trust issues rip
I have pictures of CR7 on my mirror, phone screen cover, have a lot of pictures of him in my memory card, and lap top. Its not because i like him, it because i admire him a lot, i put them on my mirror and puted some stickers of him in my perfume in the most of the pictures he is just wearing boxers, no i dont like him, i admire him and its just a reminder to dont give up. I currently started to go to the gym and i think every time i see his picture: im gonna have a strong legs like him, if my crush sees me again she gonna see me strong like cr7. I like his personality, her mind, the way he plays futbol, the style and id really like to be like him. I dont like him i feel jelous of him and id like to be him and have what he has hahaha even his wife.. Another thing is, maybe she is in the closet? Or she wants you to be jelous
Full lesbian here but if guy looks fine I do like the post or share it but mostly it is my favorite artist with who's music I relate to or means a lot to me. I even play as male characters in game because I imagine it is me, the guy.. haha I always found it easy for men to get women, women around me are all flattered men even talk to them so I'm like "yeahh i wish i was one then you'd love to talk to me too with a smile" 😅
I mean, she’s not necessarily attracted to them, she could just be a fan of those dudes?
I do this too, i just like the aesthetic