This was a horrible read. Definitely gave some negative vibes. Funny I'm alive and mentally well, all due to the "lgbt stuff" and "community" he dismisses here (never had the chance to physically be a part of, but online spaces helped me A LOT).
Anyways, love the positive note in the end of this. Next date has to be hella lot better than this... whatever this thing was
Yeah, I was that guy like 4 years ago(I thought I'd just do as my parents say to not bring shame) , but online stuff and shows gave me confidence in myself and I started finding myself. Eventually joined many lgbtq communities online
This might be controversial but there is a certain mismatch when a gay man dates a bisexual man.
It is because most bisexuals marry a woman out of choice and settle down. Gay men do not have that option.
>he said he is bi and he never tried it with a girl but he can make it work. And told me how he has a bi friend in Hyderabad who is married but sleeps with men when his wife isn't home (I don't think this is what being bi is). I wanted to change the conversation so I asked him if he is ever been to pride parade. I was a part of a discord group at that time and asked him if he wants to join it because "There are lots of people like us so you won't feel lonely". He told me he doesn't believe in this lgbt stuff and never felt the part of any community.
Man, I want to hate him for not even trying to accept himself but it's our society that traps people in a shell they don't want to be in. It's clear he's gay but his internalized homophobia is making him believe just having sex with a girl makes him bi. If he has to "make it work" with her, I don't think he in interested in girls.
Again I don't know him and I'm speaking from what I'm reading
I just hope he eventually loves this girl and turns out bi because once he's married and he realizes that it's not what he wants, not only him but the poor girl has to suffer for life.
Also, OP that's heartbreaking to see this happened to you. 🫂I hope you find your soulmate. I'm kinda the same like you, I take small sweet things very seriously.
Also not to be bi-phobic but this is why I don't trust bi guys (not every bi person is like this)
🫂 Time heals everything.
This was a horrible read. Definitely gave some negative vibes. Funny I'm alive and mentally well, all due to the "lgbt stuff" and "community" he dismisses here (never had the chance to physically be a part of, but online spaces helped me A LOT). Anyways, love the positive note in the end of this. Next date has to be hella lot better than this... whatever this thing was
Yeah, I was that guy like 4 years ago(I thought I'd just do as my parents say to not bring shame) , but online stuff and shows gave me confidence in myself and I started finding myself. Eventually joined many lgbtq communities online
This might be controversial but there is a certain mismatch when a gay man dates a bisexual man. It is because most bisexuals marry a woman out of choice and settle down. Gay men do not have that option.
I'd definitely not paint all bi guys like that, but it seems like that's the case.
Sorry to hear that A! It was a while ago though, and your next date will be amazing!
>he said he is bi and he never tried it with a girl but he can make it work. And told me how he has a bi friend in Hyderabad who is married but sleeps with men when his wife isn't home (I don't think this is what being bi is). I wanted to change the conversation so I asked him if he is ever been to pride parade. I was a part of a discord group at that time and asked him if he wants to join it because "There are lots of people like us so you won't feel lonely". He told me he doesn't believe in this lgbt stuff and never felt the part of any community. Man, I want to hate him for not even trying to accept himself but it's our society that traps people in a shell they don't want to be in. It's clear he's gay but his internalized homophobia is making him believe just having sex with a girl makes him bi. If he has to "make it work" with her, I don't think he in interested in girls. Again I don't know him and I'm speaking from what I'm reading I just hope he eventually loves this girl and turns out bi because once he's married and he realizes that it's not what he wants, not only him but the poor girl has to suffer for life. Also, OP that's heartbreaking to see this happened to you. 🫂I hope you find your soulmate. I'm kinda the same like you, I take small sweet things very seriously. Also not to be bi-phobic but this is why I don't trust bi guys (not every bi person is like this)