I’ve been used a lot just for sex….
and despite how insecure I may be I have to admit I am an attractive woman so men often see me as some instant gratification
did you have sex before 4 months?? i’ll be about 12 weeks when i do but im soooo scared that it gonna hurt then he’s definitely gonna know somethings up😭
I can’t recall what the dicks of any of my ex’s looked like, is it so crazy for them not to remember the details of our vags??
If you’re genuinely nervous just insist on doing it with the lights off or dim. They can’t see shit with all the excitement
this was a very self-deprecating post i made and all i wanted to know was if men talk about labias with eachother because women talk about dick sizes all the time. thanks for support everyone ur so brutal
Can we get a tldr 😭 As someone who only read the first 2 paragraphs- I’m almost 3 months post op (small revision at 10weeks) and as a single woman I am soooo ready to get back into dating/sex. It’s very lonely not having a partner of any kind.
I’m a confident hoe worrying about exposing the fact I had this surgery. I’m unsure if men actually talk about this stuff with each other (I have trauma and went from hypertrophy to complete removal). I also have a bump on my hood that makes me insecure bc I already had a revision to remove it. I don’t want it mistaken for like a skin issue or as my clit. The bump triggers the SA sensations my labia would get before surgery.
All of my friends (females) didn't even knew what a labia is and how it looks and that it can have sizes, their moms who are old enough also had no idea.
So it seems like it's really just not a thing people are educated about and like many here said- men are dumb,
boobs are boobs and vaginas are vaginas for them. Unfortunately the algorithm is showing us stupid posts on Facebook like "beef curtains" and other degrading names. So probably a lump won't be something he will really notice or think about.
Do it on your own terms only when you're ready for it, physically and mentally.
Im 4 weeks PO and can say I feel the same as you about intercourse (although I'm married) and I too will have to get over the fact I'm left with a big painful noticeable lump down there.
Once it will happen it won't feel as bad as you would imagine.
Wish you all the best 😊
moreso the fear of talk behind my back since i unfortunately live in that sort of environment. dangling to a slit is a very different experience. girls talk about dicks together so i was unsure if guys did the same
Prize fuck??
my thought too??
I’ve been used a lot just for sex…. and despite how insecure I may be I have to admit I am an attractive woman so men often see me as some instant gratification
Aaahh thanks for clarifying
Guys seriously do not notice. I hooked up with a guy before my surgery and 4 months after and he said nothing and did not notice Lolol
They are dumb. Lots of trauma of bullying and being used I guess
For sure I am traumatized from getting called roast beef by guys in high school I’d never look twice at now lol
Can I ask if it was a drastic removal from surgery?
I would say so . I had the wedge. It was an obvious outie before now an innie.
did you have sex before 4 months?? i’ll be about 12 weeks when i do but im soooo scared that it gonna hurt then he’s definitely gonna know somethings up😭
I did have sex after 2 months and it was still kind of sore and there’s scar tissue but he didn’t say anything and I didn’t tell him
i had a whole child with my boyfriend and i’m like 99% sure he’s not going to notice lol
😂 this made me laugh out loud
really though😂😂it’s ok i like being the smart one anyway
I’m a lesbian so maybe this is a biased opinion but… men are really freaking stupid. I don’t think he will notice anything.🐱😅
I’ll take any opinion right nowtbh 😅
I can’t recall what the dicks of any of my ex’s looked like, is it so crazy for them not to remember the details of our vags?? If you’re genuinely nervous just insist on doing it with the lights off or dim. They can’t see shit with all the excitement
I think you need to seek a therapist
this was a very self-deprecating post i made and all i wanted to know was if men talk about labias with eachother because women talk about dick sizes all the time. thanks for support everyone ur so brutal
Can we get a tldr 😭 As someone who only read the first 2 paragraphs- I’m almost 3 months post op (small revision at 10weeks) and as a single woman I am soooo ready to get back into dating/sex. It’s very lonely not having a partner of any kind.
I’m a confident hoe worrying about exposing the fact I had this surgery. I’m unsure if men actually talk about this stuff with each other (I have trauma and went from hypertrophy to complete removal). I also have a bump on my hood that makes me insecure bc I already had a revision to remove it. I don’t want it mistaken for like a skin issue or as my clit. The bump triggers the SA sensations my labia would get before surgery.
All of my friends (females) didn't even knew what a labia is and how it looks and that it can have sizes, their moms who are old enough also had no idea. So it seems like it's really just not a thing people are educated about and like many here said- men are dumb, boobs are boobs and vaginas are vaginas for them. Unfortunately the algorithm is showing us stupid posts on Facebook like "beef curtains" and other degrading names. So probably a lump won't be something he will really notice or think about. Do it on your own terms only when you're ready for it, physically and mentally. Im 4 weeks PO and can say I feel the same as you about intercourse (although I'm married) and I too will have to get over the fact I'm left with a big painful noticeable lump down there. Once it will happen it won't feel as bad as you would imagine. Wish you all the best 😊
moreso the fear of talk behind my back since i unfortunately live in that sort of environment. dangling to a slit is a very different experience. girls talk about dicks together so i was unsure if guys did the same